Speaker 1: Welcome to Buns and Banter, a podcast by work Busties
Speaker 1: for work Busties. Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Ali. We're
Speaker 1: both morning show hosts for iHeartMedia. We're both millennials, and
Speaker 1: we're both trying to figure out how to build the
Speaker 1: lives we dream about, dating, marriage, career, career and being
Speaker 1: a mom. How to get through a week without crying.
Speaker 1: Welcome to Buns and Banter. We're glad you're here. It
Speaker 1: feels so good to be back. It does. I know
Speaker 1: it's been a hot it's been a hot minute. Apologies, guys,
Speaker 1: we've just been slammed. I think it's a good word
Speaker 1: for it. Always when we talked every week, we're like,
Speaker 1: what about this day or maybe this day, and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: but twenty twenty five, cheers, cheers, and we should have
Speaker 1: done our champagne today. We talked about doing an end
Speaker 1: of the year show with champagne, and we shoot it
Speaker 1: into my veins.
Speaker 2: We can do that anytime. We can do anytime.
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to like, I'm trying to calm myself.
Speaker 1: I got one of those just very frustrating emails right
Speaker 1: before we were ready to record. In one of my
Speaker 1: New Year's resolutions, which you know this about me. I
Speaker 1: don't make resolutions. I find them to be very depressing
Speaker 1: because more often than not you don't actually fulfill them,
Speaker 1: than you feel terrible about yourself. But I'm trying to
Speaker 1: set better boundaries and sometimes that's just deleting an email
Speaker 1: without even responding to it, which feels great. Yeah. And
Speaker 1: then being more physically and financially fit. Those are my three.
Speaker 1: Those last two I think are gonna be a very
Speaker 1: big challenge for me this year.
Speaker 2: I was just reading about like, no buy twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: Have you heard about this? Yeah, people are going on
Speaker 2: like a spending freeze and it's just basically you're not
Speaker 2: buying anything that's not completely one hundred percent necessary in
Speaker 2: twenty twenty five. And you know, it's like to improve
Speaker 2: people's finances, but it very much feels to me like, oh,
Speaker 2: we're in a really bad spot.
Speaker 1: It feels that way, though it doesn't it. We're in
Speaker 1: a really bad spot.
Speaker 2: I can't afford to have fun, I can't afford to
Speaker 2: buy things that I want to buy. I can only
Speaker 2: afford to buy the necessity. So let's turn it into
Speaker 2: a trend and make it less sad.
Speaker 1: So maybe I guess there's a sense of community there
Speaker 1: right like everyone else feels. It feels very odd. And
Speaker 1: I hope you guys weren't coming into this new season
Speaker 1: thinking we were going to be a bunch of positive pollies.
Speaker 1: It's realism in twenty twenty five. Like Chris called me
Speaker 1: the other day. He was picking up groceries and he
Speaker 1: was like, Hey, what's that borson that you like? The
Speaker 1: bores and cheese?
Speaker 2: She Oh, it's so good.
Speaker 1: And there's like six different flavors. Oh, And I was like, baite,
Speaker 1: don't you dare. We can't afford those luxuries anymore. I
Speaker 1: will simply sprinkle my slices of cheese on old crusty
Speaker 1: bread and protect them bouche.
Speaker 2: Seriously though, m M, seriously though, I deleted all of
Speaker 2: my food delivery apps.
Speaker 1: Oh that's smart though.
Speaker 2: That was one of my big ones. That was one
Speaker 2: of my big ones. I'm not telling myself that I
Speaker 2: can't get fast food or like I can't eat out places.
Speaker 2: I just have to get in my car and go
Speaker 2: get it. And there have been already like two or
Speaker 2: three occasions where I'm like, man, I really just want
Speaker 2: to order food.
Speaker 1: Right now, I'm hungry.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like moving from the couch such an inconvenience,
Speaker 2: and I didn't get in my car and go get
Speaker 2: food because I just was too I was like, I
Speaker 2: can't do I don't want to go outside in the cold,
Speaker 2: so I'm just gonna find something here, and like that's brilliant,
Speaker 2: was it?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Most of the time it was just like popcorn.
