WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.480 --> 00:00:07.040 Welcome to Buns and Banter, a podcast by work Busties 2 00:00:07.240 --> 00:00:11.279 for work Busties. Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Ali. We're 3 00:00:11.320 --> 00:00:16.239 both morning show hosts for iHeartMedia. We're both millennials, and 4 00:00:16.280 --> 00:00:18.320 we're both trying to figure out how to build the 5 00:00:18.359 --> 00:00:23.160 lives we dream about, dating, marriage, career, career and being 6 00:00:23.160 --> 00:00:25.399 a mom. How to get through a week without crying. 7 00:00:25.640 --> 00:00:28.239 Welcome to Buns and Banter. We're glad you're here. It 8 00:00:28.239 --> 00:00:30.160 feels so good to be back. It does. I know 9 00:00:30.239 --> 00:00:33.000 it's been a hot it's been a hot minute. Apologies, guys, 10 00:00:33.000 --> 00:00:35.759 we've just been slammed. I think it's a good word 11 00:00:35.759 --> 00:00:38.560 for it. Always when we talked every week, we're like, 12 00:00:38.719 --> 00:00:44.280 what about this day or maybe this day, and like, yeah, 13 00:00:44.600 --> 00:00:49.079 but twenty twenty five, cheers, cheers, and we should have 14 00:00:49.079 --> 00:00:52.280 done our champagne today. We talked about doing an end 15 00:00:52.280 --> 00:00:55.159 of the year show with champagne, and we shoot it 16 00:00:55.200 --> 00:00:55.799 into my veins. 17 00:00:55.799 --> 00:00:58.840 We can do that anytime. We can do anytime. 18 00:00:59.479 --> 00:01:03.119 So I'm trying to like, I'm trying to calm myself. 19 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:06.319 I got one of those just very frustrating emails right 20 00:01:06.359 --> 00:01:08.280 before we were ready to record. In one of my 21 00:01:08.319 --> 00:01:10.760 New Year's resolutions, which you know this about me. I 22 00:01:10.760 --> 00:01:13.439 don't make resolutions. I find them to be very depressing 23 00:01:13.519 --> 00:01:16.680 because more often than not you don't actually fulfill them, 24 00:01:16.840 --> 00:01:22.680 than you feel terrible about yourself. But I'm trying to 25 00:01:22.760 --> 00:01:27.480 set better boundaries and sometimes that's just deleting an email 26 00:01:27.480 --> 00:01:30.680 without even responding to it, which feels great. Yeah. And 27 00:01:30.719 --> 00:01:36.599 then being more physically and financially fit. Those are my three. 28 00:01:37.959 --> 00:01:40.400 Those last two I think are gonna be a very 29 00:01:40.400 --> 00:01:41.680 big challenge for me this year. 30 00:01:41.840 --> 00:01:46.000 I was just reading about like, no buy twenty twenty five. 31 00:01:46.239 --> 00:01:49.280 Have you heard about this? Yeah, people are going on 32 00:01:49.439 --> 00:01:52.239 like a spending freeze and it's just basically you're not 33 00:01:52.239 --> 00:01:56.719 buying anything that's not completely one hundred percent necessary in 34 00:01:56.799 --> 00:02:02.439 twenty twenty five. And you know, it's like to improve 35 00:02:02.439 --> 00:02:06.799 people's finances, but it very much feels to me like, oh, 36 00:02:08.000 --> 00:02:09.240 we're in a really bad spot. 37 00:02:09.639 --> 00:02:11.319 It feels that way, though it doesn't it. We're in 38 00:02:11.319 --> 00:02:12.360 a really bad spot. 39 00:02:12.840 --> 00:02:16.080 I can't afford to have fun, I can't afford to 40 00:02:16.159 --> 00:02:18.319 buy things that I want to buy. I can only 41 00:02:18.360 --> 00:02:20.400 afford to buy the necessity. So let's turn it into 42 00:02:20.439 --> 00:02:24.000 a trend and make it less sad. 43 00:02:24.560 --> 00:02:26.879 So maybe I guess there's a sense of community there 44 00:02:27.159 --> 00:02:31.000 right like everyone else feels. It feels very odd. And 45 00:02:31.039 --> 00:02:33.719 I hope you guys weren't coming into this new season 46 00:02:33.719 --> 00:02:36.000 thinking we were going to be a bunch of positive pollies. 47 00:02:36.319 --> 00:02:40.599 It's realism in twenty twenty five. Like Chris called me 48 00:02:40.639 --> 00:02:42.319 the other day. He was picking up groceries and he 49 00:02:42.479 --> 00:02:45.520 was like, Hey, what's that borson that you like? The 50 00:02:45.560 --> 00:02:46.360 bores and cheese? 