WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.560 --> 00:00:03.720 Show time is here. No time to fear. 2 00:00:04.120 --> 00:00:07.360 Corrilla is so near because show time is here. 3 00:00:07.559 --> 00:00:09.199 So on with the show. 4 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:10.880 Let's give it a go. 5 00:00:11.519 --> 00:00:14.359 Carrilla is the one that you need to know. 6 00:00:16.359 --> 00:00:16.800 Now. 7 00:00:16.839 --> 00:00:19.199 It's show time. 8 00:00:20.800 --> 00:00:24.519 All right in just sixty seconds. The most fabulous I mean, 9 00:00:25.039 --> 00:00:29.640 he's really something. The best, most fabulous host will be here. 10 00:00:30.120 --> 00:00:33.119 He just tells the truth all the time, Bigley, and 11 00:00:33.159 --> 00:00:36.640 he's funny, this guy. Have you heard him? Yeah, he's 12 00:00:36.679 --> 00:00:41.719 funny and smart, smart and funny, not like those nasty 13 00:00:41.759 --> 00:00:46.359 people on lamestream media. So don't go anywhere. He's almost here. 14 00:00:46.880 --> 00:00:49.200 I know he doesn't speak well of me, and that's 15 00:00:49.240 --> 00:00:59.359 okay because I mean, he's really quite fabulous. 16 00:01:00.079 --> 00:01:01.399 Oh, show sign. 17 00:01:05.359 --> 00:01:08.519 It is the number one comment that I receive on 18 00:01:08.599 --> 00:01:12.200 the show about the show and about the topics. Today 19 00:01:12.280 --> 00:01:15.959 we're going to talk about the number one comment that 20 00:01:16.079 --> 00:01:17.959 I get and what we can do about it. 21 00:01:21.200 --> 00:01:28.280 Uncensored, unfiltered, un hinged. It's the Corell Cast. Listen daily 22 00:01:28.359 --> 00:01:29.840 on your favorite streaming service. 23 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:38.079 It is the cREL Cast. I am Corel. 24 00:01:38.159 --> 00:01:42.840 Happy Tuesday, January two or Jenerary third note January third. Yeah, 25 00:01:43.040 --> 00:01:48.719 so very glad you are joining me. Today's show. Every 26 00:01:48.719 --> 00:01:53.560 show is personal, okay, And what I hope and what 27 00:01:53.680 --> 00:01:59.200 has been my experience in radio and podcasting is that 28 00:01:59.400 --> 00:02:03.599 the more personal the topic, the more you are apt 29 00:02:03.640 --> 00:02:08.960 to respond to it. Now, that holds true for every host, 30 00:02:09.159 --> 00:02:13.520 be it David Pacman or Stephanie Miller, when they let 31 00:02:13.599 --> 00:02:17.560 you in to a little bit of their life and 32 00:02:17.680 --> 00:02:21.599 relate it to the world, it ends up being the 33 00:02:21.639 --> 00:02:24.240 most relative, relational. 34 00:02:25.039 --> 00:02:26.439 Sort of topic that there is. 35 00:02:26.520 --> 00:02:26.680 Now. 36 00:02:26.840 --> 00:02:30.080 David Hall taught me the triangle informative, entertaining and relevant, 37 00:02:31.080 --> 00:02:35.080 and the relevant part comes I think when hosts lets 38 00:02:35.120 --> 00:02:39.479 you in. When you watch MSNBC or you watch CNN 39 00:02:39.599 --> 00:02:45.479 or whatever BBC, you don't the host isn't personal, okay, 40 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:50.199 They're just factual talking about the news, and that's fine. 41 00:02:51.159 --> 00:02:55.960 Other shows you watch, you watch because the host is 42 00:02:56.039 --> 00:03:01.479 personal and because they often talk about their life and 43 00:03:01.599 --> 00:03:05.560 you in some ways can mirror what's going on in yours. 