Speaker 1: That's fine. So it grew a super healthy snack. Yeah,
Speaker 1: But we'll see how it works out.
Speaker 2: Because now when I am at the grocery store, I
Speaker 2: find myself buying things that I don't normally buy. Like
Speaker 2: now I'm stocking up and I'm like, I should probably
Speaker 2: have some ice cream in the freezer because I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna be able to order it if I want it
Speaker 2: at some point in the future.
Speaker 1: Well, treats or candy.
Speaker 2: I can't tell you the last time I bought candy,
Speaker 2: and I bought like sour ropes and like licorice.
Speaker 1: Ooh, and like I never.
Speaker 2: Have that stuff. And now because I know that it's there,
Speaker 2: now I'm eating it.
Speaker 1: We're also getting into like I read this fabulous article
Speaker 1: and it was from a psychologist, so I feel like
Speaker 1: it's pretty legit. January resolutions are the dumbest idea, like
Speaker 1: we are not designed as human beings to like change
Speaker 1: lifestyle in a cold, dark month. They were like, this
Speaker 1: is a time of rest and reset, but not in
Speaker 1: the ways of like forcing yourself to do something. And
Speaker 1: I thought that people are into dry January. I love that.
Speaker 1: More power to you. I want to do a dry June.
Speaker 1: No oh no, I don't, but I think I could
Speaker 1: do better at it, like you can. A mocktail on
Speaker 1: the deck seems so much better to me than like
Speaker 1: a mocktail under a blanket watching Bravo in the dead
Speaker 1: of winter when it's cold and dark.
Speaker 2: At six, I am doing dry January.
Speaker 1: I knew it. You're so good at that stuff.
Speaker 2: And I wasn't planning on it. It didn't even cross
Speaker 2: my mind. But I was catching up with my friend
Speaker 2: Angie over the weekend and she was like, just anybody
Speaker 2: you wanted to do dry January with me? And I
Speaker 2: just had like kind of a slower end to twenty
Speaker 2: twenty four, so I hadn't planned on doing it, but
Speaker 2: I had been dry since the day. I did have
Speaker 2: a drink on Christmas, but then the day after, Like
Speaker 2: I didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't even have a drink on New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2: That's I mean great, and I got all the stuff,
Speaker 2: like I got the champagne, but then we just had
Speaker 2: such an uneventful New Year's Eve that we just didn't
Speaker 2: even touch it. Oh, we didn't even touch it.
Speaker 1: Sounds like my ideal New Year's Eve? Look good for you? Then,
Speaker 1: well then I'm not even gonna tell you anything more
Speaker 1: about this psychologist. She's not right. You're gonna kill it
Speaker 1: at dry January.
Speaker 2: You know, like drinking is just like not something that's
Speaker 2: super difficult for me to give up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 2: I mean I live by myself, and Jimmy and I
Speaker 2: are kind of back and forth in between each other's houses,
Speaker 2: and he does like a cocktail in the evening or
Speaker 2: like on the weekends, but usually not Monday through Thursday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll pour like a glass of wine and watch
Speaker 1: like a Virgin River episode and then I'll go to bed.
Speaker 1: It's never more than a glass of wine because you
Speaker 1: get into two glasses and then it's like ough that
Speaker 1: three am alarm is terrible.
Speaker 2: I can't tell you how many times I've poured myself
Speaker 2: a glass of wine and then I fall asleep on
Speaker 2: the couch. I wake up and it's just still sitting there.
Speaker 1: Plus I'm trying to stretch my bottles now and one
Speaker 1: model in this economy, girl, I'm feeling it.
Speaker 2: You have to get one of those wine subscription boxes.
Speaker 2: That's what Jimmy got me for Christmas. It delivers like
Speaker 2: new wine every month, and this is.
