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<v Speaker 1>Episode with two stories.

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<v Speaker 2>First part, I hope you enjoy this story. Father and

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<v Speaker 2>siblings phone me at the dinner table for donning a

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<v Speaker 2>brief dress my mother gave me. Then my father tore

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<v Speaker 2>apart all my garments. As I wept in, my siblings

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<v Speaker 2>surpassed me of sleeping with my male friend. Hi. I

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<v Speaker 2>never thought I'd be writing here. The people involved are

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<v Speaker 2>me sixteen F, my dad fifty nine M, my two

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<v Speaker 2>older brothers twenty two M, their twins by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>and my twin brother sixteen M. As you can imagine,

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<v Speaker 2>dealing with two sets of twins can be well stressful.

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<v Speaker 2>And I understand my father and that my mother is

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<v Speaker 2>a way working. She usually comes once a year or month,

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<v Speaker 2>but I haven't seen her much since I turned fourteen.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes she sends some stuff to me and my brothers.

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<v Speaker 2>The relationship with my brothers is well complicated. I'm the

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<v Speaker 2>only woman among all of them, so it was already

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<v Speaker 2>difficult to connect with them. I only connect a little

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<v Speaker 2>with my brother Andrew Faith twenty two years old, since

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<v Speaker 2>we both like Greek mythology and stuff like that. But

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<v Speaker 2>here the problem is with my twin brother and my father.

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<v Speaker 2>You see these last few days. Where I live, the

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<v Speaker 2>weather seems to have a life of its own, sometimes hot,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes cold, et cetera. So to day I woke up

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<v Speaker 2>to unbearable heat. I had planned to go to one

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<v Speaker 2>of those markets that sell everything to look for some

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<v Speaker 2>stuffed animals from a series that I like. I dressed

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<v Speaker 2>in a shirt, some sneakers, and decided to wear a

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<v Speaker 2>skirt to have my legs freer. The skirt was short,

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<v Speaker 2>almost four fingers above my knees, and that was the

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<v Speaker 2>problem for my father. He immediately told me that the

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<v Speaker 2>skirt was not appropriate and that I should change immediately.

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<v Speaker 2>He knew I was coming out. I say this to clarify.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him what the problem was with this skirt,

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<v Speaker 2>since it was literally a piece of clothing that my

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<v Speaker 2>mother sent me from the country where she works. He

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<v Speaker 2>didn't say anything to me. He just told me that

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<v Speaker 2>either I changed into pants or I wouldn't go out.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't even speak. When my twin brother joined the conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>My father told him everything. I guess looking for support,

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<v Speaker 2>and my brother, like the idiot he is, look me

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<v Speaker 2>up and down and said, you look like an s

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<v Speaker 2>l hash tea. In that skirt. I got angry about that,

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<v Speaker 2>and out of rage, I took off a shoe and

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<v Speaker 2>hit him with it. But it got worse because my

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<v Speaker 2>dad agreed with him. Yes, he said, if your brother

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<v Speaker 2>thinks like that, what do you think the others will think?

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<v Speaker 2>To top it all off, he called two older brothers

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<v Speaker 2>and they also supported him. I ended up locking myself

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<v Speaker 2>in my room. I looked at the skirt and I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't see anything wrong with it. I looked at it

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<v Speaker 2>for hours until I simply gave up on my plans

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<v Speaker 2>to go out. That was practically two weeks ago. Since

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<v Speaker 2>that day, I don't speak to them unless it's important.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom texted me today asking why do I give

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<v Speaker 2>my dad and brothers the silent treatment, and that my

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<v Speaker 2>dad feels bad about it. I didn't send a response,

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<v Speaker 2>so I would appreciate it if you could give me

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<v Speaker 2>some advice so I can answer my mom and explain

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<v Speaker 2>all of this to her. I consulted with some friends.

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<v Speaker 2>While some friends, both men and women, told me that

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<v Speaker 2>my dad went too far by not defending me from

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<v Speaker 2>my brother's comment, two friends told me that I was

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<v Speaker 2>exaggerating because of my brother's comment and that instead of

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<v Speaker 2>complaining I should take it as advice, so read it.

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<v Speaker 2>Ada update one. Hello everyone, I'm calmer now so I

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<v Speaker 2>can give you an update. Also, I'm going to eat

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<v Speaker 2>in a few moments, so I thought i'd leave this

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<v Speaker 2>here before I start. Thank you all for leaving your comments,

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<v Speaker 2>and to the two people who spoke to me privately.