51 00:02:46.400 --> 00:02:47.560 She Oh, it's so good. 52 00:02:47.360 --> 00:02:50.560 And there's like six different flavors. Oh, And I was like, baite, 53 00:02:51.000 --> 00:02:53.319 don't you dare. We can't afford those luxuries anymore. I 54 00:02:53.360 --> 00:02:59.039 will simply sprinkle my slices of cheese on old crusty 55 00:02:59.080 --> 00:03:00.840 bread and protect them bouche. 56 00:03:01.560 --> 00:03:06.479 Seriously though, m M, seriously though, I deleted all of 57 00:03:06.520 --> 00:03:09.199 my food delivery apps. 58 00:03:10.199 --> 00:03:11.719 Oh that's smart though. 59 00:03:12.000 --> 00:03:13.759 That was one of my big ones. That was one 60 00:03:13.759 --> 00:03:15.520 of my big ones. I'm not telling myself that I 61 00:03:15.520 --> 00:03:18.439 can't get fast food or like I can't eat out places. 62 00:03:18.680 --> 00:03:21.319 I just have to get in my car and go 63 00:03:21.360 --> 00:03:24.800 get it. And there have been already like two or 64 00:03:24.800 --> 00:03:27.280 three occasions where I'm like, man, I really just want 65 00:03:27.319 --> 00:03:27.879 to order food. 66 00:03:27.960 --> 00:03:28.919 Right now, I'm hungry. 67 00:03:29.280 --> 00:03:32.159 I don't feel like moving from the couch such an inconvenience, 68 00:03:32.560 --> 00:03:35.080 and I didn't get in my car and go get 69 00:03:35.080 --> 00:03:37.280 food because I just was too I was like, I 70 00:03:37.319 --> 00:03:39.159 can't do I don't want to go outside in the cold, 71 00:03:39.560 --> 00:03:42.759 so I'm just gonna find something here, and like that's brilliant, 72 00:03:43.039 --> 00:03:43.319 was it? 73 00:03:44.159 --> 00:03:44.360 No? 74 00:03:44.520 --> 00:03:46.479 Most of the time it was just like popcorn. 75 00:03:47.479 --> 00:03:50.919 That's fine. So it grew a super healthy snack. Yeah, 76 00:03:50.960 --> 00:03:52.159 But we'll see how it works out. 77 00:03:52.199 --> 00:03:55.319 Because now when I am at the grocery store, I 78 00:03:55.360 --> 00:03:59.000 find myself buying things that I don't normally buy. Like 79 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:00.919 now I'm stocking up and I'm like, I should probably 80 00:04:00.919 --> 00:04:02.639 have some ice cream in the freezer because I'm not 81 00:04:02.680 --> 00:04:04.280 gonna be able to order it if I want it 82 00:04:04.360 --> 00:04:05.400 at some point in the future. 83 00:04:05.479 --> 00:04:07.159 Well, treats or candy. 84 00:04:07.319 --> 00:04:09.240 I can't tell you the last time I bought candy, 85 00:04:09.439 --> 00:04:14.599 and I bought like sour ropes and like licorice. 86 00:04:14.919 --> 00:04:16.639 Ooh, and like I never. 87 00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:19.439 Have that stuff. And now because I know that it's there, 88 00:04:20.279 --> 00:04:21.000 now I'm eating it. 89 00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:25.480 We're also getting into like I read this fabulous article 90 00:04:25.519 --> 00:04:27.759 and it was from a psychologist, so I feel like 91 00:04:27.800 --> 00:04:34.000 it's pretty legit. January resolutions are the dumbest idea, like 92 00:04:34.120 --> 00:04:39.600 we are not designed as human beings to like change 93 00:04:39.680 --> 00:04:43.639 lifestyle in a cold, dark month. They were like, this 94 00:04:43.879 --> 00:04:48.319 is a time of rest and reset, but not in 95 00:04:48.360 --> 00:04:51.560 the ways of like forcing yourself to do something. And 96 00:04:51.600 --> 00:04:55.639 I thought that people are into dry January. I love that. 97 00:04:55.759 --> 00:05:00.160 More power to you. I want to do a dry June. 98 00:05:00.759 --> 00:05:03.439 No oh no, I don't, but I think I could 99 00:05:03.439 --> 00:05:06.199 do better at it, like you can. A mocktail on 100 00:05:06.279 --> 00:05:08.879 the deck seems so much better to me than like 101 00:05:09.680 --> 00:05:14.560 a mocktail under a blanket watching Bravo in the dead 102 00:05:14.839 --> 00:05:17.279 of winter when it's cold and dark. 103 00:05:17.319 --> 00:05:19.480 At six, I am doing dry January. 