WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.439 --> 00:00:08.199 Deborah, with her thirty years of being an entrepreneur and creating over seven companies, 2 00:00:08.439 --> 00:00:12.119 knows exactly what it means to accept the mission. When you make that 3 00:00:12.240 --> 00:00:16.399 decision, when you accept the mission to become a solopreneur, to take yourself 4 00:00:16.440 --> 00:00:20.280 and your talents to market, then you embrace a life of not only unlimited 5 00:00:20.320 --> 00:00:25.320 possibilities, but also the unknown. It's an elixir of fear and bravery that 6 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:30.519 only someone who's taken the leap really understands. On our show, deb digs 7 00:00:30.559 --> 00:00:34.479 deep with her guests to highlight what you the listener wants to know, the 8 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:38.759 stories, the whys, and the hows to navigate the journey to success. 9 00:00:39.200 --> 00:00:43.320 Get ready to hear from some of the most incredible mission takers from Generation Z 10 00:00:43.640 --> 00:00:47.119 to boomers. So sit up, perk up, and get ready to be 11 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:52.759 blown away. Now here is your host, Deborah Drummond. Hello, everybody, 12 00:00:52.960 --> 00:00:58.479 Welcome back to the Ambition Accepted podcast you just heard look here all about 13 00:00:59.079 --> 00:01:03.200 I am thrilled about today. I'm excited when I have one cool guest on, 14 00:01:03.480 --> 00:01:06.560 but I have more than one cool guest. Look, we're gonna do 15 00:01:06.599 --> 00:01:08.359 something kind of cool and funky. You're going to love it, and you 16 00:01:08.359 --> 00:01:11.640 know how, I know you're going to love it because you are an active 17 00:01:12.040 --> 00:01:17.959 listening audience and you make me so excited because you send me what you want. 18 00:01:18.040 --> 00:01:21.280 You know, it's really easy to give you what you need when you 19 00:01:21.319 --> 00:01:23.680 ask for what you want. And we could do a whole show on braving 20 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:29.439 up and asking, but you were wanting more. You were wanting more of 21 00:01:29.519 --> 00:01:34.280 people talking about a specific sector. And so we sat down, me and 22 00:01:34.359 --> 00:01:38.159 the back team. Welcome. This is Carmel's first show. We have Dorothya 23 00:01:38.159 --> 00:01:42.560 and Carmel. We've got more people playing now, and we thought, what 24 00:01:42.640 --> 00:01:45.359 could we do to give you more in the same amount of time because apparently 25 00:01:45.400 --> 00:01:48.799 you want more, but you want it quicker. What is that? So 26 00:01:48.840 --> 00:01:53.920 we have four incredible people that are coaching changing lives. I mean, I 27 00:01:53.920 --> 00:01:59.120 think coaches and counselors are way up there when it talks to servant leadership, 28 00:01:59.239 --> 00:02:01.239 because if you talk to any coach or any counselor and what they do, 29 00:02:02.040 --> 00:02:07.159 it's never about them. It's about the impact they're making. It's about the 30 00:02:07.200 --> 00:02:10.639 lives that they're changing. It's about the golden gems that they give to somebody 31 00:02:10.680 --> 00:02:15.960 that just changes the trajectory of their life, the trajectory of their relationships, 32 00:02:15.000 --> 00:02:20.520 the trajectory of their bank accounts. It's all super good. So today I'm 33 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:23.319 gonna ask some questions and we're gonna hear some gem drops from four of the 34 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:28.159 most incredible people that I know and that I have spent time with all. 35 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:30.400 So let me introduce to you. I know, for you listeners, you 36 00:02:30.520 --> 00:02:37.560 can't see everybody, but you can watch the whole audio as well as video, 37 00:02:38.080 --> 00:02:42.120 but you're gonna hear a high but you're gonna hear more from these people. 