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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction. How do I know this because

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we live it. We live it every day. You just

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haven't admitted it to yourself that you've got to have

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someone else's creativity in order to feel like you're surviving,

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or you need your own in order to breathe unplugged

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because we will always say yes to creativity totally uncut

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because we all make mistakes. So turn it into a tool.

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This is errow unplugged. It's aero and this is dfrag.

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Asking the questions and then questioning the answers. Taking the

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physical opportunity to figure out who, what, where, why, when,

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and how you are are becoming, will become and more importantly,

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how did it even happen? Asking the questions and then

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questioning the answers. This is dfrag.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I do defragging in so many different shapes and forms.

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I have a defrag journal that I keep every day,

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and the reason for that is because I'm constantly asking

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questions or things will happen, and I like to just

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break things down. You should see me with the musicians

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that I talk to. When I go in there, I

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look at their song lyrics that I break them down.

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Sometimes they get a little offended by that because they

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want me to have my own interpretation and not for

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them to tell me what is happening and why that

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song happened to come into play. In fact, I was

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with these guys the other day and what was pretty

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funny is I said, tell me one thing, you guys,

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aren't that band that can write a song in twenty

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minutes and you expect it to be a hit. And

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they kind of laugh that off by admitting, yeah, yeah,

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that's that's happened. And it's like, how does it happen?

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And so I ask questions and then I question their answers.

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That's what defragging is all about. So I keep a

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defragged journal, a handwritten journal, and I do go back

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and study it. It is for the future person the few.

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It could be me, it could be anybody. But you

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learn from these different lessons in life. Is what you

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do when you defrag. And the other way that I

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do it is I do it here vocally because because

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I talk with so many people of the creative line

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of life, they go, why hasn't somebody shown me how

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to become a defragger? And that's what this was about.

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I kept asking myself as the writer. Why why why

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are you keeping this to yourself? What's wrong with you?

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And so I had to figure out ways that we

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could have conversations. The majority of the time when we

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defrag here, I'm usually out on what's called a transition walks.

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We all go through transitions throughout our day, from who

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we are in the morning to where we are when

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we have to go to work and blah blah blah.

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But we go through transitions. But one of the things

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that we have never been trained to do is to

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study the transitions, is to learn from the transitions. Because

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you're transitioning, you're being given energy from the universe and

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you're becoming something and you've got to learn how to

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speak with it or basically just listen to it. And

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so that's what the transition walk is all about. But

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I don't get one of those today. The reason why

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is because of the multiple layers of things that are

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expected of me. I am traveling to another city right

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now to do a movie premiere, and by the time

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this gets on the gets on the air, the movie's already.

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Speaker 2: Gonna be out. So I'm going to ant man. I

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can talk.

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Speaker 1: About that because you're not gonna hear this until four

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or five weeks after it's been recorded, but that means

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getting there.

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Speaker 2: Really super early.

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Speaker 1: And before that, before the premiere, I'm gonna be sitting

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down with Scott Bayo. Do you remember Scott Bayo. Yeah,

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I'm gonna be talking with him. And the subject today

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is is animal rescue. We've rescued nine dogs and and

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with with Jazzy and and and Sammy and Sophia and

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the Maltese. It's just a great journey, is what it is.

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And so Scott and I are gonna sit down, We're

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gonna have a conversation about the importance of rescuing animals.

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And that's gonna happen before I do the movie premiere,

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and then I have to go off and do my stuff,

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you know at cs so's.

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Speaker 2: It's it's a crazy day.

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Speaker 1: So but I want to put the subject on something

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here that's that really was created because of what I'm

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doing today, because of the tremendous amount of transitions that

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are expected today from waking up after three days of

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unforgettable camping to what I have to go back to

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the real world. Why why this is stupid? Why do

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I do this to myself. Well, that's one person that

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I am to. Now I have to be the writer,

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and now I've got to go off and do CS

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sometime today. And a co worker says, well, I hope

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you make it. And I said, all I was doing

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was sending you a text message to let you know

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that I'm going to be coming in there and it

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might be a couple of minutes late because I'm in

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a different town, but I'm still going to be there. Well,

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I hope you make it. He gave me attitude. I

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don't like that. I don't like that at all. That's

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me is a wall. So the way that I handled

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that by defragging was I actually put this inside my heart.

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Every day every day you me, your parents, your friends, everybody,

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the mayor of your city, the president of the United States.

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We all face walls. We also face windows and there

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are doors. My question to you is, as we defrag this,

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remember ask the questions, question the answers. Where do you

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find the most solitude being next to the wall, standing

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in the window, or going out that door. It's a

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tough place to hang because there's a lot of expectations

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waiting for you outside that door. But at the same time,

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when you're standing in front of that window, Oh yeah,

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oh yeah, you're expecting things out there to come to you,

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and by god, you better see them before they hit you.

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As for the wall, the great mystery man, the great mystery.