104 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:21.959 I knew it. You're so good at that stuff. 105 00:05:22.079 --> 00:05:24.319 And I wasn't planning on it. It didn't even cross 106 00:05:24.360 --> 00:05:26.680 my mind. But I was catching up with my friend 107 00:05:26.720 --> 00:05:29.959 Angie over the weekend and she was like, just anybody 108 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:33.399 you wanted to do dry January with me? And I 109 00:05:33.480 --> 00:05:36.439 just had like kind of a slower end to twenty 110 00:05:36.480 --> 00:05:40.319 twenty four, so I hadn't planned on doing it, but 111 00:05:40.360 --> 00:05:44.480 I had been dry since the day. I did have 112 00:05:44.519 --> 00:05:46.800 a drink on Christmas, but then the day after, Like 113 00:05:46.879 --> 00:05:47.279 I didn't. 114 00:05:47.480 --> 00:05:49.480 I didn't even have a drink on New Year's Eve. 115 00:05:50.279 --> 00:05:52.680 That's I mean great, and I got all the stuff, 116 00:05:52.720 --> 00:05:54.680 like I got the champagne, but then we just had 117 00:05:54.800 --> 00:05:59.439 such an uneventful New Year's Eve that we just didn't 118 00:05:59.439 --> 00:06:02.120 even touch it. Oh, we didn't even touch it. 119 00:06:02.160 --> 00:06:04.879 Sounds like my ideal New Year's Eve? Look good for you? Then, 120 00:06:05.439 --> 00:06:06.959 well then I'm not even gonna tell you anything more 121 00:06:06.959 --> 00:06:10.279 about this psychologist. She's not right. You're gonna kill it 122 00:06:10.279 --> 00:06:11.160 at dry January. 123 00:06:11.279 --> 00:06:13.839 You know, like drinking is just like not something that's 124 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:15.639 super difficult for me to give up. 125 00:06:15.879 --> 00:06:17.800 Yeah, I don't. I don't. 126 00:06:18.079 --> 00:06:20.480 I mean I live by myself, and Jimmy and I 127 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:23.360 are kind of back and forth in between each other's houses, 128 00:06:23.800 --> 00:06:26.920 and he does like a cocktail in the evening or 129 00:06:26.959 --> 00:06:30.240 like on the weekends, but usually not Monday through Thursday. 130 00:06:30.800 --> 00:06:34.160 Yeah, I'll pour like a glass of wine and watch 131 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:37.800 like a Virgin River episode and then I'll go to bed. 132 00:06:38.680 --> 00:06:40.959 It's never more than a glass of wine because you 133 00:06:41.000 --> 00:06:43.120 get into two glasses and then it's like ough that 134 00:06:43.240 --> 00:06:44.600 three am alarm is terrible. 135 00:06:45.040 --> 00:06:47.160 I can't tell you how many times I've poured myself 136 00:06:47.199 --> 00:06:49.959 a glass of wine and then I fall asleep on 137 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:52.399 the couch. I wake up and it's just still sitting there. 138 00:06:53.399 --> 00:06:56.480 Plus I'm trying to stretch my bottles now and one 139 00:06:56.560 --> 00:06:59.959 model in this economy, girl, I'm feeling it. 140 00:07:00.560 --> 00:07:03.000 You have to get one of those wine subscription boxes. 141 00:07:03.040 --> 00:07:06.000 That's what Jimmy got me for Christmas. It delivers like 142 00:07:06.120 --> 00:07:09.160 new wine every month, and this is. 143 00:07:09.160 --> 00:07:10.199 A very thoughtful gift. 144 00:07:10.319 --> 00:07:13.680 Yeah, it's really cool. And you know I usually buy 145 00:07:13.759 --> 00:07:16.040 like the same bottle. I just like stick to a 146 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:18.959 price range and buy like whatever same fits in there. 