1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:05,559 Speaker 1: And difference of things attracts. When you don't care if 2 00:00:05,559 --> 00:00:10,800 you do or you don't, it attracts things to you. 3 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:14,000 And so I think this whole. I'm twenty three. I 4 00:00:14,039 --> 00:00:16,519 want to be married. I want a relationship. These men 5 00:00:16,679 --> 00:00:21,719 detached from it, seriously detach from it. When you create 6 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:26,760 a difference in your life, which means the universe and 7 00:00:27,079 --> 00:00:29,760 the and the God I served is going to do 8 00:00:29,839 --> 00:00:33,240 all things well, you will start seeing that you will 9 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:53,600 get a lot more of the things that you want. Hey, y'all, 10 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,359 welcome back to dear to see a job. 11 00:00:56,560 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 2: It is a very rainy day. 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Our h renee, I love it and listen. 49 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:01,759 Teach them young, Teach him young, Teach him young. So 50 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:05,319 we're jumping right into our dear to see a voicemail 51 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:10,080 call ins and this one is entitled I'm celibate, but 52 00:03:10,199 --> 00:03:13,599 I'm not ready for marriage yet. Let's see what our. 53 00:03:13,479 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 2: Good CITs had to side. Let's see, let's see, let's see, 54 00:03:16,439 --> 00:03:17,719 let's see what she had to say. 55 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:22,439 Speaker 3: Okay, dear to see you this one to let you 56 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:27,039 know that I am thirty three single, never been married, 57 00:03:27,199 --> 00:03:30,080 no kids, so I would consider that at bacharette, I'm 58 00:03:30,159 --> 00:03:34,840 also practicing celibacy, and I just wanted some advice on 59 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,919 what would you say to women who are practicing celibacy 60 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,159 but they're not sure if they're ready for marriage, but 61 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:43,800 they don't want to be single forever. And of course 62 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,039 I don't want to tell men this because I don't 63 00:03:46,039 --> 00:03:48,840 want them to not have a reason to commit to me. 64 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,639 But also, when is it a good time to sally 65 00:03:51,719 --> 00:03:54,879 bring it up unless he says something about it? But 66 00:03:55,319 --> 00:03:58,879 I obviously don't put myself in compromising situations. And I 67 00:03:58,919 --> 00:04:01,439 know this single season for me is just a lot 68 00:04:01,479 --> 00:04:04,840 of the self love, self work that is done off 69 00:04:04,879 --> 00:04:07,080 of the couch. So I just wanted some advice on 70 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:09,479 what do you say to women who are open to 71 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:12,479 dating but they're practicing celibacy. Thank you for everything you do, 72 00:04:12,719 --> 00:04:13,280 love your girl. 73 00:04:13,319 --> 00:04:15,919 Speaker 2: Bye ah, I love that. I love that. 74 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 1: Look join the club because so am I. Okay, so 75 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:20,279 this is just a side note. And I have no 76 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,160 idea if you've ever been intimate or have had sexual 77 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:28,240 encounters before, but it's celibacy is like you never done 78 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,959 anything and you waiting to marriage and baby, a pure. 79 00:04:30,759 --> 00:04:33,399 Speaker 2: Virgin, pure, pure as day. 80 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:39,160 Speaker 1: Abstinence is somebody then cracks you before and now you're 81 00:04:39,199 --> 00:04:39,879 locking it down. 82 00:04:40,199 --> 00:04:41,639 Speaker 2: Okay, So that's just a little Now. 83 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 4: I don't know. 84 00:04:42,439 --> 00:04:44,319 Speaker 1: I got hoping you, I got faith in you, baby, 85 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,360 so you could be thirty three and never I have 86 00:04:46,439 --> 00:04:51,160 friends that are thirty five, thirty seven, never, never, never 87 00:04:51,199 --> 00:04:51,759 done anything. 88 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:53,439 Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm not sure if you're a celibate or 89 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:53,959 if you're absent. 90 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,399 Speaker 1: Nonetheless, I get the point, okay, because I'm a girl's girl, 91 00:04:56,439 --> 00:04:59,639 so I get what you try and say. Anyways, a 92 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:03,160 couple things I want to say about this. Do not 93 00:05:03,639 --> 00:05:09,920 tie your abstinence or celibacy to marriage. And I want 94 00:05:09,959 --> 00:05:11,720 y'all to work hear me out here. 95 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,519 Speaker 2: Okay, this is. 96 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 1: Of course a vow that you've made to yourself, and 97 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:24,920 I'm guessing that it's also has some type of spiritual foundation, right. 98 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:28,839 I think that the additional pressure that you're not ready 99 00:05:28,879 --> 00:05:33,800 for marriage and you're also refraining from intimacy is adding 100 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,800 a layer that is really unnecessary. 101 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:37,959 Speaker 2: And I don't know. 102 00:05:37,959 --> 00:05:41,439 Speaker 1: If it's that you feel as though, well, if you're 103 00:05:41,519 --> 00:05:43,639 not ready for marriage, that weight may be a little 104 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,480 bit longer, and so you don't want to get somebody 105 00:05:46,519 --> 00:05:51,399 involved that may not be up for the weight in 106 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:52,439 that kind of way. 107 00:05:54,959 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 2: So there's that. 108 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,199 Speaker 1: I'm not sure that's kind of the angle. But I 109 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:01,639 honestly think the whenever you're ready for marriage or you 110 00:06:01,879 --> 00:06:05,040 being ready not being ready for marriage, it's really chased 111 00:06:05,319 --> 00:06:10,240 an unnecessary layer. Girl, you're already locking it down anyway. 112 00:06:10,319 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 2: That's enough stress. Okay, that's enough stress. 113 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: How about we focus on look the hormones raging and 114 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:20,759 the stress of not doing it as well as the 115 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:23,399 men that you have to Number one, You gotta you. 116 00:06:23,399 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 2: Gotta catch a fish, all right. 