Speaker 2: Joy isn't something you stumble upon. It's something we make.
Speaker 2: Something we pass on. Come rain or shine. Day or night.
Speaker 2: With the people we break bread with. And cure sore
Speaker 2: heads with. And brave Monday dread with. It's the moments
Speaker 2: and memories that matter most. That glow soft and golden.
Speaker 2: While we keep spreading our toast. Dairy Gold. Joy that spreads.
Speaker 4: Hey, look what mum got at the supermarket.
Speaker 3: I can't cook that. It's fish.
Speaker 4: It's easy, dad. Hake is handy in the pan. Try
Speaker 4: it with perfect in a tray bake. Even mussels are
Speaker 4: ready in minutes
Speaker 6: But timing, the temperature, it's frightening. It's
Speaker 4: fish. Give it a go. It's healthy and tasty too.
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Speaker 9: grand article dans... place I respect, goodmenproject. com, goodmenproject. com. One of
Speaker 9: the reasons I like it so much is the articles
Speaker 9: are written by men, and they're about relationships and feelings
Speaker 9: and all kinds of nice things. And they're usually quite
Speaker 9: honest and blunt. Oh, what does that sound like? This
Speaker 9: one is entitled, it's written by Mark Fetter, Habits that
Speaker 9: prevent relationship
Speaker 10: blow-ups.
Speaker 9: Blow-ups. Just to remind you, big blow-ups never come out
Speaker 9: of nowhere. Just like when somebody says, and you had
Speaker 9: no warning, you think, oh, we're done. They've been thinking
Speaker 9: about this for a long time. Just got dumped on
Speaker 9: you now. Whoa. But it's really odd when people are
Speaker 9: willing to say that they had no notion that the
Speaker 9: other person was not happy. How can you not? Roll
Speaker 9: of the eyes. Yeah, okay. They come from small stuff
Speaker 9: that pile up. Weeks, months, until one dumb comment by
Speaker 9: somebody Sets it off. So he suggests you think of
Speaker 9: a relationship like a bank account. You can tell this
Speaker 9: is written by a guy. Every kind word, every laugh,
Speaker 9: every time you actually listen, you're depositing something in the relationship.
Speaker 9: Every eye roll, every I'm busy, every time she reaches
Speaker 9: out and you're half looking at your phone is a withdrawal.
Speaker 9: Des dégâts se produisent quand l'account est en train de s'arrêter.
Speaker 9: Et quelque chose de petit, enfin, le dégâts. Vous ne
Speaker 9: le réparez pas en ne jamais vous débrouillant. Vous le
Speaker 9: réparez en étant conscient de faire beaucoup plus de dépôts
Speaker 9: pour que l'account puisse absorber des petits dégâts normaux. Makes sense,
Speaker 9: doesn't it? So he came up with his notion is
Speaker 9: that there are four things you need to do to
Speaker 9: avoid blow-ups. I'll tell you what those four things are.
Speaker 9: Number one, say something specific that you appreciate. Say it
Speaker 9: out loud. Say it on most days. And be specific, specific, specific.
Speaker 9: A generic praise lands like a shrug. A specific appreciation
Speaker 9: proves you're actually paying attention. I was really touched and
Speaker 9: moved when you brought the turtle off the road and
Speaker 9: saved it. And I knew you were busy and things
Speaker 9: were happening and that you stopped. What a compassionate... It's
Speaker 9: very specific. I mean, it's weird what I'm saying. Yeah,
Speaker 9: you understand that. But it's very specific. You heard me
Speaker 9: complaining about going to bed and it's cold. And you
Speaker 9: took my nightgown or my jammies and threw them in
Speaker 9: the dryer for five minutes, warmed them up and handed
Speaker 9: them to me. That's specific. It means you were thinking
Speaker 9: about that person. You were thinking about her or him.
Speaker 9: Have some small rituals that unless there's an earthquake, you're
Speaker 9: going to do them. morning coffee together before the day starts,
Speaker 9: even if it's five minutes. A real full-body kiss. Goodbye.
Speaker 9: See you later. Love you. Bye. Ten minutes with all
Speaker 9: the phones down where you just hold each other. Just
Speaker 9: little rituals that you constantly do. And a ritual means, yes,
Speaker 9: like lilies. Squeez-moi sur la chaise. Merci, Lily. J'aime
Speaker 2: vraiment que tu me squeeze sur la chaise. La joie
Speaker 2: n'est pas quelque chose que tu tombes sur. C'est quelque
Speaker 2: chose que nous faisons. Quelque chose que nous passons. Qu'il
Speaker 2: pleuve ou brûle, jour ou nuit. Avec les gens avec
Speaker 2: qui nous brûlons le pain. Et avec qui nous brûlons
Speaker 2: nos cheveux. Et Brave Monday Dreadwith. C'est les moments et
Speaker 2: les souvenirs qui m'intéressent le plus. Qui brillent, doux et dorés.
