WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.639 --> 00:00:05.040 Why can't you change your thinking? Everybody else does. Do 2 00:00:05.080 --> 00:00:09.640 you know what everybody says it's suicide. You've seen him, 3 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:12.960 you know how strong he is. You can't win. 4 00:00:15.800 --> 00:00:19.640 That's the way I made it. We can't change what 5 00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:32.399 we are. And if those of you in this room. 6 00:00:32.240 --> 00:00:36.399 You are great, you are phenomenal, and you're not walking 7 00:00:36.479 --> 00:00:36.799 in it. 8 00:00:38.439 --> 00:00:40.640 Because you don't know who you are and what you want. 9 00:00:41.000 --> 00:00:44.200 If you're gonna do it, do it. 10 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:49.759 Say what you can do, do what you say you 11 00:00:49.759 --> 00:00:51.320 can't do it, don't say you can do it. Don't 12 00:00:51.320 --> 00:00:54.159 overleverage yourself. Don't overleverage your decision, and then jump in 13 00:00:54.200 --> 00:00:56.759 and kind of dip a toe. I think I'll try 14 00:00:56.799 --> 00:00:58.679 it out now. Think if you're gonna try it out beforehand, 15 00:00:58.719 --> 00:01:01.840 but when it's time to go, die, don't leave. 16 00:01:01.719 --> 00:01:05.200 It and go oo if I just got it? Uh huh. 17 00:01:05.560 --> 00:01:06.560 That keeps me up at night. 18 00:01:06.599 --> 00:01:07.719 I think it keeps a lot of us up at 19 00:01:07.799 --> 00:01:11.239 night finding out and looking in the mirror and going 20 00:01:12.200 --> 00:01:13.079 I didn't have ascid. 21 00:01:13.159 --> 00:01:14.640 I went all the way I found out. 22 00:01:15.040 --> 00:01:17.680 And why didn't you quit? You know I was trying 23 00:01:17.680 --> 00:01:18.319 to get rid of you. 24 00:01:18.480 --> 00:01:19.239 Get you stayed? 25 00:01:19.640 --> 00:01:20.760 Yeah, I stayed. 26 00:01:21.599 --> 00:01:24.480 I stayed because every time you threw a brick at 27 00:01:24.519 --> 00:01:28.519 my head or said I smelled, it urts, but it 28 00:01:28.560 --> 00:01:30.560 could never hurt more than it did. 29 00:01:30.439 --> 00:01:32.200 Every day of my life just being me. 30 00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:37.799 I stayed because I thought if anyone could change me, 31 00:01:38.799 --> 00:01:42.359 could make me not me, it was. 32 00:01:42.400 --> 00:01:43.599 You, guys. 33 00:01:43.640 --> 00:01:46.359 You had a time to become a good fighter, and 34 00:01:46.439 --> 00:01:49.920 instead of that, you began my leg quit some cheat, 35 00:01:50.079 --> 00:01:51.359 second rate lodestime. 36 00:01:52.519 --> 00:01:55.280 It's a living, it's a waste slight. 37 00:01:58.719 --> 00:01:58.920 You know. 38 00:02:00.599 --> 00:02:05.319 Sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of it saying courage, 39 00:02:05.599 --> 00:02:11.159 Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery, and I 40 00:02:11.400 --> 00:02:11.960 promise you. 41 00:02:13.439 --> 00:02:18.639 Something great will come of it. You're born with a gift. 42 00:02:19.599 --> 00:02:22.039 If not that, then you get good at something along 43 00:02:22.080 --> 00:02:26.000 the way. And what you're good at you don't take 44 00:02:26.039 --> 00:02:28.599 for granted, you don't portray it. 45 00:02:30.639 --> 00:02:34.879 What if you do betray your gift and you betray yourself? 