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<v Speaker 2>It means a lot to me. I'm going to summarize

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<v Speaker 2>the call with my mom. She was furious and asked

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<v Speaker 2>me for photos of the clothes I wore, and also

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<v Speaker 2>asked for a photo of me wearing them. And well,

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<v Speaker 2>for the few who managed to read my previous post

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<v Speaker 2>before I deleted it, I stayed at my friend's house

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<v Speaker 2>after my dad put on a show and tore all

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<v Speaker 2>my clothes. I was lucky my phone didn't hang up

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<v Speaker 2>when my dad walked in like crazy, because my mom

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<v Speaker 2>heard the whole thing and recorded it. So coming to

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<v Speaker 2>the present, my mom called my friend's mom asking her

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<v Speaker 2>to take me to see my dad at a cafe

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<v Speaker 2>for breakfast. I'll be honest, it scared me after remembering

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<v Speaker 2>what happened the night before in my father's previous behavior,

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like I didn't recognize him. Something I forgot

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<v Speaker 2>to mention is that he rarely acts like this. I

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<v Speaker 2>have seen him angry with other people, but never with

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<v Speaker 2>my brothers or me. We went to a little cafe

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<v Speaker 2>where my mother used to frequent before leaving, and there

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<v Speaker 2>I found my father. It seemed like he had cried

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<v Speaker 2>for hours, as if he hadn't slept. We talked for

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<v Speaker 2>a while, and he apologized not only for the b

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<v Speaker 2>H t H thing, but also for not stopping my

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<v Speaker 2>brothers and also for ripping my clothes. I asked him

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<v Speaker 2>for an explanation, since he hadn't even given me one

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<v Speaker 2>one about the skirt. He looked down and said he

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<v Speaker 2>thought that if his words and those of my brothers

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<v Speaker 2>affected him, he was going to change my clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>W t F.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that was my reaction, not in words, but in feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>I told him that it did affect me, but not

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<v Speaker 2>just the clothes, but the fact that I allowed my

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<v Speaker 2>my brothers to call me a bitch behind my back

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<v Speaker 2>and make fun of it. He started to cry. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>be honest, I didn't understand why I read a lot

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<v Speaker 2>here about crocodile tears and emotional manipulation. He said he

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<v Speaker 2>was sorry that he never wanted me to get to

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<v Speaker 2>this point, that he didn't know how to handle the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that I was growing up and that he didn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to lose me. The conversation led to nothing, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still at my friend's house. In the case of

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<v Speaker 2>my brothers, none of them have spoken to me. My

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<v Speaker 2>mom left me a message before she left for work

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<v Speaker 2>telling me that she had already spoken to my brothers

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<v Speaker 2>and my dad. The good news to liven this up

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<v Speaker 2>is that my friend got me another plush toy for

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<v Speaker 2>my collection, one of Shadow the Hedgehog. For now, everything

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<v Speaker 2>has stayed like this, me at my friend's house and

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<v Speaker 2>my dad with my brothers. I feel like there's something

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<v Speaker 2>else my dad didn't tell me. I mean, like I mentioned,

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<v Speaker 2>he never acted like that before, or maybe I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>see it, but to be honest, I feel like there's

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<v Speaker 2>something my dad isn't telling me, and so do my brothers.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you very much for the support my Shadow plushy

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<v Speaker 2>and I say goodbye. Update too. For those of you

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<v Speaker 2>in my time zone, you might be wondering what am

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<v Speaker 2>I doing writing so late? Well, as I usually say,

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<v Speaker 2>things happened, so I prefer to keep you informed. In addition,

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<v Speaker 2>to answering questions. But first of all, I really appreciate

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<v Speaker 2>the help and advice given in my previous post. This

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<v Speaker 2>teenager says, it's sincerely from the bottom of her heart

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<v Speaker 2>answering frequently asked questions. No, living with my mom isn't

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<v Speaker 2>possible for two reasons. First, my mom is a way

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<v Speaker 2>too much. She doesn't have a home office. That wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>be a problem for me since I know how to cook,

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<v Speaker 2>do my own laundry, and clean up after myself. The

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<v Speaker 2>other thing is that my mom lives with two other

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<v Speaker 2>women where she's staying this time. One is an older

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<v Speaker 2>woman and the other is divorced. Both rented the room

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<v Speaker 2>with the no children rule. So no, it's not possible. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I never saw my dad act this way in front

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<v Speaker 2>of me, as I mentioned in the comments and in

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<v Speaker 2>my previous update, he never behaved this way with me.

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<v Speaker 2>He is usually very affectionate and understanding, so as I mentioned,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what the reason for that outburst of

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<v Speaker 2>anger was. And no, my parents are not divorced. The

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<v Speaker 2>reason my mom is always away is because of work.

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<v Speaker 2>She got pregnant with my older brothers Andrews, slash Andy,

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<v Speaker 2>and Elijah when they were twenty one. My dad stayed

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<v Speaker 2>behind to take care of both of them until my

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<v Speaker 2>mom got a good job. Then they had my twin

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<v Speaker 2>and me. She is still far away and the money

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<v Speaker 2>she sends is usually enough and even left over for

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<v Speaker 2>every day things, school, extra activities, et cetera. Now with

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<v Speaker 2>the update. Two days ago, my brother Andy, twenty two

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<v Speaker 2>a m. Wrote me a message asking if we could

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<v Speaker 2>talk the truth is. I got a little nervous. I

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<v Speaker 2>asked him if we could talk on the phone, and

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<v Speaker 2>he said yes. As a comment recommended, I recorded the

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<v Speaker 2>conversation with my brother in case something happened, in addition

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<v Speaker 2>to having my best friend's sister as moral support. The

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<v Speaker 2>conversation was trivial at first, and he asked me if

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<v Speaker 2>I ate well, slept well, the usual stuff until we

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<v Speaker 2>got to the topic at hand. He apologized, saying he

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<v Speaker 2>was an idiot and should have measured what he said.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him why he did that, why he used

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<v Speaker 2>those words? At first, he gave me the same explanation

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<v Speaker 2>as my dad, that is, it was to persuade me

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<v Speaker 2>to change my clothes. I told him to tell me

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<v Speaker 2>the truth that I needed a rational and sincere explanation.