44 00:03:06.639 --> 00:03:11.439 And that's where this topic today comes from. You see, yesterday, 45 00:03:11.759 --> 00:03:16.879 I was feeling a little well. For years now, I 46 00:03:17.039 --> 00:03:20.080 have been feeling helpless. Today's show is going to be 47 00:03:20.240 --> 00:03:23.840 very real and very raw, and some of you may 48 00:03:23.879 --> 00:03:26.000 not watch it. No one may watch it. I don't know. 49 00:03:26.560 --> 00:03:28.400 My numbers are not what they should be. When it 50 00:03:28.400 --> 00:03:32.240 comes to YouTube audio, we're fine, But when it comes 51 00:03:32.240 --> 00:03:35.400 to YouTube, I'm not getting the engagement that I need 52 00:03:35.400 --> 00:03:38.919 to grow the show, and I feel helpless about that. 53 00:03:39.639 --> 00:03:42.719 I hired someone to do SEO and to do the 54 00:03:42.759 --> 00:03:45.800 graphics and everything, and we did over four months and 55 00:03:45.919 --> 00:03:49.360 eight hundred dollars spent. We just didn't grow as much 56 00:03:49.439 --> 00:03:53.400 as I needed it too. And you know that I 57 00:03:53.439 --> 00:03:55.840 have the single do You Want to Funk Out? It's 58 00:03:55.960 --> 00:03:58.759 possibly the best song I have ever recorded. 59 00:03:59.280 --> 00:04:02.000 It was played on k Gay Radio again yesterday. 60 00:04:02.960 --> 00:04:07.560 It's being played on radio around the world, and yet 61 00:04:07.639 --> 00:04:12.719 it's not doing what it needs to do. And I 62 00:04:12.759 --> 00:04:16.560 am not getting booked at gay Pride events. 63 00:04:15.919 --> 00:04:18.839 Like I should be. 64 00:04:17.720 --> 00:04:20.079 Because I can't get a manager, I can't get an agent, 65 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:23.920 all this other stuff. So in my life and you 66 00:04:24.040 --> 00:04:28.160 may be experiencing this too, I'm with I have been 67 00:04:28.199 --> 00:04:33.839 feeling very helpless and very hopeless. You're like, why bother, 68 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:38.399 why not just retire? You know you're not rolling in 69 00:04:38.480 --> 00:04:40.879 the dough. The show isn't making you a fortune, the 70 00:04:40.959 --> 00:04:44.160 music isn't making you any money. It ends up costing 71 00:04:44.199 --> 00:04:47.199 me money to do the show and to do you know, 72 00:04:47.319 --> 00:04:50.560 music and everything, and I don't have it. So why 73 00:04:50.600 --> 00:04:53.120 put myself in debt to do this anymore? Why not 74 00:04:53.240 --> 00:04:57.279 just fade away, find a new hobby, find a new life, and. 75 00:04:58.480 --> 00:05:02.199 Give the whole Correll public life up? Why not? 76 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:07.680 Who's gonna notice anyway? Yes, pity party of one, and 77 00:05:09.600 --> 00:05:15.120 the hopelessness is driven by things outside of my control. 78 00:05:15.319 --> 00:05:19.879 I can't change how the entertainment industry has changed. I 79 00:05:19.920 --> 00:05:24.560 can't change how talk radio has changed, gone more conservative, 80 00:05:24.879 --> 00:05:29.600 no progressives. I can't change that. I don't have money, 81 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:33.759 you know, right away. I can't fix that like tomorrow. 82 00:05:33.839 --> 00:05:37.480 And so the helplessness and the hopelessness for many months, now, 83 00:05:37.480 --> 00:05:42.399 many years, I think, has almost taken over. And it's 84 00:05:42.480 --> 00:05:46.600 made me feel defeated even with the show. Why book guest, 85 00:05:47.680 --> 00:05:52.759 you know, why? Why Why do an amped out show 86 00:05:52.800 --> 00:05:58.439 if no one's gonna be watching. So that feeling culminated 87 00:05:58.680 --> 00:06:05.319 into a perfect storm a few days ago, and I 88 00:06:05.480 --> 00:06:11.759 had to remind myself of my life like I've never 89 00:06:11.839 --> 00:06:14.560 had it easy. I've never had a seat at the table. 90 00:06:15.199 --> 00:06:18.360 I've always had to fight for everything because I'm gay, 91 00:06:18.480 --> 00:06:21.319 because I'm loud, because I'm fat because I'm this because 92 00:06:21.319 --> 00:06:26.839 I'm bad, And so I decided a few days ago 93 00:06:27.720 --> 00:06:33.439 that I am not this helpless, out of control might 94 00:06:33.480 --> 00:06:35.160 as well fade away person. 