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Speaker 1: Time to make a love connection in Newington. This morning,

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Marissa's on the line a second date update. She went

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on a great first date and now she's getting ghosted.

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She wants answers.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get Yeah, good morning, Marissa, hie, Hey,

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how are you?

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Speaker 3: But I'm okay?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So you got to tell us about this great

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first date you went on. I know the guy's name

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is Cole. What did you do? How did it go?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we went to dinner.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 3: I thought we had a really good time.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 3: Conversation was really good and I really want the same

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things out of life, and I felt like we both

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were very obviously attracted to one another. Okay, And now

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I'm just kind of thrown for a loop because I

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think I'm getting ghosted.

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Speaker 2: Did you reach out to him, like call or text

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after the date?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I wanted to wait a respectable like I

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didn't want to I didn't want to reach out first,

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so I tried to wait like a day or so.

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But yeah, I reached out, and now I'm getting.

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Speaker 2: Nothing that seems a little odd.

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Speaker 4: Could be like the heat and humidity sometimes, what do

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you mean? Sometimes guys just get lazy during the dog

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days of summer, and it's just one of those things

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where we just don't want to get off the couch.

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Speaker 1: They're always lazy, Marissa. So it's completely ghosted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I I think I texted him twice,

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but I don't want to texted.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you keep texting, then he's gonna think you're

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like crazy, like you're a safe.

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Speaker 2: Five clinger, right, a stalker.

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Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna call him up. Let's just jump right,

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and we're gonna call him up. I'm gonna ask him

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how to be honest and tell us how he thought

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the date went. And at any point, if you want

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to talk to Cole, you can jump in. Okay, okay,

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something's something's kookie.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Dude's scary easily, they're kind of like birds.

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Speaker 1: She didn't give us a lot of information, like were

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their cocktails? Did you get drunk? Like, you know, Hello,

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Hi is Cole there?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this is hey Cole.

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Speaker 2: It's Courtney Cole, It's Walmart Jeff. Hey Cole, it's Savannah

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and we're calling. You're on the radio. You're on something

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called Second Date Update this morning call what All right?

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So we do this.

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Speaker 1: Feature on the radio where if you go on a

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first date, it's fabulous, but you get ghosted after.

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Speaker 2: That and you never get a second date.

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Speaker 1: We try to get the answers, and so that's why

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we're calling you.

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Speaker 5: All right, So okay, here's the deal.

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Speaker 1: We just want you to be honest, just upfront, honest.

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Speaker 2: Marissa called us.

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Speaker 1: She said, you get you guys, went on a great

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first date. You have a lot in common. You want

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the same things out of life. She says, she texted

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you twice. She waited a day or two I think, yeah,

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after the date, which is respectable. Yeah, and she sent

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two text messages, but you have not responded.

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Speaker 2: Is there a reason? Can you tell us how the

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date was for you?

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Speaker 5: Okay? So yeah, I mean to be honest, like she is.

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She's a great person, like I liked her a lot

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and everything. But we had a good date. But the

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thing is is like she has three kids and she

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didn't mention it, like at all. I don't know what

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kind of mother doesn't mention her kids like that to

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me is like, and I don't want kids, so I

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don't know. It was It's like I think you really

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should mention your kids. Like first thing, I'm not sure

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about that, Like, what kind of mother doesn't mention her kids?

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Was it?

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Speaker 2: Did you guys meet on a dating app?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Because I feel like that's like a big thing to

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leave out.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and she did? She Okay, so it wasn't on

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her bioacis sorry. I was like got to throw I

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was thrown off by this whole You know that she

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didn't mention it at all in her bio.

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Speaker 2: Okay, but you know, let's just bring Marissa in.

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Speaker 1: Marissa, apparently you didn't mention you had three kids on

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your bio and Cole's offended by that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Hi, Cole, Hey, well I.

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Speaker 2: Forgot to tell you, Cole. Marissa is also on the line.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what you mean by that. What kind

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of mother doesn't mention her kids? I don't know what

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you're buying by that, But a great mother, a great

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mother who's protecting her three kids. I don't think I

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need to tell every single person, but.

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Speaker 2: But I that's the point one.

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Speaker 3: Message with that I have kids. I think that I

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should save that for somebody that I'm serious about dating.

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I don't think there's anybody's business that I have kids

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or three kids. Okay, thank you very much, and I

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I was really serious about seeing you again. I thought

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you were too, And so I don't really I don't

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really know what you mean by that. Honestly, I think

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it's offensive, Okay, Cale, Is.

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Speaker 2: It like deeper?

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Speaker 1: Is it more deep for you that, like you don't

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want children, and so you're on a dating app and

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your your preference is somebody without children need to want children.

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And you didn't know that she had kids because she

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left it off her profile.

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Speaker 5: I mean that's part of it. But also like, okay,

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if you have three kids, that's a huge part of

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your life. This isn't like having a dog or something.

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This is valid. You know, this is a huge part

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of your life. Like how can you not say that immediately?

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Because if I knew that, I wouldn't have swiped right

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now begin with.

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Speaker 6: You know, I have to agree. I think with something

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like kids, like Cole's right, that is a really big,

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like lifestyle change.

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Speaker 2: Not everybody might be cool with that.

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Speaker 6: So I think it is something you might want to

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include on your profile, Marissa. But I don't think that

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makes you like a like a bad mom or like

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what kind of mom?

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Speaker 2: Like I don't think that makes you a bad mom.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. I honestly was just trying to be a

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great mom and do what was best for my kids,

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and that's clearly not having coal in their life. So thanks.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so so you got your answer, Marissa, there's your

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answer why you got ghosted. I completely understand a little

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bit of both sides here. I usually offer to pay

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for a second date, but in this case, because Cole

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is upfront saying he doesn't want kids, that was like

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in his bio, and you have three, I do not

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believe it's a match and worth the second date anyway.

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Speaker 2: Do you guys agree?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? For sure.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm not interested.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, all right, well listen, I appreciate you being

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honest with us, Cole, and I'm glad you got your answers.

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Speaker 2: USA. You know the I know you.

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Speaker 1: Want to protect your kids, But an easy way to

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get back out there and date and find somebody who

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wants to you know, wants children or likes to be

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around children, is to add it in your bio.

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Speaker 4: I would think this coming from the woman who is

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having a hard time navigating Hinge. By the way, this

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is just ye, Marissa, you shouldn't be taking any sort

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of dating app advice from Courtney, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 6: That actually isn't bad advice though, Like, in no fairness

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to Courtney, you know it.

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Speaker 1: Don't take any advice from me, But I wish you

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both well, okay, and I'm glad we got the answers.

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Speaker 3: Thank you guys,