Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction. How do I know this because
we live it. We live it every day. You just
haven't admitted it to yourself that you've got to have
someone else's creativity in order to feel like you're surviving,
or you need your own in order to breathe unplugged
because we will always say yes to creativity totally uncut
because we all make mistakes. So turn it into a tool.
This is errow unplugged. It's aero and this is dfrag.
Asking the questions and then questioning the answers. Taking the
physical opportunity to figure out who, what, where, why, when,
and how you are are becoming, will become and more importantly,
how did it even happen? Asking the questions and then
questioning the answers. This is dfrag.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: I do defragging in so many different shapes and forms.
I have a defrag journal that I keep every day,
and the reason for that is because I'm constantly asking
questions or things will happen, and I like to just
break things down. You should see me with the musicians
that I talk to. When I go in there, I
look at their song lyrics that I break them down.
Sometimes they get a little offended by that because they
want me to have my own interpretation and not for
them to tell me what is happening and why that
song happened to come into play. In fact, I was
with these guys the other day and what was pretty
funny is I said, tell me one thing, you guys,
aren't that band that can write a song in twenty
minutes and you expect it to be a hit. And
they kind of laugh that off by admitting, yeah, yeah,
that's that's happened. And it's like, how does it happen?
And so I ask questions and then I question their answers.
That's what defragging is all about. So I keep a
defragged journal, a handwritten journal, and I do go back
and study it. It is for the future person the few.
It could be me, it could be anybody. But you
learn from these different lessons in life. Is what you
do when you defrag. And the other way that I
do it is I do it here vocally because because
I talk with so many people of the creative line
of life, they go, why hasn't somebody shown me how
to become a defragger? And that's what this was about.
I kept asking myself as the writer. Why why why
are you keeping this to yourself? What's wrong with you?
And so I had to figure out ways that we
could have conversations. The majority of the time when we
defrag here, I'm usually out on what's called a transition walks.
We all go through transitions throughout our day, from who
we are in the morning to where we are when
we have to go to work and blah blah blah.
But we go through transitions. But one of the things
that we have never been trained to do is to
study the transitions, is to learn from the transitions. Because
you're transitioning, you're being given energy from the universe and
you're becoming something and you've got to learn how to
speak with it or basically just listen to it. And
so that's what the transition walk is all about. But
I don't get one of those today. The reason why
is because of the multiple layers of things that are
expected of me. I am traveling to another city right
now to do a movie premiere, and by the time
this gets on the gets on the air, the movie's already.
Speaker 2: Gonna be out. So I'm going to ant man. I
can talk.
Speaker 1: About that because you're not gonna hear this until four
or five weeks after it's been recorded, but that means
getting there.
Speaker 2: Really super early.
Speaker 1: And before that, before the premiere, I'm gonna be sitting
down with Scott Bayo. Do you remember Scott Bayo. Yeah,
I'm gonna be talking with him. And the subject today
is is animal rescue. We've rescued nine dogs and and
with with Jazzy and and and Sammy and Sophia and
the Maltese. It's just a great journey, is what it is.
And so Scott and I are gonna sit down, We're
gonna have a conversation about the importance of rescuing animals.
And that's gonna happen before I do the movie premiere,
and then I have to go off and do my stuff,
you know at cs so's.
Speaker 2: It's it's a crazy day.
Speaker 1: So but I want to put the subject on something
here that's that really was created because of what I'm
doing today, because of the tremendous amount of transitions that
are expected today from waking up after three days of
unforgettable camping to what I have to go back to
the real world. Why why this is stupid? Why do
I do this to myself. Well, that's one person that
I am to. Now I have to be the writer,
and now I've got to go off and do CS
sometime today. And a co worker says, well, I hope
you make it. And I said, all I was doing
was sending you a text message to let you know
that I'm going to be coming in there and it
might be a couple of minutes late because I'm in
a different town, but I'm still going to be there. Well,
I hope you make it. He gave me attitude. I
don't like that. I don't like that at all. That's
me is a wall. So the way that I handled
that by defragging was I actually put this inside my heart.
Every day every day you me, your parents, your friends, everybody,
the mayor of your city, the president of the United States.
We all face walls. We also face windows and there
are doors. My question to you is, as we defrag this,
remember ask the questions, question the answers. Where do you
find the most solitude being next to the wall, standing
in the window, or going out that door. It's a
tough place to hang because there's a lot of expectations
waiting for you outside that door. But at the same time,
when you're standing in front of that window, Oh yeah,
oh yeah, you're expecting things out there to come to you,
and by god, you better see them before they hit you.
As for the wall, the great mystery man, the great mystery.
You don't know what's on the other side of that wall,
and sometimes it just consumes every thought that you're trying
to build. But the thing is, though, is that's where
I find my biggest comfort because I don't have to worry.