Speaker 1: A very thoughtful gift.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really cool. And you know I usually buy
Speaker 2: like the same bottle. I just like stick to a
Speaker 2: price range and buy like whatever same fits in there.
Speaker 2: And some of it's good, some of it's not, so
Speaker 2: you know, you tend to like stick with the same
Speaker 2: brands and stuff. So I haven't had any of it
Speaker 2: yet to try it, but I love the idea.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that a lot. I don't know, it
Speaker 1: just seems like a very I don't know what did
Speaker 1: this start of the year feel like for you. I
Speaker 1: was craving coming back into routine, and I'm not sure
Speaker 1: if that was like losing that week between Thanksgiving and
Speaker 1: Christmas because Christmas came up so fast, But I was
Speaker 1: just like, oof, I need regular bedtimes for my kids.
Speaker 1: I need school I need, you know, somewhat of a
Speaker 1: workplace that gives me some feedback. I just really was craving,
Speaker 1: not necessarily the wake up, but the routine.
Speaker 2: I was ready for some new fresh energy. Yeah, some
Speaker 2: new fresh vibes. And I feel like, no, I feel
Speaker 2: like we're just bringing the same vibes from last year. No.
Speaker 2: I tried so hard not to into twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, some of you need resolutions, and it
Speaker 2: shows I have a few in mind. If you're looking
Speaker 2: some of.
Speaker 1: You, that's actually really great. But we should assigned people resolutions.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've come up with with your personal resolutions
Speaker 2: for the new year if you need them, and.
Speaker 1: You should.
Speaker 2: Not a suggestion, just saying this is a demand.
Speaker 1: That'll be good. It'll be a good it'll be a
Speaker 1: good year.
Speaker 2: Boundaries are a tough one though.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, especially for me. I'm a certified type A
Speaker 1: people pleaser.
Speaker 2: Boundaries are hard because while boundaries are for you, they're
Speaker 2: difficult too.
Speaker 1: Yep. I, oh my gosh. We talk about her a
Speaker 1: lot on here, but Mel Robbins, Yes, I think I'm
Speaker 1: going to order her Let them Theory, her new book,
Speaker 1: her new book. I was just so fascinated and like
Speaker 1: enthralled with that watching her interviews over the Break about it,
Speaker 1: and like at its baseline she's she said, it's a
Speaker 1: let them theory, Like let them if they're not going
Speaker 1: to work as hard as you let them, you can't.
Speaker 1: It's very much you can only control what you're going
Speaker 1: to control, and if other people aren't keeping promises or
Speaker 1: doing their fair share of work or respecting what you have,
Speaker 1: you know, prioritized to newer life, let them. It can't
Speaker 1: bother you. And if that just means that they're no
Speaker 1: longer a very focal point of your life, it can
Speaker 1: only make you feel and do things better. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: so I'm really trying to do that when it comes
Speaker 1: to my boundaries.
Speaker 2: Yeah, radical acceptance. That's a hard Oh, it's a hard
Speaker 2: thing though, right because.
Speaker 1: I've never even heard that term. That's like, amazingly.
Speaker 2: Just it is what it is. They are, how they
Speaker 2: are going to be. And I think I think like
Speaker 2: acknowledging that and being like that's just how they are
Speaker 2: is one thing. But then accepting that and moving on
Speaker 2: with your life and not just like itching about it
Speaker 2: all the time.
Speaker 1: That's tough.
Speaker 2: That's tough.
Speaker 1: I do love bitching.
Speaker 2: I do love a good event.