38 00:02:42.240 --> 00:02:46.520 I am sharing the stage with Miss Janine McKinnon who is from Canada and 39 00:02:46.560 --> 00:02:51.240 she is a sexual empowerment coach. And then we have all the way down 40 00:02:51.479 --> 00:02:54.960 on in La on the beach, we have mister Larry Zimberg and he has 41 00:02:55.000 --> 00:03:00.879 a direct sales coach. And then over on the East Coast we have Miss 42 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:06.960 Joanne grand Life who is a children's educational facilitator. And then all the way 43 00:03:07.120 --> 00:03:10.759 circled back to beautiful British Columbia and Canada, we have Miss Linda and Nardelli 44 00:03:10.759 --> 00:03:15.080 who is a spiritual counselor and coach. So we're going to start with some 45 00:03:15.159 --> 00:03:17.280 questions, So we just get into it. People, what do you think, 46 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:22.159 Yeah, should we need the ass hands or yeah we can speak and 47 00:03:22.240 --> 00:03:25.439 yet okay, great, okay. So here's the thing about coaching, and 48 00:03:25.479 --> 00:03:29.400 we've all heard it, those of us that are coaches or those of us 49 00:03:29.439 --> 00:03:34.639 that need coaches, and we're kind of like, I need something and it 50 00:03:34.719 --> 00:03:38.840 comes up with some resistance. Sometimes we're like, and we put things in 51 00:03:38.840 --> 00:03:40.800 our way of getting help. I don't know what that is. These people 52 00:03:40.879 --> 00:03:44.919 know what that is, but we have things that get in the way of 53 00:03:45.000 --> 00:03:46.759 giving us what we need. And a lot of times we'll put the time 54 00:03:46.879 --> 00:03:51.360 or the money, or the or the whatever in the way. But I'm 55 00:03:51.360 --> 00:03:53.759 not going to answer that question. I'm going to have these beautiful people answer 56 00:03:53.840 --> 00:03:59.759 what it is that people that so want coaching in Oh my gosh, Like 57 00:04:00.080 --> 00:04:05.560 as this industry exploded, there is fatilit facilitators and experts everywhere, even in 58 00:04:05.719 --> 00:04:11.479 specialized knowledge. Like if you want to know one special thing, you can 59 00:04:11.479 --> 00:04:14.759 find an expert in it. So Janine le let me start with you. 60 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:19.240 What is it that you think that holds people back from getting coached. I 61 00:04:19.279 --> 00:04:26.000 think it really comes down to the investment and the time is those really big 62 00:04:26.079 --> 00:04:31.879 ones that I find people struggle with, but it just streamlines the process so 63 00:04:32.000 --> 00:04:36.720 much, and if you look past that initial investment or the initial time and 64 00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:44.079 really see how impactful it is for your whole life. I find a lot 65 00:04:44.120 --> 00:04:47.439 of people are very ready to invest in business. They can see the tangible 66 00:04:47.639 --> 00:04:51.399 ROI for that, but when it comes to sexual empowerment coach, it's a 67 00:04:51.399 --> 00:04:56.800 little bit less tangible, and so it's really looking past that and seeing the 68 00:04:56.879 --> 00:05:00.199 full impact it's going to make and that you really do get that return on 69 00:05:00.360 --> 00:05:04.600 investment in many, many different ways. I love that. I love that 70 00:05:04.639 --> 00:05:12.480 return of investment trying to foresee that. That's awesome. Thank you, Larry. 71 00:05:12.600 --> 00:05:15.199 Yes, yes, So what do you think holds people back from being 72 00:05:15.279 --> 00:05:23.120 coached, taking that step forward to asking for help. My first thought would 73 00:05:23.120 --> 00:05:28.160 be money, lack of funds. If you're not familiar with it, it 74 00:05:28.199 --> 00:05:33.560 could seem intimidating, you know, pressure to perform. But the whole process 75 00:05:33.680 --> 00:05:39.000 is about progress. It's not about perfection, and it's about growth. It's 76 00:05:39.000 --> 00:05:44.040 about growth personally, your growth, professionally, growth to your bottom line. 77 00:05:44.759 --> 00:05:48.800 It's really about crushing the next level and holding back on that can usually mean 78 00:05:48.839 --> 00:05:55.319 holding back on your success. But I think it's more understanding what coaching is 79 00:05:55.920 --> 00:05:59.399 right, and we're so used to employing that in our whole lives. We 80 00:05:59.480 --> 00:06:03.240 had teachers in school, we hire accountants, you know, we hire experts 81 00:06:03.279 --> 00:06:08.600 in every field, and when you want to get to the next level, 82 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:12.879 having a coach is a very good thing to have. I think it's just 83 00:06:12.959 --> 00:06:18.000 becoming familiar with what that is because we're used to employing experts or partnering with 84 00:06:18.160 --> 00:06:24.720 experts for certain things that we want to advance in or achieve, and that's 85 00:06:24.759 --> 00:06:30.000 exactly what a success coach does for you. Awesome, thank you, Linda. 