Speaker 1: Oh way, it's your sloppy baby, Ali Ward. This is
Speaker 1: not a normal episode at all. So if this is
Speaker 1: your first episode of oologies, if someone over the holidays,
Speaker 1: it's like, usually this is not the one to start with,
Speaker 1: to just go away, save yourself. Actually, I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe stick around. So typically it's an interview with an oologist,
Speaker 1: but this one is just me and I'm going to
Speaker 1: be telling you secrets and giving you some life tips
Speaker 1: and doing an AMA that patrons submitted questions for. So
Speaker 1: it's the week in between the holidays and New Year.
Speaker 1: Everything's slow, Flights are grounded, there's blizzards, but you still
Speaker 1: have to go to your job, probably unless you've got
Speaker 1: a two full weeks off. So I wanted to give
Speaker 1: you just a little something, just a little comfort.
Speaker 2: Hangout, just you and me. We're just hanging out.
Speaker 1: We're just shooting shits, you know. Also, if you haven't
Speaker 1: listened to the P twenty two episode or the meteorology episode,
Speaker 1: they are both absolute certified bangers.
Speaker 2: Please go enjoy them, especially.
Speaker 3: P twenty two.
Speaker 1: We work so hard on and meteorology will explain so
Speaker 1: much about what's happening blizzard wise, So get up in
Speaker 1: them if you're looking for some just typical ologies content,
Speaker 1: so do not sleep on those if you haven't heard
Speaker 1: them because of the holidays. But this one, I just figured,
Speaker 1: let's tell some secrets. Let me share some of my
Speaker 1: life tips that have gotten me through. This year hasn't
Speaker 1: been the easiest year, but look at me. I'm here
Speaker 1: and I'm wearing clean socks and we're gonna have fun.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Also, after the break, we'll do an ama with questions
Speaker 1: from patrons. Okay, let's do the theme song here we go.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Also for those who don't know, do you know that
Speaker 1: that theme song was done by Nick Thorburn And he
Speaker 1: also did the theme song for a little podcast called
Speaker 1: Cereal But he lived in my neighborhood and we were pals,
Speaker 1: and he did that one for Ologies. He's also in
Speaker 1: a band called Islands. In case you're looking for more
Speaker 1: music to shake your lower half to or your upper
Speaker 1: So let's start with a secret, shall we. Let's do
Speaker 1: a secret. Some of you might not know that I
Speaker 1: dye my hair. I'm not a natural redhead at all,
Speaker 1: and people sometimes call me a redhead and I just
Speaker 1: let them. But I have brown hair, and then I
Speaker 1: died at blue black during my goth phase, and then
Speaker 1: I went to go get it stripped and turned back
Speaker 1: to brown at some point, and the hairstylist kind of
Speaker 1: gave me like a calico cat look where it all
Speaker 1: just a patchwork quilt of hues, and I was like,
Speaker 1: this looks great, and I think he was so excited.
Speaker 2: I wasn't going to sue him, and he.
Speaker 1: Was like, are you okay with these patches? And I
Speaker 1: was like, I think it looks cool. It's kind of reddish.
Speaker 2: I like it.
Speaker 1: And then I've been a redhead ever since, and I
Speaker 1: dye my hair myself. I've had a diet in a
Speaker 1: salon a few times, but it always turns purple and
Speaker 1: it takes like two hours, so I just do it myself.
Speaker 1: I think I use bright auburn by like a lour anyway,
Speaker 1: I just use box color, or I go to to
Speaker 1: a beauty sply Star, not that you asked, but I'm
Speaker 1: not a natural redhead. My hair also grows in gray,
Speaker 1: and I use this spray stuff on my roots when
Speaker 1: I have a shoot and I don't want to dyet.
Speaker 2: And once I was doing.
Speaker 1: A shoot and this producer was like, I didn't realize
Speaker 1: it you have so many freckles, And I was like,
Speaker 1: h And I looked in the mirror later and I
Speaker 1: realized that because I don't have freckles, I realized that
Speaker 1: the spray stuff for my roots, which is a nice
Speaker 1: little auburn color, was just all over one side in
Speaker 1: my face, and I just had spreckles on one side.
Speaker 1: So if you need fake spreckles, get some root touch
Speaker 1: up in an auburn color and just have at it.
Speaker 1: It is hard to get off, which is great. So
Speaker 1: that's one secret. Another secret is I have not sent
Speaker 1: my thank you cards from my wedding, and it was
Speaker 1: one point five years ago, and I don't know what
Speaker 1: to do if you gotta.
Speaker 2: If you got a.
Speaker 1: Thank you card, what is that eighteen months later? Would
Speaker 1: you be more pissed? Would you be like, I didn't
Speaker 1: realize you hadn't sent this. But I will say, to
Speaker 1: be fair, we asked people not to get us gifts.
Speaker 1: We were like, don't get us gifts. You know, we
Speaker 1: have all the forks we need and just come get
Speaker 1: yourself here. And we did start a travel fund though
Speaker 1: for a couple people that were coming in that travel
Speaker 1: costs were expensive for them, and then we just dispersed that.
Speaker 1: So we did a travel fund for other guests, and
Speaker 1: a few people donated to that. But I know that,
Speaker 1: I know I owe thank you cards. And then of
Speaker 1: course there's like an you know, like a wonderful aunt
Speaker 1: that's like I want you to have this like awesome castrole,
Speaker 1: dish and stuff. So I do owe people thank you cards.
Speaker 1: Don't get it twisted, but I printed out a spreadsheet
Speaker 1: of the addresses and the formatting was so tiny, and
Speaker 1: I've just been hung up on a.
Speaker 2: Spreadsheet for a year and a half. Why you like this?
Speaker 1: If you're wondering how this happens, you can listen to
Speaker 1: the ADHD episode. So I gotta get on that. That's
Speaker 1: my new Year's resolution. Also, you know what's fun to do.
Speaker 1: I'm not a person that sends out holiday cards because
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone wants just a picture of me
Speaker 1: on the refrigerator. But Valentine's cards, that is where it
Speaker 1: is at. Everyone's got their trees, are all on the curb,
Speaker 1: holiday cheers at a low, low low things are slushy out.
Speaker 1: You send someone a Valentine's card just thinking of you.
Speaker 1: This is what I love about you. I appreciate you.
Speaker 1: Fuck You're gonna make some days. You know, you got
Speaker 1: a widowed aunt, you got a friend who's sings, you
Speaker 1: got a married couple. Maybe that's the best Valentine they're
Speaker 1: going to get that year. You don't know anyway, so
Speaker 1: think on that. It's also just like a nice thing
Speaker 1: to go go to a cafe and just you're probably
Speaker 1: gonna cry when you write them. I usually if I
Speaker 1: write Valentine's which I haven't done the last couple of
Speaker 1: years because things have been bonkers, I cry just writing them.
Speaker 1: And even if you put them right in a garbage can,
Speaker 1: it'll do your heart some good. Let's do one more secret.