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<v Speaker 2>I heard him sigh and he said, you wouldn't understand.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him what exactly I didn't understand, but he

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<v Speaker 2>was stubborn in not telling me. I asked him if

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<v Speaker 2>Mom told him anything. He said that Mom scolded him

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<v Speaker 2>and my brothers for treating me like that, and that

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<v Speaker 2>we would talk about it when she got back. He

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<v Speaker 2>also asked me when I would be coming home. I

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<v Speaker 2>told him that I would stay at my friend's house

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<v Speaker 2>until Mom came, and that's where we started to argue.

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<v Speaker 2>He told me that it was stupid to hide at

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<v Speaker 2>my friend's house, that it was cowardly and childish to

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<v Speaker 2>run away just because of a comment. I replied that

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<v Speaker 2>after Dad tore my clothes, no matter how much I cried,

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<v Speaker 2>he no longer made me feel safe less because neither

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<v Speaker 2>he nor other two brothers, his twin and my twin

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<v Speaker 2>defended me or comforted me. They just watched and turned

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<v Speaker 2>a blind eye until Mom had to intervene. Upon mentioning Mom,

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<v Speaker 2>he started by telling me that I shouldn't have brought

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<v Speaker 2>Mom up, since she was already stressed enough with her

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<v Speaker 2>job to listen to my tantrums, and that we could

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<v Speaker 2>have worked it out at home. I told him this

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't a tantrum. They literally ganged up on each other,

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<v Speaker 2>calling me at s l hash t and making derogatory

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<v Speaker 2>comments about my outfit. Then let Dad rip my clothes.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him if he even bothered to think about

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<v Speaker 2>if this would affect me, and he stayed silent. Then

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<v Speaker 2>he ended the call, telling me not to do stupid

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<v Speaker 2>things at my friend's house and hung up. I cried,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, probably pathetically. I really would like to say

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<v Speaker 2>that I didn't feel anything and that I didn't care

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<v Speaker 2>what he said, but regardless, this is my brother I'm

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<v Speaker 2>talking about. Then, before dinner, I just twenty two, m

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<v Speaker 2>Andy's twin got a call. I thought about not answering,

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<v Speaker 2>considering my ard ument with Andy, but decided to. He

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<v Speaker 2>didn't use any platitudes and told me straight up that

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<v Speaker 2>I got him, my other two brothers and Dad in

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<v Speaker 2>huge trouble by going to cry on mom and then

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<v Speaker 2>running away into my best friend's lap. I told him

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<v Speaker 2>what he expected. I didn't get any answers from any

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<v Speaker 2>when Dad was ripping my clothes and I was begging

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<v Speaker 2>into any one's lap and that I didn't cry to mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I just told mom what happened and that I'm staying

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<v Speaker 2>me to not do anything stupid. Before I could ask

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<v Speaker 2>him what he meant, he hung up. I suspected that

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<v Speaker 2>but he just texted me saying, I hope you're happy now.

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<v Speaker 2>I was confused most of the night. I tried to

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about to finish the case. Just give me three

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<v Speaker 2>more days and I'll be there. I love you. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>move on to the accident on Saturday. When my brother

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<v Speaker 2>spoke to me, it was on Friday. I went out

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<v Speaker 2>ten f She is quite quiet and I really adore

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<v Speaker 2>Lunch hadn't filled us up, so my friend's mom and

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<v Speaker 2>the food. Everything was normal until I saw my two

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<v Speaker 2>longer so they wouldn't see me. To my misfortune, they

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<v Speaker 2>me what the hell was I doing here alone. I

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<v Speaker 2>told them I wasn't that my friend's family was here.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to pretend I didn't know them to ignore them,

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<v Speaker 2>but that wasn't possible. And he asked me whose shirt

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<v Speaker 2>it was, and I told him it was my friend's.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know why, but that made them mad. Elijah

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<v Speaker 2>told me that they warned me not to do anything

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<v Speaker 2>stupid and told me they would take me home. I

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<v Speaker 2>told him what stupid thing he was talking about. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>writing here that if any of you are standing, you'd

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<v Speaker 2>better sit down, because what my brother told me made

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<v Speaker 2>me feel so nauseous that I wanted to jump out

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<v Speaker 2>of a window. He told me that wearing my friend's

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<v Speaker 2>shirt was a sign that I slept with him. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>you are not hallucinating, and it is not your glasses

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<v Speaker 2>if any of you wear glasses. Those were my brother's words.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him why the hell he thought that, and

