Speaker 1: What's up, besties. Welcome back to another amazing episode of
your Manifesting Bestie podcast. I'm your host, Flora, and we
are diving into all things of mindset and manifestation like
we always do, you guys know the drill. I am
so freaking happy and excited. Who remembers last week's episode
when I was boohoo crying over someone taking down my
ig account and losing everything and being super sad and
emotional and telling you guys how I just haven't been
able to work through these emotions for like the last
month and throwing myself a pity party literally last Wednesday
morning when I uploaded that episode into the system and
you guys all listen to it. Like two hours after
we got the freaking account back out of nowhere, one
of my good friends calls me. She's like, Flora, your
page's back up. I'm like, shut the fuck up, No,
it's not. I was literally crying too when she called me,
because I just had another mental breakdown over it, and no,
she was right. It was back up somehow, someway after
getting deleted for like a month and I wasn't really
operating my business just because of I guess the emotions
and stuff. It was back and I'm back in my groove.
I'm feeling good and feeling happy. I'm feeling excited. I
can't believe how quickly that happened. After we all spoke
about that to get well, I spoke to you guys
about it, and it just kind of goes to show
you that when we do take these steps like we
walked through last week, it works. Like exactly what I
mentioned that I was doing, even though I was going
through the thick of it and going through the mess
and still trying to understand like why me, you know,
like going into that victim mode, we did those little
steps that we went over last week, and it works.
So if you are going through something and you don't
see the way out, and you don't understand why it's
happening for you, and you have been on a fast
track train to the problem, just kind of not you know,
not getting better, it's not progressing in your favor. Please
make sure that you reference last week's episode and the
steps that we took to make things better to get
you on the opposite direction of the train, to get
you going into the direction of your desire unfolding and
things getting better and things improving and you just feeling
better emotionally because it really really does work. Guys. I
cannot stress it enough that these practices work. I would
not be teaching them if they didn't. They work for me,
they work for my clients, they work for people on
a grand scale when they get a hold of these processes. Okay,
So whatever you're going through, don't give up on yourself.
But today's a new day, today's a new episode. I
have something really important to share. I think I say
that on every episode. So so what I want to
get into today is the power of being bold and
the favor that you receive from your boldness, from no
longer shrinking and taking up space. And this is really important.
And I'm really talking to my girls right now specifically.
I mean this can apply to literally anyone. I just
know how girls are raised. We are raised to be small.
We are raised to shrink ourselves. We are raised to
be polite and to be overly kind and to be
people pleasers and to always have a smile on our
face because god forbid, we don't it makes someone else uncomfortable.
Oh my god, right, So we always played so small
and we never want to take up space, and we're
always over apologizing. Oh I'm sorry, Oh I'm so sorry
for them, I'm sorry for that, right, and we overthink
everything because we were raised that way. Whereas the majority
of men, for example, they're raised to have like the audacity, right,
They're raised to be like, I can do it, I
can have it all, I can be it. I can
conquer the world. I can be the president, I could
be top you know, CEO of a fortune five hundred company.
I can do this. I can have all the women
in the world. Right. So men are raised with super
powerful belief systems, whereas women are raised with the belief
system to be smaller, be shrunken, be more digestible, more
palatable for other people. Don't be too bold, doyn't think
you're aggressive, okay, don't speak your mind. You're gonna be
considered a bitch. Right, So that is how women are raised.
Don't be too much, don't overdo it. In my opinion,
you need to be doing too much. Why why not?
Why not do too much? Why not be so authentically you?
So we're gonna be diving into being bold and how
you receive favor from the universe for being your bold
ass self, okay, from being powerful, from making really big
decisions on a whim. Okay, so we're gonna talk about
that right now. Something that I have noticed is that
the universe will move freaking mountains in your way when
you make a bold decision. Okay, when you take a
huge leap of faith on yourself reci favor, You receive
favor from the universal laws. You get the red carpet
rolled out for you where the universal laws go. Ah,
finally she trusts herself. Finally she turned inward and believes
in herself. Finally, let's move these big mountains, these big
obstacles that she always thought were in her way. Let's
make it easier for her. Let's catch her when she
takes that leap. Okay, you receive favor. You are highly
highly favored when you are bold. Okay. So what do
we do in our life when we have to make
tough decisions. We normally shrink ourselves and we kind of
take the easier way out, the less scary way. And
we do this simply out of fear, because we think
that if we take a leap of faith on ourselves,
no one's going to be there to catch us. We
think that we're alone. Okay, So think of like you
standing on the edge of a cliff and there's another
cliff on the other side, and you have to take
a huge leap. But if you make that leap, that's
where your success is. And if you make that leap,
that's where your joy is. And if you make that
leap and you land it, that's where your abundance is.
