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detached from it, seriously detach from it. When you create
a difference in your life, which means the universe and
the and the God I served is going to do
all things well, you will start seeing that you will
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we're jumping right into our dear to see a voicemail
call ins and this one is entitled I'm celibate, but
I'm not ready for marriage yet. Let's see what our.
Speaker 2: Good CITs had to side. Let's see, let's see, let's see,
let's see what she had to say.
Speaker 3: Okay, dear to see you this one to let you
know that I am thirty three single, never been married,
no kids, so I would consider that at bacharette, I'm
also practicing celibacy, and I just wanted some advice on
what would you say to women who are practicing celibacy
but they're not sure if they're ready for marriage, but
they don't want to be single forever. And of course
I don't want to tell men this because I don't
want them to not have a reason to commit to me.
But also, when is it a good time to sally
bring it up unless he says something about it? But
I obviously don't put myself in compromising situations. And I
know this single season for me is just a lot
of the self love, self work that is done off
of the couch. So I just wanted some advice on
what do you say to women who are open to
dating but they're practicing celibacy. Thank you for everything you do,
love your girl.
Speaker 2: Bye ah, I love that. I love that.
Speaker 1: Look join the club because so am I. Okay, so
this is just a side note. And I have no
idea if you've ever been intimate or have had sexual
encounters before, but it's celibacy is like you never done
anything and you waiting to marriage and baby, a pure.
Speaker 2: Virgin, pure, pure as day.
Speaker 1: Abstinence is somebody then cracks you before and now you're
locking it down.
Speaker 2: Okay, So that's just a little Now.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I got hoping you, I got faith in you, baby,
so you could be thirty three and never I have
friends that are thirty five, thirty seven, never, never, never
done anything.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm not sure if you're a celibate or
if you're absent.
Speaker 1: Nonetheless, I get the point, okay, because I'm a girl's girl,
so I get what you try and say. Anyways, a
couple things I want to say about this. Do not
tie your abstinence or celibacy to marriage. And I want
y'all to work hear me out here.
Speaker 2: Okay, this is.
Speaker 1: Of course a vow that you've made to yourself, and
I'm guessing that it's also has some type of spiritual foundation, right.
I think that the additional pressure that you're not ready
for marriage and you're also refraining from intimacy is adding
a layer that is really unnecessary.
Speaker 2: And I don't know.
Speaker 1: If it's that you feel as though, well, if you're
not ready for marriage, that weight may be a little
bit longer, and so you don't want to get somebody
involved that may not be up for the weight in
that kind of way.
Speaker 2: So there's that.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure that's kind of the angle. But I
honestly think the whenever you're ready for marriage or you
being ready not being ready for marriage, it's really chased
an unnecessary layer. Girl, you're already locking it down anyway.
Speaker 2: That's enough stress. Okay, that's enough stress.
Speaker 1: How about we focus on look the hormones raging and
the stress of not doing it as well as the
men that you have to Number one, You gotta you.
Speaker 2: Gotta catch a fish, all right.
Speaker 1: You already know. Ain't that many of them out there anyway? Okay,
you gotta catch a fish. You gotta like the boy.
You gotta get them in a relationship. Okay, you gotta
get on the same page with them. Then you gotta
get them to want to commit. You got, babe. We
get a whole bunch of stuff to deal with before
we get to what if I'm taking too long or
I'm not ready for marriage right now? Okay, So that's
one thing that I want to say, don't let's not
overstress ourselves, right. The second thing that I want to
say is that I hate okay, I hate to say
this because it always seems like it's it's it can be.
Women can be unsure, right. It always makes it seem like, well,
maybe you're not sure about what you want. And I
want to say that women do have autonomy and it's
not I believe you. If you say that you're not
ready for marriage right like, that is totally okay and
plus comma okay, but.
Speaker 2: The right man can make you ready for marriage. I'm
gonna tell you that. Let me say this.