Speaker 1: Oh you know, oh, oh my god, talk about over
Speaker 1: a class of wine, like you know, saddled up to
Speaker 1: a cute little bar and you're just like, can I
Speaker 1: be a bitch for a minute? Oh say less?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but yeah, very much. Looking for new hobbies
Speaker 2: in the colder months. But yeah, not not like snowboarding
Speaker 2: or like skiing or like, you know, not gonna like
Speaker 2: take up running. But I need something to do because
Speaker 2: Jimmy is studying for this big exam and now it's
Speaker 2: like lockdown time like it is this free time is
Speaker 2: study time. Stay disciplined, and he is. He's very disciplined
Speaker 2: and he's very dedicated. And I give him a lot
Speaker 2: of credit for that because it's like almost like he's
Speaker 2: back in school and I just I couldn't. I don't
Speaker 2: think i'd be able to do it.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: But I need something to feel productive while he does that,
Speaker 2: because I can't just like keep sitting on the couch
Speaker 2: and scrolling through social media while he like studies makes
Speaker 2: me feel bad about myself. I feel like I hear
Speaker 2: it if we're doing it together, and he's also coutrotting.
Speaker 1: It's totally different.
Speaker 2: It's totally fine because then I feel like we're spending
Speaker 2: quality time together. But when it's just me doing it
Speaker 2: and there's someone else in the house and I know
Speaker 2: they're doing something productive, I'm like, I'm bad.
Speaker 1: You know what. One of my brothers got my sister
Speaker 1: in law for Christmas a little crochet kit. They're super cute.
Speaker 1: He found it on Etsy and it's like beginner stuff,
Speaker 1: and it's just like something in one sitting. It's not
Speaker 1: like but she made like a little I don't even
Speaker 1: know how to describe it. It was like a little pucket lizard.
Speaker 1: But then what does she do with it? It's supposed
Speaker 1: to be I don't know. I think its supposed to
Speaker 1: be stressed relieving. Yeah, it's cute. Yeah, give it to
Speaker 1: your nieces or your nephew.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's a good idea.
Speaker 1: It'supposed to be great for mobility, great for brain health.
Speaker 2: Yes, I do knit, do you?
Speaker 1: I didn't know that about you.
Speaker 2: My grandma taught us all to knit when we were young,
Speaker 2: and she attempted to teach us how to sew. I'm
Speaker 2: not as good at sewing as I am at knitting,
Speaker 2: but I can knit.
Speaker 1: That is very impressive. Okay, so fuck it, forget the crochet,
Speaker 1: let's move on to something.
Speaker 2: Well, No, because I don't know how to crochet.
Speaker 1: I think it's similar to knitting. You still have a
Speaker 1: different hook.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's definitely different and you can make like different stuff.
Speaker 1: So crocheng is out because you already know how to knit.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think it's out. But I also and
Speaker 2: I said that I wasn't really interested and like reading more.
Speaker 1: Okay, because what about coloring stress books? Oh maybe I
Speaker 1: do like to color and I do like to paint,
Speaker 1: but I like these to be like kind of portable. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, you shove like a Bob Ross with your
Speaker 1: easel and everything.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm at my house, sometimes I'm at Jimmy's house
Speaker 2: and like taking everything like back and forth, because that's
Speaker 2: what I'm trying to avoid, right, is when we kind
Speaker 2: of like camp out at each other's house for the weekend.
Speaker 2: So like I'll go to his house for the weekend.
Speaker 2: And we don't live far apart. We live fifteen minutes apart,
Speaker 2: so really going back and forth is more of a
Speaker 2: minor inconvenience than it is an absolute no go. It's
Speaker 2: just kind of annoying to go back and forth, like Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go to my house and do some laundry
Speaker 2: and like do some stuff and then I'll come back.
Speaker 2: And it's like, okay, well if I do that once
Speaker 2: maybe twice in a day, that's an hour in the car. Oof.
Speaker 2: We we don't like that, you know, Yeah, short trips
Speaker 2: fifteen minutes, but it adds up, right, So I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm looking for something that I can do
Speaker 2: primarily at his house because he doesn't study a ton
Speaker 2: at my house.
Speaker 1: I wonder what like a top top hobbies of twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four are top?
Speaker 2: A lot of people were suggesting books which.
