Speaker 1: Let's get this party started. Oh hold on, oh boy,
Speaker 1: I got to take off the sweater. Yeah, bound, But
Speaker 1: I wanted to show you this new weird dress.
Speaker 2: I don't know thoughts. It's red and it's got big
Speaker 2: flowers on it. It's long.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's supposed to have bows right here, but they
Speaker 1: were too big in my hair.
Speaker 3: You look like a fifties housewife.
Speaker 4: Okay, I don't like a desperate housewife.
Speaker 2: I don't mind that.
Speaker 1: It's nice and bright. Guess where I got it? You
Speaker 1: don't have to guess, you know, of course?
Speaker 2: Did you? Actually?
Speaker 3: I did stop shopping there.
Speaker 2: Well, it's hard when you know.
Speaker 1: What I've stopped doing is I've stopped falling for their
Speaker 1: tricks clearly. Not.
Speaker 2: No, No, their tricks are.
Speaker 1: We will give you one hundred and thirty dollars free
Speaker 1: credit if you spend this wheel and then it always
Speaker 1: ends up on like one hundred percent credit or something.
Speaker 1: If you buy three things, you'll get one hundred dollars
Speaker 1: that you can use anytime.
Speaker 2: No, you have to jump through all these hoops.
Speaker 1: You end up buying like three hundred dollars worth of
Speaker 1: stuff and you get nothing. So I fell for it again.
Speaker 1: I didn't spend that much. Don't worry, I didn't spend
Speaker 1: that much.
Speaker 3: I don't just uninstall the app to yourself, all right,
Speaker 3: I know you'll save a lot of money.
Speaker 2: Oh, let me wait till the rest of my products around.
Speaker 4: Until Christmas, when we know Christmas.
Speaker 1: I don't know that that I will reinstall it for
Speaker 1: the team of Christmas.
Speaker 2: Anyway, welcome to May. Everybody, say go tomorrow.
Speaker 4: You can't believe it's already May.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it was a crazy syncod to my
Speaker 1: own weekend. According to Marie, who has a restaurant in
Speaker 1: Old Town, Oh I loved dad.
Speaker 2: It was and it.
Speaker 1: Was insane, although she said it was not as crazy
Speaker 1: in previous years. Two things, people don't have expendable money
Speaker 1: like they used to. Number one and number two. There
Speaker 1: was a party downtown. There was a party in Carl's ben.
Speaker 1: There was a party in Vista like there were like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, there were parties everywhere. So old Town wasn't
Speaker 1: the only place to go this time. But anyway, happy
Speaker 1: sinko tomayo. Hope you had a great weekend celebrating full
Speaker 1: three days of celebrations if you count today, and uh,
Speaker 1: we're going to start the show picking up where we
Speaker 1: left off as far as let me set, let me
Speaker 1: set the stage in care Let.
Speaker 4: Me tell you. I was in LA all weekend. You
Speaker 4: were radio silent. I did talk to you, but you
Speaker 4: didn't tell me anything about.
Speaker 2: You know why. I don't mm hmm.
Speaker 1: I like to save it for the podcast, to get
Speaker 1: your genuine react.
Speaker 4: Well, I know you do.
Speaker 1: You hate it so much, and I understand, but this
Speaker 1: is showbiz. Don't roll your eyse Brian. Okay, okay, So
Speaker 1: all right, Friday night a week ago, the boys at
Speaker 1: being in my roommate went out on the town University Heights.
Speaker 1: We had some dinner and then we went to a bar,
Speaker 1: slash dance place, club, whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 1: I think they served you. It's called rec parks and
Speaker 1: rec parking. It's a University Heights and the goal was
Speaker 1: to find me and or Marie a guy and hopefully
Speaker 1: exchange phone numbers. And you two guys were supposed to
Speaker 1: help us be our wingman.
Speaker 3: I help you.
Speaker 2: You did? Did you?
