WEBVTT 1 00:00:09.480 --> 00:00:12.800 Let's get this party started. Oh hold on, oh boy, 2 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:18.519 I got to take off the sweater. Yeah, bound, But 3 00:00:18.559 --> 00:00:21.600 I wanted to show you this new weird dress. 4 00:00:21.640 --> 00:00:28.640 I don't know thoughts. It's red and it's got big 5 00:00:28.679 --> 00:00:30.039 flowers on it. It's long. 6 00:00:30.519 --> 00:00:33.679 Yeah, it's supposed to have bows right here, but they 7 00:00:33.679 --> 00:00:35.079 were too big in my hair. 8 00:00:35.439 --> 00:00:36.880 You look like a fifties housewife. 9 00:00:37.320 --> 00:00:40.520 Okay, I don't like a desperate housewife. 10 00:00:40.880 --> 00:00:41.600 I don't mind that. 11 00:00:42.000 --> 00:00:44.320 It's nice and bright. Guess where I got it? You 12 00:00:44.359 --> 00:00:46.600 don't have to guess, you know, of course? 13 00:00:47.079 --> 00:00:47.880 Did you? Actually? 14 00:00:48.119 --> 00:00:49.600 I did stop shopping there. 15 00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:51.920 Well, it's hard when you know. 16 00:00:52.000 --> 00:00:55.079 What I've stopped doing is I've stopped falling for their 17 00:00:55.439 --> 00:00:57.200 tricks clearly. Not. 18 00:00:57.920 --> 00:00:59.920 No, No, their tricks are. 19 00:01:01.000 --> 00:01:04.040 We will give you one hundred and thirty dollars free 20 00:01:04.079 --> 00:01:08.799 credit if you spend this wheel and then it always 21 00:01:09.040 --> 00:01:12.120 ends up on like one hundred percent credit or something. 22 00:01:12.200 --> 00:01:16.239 If you buy three things, you'll get one hundred dollars 23 00:01:16.439 --> 00:01:18.120 that you can use anytime. 24 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:20.719 No, you have to jump through all these hoops. 25 00:01:20.719 --> 00:01:22.920 You end up buying like three hundred dollars worth of 26 00:01:22.959 --> 00:01:26.760 stuff and you get nothing. So I fell for it again. 27 00:01:27.040 --> 00:01:29.040 I didn't spend that much. Don't worry, I didn't spend 28 00:01:29.079 --> 00:01:29.359 that much. 29 00:01:29.359 --> 00:01:31.760 I don't just uninstall the app to yourself, all right, 30 00:01:31.879 --> 00:01:33.480 I know you'll save a lot of money. 31 00:01:33.480 --> 00:01:36.000 Oh, let me wait till the rest of my products around. 32 00:01:36.239 --> 00:01:38.159 Until Christmas, when we know Christmas. 33 00:01:38.200 --> 00:01:40.400 I don't know that that I will reinstall it for 34 00:01:40.439 --> 00:01:41.319 the team of Christmas. 35 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:45.159 Anyway, welcome to May. Everybody, say go tomorrow. 36 00:01:45.439 --> 00:01:46.760 You can't believe it's already May. 37 00:01:47.239 --> 00:01:50.200 Oh my gosh, it was a crazy syncod to my 38 00:01:50.239 --> 00:01:53.319 own weekend. According to Marie, who has a restaurant in 39 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:54.680 Old Town, Oh I loved dad. 40 00:01:55.000 --> 00:01:57.120 It was and it. 41 00:01:57.000 --> 00:02:01.799 Was insane, although she said it was not as crazy 42 00:02:01.920 --> 00:02:07.280 in previous years. Two things, people don't have expendable money 43 00:02:07.319 --> 00:02:11.719 like they used to. Number one and number two. There 44 00:02:11.800 --> 00:02:14.960 was a party downtown. There was a party in Carl's ben. 45 00:02:15.000 --> 00:02:17.439 There was a party in Vista like there were like, 46 00:02:17.560 --> 00:02:20.159 oh yeah, there were parties everywhere. So old Town wasn't 47 00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:24.039 the only place to go this time. But anyway, happy 48 00:02:24.080 --> 00:02:28.000 sinko tomayo. Hope you had a great weekend celebrating full 49 00:02:28.879 --> 00:02:33.639 three days of celebrations if you count today, and uh, 50 00:02:33.919 --> 00:02:38.439 we're going to start the show picking up where we 51 00:02:38.560 --> 00:02:41.639 left off as far as let me set, let me 52 00:02:41.680 --> 00:02:43.560 set the stage in care Let. 53 00:02:43.520 --> 00:02:49.759 Me tell you. I was in LA all weekend. You 54 00:02:49.840 --> 00:02:54.360 were radio silent. I did talk to you, but you 55 00:02:54.439 --> 00:02:56.280 didn't tell me anything about. 