WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:03.720 This is Pod Popular Podcast for the People. 2 00:00:08.839 --> 00:00:12.599 The Great Love Debate. It's the Great Love. 3 00:00:12.480 --> 00:00:17.800 Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debate. 4 00:00:18.199 --> 00:00:21.800 Hi again, Everyone's Brian Howie. Welcome to The Great Love Debate, 5 00:00:21.839 --> 00:00:25.199 the world's number one dating and relationship podcast since twenty 6 00:00:25.280 --> 00:00:28.160 and fifteen. We are here in the lovely studios of 7 00:00:28.280 --> 00:00:33.759 Pod Popular Podcasts for the People in Scottsdale, Arizona. We 8 00:00:33.840 --> 00:00:37.439 do a portion of most of our live shows where 9 00:00:37.479 --> 00:00:43.240 we talk about good ideas for first dates and I 10 00:00:43.240 --> 00:00:46.679 don't care what happened to relationship. I eighty five percent 11 00:00:46.719 --> 00:00:49.960 of first dates are drinks, they are dinner, or they 12 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:53.280 are coffee, and those are all fine dates, but they 13 00:00:53.320 --> 00:00:57.600 all are essentially interview style dates, and they are essentially 14 00:00:57.759 --> 00:01:01.439 prison visitation interview style dates there with a metaphorical piece 15 00:01:01.439 --> 00:01:03.600 of glass between you. It makes people nervous. So we 16 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:06.239 do section of the show in each city where it says, 17 00:01:06.239 --> 00:01:08.359 give me a date in this city that isn't one 18 00:01:08.400 --> 00:01:11.200 of those three things, and it's awesome, and people give 19 00:01:11.239 --> 00:01:13.640 us all kinds of fantastic ideas in each city. Some 20 00:01:13.719 --> 00:01:16.159 are unique to that city in summer or so general. 21 00:01:15.879 --> 00:01:15.959 But. 22 00:01:17.719 --> 00:01:20.159 That's what we do, and so I kind of wanted 23 00:01:20.200 --> 00:01:22.159 to get into that a little bit today. And in 24 00:01:22.239 --> 00:01:24.040 order to do this, I want to bring back an 25 00:01:24.079 --> 00:01:28.400 old game that we played on this show about four 26 00:01:28.480 --> 00:01:29.799 or five years ago and we haven't done it in 27 00:01:29.799 --> 00:01:32.519 a while. And it is called good Idea, Bad Idea. 28 00:01:32.760 --> 00:01:36.280 And so you guys sent us a bunch of dates 29 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:38.599 or things you do on dates, or things you look 30 00:01:38.640 --> 00:01:40.920 for on a date. And I have a couple of 31 00:01:41.560 --> 00:01:46.400 hopefully reasonable people joining me today to play a good idea, 32 00:01:46.560 --> 00:01:48.359 bad idea, and I hope this was a good idea 33 00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:51.760 and not a bad idea. They host their own podcast. 34 00:01:51.760 --> 00:01:55.760 It's called Homanity Brad Kimmelman and Bree McCabe, and their 35 00:01:55.879 --> 00:01:58.560 Homanity is sort of a lifestyle concept that celebrates the 36 00:01:58.680 --> 00:02:01.120 very best version of yourself and the world around us. 37 00:02:01.840 --> 00:02:05.280 Most importantly, they're sensible, and even more importantly than that, 38 00:02:05.359 --> 00:02:08.439 they're opinionated. Welcome you guys. 39 00:02:08.520 --> 00:02:11.159 Thank you, thank you for having us, Thank you so much. 40 00:02:11.360 --> 00:02:14.199 Yeah, we're gonna do a little quid pro podcast meaning 41 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:15.759 I'm gonna do their podcast and they're going to do 42 00:02:15.800 --> 00:02:19.240 my podcasts. But I chose to receive or to serve. 