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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to Later with Mo Kelly on demand from

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<v Speaker 2>This listensch says it shut work out, this patch workout.

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<v Speaker 3>It's Later with mo Kelly. We're live on YouTube. That's

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<v Speaker 3>real important because Claudine Cooper joins us in studio. The

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<v Speaker 3>nice exercise lady. You can go to Claudinecooper dot com. Claudin,

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<v Speaker 3>it's great to see you. How are you this evening?

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<v Speaker 3>Turn on that microphone.

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<v Speaker 2>There I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 4>There we go.

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<v Speaker 2>How are you doing?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm doing well. How you drive in?

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<v Speaker 3>Because I'm always appreciative when you drive in with all

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<v Speaker 3>this craziness outside.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, it wasn't too bad. I just was listening

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<v Speaker 5>to my Beyonce Cowboy Carter. Since going to the concert,

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<v Speaker 5>that's kind of been on rotation.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh you went? Did you walk to the concert?

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<v Speaker 2>I indeed walked off.

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<v Speaker 3>My goodness, you just gonna rub it. It didn't have to

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<v Speaker 3>park ninety dollars park and I'm just.

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<v Speaker 4>Gonna stroll too.

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<v Speaker 5>Even better than that, I taught my plate's class, showered

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<v Speaker 5>at the gym, put on my outfit, and walked straight

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<v Speaker 5>from work.

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<v Speaker 4>You didn't even go home?

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<v Speaker 3>No, it must be nice to have most of your

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<v Speaker 3>life stuff contained in a small area.

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<v Speaker 5>I gotta admit people were like, oh, what are you

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<v Speaker 5>gonna do about living next to a stadium and all

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<v Speaker 5>these things going on over there, But honestly, it's been

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<v Speaker 5>really great for us. I mean, minus the traffic every

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<v Speaker 5>now and then you run into it. But you know,

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<v Speaker 5>for the most part, I'm not one to complain. I

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<v Speaker 5>also am not one to start to think about a

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<v Speaker 5>negative outcome before it even happens.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, I wish I could be you, because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always worried about the negative life. Look if I

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<v Speaker 3>go out to this party tonight, I have to worry

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<v Speaker 3>about this. I have to worry about that, you know what,

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<v Speaker 3>time about to.

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<v Speaker 4>Get up in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm always thinking about these contingencies of if I choose

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<v Speaker 3>to do this, how might this adversely affect me?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like so for me, I was raised in

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<v Speaker 5>an environment where a lot of people lean towards the

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<v Speaker 5>negative outcome of everything, right, so take advantage. Take, for example,

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<v Speaker 5>me moving out here to La La is such.

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<v Speaker 4>A scary play from where at that point?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, I mean, like I've lived all over But let's

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<v Speaker 5>just use from my hometown Minneapolis, and the people who

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<v Speaker 5>were the most like LA is a scary place, It's

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<v Speaker 5>a terrible place. Are the main ones who are like, mmmm,

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<v Speaker 5>the winter's getting cold. Sure would love to come visit

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<v Speaker 5>in La. You know, I've been here for twenty five

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<v Speaker 5>years now, so it ended up working out for me.

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<v Speaker 2>But mainly, I believe that our.

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<v Speaker 5>Thoughts manifest, our thoughts come to fruition. If you continue

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<v Speaker 5>to think negative about things, there will most likely be

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<v Speaker 5>a negative outcome.

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<v Speaker 2>If you believe that the positive is possible.

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<v Speaker 5>More than you ruminate on the negative, chances are you'll

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<v Speaker 5>have a positive outcome.