And that's where your happiness is, and your fulfillment is,
and your love, your endless, endless love lives. Okay, But
you think that if you take that leap of faith,
you're not good enough to make it to the other side.
You don't think you're gonna land on your two feet
to make that leap. So you say, I'm not making
that decision. Actually, I'm gonna turn around. Actually it's looking
a little risky for me. Actually it's not looking safe. Actually,
I don't have a harness on. Oh my god, where's
my harness? Actually I don't have the bungee cord. Okay,
there's no trampoline at the bottom that's gonna catch me.
Oh my god, there's no helicopters to catching I'm alone.
I can't do this. I'm turning back. I'm not taking
a bold stance to go for what I want. Okay,
So that is how the majority and I am gonna
talk to my girls here, that is how the majority
of women take action. Is they don't or they go backwards.
They kind of like like go they take several steps
back because they're like, I just can't make that jump.
I know someone else could, and I've seen other people
make that big jump and they succeeded, but I don't
think I can because this time I failed and I
failed as spelling being elementary school, and someone told me
I was unworthy in middle school, and then I failed,
you know, a science class in high school, and I
didn't make the volleyball team. So I'm just not good enough, right,
So we run through all these things of where we
have seen failure in our life to convince ourselves that
that failure is going to keep happening. So we do
not make bold decisions. We're too afraid to stand the
fuck up and take that leap of faith. We don't
think anyone's going to catch us. We don't think we're
going to make it. We don't think we're strong enough. Okay,
what actually happens though, when you come across something that
you truly want, you really want to go after it,
and you have to make a difficult decision. Maybe that
decision is leaving your job. Maybe that decision is making
a big move across country or a completely different country overall.
Maybe that decision is leaving a really draining relationship, but
it's all you know, it's the only relationship you know,
and you're like, I don't think I'll survive without this
lousy relationship. It's all I know. Or maybe that decision
has to do with cutting ties with somebody, or maybe
you know, standing up to maybe narcissistic parents who have
diminished you over time. It could be so many things, right,
It could be starting a new business that you really
really want and it's been on your heart, maybe for
four or five years, but you keep convincing yourself that
I know other people can start businesses and generate income,
but I don't think I can. I just don't think
I can. So we talk our way out of these
really bold decisions. But what we don't realize is that
bold decision that's been calling you in, calling you in,
calling you in. You already know that's what it is.
Kind of destined for you. That's your higher self saying, hey,
I have a harness for you. I actually tie the
hardness around your waist to help you make that leap
over that giant jump over the cliff. Okay, I'm going
to carry you. But the only way I can do
that is if you turn inward and you trust yourself,
and then you're bold about it. Okay, you're bold in
making that decision. You're bold and starting you're like, you
know what, Fuck everything. Forget my failures, Forget the pass,
Forget the naysayers, Forget what my parents think, Forget what
my friends think who talk down about me. Forget what
society says of what I can and cannot have. Okay,
forget the people who tell me success is really hard
and it's going to take ten years to climb up,
you know, forget it, leave it all behind. It's the
picture yourself with like a super heavy backpack on before
you jump over that cliff. Okay, just get take the
backpack off because it's weighing you down. That backpack that
it feels like it has tons of bricks in it
is just the opinions of everyone else. It's the beliefs
other people have imprinted onto you when you've accepted them
as your own. But you can release them. You can
drop them right there before you make that leap, and
you can say, you know what, it can work for me,
because now I'm going to redirect my focus and look
at all the people it has worked for. Actually, I
can count on ten people on my two hands of
how many people this this decision has worked for. They
became successful, they were able to do it. They look
really happy, they're actually thriving. Yeah, they moved across country
and it was really scary for them, but look they
survived a year later and they're fucking killing it. So
let me start looking at all the people who are succeeding.
