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Hey, I back. Oh yes, I'm back with something for you to

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think about. Those of you who
have listened to me, I appreciate you.

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If it's your first time, I
appreciate you as well. Everything I

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do, everything I say, everything
I write is to inspire, motivate,

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educate, influence. Nothing but goodness. That's it. It is the hope

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that people truly take a look at
self, do a self assessment, and

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make a decision to change, because
no one on the face of the earth

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have to live an unhappy life.
It is by choice. I don't care

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what you've been through. It is
by choice. It is by choice.

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That's why it is imperative, imperative
that you be aware of your negative thoughts,

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because your negative thoughts can cause you
complete self destruction. So many people

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in the world live every single day
holding on to negativity. The more you

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hold on to negativity, you have
the negative thoughts. And the more you

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hold on to the negative thoughts,
they grow inside of you. They absolutely

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grow inside of you. They intensify
in your mind, and they cause you

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to feel a certain way. When
you have all that negativity inside of you,

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you cannot do anything other than have
bad feelings and emotions behind those negative

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thoughts. I've told you for years
how people do not understand that they give

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power to their negative thoughts. When
you give power to your negative thoughts,

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then you're at that point in your
life where you can end up fall and

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pray to your own way of thinking. It leads you down a road of

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darkness. I know, not that
I've experienced it for myself, thats who

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I am, but I've experienced it
through someone that's very, very close to

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me. And I've told you I
may talk about that one day, but

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I just can't right now. And
it's not all about that person. But

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I've seen it so many times with
so many different people, people from all

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walks of life. That's why I
tell you that you can smile. It

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does not mean you're happy. Sometimes
you got to smile to keep from crying.

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But when you go through life just
holding on to negativity, it leads

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you down the road you don't have
to go. You don't have to travel,

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you don't have to go down that
negative road. People do it by

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choice. And one thing I've learned
through this experience of this person that I'm

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talking about or mentioned, everything isn't
about childhood trauma. Sometimes people just bring

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things on themselves because of their wrong
ways of thinking. They go through life

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develop their own negative ways of thinking, and all of that negativity sooner a

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letter would drive you to madness.
I've also told you most people in the

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world, and I will say most
most people in the world have caused their

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own mental illness somehow. It's because
of lifestyle choices. Whether you grew up

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in trauma or whether that trauma occurred
as an adult, you always have a

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way that you can choose to deal
with things. Most people don't cope with

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it. You cannot heal from something
if you don't deal with it, you

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can't. So many people hide behind
their past pains, or they hide behind

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that pain that they developed by their
wrong ways of thinking. People literally think,

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and I know because I have relatives
this way. Young relatives, because

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they are adults, they can do
anything they want, they can say anything,

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they can act any way that they
want towards their parents or towards adults

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that's way older than them. But
they think they have that right of passage,

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and they go down these roads that
they don't have to travel because of

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their own negattive ways of thinking,
and they can lead people down dark roads

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of destruction. It really can.
That's why I tell you you must be

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aware of your negative thoughts. You
must be aware of what you're thinking.

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Period. You must have been aware. We all get crazy thoughts. Sometimes.

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I'm not saying thoughts of suicide.
I'm not saying thoughts of murder or

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nothing like that. But sometimes we
get negative thoughts in our heads. And

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for me, the first thing I
do is laugh because it's so ludle,

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because you be minding your own business
and this dumb thought of popping your head.

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I don't entertain that mess. I'm
like devil. You're trying me any

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way you can, but it won't
work. It will not work. I'm

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not gonna entertain negative thoughts, and
I move on. I don't let it

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linger. I don't allow it to
keep coming back to me, but so

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many people do because of their hearts
in their minds. When your heart in

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your mind has not developed to be
mature ways of thinking and feeling and acting,

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when you have not developed into that
person, when you have not yet

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dealt with the mindset that you have, it can lead you down a road

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that you didn't have to travel.
It really, really can so many people

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in this world. They're hiding behind
who they really are. How can you

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ever get better? Be hiding behind
who you really are? You're hiding behind

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that person who needs healing. How
can you get better if you are hiding

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behind that person who needs healing?
You never will. And all you do

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is go through life compiling more and
more and more upon yourself. And some