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<v Speaker 2>he said that when a girl wears a boy's shirt,

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<v Speaker 2>it is because he has marked his territory. That's when

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<v Speaker 2>I really lost it. I told my brother he was

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<v Speaker 2>a creep for even suggesting that that my friend let

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<v Speaker 2>me borrow that shirt because I'd run out of the

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<v Speaker 2>few shirts I'd managed to save and was now washing

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<v Speaker 2>them that both my friend and I were under age,

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<v Speaker 2>and the fact that they made that assumption was just disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>Apparently that only made them believe their suspicions more, and

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<v Speaker 2>they yelled back at me, and he said not to lie,

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<v Speaker 2>to tell the truth, and that if I did, they

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't tell Dad. I yelled back, telling him that it

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<v Speaker 2>was disgusting that I wouldn't confess to something I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>do and to leave me alone. Elijah then told me

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<v Speaker 2>to stop being so stubborn and spoiled. Then he added

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<v Speaker 2>something that hurt me. He said he didn't understand why

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<v Speaker 2>I was so offended by the s l H D

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<v Speaker 2>if I was behaving like one. That's where the comment

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<v Speaker 2>he made that I ran into someone else's lap made sense.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt nauseous, disgusted, and in pain. It made me

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<v Speaker 2>think that if that was how my older brothers saw me.

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<v Speaker 2>I was about to answer, but then a scream fell

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<v Speaker 2>on both of us. It was my friend's little cousin.

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<v Speaker 2>She started screaming that these two bad men referring to

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<v Speaker 2>my brothers were yelling bad things at me. That caught

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<v Speaker 2>the attention of two mothers who appeared, as well as

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<v Speaker 2>my best friend and his sister. The rest was a

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<v Speaker 2>blur to me for what I know. My brothers were

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<v Speaker 2>tell to leave the place. They tried to take me

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<v Speaker 2>with them, but my friend and his sister didn't let them.

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<v Speaker 2>We ended up buying take out and my friend called

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<v Speaker 2>his mom to pick us up. I don't know at

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<v Speaker 2>what point I started crying, but my friend's little cousin

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<v Speaker 2>noticed and gave me one of her chips to make

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<v Speaker 2>me stop crying. It turns out that she and my

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<v Speaker 2>friend's sister were looking at what toys were available in

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<v Speaker 2>the happy meal. It was then that the little one

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<v Speaker 2>separated from my friend's sister to let me know what

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<v Speaker 2>toys she wanted when she saw my brother's yelling at me.

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<v Speaker 2>My friend then asked me what happened, and I told

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<v Speaker 2>him and his mom everything. Needless to say, my friend's

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<v Speaker 2>mom was furious. After dinner, I spoke to my mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I wrote to her and told her everything. She replied,

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<v Speaker 2>just a few more days, honey, I'll be there right away.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if it was the pent up frustration

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<v Speaker 2>or what happened at the restaurant, but I exploded. I

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<v Speaker 2>sent her a voice message saying that I needed her now,

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<v Speaker 2>not in a few days. That I didn't understand what

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<v Speaker 2>the hell was going on, since it seemed like neither

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<v Speaker 2>she nor my dad, much less my brother's were being

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<v Speaker 2>honest with me. That my brothers had said horrible things

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<v Speaker 2>to me, that my dad was acting like a stranger,

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<v Speaker 2>and that she only said we would talk about it

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<v Speaker 2>when she got back. I told her that I was

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<v Speaker 2>her daughter, that I admired her for what she did

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<v Speaker 2>at work and what she did for her friend, but

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<v Speaker 2>write now I needed her. I needed my mom. I

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<v Speaker 2>ended the voice message by telling her I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>stay at my friend's house even if she came since

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<v Speaker 2>after to day, in her attitude, I didn't feel safe

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<v Speaker 2>with anyone, not with her or my dad, less with

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<v Speaker 2>my brothers. I cried all night in silence, out of

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<v Speaker 2>anger over this whole situation, but also out of guilt

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<v Speaker 2>because I know my mom is working her ass off

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<v Speaker 2>every day to provide us with a good lifestyle and

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<v Speaker 2>not make us go without, and I exploded at her.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry my update is so long and without any

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<v Speaker 2>good news. I'd like to say that I feel better now,

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<v Speaker 2>but honestly, I feel like everything around me is upside down.

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<v Speaker 2>From what I know. My brothers have told everyone they

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<v Speaker 2>know that they saw me wearing my best friend's shirt,

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<v Speaker 2>which to them means that he marked me, or whatever

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<v Speaker 2>that means in their fucking minds. My dad didn't say anything,

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<v Speaker 2>and my mom didn't say anything about my audio. For now,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm more calm. My friend's mom lets me join her

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<v Speaker 2>in her hobbies of pottery and embroidery, and she also

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<v Speaker 2>gave me some old paper doll cutouts to design clothes

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<v Speaker 2>and keep me busy. I could never be more grateful

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<v Speaker 2>to this woman and her entire family, as well as

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<v Speaker 2>to all of you. Read it. Also, if you have