Let me flood my subconscious mind with the things that
show me I can do it. It is possible, I
can achieve it. Right. Let me take off that heavy
ass backpack and try to leap over a mountain. Let
me just leave the backpack that feels like he has
bricks of way down emotions and old ichy memories and
old failures and old assumptions that never ever benefit me.
They never did all that backpack did with all those bricks,
and it was weigh me the fuck down and hold
me back. It just keeps holding me back. I cannot
get ahead. It's too heavy. I'm literally carrying the weight
to on my shoulders because I just care too much
about the worst case scenario. But what I really need
to start focusing on and becoming more bold is understanding
that the second I started to trust myself, that is
when the best case scenario can start to unfold. Because
the reason I'm standing at the very edge of this
cliff is because I was brought to this decision by
my higher self. My higher self knows me. It is me.
It's the God source inside of me, guiding me through impulses, emotions, feelings,
downloads that weren't even mine. They just come to me.
I'm like, whoa, I have an idea. Okay, your higher
self has been leading you to the edge of that
cliff to take a leap of faith. You will make
it over to the next mountain. It has a literal
like cord around your waist, and you don't see that
you have a harness on you. You're being guided and supported.
So the universe favors the bold. It favors the people
who stand up and say I trust me. I got this.
If there's anything in this world I shouldn't believe in,
it's myself. It's not the government, and it's not the politics.
And it's sure as hell isn't the inflation in the economy.
And it doesn't need to be old school teachers who
told me that I can't have this and I can't
do that, And I don't need to believe in what
other people before me are saying. I just need to
trust in myself. I need to be bold in myself
and in the decision I make, whatever that decision is.
I think we a lot of us are going through
things right now. I'm looking through like the comments section
in my membership, I'm going through the comments I get
every single day on TikTok, on Instagram, Pinterest, I get
emails from people. A lot of people are going through it.
There's some type of like transitional thing going on. I
don't know. It does feel heavy, but what it looks
like to me is just a shift, almost like a
new timeline for everyone. Something better is coming. So it
feels like everything is kind of crumbling and we have
to start making tough decisions to move because sometimes we're
just too fucking comfortable. That's how we come to the
edge of that cliff and we're ready to make that jump,
and we're like, yeah, it's too scary. I'm going back.
I'm going back into my cubicle. I'm going back. Nope, nope, no,
I can't do it. My nervous system is telling me
I shouldn't do it. I don't feel safe. So I'm
going to go back and take it easy. I'm going
to go back and play it safe. I'm going to
walk backwards and go back to what I know, just
because it's comfortable, just because it's routine, it's boring, so
it doesn't scare me. Right, So we shrink ourselves, we
diminish ourselves, We put ourselves in a box all over again.
We become people please resolve over again, instead of pleasing
ourselves and going after the things that we want. But energetically,
we're being called to make a change, and sometimes we're
just not doing it. We're not doing the changes that
are required for the new manifestations to come in, for
the new timeline to come in, for the new desires
to come in, because we're still trying to play it safe.
We're a little bit scared, right, we still kind of
operate through the energy of fear, which just leads to
more results of being stuck on a hamsterheel, which leads
to more fear. No changes really being made. So what
is the universe actually doing here? It's trying to force
the change that you've been manifesting. You've been calling getting,
you've been affirming it, you've been creating the new story.
You've been trying to shift your identity, you've been trying
to visualize the future. Right, But then you're called to
these difficult decisions. You need to make them, but you
don't trust yourself, so you take ten steps backwards, right,
And we can all relate to this. I've been there,
and I feel like I'm approaching this season right now
where I need to start making bolder desis decisions and
I need to really trust in me, trust in my
gut instinct that's telling me you got this, You freaking
got this. If not you, who who else got this? No? No, no,
you got this. But we're so paralyzed. We're stuck in
analysis paralysis where we overanalyze everything over and over and
over and we don't jump, so we feel like our
life is crumbling, and I'm here, like you guys know
my story of when my life crumbled two years ago.