Speaker 1: Cooking, so oh no, I would have said the same thing. Uh,
Speaker 1: gardening and landscaping. Oh what if you pull a little
Speaker 1: I can't do that in the winter. Indoor garden at
Speaker 1: his house. Door garden at his house. Hey coming in,
Speaker 1: not moving in the gardens. Some herbs. Oh, pickling, he
Speaker 1: does love pickles. You can pickle. You can pickle almost
Speaker 1: anything according to Google. But yeah, candle making. Who are
Speaker 1: these people that answered this? Who is it? These are
Speaker 1: like people without jumps, Like, what are what are your hobbies?
Speaker 1: What do people do to fill their free time? Right?
Speaker 1: I guess I just assume everybody either scrolls or watches stuff.
Speaker 1: I watch stuff. I'm so terrible. I wish I had
Speaker 1: a better answer, but I'm like, either there's a new
Speaker 1: serial Killer documentary I'll throw my comfort show on, or
Speaker 1: there's like a Virgin River right where you can kind
Speaker 1: of pay attention and it's mushy, but whatever, it's fine.
Speaker 1: I have nothing. I have nothing to offer. I hate
Speaker 1: when people ask you that too. I just got a
Speaker 1: message on my TikTok the other day that was like
Speaker 1: just out of curiosity, right, trying to learn more about me.
Speaker 1: And they're like, so outside of like work and family,
Speaker 1: what do you do?
Speaker 2: Is there a time daft?
Speaker 1: That response? Mm my nap, that's whatday took a pretty
Speaker 1: killer one. I have no answer to that question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do one of the things that I am
Speaker 2: for sure gonna I'm gonna start a puzzle. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: do a puzzle at his house.
Speaker 1: That's a good idea.
Speaker 2: He's gonna make fun of me, but that's okay.
Speaker 1: There's some great puzzles though, Yeah, and they as something
Speaker 1: did a puzzle, it's like just stimulating enough where it
Speaker 1: can keep your attention for probably like a solid hour
Speaker 1: and you might need to take some breaks, so like
Speaker 1: maybe you can stretch it into two hours. My friend
Speaker 1: did twelve puzzles last year. She did a puzzle per
Speaker 1: month that took her, on average, like all time put together,
Speaker 1: like two and a half weeks. She does like intense puzzles.
Speaker 1: She loved it, and I think it's really good lowering
Speaker 1: your risk of Alzheimer's and dementia.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we like that. We like that. We have to
Speaker 2: think about that now or we're of age to start.
Speaker 1: I know, or kids, please, you still got some time, girl.
Speaker 1: I am staring forty down the barrel, and I am
Speaker 1: nervous about it. Why because I think I feel like
Speaker 1: my body's already fallen apart so much, and that's ninety
Speaker 1: percent on me. I don't do what I should do,
Speaker 1: but I just feel like at forty, do you remember
Speaker 1: that first Harry Potter movie, Chamber of Secrets for Sorcerer's Stone,
Speaker 1: His hands touch the guy and he just crumbles to sand.
Speaker 1: I think that's what's gonna happen in my four Oh.
Speaker 1: I think if my body's just gonna give up, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be like, girl, you didn't do anything.
Speaker 2: The first forty I think that you and I just
Speaker 2: with the nature of our job, I think that we
Speaker 2: are more active than we realize. And I think it's
Speaker 2: I think it's inactivity that really kind of starts you
Speaker 2: down a path you can't return from.
Speaker 1: But I also just told you when people ask what
Speaker 1: my hobbies are, I say napping. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I've got.
Speaker 2: But how many free we go do you have in
Speaker 2: a day between going to work and going to all
Speaker 2: of these events and then taking care of your kids
Speaker 2: and taking them Because you guys are very active. You're
Speaker 2: always doing something, You're always going somewhere. You guys do
Speaker 2: stuff together.
Speaker 1: As a family and you can get the people.
Speaker 2: You visit with friends, you take trips to all over
Speaker 2: the state to see your family and hang out with cousins.
Speaker 1: Now I do all activity, do you activity? You know
Speaker 1: what I had for dinner the other night tot castrole,
Speaker 1: which is amazing, delicious, but I put it on crusty bread. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it was like carbon carbon carb side of starch.
