WEBVTT 1 00:00:07.719 --> 00:00:10.119 Hey guys, Princess here, welcome to another episode of My 2 00:00:10.240 --> 00:00:14.720 Pumpkin o G Edition Original Flavor. This is this is 3 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:17.600 the main feed. It feels like I have not done 4 00:00:17.640 --> 00:00:19.839 an episode of My Fair Brady in a really, really, 5 00:00:19.920 --> 00:00:24.440 really long time. We're on episode eight, season one. It 6 00:00:24.519 --> 00:00:29.760 is called Ultimatum and is the penultimate episode. By the way, 7 00:00:30.120 --> 00:00:33.079 I did not learn that word until I was in 8 00:00:33.119 --> 00:00:36.960 my thirties, and I was really fucking annoyed by what 9 00:00:37.280 --> 00:00:40.200 fancy why can't we this is why people don't use it? 10 00:00:40.840 --> 00:00:45.240 The next to the last and next to the last episode. 11 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:49.119 And the real reason I was angry is because Google 12 00:00:49.119 --> 00:00:50.920 Maps had to teach it to me. I lived in 13 00:00:50.960 --> 00:00:52.799 New York at the time, and I would get I 14 00:00:52.840 --> 00:00:56.359 would get like, transit it. That's how I get around. 15 00:00:56.439 --> 00:01:00.880 The Google Maps will give me transit instruction. And I 16 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:03.000 remember I was reading these instructions once and it was like, 17 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:06.439 go the penultimate stopped, and I said, what the fuck 18 00:01:06.560 --> 00:01:09.480 is that me? So I looked it up. So you know, 19 00:01:09.560 --> 00:01:13.319 when we say we're in a literacy crisis, people hear 20 00:01:13.359 --> 00:01:15.079 that and they go, no, I can read, no, no, no, 21 00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:17.879 it's not just can you can you sound out words? 22 00:01:17.920 --> 00:01:22.879 It's not just that, it's also your desire to know 23 00:01:23.079 --> 00:01:25.040 new words. Do you look up words or do you 24 00:01:25.120 --> 00:01:27.560 just look at it and go, what do you do? 25 00:01:27.760 --> 00:01:30.680 Are you curious about those things? That's part of the 26 00:01:30.680 --> 00:01:33.799 literacy crisis. People don't look up words. They just yell 27 00:01:33.840 --> 00:01:35.560 at you that you're using two bigger words. And isn't 28 00:01:35.599 --> 00:01:39.560 that what I just did? I will say this, I 29 00:01:39.640 --> 00:01:43.400 am grateful for the curiosity that was instilled in me. 30 00:01:43.439 --> 00:01:46.000 I was thinking about this past weekend. The kids went 31 00:01:46.040 --> 00:01:53.079 to the planetarium and uh, some social program was doing 32 00:01:53.120 --> 00:01:55.000 free trips of the planetarium for kids, and they had 33 00:01:55.040 --> 00:01:58.079 pizza and they did stuff and they came back and 34 00:01:58.120 --> 00:02:00.959 I was thinking, like, I'm so grateful to those programs 35 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:03.840 because it's because of that that I got to go 36 00:02:03.920 --> 00:02:08.800 to operas and ballets and and telescope and not I 37 00:02:08.840 --> 00:02:12.319 was gonna say telescopiums. No, they didn't teach me to work, 38 00:02:12.520 --> 00:02:15.400 but then I got to go to these places and 39 00:02:15.439 --> 00:02:18.719 I got to ask questions. And I had pretty good 40 00:02:18.759 --> 00:02:21.400 teachers throughout my life that really encouraged me to ask 41 00:02:21.439 --> 00:02:25.360 a lot of fucking questions and and to say when 42 00:02:25.400 --> 00:02:28.520 I don't understand something, and to be curious about what's 43 00:02:28.599 --> 00:02:32.800 behind things. I remember in the seventh grade, I think 44 00:02:32.800 --> 00:02:36.120 it was I could have been an eighth grade the teacher, 45 00:02:36.560 --> 00:02:38.080 the teacher that taught the seventh grade, I was taught 46 00:02:38.080 --> 00:02:41.560 the eighth grade, like they were same classes. And so 47 00:02:42.240 --> 00:02:44.919 I went to a very small Department of Defence school 48 00:02:45.759 --> 00:02:50.080 on a very small weaponspace. And he was just like, 49 00:02:51.120 --> 00:02:55.080 anybody wants to come over and and go catching shit 50 00:02:55.120 --> 00:02:57.759 in the creek behind my house. Come over on Saturday, 51 00:02:58.199 --> 00:03:02.560 and we did. Some adults came too. This is I'm 