Speaker 1: My dad passed away in July from a cancer called
Speaker 1: multiple myeloma. If you have been listening for a long
Speaker 1: time and you know that this last year I've done
Speaker 1: a few more encores than usual and such thank you
Speaker 1: for your patients with it. Because he was on hospice
Speaker 1: and my husband, Jared and I moved into my sister's
Speaker 1: house and he slept on a mattress in her hallway
Speaker 1: for for four or five months taking care of him,
Speaker 1: and it was the best time I've ever spent I
Speaker 1: wasn't like the best time, like a trip to Cancun,
Speaker 1: but it was the most valuable time I could have spent,
Speaker 1: just the time that I got with him and also
Speaker 1: my fam It was like so many thanksgivings all wrapped
Speaker 1: into one. It just happened that one person was dying,
Speaker 1: which wasn't good, but it was so good to be
Speaker 1: able to spend time with him.
Speaker 2: And I'm doing okay. I thought i'd be a bigger wreck.
Speaker 1: Than I am, but I think that the time I
Speaker 1: got to spend with him was really really healing.
Speaker 2: So I'm doing okay. But why why talking about this? Oh? Yeah, So.
Speaker 1: The day of his funeral, the drive from the mortuary
Speaker 1: to the cemetery was like thirty minutes, which is like
Speaker 1: just enough time to be almost like a road trip
Speaker 1: vibe where it's not just a casual ten minute drive.
Speaker 1: And so on the way to his funeral, the burial part,
Speaker 1: I made a playlist called funeral, and I put funeral
Speaker 1: by James Blake and the Funeral by Band of Horses
Speaker 1: and Funeral by Phoebe Bridgers and funeral singers I think
Speaker 1: sylvan Es, so I think, And then I also added
Speaker 1: shaking hands with Elvis, which is a song by Alison Pontier,
Speaker 1: who I love, and shaking hands with Elvis is a
Speaker 1: euphemism for death. But I was like, if I'm going
Speaker 1: to listen to music, let's just let's go balls to
Speaker 1: the wall, sad and let's do it so on the
Speaker 1: nose that it's almost lighthearted anyway, It was good for
Speaker 1: the vibes anyway.
Speaker 2: Also, I call sleeping.
Speaker 1: I have thought of sleeping as the pearl zone for
Speaker 1: a long time because I got into these sheets, ones
Speaker 1: that were so comfortable. I felt like a little pearl
Speaker 1: in an oyster. And so pearl is like representative of
Speaker 1: sleep to me. And I got myself like a little
Speaker 1: pearl ring. And sometimes when I'm like I'm off work,
Speaker 1: it's chill time, I will put on this little pearl
Speaker 1: ring to be like, you're in the pearl zone. That
Speaker 1: one wasn't even a good secret, but but I for
Speaker 1: some reason, it warms my heart. Okay, let's have some tips.
Speaker 1: Do you want some life tips? Alli word, you say,
Speaker 1: it's been no rough year, but look at you, You're
Speaker 1: still alive.
Speaker 2: How do you do it? You're wondering.
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you some of the things that
Speaker 1: are keeping me on the cusp of sanity. So one
Speaker 1: thing I do, and I've mentioned this before, but people
Speaker 1: often like will tweet at me and ask what was
Speaker 1: the thing that you do? So I'm going to reiterate
Speaker 1: it for myself. Even if you don't even listen to this,
Speaker 1: this is for myself. Okay, So I had a really
Speaker 1: tough year and like years and years ago, listen to
Speaker 1: the field Trip episode in the NHM to hear more
Speaker 1: about it. Volunteering at the Natural History Museum changed my
Speaker 1: whole life. If you're in a rut, if you're feeling
Speaker 1: kind of rudderless, if you need to like reconnect with
Speaker 1: what makes you happy or makes you feel like who
Speaker 1: you are, highly recommend. If you can spare even a
Speaker 1: few hours a week or a month to volunteer somewhere
Speaker 1: that makes you happy, definitely recommend.
Speaker 2: It changed my whole life.
Speaker 1: But I also do this thing called rem REM, which
Speaker 1: is I make a little note for myself on my
Speaker 1: day planner or whatever. That's like ram REM and it
Speaker 1: stands for reading, exercise, meditation, and sleep. That's the second REM. Also,
Speaker 1: we have an episode about sleep coming up about dreaming
Speaker 1: in the New Year, I shouldn't have told you, but
Speaker 1: I'm really excited. January thirty comes out. Anyway, rem rem
Speaker 1: even if you just read one page like in a
Speaker 1: real book, just reading exercise, even if it's just like
Speaker 1: a walk down the block, if you can do it
Speaker 1: anything that's intentional us sit up, if you need to meditation,
Speaker 1: even if just like five minutes and then sleep, get
Speaker 1: in the bed with the lights off, teeth brushed. Just
Speaker 1: try to do that every day, even in the smallest forms.
Speaker 1: And it helps me so much just to know like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you're taking care of yourself. You haven't neglected yourself completely.
Speaker 1: And it tamps down like that despair that like I
Speaker 1: can't do something. I just it's everything's too much, even
Speaker 1: if you just do these tiny increments. So ram rem
Speaker 1: Is definitely gets me out of ruts and is like
Speaker 1: a good way to show myself a little bit of care.
Speaker 2: Also, I'm going to tell you about my binder.
Speaker 1: I will tell you again since the new year's coming
Speaker 1: up and you're like, maybe I need an organizational system.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about the binder. Okay, I have a mini binder.
Speaker 1: It's eight and a half by five I think whatever,
Speaker 1: A half sheet of paper is I'm horrified that I'm
Speaker 1: not doing the math right now. But it's like a
Speaker 1: half sheet of paper. It's like a half sheet of
Speaker 1: regular sized paper. And then I just use a whole punch.
Speaker 1: You can actually unscrew them and you can shift where
Speaker 1: the holes go so you can make it into a
Speaker 1: whole punch for a small piece of paper three holes.
Speaker 1: It's a small three ring binder. And then they sell
Speaker 1: little dividers.
Speaker 2: You can get it.
Speaker 1: You can get the stuff at like a an office
Speaker 1: supply star, or you can order online and little tabs.
Speaker 1: I have a tab for calendars. I just print up
Speaker 1: calendars from templates online and I do two months per page,
Speaker 1: you know, because they're half sheets. And then I have
Speaker 1: like daily kind of like bullet journally pages that I
Speaker 1: do my to do list. I have like a section
Speaker 1: for podcasts that I want to do or two notes
Speaker 1: that I take for ologies. I have a section for
Speaker 1: like self healthy journaling. I have a section for doodling,
Speaker 1: and then you can just go through and you can
Speaker 1: take stuff out as you don't need it. But you know,
Speaker 1: when you have like a moleskin or a bound planner
Speaker 1: and you don't need all the pages anymore. But there's
Speaker 1: some shit in there that you're like, these are some
Speaker 1: gold ideas. I don't want to just chuck this whole
Speaker 1: moleskin in a closet and lose some of these. Well,
Speaker 1: with a little minibinder, it's about the same size, but
Speaker 1: you can it's modular, you can take things out anyway.
