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<v Speaker 1>You're flat out and your to do list is growing

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<v Speaker 1>by the minute, but unfortunately so is your headache. And

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<v Speaker 1>now you've gone from flat out to flattened. Luckily, panodal

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<v Speaker 2>Oh hey, it's your podfather, Ali Ward. Please do join

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<v Speaker 2>me for a special episode of the podcast program Ologies.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Usually we look at a specific field per week. Right

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<v Speaker 2>this time, we're doing a deep dive into a mystery

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<v Speaker 2>and a secret that I've kept for a few months

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<v Speaker 2>because I was scared to tell anyone and I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>know what was going to happen. And since I like

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<v Speaker 2>you all to learn from my errors and sometimes my colonoscopies,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I would answer all the questions that you

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<v Speaker 2>know I ever asked in hopes of maybe a healthier

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<v Speaker 2>and happier life for you and maybe some trauma dumping

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<v Speaker 2>catharsis for me. Let's see. But first, just a quick

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<v Speaker 2>thanks to everyone at Patreon dot com slash Ologies for

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<v Speaker 2>making the show possible. You can join if you'd like

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<v Speaker 2>for a dollar a month. You can submit questions to

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<v Speaker 2>the ologists ahead of time. Thanks also to everyone wearing

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<v Speaker 2>Ologies merch on their bods. You can get that at

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<v Speaker 2>ologiesmarch dot com. And do we sell bathing suits so

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<v Speaker 2>other sunbathing hotties can identify each other? We do, so

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<v Speaker 2>put us on your butts. Also, thank you to everyone

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<v Speaker 2>who sent me well wishes as I have been recovering

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<v Speaker 2>from this mystery surgery, and also for leaving me reviews

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<v Speaker 2>for me to read from my couch, such as this

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<v Speaker 2>recent one from Sea Love, who wrote one show and

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<v Speaker 2>I was hooked. I love how you share your life

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<v Speaker 2>with us, love your guests and all the topics. Please

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<v Speaker 2>stay well and keep potting. Love you dad word, which,

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<v Speaker 2>if I may say, it's an apt one this week

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm about to share perhaps too much of me

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<v Speaker 2>in an effort to stay well. So thank you, Sea Love,

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<v Speaker 2>and also anyone who's ever left review. I've read every

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<v Speaker 2>single one of them, that is the truth, and often

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<v Speaker 2>they make me cry. Speaking of crying, let's reveal what

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<v Speaker 2>in the effing heck is going on with me. Did

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<v Speaker 2>I have a planned abdominal surgery? Is that where I've been?

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<v Speaker 2>Did I have a facelift? Did I get a toe

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<v Speaker 2>removed for cosmetic reasons? Was it fun? How much did

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<v Speaker 2>it hurt? And come along with me as I find

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<v Speaker 2>out what this means for the rest of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's casual. We keep it casual. It's heartfelt, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's important to me and I hope maybe to someone

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<v Speaker 2>in your life. Okay, let's do it. Okay, It's January

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<v Speaker 2>twenty fifth, twenty twenty four, and this is just day

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<v Speaker 2>one of this. I got off the phone with doctor

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<v Speaker 2>earlier this morning, actually earlier this morning. First thing this morning,

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<v Speaker 2>I had a call with a lawyer about estate planning

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<v Speaker 2>and what happens if I becoming capacitated and need a

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<v Speaker 2>power of attorney and living will and an advanced directors

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<v Speaker 2>of all these things. I had this big phone call

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<v Speaker 2>this morning to get all that shit in order. So

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<v Speaker 2>this was a long standing item of my to do list.

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<v Speaker 2>It's taken me years to figure out how to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you're listening to this and you're alive, make

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<v Speaker 2>some preparations in case you die, which you will probably

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<v Speaker 2>not today. But the fun of life is you never know.

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<v Speaker 2>What is not fun though, is paperwork. I know, trust me,

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<v Speaker 2>So do it for the other people you love. Let

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<v Speaker 2>your loved ones know if they should throw you into

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<v Speaker 2>the sea or if they should have a bounce house

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<v Speaker 2>at your wake. And also get a will. If you

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<v Speaker 2>own a home, congrats and get that shit in a

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<v Speaker 2>trust or make arrangements for who gets it if you

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<v Speaker 2>get attacked by a zoo animal or something. So if

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<v Speaker 2>you don't do this whilst alive, it can go into

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<v Speaker 2>like probate and your relatives need to come up with

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<v Speaker 2>lawyers fees just to have the chance to sell off

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<v Speaker 2>your stuff. So let this be your message from me

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<v Speaker 2>and from life that use like legal zoomer, set asided data,

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<v Speaker 2>Google it. I finally did it. I had this big

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<v Speaker 2>phone call on my calendar for weeks and by chance,

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<v Speaker 2>the hospital reached out the very same day, and then

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<v Speaker 2>an hour later I talked to my doctor on the

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<v Speaker 2>phone and learn that there's a ten percent chance I

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<v Speaker 2>have uterine cancer right now there's a ninety percent chance

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<v Speaker 2>that I don't. But the next step we decided is

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<v Speaker 2>to get a hysterect to me, which i'll get late

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<v Speaker 2>next month. If you've ever voted or will vote, it

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<v Speaker 2>affects reproductive rights, particularly for people who were born with

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<v Speaker 2>a uterus. And if you are one of those people

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<v Speaker 2>who have elite, complicated organs that evolved to grow human life,

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<v Speaker 2>congrats and can get real messy up there. It's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like owning a vintage car or a large fish tank.

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<v Speaker 2>It's cool, it's not always easy. So if you're human

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<v Speaker 2>on a planet Earth, you benefited from these organs because

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<v Speaker 2>you grew inside of them, and you should know how

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<v Speaker 2>they work and what can go wrong. So by listening,

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to relate to the biological sex that has

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<v Speaker 2>to deal with this, and you'll be a responsible human. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>Am I going to die of cancer soon? Let's find out.

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<v Speaker 2>I had asked if I could get a hysterectomy like

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<v Speaker 2>two years ago, and they were like, you can't just

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<v Speaker 2>get a hysterectomy because you're afraid of cancer. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>but aren't my risks high? I should have had them

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<v Speaker 2>note in my chart that they said no. But either way,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm scared. I'm worried that I got me. I'm worried

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<v Speaker 2>that my life's been too good for too long, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is another shoe dropping. Although it hasn't been that great.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I was hospitalized this summer. It's been a

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<v Speaker 2>long roadbag. I had pneumonia, I've been sick a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>my dad died. Things haven't been very super easy. I

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<v Speaker 2>have had a rough go of it. But I'm always

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<v Speaker 2>afraid that if things are going too well, then something

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<v Speaker 2>bad is going to happen. Oh hello, anxiety, how are

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<v Speaker 2>you unfounded? Amazing, great to see you again. So I've

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<v Speaker 2>learned recently that thinking that when things are good, they're

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<v Speaker 2>about to get real shitty soon is not a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of universal karma. It's an anxiety disorder maybe PTSD. So

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<v Speaker 2>thanks therapy for all. Things you can do about this

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<v Speaker 2>include meditating, deep breathing actually physiologically helps. You can talk

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<v Speaker 2>to a friend or a counselor or journal to see

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<v Speaker 2>patterns of the good and the bad in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>And one thing that I've started doing every day from

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<v Speaker 2>the last like six months is to journal in the

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<v Speaker 2>morning to write down what I'm looking forward to and

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm worried about or what I'm avoiding, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I check back at the end of the day to

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<v Speaker 2>see how it turned out, and over even a week,

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<v Speaker 2>you'll start to see patterns where things didn't go as

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<v Speaker 2>badly as you thought. And if you keep doing this,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe for life you can develop more just trust and

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<v Speaker 2>confidence in your ability to handle some tough situations, and

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<v Speaker 2>that if you already have anxiety, that horrible things tend

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<v Speaker 2>to occur less often than you anticipate. But this was

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<v Speaker 2>cause for real concern, for sure, So I decided to

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<v Speaker 2>make some audio recordings on my phone as I went,

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<v Speaker 2>perhaps it'll help someone you love, maybe that person is you,

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<v Speaker 2>But let's die back in. I'm just making this note

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<v Speaker 2>on the off chance that I decided to document this

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<v Speaker 2>and just kind of see the arc. Normally, these things

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<v Speaker 2>are scarier when you first hear them, and then you go, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>why did I waste all that energy and freaking out again.