117 00:06:25,199 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: You already know. Ain't that many of them out there anyway? Okay, 118 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:30,959 you gotta catch a fish. You gotta like the boy. 119 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,319 You gotta get them in a relationship. Okay, you gotta 120 00:06:33,319 --> 00:06:34,879 get on the same page with them. Then you gotta 121 00:06:34,879 --> 00:06:36,720 get them to want to commit. You got, babe. We 122 00:06:36,879 --> 00:06:39,879 get a whole bunch of stuff to deal with before 123 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:44,639 we get to what if I'm taking too long or 124 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:47,680 I'm not ready for marriage right now? Okay, So that's 125 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:50,879 one thing that I want to say, don't let's not 126 00:06:50,959 --> 00:06:55,360 overstress ourselves, right. The second thing that I want to 127 00:06:55,399 --> 00:07:01,839 say is that I hate okay, I hate to say 128 00:07:01,879 --> 00:07:06,839 this because it always seems like it's it's it can be. 129 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:11,199 Women can be unsure, right. It always makes it seem like, well, 130 00:07:11,199 --> 00:07:13,399 maybe you're not sure about what you want. And I 131 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:17,079 want to say that women do have autonomy and it's 132 00:07:17,199 --> 00:07:20,399 not I believe you. If you say that you're not 133 00:07:20,519 --> 00:07:24,879 ready for marriage right like, that is totally okay and 134 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:33,399 plus comma okay, but. 135 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:33,279 Speaker 2: The right man can make you ready for marriage. I'm 136 00:07:33,279 --> 00:07:35,439 gonna tell you that. Let me say this. 137 00:07:35,959 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: I have said things that I really kind of didn't 138 00:07:39,959 --> 00:07:43,160 want to do or I wasn't open to. Now, granted, 139 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:47,319 this was not me defying my own boundaries, however, it 140 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:52,560 was there were things that made me open. So I 141 00:07:52,639 --> 00:07:55,560 used to be no kids, no kids, no kids, no kids, 142 00:07:55,639 --> 00:07:58,800 And then I met amazing fathers that had great relationships 143 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:02,600 with their child's mother, that did things well and it 144 00:08:02,639 --> 00:08:04,920 was just good. Right, So it was like, you know, 145 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,879 this ain't half bad. So all I'm saying is that 146 00:08:08,399 --> 00:08:10,600 you're an end. This is the this is girl to girl, 147 00:08:10,639 --> 00:08:12,639 because you called you called in to me, so this 148 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:15,279 is this is my opinion. You're thirty three. I'm not 149 00:08:15,319 --> 00:08:18,519 saying rush down the aisle, okay, But all I'm saying 150 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:21,639 is that come from a hearts posture of being open 151 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:25,000 and available. Because if you meet a man that's saying, 152 00:08:25,319 --> 00:08:28,959 don't rush, no worries, no worries. Of course, this will 153 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,680 be difficult because I'm attracted to you and I desire 154 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:34,159 intimacy from you, and I want to be in deep 155 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:37,320 connection with you. Of course that may be difficult. But 156 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,120 if you down, I'm down. If you rocking, I'm rolling. 157 00:08:42,159 --> 00:08:44,080 Them kind of man may get you to that also 158 00:08:44,159 --> 00:08:48,840 quicker than you think, my good sister, quicker than you think. 159 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,200 So all I'm saying is that if you feel like 160 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,840 you are not ready heard, you heard you, but I 161 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:59,279 would not. I would not, I would not consume that 162 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:04,159 additional pressure that you may feel like you're taking too long. Lastly, 163 00:09:04,279 --> 00:09:06,840 you didn't quite ask me this, but I do think 164 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:09,159 that you should. You should not share that you are 165 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:12,639 abstinence celibate with a man that you are just meeting, 166 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:15,360 getting to know and dating. A lot of people ask 167 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:20,480 me why, number one, why would you share that type 168 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:23,279 of deep information to somebody that you don't even know 169 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:28,000 had the even possibility of getting there with you crossing 170 00:09:28,039 --> 00:09:28,480 that base? 171 00:09:28,519 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 2: Okay, why should that? 172 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:30,399 Speaker 4: Women? 173 00:09:30,399 --> 00:09:32,639 Speaker 1: Now you're gonna have all these meetings you met on TENDERHNDE, 174 00:09:32,759 --> 00:09:36,159 bumble and be okay running around knowing what you got 175 00:09:36,159 --> 00:09:40,080 going on, and they never had the potential to be 176 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:42,279 in a relationship with you anyway, let alone have access 177 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:42,840 to your body. 178 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 2: Okay. 179 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:45,279 Speaker 1: A lot of women tell men that just so that 180 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:48,799 they can see if they could shoot them away. Right, 181 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:50,960 Let's see if you're scared, Let's see if you gonna 182 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,159 how you're gonna handle that. And I just don't think 183 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:56,080 that you should weaponize something that's self sacred in your journey. 184 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,519 You shouldn't weaponize your journey. And a lot of women 185 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:01,840 use abstinence and so licy to kind of see if 186 00:10:01,879 --> 00:10:04,480 the man how he gonna respond. Let me tell him 187 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,519 upfront to see if he down. And I'm gonna tell 188 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,960 you this, baby, These men will say, oh, okay, yeah, 189 00:10:09,039 --> 00:10:12,279 no problem, and they gonna come over to your house 190 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,320 and y'all gonna be netflixing and chilling, and he gonna 191 00:10:15,519 --> 00:10:18,720 hold a strength, he's gonna have restraint, he's gonna have discipline, 192 00:10:18,759 --> 00:10:21,000 he's gonna behave himself. And then he's gonna come over 193 00:10:21,039 --> 00:10:23,399 two weeks later and he's gonna have re strength and 194 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:25,480 he's gonna control himself. And then you're gonna go over 195 00:10:25,519 --> 00:10:27,879 to his place, okay, and you're gonna have he's gonna 196 00:10:27,919 --> 00:10:31,759 have restrength, he's gonna control himself, and you're gonna be like, Wow, 197 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:38,360 this man never tried anything with me. He must really 198 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:41,519 care about me, he must really be okay with that. 199 00:10:41,799 --> 00:10:44,240 And then you're gonna start getting a soft spot for him, 200 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,000 and then things gonna start tingling down there, and then 201 00:10:47,039 --> 00:10:50,480 you're gonna be so mesmerized by his discipline and his 202 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:54,399 sexual discipline and his ability to not put sex at 203 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:57,159 the forefront. And then your legs are gonna be open, 204 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,519 Why does a baby? Your lad's gonna be just they 205 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:04,559 just gonna they're gonna start going like this, and you're 206 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:05,000 gonna be like. 207 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:08,039 Speaker 2: What's happening, what's happening, what's happening, what's happening, and they 208 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:08,519 just gonna go. 209 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:10,679 Speaker 1: Next thing, you know, you're gonna be in the bed 210 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,759 with that man, and next thing you know, he gonna 211 00:11:12,759 --> 00:11:15,279 be like, checkmate, gotcha. 