52 00:03:02.560 --> 00:03:04.159 old guys, so you could just do shit like this. 53 00:03:04.599 --> 00:03:07.240 And we just rode our bikes off the base to 54 00:03:07.360 --> 00:03:15.159 his house and we just did stuff. And we all 55 00:03:15.199 --> 00:03:19.120 brought like two bucks and we ordered pizza, and we 56 00:03:19.199 --> 00:03:23.000 caught crabs and did pH testing. He was our science 57 00:03:23.000 --> 00:03:26.879 and our math teacher, and he would and we just 58 00:03:27.719 --> 00:03:30.599 did fun shit back there and did experiments and stuff, 59 00:03:30.599 --> 00:03:34.919 and he just I don't know it. I've had a 60 00:03:34.960 --> 00:03:36.919 lot of people and things in my life that were 61 00:03:36.960 --> 00:03:40.360 just like, I don't know, try it, I don't know, 62 00:03:40.400 --> 00:03:43.280 Go ask some fucking questions, kid, Like a lot of librarians, 63 00:03:43.319 --> 00:03:47.199 a lot of you know, I talked a lot of 64 00:03:47.199 --> 00:03:48.599 shit about my parents. But they were willing to buy 65 00:03:48.639 --> 00:03:52.039 me a fucking pogo stick and let me pogo stick 66 00:03:52.080 --> 00:03:58.159 in the front yard. They were willing to let me 67 00:03:58.199 --> 00:04:00.840 be a little weird and it's fine. Yeah, I'm really 68 00:04:00.840 --> 00:04:03.960 grateful for that. I'm really grateful to those librarians and 69 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:09.400 teachers and like social programs and just people that were like, 70 00:04:10.639 --> 00:04:13.400 I don't know, kid, but here's how you find out. 71 00:04:14.439 --> 00:04:18.240 Why am I talking about that? You don't know? Oh, 72 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:20.879 talking about the literacy crisis. It's not just about can 73 00:04:20.920 --> 00:04:23.920 you read things? So those people that's a low bar. 74 00:04:24.079 --> 00:04:27.199 Can you sound out words and read things? It's more 75 00:04:27.240 --> 00:04:36.319 than that anyway, Uh, penultimate episode. It feels like I 76 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:38.079 have not done one of these episodes in a really, 77 00:04:38.120 --> 00:04:40.639 really long time. But let's see if I can get 78 00:04:40.680 --> 00:04:43.519 back on the course. This is like I said, Season one, 79 00:04:43.639 --> 00:04:49.839 episode eight. It aired October twenty ninth of two thousand 80 00:04:49.839 --> 00:04:54.759 and five. So again I was like, who the fuck 81 00:04:54.800 --> 00:04:56.560 are even these people? Where are they? They're still in 82 00:04:56.600 --> 00:04:58.519 Puerto Rico apparently, And then then I was like, oh, 83 00:04:58.560 --> 00:05:01.240 they did go to Puerto Rico. They're still at the table. 84 00:05:01.560 --> 00:05:04.480 Is their second night in Puerto Rico. They only spend 85 00:05:04.480 --> 00:05:07.000 three total, and I was like, mmmm, that's a very 86 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:09.279 short I don't know. I feel like nowadays we'd be like, 87 00:05:09.319 --> 00:05:12.480 if you didn't stay a week, you didn't stay, it's 88 00:05:12.560 --> 00:05:14.879 giving poor, Like I have to feel like that's that's 89 00:05:14.879 --> 00:05:16.399 what we'd be saying. Like we'd be watching a show 90 00:05:16.480 --> 00:05:18.680 like this and be like, Christopher Knight has no money. 91 00:05:18.680 --> 00:05:21.279 He only went to Puerto Rico for three days, knowing 92 00:05:21.279 --> 00:05:23.399 that production paid for it. But they're in Porto Riho. 93 00:05:23.439 --> 00:05:25.480 It is this second day. It picks right up while 94 00:05:25.519 --> 00:05:27.519 they're at that table where the restaurant owner, I think 95 00:05:27.560 --> 00:05:38.759 his name is, gosh, what is his name? Alberto? And 96 00:05:39.000 --> 00:05:42.759 it's Alberto Alberto is there and he's just like a 97 00:05:42.959 --> 00:05:47.360 double dog, triple dog. Dare you Christopher Knight to propose 98 00:05:47.399 --> 00:05:54.560 her right now? Dude? And Christopher Knight says no. He 99 00:05:54.600 --> 00:05:59.680 says that he's committed, but not right now. And I 100 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:03.680 just to be honest that like all of the stuff 101 00:06:03.720 --> 00:06:05.959 that Adrianne is doing later on, she has a ring 102 00:06:06.079 --> 00:06:08.399 and she's just like, look at this, Chris, Chris, look 103 00:06:08.399 --> 