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<v Speaker 2>They're probably not going to find anything cancerous in my cells,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'll just be glad that I got it over

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<v Speaker 2>with and I got it out, and it's probably going

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<v Speaker 2>to hurt. I probably won't be able to bone for

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<v Speaker 2>a while from what I understand, and yeah, at least

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<v Speaker 2>I'm documenting this and such. Okay. January twenty twenty twenty four.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, So about a week later, they said, please

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<v Speaker 2>bring your vagina and your uterus into your doctor's office.

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<v Speaker 2>So I did, and I brought the rest of my

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<v Speaker 2>body along and you and.

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<v Speaker 4>Debating whether or I should record it. Maybe I should,

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<v Speaker 4>maybe I shouldn't. Do I mean that I can write

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<v Speaker 4>off this whole surgery.

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<v Speaker 3>Interesting.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not nervous. I feel like they're going to tell

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<v Speaker 4>me that the surgery is going to be like mid March,

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<v Speaker 4>and they're not going to know anything until I take

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<v Speaker 4>it out. So do I get a second opinion, like

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<v Speaker 4>if something we're wrong with my car?

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<v Speaker 3>I have no idea. All right, here we go.

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<v Speaker 2>So I go in and I meet my surgeon, doctor

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<v Speaker 2>Kamisia Thomas at usc KEC. How was nervous and I

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<v Speaker 2>liked her immediately. So I showed her my crotch and

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<v Speaker 2>it was like a first date, except with insurance. It

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<v Speaker 2>costs less and it was not romantic. But I recorded

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<v Speaker 2>notes as I walked back to the car.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, So I just got back and essentially what

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<v Speaker 4>my doctor's amazing and I love her and she's told

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<v Speaker 4>me that then go to it.

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<v Speaker 3>They can take it out of your stomach.

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<v Speaker 2>Your abdominal cavity, not your actual stomach. So please do

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<v Speaker 2>not email me I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>Or they can just.

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<v Speaker 4>Yank it out of your puss and so show me

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<v Speaker 4>up on those stirrups felt around.

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<v Speaker 3>We had a small uterus.

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<v Speaker 2>I thank you, And she said she could get it

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<v Speaker 2>out that way, which is.

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<v Speaker 3>Awesome, and so that means I'm a great candidate.

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<v Speaker 2>So I learned through going through all this that hysterectomies

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<v Speaker 2>are one of the most common guy know surgeries after

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<v Speaker 2>a cesarean section or a dilation and courathage, which is

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<v Speaker 2>a thing that is done to open up your cervix

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<v Speaker 2>and then clear out tissue after a miscarriage, or to

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<v Speaker 2>do diagnostics. So when you hear of a DNC in

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<v Speaker 2>reproductive legislature, just know that some states and some mail

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<v Speaker 2>lawmakers in the US want to tell no, you can't

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<v Speaker 2>have a vital procedure to deal with uterine tissue. But

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<v Speaker 2>hysterectomies are common, and my surgeon even does them as

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<v Speaker 2>gender affirming care for transmen and non binary folks. And

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<v Speaker 2>they can take your uterus and your cervix and your

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<v Speaker 2>fallopium tubes. They can leave the ovaries for hormones or

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<v Speaker 2>they can take them. Now, this operation can happen three

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<v Speaker 2>different ways. One they may cut into your abdominal cavity

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<v Speaker 2>to just remove it. Or two they can puncture a

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<v Speaker 2>few holes through your six pack to laparoscopically cut some chords,

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<v Speaker 2>and then they remove the organs through your existing VA gene.

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<v Speaker 2>And that second option is easier because you might as

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<v Speaker 2>well use the loading dock that you've got rather than

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<v Speaker 2>just kool aid man through your aps. So those two methods, though,

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<v Speaker 2>they still have pretty long ass recovery time, maybe months. However,

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<v Speaker 2>there's this new technique called VNOTES, which is a plucky

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<v Speaker 2>little acronym for vaginal natural orbit transluminal endyscopic surgery, thanks

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<v Speaker 2>so much, And this lets you totally avoid the abdominal

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<v Speaker 2>incisions altogether. Nothing goes through your abdomen. You just head

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<v Speaker 2>up in there, you cut some stuff, and you be

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<v Speaker 2>beet that mess out of your unused baby shoot. So

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<v Speaker 2>that is the easiest way to do it. And I

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<v Speaker 2>made the mistake of googling this new VNOTES surgery, which

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<v Speaker 2>what And I learned that the patient me would be

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<v Speaker 2>just as look at my crotch as you could possibly

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<v Speaker 2>possibly be for a few hours, which is fine, and

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<v Speaker 4>That day to recover. I asked what kind of possibilities

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we're going to get some basics down. So uterus

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<v Speaker 2>it's about a fist sized hollow place where baby grows

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<v Speaker 2>for the stork plucks it out with its beak and

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<v Speaker 2>then puts it on your doorstep. And lining the uterus

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<v Speaker 2>is this thing called an endometrium, which is tissue that

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<v Speaker 2>then it gets sloughed off and it gets ejected out

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<v Speaker 2>the badge as a period. Now on the topic of

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<v Speaker 2>an endometrium, so when someone has endometriosis, it means that

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<v Speaker 2>endometrial like tissue grows in places it is not invited,

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<v Speaker 2>in places outside the uterus, like on the fallopian tubes

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<v Speaker 2>that lead to the ovaries, and sometimes in places that

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<v Speaker 2>are not even your reproductive organs, such as one's bladder

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<v Speaker 2>or large intestines like your colon's, Like, how did I

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<v Speaker 2>even get involved in this? No, get out of you,

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<v Speaker 2>leave me alone. There's also thoracic endometriosis, which is when

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<v Speaker 2>uterus like stuff crops up on or around the lungs

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<v Speaker 2>or on that wall of muscle in your abdomen. The

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<v Speaker 2>diaphragm sending shooting nerve pain that radiates through your shoulder

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<v Speaker 2>and your back. So this can cause excruciating misery and

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<v Speaker 2>a massive drop in quality of life. Is there a

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<v Speaker 2>cure for endometriosis? Some folks offer for a total hysterectomy

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<v Speaker 2>and or surgeries to root around like a truffle pig

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<v Speaker 2>and excize it in other parts of the body if

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<v Speaker 2>they can even locate it. There's pain management, but no

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<v Speaker 2>cure really, so why not now? In the twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 2>textbook The Paragraph Handbook of Critical Menstrual Studies is a

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<v Speaker 2>chapter titled the womb Wanders not Enhancing Endometriosis Education in

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<v Speaker 2>a Culture of Menstrual Misinformation and its author, Heather Guidone,

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<v Speaker 2>is a program director for the Center for Endometriosis Care

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<v Speaker 2>and writes that quote embedded in the centuries old assertion

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<v Speaker 2>that the womb was a nomadic entity wandering about the body,

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<v Speaker 2>causing hysteria and distress. Persistent menstrual and misconceptions remained prevalent

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<v Speaker 2>where pain disorders like endometriosis are concerned, and she continues

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<v Speaker 2>derived from the misogynist antidiluvian belief that painful menstruation was

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<v Speaker 2>ordained by nature as a punishment for failing to conceive.

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<v Speaker 2>Pregnancy has long been suggested as a treatment or even

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<v Speaker 2>cure for endometriosis. So heck, you want to avoid painful periods,

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<v Speaker 2>just stop having them by growing and then ejecting a baby.

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<v Speaker 2>That's convenient. It doesn't hurt at all. Now, I have

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<v Speaker 2>friends who have endometriosis, and one of them frequently has

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<v Speaker 2>to pull over to the side of the road just

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<v Speaker 2>to writhe in pain and then just get back into traffic.

