Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of the Chicks on the Right
podcast where we talk to our friend and sponsor of
the show, Zach Abraham from Bulwark Capital Management. This we
have a producer who is just so awesome at trolling
on Reddit to find great content, and she has done
it again this week. I'm actually going to read the
story just because there's no way I can summarize it
better than she has, and then we will discuss. Okay,
because this was a topic on Reddit and it was
one of those am I the asshole kind of posts? Right,
So it's a viral Reddit post from the weekend. It's
sparked debate over who should pick up the tab when
it comes to group dinners, especially for big family celebrations.
So in this case, one sister just unilaterally decided that
she and her other sister, without warning, we're going to
split the tab for a very expensive Mother's Day dinner
for eleven people. The problem is that the sister that
didn't the other sister did not know this was coming.
The poor sister, right right, no idea, This was just
sprung on her. Like at the dinner, she makes way
less than the other sister. That was just like shure
what's her face? And I have it, and now she
is being called ungrateful by the first sister for refusing
to pay, and the internet is completely divided, which I
find insane because I feel like this is an obvious.
Speaker 2: We have thoughts, tell us yours, Yeah, Carrious, what you
think first?
Speaker 3: So I'm I'm a bit confused, right because all I
see all over these social media and TikTok videos. I'm
not a TikTok guy myself, but you know they pop
up on Twitter everyone in one right, Right, all I
see is talking about I won't date a man unless
he's six foot tall and he needs to pay for everything.
Right now, all of a sudden, somebody else paying for
you is like a problem, I would say. I would
say it sounds like there are two conservative sisters and
one liberal sister. That's what it sounds like to me.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, there's just two sisters total.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, soevative conservative.
Speaker 2: So you think so you think that the conservative sister
is the one that's like, you need to pay your
fair share? Or do you think that the conservative one
is like the poorer one of the two?
Speaker 3: Wait, okay, hold on, so I thought, can now let
me let me just ask for some quick clarification here,
because I thought two sisters agreed to split the teen.
Speaker 2: They did not agree.
Speaker 1: They did not agree. They never talked about it until
the tab came.
Speaker 3: And then she teared her sister. Okay, that's messed up.
That's messed up. That's totally that's totally messed up. If
you're gonna volunteer, you volunteer yourself, right, I don't volunteer
somebody else. That is tone deaf. Yeah, and that instinct because.
Speaker 2: Can you imagine if you're like a super swanky place
and the bill is like a thout because they give
a lot of these places now are so expensive food wise,
and so if you get eleven people, that bill could.
Speaker 1: Be like a thousand dollars.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I and your sister.
Speaker 2: I could see my sister who looking at me, going,
you're gonna pay per half this?
Speaker 1: I'd be like the hell life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no ie, And I I hate I hated
when things like that happened, you know, just be I
hated those snearies. I remember, I promised myself that if
I was ever fortunate enough to be in a position
like that where I could cover the bill, I would
just do it and you know what I mean, and
not embarrass other people and put them on this spot
and be a blessing not a you know what I mean, Like, yeah, yeah,
I and I do. I do enjoy that. I I personally,
I just you know, usually you go out to these
dinners and you're with friends and family people that have
you know, been such an integral part of your life
and why you're there and all that kind of stuff.
And I love I just I love picking up a
tap you know, Yeah, it's fun. It's a funny.
Speaker 2: Do you ever get to the point though, like have
you ever I don't know if you've ever experienced this
or not that where if you do that a lot,
people start they start expecting it, and then you're like, okay,
now I'm like doing this a lot. So like people
are people aren't even like going and even faking to
go for the check.
Speaker 3: You know, alligator it it's alligator arms, right, They just can't.
I couldn't reach cramp the t rex. Everybody. Yeah, just
everybody instantly becomes like their upper you know days have
like their arms no longer work paralysis saying yeah, you know,
I I there's been there's been a couple of times
that I can remember something like that. But it's funny
because I was talking to my I was talking to
one of my buddies, one of my best friends from college,
and he's like, you know, you don't really have many
new people around you. And I go, what do you mean?