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<v Speaker 2>any advice on what to give a ten year old girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I would really appreciate it. Her birthday is in two months,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want to give her a gift for helping

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<v Speaker 2>me out there. For now, I say goodbye. I hope

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<v Speaker 2>you have a good night, morning, or afternoon, and I

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<v Speaker 2>will update you if anything happens. Update three, I bring

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<v Speaker 2>you what I hope is the latest update on what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate the concern, comments and suggestions for my friend's

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<v Speaker 2>cousin's gift. I'm going to try to summarize a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of everything that happened. First of all, my mother

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<v Speaker 2>didn't come back. We both talked and I ended up

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<v Speaker 2>discovering things that, although they felt heavy, explained the situation

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<v Speaker 2>to me better. The first thing, which I mentioned in

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<v Speaker 2>a comment is that the reason my mom was gone

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<v Speaker 2>so much was because she needed her space. I asked

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<v Speaker 2>her what she meant by that, and she told me

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<v Speaker 2>that they were only expecting one baby, my twin. When

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<v Speaker 2>they did the first ultrasound to see him, I wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>that visible, my mom's words. It wasn't until the second

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<v Speaker 2>ultrasound that they finally noticed me. So for those who

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<v Speaker 2>theorized that I was the daughter of a lover, I

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<v Speaker 2>am an unexpected surprise. My mom said that neither she

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<v Speaker 2>nor my dad were ready for a girl when my

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<v Speaker 2>She would now have to stay at home more to

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<v Speaker 2>guide me. My dad assured her that he would understand

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<v Speaker 2>me and that my mom would not worry. I think

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<v Speaker 2>she took that literally. I asked her why she was

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<v Speaker 2>telling me this until now, and it turns out that

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<v Speaker 2>the divorced woman my mother currently lives with in a comment,

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<v Speaker 2>I said, she lives with two women listened to my

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<v Speaker 2>audio when my mother played it. Sat my mother down

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<v Speaker 2>and told her that I needed her, that if she

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<v Speaker 2>didn't do something now, she would lose me like she

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<v Speaker 2>the divorced woman lost her children. She apologized for prioritizing

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<v Speaker 2>herself as a woman more than me. She said she

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<v Speaker 2>thought I was safe and calm at home, but after

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<v Speaker 2>this she understands that she was wrong to be out

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<v Speaker 2>of my life and that of my brother's. We talked

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<v Speaker 2>a little more, mostly about what I wanted and if

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<v Speaker 2>I was sure I wanted to stay at my friend's house.

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<v Speaker 2>I said yes, and then she talked to my friend's mom,

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<v Speaker 2>so they agreed that I would stay with my friend's mom.

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<v Speaker 2>The talk with my dad and my brother's well, it

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<v Speaker 2>was by video call with my mom too. To be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>I had already resigned myself to never having an explanation

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<v Speaker 2>for all of this. The call can only be summarized

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<v Speaker 2>in what happened in the restaurant, a scolding for my brothers,

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<v Speaker 2>and the news that I will be staying with my friend.

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<v Speaker 2>My dad tried to object, but my mom silenced him.

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<v Speaker 2>So now I officially live with my friend, her sister,

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<v Speaker 2>and her mom. The rules in the house are manageable

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<v Speaker 2>and I feel comfortable here. My friend and I call

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<v Speaker 2>each other neighbors, and we agree to have movie marathons

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<v Speaker 2>on Sundays. I chosen my Hero Academia anime movie, and

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<v Speaker 2>my friend will watch Etea with me next week. As

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<v Speaker 2>for clothes, my mom sends money. I'll go with my

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<v Speaker 2>friend's sister next week. She saw my style the times

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<v Speaker 2>I went out with my friend, so she's taking me

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<v Speaker 2>to a few stores to recover some of my old wardrobe.

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<v Speaker 2>I had one last talk with my dad on my

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<v Speaker 2>friend's porch with his mom watching. He apologized for disappointing me,

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<v Speaker 2>for not protecting me, and cried again many will probably

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<v Speaker 2>judge me here, but I accepted his good bye hug.

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<v Speaker 2>It hurts that things ended like this. He said he

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<v Speaker 2>would find a way to earn my trust again and

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<v Speaker 2>that he didn't want to lose me. As for my brothers,

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<v Speaker 2>I only received an apology from Andy, while my twins

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<v Speaker 2>sent me a photo of my room still intact, with

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<v Speaker 2>the phrase it will be the same when you return

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<v Speaker 2>so here. I am now at my friend's house in

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<v Speaker 2>my new room with a few paper dolls that I

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<v Speaker 2>made clothes for. I still keep the same calling schedule

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<v Speaker 2>with my mom, while my dad will text me on

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<v Speaker 2>week ends to check on me. That was my parents arrangement.