86 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:33.759 I saw you nodding when Laray was talking. So for someone that does 87 00:06:33.959 --> 00:06:39.639 your nature of work, what is that? What is it that may stop 88 00:06:39.720 --> 00:06:46.160 someone from from reaching out and getting coached. In order to advance, to 89 00:06:46.199 --> 00:06:51.199 succeed, to heal, to manifest relationship, to move forward in life, 90 00:06:53.879 --> 00:06:57.839 we need to let go. There's always a letting go. So the moment 91 00:06:58.399 --> 00:07:03.199 somebody makes it commit meant to coaching, to counseling, to healing, they're 92 00:07:03.240 --> 00:07:12.839 they're already stepping into a surrendering of something, a condition, pattern, a 93 00:07:12.959 --> 00:07:18.560 disbelief, uh fear of that expands fear of the commitment, of the time 94 00:07:18.600 --> 00:07:27.199 commitment. But under underneath it, I think it's the coach. This working 95 00:07:27.240 --> 00:07:33.439 with somebody that's skilled at supporting you is going to help you let go of 96 00:07:34.160 --> 00:07:39.920 limiting beliefs. And we hold on to those limiting beliefs for reasons. It's 97 00:07:39.920 --> 00:07:46.759 our self protection, it's it's it's our strategy in life that a lot of 98 00:07:46.759 --> 00:07:50.079 that needs to be let go of in order to move forward. So and 99 00:07:50.120 --> 00:07:58.360 that that could be unconsciously extremely intimidating. I love that you mentioned the word 100 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:03.759 unconscious because I think we can all we've all had those calls with people that 101 00:08:03.879 --> 00:08:07.480 really need what we have right. Engineering Their relationship might be challenging, Larry. 102 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:11.360 They might be falling apart or frustrated in their business, Joan. They 103 00:08:11.399 --> 00:08:13.120 may have children that need to learn how to read and they don't know what 104 00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:16.040 to do right. And then there, I mean, there's never never mind 105 00:08:16.040 --> 00:08:20.240 this thing like we're supposed to know all. But I think they're when you 106 00:08:20.360 --> 00:08:24.879 set unconscious because you hear them they want it. We call it getting the 107 00:08:24.879 --> 00:08:28.160 goblins got to them right, and then you go to follow up or they 108 00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:30.959 go to start in their their life for their equipment or they can't make it 109 00:08:31.079 --> 00:08:33.600 or they cancel and you're like, oh man, the goblins got them. 110 00:08:33.879 --> 00:08:37.960 But it really, you know, it could be limiting beliefs instead or fear 111 00:08:39.000 --> 00:08:41.000 and you know, fear not knowing what to do. Like what Larry said, 112 00:08:41.159 --> 00:08:46.600 I love that you hit on that. Thank you, Joanne. I 113 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:52.480 think people hold back from getting a coached because sometimes they're afraid. They have 114 00:08:52.720 --> 00:09:00.000 that sense of beer, and they also might reject opportunities for self growth. 115 00:09:00.440 --> 00:09:05.519 They tend to stay in that familiar zone and they're afraid to get out of 116 00:09:05.519 --> 00:09:11.519 their comfort zone and open those excuse me, open the doors of opportunity, 117 00:09:11.879 --> 00:09:15.679 not knowing what's in front of them, what lies ahead, just taking I 118 00:09:15.759 --> 00:09:18.879 think the biggest thing is taking that risk and knowing that there's a lot of 119 00:09:18.919 --> 00:09:24.360 self growth and the connections you're going to make, the opportunities at surface. 120 00:09:24.960 --> 00:09:26.559 I just think a lot of it's fear. I have. You know family 121 00:09:26.600 --> 00:09:31.559 and friends that always talk about their aggravated with their life and like should mention 122 00:09:31.600 --> 00:09:37.200 about surrending, surrendering, but they never take that leap of faith. They 123 00:09:37.240 --> 00:09:41.000 just don't do it. They just they keep talking about it, but they 124 00:09:41.000 --> 00:09:46.120 don't do anything about it. So I think it's it's it's not only the 125 00:09:46.159 --> 00:09:50.559 fear, but it's being used to being in the comfort zone, doing the 126 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:52.000 same old, same old, going down the same street, going through the 127 00:09:52.039 --> 00:09:56.440 same door. But I think if they just took a leap of faith, 128 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:01.960 they might find out