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Since we don' t like to
leave people with the taste inside. We

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' re looking for information about what
we were talking about. Now how you

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have a wrong idea of what relationships
are. And I see some, for

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example, even mentally ill people talking
about things that are normal within relationships.

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Of course it' s because the
mentally ill have to call them what they

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are. What worries me is seeing
grown people say how it' s possible.

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Yesterday my good friend Henry Sanchez said, that is, they are doing

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it worse than she is, because
he is talking about the community of brainless

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people who follow her. But people
with heads then go out to give an

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amplification effect to the stupidity that this
lady says that stab wounds within the couple

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are normal and acceptable. I have
a very different criterion. For example,

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I think the person with whom I
have a relationship and speak to me twice

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as hard the third of the peolo
tooth or wow, because what is going

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to follow after the fourth is a
hit. So if you' ve already

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lifted my bo three times in a
threatening way, then I' m already

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warned, just like anyone who dares
to put their hand on me without any

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kind of is that it' s
not at the same time that a man

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speaks to you in a threatening tone
and you, as a woman, tolerate

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it. I always tell the story. The one in the cauldron with the

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random was the last time that person
gave that woman. Well, it was

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the first one and the last one
was the trunk of the kitchen. She

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took a cauldron that was in the
ten stove It' s over. Pongo,

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Be' s father picked up his
clothes. He left and the neighbors

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went to pour water into what was
coming back years looking for forgiveness. Ama

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turned her hand down less She talks
to me about that sheath and I see

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people armed, but how is it
possible, because that broad is a mentally

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ill first. It comes from an
environment where that kind of attitude within the

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relationship is normal, very normal.
You haven' t read the murder statistics

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this year. Within the murders and
twenty- eight women killed by their partner,

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there are eight men, indicating that
Vais has a serious problem of violence

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and one hundred and sixty- eight
people died in six months between murder,

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murder and all that bullshit. So
fuck what the sciences say about our perception

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of what Adriana Gomez Basic relationships are. I asked him to tell me about

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the studies that suggest that how novels, movies and romantic series have been transcribing

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couples' relationships and what should be
a loving relationship says the studies have shown

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how novels, movies and romantic series
can influence the perception of couples' relationships

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and, in some cases, distort
what is considered a healthy loving relationship.

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Some points of these studies are highlighted
here. The idealization of relationships all respond

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to the corduroy right now. Yes, a study made of psychology and communication.

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Researchers, research has found that romantic
media tend to idealize couple relationships by

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presenting love as an easy and perfect
thing. This can bring expectations to few

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realists about what a loving relationship should
be. The impact on expectations. People

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who consume a lot of romantic means
often develop unrealistic expectations about their own relationships,

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waiting for a constant passion without conflict
or trouble. There is also a

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trend towards the normalization of toxic behavior, whose studies point out that romantic means

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often represent toxic behaviors such as control
and jealousy as signs of true love.

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This can lead viewers to see these
behaviors as acceptable or even desirable. In

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their own relationships. Examples in fiction
movies and popular series often show protagonists performing

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extreme control acts or intense jealousy as
a demonstration of their deep love, which

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can influence viewers' perception of what
is romantic and acceptable. Romantic media often

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present the resolution of unrealistic wooden conflicts, where serious problems are quickly and simply

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solved. This can lead to the
belief that real relationships should always be easy

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to handle and that serious conflicts are
magically resolved. Healthy relationships are based on

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open and honest communication, something that
is often overlooked or simplified in media representations.

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Media representations often present standards of beauty
and behavior that are unattainable to most

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people. This can affect the self- image, self- esteem of viewers,

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making them feel that they must meet
these standards to be loved or desirable.

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Romantic media can also reinforce roles in
gender and stereotypes, suggesting that men

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and women should behave in certain ways
in a relationship, or that they may

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limit the authentic and healthy expression of
individuals in their relationships. People who consume

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many romantic media often compare their own
relationships with the idealized ones they see on

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screen. This constant comparison can lead
to dissatisfaction with their own relationships, as

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reality rarely conforms to fictitious perfection.
Studies have found that media representations of romantic

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relationships can lead to expectations of a
constant and exciting passion, something that is

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not sustainable long- term relationships and
can lead to disappointments. There is a

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study that was made after the Nobook
film and how the Nobook film affected its

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audience was mostly women. Like the
impact the film had on the expectations of

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their relationships that already existed. There
are many women who watched that film led

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her to break- ups, not
only of courtship, but of marriages.

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And there is another study that also
analyzed the impact it had on women'

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s expectations and behavior after the popularization
of the novel The Fifty Shades of Grey

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and that film and what happened in
the United States was insane. And also

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how the impact it had on many
people, from the popularization of networks such

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as Instagram and other types of networks, that had a reach and exponential popularity

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in a very short time, in
that many women saw themselves in the need

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to pressure their partners to provide this
marriage, because they wanted or sought to

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have their social environment through the networks. They saw that they too were being

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happy and many women and many men
got married, came into a relationship,

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made a decision by pressure to fill
in content and make followers happy. And

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it' s also being studied.
And that didn' t happen a hundred

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years ago. That began exactly in
the year two thousand and twelve, having

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its highest point between two thousand and
fifteen and two thousand and sixteen. And

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that' s where the studies go, too, or if you don'

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t check the divorce ball in the
Dominican Republic between the 15th and the 18th

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and find out how a lot of
people got rich here hunting people who didn

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' t want to get married,
keep putting pressure on each other and believe

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that having a couple life and a
relationship is like the howa of major moden

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and are still there. No.
No, no, really, and I

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think this novel and this phenomenon also
explains why people get so easy to say,

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well, this doesn' t work. Forget about that and I'

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m going with other people instead of
fighting for their relationship loves, I see

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it completely relatable one thing to the
other. Yes, there are many things

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that obviously have to be very exposed
to many means and many things that are

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shaping our perception of reality and even
our own behavior. The big thing about

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it is that many of us are
aware, 100% that we are so

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shocked by that, but sometimes you
say good. Okay. I once had

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a conversation with someone who said hey
hey good you sad. Don' t

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share that sheath in the nets,
because first there' s half the people

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who don' t care about a
pussy, that you' re sad,

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has their own sadness, that'
s their priority, and the other half

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of the people are getting fat and
being happy with your misfortune. Then neither

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of them will solve anything for you
to share exactly. I totally agree,

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with you, Alberto, that'
s sharing the people who are overexposed and

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I say that I got to do
it once. I overexposed myself, that

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is, I shared too much of
my life on social media, and in

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the end it' s not worth
it. It' s not worth it

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if you want to talk to someone. You have your family, they have

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ties, they have your friends,
people who really care about you and who

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really know your reality you understand,
that they taste good Adriana in such a

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way. Or this may be a
solution, because I know it, but

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an x that you don' t
know and that probably wants to see you

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in your life. I don'
t get you to share things. You

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make yourself to the worst council so
that the worst exact, for you to

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finish is nine forty- nine minutes
out in the morning rhythm ninety- six

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five, the best excuse to get
up early, says a friend around here.

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I, as an event planner,
can tell you that a lot of

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people get married for filling those social
fees. So I see a couple in

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love. Not the norm and says
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