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<v Speaker 3>Look at you coming in here preaching, but in a

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<v Speaker 3>good way. Let me ask you about that. In a

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<v Speaker 3>roundabout way, I gave you this story about the rise

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<v Speaker 3>of what is called the crunchy teen wellness influencer. YEA

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<v Speaker 3>long story, short is there is this health and wellness

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<v Speaker 3>movement amongst teens as far as diet and lifestyle, which

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<v Speaker 3>is supposedly opposite the generation before them and parents. But

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<v Speaker 3>the downside of this, to connect it is some teens

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<v Speaker 3>start obsessing thinking about the negative regarding health and wellness,

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<v Speaker 3>diet and exercise, worrying about what diseases they may get

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<v Speaker 3>in the years in the future, what life is going

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<v Speaker 3>to be like for them, because someone in their family

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<v Speaker 3>might have gotten cancer. They're just worried about all these

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<v Speaker 3>other things that they shouldn't be worried about.

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<v Speaker 5>Yet you're saying that they're ruminating on a possible negative outcome. Correct, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>that's not what I gathered from reading this article.

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<v Speaker 4>So go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>And here's the thing too.

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<v Speaker 5>How we receive information is through our own lens, our

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<v Speaker 5>own perspective. When I read this article, what I saw

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<v Speaker 5>was teenagers who are willing and able to disrupt the

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<v Speaker 5>generational patterns of poor health. And they're doing it, and

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<v Speaker 5>they're on a journey, and they're putting it on social media.

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<v Speaker 5>And sure, they're sixteen, seventeen, eighteen, nineteen years old. So

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<v Speaker 5>do they have all the scientific backing and the education.

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<v Speaker 2>And all the things. No, they don't.

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<v Speaker 5>But what they do have is a passion for not

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<v Speaker 5>being medicated for their whole adult life, because they've made

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<v Speaker 5>choices at sixteen seventeen, eighteen nineteen that will then have

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<v Speaker 5>to be undone at thirty nine, forty and forty one.

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<v Speaker 3>We're talking about this article in the New York Times

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<v Speaker 3>called the rise of the crunchy teen wellness influencer. And

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<v Speaker 3>you may think young people are disinclined or less inclined

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<v Speaker 3>to worry concern themselves with their diet. I'll say, the

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<v Speaker 3>genealogical history what they may be predisposed to. But it's

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<v Speaker 3>a different type of thinking for teenagers because they're usually

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<v Speaker 3>just thinking of whatever is in the moment. But now

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<v Speaker 3>there is a rise in i'll say thought surrounding the

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<v Speaker 3>subsequent decades in front of them.

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<v Speaker 5>Here's what I read, Okay, I read that there are

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<v Speaker 5>teenagers they're calling the crunchy teens. Because crunchy refers to granola,

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<v Speaker 5>that's what we used to call it. It refers to hippie,

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<v Speaker 5>it refers to all natural, no medication, holistic. That's why

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<v Speaker 5>they're called crunchy. However, what I'm getting from this is

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<v Speaker 5>that the crunchy teen does not want to eat ultra

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<v Speaker 5>process No. No, they do not want to go get

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<v Speaker 5>fast food. They want to try alternative ways to stay healthy. Now,

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<v Speaker 5>the negative outcome that I gathered from the article was

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<v Speaker 5>that this could potentially promote people into eating disorders. Yes,

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<v Speaker 5>now that's a whole nother subject that I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>enough about to weigh in on. But what I can

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<v Speaker 5>say is that any time you're taking in content, videos,

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<v Speaker 5>posts from people on social media, take it with a

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<v Speaker 5>grain of self, whether you're sixteen, twenty six, or seventy six,

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<v Speaker 5>because what you are receiving through the video and through

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<v Speaker 5>content is simply one person's point of view.

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<v Speaker 3>I always say that not all opinions are created equal,

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<v Speaker 3>and we should distill them through a common sense filter,

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<v Speaker 3>if you will, because everyone has an opinion about everything,

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<v Speaker 3>but not all opinions are created equal. Some are more informed,

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<v Speaker 3>some are less informed, some are altogether uninformed, And I

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<v Speaker 3>have to look at each opinion or each editorial or

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<v Speaker 3>each post, each thought and distill it through some sort

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<v Speaker 3>of like calllender, if you will, and kind of shake it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, Okay, is this person credible? Are they knowledgeable?

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<v Speaker 3>And we'll go from there.