Speaker 3: The only reason that you got a phone numbers because
Speaker 3: you followed my advice?
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 4: So I was gonna go up to guys and tell
Speaker 4: me or my daughter.
Speaker 1: In essence, you guys didn't like really go in and
Speaker 1: talk to the men, but you guided us.
Speaker 3: You guided us, wanted us to do just a quick recap.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know what I'm doing. I'ven't
Speaker 2: been out there in so long.
Speaker 3: Because if we had gone and preemptively talked to the
Speaker 3: men who you planned on asking out, you would have
Speaker 3: gotten zero numbers. It would have been a door you
Speaker 3: have gotten number negative numbers.
Speaker 2: It would have been just like, who is this chick?
Speaker 3: She's right your wanted you to talk to me first,
Speaker 3: But you.
Speaker 1: Guys gave us advice on some and some guys that
Speaker 1: we did see and were possibly interested in, and we
Speaker 1: took your advice.
Speaker 2: And please note that for some.
Speaker 1: Reason, that particular night was like high school dance night,
Speaker 1: because it looked like everybody in that place was twenty
Speaker 1: one and.
Speaker 3: Under san Diego too.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 1: You told me that last time you went there, it
Speaker 1: was it was a definite mix of ages.
Speaker 2: This night not so much.
Speaker 1: So. I found one guy I thought was handsome, and
Speaker 1: I just decided to go for it. We read that
Speaker 1: we told the story last week. We read the initial
Speaker 1: text messages I gave him my phone number, and within
Speaker 1: five minutes, as we were walking back to the car,
Speaker 1: he texted me and then we just had this just
Speaker 1: very light, nothing like sexy, nothing, you know, just very
Speaker 1: basic conversations.
Speaker 2: Then we talked about it on the show. Then Eric
Speaker 2: sends a text on my phone.
Speaker 4: Well we have to back up that. Oh god, I
Speaker 4: read your texts out loud, I know, and it sounded
Speaker 4: like Minnie Pearl was texting her grandson.
Speaker 2: Being a mom. I can't help, Yes, you can.
Speaker 4: I think the most cringe worthy one was where you
Speaker 4: were like, what would you like?
Speaker 2: Where do you see yourself in two years? Hey, I like,
Speaker 2: I'm curious about people.
Speaker 3: You don't have to ask it, like he's your grandson, though.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I like helping people, Like I want to
Speaker 1: guide him maybe if he needs No.
Speaker 4: No, you said that stuff about his smile lit up
Speaker 4: the neighborhood or whatever.
Speaker 2: Cringe all the way around. Then Eric decides he's going
Speaker 2: to take the reins.
Speaker 3: We all degree agreed on a text and he almost
Speaker 3: ruined it. But it was fine.
Speaker 2: He did ruin it.
Speaker 3: No, it's it's serviceable, but it could have been better.
Speaker 1: Well, okay, let's let's think about this, let me read it.
Speaker 1: Wait the text message Eric sent, which said good evening
Speaker 1: with an exclamation.
Speaker 3: Point, I really like to see you again.
Speaker 2: Okay, the good evening wasn't bad.
Speaker 4: Well, I had to keep it going.
Speaker 3: Okay, Laura, you can't judge too far. Yeah, the text
Speaker 3: immediately prior to that was good for you, ambitious, I
Speaker 3: like people like you. Are you going to school for it?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: The question mark is the exclamation mark, So I don't
Speaker 3: want to hear too much from me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Grandma moses.
Speaker 3: Like, I'm the only person here that knows how I
Speaker 3: send a text is.
Speaker 2: An allow So that was sent?
Speaker 1: What? No, that was sent Monday, Monday? Now his he
Speaker 1: did respond. He did respond. Now I've sent Brian the
Speaker 1: continued conversation, and I want you to read to me
Speaker 1: the days that these came in real quick.
Speaker 3: Is this the last you guys talked?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: Oh so it's over.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well I need your advice on this, so please
Speaker 1: start with Eric's, then.