212 00:11:16,399 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 2: That's why I recommend that you don't tell these meal 213 00:11:19,399 --> 00:11:22,720 because men are very very very very smart, and they 214 00:11:22,799 --> 00:11:26,039 love a challenge. So watch yourself. 215 00:11:26,159 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: Keep up now, y'all heard, but I said, keep up. Okay, 216 00:11:28,879 --> 00:11:31,720 you got it. You cool, We got that. Okay, perfect? 217 00:11:32,039 --> 00:11:32,519 Speaker 2: Perfect. 218 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:36,679 Speaker 1: Dear to see a Dear to see a voicemail number two. 219 00:11:37,159 --> 00:11:39,679 Let's see what we got. This one is entitled the 220 00:11:39,759 --> 00:11:43,600 bathroom gave me? Oh, his bathroom gave me the ick? 221 00:11:43,799 --> 00:11:44,919 Am I doing too much? 222 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:48,159 Speaker 2: Nope? Let's see what augustis said. 223 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:50,559 Speaker 4: Okay, dear to see you. 224 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:55,679 Speaker 5: I am a single mom recently just kind of separated 225 00:11:55,759 --> 00:11:58,639 from my situation over the last year or so, and 226 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:04,639 I'm finally diving back into dating, like dating, dating full throttle. Anyway, 227 00:12:04,759 --> 00:12:09,000 long story short, how do you feel about guys who? 228 00:12:10,799 --> 00:12:14,320 I get it, guys are not gonna be clean like 229 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:17,360 a woman. They're not gonna have their house spick and stand, 230 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:21,320 cleaning in the crevices and whatnot. So where do you 231 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:24,120 draw the line. I recently went over a guy's house 232 00:12:24,279 --> 00:12:28,120 and his bathroom really kind of turned me off. And 233 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:32,159 I'm kind of figuring out, like, Eh, do I keep 234 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,440 talking to you? Or is this something that I could 235 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:36,840 look past? Maybe it was just an off day. He 236 00:12:36,919 --> 00:12:38,799 really didn't expect me to come over. It was kind 237 00:12:38,799 --> 00:12:40,799 of spare of the moment, and I asked yous his 238 00:12:40,799 --> 00:12:43,440 bathroom last minute. So I don't know what are your 239 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:44,039 thoughts on this? 240 00:12:46,919 --> 00:12:48,159 Speaker 2: Okay, So I don't have. 241 00:12:49,879 --> 00:12:53,559 Speaker 1: I don't have all the context right to know kind 242 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:57,039 of what the relationship is outside of that, right. So 243 00:12:57,159 --> 00:13:00,600 is this somebody that you're getting to know and you 244 00:13:00,799 --> 00:13:03,480 just renting his bathroom type of thing, or it is 245 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:06,519 somebody that you're actually you actually been dating. You like him, 246 00:13:06,519 --> 00:13:10,559 He's consistent and his bathroom was kind of off. I'm 247 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:13,360 assuming if this is the first time that you went 248 00:13:13,399 --> 00:13:16,759 into his bathroom, So I'm gonna veer on the side 249 00:13:16,799 --> 00:13:21,360 of this is kind of more new than established relationship. 250 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:25,679 Speaker 2: Okay, how nasty was it? Girl? 251 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: Call back in and let me know how nasty was it? 252 00:13:29,279 --> 00:13:34,879 Because I have questions. I do think that now. I 253 00:13:34,919 --> 00:13:38,200 think that we need to stop giving men excuses because 254 00:13:38,240 --> 00:13:39,639 I know some very clean men. 255 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:41,039 Speaker 2: Hell, I be over there. 256 00:13:41,519 --> 00:13:45,159 Speaker 1: I be over there paranoid, walking on eggshells because I'm like, 257 00:13:45,279 --> 00:13:46,600 is my hair gonna be in the bathroom? 258 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 2: Is he gonna be tripping about the curling irons? Is 259 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:52,159 he gonna be? I know men cleaner than me, So 260 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:54,000 we have to stop giving men excuses. 261 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 1: Men should absolutely know how to keep a home. Your 262 00:13:57,639 --> 00:14:00,720 bathroom should not be nasty. You shouldn't have pee on 263 00:14:00,759 --> 00:14:03,919 a toile to see and two paints everywhere, and yo, 264 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:06,559 you're shaving your beard nests all over the sink and 265 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:09,120 stuff like. We have to stop giving men excuses. They're 266 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:13,399 more than capable. Okay, so there's that. I can see 267 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:16,360 him being not as tidy as you would like. But 268 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:20,039 if that bathroom was absolutely disgusting, we have it. We 269 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:24,360 have a problem. We truly, truly do now is that 270 00:14:24,519 --> 00:14:31,080 something to steer away from? Like should I continue talking 271 00:14:31,080 --> 00:14:31,480 to him? 272 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:32,159 Speaker 2: I don't. 273 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: I don't think so, Okay, I truly don't. I think 274 00:14:35,759 --> 00:14:39,000 that to your point number one, he lives alone. Maybe 275 00:14:39,039 --> 00:14:41,480 he's a bachelor, it's a it's a bachelor pad. Again, 276 00:14:41,519 --> 00:14:43,519 that's not an excuse, but I can see it and 277 00:14:43,559 --> 00:14:48,679 I can understand it. Additionally, right, I don't want you 278 00:14:48,799 --> 00:14:52,919 to sign up to clean his place, right, I'm not 279 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:56,519 saying that. Okay, you can help him be more of 280 00:14:56,559 --> 00:15:01,720 a tidy person, but your woman as a job is 281 00:15:01,799 --> 00:15:05,440 to bring light to some of his some of his 282 00:15:05,559 --> 00:15:06,320 blind spot. 283 00:15:06,519 --> 00:15:06,759 Speaker 2: Right. 284 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: And again I'm not I'm not telling you to sign 285 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:13,840 up for being Molly the maid, but as a woman, 286 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:17,080 there's gonna be a gentle touch that you can add 287 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:19,919 to his life. So maybe it can just be like, babe, 288 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:22,000 you have to clean your bathroom up, Like, let's go 289 00:15:22,039 --> 00:15:24,600 awa here and clean this up. Like, also tell him 290 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:26,799 that when you come, you ain't coming back over there 291 00:15:26,879 --> 00:15:28,960 unless things are clean. And I mean, don't see it 292 00:15:29,039 --> 00:15:32,159 like that, but you get what I'm saying. Like a man, 293 00:15:32,279 --> 00:15:34,559 this is one of a green flag as well. A 294 00:15:34,639 --> 00:15:37,399 man that will accommodate you right, if he know that 295 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:41,519 you like reasoning wine or you like you're a sharp 296 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:43,679 nay girl, you're gonna start coming over to that man, 297 00:15:43,679 --> 00:15:46,559 gonna start having your wine. You got a cold or 298 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:48,480 something like that, you come over there. He's gonna have 299 00:15:48,639 --> 00:15:51,039 the things that you need. You're on a dietary restriction. 