Speaker 2: Pendant que nous continuons de diffuser notre toaster. Dairy Gold.
Speaker 2: La joie qui se diffusera. Hey,
Speaker 4: regarde ce que maman a pris au supermarché. Je ne
Speaker 3: peux pas cuisiner ça. C'est des poissons
Speaker 4: C'est facile, papa. Le haïka est à l'aise dans le pan.
Speaker 4: Le trout est parfait dans un trébake. Même les muscles
Speaker 4: sont prêts en une minute
Speaker 6: Mais, mais, le temps. La température, c'est effrayant. C'est des poissons.
Speaker 4: Chut. Don't be scared of seafood
Speaker 7: Pick up some today for a dinner that's
Speaker 8: surprisingly easy to cook
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Speaker 11: sont les rituaux qui disent...
Speaker 9: your husband or your wife, that you're choosing this every day,
Speaker 9: every week, on purpose. Number three, raise the small annoyances
Speaker 9: while they're still small. Guys in particular tend to sit
Speaker 9: on stuff to keep the peace. You know, they don't
Speaker 9: want her getting unloaded on him. So, they wait until
Speaker 9: it detonates with an edge, a tone. They really didn't mean.
Speaker 9: Like this. Quote, I noticed the plans got made without
Speaker 9: me and I started feeling like an afterthought. Can we
Speaker 9: loop each other in first next time? I have a
Speaker 9: new microphone and I just want to make sure. Is
Speaker 9: it too close? Put it where it's supposed to be.
Speaker 9: Thank you. Okay, now I know what I'm doing. Thank you.
Speaker 9: By the way, I'm wearing a fancy headphone that has
Speaker 9: the microphone that just comes out on a little stalk
Speaker 9: and goes underneath that they use to do color in
Speaker 9: sports producing. Yeah, okay. So, make it specific also and
Speaker 9: don't bottle it up. Et ils recommandent vraiment que, une
Speaker 9: fois par semaine, vous vous asseyez et vous parlez. Alors,
Speaker 9: comment va-t-il pour vous, pour moi, pour nous cette semaine?
Speaker 9: Allons juste passer la semaine. La semaine est faite. Est-ce
Speaker 9: qu'il y a quelque chose que je peux faire pour
Speaker 9: que vous vous sentez plus relaxé? Vous avez tout ce
Speaker 9: stress élevé. Est-ce qu'il y a quelque chose que je
Speaker 9: peux faire pour que vous vous sentez plus aimé? Est-ce
Speaker 9: qu'il y a quelque chose que je peux faire pour
Speaker 9: que vous vous sentez comme si je payais plus d'attention? Oui.
Speaker 9: When you come home, don't turn the phone on. Turn
Speaker 9: it off. Yeah. These things. Sit with me and go,
Speaker 9: what could we watch together as a movie that we
Speaker 9: both could like? I mean, there are movies two people
Speaker 9: could like. So it's a weekly check-in. And it really
Speaker 9: needs to be done. And don't tell me you don't
Speaker 9: have time. You have time. We're talking less than an
Speaker 9: hour a week total of time. Plus un peu de
Speaker 9: sentences par jour, vous passez plus de temps que ça
Speaker 9: en décidant ce que vous regardez. Allez-y. Bien sûr que
Speaker 9: ça se sent bizarre. Vous allez entendre des choses qui
Speaker 9: peuvent vous rendre inconfortable. Et donc vous laissez que ça tourne. Donc,
Speaker 9: semaine après semaine, mois après mois, et puis vous m'appellez
Speaker 9: et dites,« Nous avons
Speaker 10: juste grandi en part.» Grosir en part est intentionnel. J'ai
Speaker 10: juste expliqué comment.
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Speaker 12: Sous-titrage Société Radio-Canada Joy isn't something you stumble
Speaker 2: upon. It's something we make. Something we pass on. Come
Speaker 2: rain or shine. Day or night. With the people we
Speaker 2: break bread with. And cure sore heads with. And brave
Speaker 2: Monday dread with. It's the moments and memories that matter most.
Speaker 2: That glow soft and golden. While we keep spreading our toast.
Speaker 2: Dairy Gold. Joy. Joy. Don't be
Speaker 4: scared of seafood
Speaker 4: Pick up some today for a dinner that's surprisingly easy
Speaker 4: to cook. Find meal inspiration at
Speaker 6: boardbia. ie