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Speaker 2: It's Guys Guy Radio. Here's your host, Robert Manny.
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Speaker 3: to the show, and once again this week is no exception.
Speaker 3: Today we're going to talk about the new rules of
Speaker 3: attraction for those who are dating and over fifty years old.
Speaker 3: You know, if you're over fifty and single, you've probably
Speaker 3: heard plenty of advice. Download the apps, write a better profile,
Speaker 3: be authentic, don't settle all good advice. But today we're
Speaker 3: taking a different approach. Instead of focusing on how to date,
Speaker 3: we're going to talk about how dating itself is changing.
Speaker 3: What does attraction really look like today? Why are couples
Speaker 3: choosing to live apart while staying deeply committed, how do
Speaker 3: you balance independence with intimacy? And perhaps the biggest quest
Speaker 3: of all, what does a successful relationship look like at
Speaker 3: this stage of life when you're over fifty? Joining us
Speaker 3: once again is going to be one of my favorite
Speaker 3: return guests. Silka Schwartzkov, Founder and host of Second activ
Speaker 3: a media platform dedicated to helping people thrive in the
Speaker 3: second half of life. Silka has become a trusted voice
Speaker 3: on topics ranging from relationships and wellness to reinvention and longevity,
Speaker 3: and she always brings a fresh mix of wisdom, curiosity,
Speaker 3: and common sense to the conversation. Today, we're going to
Speaker 3: leave behind the tired dating cliches and explore what's really
Speaker 3: happening for mature singles in today's world. Whether you're actively dating,
Speaker 3: happily partnered, or simply curious about the evolving dating landscape
Speaker 3: and modern relationships, I think you'll find plenty of useful takeaways.
Speaker 3: So settle in because we're about to have a lively
Speaker 3: conversation about love, connection, and creating relationships that truly fit
Speaker 3: the life you've built.
Speaker 2: It's guys Guy Radio.
Speaker 4: Okay, guys, guys Radio.
Speaker 3: It is the interview portion of our show, and I
Speaker 3: am delighted to welcome back our friend Silka Schwartzkoff.
Speaker 4: She is the creator and host of the wildly.
Speaker 3: Successful Second Act TV YouTube program that is just a
Speaker 3: runaway sensation. And I'm fortunate enough to be a frequent
Speaker 3: guest on the show and because of that, I got
Speaker 3: my own Second Act merch Here, I've got my Second.
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Speaker 5: Yes, thank you, Robert.
Speaker 4: Welcome back to the show. Silka.
Speaker 5: Thank you. It's always fun talking with you, and I
Speaker 5: like on this side every now.
Speaker 3: Well, listen, you have spoken to and kind of picked
Speaker 3: the brains of so many dating experts male, female and
Speaker 3: other people, and kind of the over fifty wellness field,
Speaker 3: if you will. That I thought it would be great
Speaker 3: to bring you back and we get into dating after fifty,
Speaker 3: but a fresh angle, which is kind of since everything's changed.
Speaker 3: And I was talking to my wife yesterday, I said,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm going to be talking with Silk about
Speaker 3: dating over fifty.
Speaker 4: What's your take on that.
Speaker 3: My wife's over fifty now, and she said, you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm I can imagine it must be really tough now
Speaker 3: because I'm so out of that mind space, but with
Speaker 3: everything's so complicated now, so I thought we'd frame this.
Speaker 4: As the new rules for dating after fifty.
Speaker 5: So I think that's true. I think that's terrific. I
Speaker 5: think that you know, Uni is right. It does seem overwhelming,
Speaker 5: but it's more overwhelming the longer you've been away from it,
Speaker 5: and you know, if you're just starting, it gets easier
Speaker 5: and easier once you just understand the world, the new
Speaker 5: new dating world. So that's what the channel does.
Speaker 3: Okay, So let's well have this convo on this, and
Speaker 3: you tell me what you think and what some of
Speaker 3: the experts that you've interviewed have told you, and I'll
Speaker 3: share what I've heard from some of the experts that
Speaker 3: I've interviewed, and also my own practical experience as a
Speaker 3: guys guy on this whole thing, and from my experience
Speaker 3: and appearances on Second Act TV.
Speaker 4: So let's start right at the top.
Speaker 3: New rules of attraction for twenty twenty six, like what
Speaker 3: people over fifty are finding attractive today versus ten years ago,
Speaker 3: and we've both been doing this about that time.
Speaker 4: What do you think?
Speaker 3: What's your what comes to mind first when you hear
Speaker 3: how attraction has changed for people over fifty now versus
Speaker 3: ten years ago.
Speaker 5: Well, I think one thing we've learned is that chemistry
Speaker 5: isn't the most important thing. And while I say that,
Speaker 5: let me just really make that clear. Chemistry is extreme
Speaker 5: important that I mean, you have to have chemistry. However,
Speaker 5: chemistry isn't what keeps a relationship together. And I think
Speaker 5: after fifty, because we have had we're older, we're older,
Speaker 5: we have had more experience. We may not be wiser,
Speaker 5: but we've had a lot more experience, and we realize
Speaker 5: that relationships that start strong with chemistry can easily end
Speaker 5: in divorce and have So I think that would were
Speaker 5: becoming more conscious of that. And we discussed that, you
Speaker 5: know on the show a lot too. And I think
Speaker 5: another overarching topic would be chemistry or just the whole
Speaker 5: attraction to excitement, you know, is we've learned that excitement
Speaker 5: is not always the guiding principle of a relationship, that
Speaker 5: we really appreciate peace and believe it or not. A
Speaker 5: lot of men express that. So I think those are
Speaker 5: maybe some of the bigger, the bigger areas fascinating.
Speaker 4: Well, let's follow up on that.
Speaker 3: So you think emotional maturity has become the new chemistry.
Speaker 5: No, I won't say it's a new one. I think
Speaker 5: that we I think chemistry. And the reason I say this, Robert,
Speaker 5: is because we are still you know, the visual is
Speaker 5: the first impression, especially especially for men. Women are a
Speaker 5: little bit more open to understanding that that isn't everything.
