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<v Speaker 2>Joy isn't something you stumble upon. It's something we make.

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<v Speaker 2>Something we pass on. Come rain or shine. Day or night.

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<v Speaker 2>With the people we break bread with. And cure sore

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<v Speaker 2>heads with. And brave Monday dread with. It's the moments

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<v Speaker 2>and memories that matter most. That glow soft and golden.

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<v Speaker 2>While we keep spreading our toast. Dairy Gold. Joy that spreads.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, look what mum got at the supermarket.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't cook that. It's fish.

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<v Speaker 4>It's easy, dad. Hake is handy in the pan. Try

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<v Speaker 4>it with perfect in a tray bake. Even mussels are

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<v Speaker 4>ready in minutes

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<v Speaker 6>But timing, the temperature, it's frightening. It's

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<v Speaker 4>fish. Give it a go. It's healthy and tasty too.

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<v Speaker 7>Don't be scared of seafood. Pick up some today for

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<v Speaker 7>a dinner that's

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<v Speaker 8>surprisingly easy to cook

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<v Speaker 9>grand article dans... place I respect, goodmenproject. com, goodmenproject. com. One of

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<v Speaker 9>the reasons I like it so much is the articles

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<v Speaker 9>are written by men, and they're about relationships and feelings

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<v Speaker 9>and all kinds of nice things. And they're usually quite

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<v Speaker 9>honest and blunt. Oh, what does that sound like? This

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<v Speaker 9>one is entitled, it's written by Mark Fetter, Habits that

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<v Speaker 9>prevent relationship

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<v Speaker 10>blow-ups.

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<v Speaker 9>Blow-ups. Just to remind you, big blow-ups never come out

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<v Speaker 9>of nowhere. Just like when somebody says, and you had

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<v Speaker 9>no warning, you think, oh, we're done. They've been thinking

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<v Speaker 9>about this for a long time. Just got dumped on

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<v Speaker 9>you now. Whoa. But it's really odd when people are

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<v Speaker 9>willing to say that they had no notion that the

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<v Speaker 9>other person was not happy. How can you not? Roll

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<v Speaker 9>of the eyes. Yeah, okay. They come from small stuff

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<v Speaker 9>that pile up. Weeks, months, until one dumb comment by

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<v Speaker 9>somebody Sets it off. So he suggests you think of

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<v Speaker 9>a relationship like a bank account. You can tell this

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<v Speaker 9>is written by a guy. Every kind word, every laugh,

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<v Speaker 9>every time you actually listen, you're depositing something in the relationship.

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<v Speaker 9>Every eye roll, every I'm busy, every time she reaches

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<v Speaker 9>out and you're half looking at your phone is a withdrawal.

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<v Speaker 9>Des dégâts se produisent quand l'account est en train de s'arrêter.

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<v Speaker 9>Et quelque chose de petit, enfin, le dégâts. Vous ne

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<v Speaker 9>le réparez pas en ne jamais vous débrouillant. Vous le

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<v Speaker 9>réparez en étant conscient de faire beaucoup plus de dépôts

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<v Speaker 9>pour que l'account puisse absorber des petits dégâts normaux. Makes sense,

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<v Speaker 9>doesn't it? So he came up with his notion is

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<v Speaker 9>that there are four things you need to do to

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<v Speaker 9>avoid blow-ups. I'll tell you what those four things are.

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<v Speaker 9>Number one, say something specific that you appreciate. Say it

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<v Speaker 9>out loud. Say it on most days. And be specific, specific, specific.

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<v Speaker 9>A generic praise lands like a shrug. A specific appreciation

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<v Speaker 9>proves you're actually paying attention. I was really touched and

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<v Speaker 9>moved when you brought the turtle off the road and

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<v Speaker 9>saved it. And I knew you were busy and things

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<v Speaker 9>were happening and that you stopped. What a compassionate... It's

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<v Speaker 9>very specific. I mean, it's weird what I'm saying. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 9>you understand that. But it's very specific. You heard me

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<v Speaker 9>complaining about going to bed and it's cold. And you

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<v Speaker 9>took my nightgown or my jammies and threw them in

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<v Speaker 9>the dryer for five minutes, warmed them up and handed

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<v Speaker 9>them to me. That's specific. It means you were thinking

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<v Speaker 9>about that person. You were thinking about her or him.

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<v Speaker 9>Have some small rituals that unless there's an earthquake, you're

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<v Speaker 9>going to do them. morning coffee together before the day starts,

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<v Speaker 9>even if it's five minutes. A real full-body kiss. Goodbye.

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<v Speaker 9>See you later. Love you. Bye. Ten minutes with all

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<v Speaker 9>the phones down where you just hold each other. Just

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<v Speaker 9>little rituals that you constantly do. And a ritual means, yes,

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<v Speaker 9>like lilies. Squeez-moi sur la chaise. Merci, Lily. J'aime

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<v Speaker 2>vraiment que tu me squeeze sur la chaise. La joie

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<v Speaker 2>n'est pas quelque chose que tu tombes sur. C'est quelque

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<v Speaker 2>chose que nous faisons. Quelque chose que nous passons. Qu'il

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<v Speaker 2>pleuve ou brûle, jour ou nuit. Avec les gens avec

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<v Speaker 2>qui nous brûlons le pain. Et avec qui nous brûlons

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<v Speaker 2>nos cheveux. Et Brave Monday Dreadwith. C'est les moments et

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<v Speaker 2>les souvenirs qui m'intéressent le plus. Qui brillent, doux et dorés.