43 00:02:19.680 --> 00:02:23.280 So they're on the receiving end of this one. So 44 00:02:23.319 --> 00:02:26.199 here's what we're gonna do. I send out a call 45 00:02:26.240 --> 00:02:29.599 to arms, I send out the bat signal, and I said, 46 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:32.000 give us a sort of your current state of the 47 00:02:32.080 --> 00:02:33.439 date and what you like to do and how you 48 00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:35.840 like to do it. And I'm gonna read a half 49 00:02:35.879 --> 00:02:37.560 dozen or so of these and we are going to 50 00:02:37.639 --> 00:02:39.800 kick them around and assess whether they are a good 51 00:02:39.840 --> 00:02:41.919 idea or a bad idea. And they go in a 52 00:02:41.919 --> 00:02:46.199 few different directions. Does it makes sense you are judge, 53 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:49.159 You are judge and jury on these people, so we 54 00:02:49.240 --> 00:02:51.879 don't have to agree. But there's some layers to a 55 00:02:51.879 --> 00:02:56.039 few of these. We got a ton of these, so 56 00:02:56.080 --> 00:03:01.159 we chose some that sort of aren't necessarily all three 57 00:03:01.199 --> 00:03:02.960 of us are gonna agree on it, and there's probably 58 00:03:03.000 --> 00:03:05.080 some layers to it, but we're gonna we're gonna kick 59 00:03:05.120 --> 00:03:06.360 them around and see what we could do here. So 60 00:03:06.759 --> 00:03:13.759 first one from Megan in Durham, North Carolina. Let's face it, 61 00:03:13.919 --> 00:03:17.280 I'm not bright. Nobody's going to mistake me for a doctor. 62 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:20.360 I have platinum blonde hair, huge fake boobs, three inch nails, 63 00:03:20.400 --> 00:03:22.759 and I basically look like a pin up, which gets 64 00:03:22.759 --> 00:03:25.240 me a ton of attention, which I definitely don't mind, 65 00:03:25.479 --> 00:03:27.400 but I also want the guys to think there is 66 00:03:27.479 --> 00:03:30.080 more to me than that, So I always suggest we 67 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:34.800 go to seminars on early dates, crypto house flipping, investing, 68 00:03:34.840 --> 00:03:37.319 all kinds of things. I usually tune out while we 69 00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:39.840 are there, but I think it helps change their image 70 00:03:39.840 --> 00:03:42.319 of me, even if we don't actually go. I think 71 00:03:42.439 --> 00:03:44.479 just the idea of bringing it up to them means 72 00:03:44.520 --> 00:03:46.159 I don't just want to go out for drinks and 73 00:03:46.199 --> 00:03:48.639 go home with them. Mixed signals maybe, But do you 74 00:03:48.680 --> 00:03:50.439 think it's a good strategy? 75 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:53.639 Immediately? 76 00:03:53.719 --> 00:03:59.439 Now I immediately know really Meghan really well, so I'm thinking. 77 00:03:59.240 --> 00:04:01.280 You think it's a bad id. Let me break this 78 00:04:01.319 --> 00:04:04.800 down a little bit. She has a persona that she's 79 00:04:04.840 --> 00:04:06.840 putting out there. If you're like, I am putting out 80 00:04:06.840 --> 00:04:09.599 this pin up look, which I know a lot of 81 00:04:09.639 --> 00:04:12.039 women who do that. It's a certain look they're going through. Yeah, 82 00:04:12.800 --> 00:04:16.959 you're basically in character. What you're trying now to do 83 00:04:17.240 --> 00:04:20.680 is add a character to your character. Neither one of 84 00:04:20.720 --> 00:04:25.160 them is really you, correct, So why not pick something 85 00:04:25.160 --> 00:04:26.480 that if you're like, I want them to see the 86 00:04:26.519 --> 00:04:30.279 real me that is not just this, you know, playboy bunny, 87 00:04:30.680 --> 00:04:34.759 this sexual thing. Why not take away from the character 88 00:04:35.279 --> 00:04:37.920 and reveal that layer instead of adding on a layer 89 00:04:37.920 --> 00:04:39.399 that really has absolutely nothing to. 90 00:04:39.319 --> 00:04:42.279 Do with you exactly, Like, that's how I feel. I 91 00:04:42.319 --> 00:04:45.720 feel like if you go to the seminar in like 92 00:04:45.800 --> 00:04:48.519 I personal wouldn't pay attention. So I completely agree with you, Megan, 93 00:04:48.720 --> 00:04:50.920 like could not be me. But what do you do 94 00:04:50.959 --> 00:04:53.319 if you asks you about it and then you're like, oh, actually, 95 00:04:53.319 --> 00:04:56.040 I was totally just I just want to look smart. 