Speaker 5: So I don't want to just underline, you know, emotional
Speaker 5: maturity is the new chemistry. I want to clearly differentiate
Speaker 5: that that's what keeps a relationship together. And if we
Speaker 5: understood that from the start, we may give somebody who
Speaker 5: who are not like you know, we don't have the
Speaker 5: butterflies going, we might give them more of a chance
Speaker 5: because we realize that's how real, lasting chemistry develops.
Speaker 3: If that makes sense, it makes perfect sense, you know
Speaker 3: what I think Back in high school and college and
Speaker 3: when we're dating and stuff, and even after that, when
Speaker 3: I was in New York City and marketing and advertising business,
Speaker 3: I never thought that status was the ultimate decider in
Speaker 3: terms of dating. But now it seems like there's a
Speaker 3: whole eighty twenty thing where you know, eighty percent of
Speaker 3: the women are after twenty percent of the guys who
Speaker 3: were super successful. It seems from a distance that seems
Speaker 3: to be the case now more than ever. It didn't
Speaker 3: seem to be as important. Status didn't seem to be
Speaker 3: quite the differentiator or driver then than it is now.
Speaker 3: It's like, it's not about having a dream, it's having
Speaker 3: your dream fulfilled. Do you think that nowadays and for
Speaker 3: people over fifty, that confidence is a form of status
Speaker 3: now or is it still all about money and power
Speaker 3: and position.
Speaker 5: Okay, so, first of all, I would agree with you
Speaker 5: that even when I was younger that yes, it's part
Speaker 5: of it. I mean, you don't want a day to
Speaker 5: lose or man or woman or whatever that meant at
Speaker 5: the time. But I think it's largely superficial. It really
Speaker 5: is largely superficial unless it somehow displays confirms whatever you know,
Speaker 5: that you've accomplished something in life. I think that's more.
Speaker 5: Maybe that's where the difference is between younger and now older.
Speaker 5: That if the the the cars, the whatever, you know,
Speaker 5: the vacations, the houses, it means that you have accomplished something.
Speaker 5: You're not guessing that you know whether or not you can.
Speaker 5: Does that make sense how?
Speaker 2: I mean?
Speaker 3: The accomplishment is one thing, but having those toys if
Speaker 3: you will, whether it's the home or the car or
Speaker 3: the ability to travel, are they after fifty? Now, do
Speaker 3: you think those are more important than kindness and compatibility?
Speaker 5: Absolutely not? No, No, I mean I can say that
Speaker 5: absolutely not, because we also realize that doesn't make a relationship,
Speaker 5: you know, it doesn't. The toys mean nothing to a relationship.
Speaker 5: U let's say the other kind of toys, but not
Speaker 5: the car, nothing like.
Speaker 3: How about authenticity then? Do you think then in the
Speaker 3: same kind of area we're talking about, has authenticity replaced perfection?
Speaker 2: Then?
Speaker 3: So it's not all about your achievements and your position
Speaker 3: and your wallet, but being real. You think that's something
Speaker 3: that people that you've talked to for the over fifty
Speaker 3: crowd find really attractive nowadays.
Speaker 5: You know what I find super interesting one about the question,
Speaker 5: and two about what I'm starting to read and hear
Speaker 5: is that, you know, the vulnerability is now a big buzzword.
Speaker 5: You know, everybody more vulnerable meaning authentic, show the real you.
Speaker 5: And what happens sometimes is that being more authentic almost
Speaker 5: becomes a show of its own because it's been so
Speaker 5: pushed in our faces. So it's really super important that
Speaker 5: you actually are authentic and not falling into another trap
Speaker 5: of pretending you are. Does that make sense? I mean
Speaker 5: I thought that was so interesting when somebody pointed that
Speaker 5: out to me. I mean, that makes total sense to me.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think authenticity is super important, and I think nowadays
Speaker 3: people are still over fifty two concerned about what other
Speaker 3: people think of them instead of just being themselves. They're
Speaker 3: always filtering in how do I answer this? And I
Speaker 3: guess when you're meeting for somebody, a potential partner for
Speaker 3: the first time, you want to you want to say
Speaker 3: the right thing, and you don't want to get that X.
Speaker 4: You know, you don't want to.
Speaker 3: Get the X mark right off the bat, so you're
Speaker 3: going to be careful about that. But to me, ultimately,
Speaker 3: it's all about authenticity. It's all about being who you
Speaker 3: are and not trying to be somebody you're not, particularly
Speaker 3: for folks over fifty, because who has time to play,
Speaker 3: you know, Chara at that point. I can see maybe
Speaker 3: when you're younger a little bit you want to you
Speaker 3: want to play the game a little bit differently, But
Speaker 3: I think for folks over fifty, you want to.
Speaker 4: You don't want to waste time.
Speaker 3: There is a clock, it's not ticking that loudly for
Speaker 3: some people, but it's it's ticking and you don't want
Speaker 3: to waste your time. So I think authenticity like, you
Speaker 3: want to get to who this person really is and
Speaker 3: ultimately how do you feel when you are around them?
Speaker 3: And you can't get to how do you feel when
Speaker 3: you're around them unless you know who they are?
Speaker 5: So one hundred percent agree with you. That's why I
Speaker 5: thought this one thought leader that brought us up was
Speaker 5: so interesting because we do realize how important it is
Speaker 5: and now we have to really pay attention to showing
Speaker 5: who we are. This is who we are, we're not
Speaker 5: and God that this is. I know it almost sounds juvenile,
Speaker 5: but even at this age, and again when you're starting
Speaker 5: over it's been a long time, you do think about,
Speaker 5: you know, how what does he or she want? You know?
Speaker 5: How should I blah blah. You can't help but think that.
Speaker 5: And that's when it's more important than ever to show
Speaker 5: who you are and balance that with not over sharing
Speaker 5: or showing who you are maybe too soon or certain areas,
Speaker 5: and that becomes a whole other conversation.