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<v Speaker 5>What a sixteen year old who is weighing in on

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<v Speaker 5>the health and wellness industry as a whole have a

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<v Speaker 5>vast amount of information?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean they're sixteen.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I don't think they have a lot of information

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<v Speaker 4>about anything.

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<v Speaker 3>If that sounds dismissive, is because life experience does matter.

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<v Speaker 2>It matters.

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<v Speaker 5>Also, there's another scientist in this article that says, there's

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<v Speaker 5>a whole educational background that you have to have to

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<v Speaker 5>start weighing in on nutrition as well. Right, However, these kids,

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<v Speaker 5>being that I'm a parent of children of this age,

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<v Speaker 5>these kids have access to a lot of information and

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<v Speaker 5>they have the ability to research in ways that would

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<v Speaker 5>take us days, weeks, hours, months. Right, So now they

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<v Speaker 5>can gather information that will support their point of view.

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<v Speaker 4>They call that confirmation bias.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, they're more ways to investigate, but there's all so

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<v Speaker 3>more misinformation, more disinformation, more confirmation bias out there. If

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<v Speaker 3>I believe the world is flat, damn it, I'll be

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<v Speaker 3>able to find something that confirms my belief that the

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<v Speaker 3>Earth is flat.

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<v Speaker 2>Just google it exactly, Just google it.

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<v Speaker 5>And I say that to say, you said, oh, I

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<v Speaker 5>filter it through my calender of common sense. But I'm

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<v Speaker 5>gonna tell you my day I used to say common sense.

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<v Speaker 3>And all that common It's later with Mo Kelly and Claudinancooper.

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<v Speaker 3>Go to Claudinecooper dot com. If you want to know more.

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to Later with mo Kelly on demand from

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<v Speaker 3>It's Later with mo Kelly Live on YouTube, the iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 3>app and Instagram. And we're right in the middle of

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<v Speaker 3>conversation with Claudinecooper Claudinecooper dot com. If you want to

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<v Speaker 3>know more, I encourage you to go there. But in

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<v Speaker 3>the last segment, I mean, we were talking about this

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<v Speaker 3>New York Times article, the rise of the crunchy teen

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<v Speaker 3>wellness influencer, and how both of us extracted different things

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<v Speaker 3>from it. We interpreted it differently, but at the end

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<v Speaker 3>of it all, it had to do with teen wellness

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<v Speaker 3>influencers exerting their influence over their peers. As far as

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<v Speaker 3>dietary choices, I found it strange, if only because teens

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<v Speaker 3>don't really have any say right wrong, and different as

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<v Speaker 3>far as what they eat in their individual households and Carnesia.

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<v Speaker 3>You were telling us about someone who wrote in the

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<v Speaker 3>YouTube chat that go ahead and tell us real quick

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<v Speaker 3>tourn your might there.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, Reep said, I do not support teens controlling their

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<v Speaker 5>health when their brain is still developing.

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<v Speaker 3>There's something to that, because teens think a whole lot

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<v Speaker 3>of stuff which really should not be given the time

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<v Speaker 3>of day, me included when I was a teen. We

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<v Speaker 3>think a lot of things, probably not well informed. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>the mother of teens and I am a crunchy mom.

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<v Speaker 3>What Yes, I am a crunchy mom. I allow my

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<v Speaker 3>teens to have a say so. I want them to

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<v Speaker 3>weigh in on their nutrition. I want them to eat

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<v Speaker 3>or cook for themselves. I actually wanted to. I love

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<v Speaker 3>that comment. By the way, thank you for leaving that

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<v Speaker 3>comment in. Anyone who's watching, please leave us comments.

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<v Speaker 2>We love it.

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<v Speaker 5>I will say this, I take my kids to the market.

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<v Speaker 5>We all get our own little basket and we get

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<v Speaker 5>the things that we need to meal prep and to

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<v Speaker 5>cook for the week. It's a way to foster independence

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<v Speaker 5>as well as allowing them a freedom of thought. I

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<v Speaker 5>don't want to control my children. Control is not love.

