Speaker 1: Made out a sansom.
Speaker 2: A face, sunny sun I had asion.
Speaker 3: Nay, every ready, what's happening?
Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm a little nasily me too. Is it the weather?
I don't know.
Speaker 3: I started feeling like sore throat and crap like that
over the weekend. That went away, and now it's just
kind of like congested head stuff.
Speaker 1: That's what I have had too. And I'm like, was
I sick and I just didn't know it? But I
don't Or was it the weather? I don't know? Yeah,
I don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, then there's the weather stuff I don't know. And
then after I take Phil for his walks, when I
get back, I'm always very like sneezy, eyes, watery, all
that stuff. And I never used had allergies. But anyway,
health talk with Stephanie Lynnette.
Speaker 1: So speaking of the dogs, I have not had Pipo's
teeth taken out yet.
Speaker 3: Oh, you haven't done that yet.
Speaker 1: So remember when I went in there with the jaw
spasming thing, they said, well, she has an infection in
her mouth. But then I had taken her for a
second opinion to the other one and they said, oh,
we don't really see infection, but she has two broken
teeth which probably should come out. Yeah, So then I
was like okay. But meanwhile, then her urine test came
back positive for UTI. So then she was on two
different antibiotics for two weeks age and she's just finished
those and she seems better. So I'm like, okay, am
I just buying time? The thing is this dog is
you know, almost fourteen? Yeah, she's definitely thirteen. So like,
do I put her on her anesthesia and take broken
teeth out and hope that she feels even better because
now I don't know if she's in pain still, I
mean's not shaking anymore.
Speaker 3: I would just ask them that they're gonna say to
do it. They're gonna say to do it, because I'm
always the one that's gonna err on the side of
what the doctor says.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, I think we're gonna do it. It's
just also, it's like a whole thing. I know. Yeah,
you got to bring them in, then they have to
you have to wait for them to feel better. Then
you got to feed them different foods. She already barely
eats as it is, like she doesn't. I mean she
does eat, but she's so picky that she really only
wants human food, so you have to wait for her
to get so hungry to eat her regular food.
Speaker 3: I just can't imagine that. I just can't imagine that. Ah,
what must be like to have a dog that's picky?
Oh yeah, no way.
Speaker 1: I see all these dogs in videos like eating like
carrots or you know, fruit and stuff. People's like, are
you high? Like, no, I don't want a piece of pineapple.
That's the sounds.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Phil loves pineapple.
Speaker 1: Oh no, she'll sniff stuff, even like watermelon stuff that's sweet.
She smells it and is like, that's way too healthy. Nothing,
Oh my gosh. I won't even lick it. She'll just
smell it and just be like, no, nothing, walk away.
Speaker 3: That's crazy. Yesterday I met my girlfriend Don and her
husband and their daughter who's twenty six, at my condo
because I think she's gonna rent it and she needs
a place to lit. Yeah, her rent is upper so
I don't know she's moving out where she lives, so
I think she's she's gonna rent it.
Speaker 1: But I brought you listed it.
Speaker 3: I was about to I was getting close to, yeah,
to putting it up, and I was telling Don about it,
and she's like, don't, don't do it yet, and we
want to come look at it. So I brought Phil
with me yesterday.
Speaker 1: And now you can't charge the price that you would
normally charge. I know.
Speaker 3: I told her how much I was gonna charge, and
she was like, okay, so.
Speaker 1: All right, she's like, that's so funny. Though, remember how
I just oh my god, that scared me. She's like,
remember how I like took you to Vegas and like,
oh I through your heels and you're like, uh huh.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, she's like she's like, no, no, no, we don't
expect anything, you know. And her daughter works full time.
She got a full time job and stuff. Okay, so
and it's actually cheaper than where she's renting now, oh
in Los Felis.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So so it's perfect for her and it's nice and
she's a she's a good kid, like I love her.
She's a really good girl. So, but Phil was a
big hit and don brought those duckheads again.
Speaker 1: Oh no, for Phil.
Speaker 3: She brought a whole bag of them, these freeze dry duckheads,
which they look like little ducky heads and I don't
know if they're real or not. I don't know, but
they're like, you know, dog treats or whatever from her
pet store. Phil just loves those things. Yeah, so he
was a big head.
Speaker 1: Ye Like like I love seafood, right, and I love fish,
but I don't see that it once had eyes and
little lips, Like, no, that's crazy. I want to delude
myself into thinking that they're all just kind of like shrimps.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I was what was I watching the
other day? They were showing them eating a goat head No,
oh yeah, and the teeth were still there and the brain.
They were eating the brain and they're like, m taste
like mashed potatoes.
Speaker 1: What it was?
Speaker 3: Oh it was ninety day Fiance that tracks.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: They were eating goat heads with the teeth and all
four people at the table are like, oh okay, Like
the Americans at the table are like, huh that's different.
Speaker 1: Well let's try it dig right in it was. I
had lua. I almost threw up. There's some stuff that
I ate when I was a kid that now I'm like,
who tried to force that on me? Like I didn't
know better. I mean when I was a kid. We've
talked about this because my father being a comedian lived
in a rented a house in Malibu and we had
like went to like French restaurants, and frog's legs was
something that I thought was amazing, Like I loved them.
When I was a kid, I would find them in restaurants.
Speaker 3: Well you would because you likedinking, like, ew, you're so right, yeah,
but now.
Speaker 1: I would never. I would never order frog's legs. That's crazy.
But also like s cargo I ate. When I was
a kid, I would try es cargo.
Speaker 3: I love cargo.