46 00:02:35.560 --> 00:02:37.960 And he'd lost his father earlier in the week, literally 47 00:02:38.000 --> 00:02:39.879 forty eight hours later, he was in the car. 48 00:02:40.240 --> 00:02:43.280 Yeah, what was it like racing that year? Having to 49 00:02:43.280 --> 00:02:44.960 show up again now where you don't have the. 50 00:02:44.919 --> 00:02:47.439 Person who believes in your loves and drinks and what 51 00:02:47.479 --> 00:02:47.919 would that man? 52 00:02:48.080 --> 00:02:48.400 I don't know. 53 00:02:48.719 --> 00:02:51.439 It was on the Tuesday of Baku. 54 00:02:51.560 --> 00:02:54.240 As soon as he passed away, I asked myself what 55 00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:55.680 would he wants me to do? 56 00:02:56.919 --> 00:02:59.240 And I had no doubts. I mean, there was only 57 00:02:59.280 --> 00:03:00.759 one answhere this was a. 58 00:03:00.759 --> 00:03:02.439 Kid who just lost his father, and he was a 59 00:03:02.560 --> 00:03:05.240 kid at the time. He's a teenager. It's at that 60 00:03:05.400 --> 00:03:08.039 kind of mental strength. I've never seen anything like it. 61 00:03:09.120 --> 00:03:11.400 He then went out, fell to the last place, fall 62 00:03:11.479 --> 00:03:15.639 his way through from one place, tapes. 63 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:19.479 The lease, please past absolutely everyone to get himself back 64 00:03:19.520 --> 00:03:20.360 to the row. 65 00:03:20.960 --> 00:03:22.520 Yet yet. 66 00:03:25.199 --> 00:03:27.520 When Gretz you said, in a brilliant way, you miss 67 00:03:27.560 --> 00:03:29.000 one hundred percent of the shot. 68 00:03:29.120 --> 00:03:33.199 You don't take one often meets his this and the 69 00:03:33.360 --> 00:03:35.400 under road he takes to avoid it. 70 00:03:36.039 --> 00:03:38.439 Your mind is like this water, my friend. 71 00:03:38.599 --> 00:03:42.280 When it is agitated, it becomes difficult to see. 72 00:03:42.919 --> 00:03:48.080 But if you allow it to settle, it lenswer becomes clear. 73 00:03:48.800 --> 00:03:51.000 You just got to quick trip it while you're in 74 00:03:51.039 --> 00:03:55.360 the process, because the process is necessary. You may not 75 00:03:55.479 --> 00:03:57.560 see it now, but when he gets you on the 76 00:03:57.560 --> 00:04:00.400 other side of it, you don't see exactly why weren't 77 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:01.719 that way, And you're gonna. 78 00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:02.319 Be okay with it. 79 00:04:02.840 --> 00:04:06.479 Putting your strategy and your plan of action, continuously looking 80 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:07.840 for ways to win. 81 00:04:09.840 --> 00:04:13.039 When will I know I'm ready? 82 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:14.199 You won't. 83 00:04:17.759 --> 00:04:20.319 That's all it is, miles a leap of faith. 84 00:04:26.079 --> 00:04:27.519 So now you gotta ask yourself. 85 00:04:28.560 --> 00:04:33.240 Are you here to proof something to other people? Or 86 00:04:33.279 --> 00:04:34.480 proof something to yourself? 87 00:04:38.120 --> 00:04:41.600 Until you win? If it always goes and noticed, get 88 00:04:41.680 --> 00:04:44.600 used to it. No one roots for you until everyone 89 00:04:44.680 --> 00:04:46.800 roots for you. That's just how it works. 90 00:04:48.519 --> 00:04:50.560 What you set me up to fail? 91 00:04:50.759 --> 00:04:53.680 Why if you only do what you can do, you 92 00:04:53.720 --> 00:04:56.120 will never be more than you are now. 93 00:04:57.199 --> 00:05:02.160 The only insults that hurt the ones we believe. Next 94 00:05:02.240 --> 00:05:05.680 time someone insults you, remember they're going to die. Everyone 95 00:05:05.680 --> 00:05:08.439 will forget about them. And if no one will remember them, 96 00:05:08.759 --> 00:05:11.240 then you might as well forget about them now. They 97 00:05:11.319 --> 00:05:16.040 are irrelevant. Your dream your actions, your outcomes. You cannot 98 00:05:16.040 --> 00:05:19.079 wish for a strong character and an easy life. Each 99 00:05:19.319 --> 00:05:21.879 is the price of the other. What if what you're 100 00:05:21.879 --> 00:05:25.680 going through isn't hard? What if you're just sensitive? 101 00:05:27.040 --> 00:05:29.720 List all the things that you aren't willing to give 102 00:05:29.800 --> 00:05:32.560 up for the dreams that you have, and that is 103 00:05:32.560 --> 00:05:33.279 what the person. 104 00:05:33.040 --> 00:05:36.199 Who will beat you is willing to give up. You 105 00:05:36.240 --> 00:05:40.360 know what your problem is. You're smart too smart. 