96 00:04:56.240 --> 00:04:58.920 I have no interest in a seminar whatsoever. But I 97 00:04:58.959 --> 00:05:01.879 brought you here because I didn't want you to think 98 00:05:01.920 --> 00:05:04.800 my fake everything was right was me? 99 00:05:05.360 --> 00:05:08.000 Now, I do know some women who do do this, 100 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:12.279 that they will talk, they'll study up and they'll talk 101 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:14.680 about a half tone. And probably men probably do this too, 102 00:05:14.720 --> 00:05:16.360 that they don't have any interest in it because they 103 00:05:16.399 --> 00:05:19.040 think the guy wants to think they're smart. Trust me, 104 00:05:19.079 --> 00:05:20.879 this is a first date, Megan. He doesn't give shit 105 00:05:20.959 --> 00:05:23.360 that you're smart right or now. He'll find that out later. 106 00:05:23.399 --> 00:05:26.079 And if you want to reveal that over time as 107 00:05:26.079 --> 00:05:28.920 they get to know you, fine, But you are leading 108 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:33.360 with a certain thing to lure him in. You're trying 109 00:05:33.360 --> 00:05:35.319 to play two different games at the same time, and 110 00:05:35.360 --> 00:05:36.439 neither of those are you. 111 00:05:36.600 --> 00:05:39.839 Exactly, So it's like, if you're playing to losing games, 112 00:05:39.839 --> 00:05:40.800 how are you ever gonna win? 113 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:41.319 Right? 114 00:05:41.839 --> 00:05:44.600 I agree. I think if honestly, I would just pick 115 00:05:44.639 --> 00:05:48.720 something that you actually care about. And since it's opposite 116 00:05:48.759 --> 00:05:51.480 of your first persona anyways, he's still gonna see like, oh, 117 00:05:51.480 --> 00:05:54.639 it's a whole different thing. But also, like your first date, 118 00:05:55.680 --> 00:05:57.480 in no way, shape or form, should you like be 119 00:05:57.519 --> 00:06:00.199 talking about like what your college GPA was. Is there 120 00:06:00.240 --> 00:06:03.040 anything that would make you seem smart or not smart? 121 00:06:03.279 --> 00:06:03.399 Right? 122 00:06:03.680 --> 00:06:05.920 Because that's sound. It's about like I feel like you 123 00:06:05.920 --> 00:06:08.240 should just have a connection about like life in general. 124 00:06:08.560 --> 00:06:11.199 Yeah, nobody's throwing their diplomas on the table. 125 00:06:11.040 --> 00:06:12.399 And if they are, like get up in life. 126 00:06:12.759 --> 00:06:15.800 Yeah, because there's some people that's all they want to 127 00:06:15.839 --> 00:06:17.800 talk about is I went here in grad school here, 128 00:06:17.800 --> 00:06:21.040 and you know this is what I did. That's fine. 129 00:06:21.040 --> 00:06:25.279 That's them. That's their blonde hair, fake boobs, whatever, which 130 00:06:25.319 --> 00:06:28.319 a lot of people do too. You're just trying to 131 00:06:28.360 --> 00:06:31.120 do too much, Megan, You're overthinking it. And if if 132 00:06:31.160 --> 00:06:35.680 what you're saying is I really am this Jessica Rabbit character, 133 00:06:35.839 --> 00:06:39.199 then go with embrace that, Embrace that, and that doesn't 134 00:06:39.240 --> 00:06:41.040 mean you're stupid exactly. 135 00:06:41.160 --> 00:06:43.720 I think those are honestly smartest people. They're playing a 136 00:06:43.720 --> 00:06:44.319 great game. 137 00:06:44.600 --> 00:06:47.519 Yeah, I think so too. Those are actually fairly intimidating 138 00:06:47.600 --> 00:06:51.079 and they're confident. And then like, I know the look 139 00:06:51.079 --> 00:06:54.160 I'm trying to go to. You're right, so trying to 140 00:06:54.160 --> 00:06:58.120 to dilute that and get involved in something. I mean, 141 00:06:58.680 --> 00:07:01.160 even if you were in I'm not sure a house 142 00:07:01.160 --> 00:07:04.480 flipping seminars are a really good date anyway. Listening to somebody 143 00:07:04.519 --> 00:07:07.800 else talk who's not either of you is just not 144 00:07:07.879 --> 00:07:08.680 a good idea. 145 00:07:08.720 --> 00:07:11.519 I'm just like picturing like those big ballrooms with like 146 00:07:11.560 --> 00:07:14.040 the un comfy chairs and like the little plastic water 147 00:07:14.079 --> 00:07:16.920 cups and the people fanning themselves applying is bad. 148 00:07:17.439 --> 00:07:20.959 Yeah, what about a network marketing event as your first date? 149 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:23.639 That sounds really fun too. Let's go talk to other 150 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:25.519 people that aren't so amway together. 