Speaker 1: I've been using mine since twenty seventeen. And I also
Speaker 1: like to draw a little pictures in it of things
Speaker 1: I did, Like if I had a really good coffee,
Speaker 1: I'll draw a little coffee just doodling in the margins,
Speaker 1: just a little treat for your brain.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 1: Also, it's the New Year, and I don't know if
Speaker 1: you have any New Year's rituals, but for the last
Speaker 1: several years, I'll go spend some time by myself on
Speaker 1: New Year's Eve in whatever way I can, and I'll
Speaker 1: write some things that I A'm wishing for in the
Speaker 1: new year, or some goals I have, and I'll write
Speaker 1: them on a little piece of paper. Maybe I'll light
Speaker 1: a little tiny bit of incense, if we're being honest,
Speaker 1: and then I'll put them in the jar, and I'll
Speaker 1: seal them in the jar, and then a couple times
Speaker 1: a year, I'll open the jar and be like, how
Speaker 1: am I doing on these? Any of them come true?
Speaker 1: So that's a fun thing to have. And then your
Speaker 1: jar can sometimes just sit on your shelf and you go, hey,
Speaker 1: what's up? Wishes I see you? And if you're not
Speaker 1: a big party on New Year's person, it's nice to
Speaker 1: have some kind.
Speaker 2: Of little whichuel you do.
Speaker 1: Like here we go, starting another one. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: also going to tell you about a lantern. Okay, this
Speaker 1: lantern has been life changing for me. So when we
Speaker 1: were sleeping on my sisters like floor right, we were
Speaker 1: at the end of the hallway where if you turned
Speaker 1: on the light the hallway and the entire house, the
Speaker 1: light would go on and would wake up everyone in
Speaker 1: the house. So in order to have everyone be able
Speaker 1: to sleep, we had to turn it off. But then
Speaker 1: the end of the hallway was like pitch black. So
Speaker 1: I ordered like a little led lantern. It's battery operated,
Speaker 1: but it has a regular little light like a night light.
Speaker 1: You can use it as a lantern to read by,
Speaker 1: or you can turn it again and turn the knob
Speaker 1: again and it turns into this like led flickering flame. Right,
Speaker 1: you would use this like on a set in a
Speaker 1: community theater production of our town or something.
Speaker 2: These might be.
Speaker 1: Maybe be good for not even good for camping. They're
Speaker 1: not robust, but they're decorative and they look like a
Speaker 1: little lantern anyway. So that was our solution to this
Speaker 1: hallway thing. But then when we got home, I started
Speaker 1: using it for myself because I loved the way that
Speaker 1: the lantern let, the little flickering looked. It was like
Speaker 1: a little brain massage in the corner of my eye.
Speaker 1: So here's my lantern system. My lantern sitting here right now.
Speaker 1: It's a flicker. So when I'm working, when I sit
Speaker 1: down on my desk to work, if I'm fucking off
Speaker 1: and I'm not on task and i'm procrastinating or whatever,
Speaker 1: that lantern light is off, right, lantern stays off now
Speaker 1: if I'm working but I'm not doing the thing that's
Speaker 1: my main goal for the day, for example, get an
Speaker 1: episode out. Maybe I'm responding to bullshit emails that are
Speaker 1: not urgent at all, I'm spending too long on Twitter,
Speaker 1: whatever if looking at my Twitter replies or something, or
Speaker 1: maybe I'm spending two hours looking for a shelf for
Speaker 1: my office. When I'm like, I'm really really should be
Speaker 1: doing something else. That light is in just the on
Speaker 1: like kind of the cold blue light position. It's on,
Speaker 1: but it's not pleasing. Then when I'm working on the
Speaker 1: actual thing, I have to work on the task that's
Speaker 1: the goal for the day. I put on the little
Speaker 1: lantern flickery light that way the corner of my eye.
Speaker 1: I get the little dopamine hit of having this like
Speaker 1: flickering lantern light on, and also I get the reminder
Speaker 1: that like, stay on target, stay on target.
Speaker 2: You're doing great.
Speaker 1: But if out of the corner of my eye, I
Speaker 1: see that my lantern's off because I know I'm I'm
Speaker 1: just dicking around, or I see that it's on the
Speaker 1: cold light, I know, like come on, wrap it up,
Speaker 1: let's get back to the flickery. So any anything that
Speaker 1: has three modes of increasing comfort or joy works for this.
Speaker 1: I think you could probably do this with like three hats,
Speaker 1: one being the most comfortable. Or there are plenty of
Speaker 1: lanterns out there that are dual mode. They've got an off,
Speaker 1: they've got like an on, then they've got a flickery. Anyway,
Speaker 1: it's helping me out a lot. It's also helpful if
Speaker 1: you have to work around other people like Jarrett and
Speaker 1: my friends know that if the lantern is flickering, that
Speaker 1: means I'm in the zone. Maybe they show me a
Speaker 1: picture of a cat later. But it's a nice visual signal.
Speaker 1: So if you're working in an office, it might be
Speaker 1: helpful if your coworker see you've got the flicker on.
Speaker 1: Comeback later, maybe when the white light or when it's off. Anyway, helpful,
Speaker 1: love it, Love the lantern, lantern. This lantern isn't even alive,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't know how loved it is. Okay, another
Speaker 1: tip that has been helping me a lot. I don't
Speaker 1: know how you feel about laundry, but mine can pile
Speaker 1: up and become like a laundry tumor in the corner
Speaker 1: of the room, and I am in just denial of it.
Speaker 1: And so when I stayed at my sisters, our mattress
Speaker 1: was right next to the laundry machine, and we went
Speaker 1: up there so hastily. We didn't bring a lot of clothes,
Speaker 1: so we had we had like an accidental capsule wardrobe.
Speaker 1: Loved that part of it where we just only had
Speaker 1: a couple pairs of socks and stuff. So we were
Speaker 1: doing laundry every couple of days, right, we just gather
Speaker 1: up the towels and the house along with our socks
Speaker 1: or whatever in our pants. And what it What happened
Speaker 1: when I got back home was I realized I can
Speaker 1: just do smaller amounts of laundry more often. Where when
Speaker 1: the laundry basket is full, medium sized laundry basket, it's full,
Speaker 1: it's one load when that thing tops off. When that
Speaker 1: thing's full, it goes straight in the laundry machine. And
Speaker 1: there's no no forgiveness for just more towels around it
Speaker 1: or on the floor. It's just like when you see
Speaker 1: it full, it goes in the washer. Not should I
Speaker 1: do laundry today? Should I do four loads of laundry
Speaker 1: on a Saturday. It's just this kind of never ending
Speaker 1: like it's full, it goes in. There's never a backlog
Speaker 1: of laundry. So I have now successfully made laundry easier
Speaker 1: to do by never having too much of it.