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<v Speaker 2>She's had laparoscopic surgery to find it, and it's still

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<v Speaker 2>a mystery. Where it is. One hundred and seventy six

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<v Speaker 2>million people around the world have endometriosis. No one knows

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<v Speaker 2>what causes it. But that was a whole sidetrack because

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even have endometriosis, So what's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>Here's what going on with me. So I happen to

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<v Speaker 2>be in the elite, elite one percent of folks whose

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<v Speaker 2>ovaries just dip out early the Irish goodbye. So you're

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<v Speaker 2>born with all the eggs you'll ever have in your life,

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<v Speaker 2>which means that the egg that turned into you grew

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<v Speaker 2>inside of your mom, in your grandma. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>about you, but my grandma was a bitch, So that's

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<v Speaker 2>weird that we were just such juicy turduck in roommates,

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<v Speaker 2>the three of us for a bit, but that's again,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not the point. Also, once I had a dream

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<v Speaker 2>that my grandma came to me and said, sorry, I

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<v Speaker 2>was kind of evil and abusive. It's just that I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't even really want kids. I wanted to be an artist,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was in nineteen forties and of Catholics, so

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<v Speaker 2>I had six kids and hated everyone. And when I

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<v Speaker 2>say that this conversation came to me in a dream,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean during a pharmaceutical grade mushroom trip that I

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<v Speaker 2>took at the suggestion of my fairy, buttoned up Western

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<v Speaker 2>medicine psychiatrist. And I tell you an experience I'll never forget.

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<v Speaker 2>What a party it was in my brain anyway, because

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<v Speaker 2>my particular ovaries retired early and put up a gonefish

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<v Speaker 2>and sign before I turned thirty five, and this was

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<v Speaker 2>medically not according to plan. It took three years of

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<v Speaker 2>going to doctors to figure out what was up. I

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<v Speaker 2>had three male doctors tell me maybe it was just stress,

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<v Speaker 2>and two two looked me in the face and asked

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<v Speaker 2>me if I could just quit my job and find

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<v Speaker 2>someone to marry, which stressed me out even more. But

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<v Speaker 2>I essentially I went through menopause like fifteen years too early,

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<v Speaker 2>and I had to figure out how to navigate relationships

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<v Speaker 2>and how to process that. Kids weren't really in the

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<v Speaker 2>cards for me personally, even though someone with primary ovarian

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<v Speaker 2>failure can foster or adopt or even have a kid

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<v Speaker 2>with a donor egg, or sometimes your ovary might just

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<v Speaker 2>grown one to life or pop out an egg unannounced,

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<v Speaker 2>which is rude. But for myself, I just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>knew it wasn't my destiny, which is a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>of a part of why I'm your Internet father or

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<v Speaker 2>your dad work. I just just kind of didn't identify

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<v Speaker 2>it with motherhood. But like endometriosis, primary ovarian insufficiency or

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<v Speaker 2>premature ovarian failure. What I've got is what's called idiopathic,

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<v Speaker 2>and that comes from the Greek. All of this for

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<v Speaker 2>idios just meaning an ignorant person, and idiopathic medically just

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<v Speaker 2>means no one knows why it happens, which means no

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<v Speaker 2>one studied it enough. I guess now, if you have

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<v Speaker 2>nards and you're still listening, you're one of the good ones,

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<v Speaker 2>or you might be saying, what does this even have

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<v Speaker 2>to do with me? Okay, So, if your hormone makers

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<v Speaker 2>them nuts suddenly and just without warning, shut down the factory,

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<v Speaker 2>imagine not having that cocktail of chemical messengers that you

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<v Speaker 5>No, I would suck women, I would suck.

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<v Speaker 2>So without enough estrogen, you may have hot flashes and

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<v Speaker 2>feel like random, searingly hot fevers. Your brain can't always

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<v Speaker 2>remember things because estrogen is helpful in making dopamine, as

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<v Speaker 2>start having massive executive functioning issues as many people going

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<v Speaker 2>through natural menopauseits experience and progesterone, which you also don't make.

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<v Speaker 2>If your ovary's peace out can have a really calming effect.

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<v Speaker 2>So if your ovaries tank, you may find that irritability

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<v Speaker 2>is just causing you to do things like research huts

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<v Speaker 2>on remote islands far away from anyone who choose too loud.

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<v Speaker 2>And I shall also say that, unfortunately, there's this company

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<v Speaker 2>called Rosebud Woman, and they make Obgin approved plant based

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<v Speaker 2>vulver and vaginal moisturizers for people going through paramenopause and

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<v Speaker 2>menopause and pre and post natal business and really anyone

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of stuff made for discomfort was really just

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<v Speaker 2>lube geared for sex, or it was really medicalized. So

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<v Speaker 2>she made this company which has gone on to do

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<v Speaker 2>like Gangbusters and has been written up by Oprah and

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<v Speaker 2>Wired and Allure and Vogue and Vanity Fair and I

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<v Speaker 2>use it all the time. I have some Another fun

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<v Speaker 2>husband's mom, Christine Mason, and it's a family run business.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely had an inside track, and I'm very glad

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<v Speaker 2>Rosebud invented this stuff for people like us, So just

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<v Speaker 2>a genuine plug for them. You can use it on

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<v Speaker 2>all kinds of all of us. Even if you're not

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<v Speaker 2>a woman anyway, If you have a vary in failure

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<v Speaker 2>early and your doctor cares, they will put you on

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<v Speaker 2>estrogen replacement therapy, which is great. They might even check

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<v Speaker 2>your testosterone levels and give you a supplement for that,

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<v Speaker 2>which is awesome. So stick with me here because here's

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<v Speaker 2>where all my problems started. So if you're on estrogen,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to take progesterone at the same time to

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<v Speaker 2>prevent your endometrial lining from building up since you're not

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<v Speaker 2>doing any perioding. Here's the hitch. So they'll usually give

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<v Speaker 2>you a synthetic progesterone called a progestine For some folks,

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<v Speaker 2>no problem o, two thumbs up. For others, this makes

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<v Speaker 2>hormonally think like crying jags, irritability, like terrible pms all

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<v Speaker 2>the time. I was one of those people. So I

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<v Speaker 2>was just trying to go about my life while also

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<v Speaker 2>feeling like absolute hot constantly. So if your doctor is good,

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<v Speaker 2>they will care, and they might try you on progesterone

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<v Speaker 2>not progestine, and some people tolerate it better. It'll make

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<v Speaker 2>you feel right again. But if you're in a pandemic

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<v Speaker 2>and can't get to see your doctor because there are

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<v Speaker 2>morgues on wheels in our major cities. You might stop

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<v Speaker 2>taking your synthetic progesterone before learning of other options. If

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<v Speaker 2>you do this for a few years, you won't feel great,

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<v Speaker 2>and that unopposed estrogen can lead to cancer. How can

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<v Speaker 2>you tell, Well, you suddenly start bleeding and you think,

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<v Speaker 2>oh boy, howdy, maybe my ovaries work again, But also

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<v Speaker 2>you google to learn that this is a symptom in

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<v Speaker 2>ninety percent of uterine cancer patients. And then when you

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<v Speaker 2>tell doctors what's happening and that you stopped taking your

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<v Speaker 2>progesterone a year or so ago, they might stifle a

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<v Speaker 2>horrified gasp, and then, without any anesthesia, shove a tool

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<v Speaker 2>into your uterus and try to scrape out flesh with

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<v Speaker 2>some sort of hospital melon baller to look at it

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<v Speaker 2>under a microscope. So this endrometrio biopsy hurts a lot

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<v Speaker 2>most pain you've ever felt. Maybe you've been hit by

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<v Speaker 2>a car before and got your hand chewed up by

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<v Speaker 2>an escalator like me, This hurts more just on a

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<v Speaker 2>random Tuesday afternoon, and it's not really something you can

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<v Speaker 2>been hit by a car, nobody buys you a beer. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>if their tests are inconclusive, because that pumpkin Scooper didn't

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<v Speaker 2>They might do a pelvic ultrasound. In my case, they

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<v Speaker 2>did and they found it all normal. I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>but I was still feeling awful and was having fevers

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<v Speaker 2>a lot and losing blood. So I found a new

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<v Speaker 2>at all normal. If I had been in my teens

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<v Speaker 2>and would have been normal, but no, for someone with

418
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<v Speaker 2>my history, it was abnormal and worrisome. So good thing

419
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<v Speaker 2>I asked a new doc because it might be saved

420
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<v Speaker 2>in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

422
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<v Speaker 2>In this case, my new doctor, doctor Thomas, was proactive,

423
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<v Speaker 2>and I love her for that. Now, if they find

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<v Speaker 2>a cancer goblin in there, how big is that.

425
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<v Speaker 3>Stage one is?

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<v Speaker 4>It's only in the first fifty percent, the inner fifty

427
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<v Speaker 4>percent of the uterine lining. Over fifty percent is stage two,

428
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<v Speaker 4>and then outside the universe is stage three. But she

429
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<v Speaker 4>said they can do a visual inspection and sometimes cancer

430
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<v Speaker 4>looks like she described it as like algae on your organs.