Speaker 2: Yeah, ew, what.
Speaker 3: The hell you get it at France.
Speaker 1: Or a French restaurant.
Speaker 2: It's like they just drown in garlic butter. It's just
like eating the garlic butter and you put it on
bread and it's like it's just like eating garlic butter.
That's all it is. It's really good.
Speaker 1: Man of snails, there are slimy snails. I guess it's
not that different than oysters, Like yeah, oysters, but.
Speaker 3: You okay, anything bathed in garlic butter is gonna taste good.
I mean anything.
Speaker 1: I have a thing it's not I wouldn't call it
a phobia, but is there such a thing where it
doesn't it's not like it scares me. But it really
really really grosses me out even just thinking about it.
But I I don't like worms. I don't. I'm so
freaked out by and grossed out by them. And there's
just something about them, and I don't like talking about them.
I'm horrified right now, I'm having chills. And so anything
that's in the worm family, Oh god, no, thank you,
and to me, slugs is like a worm.
Speaker 3: Well then you should not watch it.
Speaker 1: The New No, no, no, don't watch it. An I
think you get through that sol the Park episode. Oh
that whole movie that's given me the worst fucking nightmares,
just the thought. Oh.
Speaker 3: Now the Latest The Latest Traders season of Traders. They
just did this challenge where uh, oh my god. I
I was like they had to stand there and they
were holding they were partnered up with each other. They
were holding each other's hand in a glass box and
then they were putting this First they put this long
centipede on top of their hand.
Speaker 1: Then they put a scorpion in there.
Speaker 3: Then they dropped buckets of maggots and cockerroaches and worms,
those three at the same time on top of their head.
So the girls are like, you know, like with their
extensions and shit getting that shit all in their hair
and they're like, oh my god, and they have to
stand still the whole time or they're going to lose
the challenge. And they're like, oh my god, I could
feel it in my Oh we just went down my
bra and it's just in my ear. And it's like
Tom Sandoval's got it all over his face and his
head is like his was black one second and then
was brown after they dropped it on his head. It
was the most disgusting thing I've ever seen. Stephanie looks
like she's gonna I'm gonna hurl.
Speaker 1: That is so nasty, But don't scorpion sting.
Speaker 3: I think they took the stinger out, but still to
see that thing. And Boston Rob was like his partner
was Sierra from Summer Summer House. She's so cute, by
the way, I never watched that yo, and he was.
Speaker 1: Like, probably less cute with maggots all right. She was like,
oh my god.
Speaker 3: She was freaking out, and Boston Rom was like, don't
open your eyes, keep your eyes closed, and he's like,
when's you like, trying to get her mind off of it,
and she's.
Speaker 1: Like what is that? What is that?
Speaker 3: He goes, don't worr and it's such a cute little thing.
Don't look, don't look, you know, And then when they
dropped all that shit, he was like, when's your birthday?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: That's my bird, like trying to get her mind off
of it. And they won actually the challenge, but yeah,
she she had all that shit all in her hair.
Could you imagine? No, no, in your hair?
Speaker 1: No? No.
Speaker 3: Did we get on this subject because we were talking
about eating weird foods, right, and I was going to say,
when I was a kid, I remember that I ate
head cheese, which I think is brains.
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's something really gross. But I would
just be given stuff and I'd eat it and be
like delicious. And now I'm like, what the fuck was you?
Was you? What were you thinking? Giving that to me?
So grossed out?
Speaker 3: My mom used to make eel on Christmas Eve, which
I don't remember eating, but when I got older, I
was like, I'm not eating that. But then she would
make spaghetti la lech which had the anchovies, which is
angew like.
Speaker 1: I love I love ancho.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 1: I know we were talking about fish having eyes, but right,
I don't know why we got on that either.
Speaker 2: We're talking about food and then you started talking about worms,
like no one's eating worms.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but why were we even talking about fish and
fish heads?
Speaker 2: Because the duckheads that she gets.
Speaker 3: Oh oh yeah, back to.
Speaker 2: Which I googled, and they're real.
Speaker 1: That's they are real. You googled it.
Speaker 2: Well they look real.
Speaker 1: They do look real. Okay, So down comes over to
the condo.
Speaker 3: Yeah, drops off the duckheads.
Speaker 1: So is this happening? Is she?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: In her place?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think she's gonna move in in March.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's easy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: Nice.
Speaker 3: But now I guess I have to get a form
and stuff for them to fill out. I guess I
don't know.
Speaker 1: You can download a rental agreements.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've done it before in the past. But yeah, So.
Speaker 1: What was I going to say, I took my kids? Well,
first of all, I want to say this Sadie's home today. Now,
my kids have been going to school so regularly like
they have they I don't think they've had an absence
since well, definitely, they had a couple of absences at
the beginning of the school year, and that's it because
they both were sick for a couple days. But this
morning I go into Sadie's room, and you know when
your kids are like, well, you know, because your kids
missed a bit of school junior year after senior year,
after COVID, Yeah, they couldn't get back into it. Yeah.
But Sadie's I don't know. I just feel like she's
been a little low lately anyway. And then she told me, oh, mystery, Saul,
that got my period And this was yesterday. She's like,
that's why I just feel like murdering everybody. And I
was like, yeah, I get it. So today is going
to be like one of the worst days of her period.
So I go to wake her up this morning and
she was just like looked like she was gonna cry.
And I'm like, uh, oh, are you okay? And she's like,
she goes, I didn't fall asleep until six. Ah.
Speaker 3: I hate that ugh.