300 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:54,960 He's gonna make sure that you have whatever your diet 301 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:58,840 consists of. So you're gonna tell him, like, hey, you're 302 00:15:58,879 --> 00:16:01,120 interested in him. You gonna just be like, what was 303 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:03,440 up with your bathroom? You need help cleaning it up? 304 00:16:04,279 --> 00:16:06,720 I can't be over here. You gonna get a nasty 305 00:16:06,759 --> 00:16:13,879 bathroom whatever kind of light, flirty, polite way. Also, nobody's 306 00:16:13,919 --> 00:16:17,879 house is clean all the time, Okay, So you want 307 00:16:17,919 --> 00:16:20,559 to make sure that you're giving him the same grace 308 00:16:20,879 --> 00:16:26,480 that he's given you. Again, I don't know how how 309 00:16:26,559 --> 00:16:29,440 bad the bathroom was, but it was icky enough for 310 00:16:29,519 --> 00:16:31,879 you to say something. So I think or mention it 311 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:33,559 or call in to me. So I think that there 312 00:16:33,639 --> 00:16:35,279 is like a self check that you have to do. 313 00:16:35,519 --> 00:16:37,840 It's this really really bad? 314 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:38,759 Speaker 2: Are you do? 315 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:39,200 Speaker 4: You? 316 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:41,639 Speaker 1: You're gonna want grace one day, maybe when y'all have 317 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:44,200 them kids and them dollers running around that bathroom may 318 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,360 be a little bit nasty, you know, was it an 319 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,320 off week for him? So I don't think it's given. 320 00:16:48,559 --> 00:16:50,320 Don't talk to him anymore, But I do think that 321 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:52,080 you should give him a little bit of grace, and 322 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:55,120 I think that you should. Hey, we only got one 323 00:16:55,159 --> 00:16:58,600 data point. Check back the next week. Check back the 324 00:16:58,639 --> 00:17:02,320 next week, so that you can see what you're getting 325 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:06,759 yourself into. Also, are it's just a self checked to 326 00:17:06,759 --> 00:17:07,920 see if you just picky or not? 327 00:17:08,079 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 2: Meaning that do. 328 00:17:10,759 --> 00:17:12,880 Speaker 1: You just have an eye for these things? Some people 329 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:15,400 care about things more than others, And it's not bad 330 00:17:15,519 --> 00:17:19,519 either way. But maybe that's his bathroom. Would his bathroom 331 00:17:19,559 --> 00:17:21,039 have been nasty to another person? 332 00:17:21,119 --> 00:17:21,640 Speaker 2: Or is it you? 333 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:25,160 Speaker 1: Because that's also a point of self reflection. Are you 334 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,640 able to step outside of that and say, baseline, is 335 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:30,279 this a nasty, nasty bathroom or do I just have 336 00:17:30,319 --> 00:17:33,920 a higher standard for a bathroom and cleanliness? 337 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:35,599 Speaker 2: Is it me or is it him? 338 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:38,599 Speaker 1: Okay, So those are all the things that I would 339 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:40,599 all the things you should think about. And I think 340 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:42,839 that you should run it back in that bathroom and 341 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:44,960 see kind of what's going on. You know, I think 342 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:46,920 you should give him a little grace because you never know. 343 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:50,759 And I think you should report back because. 344 00:17:50,519 --> 00:17:52,839 Speaker 2: I want to know. I want to know what is 345 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:55,079 really given. Give people grave, y'all. Life is hard. 346 00:17:55,799 --> 00:17:59,400 Speaker 1: People got mental illnesses, People are suffered with depression, anxiety, 347 00:17:59,599 --> 00:18:01,480 people work and people losing their jobs. 348 00:18:01,519 --> 00:18:03,519 Speaker 2: People got kids. People got a lot of stuff going on. 349 00:18:03,599 --> 00:18:04,240 You know what I'm saying. 350 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:06,759 Speaker 1: Give them a little grace. Give a man a little grace. 351 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:09,799 You never never know, and you may be a helpmate 352 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:14,079 for him in that department. That's why he won a wife. Anyway, 353 00:18:14,599 --> 00:18:17,960 Tell me if I'm nasty, you know, give him. Give 354 00:18:18,039 --> 00:18:21,599 him another chance, girl, Give another chance, Okay, y'all. Voicemail 355 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:24,440 number three dear to see it, and this one is 356 00:18:24,759 --> 00:18:28,200 entitled why do men always leave me? 357 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 2: Ooh, well, that hurt my heart. My goodness, let's see hi, 358 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:33,920 to see him. 359 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 6: My name is Maya Alexander. I'm twenty three years old 360 00:18:37,079 --> 00:18:40,039 and I am a college student, and I'm having a 361 00:18:40,079 --> 00:18:44,000 hard time finding not just the right one, but finding 362 00:18:44,079 --> 00:18:47,359 someone who is going to stay. For some odd reason, 363 00:18:47,519 --> 00:18:50,920 every in any last relationship I've or encounter I've ever 364 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:53,279 had with a guy has always ended up with some 365 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:56,799 leaving and I have no idea why, because I do 366 00:18:56,920 --> 00:19:01,640 everything right, I'm giving, I'm understanding, I'm and I think 367 00:19:01,759 --> 00:19:04,720 I'm overly doing it. Maybe I don't know. And even 368 00:19:04,759 --> 00:19:07,480 though I'm twenty three, I want to be married, I 369 00:19:07,519 --> 00:19:09,799 want to have kids, I want that kind of lifestyle. 