431
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<v Speaker 4>I think the pathology report comes in a few days later.

432
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<v Speaker 4>I did discuss, like, why if I had a thick

433
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<v Speaker 4>enometrium as someone who's postmenopausal, how did no one flag that?

434
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<v Speaker 3>She was like, they should have.

435
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<v Speaker 2>Again, very glad I switched doctors and found someone who

436
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<v Speaker 2>actually looked into this.

437
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<v Speaker 3>So that's kind of the scoop. Look, you got a scoop.

438
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<v Speaker 2>I get it.

439
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<v Speaker 4>I asked how many people are on the surgical team,

440
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<v Speaker 4>just curious. I wanted to get kind of like a

441
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<v Speaker 4>Gray's anatomy visual of it. And it's her, another surgeon,

442
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<v Speaker 4>an anesthesiologist, and nurse.

443
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<v Speaker 3>There might be a physician's assistant in there, she said.

444
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<v Speaker 3>During their surgery if they see anything that looks suspicious,

445
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<v Speaker 3>that they can in the middle of the operation, tech

446
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<v Speaker 3>to Jarrett and say, hey, we're going to take more

447
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<v Speaker 3>out of her, and I'm sure he'll say go for it, man,

448
00:24:14.079 --> 00:24:18.960
<v Speaker 3>and got a little speculum of mahu haa. She's very

449
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<v Speaker 3>gentle and kind and yeah, she seems proactive and that's exciting.

450
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<v Speaker 3>She said when she walked in that she recognized me

451
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<v Speaker 3>from somewhere, and I was like, do you ever maybe

452
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<v Speaker 3>watch like kids shows? The kid's science shows? Like on Netflix, or.

453
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<v Speaker 4>I was like, maybe I'm just in a hospital too often,

454
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<v Speaker 4>who knows, But anyway, Yeah, this is how it's going

455
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<v Speaker 4>to go. March first. I just want to get it

456
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<v Speaker 4>lanked out. I'm really eager to see what the pathology

457
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<v Speaker 4>report says. And I wish I've known so much of

458
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<v Speaker 4>this before. Not all progesterones make you feel terrible.

459
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<v Speaker 3>You can't just wait it.

460
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<v Speaker 4>Out, and if you're bleeding or have something abnormal, like

461
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<v Speaker 4>get a second opinion, if you don't feel like you're

462
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<v Speaker 4>being listened to, so frustrating, but yeah, you really got

463
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<v Speaker 4>to advocate for yourself, all right.

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<v Speaker 3>Keep it posting, all right.

465
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<v Speaker 2>So all of this has been going on in the

466
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<v Speaker 2>background for me for months, and I spent a lot

467
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<v Speaker 2>of February just wringing my hands waiting for this big

468
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<v Speaker 2>surgery to happen on March first. I mentioned it to y'all,

469
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<v Speaker 2>but didn't tell you what it was, and I told

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<v Speaker 2>a few friends, but I didn't even want to tell

471
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<v Speaker 2>my mom in those weeks because I just didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>her to worry. And I had also learned from when

473
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<v Speaker 2>I had pneumonia that instead of suffering and hoping that

474
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<v Speaker 2>people offer you the comfort and the soup that you'd like.

475
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<v Speaker 2>Just tell them straightforwardly what you need. Tell people you

476
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<v Speaker 2>could use some support or some FU, and ask them

477
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<v Speaker 2>ahead of time if you need to check in on you,

478
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<v Speaker 2>and don't just expect people you love to read your mind,

479
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<v Speaker 2>especially if you're usually the kind of person who tries

480
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<v Speaker 2>to be independent and not burden anyone. So I had

481
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<v Speaker 2>already processed a lot of the fertility stuff and the

482
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<v Speaker 2>womanhood complexities and relationship insecurities caused by ovarian failure, you know,

483
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<v Speaker 2>eight or so years ago. And trust me, if you're

484
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<v Speaker 2>going through something like this, you're going to need some

485
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<v Speaker 2>extra TLC, maybe a counselor a therapist that can talk

486
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<v Speaker 2>you through it, or a support group. But for this

487
00:26:14.200 --> 00:26:17.480
<v Speaker 2>potential cancer news I've been going through and the surgery,

488
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<v Speaker 2>I decided to just man up and invite a little

489
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<v Speaker 2>group of girlfriends over two days before the operation, just

490
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<v Speaker 2>to say goodbye to my reproductive system and to eat

491
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<v Speaker 2>a cake. And my pre op appointment was the same day,

492
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<v Speaker 2>bright and early, and also I was giving a keynote

493
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<v Speaker 2>speech to four thousand people for NASA an hour after

494
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<v Speaker 2>this appointment is exciting, So it was a busy day.

495
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<v Speaker 2>So let's head in. Let's learn what to expect during

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<v Speaker 2>this pre op appointment.

497
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<v Speaker 3>Doctor Thomas.

498
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<v Speaker 4>Uh, is this for like a free yeah? Behind you

499
00:26:51.400 --> 00:26:53.680
<v Speaker 4>and then just make them right? Oh?

500
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<v Speaker 2>Look at this solo aging makes me sad. I was nervous,

501
00:27:00.039 --> 00:27:02.920
<v Speaker 2>feeling optimistic, and then I glanced at the back wall

502
00:27:03.000 --> 00:27:05.480
<v Speaker 2>of the elevator and I skimmed the bulletin board of

503
00:27:05.559 --> 00:27:07.759
<v Speaker 2>informational flyers. Look at this.

504
00:27:08.279 --> 00:27:12.200
<v Speaker 6>Look at this elder abuse, active shooter response.

505
00:27:13.640 --> 00:27:16.200
<v Speaker 2>Solo aging. What the fuck U?

506
00:27:16.680 --> 00:27:18.960
<v Speaker 3>This is the sadness bullets.

507
00:27:18.559 --> 00:27:23.240
<v Speaker 4>And it's kind of like.

508
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<v Speaker 2>Onward board, Alison, Ward. They gave me my hospital I

509
00:27:34.359 --> 00:27:36.680
<v Speaker 2>d bracelet hang onto with the songs?

510
00:27:36.799 --> 00:27:39.440
<v Speaker 4>Can you please verify spilling of your name dated?

511
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<v Speaker 2>Oh wait, this is Raymond's.

512
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<v Speaker 3>Oops.

513
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<v Speaker 2>That's okay. I don't know what he's getting, but if

514
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<v Speaker 2>it's better, then I'll take it.

515
00:27:53.160 --> 00:27:57.519
<v Speaker 3>No wild card, do it after the surgery.

516
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<v Speaker 2>I'm on it. I filled out some forms just about

517
00:28:01.240 --> 00:28:03.079
<v Speaker 2>my health history, and one asked if I had any

518
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<v Speaker 2>religious affiliations. Nice.

519
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<v Speaker 7>It is just a little scary in case we have

520
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<v Speaker 7>to have someone pray over your dying body.

521
00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Allison, Yeah, before any surgery. That'll usually have you come

522
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<v Speaker 2>in and confirm some stuff when.

523
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<v Speaker 4>You've had anesthesia previously, any trouble with nausea or stomach

524
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<v Speaker 4>upset afterward? No, not that excellent. Take a look at

525
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<v Speaker 4>these two columns. See if you've had any of those,

526
00:28:33.599 --> 00:28:34.960
<v Speaker 4>either now or in the past.

527
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<v Speaker 2>What constitutes mental disease?

528
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<v Speaker 4>It could be depression, anxiety, anything like that.

529
00:28:40.759 --> 00:28:43.480
<v Speaker 2>Who doesn't do I need to let the CC.

530
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<v Speaker 4>I'll just know I'm not a real redhead.

531
00:28:47.759 --> 00:28:49.359
<v Speaker 5>Actually, yeah, it's good to know.

532
00:28:49.559 --> 00:28:52.279
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I let them know. Good.

533
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<v Speaker 5>And even if you did, you'd be okay.

534
00:28:55.160 --> 00:28:57.519
<v Speaker 2>It's actually the other way around, and it's it's better

535
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<v Speaker 2>for them to know what you are, a real redhead.

536
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<v Speaker 2>Oh so they give you a little more Okay, if.