95 00:06:35.959 --> 00:06:37.000 It's not who I am. 96 00:06:38.279 --> 00:06:40.519 And so I'm going to have to do everything in 97 00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:45.480 my power to try to reinvent and get back to 98 00:06:45.600 --> 00:06:48.680 doing on some level the things that I love to do. 99 00:06:49.800 --> 00:06:54.000 Rearrange my thinking, rearrange what I think success looks like, 100 00:06:54.959 --> 00:07:00.519 that sort of stuff, And part of my feeling is 101 00:07:00.560 --> 00:07:04.920 tied into this show. A used to be much bigger 102 00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:09.240 when I was on radio and B. The topics we 103 00:07:09.360 --> 00:07:14.519 cover they're depressing. Donald Trump's tenure in the White House 104 00:07:14.720 --> 00:07:20.759 is depressing. The rise of Maga is depressing. David Packman 105 00:07:20.879 --> 00:07:25.079 just did a little special about how he's, you know, 106 00:07:25.199 --> 00:07:29.279 planning his escape route should he need it to either 107 00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:34.639 Canada or Argentina or another country. That's depressing when you're 108 00:07:34.759 --> 00:07:37.199 don't have I don't have a partner. If I had 109 00:07:37.199 --> 00:07:38.920 a partner, I would have left this country a long 110 00:07:38.959 --> 00:07:42.800 time ago. But and wanting a partner and not having 111 00:07:42.839 --> 00:07:46.600 a partner, it's depressing. In today's age of online dating 112 00:07:46.639 --> 00:07:52.720 and everything, so climate change, it's depressing to see the 113 00:07:52.720 --> 00:07:56.600 climate changing, and we're not doing you know, I'm a vegan, 114 00:07:56.839 --> 00:08:00.160 I compost, I wrote, I ride a motor scooter. I'm 115 00:08:00.199 --> 00:08:03.920 doing all I can, but it's depressing to see that 116 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:10.000 the world isn't, especially the United States. And so all 117 00:08:10.040 --> 00:08:13.879 of the topics of the day relate to the number 118 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:19.240 one comment, and how I've been feeling personally relate to 119 00:08:19.360 --> 00:08:22.920 the number one comment. I just got this comment again yesterday, 120 00:08:23.720 --> 00:08:27.839 which is when you guys comment on the shows. If 121 00:08:27.879 --> 00:08:30.759 I can get you to comment down below, one of 122 00:08:30.800 --> 00:08:34.399 the major comments is how helpless you feel to do anything? 123 00:08:35.679 --> 00:08:39.879 That we'll cover topics and you'll just say, I feel helpless? 124 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:40.279 What am I? 125 00:08:40.559 --> 00:08:44.320 How am I supposed to do anything about the topic 126 00:08:44.399 --> 00:08:47.639 you're talking about, whether it's climate change or Donald Trump 127 00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:52.120 or whatever. We might be talking about some grocery prices 128 00:08:52.200 --> 00:08:56.120 which are out of control, and so many of us 129 00:08:56.200 --> 00:08:59.799 now feel hopeless. That there is a mental health crisis 130 00:09:00.080 --> 00:09:05.720 in America right now, well documented, because we a lot 131 00:09:05.759 --> 00:09:08.080 of us are feeling. 132 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:10.480 The whole why bother? What is this all about? What's 133 00:09:10.519 --> 00:09:12.080 the endgame? What's the goal? 134 00:09:13.879 --> 00:09:18.240 And so our jobs are not secure, our incomes are 135 00:09:18.279 --> 00:09:22.960 not secure, our food supply is not secure. For many 136 00:09:23.159 --> 00:09:27.480 housing is not a given or a secure and so 137 00:09:27.679 --> 00:09:32.480 there's this hopeless and helpless feeling that so many of 138 00:09:32.519 --> 00:09:35.720 you have in so many areas of your life. It's 139 00:09:35.720 --> 00:09:40.240 the number one comment I get. I feel powerless to 140 00:09:40.519 --> 00:09:46.240 change any of this, and that is not take it 141 00:09:46.279 --> 00:09:51.399 from me. That is not a healthy status, a healthy 142 00:09:51.440 --> 00:09:55.240 way of being. I am not mentally as healthy as 143 00:09:55.320 --> 00:09:59.039 I should be. I'm getting there. So what do we 144 00:09:59.080 --> 00:10:02.200 do about it? What do we do that so many 145 00:10:02.240 --> 00:10:07.720 of you listening to me right now feel hopeless or helpless. 