56 00:02:56.159 --> 00:02:58.960 You know why. I don't mm hmm. 57 00:03:00.199 --> 00:03:03.560 I like to save it for the podcast, to get 58 00:03:03.599 --> 00:03:04.840 your genuine react. 59 00:03:04.919 --> 00:03:06.479 Well, I know you do. 60 00:03:06.599 --> 00:03:08.840 You hate it so much, and I understand, but this 61 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:15.879 is showbiz. Don't roll your eyse Brian. Okay, okay, So 62 00:03:16.680 --> 00:03:21.879 all right, Friday night a week ago, the boys at 63 00:03:21.919 --> 00:03:25.919 being in my roommate went out on the town University Heights. 64 00:03:26.120 --> 00:03:29.639 We had some dinner and then we went to a bar, 65 00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:33.199 slash dance place, club, whatever you want to call it. 66 00:03:33.800 --> 00:03:37.240 I think they served you. It's called rec parks and 67 00:03:37.319 --> 00:03:43.599 rec parking. It's a University Heights and the goal was 68 00:03:44.240 --> 00:03:49.479 to find me and or Marie a guy and hopefully 69 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:53.840 exchange phone numbers. And you two guys were supposed to 70 00:03:53.879 --> 00:03:55.680 help us be our wingman. 71 00:03:55.960 --> 00:03:56.800 I help you. 72 00:03:56.800 --> 00:03:59.879 You did? Did you? 73 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:02.759 The only reason that you got a phone numbers because 74 00:04:02.759 --> 00:04:03.680 you followed my advice? 75 00:04:04.280 --> 00:04:04.879 That's true. 76 00:04:05.879 --> 00:04:08.120 So I was gonna go up to guys and tell 77 00:04:08.120 --> 00:04:08.960 me or my daughter. 78 00:04:10.039 --> 00:04:13.479 In essence, you guys didn't like really go in and 79 00:04:13.599 --> 00:04:15.759 talk to the men, but you guided us. 80 00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:19.000 You guided us, wanted us to do just a quick recap. 81 00:04:19.120 --> 00:04:21.120 I don't know, I don't know what I'm doing. I'ven't 82 00:04:21.120 --> 00:04:22.160 been out there in so long. 83 00:04:22.240 --> 00:04:24.639 Because if we had gone and preemptively talked to the 84 00:04:24.639 --> 00:04:26.360 men who you planned on asking out, you would have 85 00:04:26.360 --> 00:04:28.399 gotten zero numbers. It would have been a door you 86 00:04:28.439 --> 00:04:30.360 have gotten number negative numbers. 87 00:04:30.439 --> 00:04:32.560 It would have been just like, who is this chick? 88 00:04:32.800 --> 00:04:36.759 She's right your wanted you to talk to me first, 89 00:04:38.279 --> 00:04:39.319 But you. 90 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:43.160 Guys gave us advice on some and some guys that 91 00:04:43.199 --> 00:04:46.519 we did see and were possibly interested in, and we 92 00:04:46.600 --> 00:04:47.319 took your advice. 93 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:50.680 And please note that for some. 94 00:04:50.480 --> 00:04:55.000 Reason, that particular night was like high school dance night, 95 00:04:55.480 --> 00:04:58.759 because it looked like everybody in that place was twenty 96 00:04:58.839 --> 00:04:59.240 one and. 97 00:04:59.319 --> 00:05:00.920 Under san Diego too. 98 00:05:01.360 --> 00:05:01.600 Well. 99 00:05:01.759 --> 00:05:04.199 You told me that last time you went there, it 100 00:05:04.399 --> 00:05:07.160 was it was a definite mix of ages. 101 00:05:07.839 --> 00:05:10.120 This night not so much. 102 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:14.720 