Speaker 3: Okay, my special guest on Guys Guys Radio is the
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Speaker 3: So let's move to another topic, which because you explore
Speaker 3: a lot of real niche topics on Second Act TV
Speaker 3: in terms of relationships, that a lot of times with
Speaker 3: the women guests, and it's really fascinating for me as
Speaker 3: a guy to see them. Like, there's these new concepts
Speaker 3: like lat living apart together the relationship trend nobody saw
Speaker 3: coming couples committed to one another while maintaining separate homes
Speaker 3: or separate bedrooms, or separate beds or a lot of separation.
Speaker 3: Talk to us about that and why become so important,
Speaker 3: particularly for folks over fifty.
Speaker 5: Well, because we both have lives. You know, chances are
Speaker 5: that that when you meet after fifty, you both have
Speaker 5: a very established existence already. You know, you either have
Speaker 5: a house, you have children, you have maybe you're still working,
Speaker 5: maybe you're not, but you're you're likely entrenched somewhere that
Speaker 5: you don't really want to leave. You know, the best
Speaker 5: example of that was the Golden bachelor thing. I mean,
Speaker 5: I won't get off on it on that tangent, but
Speaker 5: that was the perfect demonstration that you really have to
Speaker 5: think about, Okay, if we if we're going to couple up,
Speaker 5: what does that mean to our daily to our daily living.
Speaker 5: And a lot of us have figured out that it's
Speaker 5: okay to have a committed long term relationship and not
Speaker 5: give up what you what you've already established, but you
Speaker 5: go back and forth whatever that means. And that might
Speaker 5: sound weird, but I have Paul and I actually did
Speaker 5: that for like ten years. You know. It wasn't like
Speaker 5: a conscious decision, it was it just happened that way.
Speaker 5: We met, we lived an hour apart, and it just
Speaker 5: went on for ten years like that. And I think
Speaker 5: that that is what kept us together actually quite frankly,
Speaker 5: you know, we're fifteen years now, we've been living together.
Speaker 5: But it is a different adjustment. There is a lot
Speaker 5: that you know, there's a lot of compromise, and you
Speaker 5: don't necessarily have to do that from the start when
Speaker 5: there might be so many things that you compromise about.
Speaker 5: So yeah, LAT has become LAT has become almost not
Speaker 5: common terminology perhaps, but yeah, something that is very beneficial,
Speaker 5: especially to the older people like USh Soka.
Speaker 3: Do you find that this is happening with couples that
Speaker 3: are already together and even married couples that they're finding
Speaker 3: they're using lat to make to strengthen the relationship by
Speaker 3: creating a space for more personal freedom, just realizing that, hey,
Speaker 3: we're mature, we're together, but we don't have to be
Speaker 3: physically together all the time. I mean, I'm personally old school.
Speaker 3: I didn't get married until I was in my early fifties.
Speaker 3: But then when I got married, I want to sleep
Speaker 3: in the same bed as my wife. I don't get
Speaker 3: a king bed. Then you don't have to be hear
Speaker 3: me all the time. But I know a lot of
Speaker 3: people they have separate bedrooms, separate beds and all that stuff.
Speaker 3: And then you know, the more you separate, it becomes
Speaker 3: your you know, there's a lot of separation, and maybe
Speaker 3: the separation over arches the togetherness.
Speaker 4: So it's a slippery slope there.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it is a slippery slope. And here's where yes,
Speaker 5: there's a big distinction in my opinion going into it,
Speaker 5: Like like Paul and I did you know we met
Speaker 5: and you know, we started spending more time together, but
Speaker 5: it was commuting to each other's places and then you know,
Speaker 5: I mean, it's going that way if you're married or
Speaker 5: you're already established a relationship together. I think, and I've
Speaker 5: heard this, this comes up a lot in lap discussions.
Speaker 5: That's a tough one to manage because there is something
Speaker 5: wrong at that point. In my opinion, you are dealing
Speaker 5: with rescuing perhaps a relationship instead of just saying, you
Speaker 5: know what, we're just sick of each other. Right, And
Speaker 5: maybe it can, but I think one person's going to
Speaker 5: want it more than the other, and I think that
Speaker 5: is indicative of you know something more. You're dealing with
Speaker 5: something that's wrong, not creating something that's right for both
Speaker 5: of you.
Speaker 4: In my opinion, how about this whole notion.
Speaker 3: And I don't know if it's an over fifty crowd thing,
Speaker 3: but this whole lot you get this whole pass. I mean,
Speaker 3: I think it's a younger thing where yeah, you can
Speaker 3: go if you meet somebody very special, you can you
Speaker 3: can have a sexual relationship with them. Maybe it's just
Speaker 3: a one time or thing, but that's okay. But I
Speaker 3: don't know, I don't think that's going to help. I
Speaker 3: don't see how that helps a relationship if I know,
Speaker 3: like my wife's out there getting it from somebody else, like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I feel so much better about our relationship.
Speaker 4: Now I don't. I don't see.
Speaker 5: No that. I think that's that's BS all the way around,
Speaker 5: including for the younger crowd. Now I get it. There's
Speaker 5: you know, people have, there's all kinds of alternative relationships,
Speaker 5: and it works for some people. Absolutely. You know, I'm
Speaker 5: not speaking for everybody here by by any means, but
Speaker 5: I do believe I'm speaking for the majority because it's
Speaker 5: just it's just you know, if you're together, if you're
Speaker 5: supposed to be together, you love each other, you're in
Speaker 5: a committed relationship. That sort of play it just causes
Speaker 5: concern and cause, I mean it does no, it doesn't.
Speaker 5: It does not help, and it is in my opinion,
Speaker 5: it's it's total BS. Now I have to say something else.
Speaker 5: I don't know if you want to go there or not.
Speaker 5: It's actually a segment that I'm thinking about doing. I
Speaker 5: think it's important that will be very controversial. Is if
Speaker 5: you are if your husband, your spouse, your significant other
Speaker 5: is becoming it like impaired, like with Alzheimer's, or you know,
Speaker 5: to where the mind just isn't there and you're married,
Speaker 5: is it okay too, you know, to establish a new
Speaker 5: relationship just to save your own sanity. And there's there's
Speaker 5: a lot of discussion about that that is super super interesting,
Speaker 5: and I think I want to explore that at some point.