146 00:10:08.039 --> 00:10:11.039 You know you're seeing your budgets cut, your. 147 00:10:11.519 --> 00:10:14.519 Job is changing, that the government might be cutting your job. 148 00:10:16.240 --> 00:10:22.639 How do you feel with this overwhelming feeling of helplessness 149 00:10:23.559 --> 00:10:25.320 or hopelessness. 150 00:10:25.360 --> 00:10:27.320 Well, I've got a dust. 151 00:10:27.559 --> 00:10:30.639 We'll talk about them when we come back. We're talking 152 00:10:30.639 --> 00:10:32.679 about the number one comment that I get. 153 00:10:33.080 --> 00:10:35.600 I feel powerless. Why to support the. 154 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:39.000 Correll Cast, then like and subscribe the YouTube videos at 155 00:10:39.000 --> 00:10:42.279 the really Correl channel. Just go to YouTube dot com 156 00:10:42.279 --> 00:10:46.039 forward slash really Correll, that's kr el and subscribe to 157 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:49.039 the most exciting YouTube stream available today. 158 00:10:49.600 --> 00:10:53.679 If you're not visiting really corell dot com daily, you're 159 00:10:53.759 --> 00:10:57.320 missing out. Get the podcast videos and the blug including 160 00:10:57.360 --> 00:11:10.960 recipes at reallycrrell dot com. 161 00:11:14.120 --> 00:11:14.879 So what do we do? 162 00:11:15.799 --> 00:11:19.759 The number one comment I get from topics is I 163 00:11:19.799 --> 00:11:25.480 feel helpless to change this racial inequality, Gays being persecuted, 164 00:11:26.159 --> 00:11:30.519 trans people being persecuted, you know, the war in Ukraine, 165 00:11:30.960 --> 00:11:35.480 Israel committing genocide. What do you think leads to things 166 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:40.320 like the guy burning the people in Colorado? Yeah, you know, 167 00:11:40.360 --> 00:11:44.080 he's crazy. He you know, only crazy people think it's 168 00:11:44.120 --> 00:11:48.120 okay to burn others. But outside of him being crazy, 169 00:11:49.039 --> 00:11:55.519 what do you think led him to that desperation hopelessness? 170 00:11:56.360 --> 00:11:58.720 He felt like no one was listening to him about 171 00:11:58.759 --> 00:12:02.159 Gaza and about Israel and how he felt Israel is 172 00:12:02.200 --> 00:12:04.600 committing genocide against the Goslins. 173 00:12:04.720 --> 00:12:06.440 I don't condone what he did. 174 00:12:06.919 --> 00:12:10.399 I'm asking you what do you think got him to 175 00:12:10.480 --> 00:12:16.759 that point hopelessness? He felt so hopeless he thought the 176 00:12:16.799 --> 00:12:18.600 only way to be heard was to go out and 177 00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:22.120 harm people. Innocent people who have nothing to do with 178 00:12:22.320 --> 00:12:25.799 Israel or Gaza can't change. Yeah, that's why I've always 179 00:12:25.840 --> 00:12:27.799 when these people feel so hopeless and they go out 180 00:12:27.799 --> 00:12:30.279 and do these acts, it's like, why do you kill 181 00:12:30.320 --> 00:12:33.639 innocent people? I mean, there's very few people in the 182 00:12:33.679 --> 00:12:36.120 world that can do anything about Israel and Gaza. That's 183 00:12:36.159 --> 00:12:40.159 Benjamin Nettan Yahoo, his work cabinet, Donald Trump, our secretary 184 00:12:40.159 --> 00:12:43.120 of State. Those are the people who can do stuff. 185 00:12:43.720 --> 00:12:44.159 You and I. 186 00:12:44.519 --> 00:12:48.559 We can't stop it. So why they attack us over it? 187 00:12:48.639 --> 00:12:53.679 I'll never get that. During the riots in La back 188 00:12:53.720 --> 00:12:57.639 in the day, I always wondered why the people attack 189 00:12:57.720 --> 00:13:01.799 their own neighborhoods and burn down their own neighborhoods. You know, 190 00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:05.039 that's why don't you go burn down the white racist neighborhoods. 