So. I found one guy I thought was handsome, and 103 00:05:14.800 --> 00:05:18.279 I just decided to go for it. We read that 104 00:05:18.959 --> 00:05:23.600 we told the story last week. We read the initial 105 00:05:23.800 --> 00:05:26.720 text messages I gave him my phone number, and within 106 00:05:27.040 --> 00:05:29.199 five minutes, as we were walking back to the car, 107 00:05:29.240 --> 00:05:33.040 he texted me and then we just had this just 108 00:05:33.240 --> 00:05:38.319 very light, nothing like sexy, nothing, you know, just very 109 00:05:38.879 --> 00:05:40.480 basic conversations. 110 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:44.639 Then we talked about it on the show. Then Eric 111 00:05:46.959 --> 00:05:49.959 sends a text on my phone. 112 00:05:50.079 --> 00:05:54.199 Well we have to back up that. Oh god, I 113 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:58.120 read your texts out loud, I know, and it sounded 114 00:05:58.199 --> 00:06:01.800 like Minnie Pearl was texting her grandson. 115 00:06:03.079 --> 00:06:07.199 Being a mom. I can't help, Yes, you can. 116 00:06:07.319 --> 00:06:10.519 I think the most cringe worthy one was where you 117 00:06:10.560 --> 00:06:12.319 were like, what would you like? 118 00:06:12.439 --> 00:06:17.639 Where do you see yourself in two years? Hey, I like, 119 00:06:17.800 --> 00:06:19.279 I'm curious about people. 120 00:06:19.480 --> 00:06:22.199 You don't have to ask it, like he's your grandson, though. 121 00:06:23.160 --> 00:06:25.319 I'm like, I like helping people, Like I want to 122 00:06:25.399 --> 00:06:27.199 guide him maybe if he needs No. 123 00:06:27.279 --> 00:06:31.680 No, you said that stuff about his smile lit up 124 00:06:31.720 --> 00:06:33.120 the neighborhood or whatever. 125 00:06:35.439 --> 00:06:40.199 Cringe all the way around. Then Eric decides he's going 126 00:06:40.279 --> 00:06:41.360 to take the reins. 127 00:06:41.600 --> 00:06:44.079 We all degree agreed on a text and he almost 128 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:45.519 ruined it. But it was fine. 129 00:06:45.639 --> 00:06:47.759 He did ruin it. 130 00:06:47.839 --> 00:06:50.439 No, it's it's serviceable, but it could have been better. 131 00:06:50.560 --> 00:06:53.839 Well, okay, let's let's think about this, let me read it. 132 00:06:53.920 --> 00:06:58.759 Wait the text message Eric sent, which said good evening 133 00:06:59.079 --> 00:07:00.439 with an exclamation. 134 00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:01.639 Point, I really like to see you again. 135 00:07:01.720 --> 00:07:03.720 Okay, the good evening wasn't bad. 136 00:07:04.079 --> 00:07:05.439 Well, I had to keep it going. 137 00:07:05.480 --> 00:07:09.399 Okay, Laura, you can't judge too far. Yeah, the text 138 00:07:09.720 --> 00:07:13.240 immediately prior to that was good for you, ambitious, I 139 00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:15.720 like people like you. Are you going to school for it? 140 00:07:15.839 --> 00:07:16.079 Yeah? 141 00:07:16.120 --> 00:07:19.439 The question mark is the exclamation mark, So I don't 142 00:07:19.439 --> 00:07:20.439 want to hear too much from me. 143 00:07:21.279 --> 00:07:22.920 Yeah, Grandma moses. 144 00:07:23.399 --> 00:07:24.759 Like, I'm the only person here that knows how I 145 00:07:24.759 --> 00:07:25.519 send a text is. 146 00:07:25.519 --> 00:07:27.600 An allow So that was sent? 147 00:07:28.720 --> 00:07:36.920 What? No, that was sent Monday, Monday? Now his he 148 00:07:36.959 --> 00:07:43.439 did respond. He did respond. Now I've sent Brian the 149 00:07:43.519 --> 00:07:46.839 continued conversation, and I want you to read to me 150 00:07:47.279 --> 00:07:49.800 the days that these came in real quick. 151 00:07:49.920 --> 00:07:51.600 Is this the last you guys talked? 