106 00:05:41.240 --> 00:05:44.519 You overthink because your mind moves at a million miles 107 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:48.199 a minute. You're sad because you're not fooled by the 108 00:05:48.240 --> 00:05:51.639 world like everyone else. You don't get along with most 109 00:05:51.639 --> 00:05:54.920 people because they just don't look at things. 110 00:05:54.639 --> 00:05:56.399 The way you do. 111 00:05:56.439 --> 00:05:59.959 You think you're dumb because you're smart enough to know 112 00:05:59.800 --> 00:06:00.920 you don't know everything. 113 00:06:01.959 --> 00:06:04.000 Your problem is you're too smart. 114 00:06:04.879 --> 00:06:08.120 And happiness and intelligent people is one of the rarest 115 00:06:08.120 --> 00:06:08.680 things I know. 116 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:12.959 People want to find that passion, but you don't find it. 117 00:06:13.079 --> 00:06:16.079 You create it, and you create it by getting good 118 00:06:16.120 --> 00:06:18.839 at something. And to get good at stuff, you start 119 00:06:18.920 --> 00:06:21.560 by doing something you suck at, then you get good, 120 00:06:22.079 --> 00:06:25.040 then you like it. Then people ask how you found 121 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:28.399 your passion. Answer by starting when you sucked and not 122 00:06:28.439 --> 00:06:28.920 giving up. 123 00:06:31.240 --> 00:06:33.199 Have you ever thought that I want more from life 124 00:06:33.319 --> 00:06:35.399 than a nice apartment in a job serving tea? 125 00:06:35.959 --> 00:06:39.040 There's nothing wrong with a life of peace and prosperity. 126 00:06:39.759 --> 00:06:42.759 I suggest you think about what it is that you 127 00:06:42.839 --> 00:06:44.600 want from your life and. 128 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:49.399 Why I want my destiny. What that means is up 129 00:06:49.399 --> 00:06:49.839 to you. 130 00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:59.879 Here's bubble verse. I think about sometimes many times it goes. 131 00:07:02.399 --> 00:07:07.079 Then I heard the voice Lord saying, who shall I send? 132 00:07:07.680 --> 00:07:23.279 And who will go for us? And I said, here, 133 00:07:23.279 --> 00:07:23.519 am I. 134 00:07:26.600 --> 00:07:27.120 Send me. 135 00:07:29.480 --> 00:07:30.680 When I have my accident. 136 00:07:33.600 --> 00:07:36.480 I found out at that moment nothing in life is 137 00:07:36.560 --> 00:07:37.639 promised except death. 138 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:44.160 If you have the opportunity to play this game of. 139 00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:49.920 Life, you need to appreciate every moment. A lot of 140 00:07:49.920 --> 00:07:52.839 people don't appreciate that moment until it's passed. 141 00:07:55.879 --> 00:07:59.800 Well, if you can be in a bad mood for 142 00:07:59.800 --> 00:08:02.120 no reason, you might as well be in a good 143 00:08:02.160 --> 00:08:04.399 mood for no reason. If it's not going to change 144 00:08:04.399 --> 00:08:07.560 your life, it shouldn't change your mood. If the cost 145 00:08:07.600 --> 00:08:09.360 is peace of mind, don't buy it. 146 00:08:11.079 --> 00:08:13.839 I'll ever pass up an opportunity to be of encouragement 147 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:16.399 to other people. Don't ever pass up an opportunity to 148 00:08:16.439 --> 00:08:19.519 inspire someone. Who ever pass up an opportunity to empower someone, 149 00:08:19.480 --> 00:08:20.319 Who'll ever pass. 150 00:08:20.199 --> 00:08:22.120 Up an opportunity to show someone love. 151 00:08:22.199 --> 00:08:24.920 Because the thing about it my room, like you can 152 00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:31.160 see this, you can see my arm, my wound is visible, 153 00:08:32.519 --> 00:08:34.200 but it's a lot of people in this room that 154 00:08:34.240 --> 00:08:36.720 are wounded and you can't see it. 155 00:08:37.840 --> 00:08:43.960 And it's in