Speaker 1: And I was like, do you need to stay home?
So they have a play rehearsal tonight, but she has
a teeny part, as everybody knows, in a movie that
we've never seen, but she has it. I've got to
see it. I've got to watch it. Okay, I commit
to this week watching well, there's no point of watching
it without Xander, and it's sure to get it should Yeah, okay,
I'm going to watch it. So Xander has a lot
more to rehearse than Sadie does anyway. But also it's
it's been long days for my kids because a lot
of the days of the week they have play rehearsal
and it goes so they don't get out of school
until three forty five, and then they're at school till
six o'clock doing their rehearsals. And you know, when you
pick them up at six o'clock these days, it's dark out,
so it feels like it's even later than it is,
and then they're already getting tired. And it's just it's
been a lot. Even Xander's been kind of like a
little bit down just not having downtime. And I just
looked at Sadie and I was like, look, do you
need to stay home today? And she was like, oh
my gosh, please can. I I'm like yeah, And then
I just thought, oh my god, the school's going to
give us a hard time about it.
Speaker 3: But like, but if she hasn't missed much of school,
oh yeah, it's just hard because junior year is the toughest.
It is junior years like they're just burnt out, just done.
Speaker 1: All her classes are hard for her, but hard, but
like who cares? What? So she misses one day of school? Yeah,
I mean she'll catch up. And she just she hadn't slept.
I don't know's well, that's.
Speaker 3: The worst when you know you got to get up
early and then you just you're tossing and turning, you're
looking at the clock on the Oh, that's the worst.
That's a horrible feeling. I just had that a couple
of weekends ago when one was coming in here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you have to come in here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I could not fall asleep. I fell asleep and
then I woke up, and then I was up, couldn't
fall back asleep.
Speaker 1: So I feel, I feel fine about my decision, and
yeah it's okay. And then and then I feel fine,
Thank you, mom, thank you so much. A little heartbreaker.
It was like if it was me, if I'd had
a horrible night, let's just say, and it was just
looking down the barrel at like a shitty ass work day,
I'd probably call him sick. Yeah right, yeah, yeah, I'd
give kids a little bit of agency.
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, what are you gonna do when they're both gone?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm going to be sad. Although I
have a feeling Sadie's not going anywhere soon. I have
a feeling Xander is going to be up out yea,
and Sadie's going to be like hello right this minute.
She has no plans of going anywhere. Yeah, she wants
to be home. Yeah, but no, no.
Speaker 3: Take a break.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I don't blame her.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, I I didn't want to go to school.
I didn't want to go to college. And I look
at it a little bit differently now, like I kind
of understand a little bit more where my mom was
coming from. Where she was like, well, you can't just
live at home and do nothing. At the time, I
thought it was very harsh that in my mind I
got kicked out of the house at the time. But
I do kind of see it a little bit differently now.
I think my mom's attitude was like, well, you know,
first of all, my home life was a lot different.
It was bad, so there were a lot of fights.
You know, neither of my parents wanted me around, my
mother or stepfather, so her reasons were not great but
at the same time, I kind of also understand, like, well,
you can't just be directionless, like you're going to have
to either go rent an apartment and start figuring it
out or if you're not going to school, right. I
think my mom was like the opposite of us. My
mom was like, oh my god, days, can't you walk out?
I don't get that.
Speaker 3: That's just so crazy, it's so sad, Like, how can
you want your kids out of the house, Like just yeah,
I do. I know different, Yeah, but I guess like
now it's harder too, because you know a lot of
us parents, your kids go to college, then they come,
then they finish college. There's no like people keep asking
me this about LB, like ogo, so, oh, she's majoring
in sociology, what's she.
Speaker 1: Going to do with that? And I'm like, I don't know,
she doesn't know. She's not going to be a sociologist obviously,
but she's good. She'll have to find a job. But
it's like, if you think about it, rents are super high.
You know, it's out of control in California, Yes, it is.
How are you going to rent somewhere on the salary
of a job that's straight out of college. Half these
people that graduate college are making minimum wage at jobs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I know it's so tough.
Speaker 1: So that's why I think a lot of kids end
up living at home for a while while they try
to save up to move.
Speaker 3: Out if their parents let them, right, yeah.
Speaker 1: Or I guess you get a place with a bunch
of roommates, right like you live like you were in college.
Speaker 3: That's what I did, got moved out and got.
Speaker 1: What I always did too. Yeah, I always had at
least two. I always had at least one roommate, if
not two at rims.
Speaker 3: I had two roommates when I first moved out. Yeah,
and it kind of sucked.
Speaker 1: Yeah, share one roommates. It would like steal all our food.
Oh yeah, I had two roommates at one point. Well,
what I always did is I always paid more and
then let the other two share a bathroom. This. I
had this one place for a while, North Hollywood. That
was where I lived across the street.
Speaker 3: From Yeah, that's right, that's right.
Speaker 1: Lived in a townhouse with I had the master bedroom
and my own bathroom.
Speaker 3: Wonder we lived close because I was living in North Hollywood,
lived on Houston Street. I live on Weddington.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's more studio city though, right, No, it did's more.
It's pretty.
Speaker 3: It's like past I think it's past Riverside or park anyway. Okay,
it's like near Riverside, Okay, in Laurel Canyon.
Speaker 1: Okay. So I lived right by Tohunga. I lived. I
lived right by where we are right now. We're in
North live right over there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, on Lamida Street.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, So I lived on Houston Street,
which is if you go, if you and go up
a block, like a block.