Speaker 2: So just a loaded a time every other.
Speaker 1: Day or so, instead of just having every two weeks,
Speaker 1: I have laundry get in and I have an absolute
Speaker 1: apocalypse of folding to do. So anyway, it's a silly thing,
Speaker 1: but it's been really helpful just to have the visual
Speaker 1: queue of the laundry baskets full. It's got to go in,
Speaker 1: and then I take out the decision making of is
Speaker 1: now a good time?
Speaker 2: Also?
Speaker 1: You know how sometimes you'll do laundry and you'll forget
Speaker 1: it's in the washer. And if you have a frontloading washer,
Speaker 1: that means that it smells like dogshit when you're done
Speaker 1: frontloading washers, I know that you have to clean out
Speaker 1: all the crevices, which I try to do. I don't
Speaker 1: know what happened with front loading washers where it's just
Speaker 1: acceptable that if you leave your clothes in there for
Speaker 1: an hour after they've been washed, they're going to smell
Speaker 1: like assholes.
Speaker 2: If they smell so bad it's moldy. I don't hate it.
Speaker 1: And I know y'all are going to tweet and leave
Speaker 1: comments for me and send me emails about how to
Speaker 1: avoid this. I appreciate them already. I think like I
Speaker 1: have to do a vinegar bath every other time. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, it's a machine meant to clean things, and
Speaker 1: the machine smells worse than the dirty laundry going into it.
Speaker 1: Why Why is this happening. It's not your fault, and
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at you. But I have this system
Speaker 1: now where when I put a load of laundry in,
Speaker 1: I take the laundry basket, the empty laundry basket that
Speaker 1: I just unloaded, and I put it somewhere obnoxious. I
Speaker 1: put it on top of the kitchen table. I put
Speaker 1: it on top of the car in the garage. I
Speaker 1: put it somewhere awkward where I will see it that
Speaker 1: way the next time I pop into the garage, next
Speaker 1: time I walk by the kitchen table or whatever, I'll
Speaker 1: see the laundry basket empty, and I'll go, that's right,
Speaker 1: I put a load in. Better go get that thing
Speaker 1: out before it smells like mildew. So that's been helpful. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm going to reiterate my mom's sleep tip for anyone
Speaker 1: that hasn't heard it. It's called the fancy Nancy. We
Speaker 1: talk about it in the Somnology episode. But if you
Speaker 1: were having trouble sleeping, think of a category of anything
Speaker 1: like desserts or bands, or characters in the Lord of
Speaker 1: the Rings universe or whatever fruits and think of something
Speaker 1: that starts with A, something that stress with B something
Speaker 1: that stress with c and works every time to get
Speaker 1: me to fall asleep so fast. I hear so many
Speaker 1: people say that the fancy Nancy changed her life, So
Speaker 1: props to my mom Nancy for teaching us that. Another
Speaker 1: thing that's changed my life a little tiny bit, to
Speaker 1: be honest, is microfiber cloths.
Speaker 2: You know how you have.
Speaker 1: A dirty screen and you've got your disgusting fingerprints all
Speaker 1: over it, and you know that you're not supposed to
Speaker 1: use windex and a paper towel on it, and it's
Speaker 1: just kind of mildly gross. Microfibercloths that they give you
Speaker 1: when you buy a pair of glasses or something. I
Speaker 1: understand that those are for lenses and for glass, and
Speaker 1: I should have known better, but I didn't trust that
Speaker 1: they would work on screens like they do.
Speaker 2: A what a thrill.
Speaker 1: It gets fingerprints off screens and smudges off screens so
Speaker 1: well that I look forward to cleaning my laptop screen,
Speaker 1: which is not a thing I ever thought I would
Speaker 1: consider a hobby, but here we are. And sometimes if
Speaker 1: I see other people's laptop screens that are all dirty, ugh,
Speaker 1: what I wouldn't give just to freeze time? Go over
Speaker 1: there with a little microfiber clutch, just.
Speaker 2: Clean it off.
Speaker 1: It has the same same kind of oddly satisfying as
Speaker 1: when you watch those time laps videos of someone cleaning upholstery.
Speaker 1: It's that kind of satisfying, you know. So a little
Speaker 1: micro fibercloth on your screen using on your phone, it's
Speaker 1: a way to look and say, wow, how clean is that?
Speaker 1: That took two seconds? Microfiberclaus love them. I will tell
Speaker 1: you that I still can't type. If you've been following
Speaker 1: this podcast for a while, you know that I don't
Speaker 1: know how to type. And I mean I can do it.
Speaker 1: I can kind of like very quickly hunt and peck.
Speaker 1: But I've been writing professionally. I was a journalist for
Speaker 1: a decade before this, and I don't and I don't
Speaker 1: know how to do keyboarding. And I didn't know that
Speaker 1: the knobs on the F and the J were intentional.
Speaker 1: I thought they were just a manufacturing defect on my computer.
Speaker 2: I did not know. I just learned what a home
Speaker 2: row was.
Speaker 1: And I've been meaning to take type in classes forever
Speaker 1: and I just started. I said to myself, I'm sick
Speaker 1: of this shit. I can think a lot faster, or
Speaker 1: that I can write. I make so many typos. This
Speaker 1: is my year, people. So I just started taking typing
Speaker 1: lessons on typingclub dot com and uh, the last lesson
Speaker 1: I took it said that I was typing nine words
Speaker 1: per minuted.
Speaker 2: So I think that's good. I think it's pretty good.
Speaker 2: It's not okay, this is the last this is the
Speaker 2: last last life.
Speaker 1: Tip I'm going to give you. And it's kind of meaty,
Speaker 1: all right, so stay with me here. But uh, you know,
Speaker 1: it hasn't been the easiest year. I've had to try
Speaker 1: to come up with ways to continue to be optimistic
Speaker 1: and positive and look on the bright side and and
Speaker 1: try to look forward to things and to appreciate the
Speaker 1: things in my life that are good.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: And so we did a we Deomology episode with doctor
Speaker 1: Lori Santos and that was last.
Speaker 2: That was last September.
Speaker 1: We did an episode on Oesomology with Neil Pezrica, who
Speaker 1: writes the books of Awesome. He has a new book
Speaker 1: out with It's Great, and it was all about gratitude
Speaker 1: and the science behind it. And so those were two
Speaker 1: episodes with people talking about the science of kind of
Speaker 1: like well being and what scientists have found are good
Speaker 1: practices for your brain right and the world's not always
Speaker 1: the best place. I get it if you're feeling overwhelmed
Speaker 1: and tired. We're on year three of a pandemic. It's
Speaker 1: been incredibly trying. So anything that we can do scientifically
Speaker 1: to help our brains, if science says it works, I
Speaker 1: will try it. So I kind of started doing things
Speaker 1: that were recommended by scientists and just in terms of
Speaker 1: like a like a way to meditate or things to
Speaker 1: think about, especially in the morning when I'm starting my day.