191 00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:08.519 Why are you burning down black neighborhoods? I never understood that. 192 00:13:09.960 --> 00:13:12.480 So what do you do to not end up like 193 00:13:12.519 --> 00:13:15.080 the guy setting people on fire? To not get so 194 00:13:15.159 --> 00:13:17.039 hopeless that you do something ridiculous? 195 00:13:17.320 --> 00:13:17.799 What do you do? 196 00:13:18.759 --> 00:13:21.360 I had to ask myself that question the other day 197 00:13:21.399 --> 00:13:25.080 because I think retirement, even though I'm disabled and on disability, 198 00:13:25.440 --> 00:13:28.279 I think retirement would be a bad thing for me. 199 00:13:28.360 --> 00:13:30.000 I don't know how to retire. I don't know how 200 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:34.559 to not be correl. So what do you do? Well? 201 00:13:36.200 --> 00:13:38.200 What I'm going to tell you now is going to 202 00:13:38.279 --> 00:13:41.679 sound cliche. It's gonna soundly, Ah Carrel, that's easy for 203 00:13:41.720 --> 00:13:44.639 you to say no, it's not. It's not easy for 204 00:13:44.720 --> 00:13:47.559 me to say so. Let me tell you some of 205 00:13:47.559 --> 00:13:50.440 the things I did. The first thing I did is 206 00:13:50.480 --> 00:13:54.720 I reminded myself that it's never been easy, and I 207 00:13:54.759 --> 00:13:58.679 think we all should remind ourselves that America has never 208 00:13:59.039 --> 00:14:04.240 been easy. We've never given the poor everything they need. Ever, 209 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:09.960 we have never given dignity to the poor in the 210 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:13.840 form of enough money to have an adequate house, to 211 00:14:14.000 --> 00:14:17.000 have enough money to put adequate amounts of food in 212 00:14:17.039 --> 00:14:21.080 their pantry. We still don't, and we never have. We 213 00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:26.159 have never truly helped the poor. We've kept them poor. 214 00:14:26.440 --> 00:14:30.600 That's what we've done. So it's never been easy to 215 00:14:30.639 --> 00:14:35.000 be poor in America. That's the first thing. The second 216 00:14:35.000 --> 00:14:37.759 thing is it's never been easy to be an American, 217 00:14:37.879 --> 00:14:41.559 not since seventeen seventy six. It's never been easy. We've 218 00:14:41.559 --> 00:14:45.279 always had political infighting, We've always had groups of people 219 00:14:45.279 --> 00:14:48.080 who are marginalized. If you're a member of that group, 220 00:14:48.159 --> 00:14:51.240 then it's never been easy to be an American. Even 221 00:14:51.320 --> 00:14:54.440 under Obama or Biden, it was not a piece of 222 00:14:54.480 --> 00:14:55.799 cake to be an American. 223 00:14:57.399 --> 00:15:01.480 George Floyd died, Black lives mattered. All of that. It's 224 00:15:01.559 --> 00:15:02.399 never been easy. 225 00:15:03.360 --> 00:15:06.759 So we need to step back and remind ourselves that 226 00:15:06.799 --> 00:15:10.080 it's never been easy to live in America, and it 227 00:15:10.639 --> 00:15:15.279 oftentime never been pleasant. America is often not a pleasant 228 00:15:15.279 --> 00:15:21.240 place to live, not all the time. Sometimes I had 229 00:15:21.279 --> 00:15:25.159 to remind myself that people have never made room for me, 230 00:15:25.879 --> 00:15:28.399 you know. And I did Planet Gemini, or when I 231 00:15:28.519 --> 00:15:32.000 did The rath Room, they didn't call me and asked 232 00:15:32.080 --> 00:15:35.559 me to do a gig. I called them and worked 233 00:15:35.559 --> 00:15:38.759 out a deal. You take the bar, I'll take the door, 234 00:15:39.159 --> 00:15:43.279 you know whatever. I was the promoter for every show 235 00:15:43.360 --> 00:15:47.080 I've done. For the most part, I've been the promoter. 