00:06:10.439 at this, look at this. All the stuff she was 104 00:06:10.439 --> 00:06:12.959 doing would make me never propose to her. I don't know, 105 00:06:13.000 --> 00:06:16.160 goes shave with terrorists, right, I'm mostly on Adrian's side, Like, 106 00:06:16.360 --> 00:06:20.279 I feel like, what the fuck is Chris doing. I 107 00:06:20.319 --> 00:06:23.560 do understand he's been married twice and I don't think 108 00:06:23.879 --> 00:06:25.800 I don't think he should get married again. Okay, So 109 00:06:25.839 --> 00:06:28.480 here's the thing. You know, when people are like, you know, 110 00:06:28.839 --> 00:06:31.079 I love my husband, I love my wife. Mostly it's 111 00:06:31.120 --> 00:06:33.720 women say this, so I love my husband or I 112 00:06:33.720 --> 00:06:37.639 love my wife, and but I would never get married again. 113 00:06:39.519 --> 00:06:43.319 When people hear that, they go, oh, because because because 114 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:46.360 because you hate being No, I don't hate being married. 115 00:06:46.399 --> 00:06:48.920 I don't hate being married. Relationships are hard for me 116 00:06:48.959 --> 00:06:53.639 in general. My attachment style makes is trust no bitch, 117 00:06:53.720 --> 00:06:57.519 so like I don't trust nobody. So relationships and your 118 00:06:57.560 --> 00:06:59.519 friendships are hard for me. I have to really work 119 00:06:59.560 --> 00:07:02.399 at them cause I although I'm a good friend and 120 00:07:02.439 --> 00:07:05.759 people tend to want to be my friend, it could 121 00:07:05.759 --> 00:07:10.240 be difficult inside for me. Relationships are all hard. But 122 00:07:10.240 --> 00:07:12.319 that's not the It's not that I hate being married. 123 00:07:12.360 --> 00:07:14.279 It's not that. It's just that there was a lot 124 00:07:14.319 --> 00:07:16.040 of effort, and I put a lot of effort here 125 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:18.120 and I got and I've you know, I've I've made 126 00:07:18.199 --> 00:07:21.519 the relationship that I want, but I'm not. Like the 127 00:07:21.560 --> 00:07:24.120 relationship didn't come out the box like that right the 128 00:07:24.279 --> 00:07:26.920 w there was work and molding and things that had 129 00:07:26.920 --> 00:07:28.439 to be done, and I'm not willing to do that 130 00:07:28.519 --> 00:07:31.920 again for anybody. So like, if if anybody, it's a 131 00:07:31.959 --> 00:07:34.639 dude I'm married to, but if that, if he makes 132 00:07:34.680 --> 00:07:38.519 me murder him and I end up on an episode 133 00:07:38.519 --> 00:07:42.160 of Snapped not meeting anybody in jail because I don't 134 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:44.720 want to get married again. And I liken it too. 135 00:07:44.959 --> 00:07:46.560 I went to Disney. I took my kids to Disney. 136 00:07:46.560 --> 00:07:48.759 You guys remember this. I took my kids to Disney. 137 00:07:48.879 --> 00:07:53.040 I had a good time. It was expensive, it was long, 138 00:07:53.639 --> 00:07:57.000 it was hot. Uh, I fulled up. I got full 139 00:07:57.000 --> 00:07:59.360 of fucking food. I saw some things and I see 140 00:07:59.360 --> 00:08:02.839 everything now did I do everything now? But I got 141 00:08:02.839 --> 00:08:04.600 the gist of it. I got the gist of it. 142 00:08:04.639 --> 00:08:06.360 And do I need to go back? No, I'm good. 143 00:08:06.399 --> 00:08:09.319 I had a great time. There's no. I don't need 144 00:08:09.360 --> 00:08:13.720 nothing else over there, And same for a marriage. It's great. 145 00:08:14.279 --> 00:08:16.879 I don't need nothing else over there. And so I 146 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:19.839 can understand if Christopher Knight feels that way, right because 147 00:08:19.839 --> 00:08:26.519 he's been married twice. Shit but I'm usually on Adre 148 00:08:26.560 --> 00:08:29.279 inside with these sorts of things. I don't understand why 149 00:08:29.319 --> 00:08:32.080 this old man with the worms and two marriages underneath 150 00:08:32.360 --> 00:08:35.519 is messing with this girl. But if I were Chris, 151 00:08:35.559 --> 00:08:38.799 I would never. I would never, I would never propose 152 00:08:38.840 --> 00:08:41.519 to her. I just wouldn't do it. And it's because 153 00:08:41.600 --> 00:08:44.240 I don't like being pushed like that, and I don't 154 00:08:44.320 --> 00:08:47.320 and I don't negotiate with terrorists. You