Speaker 2: So here's what I do.
Speaker 1: I think about what the ideal day would look like
Speaker 1: like if today went really well, what would it look like,
Speaker 1: What would.
Speaker 2: The vibe be? You know, what went well yesterday?
Speaker 1: What was something good that happened yesterday, Perhaps it was surprising,
Speaker 1: you know, if something. And then I remind myself that
Speaker 1: I deserve time to sit there and think about this stuff.
Speaker 1: I deserve to have a healthy relationship with my body.
Speaker 1: I deserve love because everyone does, and sometimes we think
Speaker 1: we don't, and that's a bunch of horseshit, but it's
Speaker 1: really ingrained in us. I deserve rest and I deserve
Speaker 1: to enjoy my life. So I try to remember those
Speaker 1: things like I deserve those things, because right it's really
Speaker 1: easy to say to yourself that you don't deserve any
Speaker 1: number of those things. And then we walk around to
Speaker 1: suffering needlessly. And then I think of five things that
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for. Can be anything, anything, Anything can be
Speaker 1: your partner.
Speaker 2: It can be.
Speaker 1: Finding a toilet when you really have to pee or
Speaker 1: other things. It can be anything. You can be grateful
Speaker 1: for anything. Five things. And then five people that I'm
Speaker 1: sending some kind of love to, just in my brain,
Speaker 1: just thinking of five people. Maybe it's someone that you
Speaker 1: don't always enjoy, try to send them some just thinking
Speaker 1: about them, sending some love. Maybe it's someone you know
Speaker 1: going through a hard time. Maybe it's whatever, someone who
Speaker 1: just you really appreciate. So I think of five people
Speaker 1: I'm kind of I send love to. And then so
Speaker 1: those are three fives, and then I do three threes.
Speaker 1: The threes are three things I'm looking forward to in
Speaker 1: the future. It can be my next cup of tea.
Speaker 1: It can be a trip that I have scheduled in
Speaker 1: six months, it can be anything. Three things I'm looking
Speaker 1: forward to, Three goals I have for the day, whether
Speaker 1: it's just like take a shower, research, an episode, whatever,
Speaker 1: Three goals that I have that I would love to
Speaker 1: get done that day. And then three things I like
Speaker 1: about myself, three attributes I have because again it's really
Speaker 1: easy to go around as a perfectionist or as someone
Speaker 1: who maybe is sensitive or gets down on yourself and
Speaker 1: just to have it ingrained. I'm a big turd. I'm
Speaker 1: a big walking turd in pants, and that's not you.
Speaker 1: There's something great about you and you'd maybe not be
Speaker 1: perhaps not used to telling.
Speaker 2: Yourself what it is.
Speaker 1: So three things about you that you appreciate as if
Speaker 1: you were a friend of yours. And then that's what
Speaker 1: I do. So that's three fives and three threes. So
Speaker 1: I start with what would day look like if it
Speaker 1: went well, try to imagine it. Then I go into
Speaker 1: what worked yesterday, and then I do three fives. Things
Speaker 1: I deserve, things I'm grateful for, people I'm setting love
Speaker 1: to you.
Speaker 2: Those are fives.
Speaker 1: Three threes are goals, things I'm looking forward to, and
Speaker 1: things I like about myself. Anyway, to remember this, I
Speaker 1: actually made a beaded necklace out of beads that kind
Speaker 1: of like a Rosary but not Catholic, and based on neuroscience,
Speaker 1: and so I made a little necklace and this helped
Speaker 1: a lot when things were really tough taking care of
Speaker 1: my pop. It helped me to, you know, once sometimes
Speaker 1: twice a day, just try to think of those things
Speaker 1: to put myself into a better headspace. So those are
Speaker 1: my tips for this year. After the break, we're going
Speaker 1: to get into Patreon questions submitted by patrons and it's
Speaker 1: kind of an ama. We'll see what they asked you ready, Oh,
Speaker 1: but first we're going to give to a charity. We'll
Speaker 1: give to the Trevor Project, which is a great organization
Speaker 1: and they work to prevent a self harm and suicide
Speaker 1: in LGBTQ plus and questioning teens in particular, and we've
Speaker 1: given to them in the past, but let's give to them. Okay,
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Speaker 1: Let's do some Patreon questions. You want to yes, you
Speaker 1: said yes, perfect, Spencer James Parks, how much has your
Speaker 1: brain grown since doing this podcast? I think my brain
Speaker 1: has grown a lot of facts, But the growth that
Speaker 1: I feel like my brain has experienced the most those
Speaker 1: podcasts is honestly, like, through feedback from listeners, I've learned
Speaker 1: so much about different type, different types of people's lived
Speaker 1: experiences and their perspectives and how important that is to
Speaker 1: relay to other people who might not have access to
Speaker 1: people who have had those experiences.
Speaker 2: So really like.
Speaker 1: Trying to be a voice and educate other people to
Speaker 1: be more compassionate of other people's perspectives and experiences has
Speaker 1: been kind of my favorite growth point of this podcast,
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I really love that. Spencer also wants
Speaker 1: to know if I have a favorite candy. Oh, favorite candy?
Speaker 2: Do you know what chicko sticks are.
Speaker 1: They're kind of like the inside of a butterfinger, but
Speaker 1: without the chocolate, and sometimes I could really go for
Speaker 1: a chick a stick. I introduced Jarrett to them recently
Speaker 1: and he went bonkers for them, and I was like,
Speaker 1: that's the correct response. Phoebe Teski wants to know what
Speaker 1: inspires you to paint, Phoebe. Phoebe knows I used to
Speaker 1: be a painter. I haven't painted in so long, but
Speaker 1: I started, like kind of my my career took a
Speaker 1: weird trajectory because I started painting on scraps of wood
Speaker 1: that I would rescue from like dumpsters, and used at
Speaker 1: first temper and then which is a very unstable and
Speaker 1: very cheap. It's like finger paint. It's what you would
Speaker 1: buy a teacher. So I used to buy it at
Speaker 1: a teacher's supply stocks. It was used for preschoolers, but
Speaker 1: it was cheap, and the wood from a dumpster was
Speaker 1: free once you subtracted to the cost of the lysol
Speaker 1: that you would have to douse it in. But so
Speaker 1: I used to paint a lot and I had my
Speaker 1: first ever art show at a flea market, the Fairfax
Speaker 1: Flea Market, I sold my first painting, This is how
Speaker 1: Weird LA Is to Frankie Munis from Malcolm in the Middle,
Speaker 1: bought one of my first paintings, and I can't even
Speaker 1: remember what the painting was.
Speaker 2: I would have to sit here and rack my brain.