236 00:15:48.799 --> 00:15:51.320 Now why I thought that should suddenly change at sixty 237 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:54.120 two years of age, I don't know why I suddenly 238 00:15:54.159 --> 00:15:56.320 thought that gay you know, Gay Prides have never really 239 00:15:56.320 --> 00:15:59.399 booked me my whole career, even when we were Correl 240 00:15:59.480 --> 00:16:04.559 and KFI. When I was on KGO, San Francisco Pride 241 00:16:04.600 --> 00:16:09.919 asked me once once to go, and San Jose Pride 242 00:16:09.960 --> 00:16:13.720 asked me once that's it San Jose and San Francisco 243 00:16:13.759 --> 00:16:18.799 Pride one time. All the other times I've done Prides, 244 00:16:18.960 --> 00:16:21.840 I had to book it. They didn't come to me. 245 00:16:23.399 --> 00:16:25.879 So why I guess I'm lazy now or something. I 246 00:16:25.919 --> 00:16:28.200 don't know, but I just thought it should be easier. 247 00:16:28.320 --> 00:16:30.519 I thought that, you know, they should be calling me 248 00:16:30.639 --> 00:16:32.679 I've got or when I call them, they should at 249 00:16:32.759 --> 00:16:36.879 least be more receptive. I don't know why I thought that. 250 00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:40.720 So I had to remind myself that I'm the guy 251 00:16:40.759 --> 00:16:43.799 that makes things happen for me. This podcast exists because 252 00:16:43.840 --> 00:16:46.440 I want it to. No one's helping me and outside 253 00:16:46.440 --> 00:16:49.559 of you, my patrons, but I don't have a staff, 254 00:16:49.600 --> 00:16:54.159 a producer, lighting, camera, sound. I do it all, and 255 00:16:54.240 --> 00:16:56.960 I always have. Why do you think I can now 256 00:16:57.000 --> 00:17:01.960 produce TV shows? Because I've always done at all. And 257 00:17:02.039 --> 00:17:05.279 so I had to remind myself of who I am. 258 00:17:06.759 --> 00:17:10.279 And yes, I've changed, I've slowed down. I'm not as 259 00:17:10.319 --> 00:17:14.079 passionate about some things as I was, but I'm still 260 00:17:14.079 --> 00:17:17.839 me in here. So yesterday I called the Rathroom now 261 00:17:17.920 --> 00:17:21.160 Finestein's the Hotel Nico and left a voicemail. Have they 262 00:17:21.240 --> 00:17:21.960 called back yet? 263 00:17:22.079 --> 00:17:22.160 No? 264 00:17:22.279 --> 00:17:24.400 Well I probably have to call ten more times. 265 00:17:24.640 --> 00:17:31.319 Yes, but that's the dance, because they still exist and I. 266 00:17:31.319 --> 00:17:32.240 Want to do a show there. 267 00:17:33.680 --> 00:17:37.000 You know, I am looking at clubs in San Jose 268 00:17:37.359 --> 00:17:39.880 even gay clubs that just do drag shows so long 269 00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:42.799 as there's a stage and they serve alcohol. I'm trying 270 00:17:42.839 --> 00:17:45.039 to find a venue to do a show in San Jose. 271 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:49.319 No one's gonna book me. I have to book myself. 272 00:17:50.920 --> 00:17:53.839 I called reporters yesterday. The Bay Area Reporter is going 273 00:17:53.880 --> 00:17:55.799 to do They've assigned a writer to do a feature 274 00:17:55.839 --> 00:18:00.319 on me. That's happening because I did it. And so 275 00:18:00.359 --> 00:18:04.680 the first way to stop feeling helpless is to actually 276 00:18:04.920 --> 00:18:09.960 do something. Maybe you can't solve climate change, but you 277 00:18:09.960 --> 00:18:14.960 can become a vegan. Maybe you can't you save the planet, 278 00:18:15.039 --> 00:18:18.519 but you can buy a Jemmy Geme, a home composter. 279 00:18:18.680 --> 00:18:21.240 I love mine. It's been a month now, two months. 280 00:18:21.319 --> 00:18:21.880 I love it. 281 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:26.039 I love it. It's like a trash can that decomposes 282 00:18:26.079 --> 00:18:27.559 your food. It's wonderful. 