151 00:07:25.600 --> 00:07:28.079 Yeah, let's wear name tags, which is actually kind of cute. 152 00:07:28.079 --> 00:07:29.720 I do like name tags on a date. I'm pro 153 00:07:29.800 --> 00:07:33.879 name tag on a date. But yeah, the environment is bad. 154 00:07:34.720 --> 00:07:37.639 You already admit you're tuning out. He can't wait for 155 00:07:37.720 --> 00:07:39.399 this to get over so he can get to the 156 00:07:39.519 --> 00:07:41.959 drinks and the nails and the hair and the rest. 157 00:07:41.800 --> 00:07:44.240 And all the other stuff she's putting forward. 158 00:07:44.600 --> 00:07:45.920 Yeah, so it only the stuff. 159 00:07:46.000 --> 00:07:49.160 So I just want to send Megan to my therapist. 160 00:07:49.720 --> 00:07:52.040 I think so too. I think Megan's stick with dance 161 00:07:52.079 --> 00:07:54.160 with what Brunya. This is a bad idea if you 162 00:07:54.160 --> 00:07:56.279 want to do that on your own time and then 163 00:07:56.439 --> 00:07:58.279 talk about these things if you think they interest you, 164 00:07:58.360 --> 00:08:03.000 or ask questions on the date. But you're not fooling him, No, no, 165 00:08:03.160 --> 00:08:04.839 I don't. I think he's going to be able to 166 00:08:04.879 --> 00:08:07.560 sense you can sit there and doodle on your notepad 167 00:08:07.639 --> 00:08:10.040 like you're really just a bad environment. It's bad. It's 168 00:08:10.079 --> 00:08:13.000 a bad learning is fine, ticketing classes fine. This is 169 00:08:13.040 --> 00:08:15.680 not that this is a bad, bad idea for me right. 170 00:08:16.399 --> 00:08:19.040 I think just the word strategy for a date is 171 00:08:19.480 --> 00:08:23.639 probably the key tell all about where Meghan's head is 172 00:08:23.959 --> 00:08:27.800 on this. I think, Meghan, there's I don't know you, 173 00:08:27.879 --> 00:08:30.720 but you seem like the least authentic person I've ever 174 00:08:30.879 --> 00:08:33.360 not met. 175 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:35.080 Which which is there's some authenticity in that too, if 176 00:08:35.120 --> 00:08:36.600 you embrace. 177 00:08:36.240 --> 00:08:40.080 That, and I am the least authentic person you'll ever know, 178 00:08:40.279 --> 00:08:43.559 And that makes me authentic. But but no, I think 179 00:08:43.720 --> 00:08:44.519 Meghan needs. 180 00:08:44.320 --> 00:08:46.679 A final note. Bad idea, bad idea. 181 00:08:46.840 --> 00:08:50.440 I'm going to say, bad idea. But I agree with you, Megan. 182 00:08:50.559 --> 00:08:53.200 Keep doing what you're doing for the first part. 183 00:08:53.399 --> 00:08:57.919 Yeah good, All right. Next this is from Ben. He 184 00:08:58.000 --> 00:09:01.759 sent it via our Facebook page. Brian two things. First 185 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:04.080 of all, I asked a girl to a wedding on 186 00:09:04.120 --> 00:09:06.399 a first date. I thought I was. I thought it 187 00:09:06.440 --> 00:09:08.639 was going to be fun. I didn't know too many 188 00:09:08.679 --> 00:09:10.639 people there. It was a work related thing, so it 189 00:09:10.679 --> 00:09:12.639 wasn't like I was forcing her into a pool of 190 00:09:12.679 --> 00:09:14.879 my family and friends. It was outside on the beach. 191 00:09:14.919 --> 00:09:16.600 I thought it was a great idea. She thought it 192 00:09:16.639 --> 00:09:19.679 was way too much. So my first thing is do 193 00:09:19.720 --> 00:09:22.840 you think that's a good date idea? And secondly, what 194 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:24.960 did you think of the story about the couple who 195 00:09:25.000 --> 00:09:27.759 sent an invoice for the no shows at their recent wedding? 196 00:09:28.200 --> 00:09:32.200 Thanks you guys, keep me hopeful through the lockdown. All right, 197 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:33.600 let's go with the second part of this. First, did 198 00:09:33.639 --> 00:09:34.399 you see that story? 