152 00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:52.079 Yes? 153 00:07:52.199 --> 00:07:52.920 Oh so it's over. 154 00:07:53.079 --> 00:07:57.600 Okay, Well I need your advice on this, so please 155 00:07:58.000 --> 00:07:59.800 start with Eric's, then. 156 00:07:59.680 --> 00:08:01.600 Go to his, then go to mine. 157 00:08:01.839 --> 00:08:05.920 Okay, So on Monday, and wait, I have to preface 158 00:08:05.959 --> 00:08:09.639 this by saying I did something I knew I shouldn't 159 00:08:09.680 --> 00:08:12.519 have done. I think I know what you mean because 160 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:14.959 little miss Marie was sitting here on this couch and 161 00:08:14.959 --> 00:08:17.160 I was sitting on that couch when a text came 162 00:08:17.240 --> 00:08:22.040 in and we discussed a possible response, and I took 163 00:08:22.079 --> 00:08:25.000 her advice. I would have never said this one thing, 164 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:28.360 and I think it. I think it ruined everything. 165 00:08:28.600 --> 00:08:30.759 Okay, there's a lot of things that oh my god. 166 00:08:31.040 --> 00:08:32.600 So here we go, we'll break down to it. So 167 00:08:32.600 --> 00:08:35.480 it started with her saying good or us saying good evening, 168 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:38.120 I would like to see you again. So the next day, 169 00:08:38.919 --> 00:08:41.519 exactly like twenty four hours later, he texts, I am 170 00:08:41.559 --> 00:08:43.919 so sorry love, Yes, I want to see you again too. 171 00:08:44.360 --> 00:08:48.279 My apologies for the late response. Sometimes when I'm locked in, 172 00:08:48.360 --> 00:08:51.080 I don't even check my phone or it's on focus mode. 173 00:08:51.200 --> 00:08:51.919 How was your day? 174 00:08:53.519 --> 00:08:55.879 What does that mean? Like when he's just like. 175 00:08:56.519 --> 00:09:00.399 Well, focus mode means you turn your turn off notifications basically. 176 00:09:00.399 --> 00:09:02.440 So he doesn't wanted a chill day where no one's 177 00:09:02.480 --> 00:09:04.799 bugging him or working. 178 00:09:04.919 --> 00:09:06.799 Okay, okay, okay, it's a day later. 179 00:09:06.799 --> 00:09:09.759 It's not that I don't I hate when people say 180 00:09:09.840 --> 00:09:12.399 when I'm locked in, so that's a little cringey. 181 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:14.720 But okay, is this where it gets worse? 182 00:09:15.120 --> 00:09:18.679 This is the this is what Marie and I crafted together. 183 00:09:21.000 --> 00:09:26.039 And I hate myself and I think he hates me too. Okay, 184 00:09:26.840 --> 00:09:27.879 And when was this scent? 185 00:09:28.399 --> 00:09:29.720 This was Wednesday? 186 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:31.840 So I waited. Oh I waited. 187 00:09:31.960 --> 00:09:34.159 Uh, you waited until the next morning. 188 00:09:34.240 --> 00:09:34.679 I did. 189 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:37.960 Yesterday was great. I had the day off, so I 190 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:40.279 went to the beach and soaked up the sunshine in 191 00:09:40.360 --> 00:09:44.960 my new bikini. It was so pretty today. Back to work? 192 00:09:45.240 --> 00:09:47.279 How about you? What did you do yesterday? 193 00:09:47.440 --> 00:09:47.799 Okay? 194 00:09:48.960 --> 00:09:55.080 In my new bikini was Marie's advice, because she said 195 00:09:55.120 --> 00:09:58.639 I should spice it up a teeny tiny bit. And 196 00:09:58.679 --> 00:10:01.519 then she she said, why don't you say like you 197 00:10:01.559 --> 00:10:03.559 were in the sun in your new bikini so he 198 00:10:03.559 --> 00:10:06.279 could like visualize that. I'm like, oh my god, that's 199 00:10:06.399 --> 00:10:08.879 not something I would say, but okay. 200 00:10:08.360 --> 00:10:12.879 And I did it. Anyway. That was Wednesday. It is Monday. 