283 00:18:28.000 --> 00:18:31.119 G E m E. Yes, they're expensive. They sent me 284 00:18:31.160 --> 00:18:33.839 one free, but I love it. Oh my god. I 285 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:34.200 love it. 286 00:18:35.599 --> 00:18:38.880 And it's something I can do, so I don't feel 287 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:46.400 so helpless. Also, we have to acknowledge you and I 288 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:49.960 want change. We don't like the country the way that 289 00:18:50.039 --> 00:18:54.079 it is. We don't like society the way that it is, 290 00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:57.200 and a lot of us don't like ourselves the way 291 00:18:57.200 --> 00:19:02.519 that we are. Well, if you want change, you have 292 00:19:02.599 --> 00:19:05.480 to change, and that's really hard to do. 293 00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:09.799 We act like it's easy. It's not. It's not. I 294 00:19:09.880 --> 00:19:10.279 find it. 295 00:19:10.440 --> 00:19:13.279 Look, you guys, don't hear me talk a lot about 296 00:19:13.319 --> 00:19:18.240 medical problems on the show anymore because I got overwhelmed 297 00:19:18.400 --> 00:19:22.640 about it. Very serious things happened, and I don't want 298 00:19:22.640 --> 00:19:23.839 to talk about it anymore. 299 00:19:23.960 --> 00:19:24.400 I don't. 300 00:19:25.160 --> 00:19:27.960 If bad things are going to happen, then we'll talk 301 00:19:28.000 --> 00:19:32.720 about it. But until they happen, no, because that's something 302 00:19:32.759 --> 00:19:36.039 I can do. I can't control what's going to happen 303 00:19:36.079 --> 00:19:39.640 to me health wise, but I can control the energy 304 00:19:39.799 --> 00:19:44.640 that I give to it. And so you if you're 305 00:19:44.680 --> 00:19:48.400 not happy with so much going on and you feel powerless, 306 00:19:48.640 --> 00:19:53.119 then you have to change. You can't just sit and 307 00:19:53.200 --> 00:19:58.319 say I feel helpless. You have to start helping yourself 308 00:19:58.720 --> 00:19:59.759 in ways that you can. 309 00:20:00.960 --> 00:20:02.839 And we'll talk about some of those ways. Let me 310 00:20:02.880 --> 00:20:06.160 come back. Don't go anywhere except for reallycarel. 311 00:20:05.759 --> 00:20:08.079 Dot com or YouTube dot com, forward sluss on Carell 312 00:20:08.559 --> 00:20:12.240 Orpatreon dot com, forward slash Realiecarell, and go stream do 313 00:20:12.319 --> 00:20:12.960 you want to funk? 314 00:20:13.559 --> 00:20:14.400 Go watch the video? 315 00:20:14.480 --> 00:20:16.480 Hey, Carell here, and I'd like to take a moment 316 00:20:16.519 --> 00:20:19.599 to thank all the patrons at Patreon. Your support means 317 00:20:19.640 --> 00:20:22.480 the absolute world to me and the show. 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I love the multicolored. I love it, I 339 00:21:44.799 --> 00:21:47.400 love I love these socks. I love them so much. 340 00:21:47.720 --> 00:21:50.319 I wear them every day. I wear I haven't worn 341 00:21:50.359 --> 00:21:53.519 another pair since you gave me these, So thank you. 342 00:21:54.640 --> 00:21:55.799 So we're talking. 343 00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:57.839 About the number one comment that I get on the show, 344 00:21:57.920 --> 00:22:00.920 which is I feel so helpless. And in the chat 345 00:22:00.960 --> 00:22:03.160 room there's a lot of great people at YouTube dot 346 00:22:03.240 --> 00:22:06.839 com Forward Slash, Rely Correll, Rachel, James Snabel. I am 347 00:22:06.880 --> 00:22:11.160 plexing all kinds of people that are there, you know, 348 00:22:11.279 --> 00:22:16.920 talking about ways that they exercise or regain control in 349 00:22:17.039 --> 00:22:20.839 their lives, and how there are people that have said 350 00:22:20.839 --> 00:22:23.359 to them, you know, well we can't control it. Just 351 00:22:23.359 --> 00:22:25.880 gonna throw my hands up, And how they don't accept 352 00:22:25.880 --> 00:22:28.839 that when they hear it, like, well, that's not me. 353 00:22:29.039 --> 00:22:32.200 I don't throw my hands up. Look it wasn't me either, 354 00:22:32.240 --> 00:22:35.400 but I was. I'm still partially ready to just retire 355 00:22:36.160 --> 00:22:41.000 and say the business changed. I'm not Ben Shapiro who 356 00:22:41.039 --> 00:22:44.519 gets hundreds of thousands of dollars and millions of listeners. 