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<v Speaker 5>But you're gonna get me on a parenting vendor right now.

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<v Speaker 3>We need to have this conversation and maybe a generational

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<v Speaker 3>But I grew up in a household which is the

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<v Speaker 3>exact opposite.

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<v Speaker 4>You're gonna eat what I put in front of you.

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<v Speaker 3>And you're not gonna have a say in whatever's gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be chosen at the supermarket. You might have a vote

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<v Speaker 3>for what maybe for dessert on a given evening, or

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<v Speaker 3>do you want to have breakfast for dinner on a

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<v Speaker 3>given evening as a as a treat. But other than that,

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<v Speaker 3>I was very much from the scene, not her generation

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<v Speaker 3>of children raising.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm I'm of that generation, and I hated it.

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<v Speaker 3>But are you that Are you the cool mom that'll

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<v Speaker 2>We're not gonna try.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh momo, I'm gonna just say this. My garage is

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<v Speaker 5>A war has been say no war, and it always

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<v Speaker 5>has been. I want my kids around me, and I

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<v Speaker 2>I do not want to control them.

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<v Speaker 5>I do not want to assert my authority over them

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<v Speaker 5>so that they are scared enough of me to lie,

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<v Speaker 5>because that's all you're getting. You're not getting kids who

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<v Speaker 5>are going to adhere to your strict rules. You're getting

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<v Speaker 5>and that is not a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me ask you that because I grew up in

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<v Speaker 3>the fear me too complex me too because my father

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, and he did and did.

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<v Speaker 2>We are victims of abuse.

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<v Speaker 3>But but but but I can't say they protected me

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<v Speaker 3>in the sense of we would rather you fear us

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<v Speaker 3>that engage in behavior which may lead to your demise.

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<v Speaker 3>The reason why I'm Marse paul O'Kelly, my father am

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<v Speaker 3>so hard on you, Morris William o'kelly's because I would

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<v Speaker 3>rather teach you boundary reason parameters so the police don't

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<v Speaker 3>don't end up in either jail, prison, or the morgue

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<v Speaker 3>or some combination thereof.

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<v Speaker 2>And thank god you're sitting here right now.

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<v Speaker 5>Butjah, but I can tell you right now that that

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<v Speaker 5>method doesn't always work. But what you did say that

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<v Speaker 5>does work is that Morris Paul O'Kelly was in that house.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh yes, Now, that I can say is probably the

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<v Speaker 5>bigger game changer than me telling you you need to

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<v Speaker 5>eat what I put on this plate or you're not

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<v Speaker 5>getting up out of this pet.

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<v Speaker 4>Got to sound just like my mama. Work for words.

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<v Speaker 4>Let me watch it right now.

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<v Speaker 5>Only because I had to say, Mama.

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<v Speaker 4>Hello, true story, but let me tie it all together.

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<v Speaker 3>There is something to be said for the health and wellness,

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<v Speaker 3>the emotional wellness of a child in an environment where

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<v Speaker 3>he or she feels they have a say, and my

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<v Speaker 3>sister say in our household had to do with like,

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<v Speaker 3>for example, if we want to go to a party.

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<v Speaker 3>If I want to go to a party, my parents

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<v Speaker 3>will say, why should we allow you to go? What

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<v Speaker 3>is the argument?

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<v Speaker 4>Why?

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<v Speaker 3>I want you to think through this. It's not how

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<v Speaker 3>are you going to get there? Who's going to be there?

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<v Speaker 3>What problems might you have? And it got me to

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<v Speaker 3>think about safety in a different way and also learning

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<v Speaker 3>how to articulate these things which I may want in life.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know it at the time, but looking back, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>that's what they were doing. But there is a wellness

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<v Speaker 3>component to this parenting thing right.

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<v Speaker 5>In my opinion, social and emotional wellness starts at home.