Speaker 1: I have said things that I really kind of didn't
want to do or I wasn't open to. Now, granted,
this was not me defying my own boundaries, however, it
was there were things that made me open. So I
used to be no kids, no kids, no kids, no kids,
And then I met amazing fathers that had great relationships
with their child's mother, that did things well and it
was just good. Right, So it was like, you know,
this ain't half bad. So all I'm saying is that
you're an end. This is the this is girl to girl,
because you called you called in to me, so this
is this is my opinion. You're thirty three. I'm not
saying rush down the aisle, okay, But all I'm saying
is that come from a hearts posture of being open
and available. Because if you meet a man that's saying,
don't rush, no worries, no worries. Of course, this will
be difficult because I'm attracted to you and I desire
intimacy from you, and I want to be in deep
connection with you. Of course that may be difficult. But
if you down, I'm down. If you rocking, I'm rolling.
Them kind of man may get you to that also
quicker than you think, my good sister, quicker than you think.
So all I'm saying is that if you feel like
you are not ready heard, you heard you, but I
would not. I would not, I would not consume that
additional pressure that you may feel like you're taking too long. Lastly,
you didn't quite ask me this, but I do think
that you should. You should not share that you are
abstinence celibate with a man that you are just meeting,
getting to know and dating. A lot of people ask
me why, number one, why would you share that type
of deep information to somebody that you don't even know
had the even possibility of getting there with you crossing
that base?
Speaker 2: Okay, why should that?
Speaker 4: Women?
Speaker 1: Now you're gonna have all these meetings you met on TENDERHNDE,
bumble and be okay running around knowing what you got
going on, and they never had the potential to be
in a relationship with you anyway, let alone have access
to your body.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: A lot of women tell men that just so that
they can see if they could shoot them away. Right,
Let's see if you're scared, Let's see if you gonna
how you're gonna handle that. And I just don't think
that you should weaponize something that's self sacred in your journey.
You shouldn't weaponize your journey. And a lot of women
use abstinence and so licy to kind of see if
the man how he gonna respond. Let me tell him
upfront to see if he down. And I'm gonna tell
you this, baby, These men will say, oh, okay, yeah,
no problem, and they gonna come over to your house
and y'all gonna be netflixing and chilling, and he gonna
hold a strength, he's gonna have restraint, he's gonna have discipline,
he's gonna behave himself. And then he's gonna come over
two weeks later and he's gonna have re strength and
he's gonna control himself. And then you're gonna go over
to his place, okay, and you're gonna have he's gonna
have restrength, he's gonna control himself, and you're gonna be like, Wow,
this man never tried anything with me. He must really
care about me, he must really be okay with that.
And then you're gonna start getting a soft spot for him,
and then things gonna start tingling down there, and then
you're gonna be so mesmerized by his discipline and his
sexual discipline and his ability to not put sex at
the forefront. And then your legs are gonna be open,
Why does a baby? Your lad's gonna be just they
just gonna they're gonna start going like this, and you're
gonna be like.
Speaker 2: What's happening, what's happening, what's happening, what's happening, and they
just gonna go.
Speaker 1: Next thing, you know, you're gonna be in the bed
with that man, and next thing you know, he gonna
be like, checkmate, gotcha.
Speaker 2: That's why I recommend that you don't tell these meal
because men are very very very very smart, and they
love a challenge. So watch yourself.
Speaker 1: Keep up now, y'all heard, but I said, keep up. Okay,
you got it. You cool, We got that. Okay, perfect?
Speaker 2: Perfect.
Speaker 1: Dear to see a Dear to see a voicemail number two.
Let's see what we got. This one is entitled the
bathroom gave me? Oh, his bathroom gave me the ick?
Am I doing too much?
Speaker 2: Nope? Let's see what augustis said.
Speaker 4: Okay, dear to see you.
Speaker 5: I am a single mom recently just kind of separated
from my situation over the last year or so, and
I'm finally diving back into dating, like dating, dating full throttle. Anyway,
long story short, how do you feel about guys who?
I get it, guys are not gonna be clean like
a woman. They're not gonna have their house spick and stand,
cleaning in the crevices and whatnot. So where do you
draw the line. I recently went over a guy's house
and his bathroom really kind of turned me off. And
I'm kind of figuring out, like, Eh, do I keep
talking to you? Or is this something that I could
look past? Maybe it was just an off day. He
really didn't expect me to come over. It was kind
of spare of the moment, and I asked yous his
bathroom last minute. So I don't know what are your
thoughts on this?