It just kept getting worse. It kept getting worse, It
kept getting worse. It kept getting worse until I made
the big change and said enough enough of everything, enough
with losing all my finances, enough with the pity party
and the poverty cycle and the struggle mindset. I have
to be bold, right, I have to do it. Whatever
inside of me is calling me to this, it's doing
it because it has a hardness for me. I have
favor from my higher self. I have favor from the creator,
I have favor from universe soul laws. It's going to
catch me when I jump. So when I did jump
and I said, forget everything, I'm gonna start mentoring people.
I'm gonna just start doing it for free online. I'm
gonna start creating content and have fun with it. That
was me making that decision where even though it was like, Okay,
I know people who know me from my hometown are
going to judge me. People for my old job are
really going to judge me. My parents are going to
be like, you're nuts. Go get a you know, a
nine to five job, right, I had to block all
that out and make the difficult decision to go all
in and just bet it all on me. Trust me,
turn inward and make this decision for myself where I'm like,
I got this, I got me. I know the creator
in me is guiding me, so I know I have favor.
By making this bold decision, I'm going to receive favor.
It's like all the mountains are gonna move for me somehow.
I can't see it. I don't know how, and I
don't need to know how. I need to trust in
the outcome. And this is where everyone gets it mixed up.
This is wherever like, no, I need to see it
first to believe it, rather than I want to believe
in it so that I can see it. So we
don't trust in the process. We don't become bold in
making those decisions. We don't take the action necessary. Bold
action is inspired action right when it feels really good,
when you feel really aligned, take action, go all in
and go fast because success loves speed, okay, and success
favors the bold too. Like people who make very risky decisions,
but they do it from a gut instinct, they get
the highest rewards. They get the largest returns on their investments,
and no matter what it is that they're doing, because
their gut instinct is guiding them, it's your inner guidance system.
This is when you know you will receive favor. This
is when you know mountains are going to start to
move somehow. So let go of how just let it go.
I don't know how it's going to work out. Nothing
in my reality shows me evidence that it is going
to work out. So my logical brain is trying to
piece together the puzzles of how is this going to
happen for me? I just can't see it. But you
don't need to. That's not your job. So let go
of the notion that you need to know everything right
now and start harnessing the power of just making the
decision and go okay, because that decision, that intention of
I bet it all on me. I trust in me,
I have the favor. I am the creator. I know
I'm the operant power. I believe in myself. Just by
doing that, you're already setting yourself up for the success
that you're calling in because you're operating from your gut,
knowing your gut knows the creator internally, the higher self knows,
so it's sending you these impulses. Please go take action,
Go do that, Go take that leap of faith. I'm
gonna catch you. I swear I'm gonna catch you. I
already have you tied up to a harness. I'm gonna
it'll be like flying. You're gonna be soaring. You're gonna
really feel like you're flying through the clouds when you
take that leap. I'm not gonna let you go. So
when you get these impulses, realize that calling is therefore
a very specific reason. When you're being called to these
very bold decisions. It's to benefit you. It's to get
you to stop playing so small. It's to get you
to leave the past version of you exactly where it
is and move on from it. So when you get
yourself to that decision, when you're on that cliff, when
you're on the edge and you feel the rush and
you feel the adrenaline, you're ready to go, but you
want to talk your way out of it because the
leap looks a little too far, it looks a little
too scary, and you're not trusting in your ability to
take the leap. I want you to just pause instead
of running away from it and visualize the proper outcome.
So before you're like, no, no, no, I can't create
that content people are going to judge me. Or I
can't start that business because people are gonna think I'm
going to fail at it. Or I can't leave this
relationship it's the only thing I've ever known, or I
can't you take on a new identity because people are
going to look at me and be like, who the
fuck does she think she is? Right before you talk
your way out of it, for whatever reason, whatever that
fear is that surfaces before you make that leap, I
want you to just pause and visualize the proper outcome,
see the success of the decision. Okay, see the success,
and allow that to kind of like take over your brain,
take over your visualization, take over your subconscious mind, submerge
yourself and it soak it up. And then once you're
visualizing it and you're seeing the successful outcome, feel it.