are essentially telling 155 00:08:47.360 --> 00:08:50.279 me you've got everyone telling you've got your t You're 156 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:53.039 egging on other people that like, no, you're not gonna 157 00:08:53.159 --> 00:08:56.759 I'm not marrying you ever. And I could be petty 158 00:08:56.840 --> 00:09:01.879 like that Tore actually talking about who's the who's the 159 00:09:01.879 --> 00:09:05.799 scariest of their their parents, And it's me, even though 160 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:07.720 missus Curtise is a very large black man with a 161 00:09:07.759 --> 00:09:10.480 deep voice and big fist that he can like pound 162 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:15.360 fucking nails in the walls, all right, he he, it's me. 163 00:09:15.759 --> 00:09:18.320 And it's me cause I'm petty, cause mister Curtis will 164 00:09:18.360 --> 00:09:21.559 forget about whatever happened in about two days. He'll ground 165 00:09:21.559 --> 00:09:23.440 everybody in this house and forget about it and be like, 166 00:09:23.480 --> 00:09:25.679 why aren't the kids outside cause you grounded them? You 167 00:09:25.759 --> 00:09:29.000 grount at them. Okay, I told you that. I didn't 168 00:09:29.000 --> 00:09:30.879 think that everyone had to stay in their room for 169 00:09:30.879 --> 00:09:32.399 the next six month. I thought that. I told you 170 00:09:32.440 --> 00:09:34.960 that was unrealistic and it did not fit whatever the 171 00:09:35.000 --> 00:09:38.200 fuck the crime was. And they'd be like, oh, well 172 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:40.360 tell him. I don't care, go ahead and go outside me. 173 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:45.600 I remember everything. I remember everything. I never I don't 174 00:09:45.639 --> 00:09:51.519 forget shit, okay, And I think the devil's in details, 175 00:09:51.519 --> 00:09:54.480 so I can be a little petty, and I'm just 176 00:09:54.519 --> 00:09:58.320 saying that there after everything that's happened, there's no you, 177 00:09:58.440 --> 00:10:00.200 there's no way Adrian could ever get me to a 178 00:10:00.279 --> 00:10:04.960 proposed to her. Ever, Alberto sitting at that tape that 179 00:10:04.960 --> 00:10:08.000 that that's not coincidence, that's from production, right, And she's 180 00:10:08.000 --> 00:10:12.320 sitting there giggling and being like, yeah, you won't man up. Yeah, 181 00:10:12.639 --> 00:10:14.879 I might stay with you another fucking twenty years and 182 00:10:14.919 --> 00:10:20.759 you'll never you ask me, I say no, because that's 183 00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:25.960 the no. Now. Chris says no. He says that he's 184 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:29.039 he's you know, he promises to come back and do it. 185 00:10:29.039 --> 00:10:32.399 He's just not ready to make that commitment. You know, 186 00:10:33.039 --> 00:10:35.360 this whole while I say, if I were Chris I'd 187 00:10:35.360 --> 00:10:38.159 never ask her. I am tired. I'm so happy I 188 00:10:38.240 --> 00:10:40.000 only have one more episode of this. I am tired 189 00:10:40.039 --> 00:10:43.600 of watching women beg for validation and commitment and just 190 00:10:43.679 --> 00:10:46.559 some basic decencies for men. I'm so tired of it. 191 00:10:47.120 --> 00:10:53.279 I'm so tired of women defending men who don't even 192 00:10:53.360 --> 00:10:59.600 consider them. You know, I'm you know, right now, I'm 193 00:10:59.600 --> 00:11:02.519 getting a lot of videos about the leave him or 194 00:11:02.600 --> 00:11:06.279 leave us out of it? You know, that attitude that 195 00:11:06.320 --> 00:11:11.840 people have towards women in bad relationships. And I think 196 00:11:11.879 --> 00:11:14.159 somebody brought up a valid point that, you know, women 197 00:11:14.279 --> 00:11:20.039 in abusive relationships, this keeps the abusive relationships. I want 198 00:11:20.039 --> 00:11:22.440 to say, this, leave him or leave us alone is 199 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:24.919 an internet thing. It's not a in real life thing. 