Speaker 2: Go to his, then go to mine.
Speaker 1: Okay, So on Monday, and wait, I have to preface
Speaker 1: this by saying I did something I knew I shouldn't
Speaker 1: have done. I think I know what you mean because
Speaker 1: little miss Marie was sitting here on this couch and
Speaker 1: I was sitting on that couch when a text came
Speaker 1: in and we discussed a possible response, and I took
Speaker 1: her advice. I would have never said this one thing,
Speaker 1: and I think it. I think it ruined everything.
Speaker 3: Okay, there's a lot of things that oh my god.
Speaker 3: So here we go, we'll break down to it. So
Speaker 3: it started with her saying good or us saying good evening,
Speaker 3: I would like to see you again. So the next day,
Speaker 3: exactly like twenty four hours later, he texts, I am
Speaker 3: so sorry love, Yes, I want to see you again too.
Speaker 3: My apologies for the late response. Sometimes when I'm locked in,
Speaker 3: I don't even check my phone or it's on focus mode.
Speaker 3: How was your day?
Speaker 2: What does that mean? Like when he's just like.
Speaker 3: Well, focus mode means you turn your turn off notifications basically.
Speaker 1: So he doesn't wanted a chill day where no one's
Speaker 1: bugging him or working.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, it's a day later.
Speaker 3: It's not that I don't I hate when people say
Speaker 3: when I'm locked in, so that's a little cringey.
Speaker 4: But okay, is this where it gets worse?
Speaker 1: This is the this is what Marie and I crafted together.
Speaker 2: And I hate myself and I think he hates me too. Okay,
Speaker 2: And when was this scent?
Speaker 3: This was Wednesday?
Speaker 2: So I waited. Oh I waited.
Speaker 3: Uh, you waited until the next morning.
Speaker 2: I did.
Speaker 3: Yesterday was great. I had the day off, so I
Speaker 3: went to the beach and soaked up the sunshine in
Speaker 3: my new bikini. It was so pretty today. Back to work?
Speaker 3: How about you? What did you do yesterday?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: In my new bikini was Marie's advice, because she said
Speaker 1: I should spice it up a teeny tiny bit. And
Speaker 1: then she she said, why don't you say like you
Speaker 1: were in the sun in your new bikini so he
Speaker 1: could like visualize that. I'm like, oh my god, that's
Speaker 1: not something I would say, but okay.
Speaker 2: And I did it. Anyway. That was Wednesday. It is Monday.
Speaker 2: No word back crickets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's probably it.
Speaker 1: Then, So what killed it? The whole thing all together?
Speaker 1: Probably tire the entirety of the text stream.
Speaker 4: I have to say it that was or.
Speaker 2: The bikini thing or the good evening thing.
Speaker 3: It wasn't the good evening thing?
Speaker 2: What killed this whole thing?
Speaker 1: Because he was still up for seeing me even after
Speaker 1: the where are you going to be in two years?
Speaker 3: Well, he says that I don't know if that's what
Speaker 3: he actually meant.
Speaker 2: We should call him. You will call him?
Speaker 4: No, why are you crazy?
Speaker 3: Yeah, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2: Just just to discuss.
Speaker 3: No, that's crazy time, that's what crazy excess do? You
Speaker 3: don't call so they don't when they go to you.
Speaker 2: I want to Okay, listen, hear me out, and just
Speaker 2: hear me out. Okay, it's an idea.
Speaker 3: Answer though it is going to be No, regardless of
Speaker 3: what you say.
Speaker 2: Obviously, this thing with the twenty nine year old is dead.
Speaker 3: Probably Okay.
Speaker 2: I would like to talk to him. He seemed like Listen,
Speaker 2: he seemed.
Speaker 1: Like a really cool guy, and I wanted I want
Speaker 1: to explain to him what we're doing.