370 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:12,599 But it seems like every dude just has an excuse 371 00:19:12,759 --> 00:19:15,200 or reason to leave, or it seems like there's always 372 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:18,920 some secret girlfriend or some glame mass excuse. And I'm 373 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:20,759 just getting tired of it, and I just don't know 374 00:19:20,759 --> 00:19:22,720 what to do. And at this point, I'm just getting 375 00:19:22,759 --> 00:19:25,200 sick am in overall, I'm tired of wasting my time. 376 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:26,640 I'm trying to give my heart. I'm trying to give 377 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:28,400 them my ole. What should I do? Can you give 378 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,799 me some advice? I really appreciate it. Thank you to 379 00:19:30,799 --> 00:19:31,079 see you. 380 00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:35,319 Speaker 1: So, first of all, you're twenty three, and I'm really 381 00:19:35,319 --> 00:19:37,960 saying to look, I'm a little older than you. Okay, 382 00:19:38,279 --> 00:19:40,599 I'm a little older than you. Right, So here's here's 383 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,160 a couple of things we have to master the art 384 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:46,799 of attachment. And when I'm telling y'all the art of attachment, 385 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:50,000 I'm usually talking about relationships, right, I'm just talking about men. 386 00:19:50,039 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 2: I'm just telling y'all to pull back, pull back off. 387 00:19:53,839 --> 00:19:55,319 You know, I'm usually talking about that. 388 00:19:57,079 --> 00:20:03,079 Speaker 1: This time I'm talking about the the detachment of the 389 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:06,400 idea of things. It could be friendships, it could be 390 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:11,920 a goal that you have, it can be intolerance, and oh, 391 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:17,920 indifference in difference of things attracts when you don't care 392 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,319 if you do or you don't. 393 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:23,440 Speaker 2: It attracts things to you. 394 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:26,559 Speaker 1: And so I think this whole. I'm twenty three. I 395 00:20:26,599 --> 00:20:28,839 want to be married. I want a relationship beas men. 396 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:33,599 He detached from it, seriously detach from it. When you 397 00:20:33,839 --> 00:20:39,039 create in difference in your life, which means the universe 398 00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:42,079 and the and the God I served is going to 399 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,480 do all things well, you will start seeing that you 400 00:20:45,559 --> 00:20:48,160 will get a lot more of the things that you want. 401 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,720 It's kind of in a category of he'll come when 402 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:53,559 you're not looking for him. Now, y'all know, I have 403 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,640 my qualms with that saying right, because I think it 404 00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:59,519 deters women from not investing in that part of their 405 00:20:59,559 --> 00:21:03,440 life and basically making it irrelevant and kind of ignoring 406 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:05,680 it and saying, girl, you have to not want love 407 00:21:05,799 --> 00:21:07,200 and order for love to come to you. And I 408 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:09,039 think that that's the one of the biggest scams, right. 409 00:21:09,319 --> 00:21:15,279 But it is in the category of if you that 410 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,920 he'll come if you when you're not looking. It's in 411 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:21,480 the category that he'll come when you're not looking. Okay, 412 00:21:22,759 --> 00:21:26,480 I think that you person personally should detach from the 413 00:21:26,599 --> 00:21:31,319 idea of dating and getting a boyfriend, getting a man, 414 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:35,200 being married. You're twenty three, my love, You're twenty three, 415 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,079 and this is not the demeaning you're young. 416 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,839 Speaker 2: You don't know nothing. I'm talking to you from. 417 00:21:41,039 --> 00:21:43,680 Speaker 1: There's so much life ahead of you, and what you 418 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,200 want to what you want to do is actually prepare 419 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:49,200 yourself for the life that you want. You're not prepared yet. 420 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:53,279 You're a young adult, right, and so the desire can 421 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,839 still be there. But you also want to be the 422 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,799 best version of yourself for him. And I want us 423 00:21:58,839 --> 00:22:01,160 to stay here in this moment. If you are in 424 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,480 a place now that you're saying, all these men leave me, 425 00:22:04,559 --> 00:22:06,440 they just seem to walk out, and I'm getting sick 426 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:10,599 of it. You ain't prepared to be nobody wife anyway, Okay, 427 00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:14,720 you just baseline, not them out there, vacuumen not they're out. 428 00:22:14,799 --> 00:22:15,839 Speaker 2: They've been a mess up. 429 00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 1: My video Okay, you're not prepared to be a wife anyway, 430 00:22:20,279 --> 00:22:22,960 you hear me, So you gotta take your you have 431 00:22:23,039 --> 00:22:24,519 to take some baby steps. You have to take a 432 00:22:24,519 --> 00:22:27,720 little bit of a little bit steps back. Additionally, what 433 00:22:27,759 --> 00:22:30,799 I want to say is find out where that wound is. 434 00:22:30,839 --> 00:22:34,279 If you're constantly like, why why, why why aren't they 435 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:38,279 aren't they leaving? I think it's too twofold. It's good 436 00:22:38,319 --> 00:22:41,400 to be curious about that because you're like, is this 437 00:22:41,519 --> 00:22:44,279 something about me and what I'm doing? 438 00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:46,359 Speaker 2: But make sure that it's not just. 439 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:51,039 Speaker 1: Like a a a a place of weakness, a place 440 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:55,839 of feeling unworthy, a place of not feeling deserving of 441 00:22:56,319 --> 00:22:58,400 and you want to more so take that as a 442 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:01,839 place of like interpersonal development, Like wow. 443 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:02,440 Speaker 2: Is this me? 444 00:23:02,599 --> 00:23:04,519 Speaker 1: Is this something that I'm giving off? Am I giving 445 00:23:04,559 --> 00:23:07,559 off daddy wounds? Am I giving off abandonment wounds? Am 446 00:23:07,559 --> 00:23:09,960 I giving off the orphan woond? Am I giving off 447 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,759 low self esteem? And my vibrating low and my giving 448 00:23:12,759 --> 00:23:15,400 off insecurity? That's the only reason why you should be 449 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:19,039 asking why a man left you. Okay, Other than that, 450 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:21,680 like you said, it could be secret girlfriends, It could 451 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:26,079 be we not gonna make their issue our issue. How 452 00:23:26,079 --> 00:23:29,359 people treat you is about them, It's not about you, Okay, 453 00:23:30,039 --> 00:23:34,720 So all encompassing. I think you need to detach from 454 00:23:34,799 --> 00:23:38,119 the idea of dating. You will get so much coming 455 00:23:38,599 --> 00:23:41,440 because you have so much more abundance. And I also 456 00:23:41,559 --> 00:23:49,039 think that you should take your time and really develop yourself, okay, personality, drive, career, 457 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,440 your physical presence, all of those things, so that you 458 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:58,039 can prepare yourself for the man that's coming your way, 459 00:23:58,359 --> 00:23:59,359 because he's coming. 460 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 2: Got a girlfriend. 461 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:07,519 Speaker 1: Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful. Y'all, these voicemails be going too fast. 462 00:24:07,559 --> 00:24:09,119 I was about to say, voice my number three. Baby, 463 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,839 we just got to voicemail number three. We just got 464 00:24:11,839 --> 00:24:15,720 through voice morel number three. I literally we're going through 465 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:20,039 the too fast, okay, okay, So our next segment is 466 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:21,480 our fragrance. 