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<v Speaker 2>From my expenses, my friend's mother will be the one

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<v Speaker 2>who receives a sum of money for anything food, hygiene products, medicines,

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<v Speaker 2>et cetera. I really appreciate the comments and support. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>leave it there. If something serious happens, I'll update you,

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<v Speaker 2>but for now I think this will end here. A

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<v Speaker 2>big hug to every one who commented, and have a

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<v Speaker 2>good day.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's the end of the first story. Let's begin

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<v Speaker 1>the second one. I hope you enjoy this story. I

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<v Speaker 1>was wrongly blamed for a written piece and physical attack

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<v Speaker 1>twelve months ago. Recently, I underwent my court hearing and

423
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<v Speaker 1>emerged as an innocent individual sharing for my primary profile

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<v Speaker 1>as I don't care. I need to get this off

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<v Speaker 1>my chest to at least somebody. In twenty twenty one,

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<v Speaker 1>I began seeing a girl we will call Stacy. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>was fine in our relationship, almost too good, until an

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<v Speaker 1>ex I had a bad break up with because I

429
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<v Speaker 1>was an alcoholic at the time, got involved and told

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<v Speaker 1>her things I allegedly did to her. Stacy and I

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<v Speaker 1>talked it out and everything seemed fine. Fast forward to

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<v Speaker 1>the next week. We just finished having a physical altercation

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<v Speaker 1>and it devolved into us just slapping each other on

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<v Speaker 1>the legs. What I didn't know at the time is

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<v Speaker 1>that Ayla's dan los s P would cause her to

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<v Speaker 1>have a severe reaction days later in the form of bruises.

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<v Speaker 1>Stacy told a few people, including my ex, that I

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<v Speaker 1>did that to her, even though it was entirely consensual

439
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<v Speaker 1>and no harm was intended. I even have a screenshot

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<v Speaker 1>of her saying it's OK, babe, We were just play

441
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<v Speaker 1>fighting after she sent me photos of her legs and

442
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<v Speaker 1>insisted I like olaying fighting with you. Obviously, her spelling

443
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<v Speaker 1>mistake was meant to say play fast forward a few

444
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<v Speaker 1>more weeks, she decides to go to bed early, but says,

445
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<v Speaker 1>wake me up with your private part if you feel

446
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<v Speaker 1>like it. So, after a few hours and a hell

447
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<v Speaker 1>yet brother had passed and I was ready to sleep,

448
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<v Speaker 1>I did exactly that. She was into it, I was

449
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<v Speaker 1>into it. Once done, we fell back asleep. She commented

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<v Speaker 1>that it was exactly how she wanted to be woken up.

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<v Speaker 1>She had sent me several texts in the past two

452
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<v Speaker 1>saying similar things. Thank goodness I saved them all. Now,

453
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<v Speaker 1>a few more weeks later, I pick her up from

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<v Speaker 1>war and she straight up asked me if she could

455
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<v Speaker 1>be intimate with her same sex friend. I was appalled

456
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<v Speaker 1>and disgusted and felt like our relationship meant nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>her any more. This is where our relationship became toxic,

458
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<v Speaker 1>and she turned me into an angry, jealous person and

459
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<v Speaker 1>for some reason wondered why I didn't like her friend

460
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<v Speaker 1>very much. Now for the crucial part, in early twenty

461
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<v Speaker 1>twenty two, we were on and off again, every other week.

462
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<v Speaker 1>In the thought of her with some one else drove

463
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<v Speaker 1>me crazy. I went off my medications gabapentin, clonazepam, lituta, mertazepin,

464
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<v Speaker 1>vivance and spent days wide awake, got fired from my

465
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<v Speaker 1>job and was at my wits end. I then tried

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<v Speaker 1>to end my own life after Stacy said in a

467
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<v Speaker 1>text that she was going to spend the night with

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<v Speaker 1>someone else while I was in the middle of an

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<v Speaker 1>emotional meltdown that some one else was her ax. I

470
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<v Speaker 1>woke up in the hospital the next day, hooked up

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<v Speaker 1>to several machines and one hell of a sore throat

472
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<v Speaker 1>from getting my stomach pumped. I spent a few days

473
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<v Speaker 1>in the hospital while I'm sure she was having a

474
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<v Speaker 1>great time with her ex. We tried talking it out

475
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<v Speaker 1>over the next few weeks, but one morning I caught

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<v Speaker 1>Stacy red handed talking to my ex about me. I

477
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<v Speaker 1>immediately asked her what she was talking about and to

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<v Speaker 1>show me. She said no, and I told her to leave.

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<v Speaker 1>She initially refused until I threatened to start tossing her

480
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<v Speaker 1>property off my one story deck. She didn't take me

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<v Speaker 1>seriously until I grabbed her bag and tossed it into

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<v Speaker 1>the snow bank below. I then grabbed several items, including

483
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<v Speaker 1>a coffee cup, clothing, and anything else that was hers,

484
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<v Speaker 1>including unfortunately food. I was completely manic at the time

485
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<v Speaker 1>and didn't have a single brain cell left. One of

486
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<v Speaker 1>the items I tossed down was a container of yogurt,

487
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<v Speaker 1>which didn't directly hit her. However, the flimsy plastic container

488
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<v Speaker 1>immediately busted open on impact, like a baby yogurt bomb,

489
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<v Speaker 1>and she got some on her jacket. Allegedly. Fast forward

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<v Speaker 1>a few days later in Stacy is still sending me

491
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<v Speaker 1>mixed signals about our relationship and really playing with my emotions.

