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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and golajiving. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul Fellavledo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode seven oh four. I want you to picture something.

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<v Speaker 2>You walk into your workplace on Monday morning. Same people,

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<v Speaker 2>same problems, same conversations, same frustrations, same results. Tuesday looks

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<v Speaker 2>the same, Wednesday looks the same. Friday rolls around and

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like you worked all week, but nothing actually

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<v Speaker 2>moved forward. Then next week starts and it repeats. That

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<v Speaker 2>is the infinite loop. And here's the dangerous part. Most

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<v Speaker 2>leaders don't even realize they are stuck inside it. They

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<v Speaker 2>think they are working hard, they think they are busy,

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<v Speaker 2>they think they are leading, But what they are really

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<v Speaker 2>doing is replaying the same leadership week over and over again.

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<v Speaker 2>Different dates on the calendar, same leadership behaviors. The infinite

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<v Speaker 2>loop is not caused by your team. It's not caused

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<v Speaker 2>by your workload. It is caused by a lack of interruption.

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<v Speaker 2>Leaders who never interrupt their own patterns will repeat them forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me give you a real world example, a leader

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<v Speaker 2>walks into the office every day and complains about communication problems.

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<v Speaker 2>They say things like, my team never tells me anything,

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<v Speaker 2>or nobody communicates around here. So what do they do?

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<v Speaker 2>They send another email, they hold another meeting, They repeat

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<v Speaker 2>the same instructions. Then they get frustrated when nothing changes.

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<v Speaker 2>That is the loop, because they never stop to ask

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<v Speaker 2>a different question, what am I doing? That is creating

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<v Speaker 2>this communication problem? The infinite loop survives because leaders keep

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<v Speaker 2>asking the same questions in getting the same answers. If

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<v Speaker 2>you want to break it, you need to disrupt your

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<v Speaker 2>own thinking first. And here's the truth that most leaders

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to hear. You're not stuck because of your situation.

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<v Speaker 2>You're stuck because of your pattern. And patterns feel comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>even bad ones, especially bad ones, because they're predictable. You

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<v Speaker 2>know how the day is going to go, you know

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<v Speaker 2>who is going to frustrate you, you know what is

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<v Speaker 2>going to go wrong, and there is something strangely comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>about that. Because it requires zero growth, The infinite loop

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<v Speaker 2>rewards familiarity and punishes change. That is why breaking it

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<v Speaker 2>feels uncomfortable. And let's take this deeper. There are three

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<v Speaker 2>signals that you were trapped in the infinite loop. First,

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<v Speaker 2>your problems never change. If you were dealing with the

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<v Speaker 2>same exact issues you were dealing with six months ago,

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<v Speaker 2>you were not managing problems, you are maintaining them. Second,

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<v Speaker 2>your language never changes. Listen to yourself. If you are

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<v Speaker 2>saying the same complaints, the same phrases, the same frustrations,

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<v Speaker 2>over and over again, your mindset is on repeat. Third,

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<v Speaker 2>your results never change. If your team, performance, culture, and

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<v Speaker 2>outcomes look identical quarter after quarter, that's not stability. That's stagnation.

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<v Speaker 2>Now Here is where great leaders separate themselves. They do

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<v Speaker 2>something very simple but very hard. They break their own loop.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't wait for the system to change. They change

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<v Speaker 2>their behavior inside the system. They disrupt the pattern. Let

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<v Speaker 2>me give you a few ways to do that. Number one,

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<v Speaker 2>change your questions. Instead of asking why is this happening?

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<v Speaker 2>Ask what am I allowing? That question forces accountability. Number two,

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<v Speaker 2>change your response time. Most leaders react immediately, same trigger,

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<v Speaker 2>same reaction. Instead pause, even for thirty seconds. That pause

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<v Speaker 2>breaks the automatic loop and gives you space to choose

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<v Speaker 2>a different response. Number three, change your inputs. If you

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<v Speaker 2>are surrounding yourself with the same voices, the same information,

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<v Speaker 2>the same perspectives. You will get the same outputs. You

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<v Speaker 2>need new data, you need new coms, new friction. That

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<v Speaker 2>is where growth comes from. Number four, change one behavior

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<v Speaker 2>per day, not ten, not twenty, just one. Because the

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<v Speaker 2>infinite loop is not broken by massive change, it is

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<v Speaker 2>broken by consistent disruption. You don't need to overhaul your leadership.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to interrupt it. Now. I want to bring

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<v Speaker 2>this home. Some of you listening right now are stuck

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<v Speaker 2>in a loop. You have been in for years, same meetings,

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<v Speaker 2>same complaints, same leadership habits, and you have convinced yourself

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<v Speaker 2>that this is just how it is, that this is normal,

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<v Speaker 2>that this is leadership, and it's not. It is repetition

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<v Speaker 2>without reflection, and repetition without reflection is where leadership dies.

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<v Speaker 2>Because growth requires awareness and awareness requires interruption. You have

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<v Speaker 2>to be willing to look at your own leadership and

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<v Speaker 2>say I am part of the problem. That's not weakness.

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<v Speaker 2>That is ownership. That is red key leadership. That is

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<v Speaker 2>the moment where you stop playing the same track and

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<v Speaker 2>decide to write a new one. So here's your challenge today.

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<v Speaker 2>Identify one loop you are stuck in one. It could

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<v Speaker 2>be how you handle conflict. It could be how you

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<v Speaker 2>run meetings, it could be how you communicate expectations. Pick one.

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<v Speaker 2>Then ask yourself, what is the one thing I can

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<v Speaker 2>do differently today to break this pattern? And then do it,

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<v Speaker 2>not tomorrow, not next week, today, because the longer you

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<v Speaker 2>stay in the loop, the harder it is to see

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<v Speaker 2>that you're in it. And the leaders who break free

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<v Speaker 2>are the ones who refuse to let repetition define them.

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<v Speaker 2>They choose awareness over autopilot. They choose growth over comfort.

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<v Speaker 2>They choose intentional leadership over recycled behavior. That is how

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<v Speaker 2>you escape the infinite loop as you head into your

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<v Speaker 2>next shift, your next meeting, your next conversation. Remember this

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<v Speaker 2>leadership is not about doing more of the same. It's

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<v Speaker 2>about seeing what others miss, including yourself. Break one loop

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<v Speaker 2>today and you will start to see everything differently tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you want more free leadership resources, head over

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<v Speaker 2>and start using today. This has been the seven minute

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<v Speaker 2>leadership podcast, and I thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more Paul fell of Alito Podcasts visit Paulfellowalito dot com,