Speaker 5: So that's where. But that's typically you know, for this
Speaker 5: is really an older person's discussion, and that doesn't apply
Speaker 5: to the undercrowd.
Speaker 3: It could it could be you know, flipped around also
Speaker 3: like oh my my wife became paralyzed or something. Can
Speaker 3: I go have sex with somebody else and I'll still
Speaker 3: take care of her?
Speaker 4: Right? So it can work both ways.
Speaker 5: Oh no, it can absolutely work male and female and
Speaker 5: with with the paralyzing. And that's I know, this is
Speaker 5: why work gets so controversial because to me, it's if
Speaker 5: the mind isn't there, then you're you don't have that
Speaker 5: person anymore, you know, physical physical disability where you know,
Speaker 5: we're getting off on another subject, but but it's interesting,
Speaker 5: it's super super interesting.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's switch gears again and go to like guys
Speaker 3: guys radio, Let's talk about the new masculinity meets the
Speaker 3: new feminine, how men and women over fifty are redefining relationships.
Speaker 3: So why do you think why are many traditional dating
Speaker 3: expectations they don't fit anymore when you're over fifty. And
Speaker 3: what modern women really appreciate about guys now versus in
Speaker 3: the past where there was certain expectations. You know how
Speaker 3: our culture gives us narratives, and over time those narratives change.
Speaker 3: What's your sense from what you hear in terms of
Speaker 3: is there a new masculinity with women being self sufficient?
Speaker 3: Now they can take care, they can sustain, they can
Speaker 3: take care of themselves, they don't necessarily have to rely
Speaker 3: on the guy. There's so many more women in management positions.
Speaker 3: I mean, women are getting long overdue recognition, but it's
Speaker 3: just starting. It's going to be more and more. And
Speaker 3: guys are going to school. The younger guys are going
Speaker 3: to school college in all less than than the women.
Speaker 3: How does that affect the over fifty crowd or they
Speaker 3: are the male and female roles being redefined the same
Speaker 3: way they kind of are for the younger crowd.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, yes and no. Here here's what I find
Speaker 5: interesting in what I've gathered from conversations not just with
Speaker 5: people our age, but yes, the experts on the show,
Speaker 5: one of which being John Gray, who is highly has
Speaker 5: become highly controversial because you know, men of from what
Speaker 5: women are from venus. The fact is that, yes, women
Speaker 5: have needed the or have earned as you say, the
Speaker 5: recognitions was a long time in coming. Yes. What it's
Speaker 5: also done is really put stress on relationships and you know,
Speaker 5: with what maturity you bring to the relationship. Like from
Speaker 5: my personal opinion, of course, men and women are different.
Speaker 5: We're feminine, you know, we have a vagina and men
Speaker 5: are masculine, they have a I mean, we're different, and
Speaker 5: the hormones associated with that affect each other differently. One
Speaker 5: isn't better than the other, but there are certain roles
Speaker 5: that still compliment each other in the you know, in
Speaker 5: a heterosexual relationship. And that's I think where the where
Speaker 5: the issue start is how what kind of maturity do
Speaker 5: you bring you know to that is it oh, no
Speaker 5: women or not? How can you say that you know,
Speaker 5: women are different men blah blah blah. See that's that's
Speaker 5: the power play. It's acknowledging really what we bring to
Speaker 5: each other. And having said that, I think women though,
Speaker 5: what I found like women like myself and a lot
Speaker 5: of my colleagues and peers. We want a confident man.
Speaker 5: We want a man who is you know, who's in charge.
Speaker 5: I mean that that's part of being a woman. That
Speaker 5: doesn't mean it's overpowering or controlling, but but yeah, we
Speaker 5: want a strong man, most of us. Again, I'm not
Speaker 5: talking for everybody.
Speaker 3: So when you say that, you mean confident, not arrogant,
Speaker 3: and that large meaning capable, not really like domineering, right,
Speaker 3: exactly exactly what you don't want somebody like making all
Speaker 3: the decisions for you, but you want to know that, hey,
Speaker 3: I can rely this guy can take care of this stuff.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 4: There's a fine line there.
Speaker 5: Exactly, because what's happening with what women have brought to
Speaker 5: the table by doing everything, the man just kind of
Speaker 5: sits back and gets too comfortable and you know, not
Speaker 5: doing what maybe perhaps they should be should in quotes,
Speaker 5: and then the woman gets tired of them because he's
Speaker 5: gotten to be a bore. I mean those as I mean.
Speaker 5: I'm saying this very crass, perhaps, but that's ultimately what's happening.
Speaker 5: You're creating a person I'm talking about women now, you're
Speaker 5: creating a man that you don't want because of this
Speaker 5: and I'm a big I've done that. I've done to
Speaker 5: where I just you know, bring the what I brought
Speaker 5: from my career my work space home and you know,
Speaker 5: next thing, I know, I've got a couch potato that
Speaker 5: I want to be with. So I think there's a lot,
Speaker 5: there's a lot of deep discussions that are associated, you know,
Speaker 5: with that particular topic. I think it ultimately boils down
Speaker 5: to is that we are both strong people. We both
Speaker 5: bring really strong things to the table, and we need
Speaker 5: to respect each other, you know, and enjoy the feminine
Speaker 5: qualities and the masculine qualities without overpowering each other. I
Speaker 5: hope that makes sense and didn't offend me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because you know, when we get into the topic
Speaker 3: like the definitions with a man, a man is this,
Speaker 3: and a woman is that?
Speaker 4: And what is a man? And what is a woman?
Speaker 3: And guys have babies and stuff like that, you get
Speaker 3: into the I've seen people in Congress arguing about, you know,
Speaker 3: can a man have a baby or not, and they
Speaker 3: get into they go deep on it and it. But
Speaker 3: this is the culture. All I'm saying is I'm not judging.