Speaker 2: Okay, So I don't have.
Speaker 1: I don't have all the context right to know kind
of what the relationship is outside of that, right. So
is this somebody that you're getting to know and you
just renting his bathroom type of thing, or it is
somebody that you're actually you actually been dating. You like him,
He's consistent and his bathroom was kind of off. I'm
assuming if this is the first time that you went
into his bathroom, So I'm gonna veer on the side
of this is kind of more new than established relationship.
Speaker 2: Okay, how nasty was it? Girl?
Speaker 1: Call back in and let me know how nasty was it?
Because I have questions. I do think that now. I
think that we need to stop giving men excuses because
I know some very clean men.
Speaker 2: Hell, I be over there.
Speaker 1: I be over there paranoid, walking on eggshells because I'm like,
is my hair gonna be in the bathroom?
Speaker 2: Is he gonna be tripping about the curling irons? Is
he gonna be? I know men cleaner than me, So
we have to stop giving men excuses.
Speaker 1: Men should absolutely know how to keep a home. Your
bathroom should not be nasty. You shouldn't have pee on
a toile to see and two paints everywhere, and yo,
you're shaving your beard nests all over the sink and
stuff like. We have to stop giving men excuses. They're
more than capable. Okay, so there's that. I can see
him being not as tidy as you would like. But
if that bathroom was absolutely disgusting, we have it. We
have a problem. We truly, truly do now is that
something to steer away from? Like should I continue talking
to him?
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think so, Okay, I truly don't. I think
that to your point number one, he lives alone. Maybe
he's a bachelor, it's a it's a bachelor pad. Again,
that's not an excuse, but I can see it and
I can understand it. Additionally, right, I don't want you
to sign up to clean his place, right, I'm not
saying that. Okay, you can help him be more of
a tidy person, but your woman as a job is
to bring light to some of his some of his
blind spot.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: And again I'm not I'm not telling you to sign
up for being Molly the maid, but as a woman,
there's gonna be a gentle touch that you can add
to his life. So maybe it can just be like, babe,
you have to clean your bathroom up, Like, let's go
awa here and clean this up. Like, also tell him
that when you come, you ain't coming back over there
unless things are clean. And I mean, don't see it
like that, but you get what I'm saying. Like a man,
this is one of a green flag as well. A
man that will accommodate you right, if he know that
you like reasoning wine or you like you're a sharp
nay girl, you're gonna start coming over to that man,
gonna start having your wine. You got a cold or
something like that, you come over there. He's gonna have
the things that you need. You're on a dietary restriction.
He's gonna make sure that you have whatever your diet
consists of. So you're gonna tell him, like, hey, you're
interested in him. You gonna just be like, what was
up with your bathroom? You need help cleaning it up?
I can't be over here. You gonna get a nasty
bathroom whatever kind of light, flirty, polite way. Also, nobody's
house is clean all the time, Okay, So you want
to make sure that you're giving him the same grace
that he's given you. Again, I don't know how how
bad the bathroom was, but it was icky enough for
you to say something. So I think or mention it
or call in to me. So I think that there
is like a self check that you have to do.
It's this really really bad?
Speaker 2: Are you do?
Speaker 4: You?
Speaker 1: You're gonna want grace one day, maybe when y'all have
them kids and them dollers running around that bathroom may
be a little bit nasty, you know, was it an
off week for him? So I don't think it's given.
Don't talk to him anymore, But I do think that
you should give him a little bit of grace, and
I think that you should. Hey, we only got one
data point. Check back the next week. Check back the
next week, so that you can see what you're getting
yourself into. Also, are it's just a self checked to
see if you just picky or not?
Speaker 2: Meaning that do.
Speaker 1: You just have an eye for these things? Some people
care about things more than others, And it's not bad
either way. But maybe that's his bathroom. Would his bathroom
have been nasty to another person?
Speaker 2: Or is it you?
Speaker 1: Because that's also a point of self reflection. Are you
able to step outside of that and say, baseline, is
this a nasty, nasty bathroom or do I just have
a higher standard for a bathroom and cleanliness?
Speaker 2: Is it me or is it him?