200 00:11:25.480 --> 00:11:26.840 I think some people were taking it there, but this 201 00:11:26.879 --> 00:11:29.159 is that was that came from internet shit that came 202 00:11:29.200 --> 00:11:31.720 from someone showing up the day after Mother's Day and 203 00:11:31.759 --> 00:11:34.759 be like I got nothing again, or showing some video 204 00:11:34.799 --> 00:11:36.759 where they where they count minute by minute how long 205 00:11:36.799 --> 00:11:38.600 it takes for that person and realize it's their birthday 206 00:11:38.679 --> 00:11:42.799 or whatever, like it's for content leave him or leave 207 00:11:42.840 --> 00:11:46.000 us out of it? And for me, I talked about 208 00:11:46.039 --> 00:11:48.240 this that like I don't want to interact with content 209 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:52.000 like that. I that's not my ministry. Other people can 210 00:11:52.039 --> 00:11:56.159 say soft things and cookes this woman into a realization, 211 00:11:56.200 --> 00:11:58.000 and I think that's for I think that if that's 212 00:11:58.039 --> 00:12:00.279 your ministry, you do that. I also not gonna a 213 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:03.440 mean comment on there either. I just I blocked that 214 00:12:03.480 --> 00:12:07.360 person immediately because I don't want to see that. I don't. 215 00:12:07.399 --> 00:12:09.240 I only have so many minutes left on this earth, 216 00:12:09.279 --> 00:12:15.720 and I cannot spend any of it trying to convince 217 00:12:15.759 --> 00:12:18.519 people to do shit they don't want to do. A 218 00:12:18.559 --> 00:12:21.240 stranger at that, you know, I gotta spend a lot 219 00:12:21.279 --> 00:12:25.960 of those minutes watching various dances from the Brazilian national 220 00:12:26.000 --> 00:12:28.159 team at World Cup. That's what I gotta be doing. 221 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:30.399 I can't be doing this, so I just block those people. 222 00:12:30.480 --> 00:12:32.600 I don't have anything mean to say, and I don't 223 00:12:32.600 --> 00:12:34.639 have shit encouraging to say. I don't have the patience 224 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:37.519 for that. But that's an internet thing. Leave him or 225 00:12:37.559 --> 00:12:40.480 leave us out of it. That's a celebrity gets on 226 00:12:40.519 --> 00:12:42.720 the internet and it's like he cheating, upset cheating on me. 227 00:12:42.759 --> 00:12:45.159 Oh yeah, okay, leave him or leave us the fuck 228 00:12:45.159 --> 00:12:52.399 out of it. Okay, And but that's not an in 229 00:12:52.639 --> 00:12:55.559 real life thing and real in your actual community and 230 00:12:55.600 --> 00:12:59.519 the people that you love and care about, you don't 231 00:12:59.840 --> 00:13:01.639 tell them to shut the fuck up when they're talking 232 00:13:01.639 --> 00:13:05.360 about problems. You support them. But also you have the 233 00:13:05.360 --> 00:13:07.200 whole boundaries with that you. I can't be in this 234 00:13:07.240 --> 00:13:10.480 abusive relationship with you. I am here for you. I've 235 00:13:10.519 --> 00:13:13.039 always here when you If you ever need feel like 236 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:16.480 you need help, I can help you. I I'll even 237 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:18.720 listen to you like rant about it. I'll do that. 238 00:13:18.799 --> 00:13:23.440 I can do that for at least sometime. I got 239 00:13:23.440 --> 00:13:26.320 a place if you need to cool off, come over here, like, yeah, 240 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:33.279 I'll I'll do all of that. But there, I can't 241 00:13:33.279 --> 00:13:35.600 be in an abusive relationship with you. But the two 242 00:13:35.639 --> 00:13:37.320 of you have ever been in my own abusive relationships. 243 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:38.600 And I know there's some people that are like, that's 244 00:13:38.679 --> 00:13:41.120 that's you know, that's mean. That's because you don't have 245 00:13:41.159 --> 00:13:45.480 any boundaries, right. I love that that you want to 246 00:13:46.679 --> 00:13:49.080 be captain save a hope that we need them. But 247 00:13:49.159 --> 00:13:51.320 I can't be that. I've worked too hard on these 248 00:13:51.320 --> 00:13:54.320 fucking boundaries. I would never say leave him or leave 249 00:13:54.399 --> 00:13:56.440 us alone in real life. That's for the internet. But 250 00:13:56.519 --> 00:14:00.600 I also am not going to participate in this relationship 251 00:14:00.600 --> 00:14:03.000 with you while you go back and forth. And it 252 00:14:03.080 --> 00:14:06.879 takes abust victims a long time to leave. You know what, 253 00:14:07.000 --> 00:14:09.879 Sometimes those abust victims pull you into the abusive relationship 254 00:14:09.879 --> 00:14:13.120 and you suffer harm too, and then they stay with 255 00:14:13.200 --> 00:14:16.480 them another ten years or whatever. I'm not judging people 256 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:18.200 how long it takes them to leave those sorts of things. 