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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and goalagiving. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul Fellavaliedo.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's episode four sixty seven. Today we're going to focus

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<v Speaker 1>on something that quietly defines your leadership reputation. The words

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<v Speaker 1>that you use. Every sentence you say as a leader

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<v Speaker 1>either empowers your team or creates toxicity. And the kicker

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<v Speaker 1>is most leaders don't even realize they're doing it. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a great visual that I came across recently that compares

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<v Speaker 1>the language of toxic leaders versus empowering leaders. The difference

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<v Speaker 1>is subtle, but the impact is massive. So let's break

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<v Speaker 1>this down in a real simple way and give you

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<v Speaker 1>a few tools you can start using today. Let's start

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<v Speaker 1>with the toxic side. Here are some common phrases that

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<v Speaker 1>toxic leaders use. Please don't challenge me like that in meetings.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just do it myself. It's faster. That's not how

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<v Speaker 1>I would have done it. You should start on this immediately.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me take a look first before you send it. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>read those again in your head. They might sound like

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<v Speaker 1>a boss trying to stay in control or keep things

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<v Speaker 1>running smoothly, but what they're really saying is I don't

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<v Speaker 1>trust you, I don't believe you're ready, and my way

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<v Speaker 1>is better than your way. This is how you accidentally

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<v Speaker 1>destroy initiative. This is how you kill creativity. This is

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<v Speaker 1>how people stop bringing you ideas. Now let's flip it

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<v Speaker 1>to the empowering side. Listen to how these same situations

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<v Speaker 1>are handled differently. Instead of don't challenge me, say thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for raising that your input made it stronger. Instead of

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just do it, say this is a great chance

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<v Speaker 1>for you to lead. Instead of that's not how I

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<v Speaker 1>would have done it, say I'm glad you tried that.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you learn? Instead of you should start immediately,

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<v Speaker 1>say here's the deadline you can prioritize as needed. And

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<v Speaker 1>instead of let me take a look first, say I

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<v Speaker 1>trust your judgment, Go ahead and send it. See the difference.

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<v Speaker 1>One set of phrases tells people they're replaceable. The other

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<v Speaker 1>tells them they're responsible, valued and trusted. So let's go deeper.

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<v Speaker 1>Why does this matter? Because your words are your culture,

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<v Speaker 1>the tone you set in your emails, your team meetings,

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<v Speaker 1>your quick hallway conversations. They become the environment your people

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<v Speaker 1>either want to stay in or run from. And look,

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<v Speaker 1>leadership isn't about being soft, it's about being smart. There's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing weak about empowering language. In fact, it takes more

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<v Speaker 1>strength to say you've got flexibility, work how it works

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<v Speaker 1>for you than to micromanage someone's schedule. This kind of

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<v Speaker 1>language builds a leadership brand where people take ownership. They

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<v Speaker 1>don't wait for you to make decisions. They act, they

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<v Speaker 1>speak up, they grow, and isn't that what every leader

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<v Speaker 1>wants anyway? So here's the challenge over the next forty

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<v Speaker 1>eight hours. I want you to monitor your own language.

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<v Speaker 1>Just listen to the things you say or type and

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<v Speaker 1>ask yourself, is this building someone up or tightening the leash?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I leading or just controlling? You don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>change everything overnight. Start with just one toxic phrase that

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<v Speaker 1>you notice you say too often. Replace it with an

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<v Speaker 1>empowering version and test it and watch what happens, Watch

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<v Speaker 1>how people react differently. You'll see it and once you do,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll never go back to the old way ever again.

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<v Speaker 1>So a quick recap before we wrap up. Here's five

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<v Speaker 1>empowering swaps to keep your leadership toolkit sharp and ready.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for raising that. Instead of don't challenge me, this

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<v Speaker 1>is your chance to lead. Instead of I'll do it myself.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you learn? Instead of that's not how I

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<v Speaker 1>would do it. Here's the deadline. Prioritize is needed instead

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<v Speaker 1>of start now, go ahead and send it instead of

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<v Speaker 1>let me check first. They're small changes, but they lead

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<v Speaker 1>to big trust. This has been the seven minute Leadership Podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thank you for listening. For more Paul fell

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<v Speaker 1>of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot com