Speaker 1: Continue to leverage principles to work for you, not against you,
and that's where you become an unbeatable person. So it's
just understanding if I do the right things in the
right order, I'm going to get the right result. It's
the greatest encouragement to me. That's impossible. Let me tell
you what I believe. It's your weakness, it's not your technique.
Don't think you know.
Speaker 2: You the Impossible Life Podcast, and you're sitting on a
winning lottery.
Speaker 1: Second, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks.
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of
impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been
done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell
you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.
Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk. The real truth is this. The
solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if
I had to what would it take? What would it take?
Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
your co host Nick Surface, and I'm looking across at
a man so authoritative that when he goes to the
gas station, the attendant asks him how much he wants
to pay per gallon? That's right, friends, the phonement AVC
Garrett uncle back, a man who pays the same price
for guests as his grandpappy. Have you broken a dollar
gallon yet? Are you're still paying quarters?
Speaker 1: It's uh in my truck? I think it's gallons per mile?
Oh okay, yeah, well yeah, but I think you've still
got some of the UK on you, because there's no
more unless it's I think it's New Jersey. There's like
a couple of states left that you have to use
the gas attendant.
Speaker 2: I could be wrong on that, yeah, I mean, look, dude,
it was for an intro, bro it wasn't you know?
Speaker 1: I know? But do they have that in the UK?
Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 2: No, I mean you you can pay it the pump
or you go in and pay it's the same as here.
Speaker 1: That was fresh in your mind. No. I just thought
it was a great intro because it's like, yeah, makes
It's why I don't like most jokes because it's just
made up stuff.
Speaker 2: Look, man, I've been in the Accurate Joke Intro series
for like a longtime.
Speaker 1: I know I was starting to like some of them.
Speaker 2: Okay, you know what, man, that's actually you know, I mean,
that's a win. I know you're trying to insult me,
but it's a win because that's like a back end
of compliment.
Speaker 1: But you know what, at this point, I'm so starved.
It's still you know, we got some great feedback the
other day where I said that humor is like ketchup. Yeah,
people like that. By the way, it's true. Yeah it's not.
It's gross. If it's the meal.
Speaker 2: Look dude, it's the sauce. We start with the sauce
first and now we're about to deliver the meat.
Speaker 1: Are you ready. It's kind of like how my kids,
uh each yeah, just sla eat the barbecue sauce.
Speaker 2: And it's been like, oh, there's chicken too. That's how
we do our podcast. It's worked face for three hundred
and fourteen episodes. Just let me let me go anyways,
all right, gee, so I'm always excited to the podcast
as I've realized, because I say it every single time
because it's true. I loved what we do, but this one, man, like,
this is so overdue. We're revisiting Principles today, and we
originally did it on episode forty, which was literally four
years ago, if you can believe it, so like that
is hard to.
Speaker 1: Believe it was episode forty. We're on three fourteen, bro.
I'm glad we're coming back to Principles because I talk
to people all the time. Ye and this is not
this is not a not, but I talk to people
all the time. They're like, man, I love the podcast,
like it's so great. It's helped me a time. I go, oh,
how many episodes you listen to? They're like thirty, yeah, forty.
I'm like that's amazing, that's wonderful. But also you've missed
a lot. Yeah, yeah, you've missed a lot. Yeah, because
and I love those people we talked to that They're like,
I've listened. I went back to the beginning. I listened
to everything. It's good for you. Yeah, there's a lot
in there. We're not just you know, talking heads on here,
Like there's specific content that you've missed. If you've only
done thirty or forty episodes. However, since it's been four
years and it's such a core topic, I'm I'm only
surprised that it's been that long since we've decided. It's
one of the things I learned as a speaker, Like
when I first began to speak, I'm like, well, can't
say that again. I said that already, yeah, and then
one of the things I've learned, and like a mentor said,
to be men only have to be told once, they
have to be reminded many times and give them reminders
on the good stuff. I don't know why we haven't done,
you know, principles, like an episode on principles every quarter.
But here we are, well, we talk about them all
the time, and that's what we do. We talk about them.
Speaker 2: When you're saying that people that haven't listened to everything
have missed something. From day zero, Garrett told me, he's like,
I want everything to be what we do will be cumulative.
And I was like, I had no idea what you meant,
but we've dide exactly.
Speaker 1: It was just more of a man. What did I
get myself in?
Speaker 2: No, Ryan, I was here to serve you and to
serve the people that I knew need what you had
to have. Obviously, I've grown a ton from that. So
there a little nugget for anybody out there if you
want to grow serve.
Speaker 1: But I get it, we so much.
Speaker 2: What we talked about in the beginning was like you
need to like lay a foundation of Oh, we can't
do this until you understand this, and principles as well.
I think principles of all the things we teach in
mindset master When we go way deeper in mindset mastery
on principles than we're going to do today, I think
this is the hardest thing for people to understand. I
think what you talked like, it's just you can have
multiple reps and people still are kind of like they're
like scratching their head.
Speaker 1: And so I'm really excited to get into this.
Speaker 2: So gee, let me tell you a little story about
where we see principles at work.
Speaker 1: And of course I'm going to go to my beloved game.
Speaker 2: Of baseball, because hey, dude, how cool is it that
we just got to go do a babble.
Speaker 1: Study with the Cleveland Guardians. That was a blast, that
was amazing. So that was yesterday.
Speaker 2: It's early the next morning. I'm still buzzing because for me,
that was a dream come true. When we started this.
In my mind, I was like, man, if we could
get into Manchester United and give them some of the
elite biblical mindset, imagine what that team could do. Now
I'm waiting for that call, Michael Kerrick, you know, give
us a call.
Speaker 1: I'm it's you know, I love getting to do it.
We got to have a short conversation about it. I've
always been fascinated by this. Pops would say athlete atholete
like golf is the one that I was most been
most face fascinated with. But I do really love baseball
for the intimidation factor of getting in the batter's box,
because it's one of the things that I learned in
the Seal teams is like the guys here who win
aren't the guys with the best genetics. It's not the
guys who have the best records in the past. It
is a mindset game, yep, right, And it's the same
thing I see at the highest level of athletics. It
is a mindset. It is a massive mindset thing.
Speaker 2: But you know what else goes along with mindset, Matt
Gee is being able to do some work and understand
how to navigate principles. So I'm gonna take you to
a little story from a man that I've met a
few times.
Speaker 1: Mookie Bets. I didn't know you've met MOOKI, oh multiple times.
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure I told you that you prabably forgot it,
but I met I've met Mookie multiple times because he
wore a product that I repped for years. And by
the way, for the Cleveland Guardians, shout out to Patrick Bailey, Man,
love you, bro. I know you're listening.
Speaker 1: Man.
Speaker 2: We are cheering for you, praying for you and expecting
great things.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: No, the best is he had to come. The best
is yet to come. He's a man of God.
Speaker 2: So Patrick got traded in the Guardians, which is how
we we got a connection with him, and he's he
is a wonderful man of God. So and shouts all
the other guys man, David Frye. We slayed like all
those guys, man, it was so good to be with them.
So anyways, Mookie Bets unbelievable athlete. He's bold three hundred
multiple times he like talk about Bold Mook.
Speaker 1: He's an MLB player, Bro.
Speaker 2: This but he's one of these guys that he's good
at ever I know, and I talked to him about it,
and he seemed kind of bored about it.
Speaker 1: Like I was like, dude, you both three hundred. He's
kind of like, yeah, whatever, Like he's.
Speaker 2: Just one of those dudes. He's just you can't he's
but he's tiny, man. When you meet him, he's like
five nine, like one sixty five. If he walked by
you and you didn't know baseball, you would never guess, oh,
that's a pro athlete. But he is one of the
greatest pro exactly, one of the most elites. So let
me take you to the time whenever so so lots
of talent, and anybody who's in the MLB has tons
of talent. If you've made it to a professional to
be a professional athlete, you know you're you're talented and
you've got skills.
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2: National League Division Series for the Dodgers. Right they're playing
my beloved Padres, and I will be honest, I was
cheering against them. Mooki comes into the series with a
riveting oh for twenty two. By the time they finished
Game two, he's oh for twenty two. Dating back to
the pressious.
Speaker 1: That's that's such a wake up call for anybody that's
been through a tough time of like Mooki is, like
of athletes. Mooki's on a different category. Yeah, of athlete.
I love that you're saying it with three syllables. He
got especially for shout out got tops man, shout out
to Mooki. Yeah, okay, and even a guy like Mooki
to come in on a twenty two. Everybody goes through
hard times, Yeah, exactly. And you know what's even worshti
It dated to last year's playoffs. This is in the
playoffs he was over twenty two. It dated the previous
year where they got eliminated in the NLDS.
Speaker 2: Okay, so this dude comes in, goes through through the
first round of the playoffs or no, he's in the NLDS,
not NLCS. So now he's back in the NLDS again
in the twenty twenty four Okay, So that means that
that they got eliminated in the first round previous year.
He's come into this one and he's still not hitting.
So in Game two he gets a home run robbed,
which which was what completed his over twenty two. So
it's like nothing's going your way by Robb, Do you
mean like like I caught it at the phone, jumped
up over the fence and pulled it back so that ping.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: At that point he's like, man, what nothing's going right
for me? Okay, So they have an off day going
into game three. Most guys on off days. Man, you're
beat up. You've already played one hundred and sixty two
games or whatever. You know, you probably didn't play all
one sixty two, but you're beat up. Right, you're in
the playoffs. You're just trying to maintain your body. So
what do you do on your off date?
Speaker 1: You rest?
Speaker 2: No, No, not Mookie. Mookie starts getting into the cage
and he's hitting like hundreds of balls, soft toss off
the tee out onto the field to get it off
the pitching machine so he can see the velo. And
in between every session he's talking to his coach, repetition, repetition, repetition,
doing the work, just over and over and over again,
you know, trying to get it to feel right. What
it turns out was that after doing I'm gonna say
probably you know, I'll say hundreds of reps to be safe,
because that was that was what they said. I remember
watching it, and I remember when they were saying this.
Even though I was cheering against him, I listened to
what he was doing because I am standing principles.
Speaker 1: I was like, I love what he's doing. It's not
going right for him.
Speaker 2: And instead of being like, oh man, hopefully this will
get out, It's like, I know there's an answer, and
I'm going to find it by doing as many repetitions
as possible so I can discover what principle I'm violent.
Speaker 1: The power of principles. Yep. So you know what happened.
Speaker 2: Ge He does all these reps, and it turns out
that what he discovered from all these different repetition working
with his coach is that his hands when he was loading,
which I don't understand the mechanics of baseball as deeply
as these pro guys, but I do no. Load is
what you're doing as the ball's coming in. So like
guys will start with their hand right, your hands may
start in one position, but your load position is back
where you actually start the power of your swing right.
And what he found was that his hands were not
getting into the ideal launch position, very minor thing. But
like when you do that many reps and they have
all the cameras and you have a coach watching.
Speaker 1: You, you start picking like above his shoulder versus behind
his should right, or whatever it may be.
Speaker 2: So finally they get that. So what happens He starts
getting the cage. And when you get in the cage,
if you can start to push the ball opposite field
on purpose, like that's that's like whenever you're hitting, because
now you're controlling where the ball we're the ball is going.
Speaker 1: So he starts getting that feel.
Speaker 2: Game three comes out, boom, first at bat, home run,
second at back, big dog boom single. Third at bat,
hits the ball ninety seven miles per hour. It gets
put out, but a ninety seven mile prior ex if
you you hit the ball on the screws. Fourth at bat,
line out. So he goes two for four, comes back
into and they win the game. Game four comes back in, boom,
home run again. Mookie's back out of the slump carries
into the World Series. Well, I mean, what's the point
of that story? A guy who already knew some things
to be true, instead of getting upset about what was happening,
took it his feedback.
Speaker 1: And a guy who people would say is like beyond
exceptionally gifted, like gilded or anointed, like this guy's special
when he wasn't, when it wasn't working for him, Why,
It's because he was missing a principle, right, and so
what do you do? He got to work to find it.
We're going to talk about principles, both tangible and tangible. Right.
There's like mechanic, like mechanics of baseball. There's principles there. Yeah.
The one I love to use is flight. Yeah, right, lift,
thrust weight, and drag. When you get these right, you
can make a house I mean a plane that weighs
more than a house fly. When you don't, that thing
stays stuck on the ground. YEA. Back in the day
when they didn't understand flight, they thought if we could
just make the plane lighter, we could get it to fly,
which is semi true, but it's only one of the principles.
You got to get lifts, thrust weight, and drag correct,
then you can make something fly. So there are tangible
principles like mechanics of baseball or principles of flight. There
are also intangible principles, leadership, growth, relationships, all of these things,
and they operate the same way. And that's where, like you,
if you want to be a Mookie Bets of a
baseball player in life where it's like, man, how does
this dude just like bowl three hundred all the time? Well,
when you understand principles, when you understand what governs outcomes,
it's like, well, if I just do this, this, and this,
I will get this result. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And so the question for everybody out there is where
are you feeling stuck? Because this is really the power
of this episode and the power of principles. Where in
life are you not getting a result and you want
to get a better result, or you're getting the results
you don't want, you are one hundred percent missing a principle. So,
rather than getting frustrated and blamed it on other people
or telling yourself whatever story, understand the same way that
MOOKI got back in the cage, you need to get
back into the game and realize that you got some
work to do.
Speaker 1: So we're talking about how they work. Let's just you know,
start with some simple foundation here, some definition of our principles.
What are principles? Okay, understand that God created an orderly world.
Praise the Lord, right, and that this is the story
of Genesis. God divided the land from the water. God
divided the day from the night. God the sun rises
in the sun sets. We'll talk more about this. How
do you discover principles? It's through patterns. Right. If you
were born like I was, in the Alaskan bush, raised
by wolves, then I'm glad you finally revealed the truth.
Bro well done. And you know you didn't grow up
with a book and people telling you how things work. Well,
how would you discover how things work through patterns? Well? Man,
the sun continually rises in sunsets, but the sun also
rises in different places and sets in different places. It
gets cold in some seasons, it gets warm in some seasons.
And you begin to realize things are governed by a
certain order. Everything in life is governed by order. It's
not just like some chance of Now, chance is what
you see when you zoom in on a world of order. Right.
For example, you flip a coin, you're like, man, it's
chance that it goes this way or it goes this way. Well,
when you examine millions of coin tosses, you see that
it is not chance. Right, There's an order that governs
the world. Everything operates this way. So when you're frustrated
by something, when you don't know why things are going
the way that they're going, it's because you're missing a principle.
The specific definition that we give to principles is principles
govern outcomes. Right, So there are things that you can
do to influence principles, but you cannot break a principle.
It's like gravity, right, And I just did a message
about this this weekend of there is gravity, and you
can't break gravity, but you can operate in a higher principle,
which is lift. Lift allows you to overcome grad And
so then when you learn how to utilize principles, when
you learn the limitations, when you learn the rules of
the game, then you learn how to rise above them. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Like G said, principles are the forces that produce outcomes.
I like to think of them like waves, because if
you've ever paddled out in the ocean and you get
like you're going directly into the wave, dude, it like
even if you duck dive or whatever it is, you're
going to get smacked. You're not advancing forward. Whereas whenever
you turn around and ride that wave. Oh man, it's
the greatest feeling. So like, when you're aware of principles,
you know how to navigate them and create predictable outcomes.
When you're not, they are the frustrations you bump into.
Speaker 1: And some scriptures that reflect or show principles in the
Bible Genesis chapter eight, verse twenty two. While the earth remains.
While the earth remains, this is God speaking, Yeah, seed,
time and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day
and night shall not cease. Right. God is saying, there's
an order, there's a structure to this. It's not going away.
And one of my favorite scriptures. Man, I know some
of the folks from my team at Union and people
in that world listen to this. I've been talking about
this one and I've been preaching this one. This is
Galatians chapter six, verse seven. Do not be deceived. God
is not mocked. For whatever one shows that he will
also reap. God will not be mocked. A man reaps
what he sows. Right, if you do the right things,
if you put the seed in the ground at the
right time of year, you water it correctly, it's going
to grow. It's not personal. The seed doesn't have a
bad attitude. It doesn't matter if the seed likes you,
doesn't matter if it's a good day or not. It
doesn't matter if you're a quote unquote lucky person, doesn't
matter whatever. If you do the right things in the
right order, you will get the right results. And so
we're going to talk about not just what principles are today,
but how to have that principle's mindset that makes you
someone who's like a Mookie bets who. It's like, you
know what, maybe I go through a slump, but in
the end I will win. I am unbeatable, Yeah, because
I know how to get my hands in the right
place position to put this ball over the fence.
Speaker 2: When I've heard you say, you said on this podcast
many times, you say what you take great comfort in
is that you know that God created a principled, orderly
world because what will happen?
Speaker 1: And I find it's my greatest encouragement. I don't need
like because life would be what would be really terrible
to me if it's like, man, I did all the
right right now. This is when you feel like your
life is terrible, Yeah, you're like, I did all the
right things, and I just got all the wrong results, right,
that is, you know, and it is true. It is true,
and it's possible. And I like using the analogy or
the context of agriculture because it's just such a great
report and the Bible uses it so much. Our farmers
keep shouting out to us like I wish, I wish
I was more educated around agriculture. I'm such a layman
as it relates so far. They said, we've not said
anything that's okay because I want to know that. Yeah,
those of you who do know, please let us know.
And I think I know where that line is for
me where I'm talking. But anyways, you can have something
happen like in agriculture where you did everything right, you
sowed you sod seed correctly, and it starts to come
up out of the ground and hail comes and destroys
your crop. Now that that is chance, right, But you
know again, if you zoom in on that, if you
zoom in on the one time that hell destroyed your crop,
it's like, man, God just hates me far everything's work.
But you know what, you know what hale is like
people who moved to Texas to talk to folks moving
to Texas about hell like, oh it, hell's all the time.
They're like like, what like, but not everywhere? Right, It's like,
you know, it's like if you go to a concert
and you spit and hit, try to hit somebody that's
you know, hale in DFW. The lord's spit well like
it does hail, but it's like it haild on that
one neighborhood r hood in Weatherford, right, like it didn't
hit our house. Right now, I will say I bought
my house in twenty eighteen and within a month of
moving in, my house got held on, which is great,
brand new roof. Go ahead and fix all that stuff.
Get that out of the way. Oh nice, hasn't held
on my house since I've been here for six years.
We haven't. We haven't had anything. So anyways, the point
that I'm making is you can do everything right, and yeah,
every once in a while, well maybe hale hits your
crop and it gets destroyed, but it's not going to
hit it again the next year and the next year
and the next year, and maybe you can feel it, well,
well this happened, and then this happened. If you can
get all the principles right, you're not going to get
hailed on every single year. It just doesn't work that way.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: May and maybe by some crazy chance, you're the point
zero zero one percent that your crop got hailed on
two years in a row. Well, it's not going to happen. Three,
it's not going to happen. Four. Continue to leverage principles
to work for you, not against you, and that's where
you become an unbeatable person. So it's just understanding, if
I do the right things in the right order, I'm
going to get the right result. It's the greatest encouragement
to me in life. Would be terrible if it's like, Man,
I did everything, I know what the science says, but
God just didn't feel like growing the seed today. God
doesn't work that way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, as is like we said, it creates predictable outcomes.
It doesn't mean that you can like you can say
you're not going to bat a thousand, but you can say, man,
more times than not, I know what's going to happen.
So what principles will do for you? And we said
it without saying so. I just want to be really clear.
And who doesn't want this g certainty and confidence? How
many people would love to be able to be in
their situations. When we were prepping for this, I was
telling you that because I have so many reps with
so many companies as at ten years as a marketing consultant,
I'm at the point now when people approach me to
ask me for help before I even talk to them
or want to work with them. I know, what's your product,
let me look at it, and I go look at
their thing and at whatever they're trying to sell. And
because I know what I bring to the table, and
I also know principles, I know whether this thing's going
to work or be a pain straight away. And I'll
be honest, I don't remember the last time I was wrong.
That's not because I'm perfect, but I'm starting to I'm
starting to be able to recognize whether things are viable
very early on.
Speaker 1: It's you know, scripture says, I believe it's read letters,
but I could be incorrect here, but scripture says, rain
falls on the just and the unjust Jesus right, And okay,
So if rain falls on the just and the unjust,
I want to give you this perspective as well, right,
Because one of the things we talk about a lot,
almost as much as principles, or equally as much as
principles is identity, right, you got to know that you
are a son of God, like God puts you on
the earth for a reason. God is a plan for
your life. God wants to do something through you. It's
certainly not that God's like mad at you or like
I'm gonna make sure he can't get anything right. Okay,
So rain falls on the just and the unjust. That
means like there there is no bias to it. There is.
God doesn't have a personal preference, Like if you get
the principles right, Rain's gonna fall on you. What that
also means is just because you have a great relationship
with God doesn't mean the math is going to work
for you. You have to understand principles right. And you know,
as it relates to baseball, since we're talking about baseball today,
you could have a deep relationship with God or I
can put myself in the box. I've got a great mindset,
I got a deep relationship with the Lord. That doesn't
mean I know how to put the bat on the ball.
There's principles to that, and you can also be a
godless baseball player. And if you get the mechanics, right,
you're going to learn how to put the bat on
the ball. What you're gonna miss is you're gonna miss favor.
And then also ultimately, and this is like the way
I'm living my life is I think, don't You're not
set up. You don't have the foundation to have the
greatest possible mindset, right because those players who do have
all the mechanics, when they are missing it, they don't
know who they are. I do. And that's your leverage,
superpower against That's how you compete against the people. That's
why I want to see, you know, people who are
followers of Christ continue to win in every arena because
you have something that those who you fight against don't have.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so good man, And so going back to that,
and we're gonna we're gonna go a little deeper into
what you said, because we're gonna we're gonna talk about
what they'll do for you, what will make them hard
to discover, and then what it takes to discover them.
Then we're gonna actually give you an application. But like
I said, they'll give you certainty and confidence because like
you said, you take great confidence. The certainty you have
is that there's always an answer, like if principles govern
the results, and there's a result you want that you're
not getting, all that means is that you just haven't
discovered the principle.
Speaker 1: What an encouragement. One of the things that I've said
that that Nick really likes. He's pointed out to me,
Nick's a highlighter for me. For me sometimes right like
Nick likes to be. That's that's what Nick says, like
he's a he's a highlighter, Yeah for me, but sometimes
he does it for me like he says what I
said back to him like that that you know, I'm
not trying to like no, I lost myself up, but
sometimes you're like, I'm like, yeah, that I haven't focused.
I just say stuff and I'm like, I should focus
on that more. That actually is that is a good
thought of One of the things I've said to Nick
before has said, Look, I'm not a person. I don't
think I could ever be a person that knows everything,
but I do think it's possible, and the type of
person I want to be, I want to be someone
who can figure anything out right, and that's someone who
knows how to identify and set up principles for success. Right.
What the great thing that a principle's understanding and a
principal's mindset gives you, This is what we're talking about
right now, is that it gives you certainty when you man.
It's scary to get into business if you don't know
how to make money. It's scary to get into business
if you don't know how to make a sale. One
of Nick's giftings is around marketing and online sales. Nick
knows this stuff really well, and he can look at
something and say this will or will not succeed. You
can or you can't sell this, And I would say
sell for a profhit. You can sell anything, right, you
can necessarily sell it for a profhit R correct when
you know, like if I do this and this, I'm
going to get this result. That certainty or clinton near
certainty is one of the greatest confidences that you can have.
Principles doesn't mean doesn't mean that you can predict the future,
but you're going to have a high likelihood of what
outcomes look like because it governs outcomes. But ultimately what
governs all outcomes is God. Yeah. God is sovereign. Yeah,
principles are not sovereign principles play a great piece of
God's ultimate math. Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2: And the reason I just want to say why I
loved the becoming the type of person that could figure
anything out because you got to remember, we talked a
couple episodes ago about how this podcast started, and I
talked about my own journey of like stepping into identity
at the time when I'm sat across from you and
I'm like, Dude, this guy knows how to do so
many things, Like you're a very capable person. G Like
you could drop you in the middle of the desert.
Speaker 1: For a long time, I have desired to be useful, right,
acquired a set of skills along the way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you also acquired these skills from the greatest
organization in the world, the Seal Teams. I'm saying that
that they are the greatest because they have a track
record that it's not down to one person or leadership.
These guys have actually cracked what it takes to produce
elite on a regular basis, and you got trained by them.
So I'm say you're going like, if you have to
be the type of person that knows everything, then I'm
screwed because like they don't take geriatric seals and I
don't have the money to be able to go pay
for all the schools that I would need to to
get the level of training you did. And that's why
I'm highlighting this for people out there, because it did
when you start to go, I don't need to be
the person that knows everything. I need to be the
type of person that can figure anything out.
Speaker 1: What does that do?
Speaker 2: It creates a very different belief because if I have
to be the person that knows everything, it's already too
late for me, right, Like, maybe this is how you
think if you don't have identity, because I don't have
what you have. But if I just have to be
the type of person that can figure out, well, that's capability,
that's potential. Great, I can learn anything. I can discover
the principles. Now, that encourages belief. And whether you think
you can or you think you can't.
Speaker 1: Gee, it's the difference between trying to be a know
it all and being a problem solver. Correct.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so that was hugely encouraging for me, and
so I hope that's encouraging for Everybraille's and the confidence
you said, man, like how much to the point you
made earlier about how it would be really terrible if
you were like, well, I planted and did things right,
and then like it just didn't work out, and I
don't know why there was no hail.
Speaker 1: It just decided not to grow this year.
Speaker 2: The confidence you feel and like whenever you understand principles
is that now you have an element of control, like like,
once again, if my business starts to decline, I know
the principles of how of marketing in order to get
myself more business. So I have no fear like I
was talking about, like in my industry, whenever you're in
whenever you're like you have your own business. One of
people's greatest fears is that the business is going to
start to decline and they're gonna be like ugh and
not know what to do, especially if you're like depending
on word of mouth. That's very hard to Uh, you
can't control that as much, right, right, You can't influence something.
That's a whole another conversation. What gives you confidence is
when you know what to do because you go, look,
I know that if I start doing this, I don't
know when it's gonna come, but it will come.
Speaker 1: And it's an element of control. It's confidence. Yeah, and
it's what to people who don't understand, it appears like magic. Right.
You can say, watch this, yeah, watch this, yeah if
because when you say, I know, if I do this,
then I will get this outcome correct. I remember we
were at batting practice yesterday. We were and I watched
You'll be able to tell me his names. I don't
know all their names, but a lot of the players
they'd get in there and they hit, they'd hit, hit, hit,
and then they finally like slot one and put it
over the fence and they're like, okay, I'm good and
they're done with BP. One of the guys for the Rangers,
I noticed a bigger guy. He did it three times
in a row where he got in there and hit, hit, hit,
and then he hits like two three over the fence,
got out, walked, done Okay, But then he came back
and he did it again. And he came back and
he did it again, and that's like, no, I actually
know how to produce this. A lot of people they
hit the one over the fence, and I'm not getting
any of the players that did that. Remember just helping
you see, like when you know, like, not only can
I do it one time, I can do it twice,
I can do it three times. Watch this.
Speaker 2: That's what confidence feels like. And in this particular case,
it was it was BP. It was when it was
in and up over the plate. I mean he was
hitting absolute news like second deck, like deep into the
second deck.
Speaker 1: I thought he hit it third deck on one of them.
He was crushing it. It was just on a side note.
Speaker 2: So, but yeah, exactly, that's exactly right, because now it's like, okay,
I know when this pitch is here, it's automatic.
Speaker 1: If you if you didn't pick up the principles from
your process, get up there and swing a thousand times,
you might finally slot one, but you don't know how
to do it again.
Speaker 2: Right, g So we talked about they'll give you certainty
and confidence. And I hope that you're realizing that, Oh,
my business starting to decline, I know what to do.
Things aren't going well in my marriage, I know what
to do, things aren't going well, my health, I know
what to do.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't that be great?
Speaker 2: Well, we're saying that that's exactly what these will do
for you, what will make them hard to discover?
Speaker 1: Gee?
Speaker 2: So hard to discover negative emotions and a lack of identity.
Speaker 1: When you get angry, you're the dumbest version of yourself. Correct,
you are the dumbest version of yourself. When you're angry.
It like literally just think about what your brain is doing.
You're mad because you didn't get the result that you
wanted and you don't understand that result. Did you ever
get mad when you're like, I know exactly what I
did wrong? No? Right, you get mad when you're like
that's stupid, Right, you're mad at the thing. You might
get frustrated at yourself, and that's a different emotion than like,
why is this happening? I don't get this? And you
get mad and you're saying I don't know what to
do and I'm just going to toddler rage to try
and change my environment. You're the dumbest version of yourself.
When you're angry. You miss principles. Right. The emotions really
lead into the second piece here, and I'll talk about
it in a second, But the emotions put you in
this place where you start to take things personal, and
it's like, dude, it's not personal rainfalls on the just
and the unjust. It's not about you. But what emotions
will do is it will make you take things personal
and you miss your opportunity to grow. It's the same
as like somebody giving you feedback and you like cry,
you get offended, you get mad at them. It's like, dude,
I'm just trying to help you. I'm telling you where
you could get better, and if you bring emotion into it,
you miss the opportunity to grow. Emotions will make you
miss principles. I was saying this to Nick. I said,
it's not a coincidence. I am naturally. I don't say naturally.
Maybe it's just been decades in my life and I
had a father who demonstrated well for me because when
I was like a ten year old, I was a
hot head. So but for decades in my life, I've
been someone who has my gut reaction to emotions is
now right, stop that? Yeah, right, Like they have to
emotions have to knock at the door three times for me,
and I'm like, well, you seem dressed appropriately, I'll let
you into my house right before I'll entertain an emotion
because I know what A lot of the times, what
they're doing they're going to do is make me miss
the moment, right, I'll invite them in when they're gonna
make the party better. But if you're not here for
the right reasons, I'm not letting you into my house.
Emotions will make you miss principles because instead of gathering data,
instead of seeing the pattern, you make the wrong thing
the priority.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're thinking about how it makes you feel. And
like I mean you said when we said negative emotionation
frustrates sadness.
Speaker 1: Like have you ever noticed when you get emotional you
hyper fixate on things? Oh yeah, and you're probably not
hyper fixating on the thing that you actually need to
change to make the situation are.
Speaker 2: Like are They're like magnifying glasses, That's really what they are.
And they and usually towards the wrong things.
Speaker 1: It's mounting out of them oil, yeah, big time.
Speaker 2: And mostly because what happens when you have a strong emotion,
your folks immediately goes to yourself.
Speaker 1: Yep, So, which is difficult. You can fixate on the
wrong things, but then the worst thing you can do
is right. This is again what Nick and I are
talking about right here is what makes principles hard to discover.
Emotions and then even more so, taking things personally. Yeah,
this is this is super power of principles. Here. When
things don't I'm going to talk about me when things
do not work for me, When when I don't get
the results that I want, when I'm not successful. I know,
like this is the beginning of the equation for me.
I know God is a great plan for my life.
I know God loves me. I know what I'm living
for like I'm not. I know I'm doing everything right
and the reign is not falling on me. So what
am I doing wrong? I don't say? Why is God
mad at me? I guess I'm just not a good
enough person. I guess it's not just meant to be. No,
it is meant to be. I am meant to be successful.
God just making sure I know how to do math right?
So what am I missing? Yeah? Look, Garrett, what if
you're not called to this? Garrett?
Speaker 3: What?
Speaker 1: Like, No, God's with me? Who told you you're not called? Right?
Speaker 2: And but this is And that's that's where you start
to get all because so many doubts who told you
you weren't meant to be great?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: And really really capture that because if you look at
the temptations of Jesus. It always starts with the seed
of doubt. If you look at how the devil works,
you want to keep all this stuff out. Just stop
the doubtful, the doubtful thinking, because did God really say
not to eat with the fruit of the garden. That's
how the if you're the son of God, that's how.
That's how the devil. The known temptations we have where
the devil speaks in the Bible, it always starts with doubt. Man,
what does that tell you about doubt? It is literally
the devil's number one entry into your life.
Speaker 1: Fear, fear, and doubt is how he gets you to quit,
how he gets you to give up. He went, and
he's trying to make you miss principles as well, because
he says, if when it doesn't rain at your house,
I can get you to blame God. I'll win.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, exactly, because once once God's against you and
I need to try something else, right, because man, you
really need that rain. And that's how people get That's
how you end up doing things that you said you'd
never do.
Speaker 1: You begin worshiping the wrong thing exactly.
Speaker 2: So good man, all right, gee, So that's what makes
them hard. So let's talk about what it actually takes
to discover them, and number one is observation and pattern recognition.
Principles hide in patterns. When we did episode forty and like,
if you really want to go deep on this, episode
forty was such a great foundation for this because we
use the right brothers and we went deep into how
they discovered the principles of flight.
Speaker 1: I love that episode.
Speaker 2: I listened to it a lot because when we delivered it,
I was definitely doing my job as a co host
and not necessarily asser you were observing co deliver So
like I had to listen to that one multiple times, but.
Speaker 1: Because I remember people tell me when it clicks for them,
and I remember years later when you told me, like
I get it, Yes, I see it. Yeah, It's like
I think I made the analogy, then I'll make it now.
It's like seeing bullet trace. If you've never seen bullet trace,
you're like, that's movie stuff that's made up. Like, no,
it's a real thing, right, Like you can actually see
the vortex behind a bullet as it's traveling. It's easiest
to see when they're coming right at you or you're
standing right behind it. It's harder to see from an
offset angle. However, it is a real thing. And if
you've never seen it before, you're not You don't you
don't see it. But once you have seen it, it's
like your eye consistently picks it up. Yeah, it's amazing.
Speaker 2: I would rather not have it coming at me, So
I'm glad that I've seen it. Best to get out
of the way, thank you. Yeah, because obviously you can
dodge bullets. Anyways, we're going to add that to your
list of things that you can You can do that.
Speaker 1: I would say bullets are dodgeable.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna get very distracted anyways. So observations they
just move very quickly.
Speaker 1: You need you know, you're like, are you going to
dodge a bullet fired precisely at you in the No,
I'm not Mookie Bets, right right, but you can see
bullets coming and you can move.
Speaker 2: So shout out to Mookie Betts who can dodge bullets.
That's what we're saying on this episode. Ill thought we've
like elevated movie athlete, like you might need to get
a fourth fourth.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So anyways, but so.
Speaker 2: Observation and pattern regnition and what I'll say the closer
you are to something I'm not talking about, like, hey,
I read this guy's Instagram post, because you're not getting deep,
actual observation, you know how I've gotten to know Garrett
really well and pick up on a lot of things
that he does.
Speaker 1: I'm with Garrett all the time. I get to observe.
Speaker 2: What Garrett does and the things that he says when
I watch him in different situations just in passing. We've
done so many random things together, as well as a
lot of things just that are just normal friendship stuff.
What do I get to observe Garrett all the time?
How do they get to know the principles of marketing?
I've worked with a lot of companies and spend thousands
of hours deep in these companies understanding how they operate,
and watch these things over and over again. So I
say this to encourage you. You cannot, like, like, read
a five minute Forbes article and somebody be like, great,
I know all the I know all the past. Unless
you have a deep knowledge of that thing that you're
reading about, You're not going to pull the principles out
just by snapping your fingers. It takes a bit of
work and lots of repetition.
Speaker 1: So again the same way the things that are mentioned
in scripture, the sun rises, the sunsets, you would observe
that and see the pattern and all like all business
or all problems, all problems are just like all complicated
problems are just set of simple problems put together. Yeah, okay,
And when you can understand simple systems, then you begin
to understand complicated systems. You've got to know the basics
of principles, and then you start to see that like
the problems you don't understand, it's just a two or
three or four multi layered complex problem. But if you
can understand all the principles at play, then you know
how you're going to get the exact same results as
when's the sun going to come up tomorrow six oh four?
Right right, Because I've been watching, I've been paying attention,
you can know what's going to happen in business. And
then the things that are like so advanced, like economics
well or like trying to predict the stock market. If
you like God could predict the stock market, if you
are intelligent enough, you could. And it is everyone's fear
that AI will get to that place. The thing that
I think AI is going to struggle with is the
psychology aspect, because you have to anticipate and simulate psychology
because the you know, the stock market is both math
and psychology. But there's the people who understand the math
and are good at psychology. They're in that principal place
of like, I don't know exactly what's going to happen,
but I got a really good idea.
Speaker 2: Yeah now, And so beside stock market is a great example.
Shooting guns is a great example. Baseball is a great
example because the second thing you need to be able
to discover them, Like I said, observation and pattern regnition, but.
Speaker 1: We need consistency. Consistency is that thing like I can
shoot the way that these guys can hit baseballs, of
like I do something and when the ball, when the
bullet doesn't hit the target, I'm like, Okay, it must
have been this right because I know exactly what. I'm
clear on what I did. There must have been maybe more.
And this isn't like blaming something. Is more like, oh,
either this was off or the wind was off, or
like I miscalculated something. I'm not like, no, man, what happened?
I thought I did everything right? When I miss I
know it's either a B or C that I.
Speaker 2: Did wrong right now, but to start with what consistency
looks like in these things, So like if it because
I think you're trying to remove for variables and things
that might be influencing it. If one day you're shooting
on the range outside, the next day you're inside, and
or like if you're in baseball, if you're like, let's
try the fastball, now, let's try the curveball. Now, let's
try It's like, no, you need a thousand fastball, right.
Speaker 1: Here's a reason athletes, like great great athletes all tell
these stories or there's these myths or stories about them
of what their preparation looked like, and it's thousands and thousands.
Like Steph Curry, the dude who's like unlocked a different
level of three point game in the NBA. I don't
remember his routine, but I remember that it's silly. It's
a couple hundred three pointers every day. Yeah, yeah, it's
stupid that he's done since he was little and from
all the different positions. I don't remember all the details
of it. But if you want to get results in
your life, it's principles plus consistency. Okay, and so if
we'll just do the algebra here, if you can solve
for consistency. I got consistency locked down. And if I'm
not getting the result that I want, then I just
need to adjust my variable, which in this case is
principles until I get the results that I want. But
if you're not consistent, it's going to be luck when
you hit a principle and you won't know how to
replicate it, which.
Speaker 2: Led to the Garrett uncle back results formula, which was
principles plus consistency equals results. So gee, I want to
apply this, but before we do, because some people, I
hope you guys are getting this, hope, like, I hope
you're starting to go, like, man, I think it's covered principles.
Speaker 1: The biggest takeaway want people to have is the mindset
understanding of like, dude, stop taking it personal when it's
like God's not mad at you, right, but also being
a like have a relationship with God, that that's not
just a fact for you that you feel that way, right,
that look, put your heart in a place with God
that it's like I don't just know that, like because
Garrett told me that God wants me to win. I know,
because I have a relationship with God. Yeah, that God
wants me to win. God has a great plan for
my life. Put your life, put your heart in that place.
That way you can lean on principles that much harder. Yep.
And because here's like, because of my relationship with God,
what I know is it's very very unlikely for hal
to fall on my crop.
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, because you know the guy that controls the weather. Yeah,
for sure.
Speaker 1: It's like whenever Rhein.
Speaker 2: When we had the thing with Rhein, obviously and everything
that happened, it was the oddest thing that that was
the hottest day of the year. I mean, we not
had a day even close to it. And then the
one day we run the fifty mile it goes to
ninety six. And my best friend James said, man, would
He's like, wouldn't it be h He's like, man, if
you guys had run it the weekend before or after,
it would have been perfect. And I said, yeah, but
who controls the weather, And he's like God. I was like,
so it was meant to happen. That's different. Yeah, I wasn't.
Speaker 1: I wasn't mad that the weather.
Speaker 2: I'm not mad I know God's for me, and I
know that there's something that that was supposed to happen
in that So that's that's a different level. So let
me give you a cheat code. Though for all of you,
I hope that you have the mindset. I hope you're realizing, okay,
the process of discoveries where I find the principles and
that's wherever God's developing who you are. But if you
are going, man, I'm still not really sure how.
Speaker 1: To get these.
Speaker 2: Here's the cheat code. Just do what someone who has
what you want is doing. And like, once again, you
need to have intimate knowledge. This is not like I
saw an Instagram post from this influencer and he said
to do four sets of eight bicep curls, and now
I'm just gonna like, I'm gonna look exactly like him.
There's a lot of other stuff that guy's doing that.
Speaker 1: You're not aware of. You need to be able to
have intimate knowledge.
Speaker 2: But if I was a baseball player, we're gonna go
back since we started off with that analogy, and I
want to be a great hitter, I'd be saying, what
do great hitters do? Well, you know what one of
the great Hitters all times. Ted Williams, he wrote a
book right which I love. You can talk like Tony
gwyn once again, great hitter, modern day great hitters. You know,
there's Louis A. Rayes who plays for the San Francisco Giants.
Like you start looking, what are these guys do?
Speaker 1: Like? These these are not guys who just show up
at the park and go like I've got it. They're working.
What did Mookie do?
Speaker 2: Cage work, soft toss off the t off, the off,
the off, VP off the machine?
Speaker 1: How many times.
Speaker 2: Over and over and over and over again until he
knew he had that?
Speaker 1: Right? Okay, well did did he do it once? No?
Speaker 2: He did it exceptional amounts to get out of the slump.
But it's not like he's just fallen off and taking
it for granted. Since then, what does it look like?
Sounds a lot like hard work, sounds like opportunity disguis
is hard work? Gee, But if you if you do
what that person does, and you and you know, like
I said, you had that intimate knowledge, it's just a
matter of time.
Speaker 1: There's gonna be well, I think the it's why I
like it, you know, And it's also why ESPN says
it's one of the hardest things to do in sports.
I think ESPN once rated hitting a professional baseball as
the number one hardest thing to do. It'sportant, it's very
hard to do. Yeah, Okay, so sometimes you're gonna do
stuff in life that's hard and you're like, well, I'm
doing everything right, and you know what if because this
trying to get trying to get success is both an
identity and a principles equation, right, You got to have
the right mindset, it's a big piece of it. But
then also you can have the mindset, you can have
the belief in God and you have the relationship with God.
But if you don't have how to hit a baseball,
we're gonna need a miracle for you to hit the baseball. Kay,
So if we're not going to count on a miracle,
you're gonna have to get the principles right as well.
And what you've got to learn how to do is,
like looks, get the identity portion right, do the work,
have the relationship with God where you don't have fear
in Like, if you want to suck in the batter's box,
bring fear and doubt in there with you or in anything. Yeah,
be someone who you can get in the box without
fear in doubt. Then leverage the principles correctly. To say, again,
principles does not guarantee outcomes, but you you change the
statistical likelihood. And so the way that I look at
principles is it is it is an uncontrollable, right, It's
an uncontrollable. You cannot guarantee that you can hit a
baseball greatest, Like what's a batting average? Is the greatest
baseball player ever?
Speaker 2: Uh Man, Off the top of my head, I don't know.
I mean Tony gwyn is up there. For Ted Williams
had the greatest season of all time four oh six.
Speaker 1: That's the highest thing. So okay, So and even the
greatest players a third of the time they're hitting them,
so they can't guarantee it cannot be guaranteed. They can
just get really likely. And so what is the actual
math equation of that can use the controllables to leverage
and bring down the uncontrollables. Be so good with the
things you can control that it is very unreasonable that
you wouldn't be successful. That is how you utilize principles.
It is not because and if you have a weak identity,
you'll step in the box and then you not hit
and you're like, oh well it's you turn it. But
you start having identity fault errors where it's like you
start making poor mindset statements and then you're losing your
ability to leverage principles. When MOOKI was going through that slump,
I doubt, I highly doubt he was gone, man, maybe
I've just lost it.
Speaker 2: No all he you know, what he was saying is
results matter. Process doesn't. Because people were like, well you
hit that one. That all that got pulled back last night,
and he was like, it's still an out. That's the
exact quote he said, it's still an out. Yeah, So
he was not going to quit until he until he
got the results right.
Speaker 1: So again, get the identity right. It's a different episode.
But then that puts you in a position to understand
how principles work. Principles govern outcomes. What can I do
to influence the principle to work for me when you
have the principle's mindset. I'm not saying everything goes your way, correct,
but you know how to make things go your way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just a matter of time. You become inevitable,
which we've talked about another episode. Okay, so gee, if
all this baseball talk, where are we going to apply principles?
We're gonna apply it to great relationships, which has because
we don't want this to be just for baseball players,
even though we do love our baseball players. So look, man,
everybody wants to have great relationships. So we're going to
show you how to discover these, and then we're going
to give the exact principles of great relationships and talk
about how we navigate them in our own lives and
how we've seen other people do it. So very first
thing you have to identify a great relationship, and here's
here's how we define great relationship is that you're better
together than your part, that you're so much more together
than you'd ever be on your own, and it needs
to be true for both people. You talk about this
in marriage, g and I think, well, yeah, well.
Speaker 1: It's in relationships. It's synergy, like we were talking about,
where you're better together than a part, you multiply each other.
I had a definition early on in marriage. Lindsay and
I talked about this like either right before we got
married or right after we got married. It was in
that season, and I said, great marriages when both people
think they got the better end of the deal, Yeah right,
Like you're like, no, I got the good end of
the deal in this when both people feel that way.
Because relationships, a great relationship is where you is where
you make each other better. They can't just be one way, right,
It can't just be like, well, man, I really want
to hang out with this guy. He makes me better.
Well do you make him better? Right? Right? But when
you both when that happens for both of you, that
is a great relationship, and it's going to be in
the context of whatever you both care about or whatever
you are both focused on, just like a marriage's.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And I hope you have a living example
of this. I will say coming out to Dallas has
been such a level up for me and seeing great relationships,
not just in friendships, like I mean your dad and
pastor Keith having a forty three year friendship where they
just committed to each other and said, hey, we're supposed
to be together, and they've run and they've built, you know,
honestly a church now that so many people are getting
blessed from, like the fruit of their relationship has blessed
thousands of people at this point, I would say tens
of thousands, because really this podcast would not have happened
without their relationship. And they're speaking to you, so not
to mention all the people. Pastor Keith is touched, and
you know, it's just it's ridiculous how many people have.
Speaker 1: Been in the power of multiplication. It really is.
Speaker 2: And so I hope you get to see some examples.
And here's the great thing. If you're listening to this podcast,
we are going to continue to give these great examples.
Your parents are an awesome example of marriage. We've had
them on the podcast. Go listen to them. You know
what your mom says all the time about your dad,
She I just love that man so much. Now, your
mom is she's a very attractive woman, she looks amazing,
she's very you know, she's very sweet, she's smart, she's caring,
she's intelligent.
Speaker 1: Your dad absolutely loves her to pieces.
Speaker 2: Man talks about Darling and talks about how much she
loves They both sit there and talk about the other person,
and you can hear they're just like, man, I just
love being with this person. I'm so grateful and lucky
I got. They haven't used the word luck. I've never
heard that, but like it's that sentiment where you're just
like I won, like I won, And that's what we're saying.
When you get to be around a relationship like that,
you're like, oh wait, because what's on TVG What do
we see all the time? The ball and chain? You know,
Like sometimes people say my better half, which is like,
you know, not the I guess it's saying nice things,
but it's not always it's not always meant to be.
I don't really always feel like it's so sincere. But
we have such terrible examples of marriage, so so we
hope that you can have a living example because when
you have a living example of a great relationship, whether
it's a friendship or whether it's it's in marriage, it
makes this.
Speaker 1: A lot easier. So if you don't, we're going to
use the ones that say have yet, the same way
these baseball players are going to use a coach and
use video systems and all the other things they do
to help them see correctly. What what does great look like? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Exactly, So if you don't know what great looks like,
we're gonna talk a little bit about it. So the
principles of a great relationship, and this is not just
a marriage, this is a friendship as well. Number one honor. Now,
honor is basically you assigning value. Everybody navigates this principle
of honor, whether they know it or not, because you
all assign value.
Speaker 1: If somebody comes in to talk to you and.
Speaker 2: You're like, this guy looks like an idiot, what a loser,
they could come in and say exactly what you need,
and you will not benefit from it because you've not
honored that person. You've assigned them no value, right, and
so people are very bad.
Speaker 1: I think we honor in general.
Speaker 2: And society, we honor the wrong things, like oh man,
the Kardashians.
Speaker 1: I don't know them.
Speaker 2: Personally, but looking at a lot of what they stand for,
I don't think that that's necessarily. I don't think anyone's
gonna hold this one against you.
Speaker 1: Well, you never know you. There's always gonna be that
person that's like I met her and she's so sweet.
Speaker 2: Anyways, pray Yeah, probably not the listeners on this podcast,
but you get my point. What you honor, you get
more of. Just understand that whatever you assign value to
you get more of Hey, I think this is cool. Hey,
you know money's important to me. You will get more money,
but you'll get all the sinful stuff that comes with it.
Honor the right things, Honor God. Honor what God honors.
What is God energy? He values pride or I'm sorry.
He values humility, He values righteousness, He values justice, mercy, grace, love.
You start honoring what God get honors, you'll get more
of that. So what does this look like in relationships?
To honor your partner the way Pastor Keith does it.
You've thought this from him. He celebrates his wife on
the twentieth I know when their anniversary is because he's
so effusive about it. At the twentieth of every month,
he celebrates his wife, and he knows how many hundreds
of months they've been together because it's over forty years
at this point that they've been married. That's a way
of honoring. I don't do that personally, but the member.
You're going to assign value. How do you assign value?
You express it. So for me and my wife, I
send my wife messages and really, all the people that
are close, you've gotten them. Your dad was talking about
how he's received them. The people that I'm close do
in life, they will get messages from me where I
express what they mean to me.
Speaker 1: What am I doing.
Speaker 2: I'm honoring them because they mean something to me, and
I'm letting them know. So, whether it's a marriage, whether
it's a friendship, when you start assigning honor to people,
you let them know. You don't just kind of go like, oh,
he knows how I feel or she knows how I
feel about her. No, you express it in whatever way.
Speaker 1: It's the same reason that God as for sacrifice in
the Old Testament. Yeah, show me what you value.
Speaker 2: Because we'd think like, oh, they sacrifice an animal. That's
basically you taking a stack of cash and burning it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you wouldn't, you know, you wouldn't feel they didn't
have they didn't have Benjamin's back then, right, but they
did have a cow, and that cow was like they
were waiting for that thing to give a calf because
guess what that was. That was their life, It was
their sustenance. Yeah, exactly so.
Speaker 2: So honor is the very first thing, and gee, the
second one is proximity, right, And you can observe this
in any relationship, no marriage or friendship. I can't say, like, oh,
Garretts one of my best friends. When was the last
time you hung out? I don't know, man, like twenty
twenty four, You're not one of my best friends, right,
You're a nice idea that I had. Same thing with
your marriage. What do we say to men more than
anything date your wife?
Speaker 1: I can't. It's like the simplest thing. Wait, we you
and I both get the privilege of working with some
men one on one. We also do some some group work.
And there've been there's people that I've been with and
I'm like, I've told them over and over and over again,
and they don't do it, and they're still in the
same allenges that they've had before. And there's also some
men I won't say their names, but then I'm thinking
of specifically right now that they went through the challenge
of like, Okay, I'm going to figure out how to
do this because sometimes it's difficult because of life and
seasons and everything else, how to date my wife. But
then't do it every week, And it's like, wow, this
is crazy. Everything got better in our relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you know what, you know what proximity and
regular intentional time. Cristy is connection, and that's what you're
aware of. You know when you're connected or not connected
to somebody, And it amazes me that we miss that
why we don't have that connection. But speaking from experience,
you know what I said all the time about Rein,
whenever our marriage wasn't going great, I just don't feel
connected to her. And so in my loser mentality and
in my absolute selfishness and not knowing God, I just thought, well,
maybe we're not meant to be.
Speaker 1: And in the way of the way you're talking about proximity,
there is in parentheses here consistency of proximity, because this
is watering your garden. Yeah, and you can't. We've had
a lot of analogies about this with the team and
the guys at Union for some of the processes that
were in that just take time. Yeah, like nine women
can't make a baby in a month. Okay, you can't
if you're supposed to water And this is we're going
to step outside of our agricultural intelligence here, But if
there's whatever volume of water you're supposed to give to
a tree in a month, you can't give it all
to it in a day. Yeah, I don't think you can.
Maybe maybe you can. No, you kill the seed.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 1: Well, trees have different water prosorption. But like with certain plants,
like let's talk about like potted plant or some small plants,
you've got to give it water consistently. You can't give
it all the water in one day. There you go,
let's stick with what we know potted plants. Great. Yeah,
and that's exactly right.
Speaker 2: And so it sounds so obvious and simple, but like
I said, the example I was giving with my wife,
it seemed whenever this CBT guy was saying this to me,
I was like, he's like, you've got to create these things.
I was like, oh man, and that's I look back
at old Nick and I'm like, dude, you're an idiot.
Of course you had to do this because when you
were aware of them. Shaking my head, yes, yeah, you
didn't need to say that, bro, everybody our priority knew that.
But thank you for reemphasizing that. Garrett loves to like
make sure I know how.
Speaker 1: Stupid I was previous than what a pathetic. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Every day I wake up and I ask myself, would
an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes,
I do not do that thing. Thank you Garrett, that's
all down to you. But the uh but but but
once now that I look at the principle, I'm like, well,
of course, And I'm saying this for people out there
because it's like, when you realize the principle, you're like,
this is so obvious to you. But to people who
are not not who are don't know the principle, what
are they doing? What I was doing before bumping into it.
I just don't feel connection.
Speaker 1: What did I have? All the negative emotions?
Speaker 2: Well, maybe we're not meant to be maybe blah blah
blah blah, all wrong because I didn't know principles. So
honor proximity and gee, this is the one that I
think a lot of people would miss out on. But
it's so obvious when you know it. Health, Uh, we
need it. We need a gong here, pastor Keith, Yep,
great quest. The best gift you can give another person
is a healthy you. So good Yep it's and then
that's and we all know this. Go try and have
a great relationship with a person who's got you know,
mental they're mentally ill or whatever, they've got mental health
disorders whatever. The correct way to say that is. And
they also get physically sick all the time. Really hard
to have a deep, meaningful relationship with that person. Why
because they need a lot Like they like you and
I were talking about this beforehand. Our friendship continues to
grow and get deeper and deeper, which I really appreciate
what you never have to worry about and what I've
never had to worry about with you, I've never once gone.
I wonder if Garrett'll be up for this. I wonder
what mood he's in, will he be like this?
Speaker 1: I've never I know how you're going to be. Because
health is you know, let's talk about some of the
areas of health really could just as we wrap this up,
you have emotional health, correct, right, and so that is,
don't be emotionally diseased, but also have some emotional strength
to you that you can absorb things that might produce
an emotional response. But I have the ability to carry this,
to withstand it and be a strength to my partner
to be to be wonderful from it. Like, because what
is health like? Health like? If you look at health
in a person, you look at health and an animal,
it is both beauty and strength at the same time. Yeah,
if you are weak or in certain characteristics un beautiful.
You're not healthy right right. When you're healthy, you look
the best, you feel the best. You're the most capable,
right and that is the best gift that you can
give to somebody else.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if I was going to oversimplify it, which
I do like to do, what a sick person needs
is they is they need a lot they need to take.
Speaker 1: When you're healthy, what can you do? You can give?
And that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: The healthier you are, the reason you have better relationships
is because you're more able to give.
Speaker 1: Now when you have two people that are able to give.
Speaker 2: The point I was making about our friendship, you never
wonder how I'm going to turn up either, I was
saying to you. I was like, I can't remember the
last time I asked you, hey, gee, what do you like?
I need help? It just doesn't happen. We talk about
a lot of fun stuff when we get together. It's great.
We both come in healthy and we get to talk
about like taking ground, advancing the Kingdom of God.
Speaker 1: Big ideas. I love it.
Speaker 2: It's so much fun because we're both healthy, we're both
able to give to what the vision and the purpose
that God's put us together.
Speaker 1: For, which which comes back to what is a great relationship?
We make each other better? Correct, it's better that we're
together than that we're apart.
Speaker 2: And that's the power of principles just in relationship and
when you know it, so when you're looking at your relationships,
honor proximity health, this starts like if you're sitting there
going like, well, you know, I really value this person.
We get regular time, but it's still not great. What's
their health like? What's your health like? When you come
into the relationship, are you going like, oh, and the
first thing y'all do is just dump on each other
for fifteen minutes, Probably not going to be the great
relationship you want, because you know, if you've got to
both suck the energy out of the room before you
can then start to build some that's a hard relationship
to have. And when you understand these things, you start
to look at your relationships and go oh, okay, and
what happens It makes sense. You know why you feel
closer to some people than others, and why you have
great relationship with some and not with others. That's the
power of principles just in one way, and I hope
that everybody out there is encouraged now that they can
go out there.
Speaker 1: So gee wrap So as we wrap up principles for today, right,
we didn't just talk about relationships. But I want you
to walk away with is this mindset of principles where
you can look at your life and say, Okay, even
if I don't understand what governs outcomes, I know that
the outcomes in my life are governed. So if I
can put myself in a place where I have a
deep relationship with God, I know who I am. I'm
not questioning my father. I don't think my father's as
Bruce Almighty said, God with a magnifying glass. And I'm
the aunt when you don't look at your life that way.
When you know, like man, God is a great plan
for me, and I'm meant to succeed. All I've got
to do is understand the math. If you can get
that mindset right, then you add to it consistency. Your
life becomes a formula where you know you are inevitable
and ultimately, no matter what I do, I'm going to succeed.
Thank you very much for listening.
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