Speaker 1: Okay, So those are all the things that I would
all the things you should think about. And I think
that you should run it back in that bathroom and
see kind of what's going on. You know, I think
you should give him a little grace because you never know.
And I think you should report back because.
Speaker 2: I want to know. I want to know what is
really given. Give people grave, y'all. Life is hard.
Speaker 1: People got mental illnesses, People are suffered with depression, anxiety,
people work and people losing their jobs.
Speaker 2: People got kids. People got a lot of stuff going on.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Give them a little grace. Give a man a little grace.
You never never know, and you may be a helpmate
for him in that department. That's why he won a wife. Anyway,
Tell me if I'm nasty, you know, give him. Give
him another chance, girl, Give another chance, Okay, y'all. Voicemail
number three dear to see it, and this one is
entitled why do men always leave me?
Speaker 2: Ooh, well, that hurt my heart. My goodness, let's see hi,
to see him.
Speaker 6: My name is Maya Alexander. I'm twenty three years old
and I am a college student, and I'm having a
hard time finding not just the right one, but finding
someone who is going to stay. For some odd reason,
every in any last relationship I've or encounter I've ever
had with a guy has always ended up with some
leaving and I have no idea why, because I do
everything right, I'm giving, I'm understanding, I'm and I think
I'm overly doing it. Maybe I don't know. And even
though I'm twenty three, I want to be married, I
want to have kids, I want that kind of lifestyle.
But it seems like every dude just has an excuse
or reason to leave, or it seems like there's always
some secret girlfriend or some glame mass excuse. And I'm
just getting tired of it, and I just don't know
what to do. And at this point, I'm just getting
sick am in overall, I'm tired of wasting my time.
I'm trying to give my heart. I'm trying to give
them my ole. What should I do? Can you give
me some advice? I really appreciate it. Thank you to
see you.
Speaker 1: So, first of all, you're twenty three, and I'm really
saying to look, I'm a little older than you. Okay,
I'm a little older than you. Right, So here's here's
a couple of things we have to master the art
of attachment. And when I'm telling y'all the art of attachment,
I'm usually talking about relationships, right, I'm just talking about men.
Speaker 2: I'm just telling y'all to pull back, pull back off.
You know, I'm usually talking about that.
Speaker 1: This time I'm talking about the the detachment of the
idea of things. It could be friendships, it could be
a goal that you have, it can be intolerance, and oh,
indifference in difference of things attracts when you don't care
if you do or you don't.
Speaker 2: It attracts things to you.
Speaker 1: And so I think this whole. I'm twenty three. I
want to be married. I want a relationship beas men.
He detached from it, seriously detach from it. When you
create in difference in your life, which means the universe
and the and the God I served is going to
do all things well, you will start seeing that you
will get a lot more of the things that you want.
It's kind of in a category of he'll come when
you're not looking for him. Now, y'all know, I have
my qualms with that saying right, because I think it
deters women from not investing in that part of their
life and basically making it irrelevant and kind of ignoring
it and saying, girl, you have to not want love
and order for love to come to you. And I
think that that's the one of the biggest scams, right.
But it is in the category of if you that
he'll come if you when you're not looking. It's in
the category that he'll come when you're not looking. Okay,
I think that you person personally should detach from the
idea of dating and getting a boyfriend, getting a man,
being married. You're twenty three, my love, You're twenty three,
and this is not the demeaning you're young.
Speaker 2: You don't know nothing. I'm talking to you from.
Speaker 1: There's so much life ahead of you, and what you
want to what you want to do is actually prepare
yourself for the life that you want. You're not prepared yet.
You're a young adult, right, and so the desire can
still be there. But you also want to be the
best version of yourself for him. And I want us
to stay here in this moment. If you are in
a place now that you're saying, all these men leave me,
they just seem to walk out, and I'm getting sick
of it. You ain't prepared to be nobody wife anyway, Okay,
you just baseline, not them out there, vacuumen not they're out.
Speaker 2: They've been a mess up.
Speaker 1: My video Okay, you're not prepared to be a wife anyway,
you hear me, So you gotta take your you have
to take some baby steps. You have to take a
little bit of a little bit steps back. Additionally, what
I want to say is find out where that wound is.