Speaker 3: Adam grew up on Houston.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's where I lived, right there, between Lancasham and
uh to Hunga. Uh huh.
Speaker 2: Even this is still kind of studio city. I think
technically it's north, but it's still kind of considered studio city.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, but I had so I had these two
roommates that shared a bathroom and listen, both of them
were crazy, but one of them was extra crazy, and
the extra crazy one was always stealing the other one's food,
stealing her shampoos, who like, see all her stuff, and
then she would come to me. I feel like my
name was on the lease. Anyway, they both got into
a huge fight one time, and then the one girl
moved out like mid month and like didn't pitch, Like
she never paid her rent, she broke the lease or whatever,
but she was probably like, don't I'm not on the lease. Wow,
I'm pretty sure I was the name on the lease. Somehow,
both of those girls kind of fucked me over. I
was having like a rotating Like one girl moved out,
so then I got someone to replace her, but then
they both like left mid month, and then they let
me not pay my rent, but only for like one month,
but then I couldn't find It was always a nightmare. Yeah. Mine.
Speaker 3: It was the this like girlfriend of a friend. She
I think she owned the house. It was her first
house because she was the director of preschool and she
owned the house. And then she had the two bedrooms
and we had to share a bath And then so
the girl that I had to share the bathroom with,
she had two little dogs that would follow her everywhere,
and I always thought it was weird that the dogs
went in the bathroom with her every time she went to.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I get it.
Speaker 3: Fucking Phil is in the bathroom with me every day.
He follows me everywhere I go It's just like collapses
at my feet no matter where I am.
Speaker 1: She comes in Lease gets her body all curled up
on like the tiny little shower mat. Uh huh. You
know Phil does stares at me while I poop.
Speaker 3: No, it's so yeah, now I totally get it. But
that's the house I was living in during the Northward earthquakes.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So my North Hollywood apartment is where I
was living during the northwardch Oh you were living in Northwide.
I was in Santa Monica staying with my boyfriend. But
that was my apartment. Wow, that's where I lived, Yeah,
with a totally different roommate at that time.
Speaker 3: This house was in Chatsworth. That was the first house
I moved into. It was in Chatsworth. Then Susanna and
I moved into North Hollywood on Weddington.
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Speaker 1: So, you know, speaking of college and finishing college and
then nothing what to do. Sometimes people don't even make
it through the whole college experience.
Speaker 2: This is.
Speaker 3: But so I was going to tell you I wanted
to talk about because I have a friend and I'm
not gonna say her, doesn't matter who it is, but
a friend, her daughter is going to college on the
on the East Coast, and this is her first year
at college. And she grew up in California, southern California
girl and really wanted to go to college on the
East Coast. And she has been doing okay, doing really good, good,
great grades, has a couple solid friends, you know, and
she's got like her dorm roommates that she likes, excuse me.
Speaker 1: And she's been doing okay.
Speaker 3: But after she went back after this last break of
the holiday of the holidays, she's kind of not been
feeling it. And she called my friend and said, I
really don't think that this is where I really want
to be. And my friend told me that she told
her this a few times, but her she's she's encouraged
her daughter to, like, you know, stick it out, stick
it out. And finally she just was like, I'm I'm
really like, I'm I'm I'm really sorry, and I don't
know what to do, but I'm just not happy. I'm
just I don't think that this is where I really
want to be. So she's like, Okay, well, you know,
we're not going to make any decisions right now. When
you come home from first spring break, we're gonna sit down,
we're going to talk about it, and it through you know,
through a loop for my friend.
Speaker 1: And then I.
Speaker 3: Was talking to her and I'm like, well, you know,
your daughter is she's just, you know, she's not used
to the first of all, the winters in on the
East Coast have been just brutal.
Speaker 1: And she's she's.
Speaker 3: Not used to that kind of weather. And then also,
her daughter's the kind of kid that likes to be
close to home. She's always been she's not in Italia.
She's been a home body. She likes to be around
her family, her friends here, you know, and so to
be so far away from home and not being able
to come home at the drop of a hat, you know,
like LB and Natalie. You know, it's it's been I
think taking a toll on her. And it's just like,
what what do you do when your kid calls you
and says that this is not for me, I want
to come home.
Speaker 1: That is so hard because there's so much involved in it.
Like there's a part of I think most parents, and
you know, I'm talking out of my ass right now
because I haven't experienced this, but I think there's a
part of all of us that are like, well, you know,
our kids have to learn to do hard things. And
if they say they want to do this thing and
then they try it, you have they have to go
through the hard part, the transition, and get used to it,
and then they might be like so thrilled they did. Right.
On the other hand, we're like, okay, am I gonna
is my kid gonna end up having mental health issues
because they're sad and forcing them it's hard? How do
we know? Right? Right?
Speaker 3: So she I told her, you know, I said I
because she's like, I didn't my friend, she didn't. She
went to college, but she went to season. She didn't
go out of state, and she's like, I just don't
want her to I don't want her to have that.
I don't want her to just live at home and
go to school at home. I want her to experience
and be out in the world and have, you know,
the experience of college and if I can afford it,
like let her go and have that kind of life.
And I just don't want her to come home and
just get complacent and just go to local college here
and just stay living at home. Right, Yeah, So I said,
why don't you just come up with like a couple
options for her and say, Okay, if you're going to
come home, these are your options. Like, you know, you
can go transfer Santa Barbera or San Diego or wherever, like,
find out ahead of time where she can transfer, and
just come up with a couple options. So it's just
not like, okay, I don't The.