turn, hard work actually works, and with 156 00:08:44.080 --> 00:08:47.039 virtually everything, it might not make you the best at 157 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:50.559 whatever it is you're pursuing, but it will certainly make 158 00:08:50.600 --> 00:08:51.600 you better than you are. 159 00:08:52.840 --> 00:08:55.639 I've found great to fulfillment in the journey of pursuing 160 00:08:55.639 --> 00:08:59.159 my goals than in the moment of achieving them. 161 00:08:59.320 --> 00:09:02.039 So you're true a little special all. You're gonna know 162 00:09:02.200 --> 00:09:04.200 that in good time with it right, and I ain't 163 00:09:04.240 --> 00:09:07.039 gonna come overnight. You're gonna take be take this. You're 164 00:09:07.159 --> 00:09:09.120 to get knocked at. You got to get up and 165 00:09:09.240 --> 00:09:11.399 you're gonna see if you got the right thing. But 166 00:09:12.720 --> 00:09:14.960 you gotta work hard. I short of God. If you're 167 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:17.440 not going to do it, I'm out. 168 00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:22.240 Cany punch you ever throw has been my mom might 169 00:09:22.320 --> 00:09:23.159 showed me how to do this. 170 00:09:25.600 --> 00:09:27.279 I'm ready. 171 00:09:28.159 --> 00:09:31.519 Well, it's to be unyielding, you know, you never give 172 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:32.240 an inch to anything. 173 00:09:32.759 --> 00:09:35.879 Like you're always going after it, always going after, always 174 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:38.000 going after it. And if there's a challenge that ensues, 175 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:40.120 oh good, I want to see how I stack up 176 00:09:40.159 --> 00:09:42.120 to that. So you go after you go after it, 177 00:09:42.320 --> 00:09:44.879 and it's just it's fun. It's like you get a 178 00:09:44.960 --> 00:09:48.399 chance to compete against opponents and you get a chance 179 00:09:48.440 --> 00:09:49.879 to see where you. 180 00:09:49.759 --> 00:09:50.799 Stack up against them. 181 00:09:51.240 --> 00:09:52.159 It's like I want to see you. 182 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:53.799 Maybe I'm not good enough today. 183 00:09:53.919 --> 00:09:56.480 If that that's fine, I'll be good enough the next 184 00:09:56.480 --> 00:09:58.200 time I see you, though, you know, and you get 185 00:09:58.200 --> 00:10:01.519 a chance to always measure yourself. So I guess that's 186 00:10:01.519 --> 00:10:03.120 where relentlessness comes from. 187 00:10:03.320 --> 00:10:06.240 I wanted to read you a quote from twenty thirteen 188 00:10:06.320 --> 00:10:08.080 that you said, I've. 189 00:10:07.919 --> 00:10:09.279 Lost my mind on this game. 190 00:10:09.519 --> 00:10:12.960 Like Vince Ivanka dedicated his life to his art and 191 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:14.639 he lost his mind in the process. 192 00:10:14.799 --> 00:10:15.600 That's happened to me. 193 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:21.440 But that gold belts around my waist. My mother has 194 00:10:21.480 --> 00:10:25.200 a big manager. My girl ran as I did my 195 00:10:25.240 --> 00:10:28.240 car for every day of a week. My kids kids 196 00:10:28.799 --> 00:10:34.039 have everything they ever want. Then I'll pay then ipy, 197 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:34.559 then I'm happy. 198 00:10:34.600 --> 00:10:35.279 I lost last night. 199 00:10:35.399 --> 00:10:35.919 Mind. 200 00:10:36.720 --> 00:10:37.559 How did you get good at this? 201 00:10:40.279 --> 00:10:42.080 Honestly, I made a lot of mistakes. 202 00:10:43.600 --> 00:10:44.360 That's the secret. 