199 00:09:34.600 --> 00:09:35.320 Yes? 200 00:09:35.120 --> 00:09:37.320 Yes, say so. For those of you who are not familiar, 201 00:09:38.159 --> 00:09:40.120 there was a destination wedding. I think it was in 202 00:09:40.200 --> 00:09:45.480 Jamaica or the Bahamas, and a couple no show and 203 00:09:45.519 --> 00:09:47.480 I think they RSVPs and then they didn't show up, 204 00:09:47.519 --> 00:09:53.000 so the couple sent an invoice looking to be reimbursed 205 00:09:53.039 --> 00:09:59.919 for the places the expense of that. My opinion on 206 00:10:00.159 --> 00:10:02.919 that was it was petty. Who gives a shit if 207 00:10:02.919 --> 00:10:04.159 they don't show up, You don't have to be friends 208 00:10:04.159 --> 00:10:06.240 with them anymore. It didn't cost you anymore if they 209 00:10:06.279 --> 00:10:09.039 weren't there. Like if they were there, it's the same cost. 210 00:10:09.120 --> 00:10:13.639 I think it was dumb. I didn't like it. Just 211 00:10:13.679 --> 00:10:15.519 don't be friends with them anymore. First, well, what did 212 00:10:15.600 --> 00:10:16.799 you think of that when you heard it? 213 00:10:17.200 --> 00:10:19.399 I thought the same thing. I thought it was really 214 00:10:19.480 --> 00:10:23.600 like almost like borderline taxi, because bottom line, if you 215 00:10:23.639 --> 00:10:26.960 couldn't afford to have the wedding there, yeah, you shouldn't 216 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:28.320 have the wedding there. I mean, we could have gone 217 00:10:28.320 --> 00:10:31.080 to Destin, Florida and saved a ton of money, and 218 00:10:31.600 --> 00:10:33.320 that would have cost you twelve dollars a plate. So 219 00:10:33.360 --> 00:10:35.679 it's like, I just don't think you can do that. 220 00:10:35.840 --> 00:10:37.120 Things come out. People can't go. 221 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:39.799 Yeah, if you're rude and assholes, but you can't bill 222 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:40.559 people for that. 223 00:10:40.879 --> 00:10:42.679 If you bought the flight, that's different. 224 00:10:42.799 --> 00:10:44.840 But you didn't if you paid for their flight. 225 00:10:44.919 --> 00:10:46.320 Yeah, like if it was one of those where you 226 00:10:46.600 --> 00:10:48.480 paid for their flight and everything, like. 227 00:10:49.000 --> 00:10:50.759 You still can't ask because if you had to pay 228 00:10:50.759 --> 00:10:52.080 for their flight, they probably don't have it. 229 00:10:52.799 --> 00:10:53.480 That's true too. 230 00:10:54.480 --> 00:10:54.919 Oh wow. 231 00:10:55.080 --> 00:10:56.879 Either way, I feel like you just don't like people 232 00:10:56.919 --> 00:10:58.399 just don't show up. It's a wedding that happens all 233 00:10:58.440 --> 00:10:58.720 the time. 234 00:10:58.799 --> 00:10:59.919 It happens all the time. 235 00:11:00.159 --> 00:11:02.720 Completely disagree with both of you, all right, both of you. 236 00:11:03.720 --> 00:11:05.039 I think that write the check. 237 00:11:05.399 --> 00:11:12.320 That thing brilliant. Okay, brilliant. Sorry, if you show up 238 00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:14.840 for ten ten minutes late for dinner for me, I 239 00:11:14.879 --> 00:11:19.559 expect an apology note. Okay, so so, and and if 240 00:11:19.600 --> 00:11:24.279 I went through the trouble and and I thought enough 241 00:11:24.279 --> 00:11:27.120 about you to invite you to my wedding and pay 242 00:11:27.200 --> 00:11:29.120 for whatever it is that I'm supposed to pay for, 243 00:11:29.159 --> 00:11:31.639 which is fine. It's not about the money, it's about 244 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:34.840 the courtesy. If you don't show up at the wedding 245 00:11:34.919 --> 00:11:38.000 and don't give me a heads up and just are 246 00:11:38.039 --> 00:11:42.039 a no show. First of all, you're right, don't ever 247 00:11:42.080 --> 00:11:44.559 talk to them again after you get there, unless unless 248 00:11:44.559 --> 00:11:46.879 they're unless you're visiting them at the grave or in 249 00:11:46.879 --> 00:11:47.480 the hospital. 