492
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<v Speaker 1>Stacy then filed a restraining order against me without notice.

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<v Speaker 1>She continued the conversation with me. Five days after she

494
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<v Speaker 1>got the order. It was Valentine's Day, so I gave

495
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<v Speaker 1>her the ultimatum finally be with me, or I'll be

496
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<v Speaker 1>with some one else tonight. She called me briefly, and

497
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<v Speaker 1>she asked what I meant, and I said exactly what

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<v Speaker 1>I said. She told me to work on myself more,

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe I wasn't having any of that. So I

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<v Speaker 1>went out with the girl I had matched with on

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<v Speaker 1>Tinder earlier. That day to begin the process of moving on.

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<v Speaker 1>Two days later, I hear a knock at my door.

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<v Speaker 1>I had eight officers knock on my door and place

504
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<v Speaker 1>me under arrest for assault, causing bodily harm, the leg photos, harassment,

505
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<v Speaker 1>calling and texting repeatedly violating the restraining order that was

506
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<v Speaker 1>in place that I had no idea existed. I was

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<v Speaker 1>brought to the police station. First, I tried explaining my

508
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<v Speaker 1>side of the story and even offered evidence in the

509
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<v Speaker 1>form of the text about the assault and gave full detail,

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<v Speaker 1>but the police officer told me to shit up woman beater.

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<v Speaker 1>The cop and I then got into a childish back

512
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<v Speaker 1>and forth before finally I was brought to the station.

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<v Speaker 1>I maintained my right to remain silent. Once at the station,

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<v Speaker 1>called a lawyer from the telephone book and was then

515
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<v Speaker 1>transported to another area. As it was winter, I was

516
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<v Speaker 1>wearing a winter jacket. I took my jacket off and

517
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<v Speaker 1>stuck the sleeve through the top of the door and

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<v Speaker 1>then around the corner of the door. Tied both arms

519
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<v Speaker 1>together to make as effective of a noose as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I was tapping out I didn't belong there. Obviously.

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<v Speaker 1>This got caught on camera and my cell was rushed

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<v Speaker 1>by officers who used what I believed to be excessive

523
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<v Speaker 1>force by slamming me neck first into the bench behind me,

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<v Speaker 1>not only causing me to hit my head really hard,

525
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<v Speaker 1>but also could have obliterated my neck. Luckily for me,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I've been drinking my milk. I was held

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<v Speaker 1>overnight for my court appearance in the a M and

528
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<v Speaker 1>got a thousand dollars no cash bond, meaning I don't

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<v Speaker 1>pay it unless I mess up again. I was then

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<v Speaker 1>under the impression i'd be good to go home soon. Nope.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently after I left, the judge didn't realize I violated

532
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<v Speaker 1>a restraining order and sent me to jail for four

533
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<v Speaker 1>of the longest days of my life in a suicide blanket,

534
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<v Speaker 1>locked up. I did nothing wrong. My four days in

535
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<v Speaker 1>jail could be a whole other post, but anyway, I

536
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<v Speaker 1>got out. I went down the strait and narrow and

537
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<v Speaker 1>kept my nose clean. And that's when Stacy contacted me.

538
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<v Speaker 1>Saint Patti's day. She got drunk, called me, offered to

539
00:26:28.559 --> 00:26:31.319
<v Speaker 1>uber to see me, and she did. It was a

540
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<v Speaker 1>dumb call on my end, but I just missed her

541
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<v Speaker 1>and loved her so much at the time. She came

542
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<v Speaker 1>over at like five a m. And she immediately said,

543
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<v Speaker 1>let's just pretend it's like old times, and we did

544
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<v Speaker 1>for two days. When she stayed with me. She told

545
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<v Speaker 1>me she told the police what she did because she

546
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<v Speaker 1>just wanted a break and didn't think they'd take it

547
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<v Speaker 1>this seriously. When it was time for her to go,

548
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<v Speaker 1>she said, call me later, love you, and I left

549
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<v Speaker 1>back home. A couple of hours later, I got a

550
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<v Speaker 1>knock on my door from the police again. Apparently she

551
00:27:02.759 --> 00:27:06.200
<v Speaker 1>ratted herself out to the police, prompting a warning. It

552
00:27:06.279 --> 00:27:07.960
<v Speaker 1>was clear to me she was as good for me

553
00:27:08.000 --> 00:27:10.480
<v Speaker 1>as flint water, and that was the last time we spoke.