Be like Damn, this feels good, Damn, this feels powerful,
This feels like the real me, This feels like the
next logical step. This is the feeling of what is
destined and lined up for me. I know this is
my calling I know this is what I need to
do and what I want, and I'm ready for it. Okay,
So visualize it, feel it, submerge the subconscious mind in
the outcome. Instead of worrying about how is it going
to happen, just focus on the fact that it's already happened.
And I think the reason that we don't take that
leap is because we're using the energy in the wrong place.
So we put all of our energy into operating from
a state of fear rather than operating from a state
of faith. Because if we were to operate from a
state of faith, we would always be taking leaps. We
would always be jumping over that cliff onto the next one. Right,
we would always be just trusting ourselves. We like, just
flying through life, just soaring, just making bold decisions, just
having fun and traveling and opening up this business and
buying that property and just doing all these really cool things. Right,
if we were always led by faith, we would be
living beautifully. Honestly, who else is there to trust in
but yourself? But unfortunately, end the same amount of energy
is used up to be living through the fear state,
through being afraid, through being in worry, and being anxious
about things, So we're always directing our folks into the
wrong side of the pole. If there's a pole in
front of you, one side is faith, one side is fear.
Which side of the poll do you normally operate from?
Which one are you sitting on? Because I think most
people lend to lean on fear just because it's the
common state to operate from, just because it's the state
their parents operated from, just because it's a state that
the world chooses to operate from. It's always fear, a
lot of fear mongering. We turn on the news and
it's always fear. Don't do this, don't do that. This
is bad things that happen out there. Oh my god,
no one's safe right and everything's crashing. The world is burning.
So we are always kind of living through the state
of fear, so we don't make the bold decisions for ourselves.
But what we don't realize is nothing that has ever
happened in the world matters based on what I'm trying
to manifest, So the past does not dictate the future
outcome of my vision. So the whole world could be
burning and then I say, well, that's not going to
affect my decision. I'm still going to do this right
now because because of how I feel, because my higher
self has led me to this. It's a knowing that
I have inside of me. So I'm gonna make a
bold decision, and I'm gonna start operating from faith and trust. Okay.
Self trust is like it's right up there with high
self love and just self adoration. Okay. When you trust yourself,
you are in the knowing always. You're literally living through
your knowing state twenty four seven. When you have self trust,
the majority of people just simply do not trust themselves.
Why is that? Why don't we trust ourselves? Who else
in the world am I gonna trust? If not me?
I'm gonna tell you why. The reason people dominantly cannot
trust themselves is because they always break promises that they
make to themselves, and then their confidence plummets. I'm gonna
start the gym on Monday, and then they don't go.
I'm gonna wake up early in the morning to start
taking walks, and then they snooze their alarm clock. I'm
gonna to buy healthy groceries and start meal prepping. They
don't do it right. I'm going to start that side hustle.
I'm gonna post content four times a week. The week comes,
they don't show up for themselves. And what happens when
you always let yourself down. You don't have any self trust,
and you don't have self confidence. Your confidence freaking plummets.
It plummets into like a dark hole and then into
a fucking sinkhole beneath your feet. Your confidence is gone
because you don't trust you. You cannot even keep a
single promise to yourself. So you look around and you're like, damn,
I'm just not good enough to do this. I'm not
good enough to do that. I can't trust myself to
do that. It's simply because you break promises to yourself,
and that root cause of breaking promises to ourselves really
is the foundation of why we live through fear, because
we just always let ourselves down. So when we get
to that cliff to make a bold decision, something that
feels really good, something we're really excited about, something we
wanted for a long time, and we can make a
choice right now to make that work, but we always
choose the mundane life that we already know instead of
stepping into the unknown. It's just simply because the lack
of self trust, the lack of self confidence normally because
we've broken so many promises to ourselves over the years.
So if I can maybe look at my life and
start small and be like, Okay, what promise have I
been breaking over and over? And it could be something small.
Let me stop breaking that promise and commit to it.
Start there, and then you can go into another promise
that you've broken to yourself. Repair that one. Start doing
that thing that you did promise yourself months ago or
years ago that you were going to start doing. Make
yourself proud, make yourself trust you, okay, develop a better
relationship with yourself, don't let yourself down. You're worthy of
way more. You're worthy to do those things that you
may promise is about and get the outcome that you
really really want, because ultimately that's why we make promises.