Speaker 1: Problem is she can't transfer to like until well, she
would have to have to go to city college, so
she'd have to she'd have to transfer to a junior college. Yeah,
and then in November apply.
Speaker 3: Well, I think she would definitely finish out the year
and then figure out where she's going to where she
could transfer from the school she goes.
Speaker 1: To but she so, but she can't because she missed
the deadline. She missed the right. Oh yeah, that's right.
She just finished. So she didn't know if she was
thinking about transferring, she should have died. So now she
would have to go to like a junior college for
one year. She could do it somewhere else. She could
do like what Natalia is doing.
Speaker 3: That's what I told her City College.
Speaker 1: And then at the application period this November, she said apply.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, she said that, so she wouldn't.
Speaker 1: And then do her last two years somewhere else.
Speaker 3: Right, So that's what she's going to come up with.
She's going to talk to her over the spring break.
But I don't know if like you knew any other
people who's.
Speaker 1: Yes, so I do know somebody else? Same thing. One
you're past your friend's daughter. Hold on, I feel like
I'm gonna sneeze you. Here are cubs that was violent.
Speaker 3: You and Kaylen sneezed.
Speaker 1: What's going on in this room? Man? So my friend's
kid went to school on the East Coast as well,
really dead set on that school, like do not had
options to go in California? Was like absolutely, do not
want to be in state not for me. Had option
to go on the west coast Pacific Northwest, No, it's
too close. I want to be on the East coast.
That's where I'm meant to be. Chose a school on
the East coast that's like a decent school. Got in.
It's a decent school. It's kind of in the middle
of nowhere, the big school. A lot of people really
like this school. I just don't want to be too specific,
although it doesn't really matter, I get anyway, it doesn't
matter what school it is. Yeah, big school. Yeah, social kid,
but like the first year partying a lot, a lot
of partying, a lot of like. But then also I
don't know if this is for me. I'm not not
totally making making some friends, but then like missing the
friends back home and then at some point, but then
went back for the second for a second year. Early
on was just like I don't like it because every
time every time they would come home for like holidays,
they would see all their old friends and they would
be like, oh my god, I really miss my house,
I miss my bed. But unfortunately, so their grades apparently
are not great and they did they also didn't apply
in November, so now they had to come. So they
dropped out basically in sophomore year because they were like,
I can't do it anymore. I don't want to do
it anymore. So they came home and now they're just
apparently living at home and like playing video games all day.
No job. It's exactly your friend's kind of nightmare. Yeah, yeah,
it hasn't did not apply to school in November, even
knowing they were going to leave school, they didn't apply
and didn't have the credits to get into a school
they really want to go to, like a UC. So
now they're going to have to go to a junior college,
but like haven't registered for that yet, right, So now
they're probably going to have to go to junior college
for at least a full year, which wouldn't start until like, yeah,
that's right, like September then, so I don't know.
Speaker 3: So now they're thinking maybe not even going back to school. Maybe, well,
you know, that's the thing. It's like, so like my
friend's daughter, her school was. The other thing is that
she's like I was just saying, she's she's kind of shy.
She's not you know, she doesn't she's more of a homebody,
and so she was going to school in the city,
you know, and having to like to get around, you know,
take cabs and stuff like that. She's not used to that,
you know, and so like having all So so my
girlfriend is like, I see why it's kind of a
culture shock to her and why she's probably not that
kind of kid that's cut out to be in that
you know, environment or whatever. But I again, like, there's
got to be a clear cut thing. And if you
don't want to go to school, then when you come home,
you got to get a job, like time to start,
you know, or be enrolled in junior college and get
credits so that you can get an internship somewhere or
something like something. But just to come home and not
you know, take it. Because if you're going to take
a time off a year or semester, it's going to
be really tough to get back into the swing of things.
And it's kind of a shame.
Speaker 1: I feel like, I'm not really sure how to put this,
but you guys will both completely understand what I'm saying.
But for a lot of people, it really has to
be kind of swimming upstream to figure out what the
fuck to do with your life. Yeah, because it was
really difficult for me. And when I look back and go,
I didn't have a quote unquote real job, like a
cool job that was something I wanted to be doing,
which was working on a TV show. Yeah. My first
job was the big date writing with our boyfriend Mark Wahlberg, right,
And that was when I was twenty eight, So I
felt so old and I was like literally still waiting tables,
and I just thought I'm the only person on the
planet who didn't go to car I thought everybody who
went to college just.
Speaker 3: Autumn went into the work people or knew.
Speaker 1: People went into the workforce and had like cool, high
paying jobs, which wasn't really the case. Like a lot
of people work their way up. A lot of it
is who you know, finding somebody who can help you
get like an entry level job somewhere. A lot of
it is who you know. But also, like, let's say
you go to school and you get a degree in
I don't know what, Like let's just say psychology, and
you're like, I'm going to be a therapist. Well, then
you got to freaking put yourself through grad school, right,
You can't just go get a job as a therapist.
So then you're talking about another few years of school.
Where are you going to live during that? Are you
living at home?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Are you living at grad school? I don't know, But
then you come home again. You don't automatically just unless
you're like on a doctor track and then you do
a fellowship and then you do you know, you're in
med school and you're in a hospital. Like I know
a lot about that because I've been watching Er from
the beginning, right, so I kind of understand the track
of how it works. You know, you're Noah Wiley, You're
a fourth year medical student. You're at the hospital. Okay,
But my point is unless you have that motor and
that kind of hustle that you and I had, where
I was always like, okay, who do I know? Like
the way that I got the job at the Big
Date was literally getting asked by some woman. I was
at Barney's Beanery and this woman, this casting director named
Jackie Pittman, who's still fully in the business, asked me
if I wanted to be a contestant on the show
The Big Date. I was just young and you know,
hanging out in a bar, and she was like, do
you want to be on this dating show? And I
was like, no, but I'd like to write for it.