Speaker 2: No, no, stop, And I want to say to him
Speaker 2: what I need to get better at this? Help me? Like,
Speaker 2: what is it that made you not want to see me?
Speaker 3: No, that's so weird.
Speaker 4: That is so weird.
Speaker 3: No, No, I don't have time to explain this to
Speaker 3: you because I don't think there's enough time. Just take
Speaker 3: our word for on this one. That is a terrible idea.
Speaker 4: That's the worst idea.
Speaker 3: That's so ever, it's so weird.
Speaker 4: What do you guys think.
Speaker 3: If I ghost like someone? Would you, guys, that's horrific.
Speaker 2: If I told him the truth.
Speaker 4: No, you would look like a total psychopath about why
Speaker 4: it was out in the first place. No, you would
Speaker 4: look like a psychopath.
Speaker 3: You're you gonna tell him sorry, I did it for
Speaker 3: my podcast.
Speaker 2: You guys, that's weird.
Speaker 3: That's even what makes you look lamer.
Speaker 2: Tell me if you think I should.
Speaker 4: Call him, tell Laura.
Speaker 3: You're not calling him.
Speaker 4: Tell Laura.
Speaker 3: No, if you call him, I'm quitting.
Speaker 4: Oh oh me too.
Speaker 3: Ultimatum.
Speaker 2: Wow, it's that.
Speaker 4: That is crazy.
Speaker 3: No, not anymore, because you guys are texting. He goes
Speaker 3: to and.
Speaker 1: I accept that, you don't You don't you know? Because
Speaker 1: I want to know how I can be better in
Speaker 1: the future.
Speaker 2: For someone.
Speaker 3: Don't ask for feedback from someone that goes to don't
Speaker 3: do it?
Speaker 2: Who says don't do it?
Speaker 3: Everybody?
Speaker 4: Everybody.
Speaker 2: The guy is young, so maybe he'll be okay with it. No,
Speaker 2: all right, okay, look listen, you.
Speaker 4: Will sit on your head.
Speaker 2: You're just on my head and Brian's to quit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I am young. I'm not super forward like Marie,
Speaker 3: is I understand how the game works. He aghosted you.
Speaker 3: If he doesn't text you back, sorry, bummer, try again.
Speaker 3: That's it.
Speaker 1: Did the soaking up the son of my new bikini
Speaker 1: killing it, or or the two year where do you
Speaker 1: see yourself in two years?
Speaker 3: That was not good. The thing okay, the soaking up
Speaker 3: in your bikini like it had the right idea, but
Speaker 3: it just came across as a grandma. Well, I don't
Speaker 3: know about that. It came off very fakeers.
Speaker 4: I've got my wider bag and I met the beach
Speaker 4: in the shadow end.
Speaker 1: When she gets home, we're having another chat with her,
Speaker 1: I know, And I'm going to bring her up here
Speaker 1: because she needs texting one on one skill.
Speaker 3: Everybody here how to get it?
Speaker 1: Well, I guess in France, men are very forward and
Speaker 1: women are accepting of that and like so when you
Speaker 1: like go on a date and you hit it off,
Speaker 1: you are together right away. And men in France are
Speaker 1: very romantic and they will let you know, you know,
Speaker 1: like they'll come on to you like they have They're
Speaker 1: very bold. So maybe she just has a different obviously culturals,
Speaker 1: and it's not working for me.
Speaker 4: Yep, somebody Matt says, don't do it, Matt.
Speaker 1: Okay, if Matt says don't do it, I won't do it.
Speaker 1: Crazy And then Brian, I don't want you to quit
Speaker 1: because that would be really sad over this whole stupid thing.
Speaker 3: Okay, I wouldn't actually quit, but that's like I mean,
Speaker 3: I know that you would do it with good intentions,
Speaker 3: but that.
Speaker 4: Is psychopath behavior, it really is. But he'd probably put
Speaker 4: your picture up at the bar and say.
Speaker 3: No one's mind has ever been changed after ghosting someone
Speaker 3: by them came.