Speaker 3: I'm saying this is the culture we are living in.
Speaker 3: So My curiosity is about for the over fifty crowd
Speaker 3: and the experts that you've spoken to, how are how
Speaker 3: is the over fifty crowd factoring that into their relationships
Speaker 3: or are they pushing at arm's length and saying, no,
Speaker 3: I want the guy to be the traditional guys. It's
Speaker 3: just easier. I don't want to change everything at this
Speaker 3: stage of the game. Or is it a welcome thing. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's nice that he's showing his feminine side because men
Speaker 3: have a feminine side and women have a masculine side,
Speaker 3: and the patriarchy has been running things for like a long, long,
Speaker 3: long long time, and the matriarchy is bound to be
Speaker 3: taking over soon because just just the you know, the
Speaker 3: ying and yang of the world. So how boiling that
Speaker 3: down to just dating after fifty? What's the net takeaway
Speaker 3: in terms of this kind of redefinition of male and
Speaker 3: females who they are, what they are, and what they
Speaker 3: what they bring to the table in a relationship. Is
Speaker 3: that something that's creating confusion or is it becoming more
Speaker 3: and more clear where the over fifty women say, no,
Speaker 3: I want a guy to be like a guy, but
Speaker 3: I don't want them to be arrogant want to be confident.
Speaker 3: I want him to pay the first check on the
Speaker 3: first pay the check on the first date. I want
Speaker 3: him to initiate action, come up with ideas or is
Speaker 3: it no? No, I welcome the new guy. I want
Speaker 3: to be the dominant one.
Speaker 5: Like it's personal preference, really, and I'm not sure that
Speaker 5: we put that much thought into it. I think it
Speaker 5: like it just kind of happens. And that's where the
Speaker 5: awareness becomes important. Like am I overpowering? And am I
Speaker 5: hurting this relationship? You know? Or maybe I'm not incurage,
Speaker 5: I'm not accepting of a man showing his emotions or
Speaker 5: that's not a whole other you know, big topic. Women,
Speaker 5: Oh no, I want you to be emotional and then
Speaker 5: the minute he is, that's really not what I want there, Well.
Speaker 4: Talk to us about that.
Speaker 3: Let's let's go there right now, because what that's tricky
Speaker 3: because a lot of this stuff we're talking about is
Speaker 3: the one who's in the crosshairs is the guys. The
Speaker 3: guys are not sure, you know, can I kiss her?
Speaker 3: Or do I have to like sign a contract? How
Speaker 3: do what is expected of the god? She makes more
Speaker 3: money than me. Now she's in charge of an organization.
Speaker 3: I'm not maybe I got laid off or whatever, but
Speaker 3: the whole everything's kind of gone flipped upside down for
Speaker 3: a lot of men, and they're not sure about, Okay,
Speaker 3: what do I do. I don't want to I don't
Speaker 3: want to do the wrong thing. I want to do
Speaker 3: the right thing, but I want to be a guy.
Speaker 3: And it's just it's challenging for men nowadays. And I'm
Speaker 3: not saying, you know, men are week and they can't
Speaker 3: handle it. I just I always say, just be yourself.
Speaker 3: Just be yourself and do the right thing, be respectful,
Speaker 3: be fun, come up with ideas, and don't worry about
Speaker 3: all of that stuff.
Speaker 4: Just just be a gentleman.
Speaker 5: And that's good advice. And when you say, you know,
Speaker 5: I mean what what certainly isn't acceptable anymore is cat
Speaker 5: calling and slapping her on the ass walking down the street.
Speaker 5: I mean, those kinds those days are gone. Or or
Speaker 5: even just you know in a bar, you know, the
Speaker 5: overpower lines that men have expectations they brought. It's very insulting,
Speaker 5: very insulting, and always has been to me. I never
Speaker 5: put up with that anyway, but a lot of women
Speaker 5: have had to put up with it. And I'm glad
Speaker 5: those days are gone. What because of the again, how
Speaker 5: farwant swung swung to the other side is now where
Speaker 5: men are confused? You know, am I if I kiss?
Speaker 5: Or am I doing something? I think that's where it gets.
Speaker 5: You know, you want a confident man and a woman
Speaker 5: has to help. I mean there are signals you know
Speaker 5: that that she's interested that you can absolutely read, and
Speaker 5: we have videos about that. Yeah, I know, I know.
Speaker 5: And then but then just yeah, you're right, let's not
Speaker 5: just be respectful if the mood drives and if you
Speaker 5: get that, if you feel that, no, then stop. I mean,
Speaker 5: it's we make it. I think we overcomplicate it, and
Speaker 5: partially because of shows like mine, because we talk a
Speaker 5: lot and we address this topic and then then what
Speaker 5: we talk about it, it does become complicated and you
Speaker 5: do become confused. So to your the way you close
Speaker 5: the question or stay to just be respectful is probably
Speaker 5: the best rule really to go by. I don't know
Speaker 5: if I answer.
Speaker 3: Your question absolutely, I want to keep going on that
Speaker 3: because something came up there where I was talking to
Speaker 3: a guy and he's just turning fifty and he was
Speaker 3: dating somebody new and she'd been kind of out of
Speaker 3: dating for a while, and I think she had some
Speaker 3: physical challenges also when he wanted to, you know, get
Speaker 3: going with the sexual part of the relationship, and I
Speaker 3: think he was, you know, pushing her a little bit,
Speaker 3: I don't mean physically, and he was a little bit frustrated.
Speaker 3: And then things happened and everything worked out, and I'm
Speaker 3: I said to him, I said, you know what, don't
Speaker 3: never just the woman will let you know. You never
Speaker 3: have to it's going to happen when it's going to happen,
Speaker 3: and you will get the signal and just wait and
Speaker 3: have a good time, enjoy yourself, get to know the person.
Speaker 3: Believe me, every woman knows that you're you're interested, and
Speaker 3: you know what, and they'll let you know when it's okay.
Speaker 3: I give the example like I was dating this gal.