If you're constantly like, why why, why why aren't they
aren't they leaving? I think it's too twofold. It's good
to be curious about that because you're like, is this
something about me and what I'm doing?
Speaker 2: But make sure that it's not just.
Speaker 1: Like a a a a place of weakness, a place
of feeling unworthy, a place of not feeling deserving of
and you want to more so take that as a
place of like interpersonal development, Like wow.
Speaker 2: Is this me?
Speaker 1: Is this something that I'm giving off? Am I giving
off daddy wounds? Am I giving off abandonment wounds? Am
I giving off the orphan woond? Am I giving off
low self esteem? And my vibrating low and my giving
off insecurity? That's the only reason why you should be
asking why a man left you. Okay, Other than that,
like you said, it could be secret girlfriends, It could
be we not gonna make their issue our issue. How
people treat you is about them, It's not about you, Okay,
So all encompassing. I think you need to detach from
the idea of dating. You will get so much coming
because you have so much more abundance. And I also
think that you should take your time and really develop yourself, okay, personality, drive, career,
your physical presence, all of those things, so that you
can prepare yourself for the man that's coming your way,
because he's coming.
Speaker 2: Got a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful. Y'all, these voicemails be going too fast.
I was about to say, voice my number three. Baby,
we just got to voicemail number three. We just got
through voice morel number three. I literally we're going through
the too fast, okay, okay, So our next segment is
our fragrance.
Speaker 2: Fragrance segments. It's called, of course, to see it you
smell good?
Speaker 1: Okay, Now this I told y'all that I was gonna
start to try to review the fragrance from the last
week to see. Now, the last time I talked to y'all,
I was going to a lunch, and I believe y'all know,
I got a little adhg. So I'm hoping I'm talking
about the one from last week. I think it was
this one. It was a league premier by rue broke up. Now,
I did wear this fragrance out and nobody said anything. Well,
the girl that I went out with on the little
dinner lunch things, she didn't quite mention it. Now, I
always smell good, so maybe she was just like, oh
to see it, just smelling good like she always up.
Speaker 4: But I didn't.
Speaker 2: I didn't feel anything grand about it. Okay. Now this
is supposed to be.
Speaker 1: The the kind of less expensive version of the is
it hibiscus mahaje or something like that?
Speaker 2: That that fragrance by uh was this aint crazy Massavelli.
Speaker 1: Y'all know what I'm talking about. I just completely butchered that. Okay,
But it's something like Mason Cravelli or something like that,
the hibiscus maja mahage whatever it's called. Okay, pronunciation police
will be blocked. Okay. So I'm gonna maybe I should
wear it again to the airport today. I shouldn't wear
light fragrances today. But anyways, we would report back. I
would just say mid nothing nothing you.
Speaker 2: Know, grand about it.
Speaker 1: But now okay, but now on to the newer, uh
fragrance of the day.
Speaker 4: Let's see. Okay, hold on, where is my? Where is my?
Speaker 1: Okay, let's just go to the thing cause I kept
it alright. So the fragrance of the day here we
have all Contrario by Titiana Torrensi. Okay, Now I got
a couple issues with this fragrance just off the rip. Y'all,
Look how small this is. I just spend my money
on this.
Speaker 2: The t this, this is, this is deceiving.
Speaker 1: Why is it only this much fragrance in here for
all the money that I paid?
Speaker 2: Hey, y'all know this is.
Speaker 1: One of my fr my favorite fragrance houses, Miss Titiana Torrensy,
Tiana Torensy count show.
Speaker 2: Days what I who? Who you're playing with? And it's
supposed to be one point seventy five ounce?
Speaker 4: I don't believe it.
Speaker 2: I don't believe it.
Speaker 4: Huh.
Speaker 1: Anyways, the main accords here are vanilla, sweet, woody warm spice, CaCO, nutty, amber, powdery, floral, bostomacs. Okay,
so let's let's get into some of the notes. So
this fragrance is for women and men. Our contrario was
launching twenty fifteen. The notes behind the fragrance is hollow, torensy.
Top notes are cacao, cacao pod, malt, and ebony wood.