Speaker 2: I don't really want I don't want to change his mind.
Speaker 1: I know he's done, but I feel like I could
Speaker 1: gain valuable insight.
Speaker 3: Ghosting means I don't want to talk anymore, but I
Speaker 3: want to know why. You'll never know. That's why I.
Speaker 2: Need answers. I am a journalist.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm okay, journalist whatever.
Speaker 1: Okay, So on that note, I thought i'd look up
Speaker 1: what are the dating trends of twenty twenty five? What
Speaker 1: do I need to be prepared for if what Marie
Speaker 1: and I discussed this weekend is going to come to pass,
Speaker 1: which means to be prepared for We're going on a
Speaker 1: dating website what colossal disappointment.
Speaker 2: Oh, no, good, A lot of people.
Speaker 1: There's a friend of mine named Amy who went through
Speaker 1: a lot of frogs on.
Speaker 2: Bumble hinge, plenty of fish whatever.
Speaker 1: And then one day she was driving to this next
Speaker 1: day and she called her friends, I do not want
Speaker 1: to go. Please give me any excuse, and the friend said,
Speaker 1: just go.
Speaker 2: She got out of the car, she saw them and
Speaker 2: she goes, He's the one. So it works. And they've
Speaker 2: been together for like three years and they're totally in love.
Speaker 2: So these do work.
Speaker 3: The work I know hinges, I know have I know
Speaker 3: the most people who've gotten married from him?
Speaker 2: Hinge? Yeah, okay, hinge, so hinge? Is it real quick?
Speaker 3: I do have bad news. We have to have a
Speaker 3: short short show.
Speaker 2: Oh no, my thing's going to restart? Yeah, how and
Speaker 2: how long?
Speaker 3: Seven minutes? It'll be about a little under half an
Speaker 3: hour show.
Speaker 1: Well, dude, we won't Okay, do you want to?
Speaker 2: Okay, why don't you do? You have double D.
Speaker 3: Let's let's do dating and we'll keep it on topic
Speaker 3: and then we'll do we'll.
Speaker 4: Do the double D next week.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: In twenty twenty five, dating is expected to be more
Speaker 1: intentional focused on authentic connections and prioritizing shared interests and passions.
Speaker 2: Loud looking have you heard of this term?
Speaker 3: Is that like really obvious like gaze?
Speaker 1: No, This is when people are more transparent and vocal
Speaker 1: about their dating preferences. It's also a key trend, so
Speaker 1: just be up front. Hey, I'm a chick, I'm divorced,
Speaker 1: I've got two grown kids. I was in rehab. They're
Speaker 1: all on the table.
Speaker 3: Okay, wait the rehab part, keep yourself everything else you
Speaker 3: can be vocals okay.
Speaker 1: And then there's intentional dating, where people are dating for
Speaker 1: a purpose, for a mind for a more mindful communication,
Speaker 1: and seeking relationships that align with their values. So intentional
Speaker 1: dating really really getting into it authenticity and transparency, prioritizing
Speaker 1: genuine connections, and being more open about needs and preferences,
Speaker 1: shared interests and passions.
Speaker 2: That's obvious. Soft dating.
Speaker 1: This trend emphasizes organic connections and moving away from rigid
Speaker 1: timelines and expectations. So maybe that's what I'm doing with Derek.
Speaker 1: Am I soft dating?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't think.
Speaker 3: No, you were just sending awkward messages to nothing dating.
Speaker 1: What about flex dating short low stake meetups? Like grabbing
Speaker 1: a smoothie or working out together are becoming popular, offering
Speaker 1: a less pressure approach to dating.
Speaker 3: I think that's good if you've already had big dates.
Speaker 3: Those are good to fill the gaps between big dates. Otherwise,
Speaker 3: don't recommend.