Speaker 1: But I kind of would do paintings that look like
Speaker 1: old signs and they were pretty goofy. And I haven't
Speaker 1: painted in years and years, but I recently set up
Speaker 1: a new office space for myself and I'm hoping to
Speaker 1: put an easel in here and maybe have some more
Speaker 1: time to paint. But I really miss it. But yeah,
Speaker 1: but I started illustrating for the LA Weekly and that
Speaker 1: led to me writing for them on this very very
Speaker 1: random kind of chance assignment. They were like, if you
Speaker 1: can get yourself to the teag and in Sarah concert,
Speaker 1: we have a free ticket for you. The only catches
Speaker 1: that you have to write a review. And I was like,
Speaker 1: I will leave my house in one minute if that's true.
Speaker 2: And so I wrote.
Speaker 1: A teaken in Sarah review and that started my writing
Speaker 1: kind of career. But I was very very lucky to
Speaker 1: get my illustrations in that newspaper. But so, yes, what
Speaker 1: inspires me to paint, usually like a play on words
Speaker 1: or something that a life situation that I want to illustrate.
Speaker 1: Shelley Moody wants to know what was your childhood. I
Speaker 1: want to be a blank when I grow up. Dream
Speaker 1: You know, what it kind of was was science communication,
Speaker 1: and I didn't know what that meant. But I really
Speaker 1: wanted to make some kind of documentary or do some
Speaker 1: kind of writing or performance. But it also involved science.
Speaker 1: But I didn't know that science communication was a thing.
Speaker 1: So this is pretty on the nose, I got to say,
Speaker 1: Which is why I maybe am too much of a
Speaker 1: perfectionist and I get too anxious about making the episodes
Speaker 1: the best it can be. Is because I get that
Speaker 1: this is such a dream job and I do not
Speaker 1: want to fuck it up, and so I get scared
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 2: And so.
Speaker 1: Y'all being here means a lot to me, of course.
Speaker 1: Kevin Parachen says, still waiting for the Grammy merch. Roslin
Speaker 1: has Be says ditto, We don't have any Grammy merch,
Speaker 1: but you're correct that we do need some. She is
Speaker 1: ruthless in her quests for cheese, so maybe we could
Speaker 1: do something cheese like. We'll see Sarah Grace wants to
Speaker 1: know what's your best post breakup advice, and Sarah Grace,
Speaker 1: that's a great question. You know, I've been around the block.
Speaker 1: I've been through plenty of breakups. My best post breakup
Speaker 1: advice is go on hikes if you can. I think
Speaker 1: it's probably good to get good microbes in your lungs
Speaker 1: and to see trees. I also think volunteering somewhere is
Speaker 1: a great idea. It's a good way to just turn
Speaker 1: a new corner. You know, don't look at their social media.
Speaker 1: Don't do it. I know we're all science minded here.
Speaker 1: We love a rabbit hole. Don't look at your ex's
Speaker 1: social media. There's nothing there that you need to see.
Speaker 1: There's no good can come of it, and you're only
Speaker 1: buying your self trouble. Spend that time writing a book
Speaker 1: or sitting in a park somewhere.
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 1: And also, if they suck, and if they're not for
Speaker 1: you at that point, then you're better off without them.
Speaker 1: Just always know you're way better off without someone who
Speaker 1: doesn't appreciate you. You're never better off twisting someone's arm to
Speaker 1: be with you, or being with someone that you're not
Speaker 1: really stoked about. And a lot of times, you know,
Speaker 1: I've been through breakups and then the guy has found
Speaker 1: the perfect person for them, and I think I could
Speaker 1: not have done that, or I have been so much
Speaker 1: better off.
Speaker 2: So it'll work out in the end.
Speaker 1: And the nicer you are to yourself and the happier
Speaker 1: you are with your own life, that's gonna be a
Speaker 1: super important foundation for whatever relationship you get in, because
Speaker 1: if you hate yourself and you don't like your life,
Speaker 1: no relationship can be the best that it can be,
Speaker 1: you know. Okay, Joe s nineteen sixty nine wants to
Speaker 1: know what food would you refuse to eat as a
Speaker 1: child teen that you love to eat now? Smoked oysters
Speaker 1: in a can.
Speaker 2: JR.
Speaker 1: Roloff, he is a patron, and he sent me some
Speaker 1: to my po box and I'm eating them.
Speaker 2: Oh, I eat them. They look very gross. They look
Speaker 2: very bad.
Speaker 1: It's you pull back this tin and then there's this
Speaker 1: kind of greenish yellow. It looks like bile, but it's
Speaker 1: oil and you drain that off and then there's maybe
Speaker 1: two dozen thumb sized smoked oysters that look turd adjacent,
Speaker 1: and they're smoky and fishy, and they are not something
Speaker 1: most people like.
Speaker 2: To eat.
Speaker 1: Jarrett is absolutely confounded by my family's consumption of them.
Speaker 1: We put them on ritz crackers with a little shmeer
Speaker 1: cream cheese and a little pink kind of like a
Speaker 1: cherry on a Sunday. But it's an oyster And are
Speaker 1: they for everyone? Probably not, But oysters are among the
Speaker 1: more sustainable seafoods, So go for it. And who Tinfish
Speaker 1: is having a moment. Carolyn Wright wants to know how
Speaker 1: I prepare my coffee half calf now. Lately, I found
Speaker 1: that just going to half caffeinated has helped with my
Speaker 1: mood and anxiety a lot, a lot, a lot, So
Speaker 1: I do half calf, and I'm not above a powdered creamer.
Speaker 1: I prefer a liquid creamer like a Chibani has, like
Speaker 1: a plant based vanilla.
Speaker 2: That's dillish.
Speaker 1: But if I had a choice between a really fancy
Speaker 1: coffee and a gas station coffee, if I were being
Speaker 1: completely honest with you, if I were hooked up to
Speaker 1: machines that would test me for lies or shock me
Speaker 1: where I to be lying, I would prefer a gas
Speaker 1: station coffee because you can do a lot of decalf.
Speaker 1: I don't know how long that decaf's been in that caraft.
Speaker 1: It's none of my business, but I'll drink it anyway,
Speaker 1: and then top it off with maybe some French vanilla coffee,
Speaker 1: a couple of pumps of those you know, half gallon creamers.
Speaker 1: You just pump, pump, pump pump if you can. No
Speaker 1: one's counting, and I find that delicious. So I hope
Speaker 1: that's not disappointing. And Alien wants to know. I frequently
Speaker 1: find myself wondering if you really do know the answers
Speaker 1: to the questions you ask scientists, and what percentage of
Speaker 1: the info is usually brand new to you. A lot
Speaker 1: of the info is brand new to me. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: ask if I knew. I Sometimes I'll ask a question
Speaker 1: and be like, right, if I think that's where it's going.
