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Speaker 2: today's episode. Something really interesting about being a human is,
Speaker 2: while it is our incarnation, it's not just about us.
Speaker 2: What's what are you kidding me? It's not just about us. Yeah,
Speaker 2: So here's the thing. The universe is quite literally expanding
Speaker 2: through your unique perspective. I don't think will fully ever
Speaker 2: understand really what God is because I think it's just
Speaker 2: so beyond our comprehension as a human being. But we
Speaker 2: can grasp at straws and try our best. We have
Speaker 2: a limiting understanding that there is this divinity that is
Speaker 2: the creator of all things, that is the creator of us,
Speaker 2: that runs through our veins. And this divinity has been
Speaker 2: expanding since the beginning of time and has expanded now
Speaker 2: through you. There's an amazing quote by Rumy and it
Speaker 2: says you are not a drop in the ocean. You
Speaker 2: are the entire ocean. In a drop. You have a
Speaker 2: divinity that runs through your veins, that wants to experience
Speaker 2: this universe in physical form through your unique perspective. There
Speaker 2: are gifts and talent and attributes that only you can
Speaker 2: give to this world. It's not just about you but
Speaker 2: how the universe wants to expand through you, How the
Speaker 2: universe wants to gift to other people through your unique gift.
Speaker 2: A lot of us have grown up in judgmental environments,
Speaker 2: whether that be our family or the playground. We have
Speaker 2: learned in order to be accepted by the tribe, we
Speaker 2: have to try to fit in. We have to perceive
Speaker 2: how they're looking at us, rather than perceiving a world
Speaker 2: through our own two eyes, and that is not going
Speaker 2: to lead us anywhere. The grades that we think of
Speaker 2: are not thinking, oh my god, what are they thinking
Speaker 2: of me? What are they going to judge me for?
Speaker 2: They listen to their internal voice more than they listen
Speaker 2: to the external voices around them. If you want to
Speaker 2: be great, if you want to find out what you
Speaker 2: can really do, you have to take a more feminine
Speaker 2: approach to your life, and that means tuning in more
Speaker 2: than your tuning externally. It means listening to the inner
Speaker 2: voice more than you're listening to everyone around you. At
Speaker 2: the end of the day, the person who understands your
Speaker 2: vision the most is you. You can't expect people to
Speaker 2: understand your point of view when it's your point of view.
Speaker 2: Trust me When it becomes successful, everyone else will jump
Speaker 2: on board. But for now, you have to be both
Speaker 2: boots on the ground and you have to go after
Speaker 2: your desire like your life depends on it, because it
Speaker 2: really does. How do you stop caring so much about
Speaker 2: what other people are telling you to do or about
Speaker 2: their judgments? You got to first consider the source. If
Speaker 2: someone is judging you for your relationship, but you would
Speaker 2: never want theirs, don't take their advice. If someone is
Speaker 2: judging you for how you dress, but you hate how
Speaker 2: they're dressed, don't take their advice. You have to consider
Speaker 2: the source. They are their own human with their own
Speaker 2: filters and their own fears and their own judgments, and
Speaker 2: their limited beliefs are now just bleeding on you. It's
Speaker 2: hard for people to carry these burdens of limiting beliefs
Speaker 2: and fears. So what do they do? They word vomit
Speaker 2: it on us when I get unsolicited advice on relationships,
Speaker 2: because people will always ask me, oh, maybe you want
Speaker 2: to date this person, or maybe you want this, or
Speaker 2: maybe you want that. Even though I find it really
Speaker 2: funny that no one has once ever asked me if
Speaker 2: I'm looking for God, but they will ask me if
Speaker 2: I'm looking for a man, I'm like, yeah, I'm looking
Speaker 2: for the man upstairs divinity. I'm looking for a true
Speaker 2: definition of God. Do you have that? I'm looking to
Speaker 2: transcend this reality and teleport into the king's chamber in
Speaker 2: ancient Egypt? Do you have that machine where I can
Speaker 2: do that? Oh?
Speaker 1: You do?
Speaker 2: Okay, Then we're not on the same wavelength here, are we?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: We're not. No, we're not. People will give me random
Speaker 2: advice about relationships, and I look at their relationship and
Speaker 2: I think, holy shit, I would never never want what
Speaker 2: they have. I don't like their dynamic. I don't like
Speaker 2: how they fight with one another. I would never allow
Speaker 2: that in my relationship. Life is truly just whatever you
Speaker 2: want to tolerate, whatever you allow, you amplify. And I
Speaker 2: look at them and I'm thinking, huh ba humbug. Yeah
Speaker 2: you know that's cool and all that you want to
Speaker 2: give me advice. I think you have good intentions. Maybe
Speaker 2: you're trying to help me, even though I did not ask.