I didn't have the proper credentials, and then I like
hustled my way into it. But that was like a
fluke almost, you know, right place, right time. I don't
know what would have happened to me. Would I just
have like eventually gotten a job at Trader Joe's and
that just worked there for my whole life, or like,
because I see a lot of people, you know, you
see people working let's just say, at a grocery store,
and you're like, well, if I would imagine a lot
of people that either don't go to college or drop
out of college, or can't afford college, you know whatever,
you don't ever get to have your like dream job,
or you know, it takes a certain kind of personality
to like be a hustler start a business. Yeah, figure
it out. So what happens to the rest of us? Right?
Speaker 3: I just I feel lucky because I remember, you know,
when I was enrolled at Pierce College and I was
talking to my dad and like the school's not for me,
blah blah blah, and he constantly would say, what do
you want to do? And I would say, I want
to work in showbiz, but I'm not I want to work.
I don't want to be on the production side. I
don't want to be in front of a camera. I
want to work, you know, in the corporate side, but
I don't know where what. And then he was like,
go to the Samuel Frenchis bookstore and like I've talked
about this before, and get a list of all these
production companies, and he helped me put a resume together
and I got my first entry level job at a
at a syndication company, which is that's how. Then I
went to Carcon Warner, and then I went to New
World and then ABC. But like, thank god I had that,
like some just figuring out. But if I didn't have that,
I don't I would be dead in the water, like
I would. And I think the other key thing, too,
is to try and get an entry level job and
in the field that you want to work in, instead
of just going and waiting tables or bartending or something
where you get all cash and then you get drunk
on that cash, you know, and then it's hard to
go from that to like minimum wage at a company.
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Speaker 1: Heck yeah, hell yeah. Yeah. So in conclusion at the
college talk and kind of being a hustler, I do.
I think it's important to like, but I was such
a late bloomer even knowing what I wanted to do.
I changed my mind all the time. I was the
same like I want to be in show business, but
I also was like, I just don't want to be
really low level. I don't like to be told what
to do. I wanted to jump in right away. Being
like a writer and stand up was kind of my
entry to that because I could kind of write. So
I got hired based on a writing sample. But that's
not always the way it works now. Yeah, yeah, kind
of have to have that fire in your belly, I know.
So what about people that don't.
Speaker 3: Well, that's where the parents come involved, that's where they
got it. Like kind of So that.
Speaker 1: Takes me right back to like, so do you force
your kids? Do you do you have to create that
fire in their belly? Do you force them into too
being uncomfortable?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean if they want to, if they want money,
they got to go to work and they got to
figure out what they want to do. You know, and
like my dad helped me, I'll help my kids.
Speaker 1: I know so many kids that don't have jobs like that,
don't try to work. Yeah, And I feel bad because
my kids, both Sadie and Xander want to work. Yeah,
and tried to find jobs and couldn't get hired. And
Albie loved working. And now she understands what it feels
like to have money, your own money. I know it's
hard to go. It's hard to not have your own
money once you've had it.
Speaker 3: Right and then lose that. Sonny just told me yesterday
that he's been helping people move here and there. He's
on Him and his friend have been doing like I
think it's Facebook marketplace where they helped some lady move
like seventy bucks, fifty bucks, this and that, like h
on the weekends, he's been doing that. Oh good, Why
don't you tell me that? He's like I thought, I
told you. I must have told dad. I go, No,
you didn't tell me. I was like, good, great hustle. Yeah, well,
somebody's got to fund his gambling habit.
Speaker 1: And I'm just kidding hilarious. I mean, but is he
is he happy?
Speaker 3: He's not a big spender Yeah, he's happy. He is
he's uh, he's happy. He's like, we just had to
give notice to let the building know if he's gonna
come back again in the fall or if he's going
to keep his stuff there during the summer, and so
we re reup that for that day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So how does that work because it's not can
he leave his stuff there? Yeah? Are they supposed to
move out over the summer?
Speaker 3: No, he can full for it's not that much. For
like a small fee, he can keep it there. And
then if then you sign the contract to re up
for the fall, which we did. And then his friend
that has had his first year, well at the end
of this year it will be done at his first year
at the university and was living in a dorm. He
wants to move into Sonny's building because he doesn't want
to live in the dorm on his second year.
Speaker 1: So would Sonny want to do like a double with
that kid?
Speaker 3: And he was thinking about it, so he wanted to
know how much it was and let him his friend know. So,
I don't know, maybe they will live together or not.
I don't I don't know. Sonny sure does like his
his alone time, though he does he likes, he likes
his space.
Speaker 1: I'm really starting to think about for Xander some options
for him to look at even right, and he was
saying that he was open to Oregon. Oh really Yeah,
I was thinking about looking into some some of those
some of the smaller private colleges in Oregon that might
give a lot of like scholarship money.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be good. I could see him in Oregon.
Speaker 1: Elbe was so specific. Elber was just like, this is
what I want and nothing else. As a lot of
you guys know, because you would send me letters and go,
but what about she she should try this, and I'd
be like, good luck, she won't try anything. Yeah, she's
not open. Yeah, which you gotta kind of respect. She's
a kid who she knows her own mind. Right. There
are things that light her up that she's interested. When
she's interested in something, she will go to the ends
of the earth to make it happen. If she's not,
she just does not care. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And same with Natalia. Like she loves the environment she
lives in, loves the weather. She facetimes me in the morning.