201 00:10:13.480 --> 00:10:14.840 No word back crickets. 202 00:10:14.960 --> 00:10:15.879 Yeah, that's probably it. 203 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:19.919 Then, So what killed it? The whole thing all together? 204 00:10:20.679 --> 00:10:23.440 Probably tire the entirety of the text stream. 205 00:10:23.600 --> 00:10:25.320 I have to say it that was or. 206 00:10:25.559 --> 00:10:27.559 The bikini thing or the good evening thing. 207 00:10:28.120 --> 00:10:29.159 It wasn't the good evening thing? 208 00:10:29.240 --> 00:10:30.720 What killed this whole thing? 209 00:10:31.480 --> 00:10:33.960 Because he was still up for seeing me even after 210 00:10:34.000 --> 00:10:35.600 the where are you going to be in two years? 211 00:10:35.639 --> 00:10:37.639 Well, he says that I don't know if that's what 212 00:10:37.720 --> 00:10:39.759 he actually meant. 213 00:10:40.879 --> 00:10:42.879 We should call him. You will call him? 214 00:10:43.399 --> 00:10:45.320 No, why are you crazy? 215 00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:46.679 Yeah, what's wrong with you? 216 00:10:46.759 --> 00:10:48.080 Just just to discuss. 217 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:50.879 No, that's crazy time, that's what crazy excess do? You 218 00:10:50.879 --> 00:10:52.840 don't call so they don't when they go to you. 219 00:10:53.279 --> 00:10:56.960 I want to Okay, listen, hear me out, and just 220 00:10:57.559 --> 00:10:59.639 hear me out. Okay, it's an idea. 221 00:10:59.480 --> 00:11:01.159 Answer though it is going to be No, regardless of 222 00:11:01.200 --> 00:11:01.679 what you say. 223 00:11:03.360 --> 00:11:07.480 Obviously, this thing with the twenty nine year old is dead. 224 00:11:08.000 --> 00:11:08.840 Probably Okay. 225 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:14.039 I would like to talk to him. He seemed like Listen, 226 00:11:15.159 --> 00:11:15.879 he seemed. 227 00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:18.159 Like a really cool guy, and I wanted I want 228 00:11:18.200 --> 00:11:21.240 to explain to him what we're doing. 229 00:11:21.360 --> 00:11:27.440 No, no, stop, And I want to say to him 230 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:31.519 what I need to get better at this? Help me? Like, 231 00:11:31.639 --> 00:11:34.159 what is it that made you not want to see me? 232 00:11:34.240 --> 00:11:35.120 No, that's so weird. 233 00:11:35.759 --> 00:11:36.919 That is so weird. 234 00:11:37.759 --> 00:11:41.080 No, No, I don't have time to explain this to 235 00:11:41.120 --> 00:11:43.120 you because I don't think there's enough time. Just take 236 00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:45.840 our word for on this one. That is a terrible idea. 237 00:11:45.879 --> 00:11:47.360 That's the worst idea. 238 00:11:47.639 --> 00:11:50.039 That's so ever, it's so weird. 239 00:11:50.120 --> 00:11:51.320 What do you guys think. 240 00:11:51.200 --> 00:11:54.879 If I ghost like someone? Would you, guys, that's horrific. 241 00:11:55.080 --> 00:11:56.720 If I told him the truth. 242 00:11:56.519 --> 00:11:59.639 No, you would look like a total psychopath about why 243 00:11:59.679 --> 00:12:01.559 it was out in the first place. No, you would 244 00:12:01.600 --> 00:12:02.799 look like a psychopath. 245 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:04.559 You're you gonna tell him sorry, I did it for 246 00:12:04.639 --> 00:12:05.320 my podcast. 247 00:12:05.559 --> 00:12:06.360 You guys, that's weird. 248 00:12:06.399 --> 00:12:07.639 That's even what makes you look lamer. 249 00:12:08.039 --> 00:12:09.960 Tell me if you think I should. 250 00:12:09.759 --> 00:12:11.120 Call him, tell Laura. 251 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:12.279 You're not calling him. 252 00:12:13.519 --> 00:12:14.279 Tell Laura. 253 00:12:14.360 --> 00:12:16.080 No, if you call him, I'm quitting. 