Speaker 1: But for the most part, I really am asking not
Speaker 1: smart questions, because there are basic questions that we maybe
Speaker 1: think we know the answers to but don't fully. So yeah, no,
Speaker 1: it's it's a real one. So I hope that makes
Speaker 1: you feel better. Kensley Putter wants to know how do
Speaker 1: you stay so positive? And I try to do mine
Speaker 1: tricks to myself to put myself into Better Moods. Also
Speaker 1: wants to know is a taco a sandwich? And Kelsey
Speaker 1: the answer to that is no. A taco is a taco,
Speaker 1: and I think if it is enclosed on three sides,
Speaker 1: it's not a sandwich. A peda pocket is a peda pocket,
Speaker 1: it's not a sandwich. I think if you've got a
Speaker 1: top and a bottom, you got a sandwich. I actually
Speaker 1: bristle it open face sandwiches. I think that's bullshit. Don't
Speaker 1: tell me it's an open face sandwich. If you've got
Speaker 1: a second piece of bread that comes with it and
Speaker 1: I put the top on it, then you've got a sandwich.
Speaker 1: But if it's an open face sandwich, that's a toast.
Speaker 1: Don't tell me it's a sandwich. And withhold a piece
Speaker 1: of bread. That's not what we're here for. Don't lie
Speaker 1: to me like that. It's embarrassing. But I think a
Speaker 1: taco is.
Speaker 2: Not a sandwich.
Speaker 1: In the comments, Margaret isn't Ray wants to know how
Speaker 1: do you decide what episodes to do? Is it the
Speaker 1: topic that calls to you and then the ologist appears,
Speaker 1: or do you decide because you found a cool ologist.
Speaker 2: Mostly it's the topic.
Speaker 1: I think every once in a while someone's like, I
Speaker 1: got a great person for you, And then I got
Speaker 1: to figure out, like, Okay, what's what would the ology
Speaker 1: be for this? And I'll look and look and look
Speaker 1: and hope that I find that ology somewhere in the
Speaker 1: literature that clingy clacking was me reaching for this book.
Speaker 1: There's the Aldrich Dictionary of Phobias and other word families,
Speaker 1: and they got a lot of ologies in here, and
Speaker 1: sometimes I'll just thumb through, and the weirder it is,
Speaker 1: the more excited I get about it, usually because I
Speaker 1: just get so excited that there's an ology for some
Speaker 1: things that you just wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Filmology is the film industry. I didn't know that. Ugh,
Speaker 2: Philocology the biology of ferns. I do that.
Speaker 1: If I no, I can't believe I just missed this.
Speaker 1: Jenna Bhila Delteology is Christmas and birthday cards and the
Speaker 1: collection of such. Now we have a Deltiology episode that's
Speaker 1: about postcards, so that's kind of Deltiology adjacent, but it's
Speaker 1: a this is about Christmas and birthday cards. I wonder
Speaker 1: if that's about all greeting cards in general anyway. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I just think immediately there's so many questions I'd want
Speaker 1: to ask for all of these. Ilika biology is the
Speaker 1: biology of the aged? Okay, yeah, there's there's a ton.
Speaker 1: So typically I find theology first and then I look
Speaker 1: for who the expert is. Like, let's say I were
Speaker 1: looking to do that for an episode, right, I'd I
Speaker 1: would put that ology as a search term in Twitter
Speaker 1: or Instagram, and I'd see who's using it hashtag to
Speaker 1: self identify. That's how I found Cole and Perry uh
Speaker 1: the pantatologist, who, by the way, has remained a really
Speaker 1: good friend, to go hang out and go away to
Speaker 1: the desert ound New Years together. And other times I
Speaker 1: will put like fern expert in quotes and then look
Speaker 1: on Google News and see what articles are coming up.
Speaker 1: Or I'll go onto databases like research gate and I'll
Speaker 1: put in some terms about, you know, within the realm
Speaker 1: of fer and science and see who's publishing papers on it.
Speaker 1: So that's how I find people. But sometimes someone who's
Speaker 1: just like this is a great ologist and you need
Speaker 1: to know them. Oh Asian here wants to know how
Speaker 1: is your journey with sleep procrastination been. Have you been
Speaker 1: treating yourself better? And for the most part. Yes, I
Speaker 1: have a way better relationship with sleep than I used to.
Speaker 1: If you listen to the Somnology episodes, which are great
Speaker 1: with doctor Chris Winter, I have had a problem with
Speaker 1: sleep procrastination for a really long time. I always feel
Speaker 1: like I haven't earned sleep. That's how I used to feel,
Speaker 1: and those episodes really that in the Chronobiology episode really
Speaker 1: scared the shit out of me in terms of your
Speaker 1: brain needs sleep. It's cute to withhold it. I'm not
Speaker 1: any tougher. I'm just I'm making myself weaker and my
Speaker 1: brain really needs it. So I've had a way better
Speaker 1: relationship with it. I will say. I know I'm going
Speaker 1: away for a few days for New Year's and I
Speaker 1: have a really really big episode coming out on January third.
Speaker 2: It's about dreams. It's a big.
Speaker 1: Episode, and so I was up until like four in
Speaker 1: the morning working on that last night. And so right
Speaker 1: now sleep is not great. But I'm really trying to
Speaker 1: figure out how to have a better schedule where I
Speaker 1: get up in the morning and I get to work,
Speaker 1: you know, air quotes work my office, and then I
Speaker 1: leave at a certain time. I have a difficult time
Speaker 1: maintaining that routine Bryant Brainbridge. Bainbridge wants to clearly, you're
Speaker 1: a woman with both feet on the gas pedal, perhaps
Speaker 1: as you tend to all things behind the ology scenes
Speaker 1: while pursuing your three hundred other areas of personal compulsion. True,
Speaker 1: So where in the natural world do you go to
Speaker 1: simply let it all wash away and recharge your oversize
Speaker 1: lithium batteries.
Speaker 2: That's a good question.
Speaker 1: Probably sleeping is the place where I feel like I.
Speaker 2: Try to get some sanity back.
Speaker 1: I also this year I started to belong to a
Speaker 1: local botanical garden. Never done that before, but it feels tight.
Speaker 2: It's great. I have a pass.
Speaker 1: I can go in the garden whenever I want. I
Speaker 1: can bring a friend. If I want to go in
Speaker 1: the garden for ten minutes and just stroll and sit
Speaker 1: there with a to do list or a book and
Speaker 1: then leave, I can do that if I want to
Speaker 1: spend half the afternoon there. So if you have a
Speaker 1: local botanical garden and it is a place you like
Speaker 1: to be, consider asking for that as a birthday gift
Speaker 1: is like a membership there, or get it for yourself.
Speaker 1: Ten out of ten recommend I've never belonged to a
Speaker 1: botanical garden before, and it feels very indulgent in the
Speaker 1: best ways. Okay, one more question. Caribbee wants to know
Speaker 1: how many countries have you traveled to and what was
Speaker 1: your favorite? And Scott Sheldon wants to know where is
Speaker 1: somewhere either domestic or international or both you haven't traveled
Speaker 1: to yet.
Speaker 2: Countries.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure, probably a handful, maybe six or seven,
Speaker 1: but I will say as long as we're talking travel
Speaker 1: in geography, I've been working on Innovation Nation. We just
Speaker 1: are finishing up our tenth season on it. It's on CBS.