357 00:22:45.400 --> 00:22:48.759 But then I realize I do have a dedicated core 358 00:22:49.000 --> 00:22:53.640 of listeners, and you know, that's something that's more than 359 00:22:53.680 --> 00:22:56.400 many people have. So the first thing you need to 360 00:22:56.400 --> 00:22:58.880 do when you feel helpless is start to control the 361 00:22:58.920 --> 00:23:03.440 little things. Start to control the small stuff that you can. 362 00:23:04.480 --> 00:23:07.440 I can't make people book me, but I can at 363 00:23:07.519 --> 00:23:13.119 least call them, you know, I can at least put 364 00:23:13.160 --> 00:23:17.480 myself out there. I can't control how many people view 365 00:23:17.640 --> 00:23:20.440 or watch the show, but I can keep doing it 366 00:23:20.480 --> 00:23:22.759 and trying to make it the best that it can be. 367 00:23:23.079 --> 00:23:26.599 That's what I can do. I think in. 368 00:23:26.519 --> 00:23:31.119 America now, if we can't accomplish the grand thing, then 369 00:23:31.160 --> 00:23:34.920 we just give up, like, well, I'll never make it 370 00:23:34.960 --> 00:23:36.720 to the peak of Everest, so I'm not going to 371 00:23:36.759 --> 00:23:41.960 try to climb it. No, So the first thing you 372 00:23:42.039 --> 00:23:45.559 do is control what you can and what you can 373 00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:46.799 control is yourself. 374 00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:49.079 That's really all you can control. 375 00:23:49.839 --> 00:23:54.359 And how you're feeling, because oftentimes it's going to take 376 00:23:54.480 --> 00:23:59.440 you changing your perspective. The Universal law of motion says, 377 00:24:00.200 --> 00:24:03.480 in order for there to be any kind of movement, 378 00:24:03.759 --> 00:24:06.839 there has to be a change in position. Okay, that's 379 00:24:06.920 --> 00:24:11.759 Newtonian law, and that's very powerful. If we're going to 380 00:24:11.799 --> 00:24:15.440 make any movement forward, there has to be a change 381 00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:21.240 in position, which means we have to change. We have 382 00:24:21.359 --> 00:24:24.759 to expect more of ourselfs, and we also have to 383 00:24:24.839 --> 00:24:26.039 forgive more. 384 00:24:27.240 --> 00:24:28.839 We have to demand. 385 00:24:28.519 --> 00:24:32.039 More of those around us, but we also have to 386 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:34.720 accept when they've given all they can. 387 00:24:36.279 --> 00:24:38.039 And we have to let go. 388 00:24:38.279 --> 00:24:43.279 Like the old adage says, of things you truly cannot change, 389 00:24:43.079 --> 00:24:46.319 you just you must release them. It's hard to do, 390 00:24:47.720 --> 00:24:52.480 but you must, because you know. There's just a servant 391 00:24:52.519 --> 00:24:57.519 out today that cannabis use amongst people sixty five or 392 00:24:57.559 --> 00:25:00.720 over has gone up forty six percent in the last 393 00:25:00.720 --> 00:25:03.519 three years, even though there's another study out that says 394 00:25:03.920 --> 00:25:06.559 you're more apt to have heart disease if you eat 395 00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:09.400 or smoke cannabis. Well, I know plenty of eighty five 396 00:25:09.480 --> 00:25:11.240 year olds who have used it their whole lives and 397 00:25:11.279 --> 00:25:13.839 they're fine. And I use it every night and I'm here, 398 00:25:13.920 --> 00:25:16.559 so you know something's going to kill you. Muths will 399 00:25:16.599 --> 00:25:19.519 go out high. But one of the reasons that seniors 400 00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:23.640 are turning to cannabis is a sleep because it's so 401 00:25:23.680 --> 00:25:27.480