537
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<v Speaker 4>We check in at time thirty and surgery seven thirty, Like,

538
00:29:06.799 --> 00:29:10.279
<v Speaker 4>what time do they start doing anesthesia? So what they

539
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<v Speaker 4>do is they bring you into the operating room and

540
00:29:12.160 --> 00:29:14.519
<v Speaker 4>they actually don't give you the anesthesia until you get

541
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<v Speaker 4>into the operating room.

542
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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, So yeah, they say that they want you

543
00:29:17.599 --> 00:29:21.400
<v Speaker 2>to have this Nur's words, a nice clear head, because

544
00:29:21.480 --> 00:29:23.640
<v Speaker 2>you're going to be asked many times if you know

545
00:29:24.119 --> 00:29:26.920
<v Speaker 2>that you're getting an operation and what it's for and

546
00:29:27.039 --> 00:29:29.799
<v Speaker 2>when Jarrett had acl knee surgery a few years back.

547
00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:32.640
<v Speaker 2>You can see the chunicular traumatology episode if you have

548
00:29:32.680 --> 00:29:34.960
<v Speaker 2>bad knees, and we'll link in the show notes, but

549
00:29:35.039 --> 00:29:38.240
<v Speaker 2>they have you write yes on the body part they're

550
00:29:38.279 --> 00:29:42.000
<v Speaker 2>operating on to make sure that they have written bodily consent.

551
00:29:42.200 --> 00:29:44.039
<v Speaker 2>And I wondered, I'm like, do I need to take

552
00:29:44.039 --> 00:29:46.200
<v Speaker 2>a sharpie and like write on my inner thigh like

553
00:29:46.319 --> 00:29:50.279
<v Speaker 2>this hole, not this one with arrows. That'd be fun. Also,

554
00:29:50.319 --> 00:29:54.200
<v Speaker 2>if you're wondering how many holes are down there where

555
00:29:54.240 --> 00:29:57.039
<v Speaker 2>people pee out of, you can enjoy the urology episode

556
00:29:57.119 --> 00:30:01.759
<v Speaker 2>about crotch parts with it truly surgeon doctor Fenwa Millhouse.

557
00:30:02.039 --> 00:30:05.599
<v Speaker 2>But also we have a philology episode about Dix with

558
00:30:05.759 --> 00:30:08.799
<v Speaker 2>doctor Emily Willingham. We got a gynecology one with doctor

559
00:30:08.799 --> 00:30:12.279
<v Speaker 2>Philippa Ribink and Lincoln it all together, perhaps a dolerology

560
00:30:12.279 --> 00:30:15.599
<v Speaker 2>episode with doctor Rachel's Softness, which is about pain.

561
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<v Speaker 8>Or you know it's I got to learn my little

562
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<v Speaker 8>yellow sweater.

563
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<v Speaker 2>Some people bring their favor a little blankie yellow. Really,

564
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<v Speaker 2>just about the Nasset talk, I mean it truly was

565
00:30:38.680 --> 00:30:40.920
<v Speaker 2>thrilling to give a keynote talk for Nassa. I was

566
00:30:40.960 --> 00:30:42.759
<v Speaker 2>so excited and it went great, but yeah, it was

567
00:30:42.839 --> 00:30:44.720
<v Speaker 2>just a little bit of it, a tad's day. But

568
00:30:44.960 --> 00:30:47.599
<v Speaker 2>that night I had invited those few close lady friends

569
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<v Speaker 2>I've known for decades over and they made me feel

570
00:30:50.160 --> 00:30:52.519
<v Speaker 2>so loved and so cared for earnestly, I who want

571
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<v Speaker 2>to cry just thinking about it. My friend Catherine brought

572
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<v Speaker 2>a cake with the words I'm over it. And my

573
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<v Speaker 2>friend doctor Carra Santa Maria, who's been through this surgery

574
00:31:01.480 --> 00:31:04.960
<v Speaker 2>of but laparoscopic, brought me special pillows that helped her.

575
00:31:05.240 --> 00:31:09.319
<v Speaker 2>And a friend and scheduling producer Noel Delworth gave me

576
00:31:09.319 --> 00:31:12.079
<v Speaker 2>a whole basket of tea and treats and a cozy

577
00:31:12.200 --> 00:31:15.880
<v Speaker 2>mug and a fleece hoodie, and Lazette brought slippers and

578
00:31:15.960 --> 00:31:19.960
<v Speaker 2>a blankye even though I told everyone no gifts, just hugs,

579
00:31:20.079 --> 00:31:22.759
<v Speaker 2>and all in all, I'm just very lucky and glad

580
00:31:22.759 --> 00:31:25.039
<v Speaker 2>that on the eve of something so scary that I

581
00:31:25.200 --> 00:31:27.559
<v Speaker 2>just asked these palas to be there for me and

582
00:31:27.599 --> 00:31:30.160
<v Speaker 2>they showed up and we also got to eat pizza.

583
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<v Speaker 2>So if you or someone you know was going through

584
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<v Speaker 2>something scary, sea of a little gathering just might make

585
00:31:36.559 --> 00:31:39.160
<v Speaker 2>them know that they're caring for It really helped me

586
00:31:39.200 --> 00:31:42.000
<v Speaker 2>a lot. But the night before the surgery, things got

587
00:31:42.000 --> 00:31:42.799
<v Speaker 2>pretty real for me.

588
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<v Speaker 5>I guess now i'd be the time when i should

589
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<v Speaker 5>be recording this, but the night before eight o'clock, I've

590
00:31:50.359 --> 00:31:52.480
<v Speaker 5>got to be up at five am to be at

591
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<v Speaker 5>the hospital of five thirty, and I'm just crying a lot.

592
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<v Speaker 5>This is the first time I've been really really scared

593
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<v Speaker 5>about it, and it's working late so that he can

594
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<v Speaker 5>take a couple of days off, and I'm just I'm

595
00:32:05.240 --> 00:32:07.680
<v Speaker 5>scared of it hurting. I'm scared of waking up in

596
00:32:07.720 --> 00:32:10.559
<v Speaker 5>the middle of it. But I'm scared that tomorrow is

597
00:32:10.599 --> 00:32:14.079
<v Speaker 5>going to be like some line where it was like

598
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<v Speaker 5>before you had something really wrong with you and after,

599
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<v Speaker 5>And I'm just a right of crossing that boundary, I guess,

600
00:32:22.119 --> 00:32:30.920
<v Speaker 5>and feeling relieved it all know, but also just really

601
00:32:30.960 --> 00:32:33.279
<v Speaker 5>scared that this is like another big shoe that's going

602
00:32:33.359 --> 00:32:35.559
<v Speaker 5>to drop. I keep thinking I'm so lucky in my life,

603
00:32:35.599 --> 00:32:39.160
<v Speaker 5>and i am, but it's also like it seems like

604
00:32:39.200 --> 00:32:41.920
<v Speaker 5>everything's really great and terrible all at once, all the

605
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<v Speaker 5>time realist or anesthesia.

606
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<v Speaker 2>So when Jared got home, he was such a comfort,

607
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<v Speaker 2>And before we went to sleep, he opened up his

608
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<v Speaker 2>NOTESAUP on a sphone just to take down any questions

609
00:32:55.680 --> 00:32:58.400
<v Speaker 2>that we might want to ask the doctor right before surgery.

610
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<v Speaker 2>And so I asked him to write down things like that,

611
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<v Speaker 2>you know, is anyone going to see my but hole?

612
00:33:02.799 --> 00:33:05.079
<v Speaker 2>How many people are going to see it? Can you

613
00:33:05.160 --> 00:33:08.759
<v Speaker 2>make sure nobody looks at my butt hole too much? Also,

614
00:33:08.799 --> 00:33:11.160
<v Speaker 2>once you remove my organs, are you going to take

615
00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:12.720
<v Speaker 2>a picture of them so that I can use them

616
00:33:12.759 --> 00:33:15.359
<v Speaker 2>for my LinkedIn profile? Can you please do any cather

617
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<v Speaker 2>or business when I'm completely unconscious? So in a minute,

618
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<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you which of those questions we actually asked.