147 00:07:19.040 --> 00:07:21.040 And some of it's good, some of it's not, so 148 00:07:21.399 --> 00:07:22.839 you know, you tend to like stick with the same 149 00:07:22.839 --> 00:07:25.240 brands and stuff. So I haven't had any of it 150 00:07:25.319 --> 00:07:27.959 yet to try it, but I love the idea. 151 00:07:28.439 --> 00:07:30.680 Yeah, I like that a lot. I don't know, it 152 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:34.040 just seems like a very I don't know what did 153 00:07:34.079 --> 00:07:36.079 this start of the year feel like for you. I 154 00:07:36.240 --> 00:07:41.160 was craving coming back into routine, and I'm not sure 155 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:44.160 if that was like losing that week between Thanksgiving and 156 00:07:44.240 --> 00:07:47.319 Christmas because Christmas came up so fast, But I was 157 00:07:47.399 --> 00:07:49.800 just like, oof, I need regular bedtimes for my kids. 158 00:07:49.839 --> 00:07:53.199 I need school I need, you know, somewhat of a 159 00:07:53.240 --> 00:07:57.480 workplace that gives me some feedback. I just really was craving, 160 00:07:57.560 --> 00:08:01.199 not necessarily the wake up, but the routine. 161 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:04.759 I was ready for some new fresh energy. Yeah, some 162 00:08:04.839 --> 00:08:10.079 new fresh vibes. And I feel like, no, I feel 163 00:08:10.079 --> 00:08:13.040 like we're just bringing the same vibes from last year. No. 164 00:08:13.199 --> 00:08:15.720 I tried so hard not to into twenty twenty five. 165 00:08:15.800 --> 00:08:18.800 And I'm like, some of you need resolutions, and it 166 00:08:18.879 --> 00:08:24.240 shows I have a few in mind. If you're looking 167 00:08:24.680 --> 00:08:25.079 some of. 168 00:08:25.040 --> 00:08:30.720 You, that's actually really great. But we should assigned people resolutions. 169 00:08:30.839 --> 00:08:34.480 Yeah, and I've come up with with your personal resolutions 170 00:08:34.600 --> 00:08:36.480 for the new year if you need them, and. 171 00:08:36.480 --> 00:08:37.240 You should. 172 00:08:39.120 --> 00:08:41.559 Not a suggestion, just saying this is a demand. 173 00:08:41.840 --> 00:08:44.759 That'll be good. It'll be a good it'll be a 174 00:08:44.759 --> 00:08:45.200 good year. 175 00:08:45.320 --> 00:08:46.840 Boundaries are a tough one though. 176 00:08:46.840 --> 00:08:50.440 Oh yeah, especially for me. I'm a certified type A 177 00:08:50.480 --> 00:08:51.080 people pleaser. 178 00:08:51.320 --> 00:08:55.879 Boundaries are hard because while boundaries are for you, they're 179 00:08:56.000 --> 00:08:56.919 difficult too. 180 00:08:57.679 --> 00:09:00.720 Yep. I, oh my gosh. We talk about her a 181 00:09:00.720 --> 00:09:04.879 lot on here, but Mel Robbins, Yes, I think I'm 182 00:09:04.919 --> 00:09:08.159 going to order her Let them Theory, her new book, 183 00:09:08.200 --> 00:09:13.240 her new book. I was just so fascinated and like 184 00:09:13.480 --> 00:09:17.000 enthralled with that watching her interviews over the Break about it, 185 00:09:17.519 --> 00:09:20.720 and like at its baseline she's she said, it's a 186 00:09:20.799 --> 00:09:23.159 let them theory, Like let them if they're not going 187 00:09:23.159 --> 00:09:25.799 to work as hard as you let them, you can't. 188 00:09:25.840 --> 00:09:28.159 It's very much you can only control what you're going 189 00:09:28.200 --> 00:09:32.799 to control, and if other people aren't keeping promises or 190 00:09:32.919 --> 00:09:35.840 doing their fair share of work or respecting what you have, 191 00:09:36.440 --> 00:09:39.200 you know, prioritized to newer life, let them. It can't 192 00:09:39.200 --> 00:09:41.360 bother you. And if that just means that they're no 193 00:09:41.440 --> 00:09:44.159 longer a very focal point of your life, it can 194 00:09:44.200 --> 00:09:47.600 only make you feel and do things better. I'm like, yeah, 195 00:09:47.639 --> 00:09:49.480 so I'm really trying to do that when it comes 196 00:09:49.519 --> 00:09:50.279 to my boundaries. 197 00:09:50.440 --> 00:09:54.320 Yeah, radical acceptance. That's a hard Oh, it's a hard 198 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:55.840 thing though, right because. 199 00:09:55.720 --> 00:10:00.240 I've never even heard that term. That's like, amazingly. 200 00:09:59.879 --> 00:10:03.200 Just it is what it is. They are, how they 201 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:06.480 are going to be. And I think I think like 202 00:10:07.320 --> 00:10:09.600 acknowledging that and being like that's just how they are 203 00:10:09.799 --> 00:10:12.039 is one thing. But then accepting that and moving on 204 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:14.879 with your life and not just like itching about it 205 00:10:14.879 --> 00:10:15.399 all the time. 206 00:10:16.279 --> 00:10:16.799 That's tough. 