257 00:14:18.200 --> 00:14:22.320 But I I think leave him or leave us out 258 00:14:22.360 --> 00:14:24.480 of it is fine for the internet. I don't know them, 259 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:27.799 they're they're not in community. I that's not my sister, 260 00:14:28.279 --> 00:14:30.759 that's not my friend. That's a random lady on the 261 00:14:30.759 --> 00:14:36.080 internet telling us the most terrible thing that their partner 262 00:14:36.080 --> 00:14:38.480 did and then defending them NonStop. Some of them are 263 00:14:38.480 --> 00:14:40.840 defending them because they have to because now the guy's mad. 264 00:14:41.320 --> 00:14:45.960 But yeah, that's not for me. Why I'm I saying this? 265 00:14:48.279 --> 00:14:55.919 Oh yeah, I'm tired of watching women beg for things 266 00:14:55.919 --> 00:14:59.679 for men, and like watching Adrienne do this is it's hard, 267 00:15:00.120 --> 00:15:05.360 super fucking hard. She just thinks that if she can 268 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:09.919 convince him that she'll be right and he'll be happy 269 00:15:09.919 --> 00:15:13.759 that he convinced that she can convinced him. And I 270 00:15:13.799 --> 00:15:17.600 A'm telling you that The reward for convincing someone to 271 00:15:17.679 --> 00:15:19.519 be with you who is unsure about being with you 272 00:15:19.679 --> 00:15:21.919 is now you have to be with someone who doesn't 273 00:15:21.919 --> 00:15:24.440 really want to be with you, and that is a 274 00:15:24.519 --> 00:15:26.879 torture in itself. Someone who doesn't like you, someone who 275 00:15:26.879 --> 00:15:29.559 doesn't like being with you, somebody who doesn't think you're 276 00:15:29.600 --> 00:15:31.360 funny and isn't delighted to see you walk in a 277 00:15:31.440 --> 00:15:35.559 room because they feel pressed into a situation. That's hell. 278 00:15:37.000 --> 00:15:42.240 Someone also said, hell is is a never ending day 279 00:15:42.519 --> 00:15:46.240 with a a family, like you're staying over a family's 280 00:15:46.240 --> 00:15:48.279 house that doesn't really eat, like they don't eat breakfast, 281 00:15:48.360 --> 00:15:51.759 nobody's on great lunch, they don't eat dinner till like 282 00:15:51.879 --> 00:15:54.559 nine o'clock, and you just don't have anything like. That's hell. 283 00:15:56.600 --> 00:15:58.120 So let me die with some gummy worms in my 284 00:15:58.120 --> 00:16:00.440 fucking pocket so I can now wit saytan, because damn 285 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:04.039 it the fact that is hell. But another sort of 286 00:16:04.080 --> 00:16:07.799 hell is being with someone who is stuck with you 287 00:16:08.399 --> 00:16:10.759 and they don't want to be with you either. I 288 00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:14.480 promise you play stupid games, you get superprises, but yeah, 289 00:16:14.519 --> 00:16:23.279 I'm tired of watching this. I just you know, I 290 00:16:23.480 --> 00:16:26.200 wonder what she would say if she looks back on 291 00:16:26.320 --> 00:16:28.120 it nowcause she's in her forties now, you know. And 292 00:16:28.200 --> 00:16:32.679 I think I wonder what she would say if, Like, 293 00:16:33.360 --> 00:16:37.759 would she think that this was gross to watch her 294 00:16:37.879 --> 00:16:40.720 have to beg and plead for someone who clearly does 295 00:16:40.759 --> 00:16:43.200 not want to get married. I don't think I wouldn't 296 00:16:43.200 --> 00:16:44.480 say Chris doesn't want to be with her. I think 297 00:16:44.559 --> 00:16:45.960 Chris wants to be her or her. I think he's 298 00:16:46.080 --> 00:16:48.200 enjoying what he's doing, but he doesn't want to He 299 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:51.279 doesn't want it to be like he doesn't want to 300 00:16:51.320 --> 00:16:53.480 get married. And he said that over and over and 301 00:16:53.480 --> 00:16:55.039 then she says I want to get married over and 302 00:16:55.039 --> 00:16:57.960 over again, and like, I