467 00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:26,640 Speaker 2: Fragrance segments. It's called, of course, to see it you 468 00:24:26,759 --> 00:24:27,400 smell good? 469 00:24:27,599 --> 00:24:30,720 Speaker 1: Okay, Now this I told y'all that I was gonna 470 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,319 start to try to review the fragrance from the last 471 00:24:33,319 --> 00:24:35,640 week to see. Now, the last time I talked to y'all, 472 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,480 I was going to a lunch, and I believe y'all know, 473 00:24:38,519 --> 00:24:40,400 I got a little adhg. So I'm hoping I'm talking 474 00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,519 about the one from last week. I think it was 475 00:24:42,599 --> 00:24:47,000 this one. It was a league premier by rue broke up. Now, 476 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,480 I did wear this fragrance out and nobody said anything. Well, 477 00:24:50,519 --> 00:24:52,279 the girl that I went out with on the little 478 00:24:52,319 --> 00:24:55,319 dinner lunch things, she didn't quite mention it. Now, I 479 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,119 always smell good, so maybe she was just like, oh 480 00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,000 to see it, just smelling good like she always up. 481 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:01,799 Speaker 4: But I didn't. 482 00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:06,839 Speaker 2: I didn't feel anything grand about it. Okay. Now this 483 00:25:07,079 --> 00:25:08,079 is supposed to be. 484 00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:14,039 Speaker 1: The the kind of less expensive version of the is 485 00:25:14,079 --> 00:25:17,559 it hibiscus mahaje or something like that? 486 00:25:17,559 --> 00:25:27,839 Speaker 2: That that fragrance by uh was this aint crazy Massavelli. 487 00:25:25,799 --> 00:25:30,039 Speaker 1: Y'all know what I'm talking about. I just completely butchered that. Okay, 488 00:25:30,559 --> 00:25:33,440 But it's something like Mason Cravelli or something like that, 489 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:37,960 the hibiscus maja mahage whatever it's called. Okay, pronunciation police 490 00:25:38,039 --> 00:25:42,000 will be blocked. Okay. So I'm gonna maybe I should 491 00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:43,839 wear it again to the airport today. I shouldn't wear 492 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,720 light fragrances today. But anyways, we would report back. I 493 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:52,720 would just say mid nothing nothing you. 494 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:53,759 Speaker 2: Know, grand about it. 495 00:25:53,799 --> 00:25:57,640 Speaker 1: But now okay, but now on to the newer, uh 496 00:25:57,799 --> 00:25:58,880 fragrance of the day. 497 00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 4: Let's see. Okay, hold on, where is my? Where is my? 498 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 1: Okay, let's just go to the thing cause I kept 499 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,920 it alright. So the fragrance of the day here we 500 00:26:12,039 --> 00:26:17,359 have all Contrario by Titiana Torrensi. Okay, Now I got 501 00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,599 a couple issues with this fragrance just off the rip. Y'all, 502 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:26,880 Look how small this is. I just spend my money 503 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:27,119 on this. 504 00:26:28,799 --> 00:26:30,880 Speaker 2: The t this, this is, this is deceiving. 505 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,839 Speaker 1: Why is it only this much fragrance in here for 506 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,039 all the money that I paid? 507 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:39,680 Speaker 2: Hey, y'all know this is. 508 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:43,319 Speaker 1: One of my fr my favorite fragrance houses, Miss Titiana Torrensy, 509 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,079 Tiana Torensy count show. 510 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:50,880 Speaker 2: Days what I who? Who you're playing with? And it's 511 00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:53,319 supposed to be one point seventy five ounce? 512 00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:54,279 Speaker 4: I don't believe it. 513 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:56,079 Speaker 2: I don't believe it. 514 00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 4: Huh. 515 00:26:58,519 --> 00:27:08,519 Speaker 1: Anyways, the main accords here are vanilla, sweet, woody warm spice, CaCO, nutty, amber, powdery, floral, bostomacs. Okay, 516 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,559 so let's let's get into some of the notes. So 517 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:16,519 this fragrance is for women and men. Our contrario was 518 00:27:16,559 --> 00:27:21,920 launching twenty fifteen. The notes behind the fragrance is hollow, torensy. 519 00:27:22,319 --> 00:27:27,000 Top notes are cacao, cacao pod, malt, and ebony wood. 520 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:31,400 Middle notes are vanilla, tanka bean, and orchid. Bass notes 521 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:39,279 are sugarcane, hazel nut, sandal wood, and Benzoing. Sounds very grown, 522 00:27:39,519 --> 00:27:40,599 sounds very warm. 523 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:52,279 Speaker 4: So let's see, let's see. 524 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 2: You know how I feel about this? 525 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,119 Speaker 1: If you want to go grimond but not too sweet, 526 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,839 I feel like this is more n earthy, nutty side. 527 00:28:02,519 --> 00:28:06,759 I think the cacalpod, the ebony wood middle notes, and 528 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:09,519 there is vanilla in tanca bee. But if you don't 529 00:28:09,559 --> 00:28:14,440 want that like gormand sweet, sweet sweet vanilla, but you 530 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:19,640 wanna give almost like vanilla base, but not very too 531 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:23,240 much too sweet, because there is sugarcane in here as well. 532 00:28:23,519 --> 00:28:26,240 But it's not that sweet, y'all. It's not that sweet. 533 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:34,440 I think it gives more nutty and earthy. 534 00:28:35,039 --> 00:28:35,920 Speaker 2: Where would I wear this? 535 00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,839 Speaker 1: It's a very cozy fragrance, but it's not giving bedtime. 536 00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:45,319 Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. This is not giving. 537 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:49,039 Speaker 1: This is too grown and too too great of a 538 00:28:49,079 --> 00:28:52,119 blend for it to be like a bedtime sin. This 539 00:28:52,279 --> 00:28:56,480 is not a skin sin, it's not a bedtime sent okay. 540 00:28:56,359 --> 00:28:56,519 Speaker 4: But. 541 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,079 Speaker 2: It's cozy. This is more of a false set. 542 00:29:01,519 --> 00:29:05,400 Speaker 1: I think this is more warm. It's what's raining outside, 543 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,599 so I feel cozy. Okay, it's raining right now, so 544 00:29:07,759 --> 00:29:11,960 this is more of a cozy, warm thing, fireplace, marshmallows, 545 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,279 police pajamas, furry socks. 