207 00:10:17.759 --> 00:10:18.279 That's tough. 208 00:10:18.320 --> 00:10:19.120 I do love bitching. 209 00:10:19.200 --> 00:10:20.399 I do love a good event. 210 00:10:20.279 --> 00:10:24.480 Oh you know, oh, oh my god, talk about over 211 00:10:24.519 --> 00:10:27.840 a class of wine, like you know, saddled up to 212 00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:31.159 a cute little bar and you're just like, can I 213 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:33.559 be a bitch for a minute? Oh say less? 214 00:10:34.919 --> 00:10:38.799 Oh yeah, but yeah, very much. Looking for new hobbies 215 00:10:39.159 --> 00:10:44.159 in the colder months. But yeah, not not like snowboarding 216 00:10:44.240 --> 00:10:47.200 or like skiing or like, you know, not gonna like 217 00:10:47.279 --> 00:10:51.639 take up running. But I need something to do because 218 00:10:51.960 --> 00:10:56.399 Jimmy is studying for this big exam and now it's 219 00:10:56.519 --> 00:11:01.679 like lockdown time like it is this free time is 220 00:11:01.720 --> 00:11:05.759 study time. Stay disciplined, and he is. He's very disciplined 221 00:11:05.840 --> 00:11:08.480 and he's very dedicated. And I give him a lot 222 00:11:08.480 --> 00:11:10.960 of credit for that because it's like almost like he's 223 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:14.679 back in school and I just I couldn't. I don't 224 00:11:14.759 --> 00:11:16.120 think i'd be able to do it. 225 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:17.159 Wow. 226 00:11:17.600 --> 00:11:21.080 But I need something to feel productive while he does that, 227 00:11:21.159 --> 00:11:23.159 because I can't just like keep sitting on the couch 228 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:29.519 and scrolling through social media while he like studies makes 229 00:11:29.519 --> 00:11:31.639 me feel bad about myself. I feel like I hear 230 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:35.279 it if we're doing it together, and he's also coutrotting. 231 00:11:35.399 --> 00:11:36.159 It's totally different. 232 00:11:36.200 --> 00:11:37.960 It's totally fine because then I feel like we're spending 233 00:11:38.000 --> 00:11:40.639 quality time together. But when it's just me doing it 234 00:11:40.720 --> 00:11:42.360 and there's someone else in the house and I know 235 00:11:42.399 --> 00:11:47.639 they're doing something productive, I'm like, I'm bad. 236 00:11:50.120 --> 00:11:53.600 You know what. One of my brothers got my sister 237 00:11:53.639 --> 00:11:58.639 in law for Christmas a little crochet kit. They're super cute. 238 00:11:58.759 --> 00:12:01.480 He found it on Etsy and it's like beginner stuff, 239 00:12:01.559 --> 00:12:04.440 and it's just like something in one sitting. It's not 240 00:12:04.480 --> 00:12:06.399 like but she made like a little I don't even 241 00:12:06.399 --> 00:12:09.200 know how to describe it. It was like a little pucket lizard. 242 00:12:09.519 --> 00:12:11.600 But then what does she do with it? It's supposed 243 00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:13.440 to be I don't know. I think its supposed to 244 00:12:13.440 --> 00:12:16.360 be stressed relieving. Yeah, it's cute. Yeah, give it to 245 00:12:16.399 --> 00:12:17.480 your nieces or your nephew. 246 00:12:17.600 --> 00:12:19.159 Oh, that's a good idea. 247 00:12:19.200 --> 00:12:21.799 It'supposed to be great for mobility, great for brain health. 248 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:25.600 Yes, I do knit, do you? 249 00:12:25.720 --> 00:12:26.840 I didn't know that about you. 250 00:12:27.480 --> 00:12:29.559 My grandma taught us all to knit when we were young, 251 00:12:29.639 --> 00:12:31.840 and she attempted to teach us how to sew. I'm 252 00:12:31.879 --> 00:12:33.919 not as good at sewing as I am at knitting, 253 00:12:34.159 --> 00:12:34.840 but I can knit. 254 00:12:36.600 --> 00:12:40.559 That is very impressive. Okay, so fuck it, forget the crochet, 255 00:12:40.639 --> 00:12:41.480 let's move on to something. 