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people get to a point of breakdown
because you've gone through so much, You've

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added so much of other people's issues
upon yours. You are already a negative

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person. Now you have adopted someone
else's negativity as well. And for a

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lot of people, it leads them
down a road to mental illness. It

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leads them down a road of self
destruction because along the way, a lot

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of people pick up, you know, similar or like minded individuals into their

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lives. And it don't make this
situation better because a person who thinks like

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you, they're not gonna tell you
what you need to hear. They're gonna

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tell you what you want to hear. And that's never good. It is

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absolutely never good. That's why you, you as the individual, must be

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aware and mindful of what you're allowing
to come into your mind. Some of

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you have so much pent up pain
from many years ago, from childhood.

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You chose to stay on the same
road when you could have went another way.

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Now you're adults with the same pent
up pain, and you're going through

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life hiding behind that pain, and
you're miserable. Many of you you don't

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like yourselves. It bothers you to
the utmost to be by yourself. Some

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of you refuse to be by yourself. That's why you always in a relationship,

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a messed up relationship. On top
of that, that's why some of

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you always have people around you,
but you know for yourself that you may

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have people around you, but you're
still feeling the way you have always felt.

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Lonely, sad, depressed, anxious, all kind of things. That's

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showing you that you can be around
a group of people and still lonely,

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still sad, because you haven't changed. That inner man, that inner woman

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has not changed. So you take
all of this negativity because everywhere you go,

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you are with yourself. You cannot
separate yourself from who you are.

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I've always said the person that is
lord the most, that one individual people

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ignored the most is self. You
try to fix, save change everyone else,

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especially those they those you choose to
love, I mean intimately, but

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you can't do it for yourself.
So many people are chasing after all types

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of things and people, but they
don't have their own lives together. It's

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terrible. Then you have in the
midst of those people, you have those

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individuals who are negative every day.
Don't get me wrong. Not every negative

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person has the type of negativity that
leads to some type of detrimental destruction like

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murder or suicide or homicide. But
it still leads to some form of destruction

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because if it affects your mind,
if it affects your heart, it's still

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destruction. Some people are so negative
and they don't even realize their negative.

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People around them see it, but
they don't see it. And they're so

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negative until they have developed mental illness, but they don't even know it.

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They don't realize it that they've developed
phobias and fears and all of that stuff

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out of their negativity. So it's
still a form of destruction, self destruction,

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self inflicted. But people don't realize
it. They really don't because they're

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not feeling suicide on home, sidle
or things like that. They think they're

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okay, but they're far from okay. There are many levels to this thing,

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but it all leads to self destruction
because of the negative thoughts that people

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have. So many people in this
world hold on to everything, every single

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negative thing they've gone through. They
hold on to it, and they'll bring

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it up fifteen years later. Well, you remember when you did this,

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You're supposed to be over that.
You talked about it, They ask for

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forgiveness, all types of good things. But then you bring it up fifteen

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years later, still hopping on the
same thing. And the first thing that

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people will say is, oh,
I'm not holding rudgis I'm not mad about

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it? Yes you are. If
you're still talking about it, you're still

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holding some type of feelings about it. People don't understand they are their own

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worst enemy. You're your own worst
enemy. And what's really really disheartening and

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sad about it all is most people
don't do anything about it. They continue

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to go through life the same way, self sabotaging, self destruction, self

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inflicting that they don't see it.
And you have all of these negative thoughts

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in your head, and for some
people it does lead down that road of

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destruction to murder, suicide, homicide. There are so many scenarios I could

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talk about, like people who you
know you're thinking negative, you know it,

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but you keep feeding it. Like
people who do things like sell documentation

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to foreign countries, you know,
sell information to foreign countries. You know

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you've been thinking about that, You've
been thinking about it, and you've been

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thinking about it, and you finally
act on it because you did nothing to

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stop those negative thoughts. For whatever
reason, money, position power, whatever

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the reason may be, you still
chose to do it. Or individuals,

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which the reason that I heard was
a lieutenant colonel, lieutenant colonel who thought

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he was contacting a young child and
want to meet that child. But it

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was a stem, which was great, it was a stem that caught him.