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<v Speaker 2>But first we're going to take a break for some

620
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<v Speaker 2>sponsors at the show. But wherever we do, we're going

621
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<v Speaker 2>to donate to a cause. And this week I'd like

622
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<v Speaker 2>it to go to the Monovistic Cancer Awareness Club, which

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<v Speaker 2>is a group of high school students in northern California

624
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<v Speaker 2>who create posters spreading awareness on various cancers. They write

625
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<v Speaker 2>letters to cancer patients. They collab with San Francisco's Cancer

626
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<v Speaker 2>Support Community. They host big sales to donate to cancer research,

627
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<v Speaker 2>They make care packages for patients, and they share survivor

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<v Speaker 2>stories and support anyone affected by cancer. And this club

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<v Speaker 2>is actually started by my niece in memory of my dad,

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<v Speaker 2>your grandpad, who passed away from cancer in twenty twenty two.

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<v Speaker 2>So Sophia, you're a gem my dear. I'm sorry this

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<v Speaker 2>episode does pretty grow. I don't love that my family

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<v Speaker 2>might listen, but hey, it's my truth and my crutch.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe it'll help someone all right. Thanks to sponsors of

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<v Speaker 2>the show for making that donation to the Manifestic Cancer

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<v Speaker 2>Awareness Club possible.

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<v Speaker 1>You're on the bus an hour from home, in bumper

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652
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<v Speaker 9>Can't argue with that shepping store or online tesco.

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<v Speaker 2>Every little helps avail a bit of most stories. Prices

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<v Speaker 2>very inn express. Okay, let's figure out what is up

657
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<v Speaker 2>and what the prognosis is. Come along, okay, cre off room.

658
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<v Speaker 2>I brought a blanky. I have an IVY line in

659
00:35:26.199 --> 00:35:30.119
<v Speaker 2>and it kind of hurts. I'm scared, but it's gonna

660
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<v Speaker 2>be a go Okay, so yes, I brought a blanket

661
00:35:33.280 --> 00:35:36.239
<v Speaker 2>that my mom knitted for me years ago, and ten

662
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<v Speaker 2>out of ten bring a blanket to the hospital if

663
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<v Speaker 2>they'll let you. I stole this hot tip from doctor

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<v Speaker 2>Santa Maria, and it is great because not only is

665
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<v Speaker 2>it cozy and warm and a comfort, but also hospital

666
00:35:48.079 --> 00:35:51.440
<v Speaker 2>blankets suck shit and they are like thinner than a

667
00:35:51.559 --> 00:35:54.400
<v Speaker 2>tortilla and they're only warm for like two minutes if

668
00:35:54.400 --> 00:35:56.559
<v Speaker 2>they're fresh out of the blanket. Ovens and then you

669
00:35:56.559 --> 00:35:58.840
<v Speaker 2>feel like a dick asking for more layers of them.

670
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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I was very happy that I brought that along.

671
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<v Speaker 2>Definitely recommend I was ready to go and doctor Thomas

672
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<v Speaker 2>came in asked if we had any questions, and we

673
00:36:07.840 --> 00:36:10.639
<v Speaker 2>asked a few of them, but the catheter and anesthesia.

674
00:36:10.800 --> 00:36:14.840
<v Speaker 2>And then Jarrett pulled up the notes app and told

675
00:36:14.840 --> 00:36:17.639
<v Speaker 2>Doctor Thomas that I wanted to ask if anyone would

676
00:36:17.639 --> 00:36:22.719
<v Speaker 2>see my butthole. I don't know she knew we were kidding,

677
00:36:23.480 --> 00:36:26.719
<v Speaker 2>because of course, your whole junk is like in the limelight,

678
00:36:26.800 --> 00:36:29.920
<v Speaker 2>your ass in the air spread eagle with like a

679
00:36:30.039 --> 00:36:33.800
<v Speaker 2>volleyball teams where the people fixated on the star of

680
00:36:33.840 --> 00:36:36.400
<v Speaker 2>the show, which is your crotch. But the doctor at

681
00:36:36.480 --> 00:36:39.320
<v Speaker 2>least humored us and said that don't worry, that won't

682
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<v Speaker 2>be the focus of the operation. And she also said

683
00:36:41.679 --> 00:36:44.079
<v Speaker 2>that yes, once they take out my organs, she's going

684
00:36:44.079 --> 00:36:45.920
<v Speaker 2>to take a picture for me. Now, while we were

685
00:36:46.000 --> 00:36:49.519
<v Speaker 2>waiting to go in the hospital, pacystep went off and

686
00:36:49.679 --> 00:36:52.840
<v Speaker 2>it was an announcement that the staff should report to

687
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<v Speaker 2>the ICU for a code blue. And now, if I

688
00:36:55.639 --> 00:36:58.760
<v Speaker 2>had not been doing this podcast for so many years,

689
00:36:58.840 --> 00:37:01.480
<v Speaker 2>I would have completely not even registered. I would have

690
00:37:01.599 --> 00:37:04.000
<v Speaker 2>thought that it was like a secret code for like

691
00:37:04.079 --> 00:37:08.119
<v Speaker 2>bagels in the breakroom, but no, so code blue in

692
00:37:08.159 --> 00:37:13.079
<v Speaker 2>a hospital means that there's a cardiac arrest or someone

693
00:37:13.199 --> 00:37:16.599
<v Speaker 2>is flatlining, and so me and Jarrett and the nurse

694
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:19.480
<v Speaker 2>kind of went silent. I was sending the person good vibes,

695
00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:23.519
<v Speaker 2>and then like maybe a minute later, as this nurse

696
00:37:23.559 --> 00:37:26.639
<v Speaker 2>was adjusting my v the speaker's kind of crackled again,

697
00:37:26.679 --> 00:37:29.719
<v Speaker 2>announcing a cancelation of the blue code, and I asked

698
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<v Speaker 2>a nurse like if that was a good sign, like

699
00:37:31.840 --> 00:37:36.360
<v Speaker 2>if the person is okay, and she just stopped, and

700
00:37:36.440 --> 00:37:39.360
<v Speaker 2>she looked at Jarrett like should we tell her? And

701
00:37:39.440 --> 00:37:42.599
<v Speaker 2>I'm still hoping that it was a cancelation the person

702
00:37:42.679 --> 00:37:45.159
<v Speaker 2>was okay, So I made a wish that that person

703
00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:48.719
<v Speaker 2>just pulled through suddenly, and then I asked for drugs,

704
00:37:49.159 --> 00:37:52.119
<v Speaker 2>so the antithesiologist gave me something to calm the jitters,

705
00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:55.119
<v Speaker 2>and the nurses agreed it would kind of feel like

706
00:37:55.159 --> 00:38:00.679
<v Speaker 2>a margarita, and within milliseconds I could have committed karaoke

707
00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:05.039
<v Speaker 2>with no remorse. And then I remember being wheeled into

708
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<v Speaker 2>the oar and feeling like, you know when You're in

709
00:38:07.360 --> 00:38:10.239
<v Speaker 2>a restaurant. You're looking for the restroom, but you accidentally

710
00:38:10.280 --> 00:38:12.320
<v Speaker 2>just barge into the kitchen and you're like, WHOA, I

711
00:38:12.320 --> 00:38:15.039
<v Speaker 2>don't belong backstage like this. I shouldn't we see in

712
00:38:15.079 --> 00:38:18.679
<v Speaker 2>all this equipment and people. But in the oar, in

713
00:38:18.719 --> 00:38:21.400
<v Speaker 2>that fog, I realized, Hey, I'm the main course, just

714
00:38:21.400 --> 00:38:26.519
<v Speaker 2>surrounded by trays and napkins and little knives. These folks

715
00:38:26.559 --> 00:38:28.760
<v Speaker 2>are about to cook. So I remember getting on a table,

716
00:38:28.840 --> 00:38:31.079
<v Speaker 2>but then the next thing I know, I'm coming to

717
00:38:31.599 --> 00:38:35.320
<v Speaker 2>hours later in a recovery bed, and it feels like

718
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:39.280
<v Speaker 2>there is a tiny man trapped in the void of

719
00:38:39.960 --> 00:38:42.880
<v Speaker 2>my baby baker area and he's trying to get out

720
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<v Speaker 2>with a pickaxe, or like some sort of beaked animal

721
00:38:46.840 --> 00:38:49.559
<v Speaker 2>is trying to hatch out of my abdomen. And I

722
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<v Speaker 2>remember having no control of my face and frowning the

723
00:38:54.480 --> 00:38:58.159
<v Speaker 2>hardest I've ever frowned. I couldn't just wincing in paint,

724
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<v Speaker 2>And I asked Jared to take a picture of my

725
00:38:59.599 --> 00:39:02.559
<v Speaker 2>face for austerity and friends. I just saw it again

726
00:39:02.960 --> 00:39:05.320
<v Speaker 2>looking at the room pictures. I look like a sculpture

727
00:39:05.320 --> 00:39:08.800
<v Speaker 2>of myself made of white cheddar cheese that someone tried

728
00:39:08.840 --> 00:39:12.280
<v Speaker 2>to microwave like a little greasy. Every feature has succumbed

729
00:39:12.559 --> 00:39:15.119
<v Speaker 2>to the gravity of my pain. So they gave me

730
00:39:15.119 --> 00:39:17.039
<v Speaker 2>a little more painkiller, which took it from like an

731
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<v Speaker 2>eight on the pain scale to a reasonable three. So

732
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<v Speaker 2>the drugs worked again, but parts of my body did

733
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<v Speaker 2>not work. March first, four, ten pm, still in recovery.