250 00:11:47.960 --> 00:11:52.279 Does it matter the relationship to the if it was 251 00:11:52.360 --> 00:11:55.759 just like they were somebody you didn't know that well, 252 00:11:55.799 --> 00:11:58.080 and they got on the wedding list and they were 253 00:11:58.080 --> 00:11:59.759 like a work colleague and they didn't shove, or if 254 00:11:59.799 --> 00:12:01.480 it was like your cousin, Does that matter? 255 00:12:01.600 --> 00:12:04.720 Did they RSVP? Yes? Apparently did they not show? 256 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:06.799 Yes, they deserve a bill. 257 00:12:10.639 --> 00:12:12.960 At the mailman and like get a little paid. 258 00:12:13.120 --> 00:12:15.799 It was a reasonably cheap bill. By the way, it 259 00:12:15.840 --> 00:12:16.320 wasn't that. 260 00:12:16.639 --> 00:12:21.159 It's not about the money. It's not about it's if 261 00:12:21.200 --> 00:12:25.399 it was twelve cents just it's it's about hey, buddy, 262 00:12:25.679 --> 00:12:27.799 you that was really really rude. 263 00:12:28.320 --> 00:12:30.159 I'm sorry. Yeah, yeah, my bad. 264 00:12:31.360 --> 00:12:32.759 That's it a phone call. 265 00:12:32.840 --> 00:12:33.519 Here's my venmo. 266 00:12:33.879 --> 00:12:37.720 Here here's the deal. I I once was showing houses 267 00:12:37.759 --> 00:12:40.759 to to this this client and they had me book book, book, 268 00:12:40.759 --> 00:12:43.639 book book, and then threw me a curveball. They wanted 269 00:12:43.679 --> 00:12:46.399 to go see this new construction while we're having this tour. 270 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:50.039 That was the entire day, and they they distracted me 271 00:12:50.639 --> 00:12:53.519 and I didn't show up to show a five million 272 00:12:53.559 --> 00:12:56.000 dollar house and the and the listing agent was there, 273 00:12:56.559 --> 00:12:59.960 opened up the house and waited and waited and waited 274 00:13:00.440 --> 00:13:03.960 and I completely spaced and that was my bad. But 275 00:13:04.000 --> 00:13:07.240 that was it was, it was, it was. It was 276 00:13:07.279 --> 00:13:11.919 a mistake. No. I felt so bad that I because 277 00:13:11.960 --> 00:13:14.840 I don't do that right. I don't. I don't diss 278 00:13:14.879 --> 00:13:19.480 people intentionally, and he he got really mad. It was 279 00:13:19.480 --> 00:13:21.720 a text message back and forth where he's like, I was, 280 00:13:21.799 --> 00:13:24.200 I waited for an hour and a half and I'm like, 281 00:13:24.320 --> 00:13:27.000 I'm so sorry, and then he said all it took 282 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:30.000 would have tooken was a text and I wrote back, 283 00:13:30.559 --> 00:13:33.120 you're right, and then I didn't know what else to say. 284 00:13:33.120 --> 00:13:37.000 There was no but but yeah, I sent. I went 285 00:13:37.039 --> 00:13:39.720 on to Facebook. I found out where he went to college. 286 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:41.799 I found out that he was a football fan. I 287 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:45.080 bought him the hat and the not a football fan, golf, 288 00:13:45.279 --> 00:13:47.399 he's a golf fan. I bought him golf balls with 289 00:13:47.440 --> 00:13:49.600 his college emblem on it and a hat and sent 290 00:13:49.600 --> 00:13:50.720 it to him as an apology. 291 00:13:52.480 --> 00:13:58.120 I would have sent the listen that was really shitty. 292 00:13:58.200 --> 00:14:00.840 We were hoping you were there, you know, and then 293 00:14:00.919 --> 00:14:03.480 left it up to them to be like, oh shit, 294 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:07.960 here's a better gift or something, which it just they 295 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:11.159 made it about the money and it shouldn't be about 296 00:14:11.200 --> 00:14:13.440 the money it should be about. People are rude, people 297 00:14:13.480 --> 00:14:15.360 do suck, And I'm one of the people who believe 298 00:14:15.440 --> 00:14:19.000 that if somebody invites me to your wedding, that means 299 00:14:19.000 --> 00:14:21.279 you want me there on the most important day of 300 00:14:21.320 --> 00:14:24.080 your life. I'm going. I've been to weddings all over 301 00:14:24.120 --> 00:14:26.279 the world where I'm like, I'm going to go to 302 00:14:26.480 --> 00:14:30.759 your wedding. And if they didn't think it was important 303 00:14:30.799 --> 00:14:34.679 now or whatever came up, you definitely owe an apology, 304 00:14:34.720 --> 00:14:36.759 and you definitely should be made to feel like shit. 305 00:14:36.879 --> 00:14:38.639 I don't think the three hundred bucks matters. 