Speaker 3: She was hot, and I was like, I really want
Speaker 3: to have some fun here, and I figured I'll just
Speaker 3: forget about it. So came over my place down the
Speaker 3: Jersey Shore on a Saturday. I took her to a
Speaker 3: little local parade Fourth of July Parade. We went back
Speaker 3: to my place. All of a sudden, she was all
Speaker 3: over me. It was just because it was just a nice, original,
Speaker 3: authentic thing to do.
Speaker 4: I I wasn't.
Speaker 3: I wasn't trying to seduce her by taking it to
Speaker 3: a parade, but for some reason click that was something
Speaker 3: that turned her on. I guess or it was just like, okay,
Speaker 3: I'm down.
Speaker 4: Here now for whatever. But it's like it's it's the
Speaker 4: point is if you're.
Speaker 3: A guy, even if you're over fifty, don't if you
Speaker 3: can't figure out the woman wants the same thing you want.
Speaker 4: But this you have to go about it. You have
Speaker 4: to be cool.
Speaker 5: Well okay, so I'm going to agree with you and
Speaker 5: not just not complete or I want to clarify. It's
Speaker 5: funny because we just just released a video with Trevor
Speaker 5: about that. It's, uh, you know, we're kissing now what
Speaker 5: I mean. It's the most juvenile, really premise for a discussion,
Speaker 5: and it's just blowing up on YouTube. We're just getting
Speaker 5: hundreds of comments on it because so many people see
Speaker 5: themselves in that in that position. And the way that
Speaker 5: came up was a viewer suggestion was a woman she goes,
Speaker 5: you know, I've been dating this guy now for for
Speaker 5: two months. I really like him. You know, we hold hands,
Speaker 5: we do this, we do that, but like, how what
Speaker 5: now he's not making a move? Should I say that?
Speaker 5: Should I tell that's not you know? Should I assume
Speaker 5: he's not interested? You know? What?
Speaker 2: Do I do?
Speaker 5: So? And then so we based it on that, and
Speaker 5: then we got tons of comments with the same thing
Speaker 5: that men maybe aren't reading the signals. And I don't
Speaker 5: know where the answer is other than again to raise
Speaker 5: that awareness you know, what women can do and what
Speaker 5: men you should see or shouldn't see. Maybe there's too
Speaker 5: much caution. I don't know, but it's super super interesting
Speaker 5: and apparently helpful or cautious topic. We're calling it the
Speaker 5: gray zone between dating, you know, and getting busy.
Speaker 4: Oh, I love it.
Speaker 3: And it just shows you even people over fifty or
Speaker 3: over forty five or whatever, because I know Trevor's market
Speaker 3: is a little bit more elastic than ours, but they
Speaker 3: still struggle with that. And I think maybe a lot
Speaker 3: of guys are backing off saying I don't want to
Speaker 3: I don't want to be accused of anything, so I'm
Speaker 3: not going to do anything until she makes a move,
Speaker 3: which I think is a mistake. Frankly, I think if
Speaker 3: you're just cool about it and you're respectful and you
Speaker 3: pay attention. Guys, you know you pay attention.
Speaker 5: If I could interrupt you just for a second before
Speaker 5: I yet because you said on the first the first
Speaker 5: time you asked me that to you know, just be cool,
Speaker 5: and I know what that means from you, but that
Speaker 5: means a lot.
Speaker 3: I don't mean cool like aloof I mean I brought
Speaker 3: it up. Oh yeah, just relax.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And that's why that's why men do misinterpret it.
Speaker 5: That's why women, you know, what does that mean because
Speaker 5: we do advise that and what does that mean because
Speaker 5: you do you know, maybe it's maybe you're being too
Speaker 5: drum but too cool And apparently there's a lot to this.
Speaker 5: I mean, I was surprised. I know this would be
Speaker 5: a good video. I didn't realize it was going to
Speaker 5: just stir up all these memories and all these comments
Speaker 5: that were you know, deep comments. You should look at them.
Speaker 4: I want to I want to get into that.
Speaker 3: Silka Schwartzkoff, my special guest on this week's Guys Guys
Speaker 3: Raiders back on the show, great information. I want to
Speaker 3: follow up on what we were just talking about, that
Speaker 3: kind of gray zone. If it's okay with you, because
Speaker 3: this one. You know this you're talking about this one
Speaker 3: guy and the woman. He wasn't making any moves and
Speaker 3: the woman was like, he holds hands. But that's it?
Speaker 3: Is that an isolated case that from what you've heard,
Speaker 3: is that is that a thing now that the guys
Speaker 3: are like not making moves and the women have to
Speaker 3: kind of like hey or rub their shoulders or whatever
Speaker 3: to like be more over in terms of parent like,
Speaker 3: it's okay, here's the go you know, here's the green light.
Speaker 5: I'm well, and we start the interview like that. The woman.
Speaker 5: Another thing she brought up in her comment was, you know,
Speaker 5: I love your channel, watch it all the time. But
Speaker 5: you know, like most channels out there, what you guys
Speaker 5: talk about it you talk about about dating, what to do,
Speaker 5: what not to do, and then you talk about sex.
Speaker 5: You get great information about sex after fifty and all
Speaker 5: the issues with it and blah blah blah blah, but
Speaker 5: nobody talks about the in between. How do you get
Speaker 5: from having that attraction wanting you know, to hear and
Speaker 5: then you know, then she gave me the example of
Speaker 5: what she's going through, and I told herum about that,
Speaker 5: she goes, that's a great topic because I'm going through
Speaker 5: that right now with a man I'm helping with. She goes, yeah,
Speaker 5: let's do it, let's do it, and then the response yes,
Speaker 5: this is a big, a big issue.
Speaker 4: Also.