256 00:12:41.559 --> 00:12:43.080 Well, No, because I don't know how to crochet. 257 00:12:43.279 --> 00:12:44.759 I think it's similar to knitting. You still have a 258 00:12:44.759 --> 00:12:45.279 different hook. 259 00:12:45.440 --> 00:12:50.240 Yeah, it's definitely different and you can make like different stuff. 260 00:12:50.639 --> 00:12:53.240 So crocheng is out because you already know how to knit. 261 00:12:54.320 --> 00:12:57.240 No, I don't think it's out. But I also and 262 00:12:57.320 --> 00:13:01.120 I said that I wasn't really interested and like reading more. 263 00:13:02.279 --> 00:13:08.279 Okay, because what about coloring stress books? Oh maybe I 264 00:13:08.320 --> 00:13:10.879 do like to color and I do like to paint, 265 00:13:10.960 --> 00:13:14.000 but I like these to be like kind of portable. Yeah, 266 00:13:14.080 --> 00:13:16.480 oh yeah, you shove like a Bob Ross with your 267 00:13:16.480 --> 00:13:17.279 easel and everything. 268 00:13:17.360 --> 00:13:20.279 Sometimes I'm at my house, sometimes I'm at Jimmy's house 269 00:13:20.720 --> 00:13:24.000 and like taking everything like back and forth, because that's 270 00:13:24.000 --> 00:13:27.120 what I'm trying to avoid, right, is when we kind 271 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:29.519 of like camp out at each other's house for the weekend. 272 00:13:29.639 --> 00:13:31.440 So like I'll go to his house for the weekend. 273 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:33.840 And we don't live far apart. We live fifteen minutes apart, 274 00:13:34.120 --> 00:13:36.320 so really going back and forth is more of a 275 00:13:36.360 --> 00:13:40.320 minor inconvenience than it is an absolute no go. It's 276 00:13:40.399 --> 00:13:43.639 just kind of annoying to go back and forth, like Okay, 277 00:13:43.639 --> 00:13:45.600 I'm gonna go to my house and do some laundry 278 00:13:45.679 --> 00:13:47.799 and like do some stuff and then I'll come back. 279 00:13:48.320 --> 00:13:50.360 And it's like, okay, well if I do that once 280 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:54.759 maybe twice in a day, that's an hour in the car. Oof. 281 00:13:55.080 --> 00:13:57.720 We we don't like that, you know, Yeah, short trips 282 00:13:57.919 --> 00:14:01.600 fifteen minutes, but it adds up, right, So I don't know. 283 00:14:01.679 --> 00:14:04.360 I'm just I'm looking for something that I can do 284 00:14:05.159 --> 00:14:07.919 primarily at his house because he doesn't study a ton 285 00:14:08.080 --> 00:14:08.960 at my house. 286 00:14:09.159 --> 00:14:12.240 I wonder what like a top top hobbies of twenty 287 00:14:12.279 --> 00:14:14.879 twenty four are top? 288 00:14:15.000 --> 00:14:18.120 A lot of people were suggesting books which. 289 00:14:18.279 --> 00:14:25.320 Cooking, so oh no, I would have said the same thing. Uh, 290 00:14:25.399 --> 00:14:28.200 gardening and landscaping. Oh what if you pull a little 291 00:14:28.440 --> 00:14:31.080 I can't do that in the winter. Indoor garden at 292 00:14:31.120 --> 00:14:35.639 his house. Door garden at his house. Hey coming in, 293 00:14:36.200 --> 00:14:42.159 not moving in the gardens. Some herbs. Oh, pickling, he 294 00:14:42.200 --> 00:14:45.279 does love pickles. You can pickle. You can pickle almost 295 00:14:45.320 --> 00:14:50.080 anything according to Google. But yeah, candle making. Who are 296 00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:53.679 these people that answered this? Who is it? These are 297 00:14:53.759 --> 00:14:58.279 like people without jumps, Like, what are what are your hobbies? 298 00:14:58.480 --> 00:15:01.480 What do people do to fill their free time? Right? 299 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:05.159 I guess I just assume everybody either scrolls or watches stuff. 