546 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:16,400 Speaker 2: You get my vibe. 547 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:23,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's given pajama party, girls night in, cozy, cozy, cozy, cozy. 548 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:29,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's real cozy and warm. Mm hmm. Yeah. 549 00:29:29,039 --> 00:29:32,160 Speaker 1: I don't know what a benzoin smell like, but not 550 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,200 in a bad way before, y'all, not in a bad way. 551 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,599 You do get this, like, don't benzoin smell like medicine? 552 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:42,839 You do get this like kind of like almost like 553 00:29:43,039 --> 00:29:47,480 stale metal medicine smell. If that makes any sense. 554 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,519 Speaker 2: Is that the benzoin? I don't know. I gotta look 555 00:29:49,519 --> 00:29:53,839 at what benzoin is. I don't know. Anyways, I will 556 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:54,480 report back. 557 00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:59,200 Speaker 1: I'll report back on on that because I'm not you know, 558 00:29:59,359 --> 00:30:04,160 it's cool, it's it's warm, it's warm, it's warm. I 559 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,440 got that from my good girl, the perfume princess. She said, 560 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:11,119 people are asleep on our contrario from Tisyana and Trensey, 561 00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,400 and so I went out and bought it. I got 562 00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:14,039 a text her and telling Zobe I bought the thing. 563 00:30:14,119 --> 00:30:14,319 Speaker 2: Now. 564 00:30:14,599 --> 00:30:16,559 Speaker 1: I bought it now. Now, now you bet not be 565 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,480 lying to me. You better not be lying to me. Okay, y'all, 566 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:25,640 onto our red flag report. It's entitled private Relationship or 567 00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:26,680 Strategic Launch. 568 00:30:26,799 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 2: Okay. 569 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,920 Speaker 1: A new conversation going is going viral after an article 570 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:36,880 from Essence confirmed that Lotto is pregnant. You know, y'all, 571 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,920 I don't read what I'm going to talk about. I 572 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:42,400 don't even listen to your voicemails until I am live 573 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:47,799 in filming because I really really really want authenticity and 574 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:53,240 organic responses, y'all. My heart just dropped reading the title 575 00:30:53,279 --> 00:30:54,880 of this Okay, reading okay. 576 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 2: The first line, okay. 577 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 1: Essen's confirmed a lot of was pregnant, while also seemingly 578 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:01,440 revealing her relationship with twenty one seven in a subtle 579 00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:05,440 but very intentional way. The rapper announced her pregnancy through 580 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:08,519 her album, showing her baby bump on the cover, on 581 00:31:08,559 --> 00:31:10,799 the cover art, and in her music video. But what 582 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:13,839 really got people talking was the moment fans notice a 583 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:17,640 man's hand on her stomach with which men which many 584 00:31:17,759 --> 00:31:20,920 quickly identify as twenty five savage. For years, there have 585 00:31:21,039 --> 00:31:26,720 been rumors about the two, dating from collaboration to vacations 586 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,480 to even fans spotting tattoos, but neither of them have 587 00:31:29,559 --> 00:31:33,400 fully confirmed their relationship publicly until now. Instead of a 588 00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,559 direct announcement, this moment felt like a soft launch where 589 00:31:36,559 --> 00:31:39,640 the relationship is revealed indirectly, allowing the public to piece 590 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,680 things together rather than being told outright. And that's where 591 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:46,640 the red flat conversation begins because in today's culture, many 592 00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,559 people are choosing to keep their relationships private and selectively 593 00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:53,960 public or selectively public, especially when it comes to social 594 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,759 media and public perception. But when major life moments like 595 00:31:57,839 --> 00:32:00,920 pregnancy are shared while the relationship is so remain somewhat 596 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:05,039 undefined or uncle farmed, it raises questions about intention, timing, 597 00:32:05,079 --> 00:32:09,119 and transparency. Is this a case of protecting privacy and 598 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:12,000 controlling the narrative or is the sign of someone being 599 00:32:12,039 --> 00:32:16,119 comfortable sharing milestones but not fully claiming the relationship publicly. 600 00:32:16,759 --> 00:32:20,519 Red flag question if someone is willing to publicly share 601 00:32:20,559 --> 00:32:24,400 a life changing moment like a pregnancy, but still chooses 602 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:29,240 to keep the relationship it self low key or loosely defined. 603 00:32:29,839 --> 00:32:32,799 Is that intentional privacy or could it be a red 604 00:32:32,799 --> 00:32:36,319 flect that the relationship isn't being fully acknowledged. 605 00:32:36,799 --> 00:32:39,559 Speaker 2: Let me tell you this. Here's what I'll say. 606 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,319 Speaker 1: I've never felt so strongly that an invisible man was 607 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,119 so much in love with her that she was with him. 608 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:55,359 We haven't heard a heat about from twenty one Savage 609 00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:56,799 about his relationship with Lotto. 610 00:32:57,160 --> 00:33:00,359 Speaker 2: But I think that man loved that girl, Dawn. I 611 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:04,200 think that man love that girl down. I truly, truly, truly, 612 00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:06,799 truly believe that because went up. 613 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:08,960 Speaker 1: Let me tell you this, Loto been out the way. 614 00:33:09,559 --> 00:33:12,720 She ain't got no real beef with nobody. She been happy, 615 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,839 she been glowing, She's been doing her thing. And that's 616 00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,359 how you know that you kind of love properly. Now 617 00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:21,079 we all know, the biggest elephant in the room is 618 00:33:21,119 --> 00:33:23,680 that this man is supposed to be married and have 619 00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:28,200 three children and kids or something elsewhere. Hey, I don't 620 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,359 know nothing about that. I don't know what is happening. 