wonder how I bet you, Adrianne, 303 00:16:58.000 --> 00:16:59.519 because this is the way she talks. She'd be like, oh, 304 00:16:59.559 --> 00:17:01.720 I look like such a loser, like or something like that. 305 00:17:02.799 --> 00:17:06.079 A lot of this episode I was looking back at 306 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:09.839 my twenty to twenty three year old self and like 307 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:13.720 seeing myself an adrian right, because also dumb as a 308 00:17:13.759 --> 00:17:17.720 box of rocks, and comparing that to myself now, Like, 309 00:17:17.759 --> 00:17:20.720 for example, how she keeps going to bed in these 310 00:17:20.839 --> 00:17:26.279 like thongs and like little little lingerie numbers, and now 311 00:17:27.039 --> 00:17:30.319 I would wear something like that, But because I want 312 00:17:30.319 --> 00:17:32.640 to put myself in a certain mood. I'd want to 313 00:17:33.079 --> 00:17:35.680 like feel a certain way. I wouldn't necessarily care who 314 00:17:35.759 --> 00:17:38.400 saw me in it. Like back then, I'd be like, yeah, 315 00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:43.599 I'll wear a thong for fucking eighteen hours. I don't mind. 316 00:17:44.519 --> 00:17:47.759 But now I'd be like, actually, I want to be comfortable, 317 00:17:48.599 --> 00:17:50.839 and if I want to get dressed up, I mean 318 00:17:51.119 --> 00:17:53.960 I wouldn't my cute little go to sleep outfit wouldn't 319 00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:57.160 be that. It would be something. It still would be cute, 320 00:17:57.200 --> 00:17:58.960 but it would be super comfortable, And I would be 321 00:17:58.960 --> 00:18:01.240 wearing because I want to feel a certain way rather 322 00:18:01.279 --> 00:18:05.279 than I wanted someone to see me a certain way. Never, 323 00:18:05.440 --> 00:18:07.240 I would never beg for someone to marry me. I'm 324 00:18:07.279 --> 00:18:12.160 never gonna let somebody tell me they don't want me twice. 325 00:18:12.319 --> 00:18:15.359 And I also, I'll get to it. When she says 326 00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:19.799 he's the kindest, sensitive, sweetest man, I'm like, is he that? 327 00:18:20.119 --> 00:18:22.799 Or did you just meet a older guy like his 328 00:18:22.920 --> 00:18:26.079 brain his friend love is fully formed and you've been 329 00:18:26.160 --> 00:18:29.960 dating people who haven't, and so he does seem like 330 00:18:30.519 --> 00:18:33.039 wise beyond his years, but you're not looking at his years. 331 00:18:33.039 --> 00:18:39.799 His years are way up there. Baby. When they get 332 00:18:39.799 --> 00:18:43.960 back to the hotel. She's dressed in another lingerie set, 333 00:18:43.960 --> 00:18:45.319 like I said, cause she's trying to get laid and 334 00:18:45.319 --> 00:18:50.160 she doesn't want to talk to talk about Alberta the instigator, 335 00:18:51.279 --> 00:18:53.200 and he just wants to go to bed, and she's like, baby, 336 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:54.839 I'm gonna run to the store to buy a piece 337 00:18:54.839 --> 00:18:56.559 of ass. Can I get you something while I'm out? 338 00:18:56.599 --> 00:18:59.759 Like che's she he's tired. He's old, Baby, he's old. 339 00:19:01.000 --> 00:19:03.319 The next scene, they're waking up, all hugged up, and 340 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:05.440 I was like, I do think they have genuine affection 341 00:19:05.519 --> 00:19:07.880 for each other. I think Chris has genuine affection for her. 342 00:19:08.279 --> 00:19:12.920 I I think that he feels suffocated when she moves 343 00:19:13.000 --> 00:19:16.319 very close, which is understandable. I really do think that 344 00:19:17.000 --> 00:19:19.480 this is like attachment shit that's going on, like I 345 00:19:19.519 --> 00:19:22.920 think he feels. And men tend to be socialized a 346 00:19:22.960 --> 00:19:24.440 certain way, so that's why they tend to be more 347 00:19:24.519 --> 00:19:27.240 on the avoidance side, and women are socialized to be 348 00:19:27.640 --> 00:19:30.319 the relationship keeper, the kinkeeper. We should be trying to 349 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:32.480 figure out what people think, and that's why we tend 350 00:19:32.480 --> 00:19:37.799 to lean more anxiously in general, although not always, there's 351 00:19:37.839 --> 00:19:42.599 