Speaker 2: I don't want what you have, though, So what I
Speaker 2: do is I smile and I nod and I'm just
Speaker 2: like yeah, yeah, And then I just changed the subject
Speaker 2: because I literally don't care. And these people they're not
Speaker 2: trying to hurt me. I do think they have positive
Speaker 2: intention to help me. And I wouldn't go so far
Speaker 2: to say that people who are giving you advice want
Speaker 2: to hurt you. If they're trying to give you advice,
Speaker 2: they probably think that they're helping you. Maybe they just
Speaker 2: like to hear themselves talk. Maybe they're delusional. Who really knows.
Speaker 2: But I don't want to take ever. But I'm also
Speaker 2: not going to do harm, especially when I know someone
Speaker 2: is just in a limited consciousness and they have limited
Speaker 2: capacity for understanding what I understand. And it's not that
Speaker 2: I'm better than them, We're just operating on two different channels.
Speaker 2: And when someone does want to give me their advice
Speaker 2: on relationships and they're looking at me and they're like, well,
Speaker 2: you're single, maybe you could try this or this or this,
Speaker 2: you gotta take it with a grain of salt. If
Speaker 2: you're looking for answers, go to God, go to the divine,
Speaker 2: go to your spirit team, or just sit in silence.
Speaker 2: No one can give you the answer you're really really
Speaker 2: looking for besides yourself. Because people can talk all day,
Speaker 2: no one truly knows what's best for you besides you.
Speaker 2: You now, if you really want to get the best
Speaker 2: advice possible, it means turning off your egoic mind and
Speaker 2: leaning into your intuition. You got to slow down, you
Speaker 2: have to make you got to step into meditation, go
Speaker 2: for a walk and just listen to meditative music. You
Speaker 2: need to flush out all the blah blah blah blah
Speaker 2: blah to get to the true answers. Recently, I've had
Speaker 2: to tell my mom like fifteen thousand times, I want
Speaker 2: to go to you and talk to you because I
Speaker 2: love you and I value what you have to say.
Speaker 2: But there are times I'm looking for comfort, not criticism.
Speaker 2: I'm looking for space, not unsolicited advice. There's a difference.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we're just looking for a shoulder to cry on,
Speaker 2: we're not looking for someone to talk at us. And
Speaker 2: I found, after telling her multiple times, it has now
Speaker 2: successfully gotten through the brain barrier and we're getting somewhere.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you literally have to tell someone, look, I don't
Speaker 2: need criticism right now, I just need comfort. I know
Speaker 2: what I have to do, but it's a difficult decision
Speaker 2: and right now I just need a shoulder to lean
Speaker 2: on communicate what it is you need from people. Before
Speaker 2: you take someone's advice, you need to look at their life.
Speaker 2: Do you want their relationship? Do you like how they
Speaker 2: show up every single day? Their belief system has built
Speaker 2: their life, because our belief builds our world. If you
Speaker 2: don't like their life, then do not adopt their belief.
Speaker 2: If people are not just giving you advice but literally
Speaker 2: hating on you, let them. Whether someone's sending you positive
Speaker 2: energy or negative energy, it's still energy you can use
Speaker 2: to alchemize and transmute into power. When I go on
Speaker 2: a walk and I feel like there's people staring at me,
Speaker 2: I will literally just say to myself, I transmute any
Speaker 2: energy sent my way into power, into wealth, into hotness,
Speaker 2: into abundance, because at the end of the day, people
Speaker 2: are going to send me all different types of energy.
Speaker 2: I like to show up how I like to show up,
Speaker 2: and not every one's going to agree with that, So
Speaker 2: of course they're going to judge me. Of course they're
Speaker 2: going to send me energy. I'm not going to walk
Speaker 2: around and be like, oh, no one can perceive me,
Speaker 2: Oh no one's judging me. No. I live in reality,
Speaker 2: which means that yeah, people do judge you. They are
Speaker 2: going to send you energy. And if they're going to
Speaker 2: do that, you can bet your ass that I'm going
Speaker 2: to use their energy to transmute it into my power
Speaker 2: because I don't get mad. I get everything that I've
Speaker 2: ever wanted. And that's what you have to learn to do.
Speaker 2: You have the god given ability to transmute energy other
Speaker 2: people send you into your power. So literally say to yourself,
Speaker 2: any energy sent my way is turned into abundance. Any
Speaker 2: energy is sent my way is turned into my power.
Speaker 2: Any energy sent my way is turned into whatever it
Speaker 2: is that you want to manifest in that season. Most
Speaker 2: people are just children in adult bodies. Yes, we physically
Speaker 2: age thirteen to fourteen to fifteen to sixteen. But when
Speaker 2: you ask someone, oh do you feel older today? Do
Speaker 2: you feel twenty seven? Do you feel fifteen? They always
Speaker 2: say no, I feel exactly the same. Yeah, because we're
Speaker 2: physically aging, but mentally and emotionally, unless you're doing the work,
Speaker 2: you're reading the books, you're not really maturing. That's why
Speaker 2: there's so many adult humans and we're thinking, WTF. They
Speaker 2: can't emotionally regulate, they don't know how to communicate. This
Speaker 2: is a living hell. Yeah, they physically age but mentally
Speaker 2: and emotionally, spiritually, there's still a five year old having
Speaker 2: a temper tantrum. There are a lot of people. When
Speaker 2: I look at them, I just see them as children.
Speaker 2: I see them in their own mental cage. Because the
Speaker 2: real matrix exists between our two ears. It's what our
Speaker 2: limiting beliefs have told us we're not allowed to do.
Speaker 2: The only real limit in this life is you. You
Speaker 2: are your own biggest obstacle. You are your own biggest limits.
Speaker 2: You are your own greatest enemy. It's really yourself. And
Speaker 2: I know that sounds weird because we are also sometimes
Speaker 2: our biggest advocate. But it takes time to get there.
Speaker 2: We have to surpass all the limiting beliefs, all the
Speaker 2: negative things that people have told us that we now believe.
Speaker 2: We have to surpass all our insecurities, all of our
Speaker 2: self judgments. Our biggest limit is our self. That's it.
Speaker 2: And it actually puts the power back in our own hands.
Speaker 2: Because if I say the biggest limit is your parents,
Speaker 2: well the powers in their hands. Now, what are you
Speaker 2: gonna do? If I say the biggest limits is your teacher, well,
Speaker 2: the powers in their hands, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 2: If I say, the biggest limit is your ex Well,
Speaker 2: that puts the power in their hands. What are you
Speaker 2: gonna do? No, no, no. The person who has the most
Speaker 2: power over your life is simply you. Your biggest enemy,
Speaker 2: your biggest obstacle, your biggest limit is also you. It's you.
Speaker 2: You have to unravel all the bs going on in
Speaker 2: this brain. And once you do that, oh my god,
Speaker 2: your life will change. Your life will change. You are
Speaker 2: both the programmer and the program So growing up we
Speaker 2: got programmed, and now as an adult we have to say,
Speaker 2: all right, I want to become a conscious co creator
Speaker 2: now and I'm going to rewrite my program. That's why
Speaker 2: listening to this podcast is so important, because you're rewiring
Speaker 2: thoughts that you thought were fact. That's why last week
Speaker 2: the Making Mind affirmation track is so important. It's going
Speaker 2: to rewire your brain for you so you can get
Speaker 2: better at results. I'm telling you listen to last week's
Speaker 2: episode over and over and over again for at least
Speaker 2: twenty one days, and you're going to see a huge
Speaker 2: transformation in your life. At this point, I can't even
Speaker 2: get mad at people because I feel bad. I feel
Speaker 2: bad they don't have the tools. I feel bad that
Speaker 2: they hate themselves so much, and I could never hate
Speaker 2: someone as much as they hate themselves. I couldn't. I'll
Speaker 2: never forget. I was in Brooklyn once getting CA and
Speaker 2: this lady walked past me, and I smiled at her
Speaker 2: and waved, and she said something along the lines of
Speaker 2: don't smile at me or don't wave at me, and
Speaker 2: I just chuckled to myself because I thought, damn, I
Speaker 2: could never hate that little human as much as she
Speaker 2: hates herself. And I sent her love because I feel
Speaker 2: bad she hates herself. And at the end of the day,
Speaker 2: you can say whatever you want to me, I don't
Speaker 2: really care. I care what I think about me. I
Speaker 2: care about what God thinks of me, not a mere
Speaker 2: mortal no, unless your divinity. I don't really care what
Speaker 2: you have to say about me, because I know how
Speaker 2: much I've worked on myself. I know how many times
Speaker 2: I've burnt myself down just to stand back up. I
Speaker 2: know how many hours I have spent on becoming a
Speaker 2: better person, a better version of me. I don't need
Speaker 2: your validation because I validate me. I don't need your
Speaker 2: opinion because I have a good opinion of myself. And
Speaker 2: unless you're God. I don't really care. Another time, I
Speaker 2: was driving in the car and I was so happy
Speaker 2: because it was after yoga and I was praising God,
Speaker 2: I was talking to Jesus and I was like crying
Speaker 2: of gratitude. It was a special moment for me. And
Speaker 2: then I look up and someone's flipping me off, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, lovely. And in that moment a channel
Speaker 2: message came through, and what that message said was there
Speaker 2: are constant invitations to either evolve or devolve. You could
Speaker 2: be in a higher vibration, but there's always going to
Speaker 2: be that invitation to get to the next higher vibration,
Speaker 2: to the next higher state, or an invitation to devolve,
Speaker 2: to go down a peg. And that is just what
Speaker 2: being a human is. Healing is not linear. It's much
Speaker 2: more like a spiral, and we're constantly being invited to
Speaker 2: go to a higher state, from neutral to happiness, to
Speaker 2: love to authenticity. And then when you're at that state
Speaker 2: of authenticity, you're also going to get an invitation where
Speaker 2: someone fells you off to go back down to neutrality,
Speaker 2: where maybe you get a little confused, and then you
Speaker 2: get pissed off and you're going down to anger. There
Speaker 2: are always going to be invitations, and honestly, you don't
Speaker 2: have to get bent out of shape about this. We're human.
Speaker 2: Enjoy the journey evil to devolve, devolve to evolv You're
Speaker 2: not meant to be perfect, You're meant to be human.
Speaker 2: If someone has enough time to hate on me, to
Speaker 2: judge me, wow, they must be so bored. I don't
Speaker 2: have time to leave a negative comment on someone's post.
Speaker 2: I don't have time to hate on someone. I don't
Speaker 2: have time to talk bad about someone. That's a luxury.
Speaker 2: Having free time to hate on someone is such a luxury.
Speaker 2: I don't have it. I'm building an empire, I'm writing
Speaker 2: another book, I'm posting content, I have a podcast to
Speaker 2: get to, I have clients to speak to. I don't
Speaker 2: have the luxury the boredom to talk negatively about other people.
Speaker 2: If somebody does, they must not have a lot going on. Oh, demo, demo, damn.
Speaker 2: And at the end of the day, if they want
Speaker 2: to talk bad about me, okay, Karma knows everyone's address.
Speaker 2: They're just hurting themselves. It has nothing to do with me.
Speaker 2: One of the energetic principles is the law of karma.
Speaker 2: Whatever you put out, you're gonna get back. You don't
Speaker 2: have to worry about people who are hating on you,
Speaker 2: who are sending you negative energy. You take that energy,
Speaker 2: you transmit it, you alchemize it, and you let Karma
Speaker 2: do her thing. Okay, those people, they need to learn
Speaker 2: how to get a life, They need to learn how
Speaker 2: to get a hobby. Honestly, send them this podcast. This
Speaker 2: would help them. Let's let's not gate keep, let's allow
Speaker 2: them in. Let's help them. The best thing you can
Speaker 2: do towards a hater, towards someone who's sending you negative energy,
Speaker 2: is simply laugh. That will allow you to maintain a
Speaker 2: high frequency, and it also really communicates. You don't get
Speaker 2: to bully me into a lower vibration. You don't get
Speaker 2: to dictate how I'm going to feel. You're miserable. Why
Speaker 2: would I lower myself down to your state. I'm instead
Speaker 2: going to influence other people around me to rise. I
Speaker 2: didn't come to the planet to allow other people to
Speaker 2: bring me down. When I was in Charleston, some girl
Speaker 2: kept spilling her drink all over me, And instead of
Speaker 2: getting mad at her or allowing that to ruin my night,
Speaker 2: because that only hurts me, I took my drink, poured
Speaker 2: it on top of my head and said I was
Speaker 2: dancing in the rain. That's what I did. I transmute
Speaker 2: negative energy into humor. I'm telling you that will change
Speaker 2: your life. When someone wants to ghost me, I just
Speaker 2: laugh and say, Okay, someone better's coming in. When I
Speaker 2: get freaking traumatized, I'm like, okay, what the f was that.
Speaker 2: I'm a human being and I don't know what's going on,
Speaker 2: and that's okay. I just laugh. At the end of
Speaker 2: the day, I would rather laugh than cry. I don't
Speaker 2: want people to bully me into a lower vibration. I
Speaker 2: will not allow other people to dictate my emotional state.
Speaker 2: That's not what I came here to do. I'm not
Speaker 2: a feather in the wind. I'm not a leaf in
Speaker 2: the wind. I am CC and I'm going to be
Speaker 2: in control of my frequency and my vibration because at
Speaker 2: the end of the day, that is what's controlling my reality.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let Joe Schmoe tinker me into a
Speaker 2: lower vibration and then f up my reality. That's not
Speaker 2: what I came here to do. I take my power
Speaker 2: back by responding with humor rather than reacting from a
Speaker 2: past wound or anger, or allowing them to dictate how
Speaker 2: I'm gonna feel. People who hate on you, think about it,
Speaker 2: or below you. They say it's lonely at the top.
Speaker 2: No it's not. It's lonely at the bottom. And that's
Speaker 2: why misery will always try to rip you down. People
Speaker 2: who are miserable try to take you, take your energy.
Speaker 2: They're like parasites. They want to just bleed their misery
Speaker 2: all over you. They just want you to hear their
Speaker 2: miserable story over and over and over again. People who
Speaker 2: are below you are lonely, they are miserable, and they
Speaker 2: are trying to pull you down to their state. That's
Speaker 2: not because they're evil, it's just how energy works. All
Speaker 2: energy seeks to expand. Think about it. When someone has
Speaker 2: good energy, you want to be around that person. You
Speaker 2: want to hear their story, you want to listen to them,
Speaker 2: you want to dance with them. But when someone's always
Speaker 2: in a crabby mood, you try to get away from them.
Speaker 2: Because energy is always seeking to expand, and it expands
Speaker 2: through us. It's contagious. If they're in a bad mood. Somehow,
Speaker 2: now we're in a bad mood. But if they're in
Speaker 2: a good mood somehow, Now we're in a good mood.
Speaker 2: Energy is contagious. It's not lonely at the top, it's
Speaker 2: lonely at the bottom. And that is why miserly loves company.
Speaker 2: No one really doing better than you mentally, emotionally, spiritually
Speaker 2: is gonna hate on you. So if you know someone's
Speaker 2: hating on you, it's because they're below you and trying
Speaker 2: to get you down to their level. But you're not
Speaker 2: going to give them that power because you're smarter than that.
Speaker 2: I feel like people who hate on me, people who
Speaker 2: hate on you, I feel like they're actually just fans
Speaker 2: in disguise. They're secret fans, like they want to do
Speaker 2: what we're doing so badly that they're just envious. That's
Speaker 2: what it is they are reflecting back to you. Damn,
Speaker 2: you get to be free, you get to be happy,
Speaker 2: you get to be confident in your own skin, and
Speaker 2: I don't get to do that. Well, now I'm gonna
Speaker 2: hate on you. I find it very hysterical when people
Speaker 2: hate on what someone else is wearing, and they'll tell me,
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't hate with there. Why would I
Speaker 2: hate what someone's wearing. Why would I care that much
Speaker 2: to comment on another person's outfit? Why would I care
Speaker 2: about that. I don't care what anyone does as long
Speaker 2: as they're not hurting another individual. I do not care
Speaker 2: if someone comes up to me and says, oh my god,
Speaker 2: look at that girl. Her outfit is horrible. It's disgusting.
Speaker 2: I know there's something about that girl, standing in her confidence,
Speaker 2: in her unique combination of clothing that is triggering that
Speaker 2: other person. They want to be as confident as her.
Speaker 2: They want to be as free as her, they want
Speaker 2: to be as bold as her, and because they don't
Speaker 2: allow themselves to do that, they're gonna hate on her.
Speaker 2: When someone is hating on someone, when someone is judging someone,
Speaker 2: I know it says so much more about the hater
Speaker 2: than it does about that other person. They really are
Speaker 2: a secret band. They want to be able to do
Speaker 2: what that other person is doing. So when someone is
Speaker 2: hitting on you, it's really not even about you. It's
Speaker 2: about them what they wish they can embody, what they
Speaker 2: wish they could have in their own reality. You're inspiring them,
Speaker 2: You're making them feel something, You're triggering them. Honestly, you
Speaker 2: should be a saying you're welcome to them because you're
Speaker 2: helping them heal while on their incarnation, because you're showing
Speaker 2: them where their shadows lie. Your energy is expensive. My
Speaker 2: energy is expensive, So that means we're not just going
Speaker 2: to spend it on anyone. There are people who are
Speaker 2: just not worth us spending our attention and energy on.
Speaker 2: And if you don't want something to be a big deal,
Speaker 2: do not give it big attention. Think about it. When
Speaker 2: you don't give something your attention. Your attention is the
Speaker 2: greatest commodity that you have. When you don't give something
Speaker 2: your attention, it can't steal from your energy bucket, it
Speaker 2: can't take from your life. Something really only solidifies into
Speaker 2: your three D reality when you observe it. It's called
Speaker 2: the observer effect in quantum physics. When you observe something,
Speaker 2: it goes from wavelength into solid electron form. But when
Speaker 2: you remove your attention from it, it really ceases to
Speaker 2: exist within your reality. Your energy is expensive, so do
Speaker 2: not spend it trying to prove your work to people
Speaker 2: who've already decided not to see it. Do not spend
Speaker 2: your energy trying to prove yourself to people who do
Speaker 2: not even like themselves. It is not worth it to
Speaker 2: burn yourself out for what For people who are still
Speaker 2: operating at the capacity of a five year old. Trying
Speaker 2: to prove yourself to someone who literally is already committed
Speaker 2: to misunderstanding you not worth it. Go talk to God instead,
Speaker 2: Go read a book, Go learn something new. Boundaries are
Speaker 2: the sexiest thing you can do for yourself. Unfollow them,
Speaker 2: mute them, walk away. Not everything deserves a reaction, and
Speaker 2: you know what, not everything even deserves a response. Some
Speaker 2: things deserve an attention, some things just deserve a moment
Speaker 2: of I'm calling all my power back to me. I'm
Speaker 2: going to look in the other direction. I'm going to
Speaker 2: take my power, my presence, and I'm going to go
Speaker 2: place it into an environment where I am celebrated rather
Speaker 2: than tolerated. You aren't for everyone. I'm not for everyone.