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<v Speaker 1>At my first court appearance a week or two later,

555
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<v Speaker 1>I was tapped on the shoulder by a detective and

556
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<v Speaker 1>asked to speak with me outside. He identified himself and

557
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<v Speaker 1>told me he's working with Stacy and that I should

558
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<v Speaker 1>be hearing from him soon. Knows we've seen spoken with

559
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<v Speaker 1>each other, and he expects more charges. He called me

560
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<v Speaker 1>a couple of days later and scheduled a day for

561
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<v Speaker 1>an interview. My lawyer told me he would likely be

562
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<v Speaker 1>arresting me for something else. But I had no idea

563
00:27:37.960 --> 00:27:40.960
<v Speaker 1>what but he told me to keep my composure and

564
00:27:41.039 --> 00:27:44.559
<v Speaker 1>most importantly shut up. I went for the interview, and

565
00:27:44.599 --> 00:27:48.440
<v Speaker 1>you guessed it. I was immediately placed under arrest. I

566
00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:51.000
<v Speaker 1>wasn't handcuffed or anything, but that's when he told me

567
00:27:51.039 --> 00:27:53.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm being placed under arrest for essay and another assault,

568
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<v Speaker 1>contrary to my lawyer's advice. I lost it on the

569
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<v Speaker 1>cop and told him the story in facts. Again offered

570
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<v Speaker 1>to show him texts, screenshots, et cetera. He didn't care.

571
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<v Speaker 1>When he alluded to the second assault charge. I kept

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<v Speaker 1>my mouth shut as I had no idea what he

573
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<v Speaker 1>was talking about. He kept trying to pry at me,

574
00:28:13.359 --> 00:28:16.079
<v Speaker 1>and finally he asked, did you throw yogurt at her?

575
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<v Speaker 1>I laughed and said O K. I think I'm done

576
00:28:19.759 --> 00:28:22.720
<v Speaker 1>answering questions and I will wait for disclosure from my lawyer.

577
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<v Speaker 1>The cop got curt and ended the interview and I

578
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<v Speaker 1>was free to go. I then had to sit and

579
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<v Speaker 1>wait for a year and a half for my court date.

580
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<v Speaker 1>In that time, Stacy took to social media to cancel me,

581
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<v Speaker 1>claiming I'm a violent person with violent tendencies or something

582
00:28:38.480 --> 00:28:41.839
<v Speaker 1>to that effect, posting photos of me along with my

583
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<v Speaker 1>full name and left me aloner for the last eight

584
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<v Speaker 1>months because everyone I know hates me over her social

585
00:28:46.759 --> 00:28:49.279
<v Speaker 1>media post, which garnered a lot of attention. Because I

586
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<v Speaker 1>had a lot of friends, especially in the local music

587
00:28:51.880 --> 00:28:56.519
<v Speaker 1>scene and hospitality industry, I became withdrawn from society, but

588
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<v Speaker 1>thankfully I acquired a girl friend prior to the grand

589
00:28:59.240 --> 00:29:02.599
<v Speaker 1>cancelation whom I'm still with, and she supported me through

590
00:29:02.640 --> 00:29:06.519
<v Speaker 1>it all as best she could. Unfortunately, the idea of

591
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<v Speaker 1>hitting Stacy with a cease and desist didn't happen until

592
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<v Speaker 1>the post was already screen capped and shared among other people.

593
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<v Speaker 1>She complied, but it had gotten out of control. By

594
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<v Speaker 1>the time I got my lawyer on it, I was

595
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<v Speaker 1>being publicly shamed because some one got yogurt on their jacket.

596
00:29:21.960 --> 00:29:26.359
<v Speaker 1>In an unfavorable situation for both parties. I almost died

597
00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:28.079
<v Speaker 1>and she got to go be with her ex over

598
00:29:28.119 --> 00:29:32.759
<v Speaker 1>it seems fair. About a month ago, my lawyer gave

599
00:29:32.799 --> 00:29:36.480
<v Speaker 1>me two options, go to trial twenty k including the

600
00:29:36.519 --> 00:29:39.400
<v Speaker 1>fees I've already paid him, or plead guilty to one

601
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<v Speaker 1>count of assault the yogurt incident. It took me a

602
00:29:42.920 --> 00:29:45.200
<v Speaker 1>few days, but I decided to opt for the latter,

603
00:29:45.279 --> 00:29:47.720
<v Speaker 1>only because I know our justice system is flawed in

604
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<v Speaker 1>fighting all charges versus taking the hit on one and

605
00:29:50.400 --> 00:29:52.960
<v Speaker 1>getting it discharged from my record after two years as

606
00:29:53.000 --> 00:29:57.440
<v Speaker 1>a much safer bet, so I did exactly that. Unfortunately,

607
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<v Speaker 1>I have to report to a probation officer once a

608
00:30:00.160 --> 00:30:02.920
<v Speaker 1>month now, but other than that, I am finally free

609
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<v Speaker 1>of her and the pain she has caused me. This week,

610
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<v Speaker 1>I've decided I'm going to be happy. I bought lots

611
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<v Speaker 1>of music recording equipment some games I've been dying to play.

612
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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I should publicly address my friends

613
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<v Speaker 1>on my currently deactivated social media accounts explaining my side

614
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<v Speaker 1>of the story. I went to the grocery store without

615
00:30:22.960 --> 00:30:26.799
<v Speaker 1>a face mask, tattoos out, and hatless, and it felt liberating,

616
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<v Speaker 1>like I was finally back in control of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>And this, my friends, is why you never get involved

618
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<v Speaker 1>in complicated situations. Thanks for reading. If you did