She gets up at like seven and goes for a
walk on the like down this trail to the beach
and she'll FaceTime me or call me when she's you know,
she's like, are you up. She'll just call me and
start keep me company because none of her friends are
up that early, and she'll just call and chit chat
with me, and she's like, let me FaceTime. You can
see how pretty it is. She's like, I'm so happy
I got to go to school here. She loves it.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. We are living the same life with that.
Elbe just was. Elbe just called me she hardly ever does.
On her way home from she was doing a tour
with another new hire, and she was like, hey, mom,
Like she basically was telling me how much fun she had,
and she was like, will you keep me company on
my walk? I'm going to walk instead of take the
bus back to my apartment. And I was like, of course.
And then she was going like, oh my god, I
love it here so much. It's a best I love
my school, I love my new job. Yeah. She went
on a retreat for the tours. She did a weekend.
I think when we our last show, she was going
that weekend. It was last weekend, So had she already
gone no, because it wasn't this weekend. So it was
last weekend. She went away for the weekend. Anyway, she
was just like, oh my god, I had the best time.
I'm so bonded with that.
Speaker 3: She just she's so lappy, so happy. I know, it's
so nice. It's the best.
Speaker 1: Every time I say, like, oh, she went to a party,
she went to some dance for a fraternity or sorority,
and she, you know, I was like, did you have fun?
And she was like, oh my god, all caps the
best time. Like everything is always like the best. But hey,
that's where she wanted to go. She made it happen
there you go.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she had a fire in her belly to make
it happen.
Speaker 1: She was not into you know, when people were like
what about this school for her? And I'm like, dude,
she's not open. She's like, I want to go to
school in California, Like I want to go to a UC.
I want to go to UCLA, not any UC I
want to go to. But like Xander is way more like, yeah,
I don't know. I could go out of state.
Speaker 3: It really depends, right, Like Sonny is so happy where
he He was telling me about hikes that he wants
to go, these trails that he wants to go on.
They're looking into going I guess skiing one weekend coming
up and stuff like it. He could not be happier.
I'm talking to him. He's walking like it's it's freezing outside.
It's like there's it was it was snowing where he
was recently, and there was like there it was hailing
and it just was a shit show and freezing. God,
and he loves it. He loves it. And it is like,
that's my worst nightmare. I could not be in that
cold me too, No way, I have to be where
it's sunshine. She's like my mom, you know, whoop.
Speaker 1: Sunshine. Oh my god. I could totally see her. If
she'd been an eighties kids, she would have been like
convertible cabriolet. Oh, totally white.
Speaker 3: That's what my mom drove. My mom drove a convertible
white Mustang.
Speaker 1: Yes, wooo oh yeah, it's a personality type. It's Alby
as well. Yeah, I'll be inaliarc similar, yes that way, yes, yeah,
it's so funny. She just say she just loves life,
just loves life. And I got Sadie who's like very
specific but in a different way than Albie, Like so
Xander is my open kid, like he's he's albeish in
the way of like, hey, you want to go to
I'm gonna go to Ralph's. Oh, I'll come. I want
to look at out. He'll like literally like window shop
at Ralph's. Like, oh, i'n't ever tried these crackers? Should
we try these crackers and throw them in the car?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: Yeah, He's just mister like whatever kind of And then
Sadie is like, do you want to go do this? No?
Do you want to go do this? No? Definitely not.
Do you want to go do this? Maybe I'll think
about it, you know. And she's like, you know, I
don't want to live far from home. Yes, she's a homebody.
She also likes her alone time, so like, I'm not sure.
I'm not sure how that would go with her with roommates,
Like I Do'm not sure.
Speaker 3: What was she gonna mean if she she could do
with what Sonny's doing or I don't know, you know,
get a place alone.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean the fact that he's going to junior college
like saves a lot of money, yeah, is great? Yes, yeah, so.
Speaker 1: I mean she might do that maybe season maybe a
school just like close by. But you know, I don't
know there's options. We're meeting with the college counselor from
the school.
Speaker 3: Right they're in eleventh grade. They're gonna have to start.
Speaker 1: Looking thinking about it. Yeah, I mean literally this is
We're still in February, but this November they'll be right
this October do it all over applications?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, one year Offvey. I don't envy you,
but at least now you've been through it, so you
know what to expect twice two years in a row.
Speaker 1: Yeah, hardest thing, hardest stuff I went through with LB
in our mother daughter relationship with college ops, because that's
where you walk that line between like do I leave
them alone to make their mistakes? But this is a
big fucking mistake to make. And then do I how
hard do I push them? How much do I micromanage
them getting certain things done? And as you remember senior
year of high school for Lbie, I had to basically
ground her for the first time in her life and go,
you're not going anywhere until you finish applications, some of
them because you have to figure out with your kids
whether it's fear, laziness, you know, laziness or fear right
right right? One of those two things is causing procrastination.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1: So either they just don't care enough because they're just
they can't really visualize their future, so they're like, it's
not that important. What's the worst that can happen if
I miss deadlines? Or they're scared and they're like, that
seems really hard, And what happens if I don't get
in and I want to put myself out there and
then get disappointed? Yeah, So with LB that was really
difficult because I think it came down to fear for
her first year, and it had to just be like
you're gonna have to sit down and do this and
ye put yourself and then to get completely disappointed, feel devastated,
have a breakup and see all your friends go to school,
and find the motivation in you to like, I know
all that stuff is happening, but now, if you want
to do Pierson one year, you've got to sign up
for these classes and you've got to take some of
them in the summer. Yeah mm hmmm.