203 00:10:44.879 --> 00:10:50.240 Just there might be in I think as I started early, 204 00:10:51.159 --> 00:10:53.440 I got my skill set up really quick, and then 205 00:10:54.639 --> 00:10:56.759 started to feel like I was really the best. You know, 206 00:10:57.320 --> 00:10:59.159 I got all these really good places. I really was 207 00:10:59.200 --> 00:11:02.559 the best cook. And then I started at this really 208 00:11:02.600 --> 00:11:07.480 great place as a comedy and this other chef started 209 00:11:07.600 --> 00:11:12.120 in days and I thought we were competition. 210 00:11:12.840 --> 00:11:16.519 But really we weren't. He was better than me much 211 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:17.360 much better than me. 212 00:11:18.320 --> 00:11:23.320 He worked harder and faster, and it was the first 213 00:11:23.320 --> 00:11:28.559 time I realized that I wasn't the best. So I 214 00:11:28.559 --> 00:11:30.080 started looking at it like it was a good thing, 215 00:11:30.759 --> 00:11:32.240 Like at least I knew who the best was now 216 00:11:32.240 --> 00:11:35.000 and I could take that pressure off myself. And the 217 00:11:35.039 --> 00:11:36.759 onlyological thing to do was to try and keep up 218 00:11:36.799 --> 00:11:40.960 with him. So I never left this guy's side. And 219 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:45.080 you get better, oh mate, I got better than I 220 00:11:45.159 --> 00:11:47.759 ever thought I possibly could be, just trying to keep 221 00:11:47.840 --> 00:11:49.759 up with him. 222 00:11:50.080 --> 00:11:55.960 Never say never, because limits, like fears are often just 223 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:56.320 an n. 224 00:11:56.279 --> 00:12:05.120 Loser because we know that it's not easy. But no pain, 225 00:12:05.559 --> 00:12:09.639 no gain, not even coming from the showing temple worldwide. 226 00:12:09.720 --> 00:12:18.120 Know that sentence. Everything that hurts you find a way 227 00:12:18.240 --> 00:12:25.559 to overcome it. Everything that you feel is difficult for you, 228 00:12:26.879 --> 00:12:28.639 find a way to still do it. 229 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:34.600 There's a choice that we have to make as people, 230 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:36.639 as individuals. If you want to be great at something 231 00:12:36.759 --> 00:12:39.320 is a choice that you have to make. We all 232 00:12:39.399 --> 00:12:43.399 can be masters at our craft, but you have to 233 00:12:43.440 --> 00:12:44.120 make a choice. 234 00:12:44.440 --> 00:12:45.720 What I mean by that is. 235 00:12:47.879 --> 00:12:51.000 Inherent sacrifices that come along with that. I knew that 236 00:12:51.039 --> 00:12:53.840 I was not going to be stopped, you know, set 237 00:12:53.879 --> 00:12:59.240 the age of eighteen. This was my life, right, So 238 00:12:59.399 --> 00:13:03.080 you can't possibly become better than me because you're not 239 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:05.919 spending the time on it that I do. Even if 240 00:13:05.960 --> 00:13:08.320 you want to spend the time when it, you can't 241 00:13:08.600 --> 00:13:11.360 because you have other things, you have other responsibilities that 242 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:14.120 are taking you away from it. 243 00:13:14.159 --> 00:13:15.080 So I already won. 244 00:13:16.159 --> 00:13:18.080 So it's not the car, the house, or whatever. It 245 00:13:18.200 --> 00:13:22.200 is that internal gold, that internal why. And so for me, 246 00:13:22.720 --> 00:13:26.120 I just think that's it like that like you, Ah, 247 00:13:26.159 --> 00:13:28.679 it's just it's something within it. You gotta pull it out. 248 00:13:28.799 --> 00:13:31.440 And so it's easy when you have a why, a purpose. 249 00:13:31.480 --> 00:13:32.919 I'm doing it for this, I'm doing it for that. 250 00:13:33.080 --> 00:13:34.679 It's easy to get up and get going. But it's 251 00:13:34.840 --> 00:13:36.960 just for a car. What happens when you get the 252 00:13:37.000 --> 00:13:39.080 car because you can buy it. What happens when you 253 00:13:39.080 --> 00:13:40.519 get the house and you can buy the house. 