254 00:12:16.399 --> 00:12:17.960 Oh oh me too. 255 00:12:18.240 --> 00:12:19.200 Ultimatum. 256 00:12:19.639 --> 00:12:23.919 Wow, it's that. 257 00:12:23.919 --> 00:12:27.000 That is crazy. 258 00:12:27.279 --> 00:12:32.120 No, not anymore, because you guys are texting. He goes 259 00:12:32.200 --> 00:12:32.919 to and. 260 00:12:33.480 --> 00:12:37.559 I accept that, you don't You don't you know? Because 261 00:12:37.559 --> 00:12:40.799 I want to know how I can be better in 262 00:12:40.799 --> 00:12:41.200 the future. 263 00:12:41.240 --> 00:12:41.600 For someone. 264 00:12:41.960 --> 00:12:44.240 Don't ask for feedback from someone that goes to don't 265 00:12:44.360 --> 00:12:44.759 do it? 266 00:12:45.279 --> 00:12:46.360 Who says don't do it? 267 00:12:46.480 --> 00:12:47.039 Everybody? 268 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:48.039 Everybody. 269 00:12:49.320 --> 00:12:53.200 The guy is young, so maybe he'll be okay with it. No, 270 00:12:54.519 --> 00:12:56.720 all right, okay, look listen, you. 271 00:12:56.720 --> 00:12:57.919 Will sit on your head. 272 00:12:58.440 --> 00:13:00.360 You're just on my head and Brian's to quit. 273 00:13:00.600 --> 00:13:03.679 Yeah, I am young. I'm not super forward like Marie, 274 00:13:03.799 --> 00:13:06.720 is I understand how the game works. He aghosted you. 275 00:13:06.759 --> 00:13:09.960 If he doesn't text you back, sorry, bummer, try again. 276 00:13:10.360 --> 00:13:10.759 That's it. 277 00:13:10.840 --> 00:13:12.720 Did the soaking up the son of my new bikini 278 00:13:12.799 --> 00:13:16.320 killing it, or or the two year where do you 279 00:13:16.320 --> 00:13:17.240 see yourself in two years? 280 00:13:17.399 --> 00:13:20.200 That was not good. The thing okay, the soaking up 281 00:13:20.200 --> 00:13:22.440 in your bikini like it had the right idea, but 282 00:13:22.480 --> 00:13:25.960 it just came across as a grandma. Well, I don't 283 00:13:26.000 --> 00:13:27.519 know about that. It came off very fakeers. 284 00:13:27.679 --> 00:13:30.720 I've got my wider bag and I met the beach 285 00:13:30.840 --> 00:13:32.080 in the shadow end. 286 00:13:33.320 --> 00:13:34.919 When she gets home, we're having another chat with her, 287 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:36.679 I know, And I'm going to bring her up here 288 00:13:36.720 --> 00:13:40.799 because she needs texting one on one skill. 289 00:13:41.480 --> 00:13:43.600 Everybody here how to get it? 290 00:13:43.639 --> 00:13:47.759 Well, I guess in France, men are very forward and 291 00:13:47.879 --> 00:13:51.120 women are accepting of that and like so when you 292 00:13:51.320 --> 00:13:53.559 like go on a date and you hit it off, 293 00:13:53.759 --> 00:13:56.759 you are together right away. And men in France are 294 00:13:56.879 --> 00:13:59.559 very romantic and they will let you know, you know, 295 00:13:59.679 --> 00:14:03.120 like they'll come on to you like they have They're 296 00:14:03.240 --> 00:14:10.759 very bold. So maybe she just has a different obviously culturals, 297 00:14:11.759 --> 00:14:12.799 and it's not working for me. 298 00:14:13.440 --> 00:14:16.320 Yep, somebody Matt says, don't do it, Matt. 299 00:14:16.320 --> 00:14:18.600 Okay, if Matt says don't do it, I won't do it. 300 00:14:18.720 --> 00:14:21.279 Crazy And then Brian, I don't want you to quit 301 00:14:21.360 --> 00:14:24.000 because that would be really sad over this whole stupid thing. 302 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:25.840 Okay, I wouldn't actually quit, but that's like I mean, 303 00:14:25.879 --> 00:14:27.799 I know that you would do it with good intentions, 304 00:14:27.799 --> 00:14:28.080 but that. 305 00:14:28.120 --> 00:14:32.000 Is psychopath behavior, it really is. But he'd probably put 306 00:14:32.039 --> 00:14:36.559 your picture up at the bar and say. 307 00:14:36.919 --> 00:14:39.600 No one's mind has ever been changed after ghosting someone 308 00:14:39.639 --> 00:14:40.120 by them came. 309 00:14:41.639 --> 00:14:43.960 I don't really want I don't want to change his mind. 310 00:14:44.200 --> 00:14:48.200 I know he's done, but I feel like I could 311 00:14:48.320 --> 00:14:49.720 gain valuable insight. 