There's a certain outcome we desire. Okay, if I can
do this, maybe every month I find a new promise
that I've broken to myself and I act on it,
and I repair the trust within me. I repair the
trust that I have with me and my higher self.
I can start trusting in me. I can start making
bolder decisions bigger decisions, bigger moves, creating more impact on
my life right, so that when I do get myself
on the edge of that cliff where I'm like, damn, this,
this decision can change my whole life. I can bet
it all on me, and I look back and I'm like, damn.
I've been keeping promises to myself month after month after
month and increasing me. My life is feeling better. I'm
getting more confident. I'm feeling better about who I am.
My emotions are improving. I see myself in the mirror
and I have a new glow about me, a new
confidence about me, a new power that has come over me.
I'm not playing small anymore. I'm not a fucking dormat.
I'm not a people please I'm doing things for me
that feel good. I know how to say no to
other people and say no to things that don't feel good.
I'm learning how to trust me right. My confidence is
now skyrocketing. Now I feel fucking good. Now, I feel
like I'm hot shit. Now I feel like I got
it in the bag. Now I feel like, damn, I
am that bitch, like I am that girl who if
not me? And then who? Right? I start feeling better
about who I am in my own skin, I develop
a new love for me and a higher level of
self worth. Now I know that when I get to
the cliff and that decision has been waiting for me,
I'm taking a fucking leap because I'm strong enough and
I can bet it all on me, because I always
make it happen, and I can make the right decisions
for myself. I trust my gut instincts, I trust my
higher self, and most importantly, I trust me because I
know I'm gonna make it happen no matter what life
throws me. I know I got me because I always
have my back and I keep my promises to myself.
So if there's anyone in this world that I can trust,
I need to turn inward and realize it's myself. When
you get to this point, you guys, you are unbreakable.
You are untouchable. You become one of those people who
every every three months, your life is improving every three months, Right,
so every quarter of the year you're just better and
better and better. You're leaving people in the dirt. You're
leaving people in the dust. They're looking at you like, God, damn,
what happened in this person? They're soaring, they're skyrocketing. They're there,
they left that shitty relationship. Look at their high value
friendships that they're surrounding themselves. They're they're reading all the books,
they're taking power walks every day, they're going to the gym,
they're reading, they're listening to the right podcast. They're they're
into personal development. They're launching a new business. Oh my god,
did they just buy a new car? Did she just
get a new condo? Holy shit? What happened to this person?
In six months, you're unrecognizable. In a year, people won't
even know who you are anymore. That is how powerful
you are when you can make these really bold decisions.
So every year you level up. Because I don't know
about you, but I remember looking back and realizing every
single year I lived looked the same because I never
was able to get myself to the cliff and actually
take a leap of faith on myself until recently. Right,
So for decades, for nearly three decades, I couldn't make
the right decisions. I would always cower in fear and
go backwards and be like no, no, no, no, I can't
then talk myself out of everything. You just get to
a point where you're like, fuck it, fuck it. They're
gonna love me or hate me anyway. I'll be judged anyway,
doesn't really matter. I should just do things that make
me happy. I should just make the decisions have feeled right.
I should just start to trust my gut. I should
just start to show up for myself because it feels good.
I should just be me and be authentic because it
feels like who I am and what I'm destined for. Right,
your whole life starts to change. Everything starts to change,
and you receive favor from the universe because you are
your bold self. You are self trusting and self knowing
and living in your truth. You are unstoppable. You are unbreakable.
You cannot be diminished, you cannot be forgotten. You're literally
too powerful to resist. You're too powerful to be rejected.
Everyone is gonna want a piece of you, Okay, Every
opportunity is gonna start to show up and feel aligned.
It's gonna feel like, oh my god, I just took
a miracle pill. Everything I'm doing turns into a miracle.
Everything I touch turns into a blessing. Every morning, where
when I open my eyes, it's like new opportunities start
to welcome me and I keep making the best decisions
about them. Wow, it feels so fucking good to finally
trust myself and trust my gut and understand that I
am being led by my higher self and that is
why the universe will always favor the bold. Thank you
guys so much for tuning in again to this week's
episode of your Manifesting Bessie podcast, and we will be
back again next Wednesday with a brand new episode.