Speaker 2: I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I definitely am ayahuasca.
Speaker 2: I'm going to trigger people. I'm going to shed light
Speaker 2: on things for people. I'm going to make people feel something.
Speaker 2: I'm okay with that because I didn't come to planet
Speaker 2: Earth to be liked. I don't care if mere mortals
Speaker 2: like me or not. I came here to really walk
Speaker 2: on CC's journey of learning to love herself unconditionally, of
Speaker 2: creating to inspire other human beings. I have my own
Speaker 2: mission that needs my time, attention, and focus. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to worry about Joe Schmo, who does not like himself.
Speaker 2: You weren't created to be liked by everyone. You were
Speaker 2: created to learn how to love who you incarnated as.
Speaker 2: And you do have purpose here, and you are needed here.
Speaker 2: And you're not meant to be that other person, because
Speaker 2: if you were meant to be that other person, you
Speaker 2: would have incarnated as them. You have your own journey,
Speaker 2: your own obstacles, your own celebrations that needs your attention.
Speaker 2: Give your attention to things that you can grow, not
Speaker 2: to people who are committed to misunderstanding you. You have
Speaker 2: to basically reframe their hate. Let them be judgmental, let
Speaker 2: them hate. It means you're probably doing something right. It
Speaker 2: means you're being loud enough that you're not conforming to
Speaker 2: everybody else. Haters give you a spotlight. They give you energy. Okay,
Speaker 2: efitt use it. Every successful person I can think of
Speaker 2: has people who are hating on them. The first reframe is, oh,
Speaker 2: people are hating on me. That means I'm not conforming.
Speaker 2: It must mean I'm doing something right. The second thing
Speaker 2: is reframing what they're hating on. When I was growing up,
Speaker 2: my older brother always used to make fun of me
Speaker 2: for having a big forehead, and so did this kid
Speaker 2: in my grade. And thank god, thank God for my
Speaker 2: sister because she I remember sitting in her room and
Speaker 2: I was crying to her because my brother and this
Speaker 2: kid in my school would call me a five head
Speaker 2: all the time. And she was like, Cci, she did
Speaker 2: something really important. Actually, she didn't deny that I had
Speaker 2: a big forehead. She wasn't like, no, you have a
Speaker 2: small forehead. I don't have a small forehead. I do
Speaker 2: have a bigger forehead. But she didn't deny the fact
Speaker 2: that I had a big forehead, So she didn't gaslight
Speaker 2: me into saying, no, you have a small forehead. I don't.
Speaker 2: She said, your forehead is a beautiful size. It's not small,
Speaker 2: it's a statement size. And she says, do you know
Speaker 2: who has bigger foreheads? Models? And she always used to
Speaker 2: show me a picture of Gema Ward and she said, Ceci,
Speaker 2: you look like jem Award. When I was younger, apparently
Speaker 2: I looked like this model gem Award or I have
Speaker 2: similar features as her, for example my forehead. And she
Speaker 2: used to tell me all of the girls on America's
Speaker 2: Next Top Model have unique features like gaps or a
Speaker 2: larger forehead, and she says, this is what makes them
Speaker 2: stand out, This is what makes them beautiful, and you
Speaker 2: have that and it is beautiful. And she would even
Speaker 2: show me Rihanna when I got a little bit older.
Speaker 2: She was like, look you and Rihanna, you have this
Speaker 2: beautiful feature about you. And she saved me with that
Speaker 2: because my sister's ten years older than me. Having another
Speaker 2: woman who I looked up to because she's older than me,
Speaker 2: tell me, this is so beautiful about you and reframing
Speaker 2: it from a five head to models and celebrities have
Speaker 2: this beautiful feature and it's what makes them stand out.
Speaker 2: Really help me see it in a new light. If
Speaker 2: people are hating on you for your skin, your hair,
Speaker 2: your body. Even Cindy Crawford, they told her you got
Speaker 2: to take off your mole. You got to take off
Speaker 2: your mole, and she refused. That mole was the thing
Speaker 2: that ended up making her book all of these modeling
Speaker 2: projects and making her famous You have to reframe what
Speaker 2: people are hating on you for. If they hate on
Speaker 2: you for your voice, they don't think you're a good singer,
Speaker 2: good actress. You have to realize that you have a
Speaker 2: special talent that the universe is trying to expand through
Speaker 2: only you. Only you can do what you are sent
Speaker 2: to this planet to do, and you have to lean
Speaker 2: into it. So reframe it. How is it different? How
Speaker 2: is it beautiful? Where do you see in your reality
Speaker 2: that someone else who's doing what you want to do
Speaker 2: has maybe something similar to you. You have to reframe it.