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<v Speaker 2>Pendant que nous continuons de diffuser notre toaster. Dairy Gold.

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<v Speaker 2>La joie qui se diffusera. Hey,

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<v Speaker 4>regarde ce que maman a pris au supermarché. Je ne

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<v Speaker 3>peux pas cuisiner ça. C'est des poissons

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<v Speaker 4>C'est facile, papa. Le haïka est à l'aise dans le pan.

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<v Speaker 4>Le trout est parfait dans un trébake. Même les muscles

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<v Speaker 4>sont prêts en une minute

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<v Speaker 6>Mais, mais, le temps. La température, c'est effrayant. C'est des poissons.

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<v Speaker 4>Chut. Don't be scared of seafood

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<v Speaker 7>Pick up some today for a dinner that's

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<v Speaker 8>surprisingly easy to cook

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<v Speaker 7>Find meal inspiration at boardbia. ie

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<v Speaker 11>The Premier League is back. These are days to be cherished.

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<v Speaker 11>So get ready for another season of Unmissable Moments. Ce

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<v Speaker 11>sont les rituaux qui disent...

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<v Speaker 9>your husband or your wife, that you're choosing this every day,

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<v Speaker 9>every week, on purpose. Number three, raise the small annoyances

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<v Speaker 9>while they're still small. Guys in particular tend to sit

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<v Speaker 9>on stuff to keep the peace. You know, they don't

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<v Speaker 9>want her getting unloaded on him. So, they wait until

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<v Speaker 9>it detonates with an edge, a tone. They really didn't mean.

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<v Speaker 9>Like this. Quote, I noticed the plans got made without

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<v Speaker 9>me and I started feeling like an afterthought. Can we

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<v Speaker 9>loop each other in first next time? I have a

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<v Speaker 9>new microphone and I just want to make sure. Is

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<v Speaker 9>it too close? Put it where it's supposed to be.

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<v Speaker 9>Thank you. Okay, now I know what I'm doing. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 9>By the way, I'm wearing a fancy headphone that has

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<v Speaker 9>the microphone that just comes out on a little stalk

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<v Speaker 9>and goes underneath that they use to do color in

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<v Speaker 9>sports producing. Yeah, okay. So, make it specific also and

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<v Speaker 9>don't bottle it up. Et ils recommandent vraiment que, une

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<v Speaker 9>fois par semaine, vous vous asseyez et vous parlez. Alors,

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<v Speaker 9>comment va-t-il pour vous, pour moi, pour nous cette semaine?

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<v Speaker 9>Allons juste passer la semaine. La semaine est faite. Est-ce

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<v Speaker 9>qu'il y a quelque chose que je peux faire pour

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<v Speaker 9>que vous vous sentez plus relaxé? Vous avez tout ce

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<v Speaker 9>stress élevé. Est-ce qu'il y a quelque chose que je

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<v Speaker 9>peux faire pour que vous vous sentez plus aimé? Est-ce

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<v Speaker 9>qu'il y a quelque chose que je peux faire pour

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<v Speaker 9>que vous vous sentez comme si je payais plus d'attention? Oui.

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<v Speaker 9>When you come home, don't turn the phone on. Turn

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<v Speaker 9>it off. Yeah. These things. Sit with me and go,

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<v Speaker 9>what could we watch together as a movie that we

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<v Speaker 9>both could like? I mean, there are movies two people

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<v Speaker 9>could like. So it's a weekly check-in. And it really

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<v Speaker 9>needs to be done. And don't tell me you don't

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<v Speaker 9>have time. You have time. We're talking less than an

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<v Speaker 9>hour a week total of time. Plus un peu de

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<v Speaker 9>sentences par jour, vous passez plus de temps que ça

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<v Speaker 9>en décidant ce que vous regardez. Allez-y. Bien sûr que

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<v Speaker 9>ça se sent bizarre. Vous allez entendre des choses qui

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<v Speaker 9>peuvent vous rendre inconfortable. Et donc vous laissez que ça tourne. Donc,

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<v Speaker 9>semaine après semaine, mois après mois, et puis vous m'appellez

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<v Speaker 9>et dites,« Nous avons

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<v Speaker 10>juste grandi en part.» Grosir en part est intentionnel. J'ai

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<v Speaker 10>juste expliqué comment.

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<v Speaker 12>Sous-titrage Société Radio-Canada Joy isn't something you stumble

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<v Speaker 2>upon. It's something we make. Something we pass on. Come

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<v Speaker 2>rain or shine. Day or night. With the people we

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<v Speaker 2>break bread with. And cure sore heads with. And brave

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<v Speaker 2>Monday dread with. It's the moments and memories that matter most.

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<v Speaker 2>That glow soft and golden. While we keep spreading our toast.

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<v Speaker 2>Dairy Gold. Joy. Joy. Don't be

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<v Speaker 4>scared of seafood

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<v Speaker 4>Pick up some today for a dinner that's surprisingly easy

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<v Speaker 4>to cook. Find meal inspiration at

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<v Speaker 6>boardbia. ie