734
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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to be recording this, but I'll be

735
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<v Speaker 2>glad that I did. Still in the recovery room, been

736
00:39:32.280 --> 00:39:35.360
<v Speaker 2>here for like four hours. My bladder refuses to cooperate.

737
00:39:35.480 --> 00:39:38.320
<v Speaker 2>It will not pee. It's not gonna pee, Like, what's

738
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<v Speaker 2>your problem? They say, it's asleep anyway. So I'm still here.

739
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<v Speaker 7>I'm groggy, but hating there.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, by so the nurses literally sent Jarrett to the

741
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<v Speaker 2>cafe to get me two coffees in a big water.

742
00:39:54.280 --> 00:39:57.840
<v Speaker 2>I drank it all. Finally happened at five pm. We

743
00:39:57.880 --> 00:40:00.039
<v Speaker 2>went home, five hours later than we were supposed to.

744
00:40:00.519 --> 00:40:03.360
<v Speaker 2>But I got posted up on the couch eating a

745
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<v Speaker 2>frozen otter pop thing, and I was really lucky to

746
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<v Speaker 2>have jareded to just fetch things at my women, get

747
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<v Speaker 2>me soup and stuff. And with the type of laparoscopy

748
00:40:13.239 --> 00:40:16.199
<v Speaker 2>through the abdomen, which I didn't have. Your muscles need

749
00:40:16.280 --> 00:40:20.920
<v Speaker 2>weeks to repair themselves, and like sitting up standing walking

750
00:40:21.199 --> 00:40:23.960
<v Speaker 2>is all from what I understand, somewhere between oh ouch

751
00:40:24.280 --> 00:40:27.559
<v Speaker 2>and why why was I born? Like hurt so bad?

752
00:40:27.719 --> 00:40:29.599
<v Speaker 2>I was lucky that I didn't have that I had

753
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<v Speaker 2>this newer v notes method and doctor Thomas later told

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<v Speaker 2>me that it was a good surgery and it was

755
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<v Speaker 2>fun vibes in ther which I like to hear. I

756
00:40:36.840 --> 00:40:38.840
<v Speaker 2>feel like I threw a good little party, even though

757
00:40:38.840 --> 00:40:42.639
<v Speaker 2>I was in hardcore stirrups and not much of a conversationalist.

758
00:40:42.719 --> 00:40:44.960
<v Speaker 2>But I'm glad I have pictures of it, like a

759
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<v Speaker 2>very goopy photo booth.

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<v Speaker 7>All right, twenty four hours out March second, ten am

761
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<v Speaker 7>yesterday was a bit painful at the end when I'm

762
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<v Speaker 7>home only and I have a brofen. The surgeon was

763
00:41:00.880 --> 00:41:03.840
<v Speaker 7>great and so far they didn't see any tumors or anything.

764
00:41:03.880 --> 00:41:05.400
<v Speaker 7>But they got to send it off to pathology and

765
00:41:05.440 --> 00:41:07.280
<v Speaker 7>they let me look at a picture of what my

766
00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:12.360
<v Speaker 7>disemboweled reproductive organs looked like, and it was horrifying. It

767
00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:15.280
<v Speaker 7>looked like a turn up made out of meat. It

768
00:41:15.400 --> 00:41:19.199
<v Speaker 7>was disgusting, but it's not mine anymore. It's funny to

769
00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:21.360
<v Speaker 7>think that it's in a freezer somewhere. I don't know

770
00:41:21.400 --> 00:41:23.840
<v Speaker 7>if they incinerated, but someone slicing it up like a

771
00:41:23.880 --> 00:41:25.960
<v Speaker 7>deli ham and they're going to take a peek at it.

772
00:41:26.039 --> 00:41:31.239
<v Speaker 7>So anyway, I'm doing one thousand percent better than I

773
00:41:31.280 --> 00:41:32.360
<v Speaker 7>thought I was going to be doing.

774
00:41:32.599 --> 00:41:35.599
<v Speaker 2>And I'm eaten a pediolyte otter pop on the couch.

775
00:41:36.519 --> 00:41:40.079
<v Speaker 2>Who so Yeah, a good several days on the couch, napping,

776
00:41:40.320 --> 00:41:43.199
<v Speaker 2>and I took the opiates for just a day, but

777
00:41:43.320 --> 00:41:45.920
<v Speaker 2>they made me feel a bit loopy. It was a

778
00:41:45.920 --> 00:41:47.960
<v Speaker 2>lot harder to cross stitch and tyl and all was

779
00:41:48.000 --> 00:41:50.719
<v Speaker 2>working fine. Pain was honestly about like a two or

780
00:41:50.760 --> 00:41:53.159
<v Speaker 2>three out of ten once I got home from the hospital,

781
00:41:53.280 --> 00:41:57.159
<v Speaker 2>which was amazing. But the hardest part was knowing that

782
00:41:57.239 --> 00:42:00.199
<v Speaker 2>I had to wait a whole week for the pathology report.

783
00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:03.639
<v Speaker 2>Just not sure what they found. But yeah, just at

784
00:42:03.639 --> 00:42:05.599
<v Speaker 2>this point, just a few days on the couch went by,

785
00:42:05.960 --> 00:42:08.760
<v Speaker 2>and then got a surprise. I pressed record on the

786
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<v Speaker 2>voice notes app.

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<v Speaker 7>All right, seven point thirty seven on March the fourth.

788
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<v Speaker 5>It's a Monday.

789
00:42:15.239 --> 00:42:17.920
<v Speaker 7>I'm three days out from the surgery, and I thought

790
00:42:17.960 --> 00:42:20.199
<v Speaker 7>i'd been way more pain, but I'm doing pretty well.

791
00:42:20.599 --> 00:42:23.000
<v Speaker 7>I'm on ibprofen tail and all.

792
00:42:23.360 --> 00:42:24.639
<v Speaker 2>I went to the movies, I.

793
00:42:24.599 --> 00:42:28.599
<v Speaker 7>Did some walking around and didn't expect to get pathology

794
00:42:28.639 --> 00:42:31.039
<v Speaker 7>reports for another week, they told me. And then I

795
00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:36.480
<v Speaker 7>on the way home from seeing Dune two, I opened

796
00:42:36.559 --> 00:42:39.960
<v Speaker 7>up my email and saw the pathology reports were in

797
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:42.119
<v Speaker 7>and they are clear and I do not have cancer.

798
00:42:42.400 --> 00:42:45.000
<v Speaker 2>And car has some to say about that.

799
00:42:45.440 --> 00:42:46.159
<v Speaker 5>Very excited.

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00:42:50.400 --> 00:42:53.719
<v Speaker 7>I don't have cancer. It's really good news, and I

801
00:42:53.800 --> 00:42:58.559
<v Speaker 7>feel elated, and also like I'm still holding on my breath, like,

802
00:42:58.599 --> 00:43:00.679
<v Speaker 7>so is there something else bad I should know about?

803
00:43:00.679 --> 00:43:04.960
<v Speaker 7>But that's just anxiety talking. And I am really glad

804
00:43:04.960 --> 00:43:06.559
<v Speaker 7>that I got it taken out so that I don't

805
00:43:06.559 --> 00:43:08.280
<v Speaker 7>have to worry about it being a taking time bomb

806
00:43:08.800 --> 00:43:13.840
<v Speaker 7>in my crotch as it has been. And it's bonkers,

807
00:43:13.880 --> 00:43:17.880
<v Speaker 7>and we're going to go get some pasta. And now

808
00:43:18.239 --> 00:43:19.519
<v Speaker 7>now I got to figure out what I'm going to

809
00:43:19.559 --> 00:43:20.960
<v Speaker 7>do with the rest of my life, since it's not

810
00:43:21.079 --> 00:43:22.800
<v Speaker 7>going to be as short as I thought it might be,

811
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<v Speaker 7>at least I mean, I could get killed tomorrow, but

812
00:43:24.960 --> 00:43:25.639
<v Speaker 7>you know what I mean.

