Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Boy,
here's something that might create an OMG moment starting up
a thought? Oh my god? What? Why do I have
to be the one that has to start up the thought?
But sometimes we are that person that is selected to
start up the thought. For some it can be very difficult,
not only with yourself, but now reach out and plant
those thoughts into the thinking patterns of a conversation with
friends or coworkers. I'm forty four years deep into this
broadcasting career and it's still extremely tough for me to
be the conversation starter. Now, I did some research and
experts connected to shyness and social anxiety. But there are
ways to help get you into the talk. Number one,
ask for information. Number two pay a compliment to someone.
Number three comment on something that is pleasant, four offer
someone help, and five show interest in the conversation. So
number one, once again, ask for information, So tell me
a little bit more about what you're talking about. You
see what I mean? It's that easy. Number two, pay
a compliment. You know, I really like the way that
you go up to people and you ask a great
question about their day. You don't make it about yourself,
You make it about their day. Number three comment on
something that is pleasant, little chili. But I'll tell you what,
with all those Christmas decorations out there, it fits the scene.
I'm glad people are putting up their Christmas decorations. Number
four offer someone help, Hey, hey, don't do that by yourself.
No no, no, no, we need you to be a
part of this team. No no, we work together here.
That's too heavy for one person to handle. And number
five show interest. Did you really do that? Man? That's awesome.
My personal challenge is based solely on how much talking
I do before I get into a group of people.
A good example, in three days, I'm gonna have twelve
interviews for my podcast, Unplugged and Totally Uncut, non stop
talking from eight am until eleven thirty am. The first
thing I do after this kind of a morning is
go inward, becoming the listener instead of the conversation starter.
Then you're expected to go to the essential job we're
talking is what engages people into the conversation. No wonder
I've got an endless sore throat. I can still hear
my father saying, right now, all I need from you
is to be still? But is that really where we
need to be in this modern day society, to just
be still? We've put ourselves in a position where we
all have a voice, we don't have to agree with it.
That's what I believe is the relationship. We don't have
to agree, but we can disagree and still be in
this relationship. That's what they say, Mayor It's like you
bring two sides together and you work things out, but
starting that conversation. I can stand there at the essential
job and not say a word for twenty minutes, and
people probably think what a jerk. He won't even say
hello to me. And yet I know for a fact
that my body, language, my eyes, everything says how are
you doing? Without physically saying words? How do you get
into a conversation? Do you want to get into a
conversation and being that silent one? Don't you think that
can create fear for others because they don't know where
you are? In thought? Just something to think about. I'm
arrow and that's what I was writing while the sun
was waking up on a brilliant new day,