Speaker 1: And over the last ten seasons, I've gone to a
Speaker 1: lot of states for work, and so I've been to
Speaker 1: forty eight of them people forty eight of the United States,
Speaker 1: including Alaska and Hawaii. I have not been to West
Speaker 1: Virginia or New Mexico, and I got to get that
Speaker 1: I have to check those off my list. I have
Speaker 1: a map on the back of my binder. Everything is
Speaker 1: shaded in except those two. And I feel like I
Speaker 1: want to end in New Mexico because I feel like
Speaker 1: I could go to some kind of spa there afterward
Speaker 1: and just maybe have a chill day. But also there's
Speaker 1: a skunk expert in the wilds of New Mexico who
Speaker 1: doesn't really even have Internet service, and I need to
Speaker 1: talk to him. He's the skunk guy. He's like the
Speaker 1: Merlin Tuttle of skunks, and so I've been waiting this
Speaker 1: whole pandemic to talk to him. So West Virginia send
Speaker 1: me your scientists. Maybe once the airlined debackle of twenty
Speaker 1: twenty two is over, I can bounce around to those
Speaker 1: two and get a lot of interviews in one. But
Speaker 1: those are the two places that I'm really looking to hit.
Speaker 1: So the rest of if anyone else submitted a question
Speaker 1: on this thread, I'm gonna be answering them on a
Speaker 1: video that I'll post that's for the pal tier and up.
Speaker 1: And I hope this was somehow helpful. I don't do
Speaker 1: these types of episodes often. I'd never just come you
Speaker 1: and just like blab like this, But I hope that
Speaker 1: you have taken away some things from it, and I
Speaker 1: hope it helps in twenty twenty three. Honestly, it hasn't
Speaker 1: been an easy year for me, but I do feel
Speaker 1: like I've come out of it a little bit stronger,
Speaker 1: where I now feel like I'm better prepared to help
Speaker 1: friends who are going through the same thing.
Speaker 2: And I also have experienced pain.
Speaker 1: That I dreaded for a long time, and I know
Speaker 1: that I got through it okay. And I also know
Speaker 1: y'all taught me that I'm going to be okay. Like
Speaker 1: if I need to take a week here and there
Speaker 1: to tend to personal stuff, you are still here and
Speaker 1: you've been really vocal about that, and that's fucking awesome.
Speaker 1: I am so lucky to have a job where you
Speaker 1: all are kind of like my bosses and you're so understanding,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate that so much. I'm also super lucky
Speaker 1: to have Jarrett, you know, in my life. We got
Speaker 1: married before a lot of this went down, and I
Speaker 1: wasn't a person who really looked forward to marriage. It
Speaker 1: wasn't a big life goal of mine. But he asked me,
Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, we are family and let's
Speaker 1: do that. And it has been really great being married
Speaker 1: the last year and a half. And the things that
Speaker 1: he did, the ways that he showed up for me
Speaker 1: and my family are just really really heartening, and so
Speaker 1: I feel really really lucky for that. Actually, someone did
Speaker 1: ask if we were going to have Roslin Hasby wanted
Speaker 1: to know when can we expect a song collab with
Speaker 1: you and Jarrett, And you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: put it at the end of this episode. But Jarrett
Speaker 1: recently made a song that's wonderful and I did contribute
Speaker 1: a lyric to it because it was something that we
Speaker 1: were just just goofing around singing on the couch one
Speaker 1: night and then he made a real song of it
Speaker 1: and it's great.
Speaker 2: So I'll put that at the very end.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I feel better equipped to handle life in
Speaker 1: the year coming up than I have ever before, and
Speaker 1: part of that is just understanding that that life balance
Speaker 1: is really important and just trying to look for the
Speaker 1: good amid difficult circumstances and also trying to realize that
Speaker 1: some of that good is in people around you and
Speaker 1: people who are also going through tough things and learning
Speaker 1: from them and how they went through it, even if
Speaker 1: it's just a podcaster with messy hair and a led
Speaker 1: lantern like, Hi, we're buds and I'm here for you too.
Speaker 1: So anyway, that's the twenty twenty three episode.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: You can follow us on Twitter at ologies or I'm
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Speaker 2: I'm also on TikTok. Y'all I did.
Speaker 1: I'm finally doing TikTok and I put up a meteorology TikTok.
Speaker 1: I'm at ali underscore Ologies. I put up a meteorology TikTok.
Speaker 1: It took me like an hour to film. It got
Speaker 1: three thousand views, and then a few days later I
Speaker 1: put up a short video of me opening a roll
Speaker 1: of biscuits and that has a million. And I don't
Speaker 1: understand TikTok at all, but I'm trying to learn, so
Speaker 1: say hi there. Thank you Aaron Talbert, who admins the
Speaker 1: Ologies podcast Facebook group. Also thank you Shannon Feltis and
Speaker 1: Bonnie Dutch for the assists on that they host a
Speaker 1: podcast called You Are That. Thank you, Emily White of
Speaker 1: the Rotary who makes our transcripts, and Caleb Patten who
Speaker 1: believes them.
Speaker 2: Thank you. Kelly ar Dwyer who updates our website can
Speaker 2: make yours.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Susan Hale and Noel Dilworth. We could not
Speaker 1: do the show without you. They do so much. Thank you,
Speaker 1: Zeke Rodriguez Thomas of Mind Jem Media, who helps with smologies.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Mercedes Maitland of Maitland Audio, who also does
Speaker 1: homologies and is taking over editing duties for Jarrett Sleeper
Speaker 1: of mind je Media, who is wonderful and amazing and
Speaker 1: whose song you will hear very soon. And Nick Thorburn
Speaker 1: wrote the theme music. And I guess if you stick
Speaker 1: around to the end of the Secrets episode, you're going
Speaker 1: to hear a secret again. Okay, the secret is in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three. I'm working on two extra podcasts and
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure when they'll be launching, but I'm
Speaker 1: excited about doing them. Formats are a little bit different,
Speaker 1: but I'm hoping to get them up in the first
Speaker 1: quarter of this year. We'll see, folks, We'll see the
Speaker 1: CBS show I've been doing for ten years might be
Speaker 1: coming to an end, so that might be the end
Speaker 1: of my travel, so I may have a little extra bandwidth. See,
Speaker 1: we got some stuff in the hopper. All right, we're
Speaker 1: gonna do our best. First things first, get a little sleep, Okay,
Speaker 1: you deserve it. You'll see stick around till after the
Speaker 1: theme music. Okay, Happy New Year, Bye bye.
Speaker 5: It's okay bed. It's okay to be Sometimes you have
Speaker 5: to say that's all I got today. It's okay to bed.
Speaker 5: Time to put your tinys. Think you snuggled in your tinys,
Speaker 5: Think you babe. Now you can breathe, indep let yourself
Speaker 5: drift to sleep. It's okay to be tire. It's okay
Speaker 5: to be tied. It's okay be time.
Speaker 3: Today did your best.
Speaker 2: Now it is time to rest. It's okay to be time.