Speaker 3: Yeah, my gosh. I was thinking about it with Sonny
and Italia, Like Sonny was the one that I had
to get on top of and get on on top
like you know, come on, did you work with your
did do you work with the counselor today? Are you
you know, when's your deadlining? Blah blah. Natalia didn't have
to worry about any of that, Like she took it
like she was just like okay. She was on top
of the counselor going like let's go like what do
I okay, what do I need? No da, because she
Natalia wants to keep up with the Joneses, like she
does not want to miss out. And she's got these
two friends that were doing what she wants to do
a year ahead of her, so she wanted to make
sure that she got, you know, everything done exactly. And
now she's like telling me, if she doesn't get the
right GPA by you know that what she needs at
the end of this year, she's gonna take summer classes
to pull up her GPA.
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So she's like, I don't want to take summer classes.
So and I said, well, if you need account if
you need you know, tutor, whatever, let me know. I'll
help you. And she's like, no, I think I'm okay.
And again like she's got these roommates that have taken
those classes and they can help her. And you know,
and she's got friends that are in her class, a
lot of her classes, so they go study together and
they pounded out get their assignments done. It's a lot
of tedious work. She's she's really tired. She's like, I'm
just constant, like so many assignments, so many you know,
it's just a lot of work, busy work. But she's
on top of it.
Speaker 1: So Elb got to skip a lot of those classes
because she had taken all these aps in high school.
But like Sadie and Xander are not taking those same
type of aps. So like Elbi had taken AP biology,
so she literally never had to do classes. She wasn't
that interested in high school at Peers because she'd already
done them. So she had to do actually, she had
to do one science She had one geology class and
one history class. Literally other than that, she took sociology
classes and she took like a music appreciation class, and
she took only stuff that had to do with her major.
She never had to take a math or the one
science class. But it was like an easier but I
don't think it would be the same. First, if Sadie
went to junior college, she would be the same as Natalia,
having to take a bunch of right, which is gonna
feel high schoolish, Yeah and hard. I was saying that.
Speaker 3: I was asking Italia. I said, you know, it's weird
because you and Sonny we're not great students in high school,
but like now you guys are getting a's and b's
and getting your shit done in college. She's like, it's
just different. It's different feeling like we're not up every
day and they're all day long, five.
Speaker 1: Days a week.
Speaker 3: Yes, you know, She's like, with the schedules are different.
You know there's online classes and then you get out
you can like then you're actually going to campus and
going there for a couple hours and then going to
the library with your friend. Like she's like, it's just different. Yeah,
and you know you have a goal you're working towards.
So I could see that. I was like, good, more
power to you.
Speaker 1: It's amazing because LB's junior at UCLA, which you'd think
would be so hard, having the time of her life,
loves her classes. She only has three classes right now,
tons of free time, tons of just living life, she'll
have like a class and then a discussion and it's
all fun. She's like, oh my god, I had the
best time in my discussion today, Like and I met
I met some new friends, and I have this friend
in this class, and it's like it's nothing like high school.
Speaker 3: Right yeah. I'm like, wait till you start to take
classes that you really are interested in, because now they're
just taking all that crap to get it out of
the way, right.
Speaker 1: You know, right yeah, I mean I think I told
you that Elbie's trying to get into this sociology and crime.
Oh wow, I'm like, can I take it? I know?
Speaker 3: That would be awesome.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't it be cool if you could just like take
a take a class with the clay, Like, let me
just sign up for this.
Speaker 3: That would be fun.
Speaker 1: Well, they do have UCLA Extension class, yes you can take,
but probably not Sociology and Crime. Now AnyWho, let's say
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can look on my I'm gonna post post it on
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Stephanie Wilder tailor dot com. Stephanie with en f and
get on my mailing list, which it's really easy. You'll
see it on the front page. Sign up on my
mailing list and then I will send you the flyer FIR.
Speaker 3: That's really cool.
Speaker 1: I love I'm excited about that.
Speaker 3: She's awesome And.
Speaker 1: Okay, so last people that we haven't given a shout
out yet, don't forget about Laura Wingfield's the Queer Youth
Resource in Vancouver, Washington, q y RC Vancouver WA dot org. Okay,
please give some money to them. Also, if you want
to get a car, use Adam Lerner's services. Adam's Got
a Car dot com. A Ferncandle, our friend Kelsey runs
this business, makes delicious smelling soy candles like tobacco, sage, lavender, sandalwood.
Why not go to her Instagram at Ferncandle. Also The
Get Up Show. It's a podcast, it's for kids. It's
got a lot of fun shit going on with their
It's there's yoga, music, jokes, learning. So check out The
Get Up Show. My boyfriend Jacob Crowley ACLU Motherfuckers a
c l U dot com. They are fighting such the
good fight right now. Yes, they have all of our rights.
Please please donate some money to the a c LU
also asp c A saving animals every day they do
the lord's work. Make sure you give money to the
ASPCA for in Sergios doing that shout out. And last,
but not least, Christine Black has Waves and wonder travel.
If you're planning a trip, why not use somebody who
listens to my show? Yeah? Why wouldn't you use Christine B.
Go to her instagram is travel with Christine B. C
R I S T I N E B. There you go. Boom.
All right, thanks everybody. Thanks Kaylin her parent. Now, don't
have it up. It's good letting.
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