300 00:15:05.200 --> 00:15:07.600 I watch stuff. I'm so terrible. I wish I had 301 00:15:07.600 --> 00:15:10.840 a better answer, but I'm like, either there's a new 302 00:15:10.840 --> 00:15:13.879 serial Killer documentary I'll throw my comfort show on, or 303 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:16.320 there's like a Virgin River right where you can kind 304 00:15:16.320 --> 00:15:18.759 of pay attention and it's mushy, but whatever, it's fine. 305 00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:22.639 I have nothing. I have nothing to offer. I hate 306 00:15:22.639 --> 00:15:25.039 when people ask you that too. I just got a 307 00:15:25.039 --> 00:15:26.879 message on my TikTok the other day that was like 308 00:15:27.480 --> 00:15:30.279 just out of curiosity, right, trying to learn more about me. 309 00:15:30.320 --> 00:15:32.759 And they're like, so outside of like work and family, 310 00:15:32.799 --> 00:15:33.320 what do you do? 311 00:15:35.519 --> 00:15:36.440 Is there a time daft? 312 00:15:37.519 --> 00:15:43.679 That response? Mm my nap, that's whatday took a pretty 313 00:15:43.720 --> 00:15:46.960 killer one. I have no answer to that question. 314 00:15:47.320 --> 00:15:49.960 Yeah, I do one of the things that I am 315 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:52.559 for sure gonna I'm gonna start a puzzle. I'm gonna 316 00:15:52.600 --> 00:15:53.559 do a puzzle at his house. 317 00:15:53.759 --> 00:15:54.559 That's a good idea. 318 00:15:54.639 --> 00:15:56.559 He's gonna make fun of me, but that's okay. 319 00:15:57.480 --> 00:16:00.679 There's some great puzzles though, Yeah, and they as something 320 00:16:00.720 --> 00:16:04.679 did a puzzle, it's like just stimulating enough where it 321 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:07.399 can keep your attention for probably like a solid hour 322 00:16:08.039 --> 00:16:09.840 and you might need to take some breaks, so like 323 00:16:09.879 --> 00:16:13.600 maybe you can stretch it into two hours. My friend 324 00:16:13.600 --> 00:16:16.639 did twelve puzzles last year. She did a puzzle per 325 00:16:16.720 --> 00:16:20.480 month that took her, on average, like all time put together, 326 00:16:20.559 --> 00:16:23.679 like two and a half weeks. She does like intense puzzles. 327 00:16:23.720 --> 00:16:26.120 She loved it, and I think it's really good lowering 328 00:16:26.120 --> 00:16:27.639 your risk of Alzheimer's and dementia. 329 00:16:28.440 --> 00:16:30.919 Yeah, we like that. We like that. We have to 330 00:16:30.919 --> 00:16:34.720 think about that now or we're of age to start. 331 00:16:34.600 --> 00:16:38.519 I know, or kids, please, you still got some time, girl. 332 00:16:38.600 --> 00:16:41.159 I am staring forty down the barrel, and I am 333 00:16:41.360 --> 00:16:44.960 nervous about it. Why because I think I feel like 334 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:49.559 my body's already fallen apart so much, and that's ninety 335 00:16:49.559 --> 00:16:51.639 percent on me. I don't do what I should do, 336 00:16:52.159 --> 00:16:54.679 but I just feel like at forty, do you remember 337 00:16:54.759 --> 00:16:59.519 that first Harry Potter movie, Chamber of Secrets for Sorcerer's Stone, 338 00:17:00.279 --> 00:17:02.600 His hands touch the guy and he just crumbles to sand. 339 00:17:03.000 --> 00:17:05.079 I think that's what's gonna happen in my four Oh. 340 00:17:05.240 --> 00:17:06.640 I think if my body's just gonna give up, it's 341 00:17:06.640 --> 00:17:08.240 gonna be like, girl, you didn't do anything. 342 00:17:07.920 --> 00:17:11.759 The first forty I think that you and I just 343 00:17:11.839 --> 00:17:13.519 with the nature of our job, I think that we 344 00:17:13.559 --> 00:17:17.400 are more active than we realize. And I think it's 345 00:17:17.880 --> 00:17:22.599 I think it's inactivity that really kind of starts you 346 00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:24.519 down a path you can't return from. 347 00:17:25.039 --> 00:17:27.119 But I also just told you when people ask what 348 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:30.720 my hobbies are, I say napping. I don't know if 349 00:17:30.759 --> 00:17:31.119 I've got. 350 00:17:31.559 --> 00:17:33.680 But how many free we go do you have in 351 00:17:33.720 --> 00:17:35.799 a day between going to work and going to all 352 00:17:35.839 --> 00:17:38.400 of these events and then taking care of your kids 353 00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:40.400 and taking them Because you guys are very active. You're 354 00:17:40.400 --> 00:17:43.599 always doing something, You're always going somewhere. You guys do 355 00:17:43.640 --> 00:17:44.480 stuff together. 