Speaker 2: They do that in the UK, they really.
Speaker 1: Yes, they do.
Speaker 2: It's called everywhere it's called a is it a chip buddy,
Speaker 2: A chip buddy something. No, but it's fret. It's I mean,
Speaker 2: they call French rice chips, but it's French fries on bread.
Speaker 2: It's a French fries sandwich.
Speaker 1: So don't that does make me feel better? You are
Speaker 1: very European. New resolution for both of us compliment each
Speaker 1: other more. I think that an indoor garden or candle
Speaker 1: making could be great for you, But I also want
Speaker 1: to frame your puzzles. I don't want to frame the puzzles.
Speaker 1: I don't want to frame them because that's a That's
Speaker 1: another thing that I don't want to have to deal
Speaker 1: with is that I don't want hobbies that create junk.
Speaker 1: I want to throw everything away. Oh, the minimalist side
Speaker 1: of you has always been such a turn on. Really,
Speaker 1: I love it. Yeah, I would. I'd feel the exact
Speaker 1: same way. I would do that and then be like
Speaker 1: and then mess it all up to put it back
Speaker 1: in its box less clutter in twenty twenty five, which
Speaker 1: is perfect because we can't afford clutter anyway. Yeah, run
Speaker 1: a full circle. We're gonna be great.
Speaker 2: I want to throw stuff out. I want to get
Speaker 2: stuff done, like I've got a few house projects. On
Speaker 2: my list for twenty twenty five. And whenever I have
Speaker 2: a contractor over to the house, they always ask how
Speaker 2: long I've lived in the house, and they're always surprised
Speaker 2: when I say seven plus years, and they like look
Speaker 2: around and they're like, oh, I thought, like.
Speaker 1: Maybe you had just moved. No, we don't judge.
Speaker 2: I just live in this. I just live like this.
Speaker 2: I just live with no tile in front of the
Speaker 2: front door. I just live with the half bathroom off
Speaker 2: the kitchen. It doesn't have a door. The toilet works,
Speaker 2: you can flush it.
Speaker 1: I see no problem.
Speaker 2: The sink needs some attention, but I'm getting there. I'm
Speaker 2: getting there. I had to call my friend Renee and
Speaker 2: be like, these are the three projects on my.
Speaker 1: List for the year. Yep.
Speaker 2: If I do more, great, but these are the bare minimum.
Speaker 2: This is what I have to get done.
Speaker 1: So you got accountability, buddy.
Speaker 2: But I don't know where to start. I've narrowed it,
Speaker 2: but like, which one? Where do I start? So she
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, I'm just gonna decide for you.
Speaker 2: You're gonna start at the front of the house and
Speaker 2: you're just gonna work. You're able. I like that, and
Speaker 2: then since then, She has texted me once or twice
Speaker 2: to be like, where are we at? We got something
Speaker 2: has we got to check something off on Friday?
Speaker 1: Oh, she's getting new deadlines.
Speaker 2: I like it, which is great, but also like I
Speaker 2: shouldn't have to rely on I am an adult, like
Speaker 2: I should just be able to do it. But yeah,
Speaker 2: I had a few contractors over for quotes and I was, hell, yeah,
Speaker 2: how long have you lived here?
Speaker 1: Seven years? Oh?
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, yep, I just I can. I love the
Speaker 2: Renno or the not the Renno, the demo. I love
Speaker 2: the demolition.
Speaker 1: You gotta eat half of it's done.
Speaker 2: Can tear shit down and tears it apart and rip
Speaker 2: things out and get rid of them with the best
Speaker 2: of them, but then putting it back to get there.
Speaker 1: I felt like it was gonna be so hyped coming
Speaker 1: into the new year, refreshing, new vibes, new energy, and
Speaker 1: then when you just said, yeah, I live like this,
Speaker 1: that's gonna be my mantra by like February, and I
Speaker 1: think I'm good with this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I live like this. I really do.
Speaker 1: Happy twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: Mmmm mm mmmmm