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But you knew what you were doing. You knew that's what you were

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thinking. And it's more than likely
wasn't the first time. But see,

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instead of people healing from their pain
that caused them the mindset that they have

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to do the things that they do, they just keep going through life because

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they've gotten away with certain things,
and instead of healing themselves, they keep

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doing things because they're getting some type
of self gratification from it even though they

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know it's wrong. You were thinking
those negative thoughts to pursue a child when

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you know it was wrong, so
you kept giving power to it, and

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then you was having these feelings and
emotions behind those things. He got caught.

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But many, many people do it, many many, many people of

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high caliber and no caliber. It
don't discriminate, there's no discrimination. People

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of all walks of life do it
because they have not healed from that inner

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pain that caused the mindset that they
have right now, and it led to

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destruction. It leads to destruction.
Ultimately, people are succumbing to this negativity,

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absolutely succumbing to this negativity, going
through life the very same way.

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When there's always a choice to change, always every single day that you live.

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It's a chance to change, it's
a chance to get it right,

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it's a chance to become better.
But most people don't take it because they're

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so comfortable being the way they've always
been. They are so comfortable even though

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it's causing them problems, it's causing
them issues. They are so comfortable in

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that mess. They're so comfortable in
that negativity that they are not willing to

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change. No one has to go
through life this way, you have people

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who murder like murder is eating candy. It's nothing to them. Because people

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don't they don't think. They just
act and react. They don't think it

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through to the consequences because they have
a negative mindset. And I do know

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that some people do stuff. It's
like it appears that it was just random,

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But I don't believe in that.
I don't believe in that. Now

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I can understand, like reflexes,
if someone done something, your reflex was

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to just boom, you know,
But for the most part, I don't

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believe in random. People are random
because most have anger issues that they have

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not dealt with. So it all
leads to that inner man, that inner

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woman, everything everything, And when
you don't hear yourself, you're gonna continue

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to go through life with that negativity
that's causing you. Issues, issues in

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your relationship, issues as parents,
issues in your careers, just issues everywhere

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you go. Because you take you
everywhere you go, you and all of

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your unresolved, and for many it
has led to destruction, led to destruction.

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Some people think they're getting away,
but let me tell you something.

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Just because you're getting by it does
not mean you're gonna get away. The

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Bible tells us everything comes to the
light one way or another. Anyone can

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change if they choose change, but
most people won't because they worried too much

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about other people. They're worried too
much about fame, riches, things,

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the word, about everything else.
But getting self to a better mindset.

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That negative way of thinking will lead
you down a road you didn't have to

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travel. And that's all I'm gonna
say on it. I'm leaving it right

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there. I think I've said enough
for you to understand. If you have

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any questions, please reach out to
me. I will be more than happy

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to answer your questions. You don't
have to hold on to that old pain,

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you don't have to hold on to
that negativity. You can take control

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of those negative thoughts. I can
say that you will stop negative thoughts from

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coming period altogether. I'm not saying
that, but I'm talking about those negative

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thoughts that you ponder over, those
negative thoughts that you allow to go through

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your brain every day, all day. Those negative thoughts, those are the

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ones I'm talking about, the ones
you give power to, the ones you're

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focused on, the ones you can't
stop thinking about. Those are the ones

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that can lead down a road of
destruction. Those are the ones I'm talking

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about. When you know you're having
negative thoughts, that's when you do something.

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Talk yourself off the ledge, go
to someone, seek help, anything,

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but don't succome. Only you can
change you. This subject is very

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dear to me because I know too
many people who have went down that road

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of destruction when they didn't have to. No one has to, but as

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I said, many have, many
will because people too comfortable in their negativity.

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Only you can change you, but
you have to want to. You

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have to be aware of your negative
thinking, and you have to be willing

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to do something. Own the negativity, own it. Owing. That is

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doing something only, That is being
aware only, that is being mindful.

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When you do that, you change
the direction of that negative thought. When

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you do that, you no longer
give power to that negative thought. You

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take ownership. This is negative,
This is wrong. I can't think like

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this. That's how you handle those
negative thoughts. So you deguide them.

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You don't give power to them.
You have to deny them, and the

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more you do, they will go
away. Whatever you give power to has

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the ability to control you and consume
you. If you do nothing about it,

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so I'm believing it right there.
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