Speaker 5: One one thing that comes into that, Robert is for
Speaker 5: after fifty that meet. I don't know if it's more
Speaker 5: or less complicated, but where, like where do you have
Speaker 5: that hot kiss the first time? Do you make out
Speaker 5: of the car? Like teenagers? You know, when do you
Speaker 5: You were talking about inviting the woman you were dating,
Speaker 5: you know, to parade and then they're like, at what
Speaker 5: point do you do that? Does that imply you are
Speaker 5: going to sleep together? You know? But again it's like
Speaker 5: where where do you do it? If you have do
Speaker 5: it and you have maybe children at home, maybe you
Speaker 5: ever root me? A lot more complications logistics, Yeah, the
Speaker 5: logistics do complicated and make it awkward unless you're willing
Speaker 5: to talk about it. And this is difficult to talk
Speaker 5: about for a lot of people. Where the signals become
Speaker 5: even more important.
Speaker 3: Wow, so much to consider. Where can I have my
Speaker 3: first hot kiss? So I got to figure that out
Speaker 3: now too. I think it just has to be organic,
Speaker 3: like you know, you both know you lock eyes and
Speaker 3: if it's there, it's there. But people can misread that
Speaker 3: situation so at any age. So so that's tricky. That's
Speaker 3: what I thought we do. It might be fun. Is
Speaker 3: I want to get into like a lightning round with
Speaker 3: you Silka on this? I don't think vire q and
Speaker 3: a let's try it. So one the.
Speaker 4: Biggest dating myth.
Speaker 3: People over fifty still believe, from what you've heard and
Speaker 3: from what you think and from what you've learned.
Speaker 5: Well, that we're too old. They can't find love after fifty.
Speaker 5: That is just it's futile. And you know, why do it?
Speaker 5: I mean that probably is one of the myths that
Speaker 5: we that we talk about that we don't think it's
Speaker 5: going to happen. And that is the huge myth, because
Speaker 5: you can find somebody after fifty and have best relationship,
Speaker 5: the best sex of your life.
Speaker 3: Oh great, I love it. What we were just talking about.
Speaker 3: The one green flag that everyone should look for, particularly
Speaker 3: for the.
Speaker 5: Guys, particularly for the guys, I guess, just being emotionally
Speaker 5: available really for both people. It's another buzzword emotional that
Speaker 5: you know, what does that mean? But being being warm,
Speaker 5: being yeah, available that you really are available for a relationship.
Speaker 5: That's the biggest green flag, that that you're not bringing
Speaker 5: a bunch of drama to the table or a bunch
Speaker 5: of baggage. Another whole other topic. But yeah, that that
Speaker 5: you're emotionally available.
Speaker 3: Well, let me drill down a little bit deeper on that.
Speaker 3: So the green flag in terms of you mentioned the
Speaker 3: guy and he wasn't doing anything. So maybe he was
Speaker 3: looking for a sign and he wasn't getting it in
Speaker 3: his mind's eye, but it was there.
Speaker 5: So what I have the buzzword. I have the buzzword
Speaker 5: emotional safety. That's what everybody's talking about, that both men
Speaker 5: and women need to feel emotionally safe that when they do,
Speaker 5: you're you're off to the races.
Speaker 3: And so what's the signal that the guy should look
Speaker 3: for to know that the woman is like, come on, buddy,
Speaker 3: give me a kiss. I put it that way instead
Speaker 3: of emotional safety, Like, what's the what's the green flag?
Speaker 4: Well, if she checkered flag.
Speaker 5: Or gosh, I mean, there's not a it's not a
Speaker 5: blacken with the check or not. It's not a black
Speaker 5: and white answer. Uh. I mean, for example, if you
Speaker 5: want to give them a strong signal, you lean in
Speaker 5: touch his arm, you know, maybe even take his face.
Speaker 5: I mean you can you can do some physical overtures
Speaker 5: that that all that can't be miss red.
Speaker 4: Okay, gotcha?
Speaker 5: All right?
Speaker 3: Texting versus phone calls a lot of obviously the younger
Speaker 3: generation when you're doing match and well the other online. Uh,
Speaker 3: everything's you know, swiping left and right and it's very fast.
Speaker 3: But the old fashioned phone call is is that something
Speaker 3: that could help build a relationship? I like to personally,
Speaker 3: when I was dating, I want to hear the other
Speaker 3: person's voice.
Speaker 5: Oh, absolutely no. That you need to get off text
Speaker 5: as soon as possible unless you you physically meet and
Speaker 5: and you know, a calling or hearing their voice and
Speaker 5: having a real conversation, uh is key because that's also
Speaker 5: where the scamming and all that comes in. You know,
Speaker 5: are you really even talking you know, to person you
Speaker 5: think you're talking with. So that's it's so important, so important,
Speaker 5: you know. I personally, when I first started dating, I
Speaker 5: had I was dating a guy liked I liked him,
Speaker 5: and but he would I mean he would text me
Speaker 5: through the night and they were like really engaging. And second,
Speaker 5: I mean I was like, well, yeah, I can't wait
Speaker 5: to get and in person, it was just totally different.
Speaker 5: I mean, text texture be for planning the day, meets
Speaker 5: you here, you know, hey, good night. I had fun, but.
Speaker 3: Not for getting to getting to know somebody else in
Speaker 3: the right way. Okay, what's one dating trend that you
Speaker 3: hope disappears for particularly for folks over fifty.
Speaker 5: A dating trend? Well, we talk about trends or you know,
Speaker 5: bad behaviors. I hope that what what online dating has created,
Speaker 5: like the you know, the ghosting, and then we know
Speaker 5: all the buzzwords that people and people are recognizing that
Speaker 5: that's just it's horrible when it's done, especially when you
Speaker 5: experience it yourself. So I'm hoping that that that, you know,
Speaker 5: the bad dating behavior which is really fueled by online dating,
Speaker 5: that that subsides that we're starting to learn our lesson there.
Speaker 3: Okay, after fifty, can opposites really attract or is that
Speaker 3: something for the younger crowd where you're dating so many
Speaker 3: different people? Hopefully when you're younger, you're getting around and
Speaker 3: at least meeting a lot of people, and like sometimes
Speaker 3: the opposite thing is like, oh he's quirky. You know
Speaker 3: you're in finance, he's a painter, and he's struggling and
Speaker 3: you're making a lot of money, and like, okay, that's okay.