621 00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:33,400 I don't know what's going on. That man could have 622 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:37,200 been he could not be married anymore, he could I 623 00:33:37,279 --> 00:33:37,759 don't know. 624 00:33:38,359 --> 00:33:40,839 Speaker 2: I don't know. We don't know. But all Mama say 625 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,720 is that if she cool with it, who are we? 626 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:46,519 If she cool with it, who are we? 627 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,720 Speaker 1: I'm not here to judge nobody and what they have 628 00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:52,519 going on. I don't know twenty one Savage. I don't 629 00:33:52,519 --> 00:33:54,880 know if he's married or not. I don't know what 630 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,599 kind of father he is. I don't know anything, but 631 00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:00,400 I'm gonna tell you this. I think that man love 632 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,759 that girl down and at the end of the day, 633 00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,079 he didn't shy away everybody know them tattoos as he is. 634 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:13,280 He didn't shy away from that music video. So he's 635 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:17,039 comfortable with stepping out to the forefront. He said, I'm the. 636 00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:20,559 Speaker 2: Owner of this house. That's my child, and this is 637 00:34:20,639 --> 00:34:29,079 my woman. That's that Lotto. I love Lotto. I love Lotto. 638 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:33,400 Speaker 1: I genuinely, genuinely do. And I think that a lot 639 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,360 of the limelight that has been on her has been 640 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,000 like my me and my me and my man dad 641 00:34:38,079 --> 00:34:42,719 came from Lotto. That literally, that sound, that audio came 642 00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:47,159 from Lotto. And I think that she is stepping into 643 00:34:47,199 --> 00:34:49,840 a new chapter in her life. I think that she 644 00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,559 seems to be happy and healthy. I think that she 645 00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:57,440 is ready for this stage. Who knows how it came about, 646 00:34:57,679 --> 00:34:59,800 but I think that she seems to be ready for 647 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:03,760 it and she just genuinely seems happy. That's all that 648 00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:09,400 I'm gonna say. As far as the privacy of the relationship, Okay, 649 00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,760 as far as the privacy of the relationship, I don't 650 00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:17,760 really think that it's been that that that private. And 651 00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,679 we all see what happens when you step on a 652 00:35:19,679 --> 00:35:22,239 red carpet with these people. We all see what happens 653 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:24,480 when you are in the limelight. I think we need 654 00:35:24,519 --> 00:35:27,599 to be more comfortable with people keeping their business their business. 655 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:30,119 Because I'm gonna tell you this, I'm just gonna pop out, Mary. 656 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:33,239 You may not see me frolicking all over the internet 657 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,159 with a man, now, don't hold me to that, because 658 00:35:35,159 --> 00:35:39,320 who knows what this man is gonna be. But I 659 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,119 don't see anything wrong with it. I think that you know, 660 00:35:42,199 --> 00:35:45,239 we are over consumers and everything can be found on 661 00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:50,599 the internet, so we are always looking to see We're 662 00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:54,360 nosy people. We feel entitled to people's business. 663 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:54,800 Speaker 2: Okay. 664 00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,719 Speaker 1: I think people had already assumed that she was pregnant, 665 00:35:58,199 --> 00:36:00,920 and now we know. She said seems to be happy, 666 00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,039 and I think he's happy as well. 667 00:36:07,119 --> 00:36:07,920 Speaker 2: Let me tell you this. 668 00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:13,000 Speaker 1: Lono got cuffed real quickly, really quickly. They got to 669 00:36:13,039 --> 00:36:17,119 get Loto ain't been a single artist doing her thing 670 00:36:18,519 --> 00:36:22,280 for that long, like I think probably. I mean, I 671 00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:24,480 know that she's been rapping for a very very real 672 00:36:24,599 --> 00:36:27,199 young long time since she's been young. But I think 673 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:30,559 when she kind of stepped on the scene, she. 674 00:36:30,599 --> 00:36:31,480 Speaker 2: Got cuughed quick. 675 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:35,079 Speaker 1: So it's not given you know, ran through or I 676 00:36:35,159 --> 00:36:37,320 dated her and they dated her and she dated him. 677 00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:41,239 Then it sounds like a happy home to me. 678 00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:43,199 Speaker 2: Now, I just. 679 00:36:43,159 --> 00:36:45,280 Speaker 1: Hope for the best, Like we don't want, we don't 680 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,119 want to create all of these baby mamas, right, So 681 00:36:48,159 --> 00:36:50,440 I do hope that their relationship is good. I hope 682 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,039 that that it has longevity, and I hope that she 683 00:36:53,119 --> 00:36:55,960 is happy, and I hope that she has a healthy pregnancy. 684 00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,320 And I don't see nothing wrong with how she has 685 00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:02,320 kept it quiet because I think that Cete, that's the 686 00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,960 thing you want to find, you a man that even 687 00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:09,400 if you're not talking, we know everybody know that that 688 00:37:09,599 --> 00:37:11,800 love is there. And I feel like that Lotto is 689 00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:15,239 a representation of that. Now, this don't get no bright ideas, baby, 690 00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:16,800 I'm not telling you to go where I'll find a 691 00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,119 man that's gonna keep you a secret, get pregnant by him. 692 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:23,360 Speaker 2: And then and then lost launch a baby bump. 693 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:26,880 Speaker 1: Don't get no bright ideas because you ain't Lotto and 694 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:29,679 you ain't got a lot of money. Okay, don't get 695 00:37:29,679 --> 00:37:32,119 any bright ideas. Maybe because you will be in a 696 00:37:32,159 --> 00:37:35,840 section eight apartment with Tyreek that ain't taking care of you. Okay, 697 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:39,199 so let's not get no bright ideas, all right. But 698 00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:44,559 what I will say is that I feel like you 699 00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:50,039 can see through her persona and how she's living her life, 700 00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:53,880 that she's well kept and well loved. I will say 701 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:59,719 that I think it's absolutely genuine. So anyways, anyways, that's 702 00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:03,199 my thoughts on that. Thank y'all for another episode of 703 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,920 There to See You. Okay, listen, I am about to 704 00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,599 be running out of here to the airport. I hope 705 00:38:08,639 --> 00:38:11,960 y'all enjoyed this episode, and I will see y'all next time. 706 00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:12,679 Speaker 2: Bye now