Speaker 2: You have to see the truth of the situation that
Speaker 2: they're hating on you because they actually want to be you.
Speaker 2: They're hating on you because they're jealous that you can
Speaker 2: stand in your boldness, that you can stand in your authenticity,
Speaker 2: that you're willing to go out on a limb and
Speaker 2: see what you can create. Fortune favors the bold, and
Speaker 2: if they're hating on you, it's because they're really fans
Speaker 2: in disguise. I want to give you another tool that
Speaker 2: I call Messy makeup Mode. This will really help you
Speaker 2: ground yourself in your present moment so you can focus
Speaker 2: on having fun, being in your authentic energy and attracting
Speaker 2: the best of the best rather than worried about what
Speaker 2: people are thinking of you. This is on page one
Speaker 2: fifty eight of my book show Up as her grounding
Speaker 2: through messy makeup mode. The divine feminine exists in and
Speaker 2: expresses herself through her body, not our head, where our
Speaker 2: masculine lives. I used to do something I call body bouncing.
Speaker 2: Body bouncing means you're decentering yourself from your own life
Speaker 2: energetically by switching your point of view from your own
Speaker 2: to someone else's point of view of you. So instead
Speaker 2: of you thinking, am I having fun? Instead of you
Speaker 2: enjoying your own night, you're thinking, what is that person
Speaker 2: thinking of me?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: My god? Are they judging me? Do they not like
Speaker 2: my outfit? Now I'm insecure. You're gonna notice you're not
Speaker 2: insecure when you just live through your own perception instead
Speaker 2: of Josh Moo's. Instead of enjoying myself or even having
Speaker 2: an inner dialogue about what I was seeing, I would
Speaker 2: have an inner dialogue about how I thought other people
Speaker 2: saw me. Let's say I aligned with a man named
Speaker 2: Brad at a bar. Instead of me having an internal
Speaker 2: dialogue about what I thought about Brad, I would be
Speaker 2: trying to pick up on what Brad thought of me.
Speaker 2: I had no time to even assess whether this was
Speaker 2: a good or bad match, because I was consumed by
Speaker 2: making sure I was making a good impression. How can
Speaker 2: we see red flags and others when we are obsessing
Speaker 2: over potential red flags in ourselves? This is how we
Speaker 2: pick the wrong dudes. This is also how we exit
Speaker 2: our own magnetic energy, because what is magnetic energy. Magnetic
Speaker 2: energy is just being in your authentic state, whatever that
Speaker 2: might be that day. A really easy way to get
Speaker 2: into a magnetic authentic state is just say fit, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna do what I want, and proceed to do what
Speaker 2: you want, and you'll be in a magnetic frequency positive
Speaker 2: bitch tip. The egg does not swim to the sperm.
Speaker 2: It's science. The divine feminine does not chase the masculine.
Speaker 2: It's energetic law. Instead of body bouncing from your point
Speaker 2: of view to their point of view, use your divine
Speaker 2: feminine to get back into your own body. There are
Speaker 2: two ways to do this. The first way is to
Speaker 2: use your light divine feminine to regain connection to yourself.
Speaker 2: Instead of ghosting your own point of view. This is
Speaker 2: a grounding practice. We have long been told to keep sweet,
Speaker 2: but I'm telling you forget that and keep in touch
Speaker 2: with yourself while you're out, Pause and feel into your
Speaker 2: body by using one or more of your five senses
Speaker 2: to reground your spirit. Ask yourself, what am I sensing
Speaker 2: right now? Who am I talking to? What do I see?
Speaker 2: What do I feel? What do I hear? Am I
Speaker 2: enjoying myself right now? Am I behaving in a way
Speaker 2: that feels good to me? When you check in with
Speaker 2: one of your five senses, you ground your spirit back
Speaker 2: into your own body and regain your perspective. You can
Speaker 2: then decide how you wish to proceed. Maybe you want
Speaker 2: to stop the conversation and go dance, Maybe you need
Speaker 2: a bathroom break, or maybe you are perfectly happy where
Speaker 2: you are. Whatever the answer is, it will allow you
Speaker 2: to act in a way that grounds you in your
Speaker 2: own human experience. The second way to get back into
Speaker 2: your own body is by tapping into your dark divine
Speaker 2: feminine energy and activating messy makeup mode. Messy makeup mode
Speaker 2: means getting out of your head and into your body
Speaker 2: by dancing in any way that feels good to you
Speaker 2: in act of recentering yourself energetically, which magnetizes your energy
Speaker 2: and takes your power back. I swear to you, the
Speaker 2: most people come up to me when I'm dancing like
Speaker 2: no other I'm not kidding. I dance like God himself
Speaker 2: told me to start shaking it. I don't care what
Speaker 2: it looks like. I don't care how people perceive it.