no tried and true set, you know, it's always this way. 352 00:19:42.599 --> 00:19:45.039 It's not there's no rule like that. But I think 353 00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:47.640 that like when she comes on to him strong like that, 354 00:19:47.799 --> 00:19:52.079 she feels like cornered. He's worried he won't be able 355 00:19:52.119 --> 00:19:54.920 to give her what she needs. He's he's worried that 356 00:19:54.920 --> 00:19:57.799 that like if he does try, she'll leave him and 357 00:19:57.839 --> 00:20:00.880 then his heart will be broken. And so he's trying 358 00:20:00.920 --> 00:20:03.960 to keep like some distance in between them. And to her, 359 00:20:04.119 --> 00:20:06.519 that looks like like she's all in and he and 360 00:20:06.559 --> 00:20:11.319 he's not. And he was willing to marry two other women. 361 00:20:11.359 --> 00:20:16.720 He's not married. He's not trying to marry you. Yeah. Yeah. 362 00:20:16.759 --> 00:20:20.799 So they wake up. She's got actual clothes she sleeps in. 363 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:23.640 I was like, m windows get on and you get cold, 364 00:20:23.680 --> 00:20:25.559 and like you gotta be cold all the time. Big, 365 00:20:27.000 --> 00:20:30.480 But they're going down to the beach. They're going down 366 00:20:30.480 --> 00:20:32.160 to the beach. She sees some asses out there. She's 367 00:20:32.160 --> 00:20:35.200 got her string that she's gonna be wearing. She's ready 368 00:20:35.240 --> 00:20:36.599 to go. And so they go down to the beach 369 00:20:37.279 --> 00:20:42.079 and they have a good time. They're playing in the water, yadayada, YadA. 370 00:20:42.119 --> 00:20:44.839 Apparently he was throwing her in the water and then 371 00:20:44.880 --> 00:20:47.799 he started pissing in the water, and she at that point, 372 00:20:47.839 --> 00:20:49.400 she was underneath the water and she was gonna go 373 00:20:49.440 --> 00:20:51.160 up and I guess lick his deck or like put 374 00:20:51.160 --> 00:20:53.559 his dick in everybody. I don't know. But he was pissing, 375 00:20:53.559 --> 00:21:00.400 and he pissed all on her face. So when I 376 00:21:00.400 --> 00:21:02.200 tell you, I don't want to go to the beach, you, guys, 377 00:21:05.039 --> 00:21:06.640 I don't want to go to the beach. I don't 378 00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:07.960 want to go in the pool. I don't want to 379 00:21:07.880 --> 00:21:12.960 go to any places. Not only are the dolphins in 380 00:21:13.000 --> 00:21:18.119 the ocean raping people, not only is their literal biological material. 381 00:21:18.200 --> 00:21:21.799 The ocean is alive, guys. The ocean could take at 382 00:21:21.839 --> 00:21:26.799 DNA test, guys, And it doesn't mind killing you at all, 383 00:21:26.960 --> 00:21:28.960 doesn't mind killing you. Not only is it all that. 384 00:21:29.079 --> 00:21:32.000 She's just full of piss, just full of piss, full 385 00:21:32.039 --> 00:21:35.319 of piss. And people are like, oh, it's diluted, not enough, 386 00:21:35.920 --> 00:21:40.359 not enough, baby. They think this is a beautiful story 387 00:21:40.359 --> 00:21:42.720 about him pissing on her face. Okay, cool, cool, cool cool. 388 00:21:44.200 --> 00:21:46.119 They're having a good time though. She's laughing at the 389 00:21:46.160 --> 00:21:48.759 pissing his farts, he's laughing at her special underwear and 390 00:21:48.759 --> 00:21:51.680 matching bra. They just they have a good time that day, 391 00:21:53.599 --> 00:21:56.119 and then they go to a hotel shop. I think 392 00:21:56.160 --> 00:21:58.160 it looks like a hotel shop. It's at a convenience store, 393 00:21:58.160 --> 00:22:00.599 and they're behind like they're filming the from behind the 394 00:22:00.599 --> 00:22:03.319 fucking cam camera, I mean the counter. So it's like 395 00:22:03.599 --> 00:22:07.119 they're all up in there, and girl, they're buying three 396 00:22:07.119 --> 00:22:14.160 packs of Harbor. They're buying three packs of cigarettes. I've 397 00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:17.400 seen somebody bought a pack of cigarettes. Someone having a 398 00:22:17.400 --> 00:22:19.519 cigarette this day and age is like them holding a gun. 399 00:22:19.599 --> 00:22:21.680 I'd just be shocked, idaid, what do you do? What 400 00:22:21.799 --> 00:22:28.559 got you get that? Where that got from? And you know, 401 00:22:28.680 --> 00:22:32.039