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You don't know what's on the other side of that wall,

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and sometimes it just consumes every thought that you're trying

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to build. But the thing is, though, is that's where

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I find my biggest comfort because I don't have to worry.

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I know that I'm in front of this wall, and

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this wall was built to protect me. But what am

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I going to do sit here all day and do nothing? No,

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I've got I know, I've got to get to the

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rays of light that are coming through the window. What

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are you going to do with the rays of light?

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Speaker 2: You see what I mean?

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Speaker 1: You start breaking things down and you start realizing that, Okay,

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there are so many different levels of transition, but how

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am I going to participate with any of them if

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we're growing forward? That's the whole idea, is that I

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spend so much time with people who do nothing but

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live in a past that has been written and rewritten

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and rewritten over and over again. And it's like when

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do you participate with what's going on in your right now? Well,

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I don't know how to do that. You know, that's tough.

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That's like somebody who has lost a tremendous amount of weight.

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They're looking good, they're feeling good, they're very active, and

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then it comes back and you ask them, are you

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going to lose it again? No, it was too hard. Well,

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you know what, So is life, and so are the walls,

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the windows, and the doors. Now you might ask why

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didn't you pick the door and go out the door. Well,

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there's a reason why you think that being behind that

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wall is the great mystery. Outside that door is even

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a greater mystery because you don't know what other people's

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expectations are going to be for you. What are you

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going to have to sacrifice once you go outside that door?

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What are you going to do now? I like to outreach.

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I like to go out and I like to share

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things to help people grow forward, to discover new things

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about themselves and about you know, just basically just becoming

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a better leader in a place of business and or

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even as a future broadcaster.

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Speaker 2: I like that.

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Speaker 1: But then what happens is is that when you share

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and you share too much. Those takers are sucking the

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life right out of you, and you're going, hey, I

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gotta breathe. And then you have another taker, and then

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another taker and another taker, and you're going, I.

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Speaker 2: Really can't breathe. How am I going to do this?

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Speaker 1: So you do everything you can to get back through

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that door, so you can hide behind that wall, and

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while you're panting and you're trying to get your blood

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pressure under control, then you're going, I ain't going out

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there anymore. But you have to because you're an outreacher,

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you're a sharer, and so that's when you break things

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down with your d frag and you know you do.

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Speaker 2: You you don't have to say, hey, God, what's the problem?

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Speaker 1: You can say, you know, I was out there in

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the universe and something bit me. I don't know what

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was out there in that universe that bit me, but

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it bit me hard. And so you find yourself in

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a place of asking those questions and you break it

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down and you listen to it, and as you're listening

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to it, you learn it may not be a thing

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that happens like in the right now, but that answer

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is on its way. I'm gonna give you a good example,

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and this might push some people away. For two weeks,

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I was having unbelievable challenges inside my studio.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't working.

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Speaker 1: Modern day technology was not communicating with my studio equipment.

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And for two weeks I thought I could fix it.

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I thought, I've got this. I know, I'll try this.

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I know I'll call a friend. That friend will give

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me an idea. I'll fix it. I'll fix it. I'll

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fix it. Didn't work for two weeks, and then finally

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in my defrag journal, I literally said, I have to

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give this to God. And it's there, the handwriting is

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right there, and it was done so at about eleven

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Speaker 2: I have to give this to God. Well, here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: At five twenty five or so the next morning, I

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opened my eyes while dreaming because I said something phone adapter.

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I never even thought about a phone adapter. Because I

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cleared my mind of okay, this is no longer in

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my hands. I relieved myself from the duties of trying

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to keep that control board in order. I gave it

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to a higher power and said, you fix it. And

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there was the answer at five thirty in the morning,

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right there, and has it worked. Yeah, yeah, it worked,

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breaking it down, letting go of a lot of things

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that you think that you're in control of, standing next

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to that wall, fighting that wall, trying to get through

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that wall, when the window has always been over there,

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and so is the door. And on that particular day

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when I gave it to God, I walked through that

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door and I said, I can't do it. I've called

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on friends. They couldn't help me. I can't go out

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and buy a brand new control board. That's just not

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my thing. Right now, I know I can fix this.

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I'm going to give it to God. And it happened.

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It works, and now we're back to communicating again in

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ways that are better than what I had before. But

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why was I up against that wall? What was blocking

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me from getting a simple phone adapter? Who would have

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ever thought I even called the phone company. They didn't

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say anything about a phone adapter. They didn't even offer

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me such an idea. They literally said, well, we've got

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motor on the phone right now with us, and they

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don't know.

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Speaker 2: They don't know.

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Speaker 1: So I had the wall, I had the window, and

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I had the door, and neither of them. We're serving

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the situation until I let it go. I knew I

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was no longer in control. Didn't make me a quitter.

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But what it did was it made me a listener.

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And in the process of becoming a listener, then you

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start seeing things through other ways of learning. Question the answers,

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Question everything that you do. It is not being a

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harsh parent. You're not being evil against yourself. What you're

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doing is you're growing with yourself. I marrow and that's

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