Speaker 2: All I care about is that I feel good. When
Speaker 2: I'm dancing and messy makeup mode is activated, I'm having
Speaker 2: so much fun. I literally cannot even worry about what
Speaker 2: others think. I'm enjoying myself so much nothing else matters.
Speaker 2: I'm usually so sweaty it looks like I just walked
Speaker 2: out of the shower and my makeup is a mess,
Speaker 2: hence messy makeup mode. You would think that when your
Speaker 2: hair is dripping sweat and your makeup is just all
Speaker 2: over the place and no one would want to come
Speaker 2: within two feet of you. But this is actually when
Speaker 2: I get the most positive attention to enter messy makeup mode.
Speaker 2: Stop thinking and start dancing. Let your body just move
Speaker 2: with the music, no judgment, just movement. When messy makeup
Speaker 2: mode is activated, there's no shame about how you wish
Speaker 2: to move. Maybe people are watching, but who cares. This
Speaker 2: is your life and you will dance how you want
Speaker 2: to MESSI makeup mode shuts down all image associated shame
Speaker 2: women have been plagued with. This mode is about completely
Speaker 2: embracing your beautiful body and sexuality. Trying to look perfect
Speaker 2: all the time places others on the pedestal. Instead of
Speaker 2: trying to look perfect, you will feel perfectly aligned, which
Speaker 2: will allow perfectly aligned people to come up to you.
Speaker 2: I'm not kidding you. This weekend, when we went to
Speaker 2: a club in Vegas, me and my friends were dancing,
Speaker 2: it was like there were sharks around us, just circling,
Speaker 2: trying to intercede in our little circle, trying to dance
Speaker 2: with us because we were having so much fun. I
Speaker 2: had this little scarf and I was twirling around my scarf,
Speaker 2: but I was completely sweating. My makeup, My hair was
Speaker 2: a mess. It was like out to the walls because
Speaker 2: it was so so frizzy at that point. But it
Speaker 2: didn't matter because we were exuding such amazing energy. We
Speaker 2: were so in our own bodies, we were being so
Speaker 2: authentic to ourselves that so many people just wanted to
Speaker 2: come and get a taste of our energy. They wanted
Speaker 2: to feel what we were feeling because it looked like
Speaker 2: we were having so much fun. Truly, because we were
Speaker 2: having so much fun, And that's what people want. They
Speaker 2: don't want the perfect person who looks miserable just sitting there.
Speaker 2: They don't want the person who's trying to act cooler
Speaker 2: than everyone else. People want to feel good. People want
Speaker 2: to have fun, and they can sense it energetically. When
Speaker 2: you're just in your magnetic energy, it will attract everyone
Speaker 2: towards you. The funny thing is, the ironic thing is
Speaker 2: when you don't care what other people think of you.
Speaker 2: That's when everyone wants to be your friend. But when
Speaker 2: you're so worried what did they think of me? How
Speaker 2: are they gonna judge me? You're sending out so much
Speaker 2: energy that it repels people. When you chase validation, it
Speaker 2: ends up running further from you. Instead of chasing validation
Speaker 2: and around, look at yourself in the mirror and say,
Speaker 2: how can I learn to like myself? You're too externally focused,
Speaker 2: and you need to learn how to make peace with
Speaker 2: your internal world. I don't chase validation. I attract it
Speaker 2: by just being myself my light irritates the insecure, and
Speaker 2: that is not my problem. Mosquitoes love the light, but
Speaker 2: the light is never affected by a mosquito. No, that's
Speaker 2: okay with me. I really don't mind if I trigger.
Speaker 2: I don't mind if I grab someone's attention because I'm
Speaker 2: gonna transmute it. Either way. You can send me positive energy,
Speaker 2: you can send me negative energy. I know the power
Speaker 2: I bring into every single room that I walk into,
Speaker 2: so it's bound to happen. But it doesn't mean it
Speaker 2: has to bring me down. In fact, I'm gonna use
Speaker 2: it to empower me, and now so will you. It's
Speaker 2: okay if your lights irritates the insecure, it's okay. If
Speaker 2: not everyone likes you, it's okay if people even hate
Speaker 2: on you. Because you're going to use that energy and
Speaker 2: alchemize it into power. And if you want to learn
Speaker 2: how to do that exactly, take the Art of Alchemy
Speaker 2: course and it will show you how to use that
Speaker 2: energy as fuel to build a reality in which you
Speaker 2: are happy to wake up to every single morning and
Speaker 2: every single night. If you want to learn more about
Speaker 2: Messy Makeup Mode, you can get my book Show Up
Speaker 2: as Her. There are a bunch of laws in here,
Speaker 2: and different modes you can tap into to alchemize your
Speaker 2: energy and become your most magnetic self. I hope this
Speaker 2: podcast episode resonated with you. I'm sending you so much
Speaker 2: love and I'll see you in the next one.
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