Speaker 3: But then when you're over fifty, well maybe from a
Speaker 3: different standpoint, that's a good fit also. But it also
Speaker 3: could be well, he's got no money and I've got
Speaker 3: a big house and I don't know if that's going
Speaker 3: to work.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that is also I think a personal thing for
Speaker 5: the my again my personal opinion. I think opposites absolutely
Speaker 5: attract and can make something very exciting and fun. I
Speaker 5: don't think that it keeps you together. I think you're
Speaker 5: more likely I mean some I think being having a
Speaker 5: genuine connection means sharing a lot of the same opinions
Speaker 5: or values and that sort of thing. So if you're
Speaker 5: you know, interesting changer, if your interests don't have to
Speaker 5: be the same, you do not have to have the same.
Speaker 5: But I think value based stuff, Yeah, that's where opposites
Speaker 5: sometimes do not keep you together.
Speaker 4: All right.
Speaker 3: The last one, there's a lot of folks who are professionals.
Speaker 3: They are over fifty, they've had a career. They may
Speaker 3: still be working, they may not, but a lot of
Speaker 3: them are.
Speaker 4: If they're successful.
Speaker 3: What's the biggest mistake that the professionals make when they're dating.
Speaker 5: Well just not being available to date, not being available.
Speaker 5: That you have to decide is you know, do I
Speaker 5: have time for someone in my life? Because like you
Speaker 5: said earlier said you know, we don't have that much
Speaker 5: time to waste. So if you're dating, what what do
Speaker 5: you want out of that? Do you really want a relationship?
Speaker 5: Do you have room for a relationship? That's I think
Speaker 5: the biggest the biggest thing.
Speaker 3: Do you think people from what you've heard, are people
Speaker 3: actually taking the time?
Speaker 4: I always say before you get back out.
Speaker 3: In the dating game and the dating world and dating environment,
Speaker 3: you need to take a step back and kind of
Speaker 3: be a little circumspect.
Speaker 4: What do I want? What do I have to offer?
Speaker 3: Am I attracting the same type of person who ultimately
Speaker 3: isn't right for me? Like take that time before going
Speaker 3: back out there. Do you notice that something.
Speaker 5: Absolutely absolutely We just did a video on it. I'm
Speaker 5: going to edit at this that formoon is like the
Speaker 5: like three traits that absolutely will get you, you know,
Speaker 5: a date or anyway that is it's huge and people
Speaker 5: some people do, some people don't. And then there's also
Speaker 5: things like when you talk about what you want that
Speaker 5: that becomes a whole discussion also, but yes, you have
Speaker 5: to be you have to look look aside. You know,
Speaker 5: what is it am I bringing to the table? What
Speaker 5: I want you to bring to the table?
Speaker 6: You know?
Speaker 5: Are we two people who can grow together? Or do
Speaker 5: I have expectations that I can't meet myself?
Speaker 3: Okay, fair enough, Soca, incredible insights and information. As always,
Speaker 3: what's giving you the most hope about love today?
Speaker 5: The most hopeble I mean, it exists, you can and
Speaker 5: you can find it at any age. I'm not saying
Speaker 5: it's easy, but all the examples that I have both
Speaker 5: you know, again from my viewers and then just in
Speaker 5: my personal life, close friends over seventy that found the
Speaker 5: love in their lives. You know, it's all about mindset
Speaker 5: and believing that you can. And I know that that
Speaker 5: sounds oh yeah, yeah, sure, but it's true. You know,
Speaker 5: if you at that old saying whether you believe you
Speaker 5: can or you can't, you're right. And the first thing
Speaker 5: about finding love is believing that you can.
Speaker 4: I love it.
Speaker 3: Soka Schwartzkough back on Second activ always and also right
Speaker 3: now on Guys Guys Radio, We're going to have you
Speaker 3: back again of course, thank you so much for being
Speaker 3: with us and love talking.
Speaker 5: To you all right, I love to talk to you
Speaker 5: with you too. I know our last video is doing great.
Speaker 4: Awesome. Subscribe to second ACTV. All right, folks, see you soon.
Speaker 2: It's guys guy Radio.
Speaker 3: Okay, another terrific conversation and my very special thanks to
Speaker 3: Silka Schwartzow for joining us once again and for sharing
Speaker 3: her thoughtful perspective on what it means to date and
Speaker 3: build meaningful relationships in today's world when you're over fifty.
Speaker 3: You know, one of the biggest takeaways for me is
Speaker 3: that this chapter of life isn't about trying to recreate
Speaker 3: relationships we had in the twenties and thirties. It's about
Speaker 3: creating something that reflects who we are now, wiser, more
Speaker 3: self aware, and hopefully more intentional about the kind of
Speaker 3: partnership we want, and whether that means embracing independence, redefining commitment,
Speaker 3: recognizing red flags earlier, or simply staying open to unexpected possibilities.
Speaker 3: Love doesn't come with an expiration date. In many ways,
Speaker 3: it can become richer because we know ourselves so much
Speaker 3: better as we age. If you want to learn more
Speaker 3: about Silka and her work. Be sure to check out
Speaker 3: Silka on Second Act TV. And just one other point here.
Speaker 3: You know, we talked about heterosexual dating and gay and
Speaker 3: trans and we're not judging.
Speaker 4: It doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: My credo and our credo on Guys Guys Radio is
Speaker 3: there's not enough love.
Speaker 2: In the world.
Speaker 3: And whoever you are and whoever you define yourself as
Speaker 3: your business, we just want to help people find relationships
Speaker 3: that work for them. And I think the biggest key
Speaker 3: is just to be authentic, be yourself and be positive.
Speaker 3: And of course you got to be in it to
Speaker 3: win it, so you got to put yourself out there
Speaker 3: and meet new people and enjoy the journey.
Speaker 4: So that's what.
Speaker 3: We've got for you today on Guys Guys Radio. Thank
Speaker 3: you for listening to Guys Guys Radio. We'll be back
Speaker 3: next week with a brand new episode. And until then,
Speaker 3: like I always say, Guys guys, finish first.
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