And he goes, just, you know, like you usually, you know,
business grows, and you know you're these different you make
new friends. And I said to him, I go, you know,
I don't. I don't want to sound like a jerk,
but I don't really want new friends, you know, so
I don't you know, I'm a quality time guy. And
and and if I add you to the shelf, something
else has to fall off, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: We are so the same, and and do I would
I ideally like I'll meet these people and I'm like,
wonderful people.
Speaker 3: I'd love to hang out with them, but guess what
this calendar is full.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like and then you and and you, you guys can
probably relate to. There's this time all of a sudden
where you know, I made a I made a habit
out of saying yes for a whole variety of reasons. Right,
saying yes, and then all of a sudden, for whatever reason,
you know, kids, family, business, all that kind of stuff
in you interact come together and you have to learn
how to start saying no, you know what I mean,
for your sanity, yeah, and for the benefit of the
people around you that are relying on you, because you
might be doing a really good thing for that person,
but you not spending that time with your son or
your daughter, you know, and that's all they see.
Speaker 2: You're not there, right Yeah, speaking of sons and daughters,
I will say when it comes to picking up the check,
like you guys haven't gotten there yet. But I have
older kids. I've got a thirty five year old and
a thirty year old, and it is a pretty cool
moment when you're older kids. When you're out to eat,
your older kids are like, I got this, mom, and pops,
I got this, Like I'm gonna pick it up, and
you're like, okay, oh my god.
Speaker 1: Like the older kids and picking up you know my
parents' tap.
Speaker 2: Yes, doing that for your parents. And then when you
see your kids doing it for you, and not all
the time, because we don't want them ever to do
that all the time, but every once in a while,
they'll you know, they try and we'll let them because
I know how that feels when I do it for
my parents, and it's such a wonderful it's a wonderful thing.
And I know that they feel that too, and that
is like, you know that you've won when they do that,
you know the win.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, if I'll probably if the first time one
of my kids does if one of my kids does it,
I'll bust out crying. I'll probably be just a mess. Yeah,
your kids getting it? What are the kids getting a divorce?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 3: They bought my dinner?
Speaker 2: I know. It's a really cool thing. It is, You're like,
look at them.
Speaker 1: We grow.
Speaker 3: It'll also be confirmation they don't hate you too. It's true.
Speaker 2: They want to be around you, they want to spend
time with you. They want to pick up your dinner tab.
You know.
Speaker 1: It's really just expecting the hand out every single time.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yeah, I've got a I got a fourteen
year old daughter freshman in high school and she and
I are really tight. We just went out for dinner
this last Monday night together and uh, but we're going
through high school stuff for the first time. Yeah, and
I my wife and I were not in denial about this, like,
you know, we came in going, yeah, she's a high
school like our kids aren't perfect, Like you know, what're
those kind of parents very like whose kids are that?
And I'm like, probably mine, you know what I mean?
Probably mine, maybe not, probably probably yeah. And if not,
they're involved, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they were by they're accomplices.
Speaker 3: It always kind of catches me off guard. Two third
parents are like, not my child, and I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, wow, because I I'll fully admit it.
Speaker 3: Right yeah, I mean look, they're like, did your kid
do it? And I'm like, that's all he did? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You should have seen me when I was that age. Yeah,
we we call this a good day in the age,
you know, but uh but no, it's it's so we
we went in full eyes, wide open. But I got
one of these the other day and I'm sure you guys, dad,
I know what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: Fourteen. Yeah, it's just because I know everything.
Speaker 2: It's just you get more of that and more of that.
I think the age for girls between the ages of
fourteen and twenty five, you're going to hear that a lot.
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I don't want to put my daughter on blast. But
we have a disagreement. We have a disagreement about a
certain friend she's around, and she gave me the she
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and I've asked God to not have that person in
my life if he doesn't think they're good for me.
And I said, do her. I go, well, honey, this
is God telling you that right now. Just consider itself
coming down and saying yeah, they're gone.
Speaker 2: And sometimes you set to pull yourself out. It's not
that other person being taken up by like lightning or something. Yes, yes, yourself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was. It was like an ultimate parenting moment
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Speaker 2: I always tell my daughter, you are who your friends are.
It's like you are either going to be elevated or
you're going to be like dragged down into loserdom by
your friends. So pick true, Honey. You just got to
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