254 00:13:41.559 --> 00:13:45.639 Because I think any person, any human, realizes that if 255 00:13:45.639 --> 00:13:47.840 you want some kind of a good outcome, you're going 256 00:13:47.879 --> 00:13:49.600 to have to work hard for it. 257 00:13:49.919 --> 00:13:51.279 And if you then, if you. 258 00:13:51.279 --> 00:13:53.480 Don't work hard for something, you're not going to get 259 00:13:53.519 --> 00:13:57.639 an outcome that's really worth much. There's things that you 260 00:13:57.639 --> 00:13:59.960 can control, there's things you can't control. Now, I will 261 00:14:00.000 --> 00:14:02.799 tell you that human beings can control a lot more 262 00:14:02.879 --> 00:14:07.080 than they think they can. And oftentimes it's pretty easy 263 00:14:07.159 --> 00:14:09.240 just to say, oh, that's not me, that's not on me. 264 00:14:09.399 --> 00:14:13.120 And I think that's the whole genesis of the idea 265 00:14:13.159 --> 00:14:16.159 of extreme ownership is most of the time or much 266 00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:17.879 of the time, people say. 267 00:14:17.679 --> 00:14:18.399 That's not my fault. 268 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:22.000 There's nothing I can do about that, And more often 269 00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:24.320 than people think, there is something you can do about it, 270 00:14:25.320 --> 00:14:26.159 and it is your fault. 271 00:14:27.120 --> 00:14:30.639 It's normal to not know what you're doing. If you did, 272 00:14:31.240 --> 00:14:34.799 it wouldn't be called growth. High five your fear, uncertainty 273 00:14:34.799 --> 00:14:39.639 and doubt and carry on. Do you get tired, stressed, sad, hungry, 274 00:14:39.720 --> 00:14:44.679 frustrated and focused? Do you feel misunderstood? Great, you're human. 275 00:14:45.399 --> 00:14:46.320 You don't need medication. 276 00:14:47.720 --> 00:14:48.879 It is hard. 277 00:14:50.279 --> 00:14:53.120 It's hard when you're young to wake up in the 278 00:14:53.159 --> 00:14:56.039 off season at six am to go train and work out, 279 00:14:56.360 --> 00:14:59.440 knowing that all your friends are sleeping in and eating pancakes. 280 00:15:00.120 --> 00:15:03.360 It's hard when you're on your way to practice way 281 00:15:03.480 --> 00:15:06.320 down with all your gear and it's ninety degrees out 282 00:15:06.360 --> 00:15:08.120 and all the other kids are at the pool or 283 00:15:08.120 --> 00:15:11.720 at the beach, and your body is already completely exhausted 284 00:15:12.039 --> 00:15:13.639 for workouts in two a days. 285 00:15:14.960 --> 00:15:16.279 It's hard to throw. 286 00:15:16.279 --> 00:15:19.919 Catch, block, and tackle and hit kids when they're way bigger, 287 00:15:20.240 --> 00:15:22.879 it's way more developed than you. Only to go home 288 00:15:22.919 --> 00:15:25.879 that night bruised and battered and straight, but no one. 289 00:15:25.960 --> 00:15:28.200 You have to show up again the next day for 290 00:15:28.679 --> 00:15:30.720 just the chance to try again. 291 00:15:31.519 --> 00:15:34.600 But understand, this life is hard. 292 00:15:37.320 --> 00:15:40.679 You're not good enough. If you quit, you're gonna quit 293 00:15:40.759 --> 00:15:43.519 everything hard in your life. And that's a big problem 294 00:15:43.559 --> 00:15:44.399 for you. 295 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:47.679 People delay doing things that they don't like for longer 296 00:15:47.799 --> 00:15:49.600 than it takes to do them. 297 00:15:49.879 --> 00:15:51.440 Yeah, we need to be reminded more than we need 298 00:15:51.480 --> 00:15:51.960 to be taught. 299 00:15:52.919 --> 00:15:57.039 Bad things don't come in threes. Bad things happen. People 300 00:15:57.080 --> 00:15:59.480 don't know how to cope, and they allow one bad 301 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:02.759 thing to no ball into more bad stuff. Sucks. The 302 00:16:02.799 --> 00:16:06.200 only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many 303 00:16:06.240 --> 00:16:06.759 good things. 