Speaker 2: Have you heard of micromance?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: Focus on small, constant efforts in a relationship to build
Speaker 1: trust and affection. And then AI matchmakers. AI tools are
Speaker 1: increasingly used to personalize matchmaking and analyze compatibility. Maybe I
Speaker 1: should go to GBT chat check GBT and figure it
Speaker 1: out and they can write out my little summary for
Speaker 1: me on my un hinge Now minimalist dating, prioritizing fewer
Speaker 1: but more meaningful connections over endless swiping.
Speaker 3: These are so many words just to describe the same
Speaker 3: dating process I feel like and.
Speaker 1: Dating rapped with w Warpped reflecting on the past year's
Speaker 1: dating experience, inspired by Spotify's rapped feature What's that?
Speaker 3: That's where it gives you a rundown of all the
Speaker 3: music you listen to.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so these are some of the dating I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm just gonna the next step and I
Speaker 1: promised my roommate we do this together is create a
Speaker 1: profile and be serious about it, because I never ever
Speaker 1: actually have been one thousand percent serious about a dating app.
Speaker 1: I've put stuff on there. I never write a brief
Speaker 1: summary or paragraph. I put like random things that I'm
Speaker 1: interested in, and I put the very bare minimum and
Speaker 1: just my pictures. So I should really like focus on it,
Speaker 1: cultivate like some cool things about myself.
Speaker 4: And see what can I write your profile?
Speaker 2: If you okay, how about this?
Speaker 1: No? Wait, are you being are you serious? Are you
Speaker 1: being fake right now and joking? You're joking with me?
Speaker 3: I think he's being serious. I wouldn't like.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, then here's the deal. When my computer shuts
Speaker 2: down to restart, I love this. I love this. Sorry
Speaker 2: you guys, this is such a or how many more
Speaker 2: rins do we have?
Speaker 3: Three?
Speaker 2: Oh? My, okay, a quick give us a quick something
Speaker 2: from your life in three minutes.
Speaker 4: From my life, like maybe oh the movie oh I
Speaker 4: just watched the other night on Prime last night, another
Speaker 4: simple favor with oh Anna Kendrick and Blake Lively.
Speaker 2: Did you like it?
Speaker 4: I did?
Speaker 2: Why did you watch it with all the Blake stuff?
Speaker 4: Just to see their chemistry together?
Speaker 2: I saw it on there, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 2: not watching it because I don't think I like her.
Speaker 4: I've changed my opinion about her, like I don't particularly
Speaker 4: care for her. But the movie was good really okay,
Speaker 4: all right, good to know Alison Janney wastic.
Speaker 3: Okay, even if she did everything they claimed, it just
Speaker 3: makes her like a cutthroat Hollywood lady like everybody else
Speaker 3: in Hollywood. Though I don't know if it really makes
Speaker 3: for the devil.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but like now they're talking about having to subpoena
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift and she is going to be do.
Speaker 3: You need to settle this is this is becoming a
Speaker 3: stupid last It's just dumb.
Speaker 2: It's just it's just little minute things that happen in
Speaker 2: Bluer I know, I know.
Speaker 4: All right, next show we're going to talk about the
Speaker 4: met Ball going on right.
Speaker 2: Now next year or next episode?
Speaker 3: Next what did I say year?
Speaker 4: Oh? I mean next episode?
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Oh, I have a funny story to tell you that
Speaker 1: Antonio told me it's the craziest thing. And I have
Speaker 1: some random news, including something you need if you want
Speaker 1: to fly this week okay, and how they're going to
Speaker 1: announce the new pope coming up next week. It sounded
Speaker 1: to shut down the computer and restart.
Speaker 2: Gotta love it, Gotta love it you guys, Thank you
Speaker 2: so much for watching. Sorry I'm so short, and we'll
Speaker 2: keep you.
Speaker 1: Updated on all the things dating, which is not gonna
Speaker 1: be much.
Speaker 4: Love your podcast, Love your podcast.
Speaker 2: Love you, my sweet babies. Bye,