312 00:14:49.840 --> 00:14:52.120 Ghosting means I don't want to talk anymore, but I 313 00:14:52.200 --> 00:14:55.519 want to know why. You'll never know. That's why I. 314 00:14:57.919 --> 00:14:59.960 Need answers. I am a journalist. 315 00:15:00.960 --> 00:15:03.639 Mm hmm okay, journalist whatever. 316 00:15:03.720 --> 00:15:07.080 Okay, So on that note, I thought i'd look up 317 00:15:07.159 --> 00:15:09.960 what are the dating trends of twenty twenty five? What 318 00:15:10.080 --> 00:15:13.919 do I need to be prepared for if what Marie 319 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:16.559 and I discussed this weekend is going to come to pass, 320 00:15:16.679 --> 00:15:19.200 which means to be prepared for We're going on a 321 00:15:19.279 --> 00:15:21.879 dating website what colossal disappointment. 322 00:15:22.279 --> 00:15:24.840 Oh, no, good, A lot of people. 323 00:15:25.639 --> 00:15:28.639 There's a friend of mine named Amy who went through 324 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:30.720 a lot of frogs on. 325 00:15:32.320 --> 00:15:34.480 Bumble hinge, plenty of fish whatever. 326 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:38.559 And then one day she was driving to this next 327 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:41.320 day and she called her friends, I do not want 328 00:15:41.320 --> 00:15:45.240 to go. Please give me any excuse, and the friend said, 329 00:15:45.399 --> 00:15:45.799 just go. 330 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:48.480 She got out of the car, she saw them and 331 00:15:48.559 --> 00:15:52.519 she goes, He's the one. So it works. And they've 332 00:15:52.519 --> 00:15:55.639 been together for like three years and they're totally in love. 333 00:15:55.799 --> 00:15:57.120 So these do work. 334 00:15:57.279 --> 00:16:01.320 The work I know hinges, I know have I know 335 00:16:01.399 --> 00:16:02.960 the most people who've gotten married from him? 336 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:05.799 Hinge? Yeah, okay, hinge, so hinge? Is it real quick? 337 00:16:05.799 --> 00:16:07.480 I do have bad news. We have to have a 338 00:16:07.519 --> 00:16:08.720 short short show. 339 00:16:08.840 --> 00:16:11.720 Oh no, my thing's going to restart? Yeah, how and 340 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:12.320 how long? 341 00:16:13.000 --> 00:16:16.039 Seven minutes? It'll be about a little under half an 342 00:16:16.039 --> 00:16:16.519 hour show. 343 00:16:17.440 --> 00:16:21.559 Well, dude, we won't Okay, do you want to? 344 00:16:21.679 --> 00:16:23.279 Okay, why don't you do? You have double D. 345 00:16:23.480 --> 00:16:25.519 Let's let's do dating and we'll keep it on topic 346 00:16:25.559 --> 00:16:26.720 and then we'll do we'll. 347 00:16:26.559 --> 00:16:27.639 Do the double D next week. 348 00:16:27.720 --> 00:16:28.039 Okay. 349 00:16:28.919 --> 00:16:31.919 In twenty twenty five, dating is expected to be more 350 00:16:32.000 --> 00:16:39.080 intentional focused on authentic connections and prioritizing shared interests and passions. 351 00:16:39.440 --> 00:16:41.639 Loud looking have you heard of this term? 352 00:16:41.759 --> 00:16:44.080 Is that like really obvious like gaze? 353 00:16:44.519 --> 00:16:48.559 No, This is when people are more transparent and vocal 354 00:16:48.600 --> 00:16:52.519 about their dating preferences. It's also a key trend, so 355 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:57.240 just be up front. Hey, I'm a chick, I'm divorced, 356 00:16:57.320 --> 00:16:59.960 I've got two grown kids. I was in rehab. They're 357 00:17:00.399 --> 00:17:01.919 all on the table. 