306 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:44.960 Yeah, I agree, and I agree on is completely passive aggressive. Yeah, however, 307 00:14:46.559 --> 00:14:50.000 it would feel so good to say to send a bill. 308 00:14:50.159 --> 00:14:53.120 Yeah, okay, reasonable, All right, let's get to the first part, 309 00:14:53.120 --> 00:14:56.159 which is the second part of this. I think asking 310 00:14:56.360 --> 00:14:59.240 somebody to a wedding on a first date is awesome. 311 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:03.320 It's a fun environment, it's a romantic environment. Like he said, 312 00:15:03.320 --> 00:15:06.960 it wasn't like it was like, come me at my 313 00:15:07.159 --> 00:15:09.639 entire family and make the person feel awkward. I think, 314 00:15:10.320 --> 00:15:12.919 go for it. You know, I've I've done that. I've 315 00:15:12.960 --> 00:15:15.600 been that, I've been a wedding date. I'm not the 316 00:15:15.600 --> 00:15:19.600 best wedding date because I'm probably not dancing, but and 317 00:15:19.639 --> 00:15:24.519 I'm a little introverted, so don't invite me. But I 318 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:26.200 like it. And I think him asking a girl for 319 00:15:26.200 --> 00:15:27.879 a wedding date, he's right, she's wrong. 320 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:31.200 I agree with that. I think as long as it's 321 00:15:31.240 --> 00:15:32.879 not your family. I think if it's your family, that's 322 00:15:32.879 --> 00:15:34.799 a little bit awkward, because that's a lot if I 323 00:15:35.080 --> 00:15:38.360 barely even know your name. But I think if it's 324 00:15:38.399 --> 00:15:41.039 like a coworker or even like just like kind of 325 00:15:41.039 --> 00:15:44.200 a mutual friend situation, I think that's such a fun date. 326 00:15:44.679 --> 00:15:47.320 It's literally free drinks, good food, I mean. 327 00:15:47.519 --> 00:15:49.480 And yeah, it's a really good date. 328 00:15:49.559 --> 00:15:51.480 Yeah. And there's a hundred other people you can talk 329 00:15:51.519 --> 00:15:52.240 to if it goes bad. 330 00:15:52.639 --> 00:15:56.440 Yeah, And if she tries really hard to catch the bouquet, 331 00:15:56.480 --> 00:15:59.360 I'm gonna know, I'm gonna bik Oh, she really cares about. 332 00:15:59.200 --> 00:15:59.799 She likes it. 333 00:16:00.080 --> 00:16:01.600 Yeah, where are probably next? 334 00:16:02.279 --> 00:16:05.879 I I agree. And if she thought it was a 335 00:16:05.879 --> 00:16:07.799 bad idea, she should have said no in the first place. 336 00:16:08.039 --> 00:16:11.080 But don't go and then do a Monday morning quarterback? 337 00:16:11.159 --> 00:16:13.440 Yeah you know. Yeah, so that was really awkward. And 338 00:16:13.679 --> 00:16:16.000 I'm not I'm not even sure it's a breaker if 339 00:16:16.000 --> 00:16:18.120 it's not. If it is a family wedding, it depends 340 00:16:18.159 --> 00:16:23.080 on your family. I one time got invited to uh, 341 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:26.919 Thanksgiving dinner on a first date. I was like, she's like, 342 00:16:27.000 --> 00:16:28.799 what do you do for Thanksgiving? I was like, honestly nothing, 343 00:16:28.960 --> 00:16:31.120 And so I tend to get those pity invites. 344 00:16:31.120 --> 00:16:31.480 What's a while? 