Middle notes are vanilla, tanka bean, and orchid. Bass notes
are sugarcane, hazel nut, sandal wood, and Benzoing. Sounds very grown,
sounds very warm.
Speaker 4: So let's see, let's see.
Speaker 2: You know how I feel about this?
Speaker 1: If you want to go grimond but not too sweet,
I feel like this is more n earthy, nutty side.
I think the cacalpod, the ebony wood middle notes, and
there is vanilla in tanca bee. But if you don't
want that like gormand sweet, sweet sweet vanilla, but you
wanna give almost like vanilla base, but not very too
much too sweet, because there is sugarcane in here as well.
But it's not that sweet, y'all. It's not that sweet.
I think it gives more nutty and earthy.
Speaker 2: Where would I wear this?
Speaker 1: It's a very cozy fragrance, but it's not giving bedtime.
Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. This is not giving.
Speaker 1: This is too grown and too too great of a
blend for it to be like a bedtime sin. This
is not a skin sin, it's not a bedtime sent okay.
Speaker 4: But.
Speaker 2: It's cozy. This is more of a false set.
Speaker 1: I think this is more warm. It's what's raining outside,
so I feel cozy. Okay, it's raining right now, so
this is more of a cozy, warm thing, fireplace, marshmallows,
police pajamas, furry socks.
Speaker 2: You get my vibe.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's given pajama party, girls night in, cozy, cozy, cozy, cozy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's real cozy and warm. Mm hmm. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't know what a benzoin smell like, but not
in a bad way before, y'all, not in a bad way.
You do get this, like, don't benzoin smell like medicine?
You do get this like kind of like almost like
stale metal medicine smell. If that makes any sense.
Speaker 2: Is that the benzoin? I don't know. I gotta look
at what benzoin is. I don't know. Anyways, I will
report back.
Speaker 1: I'll report back on on that because I'm not you know,
it's cool, it's it's warm, it's warm, it's warm. I
got that from my good girl, the perfume princess. She said,
people are asleep on our contrario from Tisyana and Trensey,
and so I went out and bought it. I got
a text her and telling Zobe I bought the thing.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: I bought it now. Now, now you bet not be
lying to me. You better not be lying to me. Okay, y'all,
onto our red flag report. It's entitled private Relationship or
Strategic Launch.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: A new conversation going is going viral after an article
from Essence confirmed that Lotto is pregnant. You know, y'all,
I don't read what I'm going to talk about. I
don't even listen to your voicemails until I am live
in filming because I really really really want authenticity and
organic responses, y'all. My heart just dropped reading the title
of this Okay, reading okay.
Speaker 2: The first line, okay.
Speaker 1: Essen's confirmed a lot of was pregnant, while also seemingly
revealing her relationship with twenty one seven in a subtle
but very intentional way. The rapper announced her pregnancy through
her album, showing her baby bump on the cover, on
the cover art, and in her music video. But what
really got people talking was the moment fans notice a
man's hand on her stomach with which men which many
quickly identify as twenty five savage. For years, there have
been rumors about the two, dating from collaboration to vacations
to even fans spotting tattoos, but neither of them have
fully confirmed their relationship publicly until now. Instead of a
direct announcement, this moment felt like a soft launch where
the relationship is revealed indirectly, allowing the public to piece
things together rather than being told outright. And that's where
the red flat conversation begins because in today's culture, many
people are choosing to keep their relationships private and selectively
public or selectively public, especially when it comes to social
media and public perception. But when major life moments like
pregnancy are shared while the relationship is so remain somewhat
undefined or uncle farmed, it raises questions about intention, timing,
and transparency. Is this a case of protecting privacy and
controlling the narrative or is the sign of someone being
comfortable sharing milestones but not fully claiming the relationship publicly.
Red flag question if someone is willing to publicly share
a life changing moment like a pregnancy, but still chooses
to keep the relationship it self low key or loosely defined.
Is that intentional privacy or could it be a red
flect that the relationship isn't being fully acknowledged.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you this. Here's what I'll say.
Speaker 1: I've never felt so strongly that an invisible man was
so much in love with her that she was with him.
We haven't heard a heat about from twenty one Savage
about his relationship with Lotto.