304 00:16:07.159 --> 00:16:09.000 So when I was growing up for like three years, 305 00:16:09.480 --> 00:16:11.240 so from time I was eight to time I was 306 00:16:11.240 --> 00:16:14.279 like twelve, we live in a seven dollars a month place. 307 00:16:14.960 --> 00:16:17.279 And what I call it is I'm always paying rent 308 00:16:17.879 --> 00:16:19.480 in that seven dollars a month home. 309 00:16:20.120 --> 00:16:22.720 Every day of my life. I go back and revisit 310 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:23.159 that place. 311 00:16:23.679 --> 00:16:27.679 That place made me this garanimal, that place made me 312 00:16:27.759 --> 00:16:28.559 this hard man. 313 00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:31.159 And then from that place, so that place. 314 00:16:31.000 --> 00:16:31.639 Is hard work. 315 00:16:32.480 --> 00:16:35.000 That place is going back to the fundamentals of life, 316 00:16:35.480 --> 00:16:38.440 the fundamentals what made David Gagas David Gagas, going back 317 00:16:38.480 --> 00:16:40.639 in there, going back to the going back to the 318 00:16:40.679 --> 00:16:43.960 library of David Gaggins, studying even more than what I know, 319 00:16:44.480 --> 00:16:46.799 taking that out, going back to where I'm at now, 320 00:16:46.919 --> 00:16:47.840 and then moving forward. 321 00:16:48.480 --> 00:16:53.559 Difficult things make regular life less difficult because regular life 322 00:16:53.559 --> 00:16:56.960 can be confusing, and little things that go wrong and 323 00:16:57.039 --> 00:17:00.399 little problems that arise are exacerbated by the fact that 324 00:17:00.399 --> 00:17:02.480 you're not accustomed to dealing with hardship. 325 00:17:02.840 --> 00:17:04.599 But it was still a kid with a dream, and 326 00:17:04.640 --> 00:17:08.119 I believe in himself, and for many times I was laughed. 327 00:17:08.160 --> 00:17:11.200 I not believed in But you know what, nothing external 328 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:14.680 can defeat the internal. The only thing that can take 329 00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:16.400 someone down and break you down is internal. 330 00:17:16.680 --> 00:17:18.279 Nothing external is strong enough. 331 00:17:18.400 --> 00:17:21.000 It's just about making sure your internal dialogue and your 332 00:17:21.000 --> 00:17:23.200 internal belief in yourself is strong enough that it can 333 00:17:23.200 --> 00:17:26.599 withstand the external. The external is there, you've got to 334 00:17:26.680 --> 00:17:28.440 accept it, You've got to embrace it. You've got to 335 00:17:28.480 --> 00:17:30.759 understand it and be aware of it, but don't let 336 00:17:30.759 --> 00:17:33.920 it seep into you, into your internal dialogue. 337 00:17:34.920 --> 00:17:37.680 I think the more, at least for me, the more 338 00:17:37.720 --> 00:17:40.400 I've tried to create space between how I feel and 339 00:17:40.599 --> 00:17:44.400 what I do, the more consistent my outcomes have been. 340 00:17:46.519 --> 00:17:52.039 Embrace the process, you say, Dinge Walt, process life, life, 341 00:17:53.400 --> 00:17:58.480 Embrace the journey and the process of life. You only 342 00:17:58.480 --> 00:17:59.440 get stronger. 343 00:17:59.160 --> 00:18:00.440 Hiken by going on appeal. 344 00:18:01.839 --> 00:18:04.680 Nobody gets stronger Hiking by just going downhill. 345 00:18:05.519 --> 00:18:07.240 Because you're probably in the bed right now. 346 00:18:07.640 --> 00:18:08.920 You're probably an underachiever. 347 00:18:09.640 --> 00:18:13.640 You're probably somebody who doesn't want to do anything. 348 00:18:13.240 --> 00:18:14.440 With your life. 349 00:18:14.680 --> 00:18:17.920 People should stop complaining right. People should figure out. 350 00:18:17.799 --> 00:18:18.680 Who the fuck they are. 351 00:18:19.440 --> 00:18:23.160 People should not listen to America propaganda of fixing the 352 00:18:23.160 --> 00:18:25.440 shit they suck at. They should be tripling down at 353 00:18:25.440 --> 00:18:29.279 what they're good at. They should be competent in certain areas. 