345 00:16:31.519 --> 00:16:34.320 But she's like, listen, uh, because we were going to 346 00:16:34.360 --> 00:16:36.639 go out the next night. We already had plans to 347 00:16:36.720 --> 00:16:39.000 go on a first date, like the Saturday of Thanksgiving, 348 00:16:39.200 --> 00:16:42.080 and she's like, would this sounds weird? Would you like 349 00:16:42.120 --> 00:16:44.600 to come? There's a lot of people there. My family's 350 00:16:44.639 --> 00:16:47.440 big and fun and whatever. It was so fun. I 351 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:49.759 didn't end up liking her, but I really liked the 352 00:16:49.840 --> 00:16:53.440 family and it was kind of like she introduced me 353 00:16:54.440 --> 00:16:55.919 this is our first date, and it was like a 354 00:16:55.960 --> 00:16:58.240 running joke and it was fun. You know. Again, it 355 00:16:58.279 --> 00:17:02.279 depends on the environment and all that. But but people 356 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:04.920 just saying like, hey, let's just try this out. We're 357 00:17:04.920 --> 00:17:06.359 going to dive into the deep end of the pool 358 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:07.960 together and see where we go. I don't think there's 359 00:17:07.960 --> 00:17:08.640 anything wrong with that. 360 00:17:09.400 --> 00:17:12.960 I think if it's a first date, it's not like, oh, 361 00:17:13.039 --> 00:17:16.519 will you marry me my family. It's it's I think 362 00:17:16.559 --> 00:17:19.039 it's a perfectly appropriate thing and it's a good. 363 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:22.759 Way to dive in weddings. Weddings are fun. We all right, 364 00:17:22.839 --> 00:17:27.839 so good idea? Yes, yes, okay, all right, here's a 365 00:17:27.839 --> 00:17:30.279 good idea. Because I gotta pay maybe for somebody's wedding 366 00:17:30.279 --> 00:17:31.400 that I blow off. We got to take a quick 367 00:17:31.440 --> 00:17:33.000 break because I got to pay the bills around here, 368 00:17:33.039 --> 00:17:40.160 and we will be right back after this. And we 369 00:17:40.200 --> 00:17:43.119 are back. I'm here with Brad and Breed from Omanity 370 00:17:43.279 --> 00:17:46.400 and we are playing good idea, bad idea with a 371 00:17:46.400 --> 00:17:49.960 lot of dates suggestions, a lot of date ideas. And 372 00:17:50.079 --> 00:17:56.200 the next one is from men are men or men? 373 00:17:56.279 --> 00:17:58.160 Or Emmy and n E R. I think I like 374 00:17:58.200 --> 00:18:01.480 that name that the boys name or girl's name. I'm 375 00:18:01.480 --> 00:18:04.240 gonna find out second. I'm say guy Okay, I think 376 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:07.119 it's a guy men or menor oh it is a 377 00:18:07.119 --> 00:18:07.640 guy okay. 378 00:18:08.319 --> 00:18:08.480 Hi. 379 00:18:08.680 --> 00:18:11.240 I'm fifty two years old, just got out of a 380 00:18:11.240 --> 00:18:14.039 long relationship and before that I was married for eight years. 381 00:18:14.240 --> 00:18:16.960 I am starting to date again. And the one thing 382 00:18:17.000 --> 00:18:19.359 that I really do well that will really impress a 383 00:18:19.400 --> 00:18:22.319 woman is I am a gourmet cook and I am 384 00:18:22.359 --> 00:18:26.359 a specialist at cooking for two, which is actually a 385 00:18:26.400 --> 00:18:29.279 different talent from being a restaurant chaffer cooking for a family. 386 00:18:29.640 --> 00:18:33.480 The problem is, I would love to cook dinner for 387 00:18:33.559 --> 00:18:36.319 you is now seen as too forward, like I'm really 388 00:18:36.359 --> 00:18:39.200 inviting them over to kill or roofie them. That's a 389 00:18:39.240 --> 00:18:42.440 little excessive. I used to do this all the time. 390 00:18:42.960 --> 00:18:45.559 I assume not kill or roofie them. I used to 391 00:18:45.559 --> 00:18:47.160 do this all the time, and women loved it. Now 392 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:49.759 they don't. I know you're probably going to say, why 393 00:18:49.799 --> 00:18:51.960 not wait till the second or third date to ask 394 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:54.119 to cook for them? That's the problem. I don't do 395 00:18:54.279 --> 00:18:57.400 very well in other environments. I'm not relaxed, and I 396 00:18:57.519 --> 00:18:59.720 overthink it. I'm sure they would like me if they 397 00:18:59.720 --> 00:19:04.960 would just come over and try my strawberry caprace and 398 00:19:05.039 --> 00:19:07.960 pistachio pesto. It is out of this world, but I 399 00:19:07.960 --> 00:19:10.279 don't get the chance. I think it's still a wholesome 400 00:19:10.359 --> 00:19:12.400 date do. I just keep asking, and I hope the 401 00:19:12.480 --> 00:19:17.319