Speaker 2: But I think that man loved that girl, Dawn. I
think that man love that girl down. I truly, truly, truly,
truly believe that because went up.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you this, Loto been out the way.
She ain't got no real beef with nobody. She been happy,
she been glowing, She's been doing her thing. And that's
how you know that you kind of love properly. Now
we all know, the biggest elephant in the room is
that this man is supposed to be married and have
three children and kids or something elsewhere. Hey, I don't
know nothing about that. I don't know what is happening.
I don't know what's going on. That man could have
been he could not be married anymore, he could I
don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know. We don't know. But all Mama say
is that if she cool with it, who are we?
If she cool with it, who are we?
Speaker 1: I'm not here to judge nobody and what they have
going on. I don't know twenty one Savage. I don't
know if he's married or not. I don't know what
kind of father he is. I don't know anything, but
I'm gonna tell you this. I think that man love
that girl down and at the end of the day,
he didn't shy away everybody know them tattoos as he is.
He didn't shy away from that music video. So he's
comfortable with stepping out to the forefront. He said, I'm the.
Speaker 2: Owner of this house. That's my child, and this is
my woman. That's that Lotto. I love Lotto. I love Lotto.
Speaker 1: I genuinely, genuinely do. And I think that a lot
of the limelight that has been on her has been
like my me and my me and my man dad
came from Lotto. That literally, that sound, that audio came
from Lotto. And I think that she is stepping into
a new chapter in her life. I think that she
seems to be happy and healthy. I think that she
is ready for this stage. Who knows how it came about,
but I think that she seems to be ready for
it and she just genuinely seems happy. That's all that
I'm gonna say. As far as the privacy of the relationship, Okay,
as far as the privacy of the relationship, I don't
really think that it's been that that that private. And
we all see what happens when you step on a
red carpet with these people. We all see what happens
when you are in the limelight. I think we need
to be more comfortable with people keeping their business their business.
Because I'm gonna tell you this, I'm just gonna pop out, Mary.
You may not see me frolicking all over the internet
with a man, now, don't hold me to that, because
who knows what this man is gonna be. But I
don't see anything wrong with it. I think that you know,
we are over consumers and everything can be found on
the internet, so we are always looking to see We're
nosy people. We feel entitled to people's business.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I think people had already assumed that she was pregnant,
and now we know. She said seems to be happy,
and I think he's happy as well.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you this.
Speaker 1: Lono got cuffed real quickly, really quickly. They got to
get Loto ain't been a single artist doing her thing
for that long, like I think probably. I mean, I
know that she's been rapping for a very very real
young long time since she's been young. But I think
when she kind of stepped on the scene, she.
Speaker 2: Got cuughed quick.
Speaker 1: So it's not given you know, ran through or I
dated her and they dated her and she dated him.
Then it sounds like a happy home to me.
Speaker 2: Now, I just.
Speaker 1: Hope for the best, Like we don't want, we don't
want to create all of these baby mamas, right, So
I do hope that their relationship is good. I hope
that that it has longevity, and I hope that she
is happy, and I hope that she has a healthy pregnancy.
And I don't see nothing wrong with how she has
kept it quiet because I think that Cete, that's the
thing you want to find, you a man that even
if you're not talking, we know everybody know that that
love is there. And I feel like that Lotto is
a representation of that. Now, this don't get no bright ideas, baby,
I'm not telling you to go where I'll find a
man that's gonna keep you a secret, get pregnant by him.
Speaker 2: And then and then lost launch a baby bump.
Speaker 1: Don't get no bright ideas because you ain't Lotto and
you ain't got a lot of money. Okay, don't get
any bright ideas. Maybe because you will be in a
section eight apartment with Tyreek that ain't taking care of you. Okay,
so let's not get no bright ideas, all right. But
what I will say is that I feel like you
can see through her persona and how she's living her life,
that she's well kept and well loved. I will say
that I think it's absolutely genuine. So anyways, anyways, that's
my thoughts on that. Thank y'all for another episode of
There to See You. Okay, listen, I am about to
be running out of here to the airport. I hope
y'all enjoyed this episode, and I will see y'all next time.
Speaker 2: Bye now