356 00:17:44.240 --> 00:17:46.519 As a family and you can get the people. 357 00:17:46.880 --> 00:17:50.400 You visit with friends, you take trips to all over 358 00:17:50.400 --> 00:17:53.440 the state to see your family and hang out with cousins. 359 00:17:53.480 --> 00:17:57.759 Now I do all activity, do you activity? You know 360 00:17:57.799 --> 00:18:01.079 what I had for dinner the other night tot castrole, 361 00:18:01.400 --> 00:18:05.640 which is amazing, delicious, but I put it on crusty bread. Yeah, 362 00:18:06.279 --> 00:18:09.200 so it was like carbon carbon carb side of starch. 363 00:18:10.119 --> 00:18:13.240 They do that in the UK, they really. 364 00:18:12.960 --> 00:18:13.640 Yes, they do. 365 00:18:13.759 --> 00:18:16.799 It's called everywhere it's called a is it a chip buddy, 366 00:18:17.119 --> 00:18:20.279 A chip buddy something. No, but it's fret. It's I mean, 367 00:18:20.279 --> 00:18:23.240 they call French rice chips, but it's French fries on bread. 368 00:18:23.279 --> 00:18:24.400 It's a French fries sandwich. 369 00:18:25.039 --> 00:18:27.680 So don't that does make me feel better? You are 370 00:18:27.920 --> 00:18:33.079 very European. New resolution for both of us compliment each 371 00:18:33.079 --> 00:18:36.680 other more. I think that an indoor garden or candle 372 00:18:36.720 --> 00:18:39.119 making could be great for you, But I also want 373 00:18:39.119 --> 00:18:42.240 to frame your puzzles. I don't want to frame the puzzles. 374 00:18:43.000 --> 00:18:44.799 I don't want to frame them because that's a That's 375 00:18:44.839 --> 00:18:46.599 another thing that I don't want to have to deal 376 00:18:46.640 --> 00:18:49.119 with is that I don't want hobbies that create junk. 377 00:18:49.359 --> 00:18:53.400 I want to throw everything away. Oh, the minimalist side 378 00:18:53.400 --> 00:18:55.480 of you has always been such a turn on. Really, 379 00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:57.960 I love it. Yeah, I would. I'd feel the exact 380 00:18:57.960 --> 00:18:59.279 same way. I would do that and then be like 381 00:19:00.960 --> 00:19:02.599 and then mess it all up to put it back 382 00:19:02.640 --> 00:19:07.839 in its box less clutter in twenty twenty five, which 383 00:19:07.880 --> 00:19:10.920 is perfect because we can't afford clutter anyway. Yeah, run 384 00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:12.440 a full circle. We're gonna be great. 385 00:19:12.519 --> 00:19:14.599 I want to throw stuff out. I want to get 386 00:19:14.640 --> 00:19:17.319 stuff done, like I've got a few house projects. On 387 00:19:17.359 --> 00:19:20.319 my list for twenty twenty five. And whenever I have 388 00:19:20.359 --> 00:19:22.519 a contractor over to the house, they always ask how 389 00:19:22.559 --> 00:19:25.960 long I've lived in the house, and they're always surprised 390 00:19:26.000 --> 00:19:28.599 when I say seven plus years, and they like look 391 00:19:28.640 --> 00:19:30.839 around and they're like, oh, I thought, like. 392 00:19:30.799 --> 00:19:33.839 Maybe you had just moved. No, we don't judge. 393 00:19:33.880 --> 00:19:37.319 I just live in this. I just live like this. 394 00:19:37.920 --> 00:19:40.000 I just live with no tile in front of the 395 00:19:40.000 --> 00:19:43.039 front door. I just live with the half bathroom off 396 00:19:43.039 --> 00:19:45.559 the kitchen. It doesn't have a door. The toilet works, 397 00:19:46.039 --> 00:19:46.799 you can flush it. 398 00:19:47.759 --> 00:19:48.720 I see no problem. 399 00:19:48.799 --> 00:19:52.359 The sink needs some attention, but I'm getting there. I'm 400 00:19:52.359 --> 00:19:56.799 getting there. I had to call my friend Renee and 401 00:19:56.880 --> 00:19:58.720