I know that I'm in front of this wall, and
this wall was built to protect me. But what am
I going to do sit here all day and do nothing? No,
I've got I know, I've got to get to the
rays of light that are coming through the window. What
are you going to do with the rays of light?
Speaker 2: You see what I mean?
Speaker 1: You start breaking things down and you start realizing that, Okay,
there are so many different levels of transition, but how
am I going to participate with any of them if
we're growing forward? That's the whole idea, is that I
spend so much time with people who do nothing but
live in a past that has been written and rewritten
and rewritten over and over again. And it's like when
do you participate with what's going on in your right now? Well,
I don't know how to do that. You know, that's tough.
That's like somebody who has lost a tremendous amount of weight.
They're looking good, they're feeling good, they're very active, and
then it comes back and you ask them, are you
going to lose it again? No, it was too hard. Well,
you know what, So is life, and so are the walls,
the windows, and the doors. Now you might ask why
didn't you pick the door and go out the door. Well,
there's a reason why you think that being behind that
wall is the great mystery. Outside that door is even
a greater mystery because you don't know what other people's
expectations are going to be for you. What are you
going to have to sacrifice once you go outside that door?
What are you going to do now? I like to outreach.
I like to go out and I like to share
things to help people grow forward, to discover new things
about themselves and about you know, just basically just becoming
a better leader in a place of business and or
even as a future broadcaster.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: But then what happens is is that when you share
and you share too much. Those takers are sucking the
life right out of you, and you're going, hey, I
gotta breathe. And then you have another taker, and then
another taker and another taker, and you're going, I.
Speaker 2: Really can't breathe. How am I going to do this?
Speaker 1: So you do everything you can to get back through
that door, so you can hide behind that wall, and
while you're panting and you're trying to get your blood
pressure under control, then you're going, I ain't going out
there anymore. But you have to because you're an outreacher,
you're a sharer, and so that's when you break things
down with your d frag and you know you do.
Speaker 2: You you don't have to say, hey, God, what's the problem?
Speaker 1: You can say, you know, I was out there in
the universe and something bit me. I don't know what
was out there in that universe that bit me, but
it bit me hard. And so you find yourself in
a place of asking those questions and you break it
down and you listen to it, and as you're listening
to it, you learn it may not be a thing
that happens like in the right now, but that answer
is on its way. I'm gonna give you a good example,
and this might push some people away. For two weeks,
I was having unbelievable challenges inside my studio.
Speaker 2: It wasn't working.
Speaker 1: Modern day technology was not communicating with my studio equipment.
And for two weeks I thought I could fix it.
I thought, I've got this. I know, I'll try this.
I know I'll call a friend. That friend will give
me an idea. I'll fix it. I'll fix it. I'll
fix it. Didn't work for two weeks, and then finally
in my defrag journal, I literally said, I have to
give this to God. And it's there, the handwriting is
right there, and it was done so at about eleven
o'clock at night.
Speaker 2: I have to give this to God. Well, here's the thing.
Speaker 1: At five twenty five or so the next morning, I
opened my eyes while dreaming because I said something phone adapter.
I never even thought about a phone adapter. Because I
cleared my mind of okay, this is no longer in
my hands. I relieved myself from the duties of trying
to keep that control board in order. I gave it
to a higher power and said, you fix it. And
there was the answer at five thirty in the morning,
right there, and has it worked. Yeah, yeah, it worked,
breaking it down, letting go of a lot of things
that you think that you're in control of, standing next
to that wall, fighting that wall, trying to get through
that wall, when the window has always been over there,
and so is the door. And on that particular day
when I gave it to God, I walked through that
door and I said, I can't do it. I've called
on friends. They couldn't help me. I can't go out
and buy a brand new control board. That's just not
my thing. Right now, I know I can fix this.
I'm going to give it to God. And it happened.
It works, and now we're back to communicating again in
ways that are better than what I had before. But
why was I up against that wall? What was blocking
me from getting a simple phone adapter? Who would have
ever thought I even called the phone company. They didn't
say anything about a phone adapter. They didn't even offer
me such an idea. They literally said, well, we've got
motor on the phone right now with us, and they
don't know.
Speaker 2: They don't know.
Speaker 1: So I had the wall, I had the window, and
I had the door, and neither of them. We're serving
the situation until I let it go. I knew I
was no longer in control. Didn't make me a quitter.
But what it did was it made me a listener.
And in the process of becoming a listener, then you
start seeing things through other ways of learning. Question the answers,
Question everything that you do. It is not being a
harsh parent. You're not being evil against yourself. What you're
doing is you're growing with yourself. I marrow and that's
Steve frank