354 00:18:29.480 --> 00:18:33.440 But you're not gonna become Beyonce or you know, like 355 00:18:33.640 --> 00:18:36.400 your bone structure is a certain way, Like you're not 356 00:18:36.440 --> 00:18:39.680 gonna solve everything. You're iq can get a little bit better, 357 00:18:39.680 --> 00:18:41.319 but don't worry about the incremental. 358 00:18:41.680 --> 00:18:43.839 Figure out what you put you on fire. 359 00:18:44.119 --> 00:18:46.480 And you're halfway decent at if you're lucky enough right 360 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:49.799 now to be listening, and you're good at what you like, 361 00:18:50.599 --> 00:18:54.880 become tunnel vision because there's way too many voices telling 362 00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:58.160 you what and how. The reason most people who are 363 00:18:58.160 --> 00:19:01.319 listening right now are not doing that thing is they're worried. 364 00:19:01.000 --> 00:19:02.359 About the opinion of somebody. 365 00:19:03.039 --> 00:19:05.559 And the reality is, we have to get to a 366 00:19:05.599 --> 00:19:08.880 place where you're doing you because the number one thing 367 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:09.720 that scares. 368 00:19:09.400 --> 00:19:10.680 The fight out of me is regret. 369 00:19:11.720 --> 00:19:15.720 The Lonely chapter describes a time in which you're growing, 370 00:19:16.039 --> 00:19:20.319 you're changing as a person, and you're now so different 371 00:19:20.359 --> 00:19:22.319 that you can no longer resonate with your old set 372 00:19:22.319 --> 00:19:25.680 of friends, but you're not sufficiently developed that you've got 373 00:19:25.720 --> 00:19:27.799 the new set of friends that you're going to grow into. 374 00:19:28.160 --> 00:19:30.160 And this is the lonely chapter. And the problem with 375 00:19:30.200 --> 00:19:35.079 it is that you're always the desire to sort of 376 00:19:35.119 --> 00:19:36.920 regress back to where you are is always going to 377 00:19:36.960 --> 00:19:39.039 be there, and you're going to have You're going to 378 00:19:39.039 --> 00:19:42.160 have uncertainty. There's not even the promise of glory or 379 00:19:42.200 --> 00:19:45.240 success or triumph when you get through the other side. 380 00:19:45.240 --> 00:19:47.799 What am I pushing toward? You know, you're telling me 381 00:19:47.839 --> 00:19:49.559 that I'm not going to go out on this night 382 00:19:49.559 --> 00:19:51.640 out with my friends, which I've done for the last 383 00:19:51.640 --> 00:19:53.200 five years or ten years in the town that I 384 00:19:53.240 --> 00:19:54.920 grew up in or went to university in or whatever. 385 00:19:55.200 --> 00:19:56.400 Are you telling me that I'm not going to do 386 00:19:56.480 --> 00:19:58.200 that because I'm going to get up and I'm going 387 00:19:58.240 --> 00:20:01.960 to meditate or re Who even knows if meditation works? Right? 388 00:20:02.000 --> 00:20:03.880 Like you go, all of these questions in your mind 389 00:20:03.960 --> 00:20:06.920 and all of your friends and all of the dynamics 390 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:10.920 and the temptations pull you back toward that. It pulls 391 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:17.119 you back toward the old version of life. Just lock 392 00:20:17.200 --> 00:20:18.640 on me for six months. 393 00:20:19.000 --> 00:20:21.680 Please, I really want you to be great. 394 00:20:22.039 --> 00:20:26.559 You got me, I got you, We all we got you. 395 00:20:26.559 --> 00:20:27.240 See what happens. 396 00:20:28.839 --> 00:20:31.759 It's so easy to clear, bro, that's what everyone's doing, 397 00:20:32.400 --> 00:20:33.960 and we're not trying to be like everybody else. 398 00:20:35.000 --> 00:20:37.240 Can't progress in life without progressing. 399 00:20:37.960 --> 00:20:38.880 Let it go over your head. 400 00:20:39.160 --> 00:20:41.160 You can't progress in the grand scheme of life if 401 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:43.720