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<v Speaker 5>It starts at home with the relationship the children have

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<v Speaker 5>with their parents. And if the child feels unseen or unheard,

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<v Speaker 5>as you said, I feel like they will continue to

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<v Speaker 5>show up in life smaller than what they should be

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<v Speaker 5>and could be. Now I will say this, I was

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<v Speaker 5>not asked for a whole dissertation on why I want

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<v Speaker 5>to go to the party. I had one parent who

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<v Speaker 5>was like, I'll drive you to the party and i'll

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<v Speaker 5>pick you up from the party. That way I know

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<v Speaker 5>where you are. But I had another parent who was like,

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<v Speaker 5>you not going to the party, and that's that on

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<v Speaker 5>that and I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no doubt wat here because.

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<v Speaker 5>I said so yes, and I promised myself I would

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<v Speaker 5>never do my children like that. You can pitch your

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<v Speaker 5>argument and I'll listen and we can come to maybe

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<v Speaker 5>some middle.

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<v Speaker 3>Ground that's completely foreign to me because I did not

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<v Speaker 3>have a vote. Now I may have had the floor

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<v Speaker 3>to make an argument, but I didn't have a vote.

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<v Speaker 3>That vote and that final say was going to come

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<v Speaker 3>from her or him or them, but it wasn't going

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<v Speaker 3>to become coming from me.

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<v Speaker 4>Look, if you get to.

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<v Speaker 3>The right endpoint, then I don't quibble too much about

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<v Speaker 3>the journey in the path to get there.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, you don't get to quibble because guess what, it's

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<v Speaker 5>the person's journey, it's the parents' journey, it's the child's journey.

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<v Speaker 5>And that's another thing too. I stand on business when

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<v Speaker 5>it comes to my kids. They're going to go through

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<v Speaker 5>their own journey and they're going to face their own consequences,

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<v Speaker 5>and they're going to have to live with those consequences.

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<v Speaker 3>Hopefully it won't be prison or death. That's what my

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<v Speaker 3>parents were worried about. Yeah, well you don't always get

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<v Speaker 3>a say either.

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<v Speaker 4>That's true.

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<v Speaker 3>Before we get too far, Afield, I know you're back

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<v Speaker 3>with your Saturday free workouts.

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<v Speaker 4>Very quickly tell us about that.

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<v Speaker 5>Every Saturday, nine am and Inglewood at the Hollywood Park

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<v Speaker 5>Retail District a free workout, no equipment needed, no registration needed.

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<v Speaker 2>Just pull up on me, y'all.

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<v Speaker 5>It's ninety seventh then Prairie in the heart of Inglewood,

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<v Speaker 5>especially if you live over there. You know it's right

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<v Speaker 5>by Sofi Stadium and it's all levels in all ages.

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<v Speaker 5>Families come, so come on and see me. We do

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<v Speaker 5>a nice little movement break, we talk, we get to.

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<v Speaker 2>Know each other.

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<v Speaker 4>It's fun and she's gonna work your ass out and

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<v Speaker 4>just let you know.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a nice exercise.

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<v Speaker 4>Mark, Mark, don't let the title fool you.

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<v Speaker 2>You're welcome, Welcome for that, appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 4>Claudie Cooper is always a pleasure to see.

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<v Speaker 5>Always a pleasure to come into the studio with you

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<v Speaker 5>mouth thank you.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh.

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<v Speaker 5>In next week, I won't be here guys, Just so

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<v Speaker 5>you know, I'm doing a corporate wellness event with the

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<v Speaker 5>NFL headquarters.

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<v Speaker 2>Did she?

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<v Speaker 4>Did you hear how she just threw that out there

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<v Speaker 4>like she's big willie little humble bragging. Yeah, she could

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<v Speaker 4>have just pulled it off off air, but she said no,

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<v Speaker 4>let me tell on air.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, let me tell him what's up?

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<v Speaker 3>She just she just big time does I can't come

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<v Speaker 3>in because the NFL is calling.

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<v Speaker 4>I think she's too big for this show.

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<v Speaker 5>Now let me come back the next week.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not too big for you, guys.

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<v Speaker 5>Love y'all.

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