358 00:17:01.919 --> 00:17:04.759 Okay, wait the rehab part, keep yourself everything else you 359 00:17:04.759 --> 00:17:05.640 can be vocals okay. 360 00:17:07.160 --> 00:17:10.839 And then there's intentional dating, where people are dating for 361 00:17:10.880 --> 00:17:14.440 a purpose, for a mind for a more mindful communication, 362 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:18.640 and seeking relationships that align with their values. So intentional 363 00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:24.720 dating really really getting into it authenticity and transparency, prioritizing 364 00:17:24.880 --> 00:17:29.200 genuine connections, and being more open about needs and preferences, 365 00:17:29.799 --> 00:17:31.240 shared interests and passions. 366 00:17:31.240 --> 00:17:33.359 That's obvious. Soft dating. 367 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:38.240 This trend emphasizes organic connections and moving away from rigid 368 00:17:38.319 --> 00:17:42.799 timelines and expectations. So maybe that's what I'm doing with Derek. 369 00:17:42.839 --> 00:17:43.680 Am I soft dating? 370 00:17:44.039 --> 00:17:44.759 I don't know. I don't think. 371 00:17:44.880 --> 00:17:48.359 No, you were just sending awkward messages to nothing dating. 372 00:17:48.400 --> 00:17:52.839 What about flex dating short low stake meetups? Like grabbing 373 00:17:52.920 --> 00:17:56.160 a smoothie or working out together are becoming popular, offering 374 00:17:56.200 --> 00:17:58.920 a less pressure approach to dating. 375 00:17:59.079 --> 00:18:01.039 I think that's good if you've already had big dates. 376 00:18:01.079 --> 00:18:03.279 Those are good to fill the gaps between big dates. Otherwise, 377 00:18:03.279 --> 00:18:03.880 don't recommend. 378 00:18:03.960 --> 00:18:05.559 Have you heard of micromance? 379 00:18:06.559 --> 00:18:07.119 No? 380 00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:11.640 Focus on small, constant efforts in a relationship to build 381 00:18:11.720 --> 00:18:17.559 trust and affection. And then AI matchmakers. AI tools are 382 00:18:17.640 --> 00:18:23.079 increasingly used to personalize matchmaking and analyze compatibility. Maybe I 383 00:18:23.079 --> 00:18:26.920 should go to GBT chat check GBT and figure it 384 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:29.599 out and they can write out my little summary for 385 00:18:29.720 --> 00:18:35.799 me on my un hinge Now minimalist dating, prioritizing fewer 386 00:18:35.839 --> 00:18:39.319 but more meaningful connections over endless swiping. 387 00:18:40.119 --> 00:18:42.680 These are so many words just to describe the same 388 00:18:42.759 --> 00:18:44.359 dating process I feel like and. 389 00:18:44.440 --> 00:18:49.880 Dating rapped with w Warpped reflecting on the past year's 390 00:18:49.920 --> 00:18:55.480 dating experience, inspired by Spotify's rapped feature What's that? 391 00:18:55.480 --> 00:18:57.039 That's where it gives you a rundown of all the 392 00:18:57.079 --> 00:18:57.839 music you listen to. 393 00:18:58.119 --> 00:19:01.400 Oh okay, so these are some of the dating I 394 00:19:01.440 --> 00:19:05.279 don't know. I'm just gonna the next step and I 395 00:19:05.359 --> 00:19:10.079 promised my roommate we do this together is create a 396 00:19:10.119 --> 00:19:13.000 profile and be serious about it, because I never ever 397 00:19:13.160 --> 00:19:17.720 actually have been one thousand percent serious about a dating app. 398 00:19:18.240 --> 00:19:20.480 I've put stuff on there. I never write a brief 399 00:19:20.599 --> 00:19:23.960 summary or paragraph. I put like random things that I'm 400 00:19:24.000 --> 00:19:26.839 interested in, and I put the very bare minimum and 401 00:19:26.960 --> 00:19:30.519