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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Boy,

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here's something that might create an OMG moment starting up

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a thought? Oh my god? What? Why do I have

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to be the one that has to start up the thought?

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But sometimes we are that person that is selected to

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start up the thought. For some it can be very difficult,

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not only with yourself, but now reach out and plant

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those thoughts into the thinking patterns of a conversation with

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friends or coworkers. I'm forty four years deep into this

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broadcasting career and it's still extremely tough for me to

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be the conversation starter. Now, I did some research and

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experts connected to shyness and social anxiety. But there are

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ways to help get you into the talk. Number one,

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ask for information. Number two pay a compliment to someone.

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Number three comment on something that is pleasant, four offer

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someone help, and five show interest in the conversation. So

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number one, once again, ask for information, So tell me

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a little bit more about what you're talking about. You

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see what I mean? It's that easy. Number two, pay

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a compliment. You know, I really like the way that

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you go up to people and you ask a great

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question about their day. You don't make it about yourself,

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You make it about their day. Number three comment on

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something that is pleasant, little chili. But I'll tell you what,

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with all those Christmas decorations out there, it fits the scene.

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I'm glad people are putting up their Christmas decorations. Number

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four offer someone help, Hey, hey, don't do that by yourself.

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No no, no, no, we need you to be a

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part of this team. No no, we work together here.

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That's too heavy for one person to handle. And number

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five show interest. Did you really do that? Man? That's awesome.

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My personal challenge is based solely on how much talking

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I do before I get into a group of people.

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A good example, in three days, I'm gonna have twelve

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interviews for my podcast, Unplugged and Totally Uncut, non stop

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talking from eight am until eleven thirty am. The first

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thing I do after this kind of a morning is

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go inward, becoming the listener instead of the conversation starter.

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Then you're expected to go to the essential job we're

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talking is what engages people into the conversation. No wonder

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I've got an endless sore throat. I can still hear

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my father saying, right now, all I need from you

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is to be still? But is that really where we

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need to be in this modern day society, to just

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be still? We've put ourselves in a position where we

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all have a voice, we don't have to agree with it.

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That's what I believe is the relationship. We don't have

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to agree, but we can disagree and still be in

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this relationship. That's what they say, Mayor It's like you

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bring two sides together and you work things out, but

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starting that conversation. I can stand there at the essential

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job and not say a word for twenty minutes, and

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people probably think what a jerk. He won't even say

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hello to me. And yet I know for a fact

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that my body, language, my eyes, everything says how are

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you doing? Without physically saying words? How do you get

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into a conversation? Do you want to get into a

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conversation and being that silent one? Don't you think that

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can create fear for others because they don't know where

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you are? In thought? Just something to think about. I'm

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arrow and that's what I was writing while the sun

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was waking up on a brilliant new day,