813
00:43:25.880 --> 00:43:29.920
<v Speaker 2>Anything can happen to anyone at any time, so very earnestly.

814
00:43:30.320 --> 00:43:33.239
<v Speaker 2>Let's try our best to be grateful for what we're

815
00:43:33.239 --> 00:43:37.400
<v Speaker 2>working with. And I'm so grateful for health insurance. I'm

816
00:43:37.480 --> 00:43:40.239
<v Speaker 2>lucky I have it because this whole shebang would have

817
00:43:40.320 --> 00:43:43.480
<v Speaker 2>easily cost me twenty thousand dollars out of pocket, absolutely

818
00:43:43.480 --> 00:43:48.000
<v Speaker 2>inaccessible without health insurance, which is horrifying. But yeah, I

819
00:43:48.039 --> 00:43:51.440
<v Speaker 2>got the email. I screamed a little, I cried. I

820
00:43:51.519 --> 00:43:54.000
<v Speaker 2>let my friends and family know. My mom sent me

821
00:43:54.000 --> 00:43:55.639
<v Speaker 2>a picture of her, my sister Janelle, and my brother

822
00:43:55.639 --> 00:43:59.239
<v Speaker 2>in law Steve eating a tiny ice cream cone to celebrate.

823
00:43:59.400 --> 00:44:02.159
<v Speaker 2>And if you we've listened to the episodes of taking

824
00:44:02.199 --> 00:44:03.760
<v Speaker 2>care of my late father, you know that it's our

825
00:44:03.800 --> 00:44:06.159
<v Speaker 2>family's little toast to him as well. So they ate

826
00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:09.360
<v Speaker 2>those for me that night, and I cried looking at

827
00:44:09.360 --> 00:44:12.800
<v Speaker 2>the pictures. So yeah, life, life is not perfect. It

828
00:44:12.840 --> 00:44:16.679
<v Speaker 2>never will be. Sometimes things hurt a lot. Sometimes you

829
00:44:16.719 --> 00:44:20.679
<v Speaker 2>don't see things coming. Sometimes you do and then they

830
00:44:21.159 --> 00:44:23.519
<v Speaker 2>veer and they spare you at the last second. And

831
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<v Speaker 2>this time I feel really lucky. I got I'm getting

832
00:44:27.480 --> 00:44:29.000
<v Speaker 2>a little more time than I thought.

833
00:44:29.239 --> 00:44:31.199
<v Speaker 3>It's time to live life a little bit.

834
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<v Speaker 8>We're limits and it's best.

835
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<v Speaker 5>It's this is exciting it's so very exciting. I love you.

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<v Speaker 4>I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>It's weird, it's good.

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<v Speaker 2>So thanks for listening this far. Thank you to everyone

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<v Speaker 2>who thought of me on the first It meant a

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<v Speaker 2>lot to me. This is the scariest thing I think

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<v Speaker 2>I've ever been through. I feel very lucky that we

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<v Speaker 2>caught anything before it turned into something worse. So ask

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<v Speaker 2>smart doctors, not smart questions, and if you need a

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<v Speaker 2>second opinion, and get it. It might save your life.

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<v Speaker 2>On a follow up call with doctor Thomas, she let

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<v Speaker 2>me know that with the condition I had and some

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<v Speaker 2>cell abnormalities, it could have later developed into something cancer.

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<v Speaker 2>So here's to what I'm very lucky to consider a success.

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<v Speaker 2>So I hope this right along. I know it is

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of info, too much info, but I hope

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<v Speaker 2>it was informative enough so that if you know someone

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<v Speaker 2>going through a health issue, any health issue, or one

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<v Speaker 2>like this, I hope this gives you some ideas on

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<v Speaker 2>how to support them, or maybe for you, how to

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<v Speaker 2>ask for support, or how to take care of yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>or how to try to stay calm and optimistic until

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<v Speaker 2>you get all the facts, or maybe you or someone

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<v Speaker 2>you know is getting this actual procedure for gender affirming

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<v Speaker 2>care or endometriosis or another reason. And now you know

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<v Speaker 2>more about it if you don't have this anatomy, but

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<v Speaker 2>if you vote in any country others, reproductive health is

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<v Speaker 2>on the line, so you'll better educate yourselves in those matters,

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<v Speaker 2>how things work, so you know how much it matters.

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<v Speaker 2>And a new study came out recently the cancer's on

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<v Speaker 2>the right and young adults, So monitor your health, don't

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<v Speaker 2>ignore funky stuff, and just know that the sooner you

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<v Speaker 2>get it checked out, the easier and potentially the cheaper

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to be. And the fact that I live

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<v Speaker 2>in a country where so many people don't have access

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<v Speaker 2>to healthcare is cutting to me. No pun intended since

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<v Speaker 2>they did take my guts out, but again, vote like

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<v Speaker 2>someone else's life depended on it. Special thanks as always

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<v Speaker 2>to Aaron Talbert who addman Theologies podcast Facebook group with

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<v Speaker 2>assist from Bonnie Dutch and Shinnefeltis. Thank you for their

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<v Speaker 2>support too. Our scheduling producer and care package angel is

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<v Speaker 2>Noel Dilworth. Susan Hale so supportive and is also our

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<v Speaker 2>managing director. Kelly ar Dwyer makes the website Aveline Malick

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<v Speaker 2>makes the transcripts, and of course our lead editor and

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<v Speaker 2>mpath is the lovely Mercedes Maitland of Maitland Audio. Thank

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<v Speaker 2>you to the whole team for busting out some encores

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<v Speaker 2>as I recovered, and thank you to doctor Carris Anna

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<v Speaker 2>Maria for all the advice, Lazette, Sarah, Crystal, Catherine, Dayalon,

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<v Speaker 2>Noel Susan for having cake. And farewells to Mike, go

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<v Speaker 2>Nads and.

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<v Speaker 6>Mackenzie for the dinner and all the supportive check in

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<v Speaker 6>texts to my mom sisters and of course your pod

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<v Speaker 6>mother Jared Sleeper for taking such good care of me

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<v Speaker 6>during this time and always again his mom's company, Rosewood

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<v Speaker 6>woman who hal loves that stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, if you stick around to hear a secret. First off,

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<v Speaker 2>this whole episode is just a sloshing bucket of TMI.

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<v Speaker 2>So how are you thirsty still? But I will tell you.

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<v Speaker 2>As I was in recovery, drinking the cafeteria coffee and

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<v Speaker 2>water and just begging myself to pete so that I

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<v Speaker 2>could go home, one nurse and Jarrett got on either

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<v Speaker 2>side of me and walked me to the bathroom. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like doubled over and On our way there, we passed

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<v Speaker 2>the nurses station, where their tones seemed to suggest they

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<v Speaker 2>were gossiping about like probably another nurse, and one of

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<v Speaker 2>them went her back to we said what is wrong

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<v Speaker 2>with her? And I had the rare opportunity to say

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<v Speaker 2>I just had a hysterect to me, and then they

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<v Speaker 2>all fell silent for like one tense moment, and I

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<v Speaker 2>got to go aha, and it was a good time.

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<v Speaker 2>I scared him, but we all had a happy little

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<v Speaker 2>chuckle about it. Also, if you think of it, it's

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<v Speaker 2>nice to bring a little tree, like some cookies or

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<v Speaker 2>a fruit basket or something for the staff taking care

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<v Speaker 2>of you.

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<v Speaker 4>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>Heads up. Jare brought him cookies, which was good since

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<v Speaker 2>we were there five hours later than we were supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to go. Anyway, thank you for listening this far. It

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<v Speaker 2>means a lot to me. I'm glad we all know

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<v Speaker 2>what happened during my planned abdominal surgery and I'm back

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<v Speaker 2>doing my best. Take care of yourself, Okay, byebye.

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<v Speaker 10>Pacadermatology, homeiology, ry doo zoology, lithology, yeah, technology, meteorology, ptology, anthology, ceriology, selenology.

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<v Speaker 5>You won't be needing that anymore.