that there's endless possibilities. That's you know. I think 129 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:05.840 that until we say yes is a great Scottish proverb that talks about until you 130 00:10:05.919 --> 00:10:11.240 say yes, all unforeseen things come into play. And so it's not until 131 00:10:11.240 --> 00:10:15.519 you say yes and take that action that you were talking about that people get 132 00:10:15.519 --> 00:10:16.799 stuck. It's like, you know, it just kind of goes around like 133 00:10:16.799 --> 00:10:22.279 a washing machine or something. They cannot foresee the beautiful connections and the doors 134 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:26.159 opening and like you said, who they're going to meet and how it's going 135 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:28.720 to come. I always say it's like when you say yes to something you 136 00:10:28.759 --> 00:10:31.879 really need, it's like the book gets thrown in front of you and you're 137 00:10:33.000 --> 00:10:35.039 walking. You know, you're walking somewhere in a book hops office shelf and 138 00:10:35.080 --> 00:10:39.840 you're like, oh, okay, that's things that come into play once you 139 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:43.720 say yes. I also think, you know, listening to you, I'll 140 00:10:43.759 --> 00:10:48.120 talk it's like sometimes it's difficult for people to get vulnerable to even do the 141 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:52.679 ask right. There's something about we have to do it ourselves or we should 142 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:56.480 already know this, you know. I think Larry, in your field, 143 00:10:56.480 --> 00:10:58.759 there's a lot of you know, the people above you are going to take 144 00:10:58.799 --> 00:11:03.480 you where you want to go, and that's not necessarily maybe the case. 145 00:11:03.480 --> 00:11:07.519 And there's people frustrated in business thinking that those that are also in the same 146 00:11:07.559 --> 00:11:09.679 business are going to be able to get them to where they want to go. 147 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:13.720 I think this would be a great time to talk a little bit about 148 00:11:13.679 --> 00:11:18.960 we touched on a little bit, but really truly from for people that are 149 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:22.200 very successful in their field, what is some of the power of getting coaching? 150 00:11:22.360 --> 00:11:26.639 Like, what is it that someone like you talk about getting through and 151 00:11:26.679 --> 00:11:28.799 some of the barriers to get through coaching? Now you're in it, what 152 00:11:28.879 --> 00:11:31.679 are some of the we just talked about it, What are some of the 153 00:11:31.720 --> 00:11:35.039 powers that come? What are some of the greatness that comes? Ganine, 154 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:39.799 let's talk to you because I'm sure as someone who works in the world of 155 00:11:39.840 --> 00:11:43.519 sexuality and relationships, there must be some really cool things that starts to happen 156 00:11:43.559 --> 00:11:48.639 for people. Absolutely, and I think this is a great follow up question 157 00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:52.159 to the conversation we are just having is, Yes, there's all these different 158 00:11:52.279 --> 00:11:56.039 resistances and different things that come up, and without a coach, these things 159 00:11:56.120 --> 00:12:01.159 keep getting in our way, keep holding us back. The power of coaching 160 00:12:01.279 --> 00:12:05.440 is really having someone who knows what they're doing, knows your unique circumstances, 161 00:12:05.840 --> 00:12:11.120 and can really support you in moving past those resistances, in those blocks and 162 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:16.559 being able to melt those away. And then the power that really comes from 163 00:12:16.600 --> 00:12:20.279 that, as Larry was saying, is taking you to that next level. 164 00:12:20.600 --> 00:12:24.879 And that next level is so much more than that specific desire goal you're working 165 00:12:24.919 --> 00:12:28.879 on. It's going to have that ripple effect throughout your whole life. And 166 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:35.360 so within my realm and sexuality and relationships, the greatest transformation comes through the 167 00:12:35.440 --> 00:12:39.799 taboo. So when you're able to work on these things that are so sticky, 168 00:12:39.360 --> 00:12:46.559 so challenging and vulnerable, it has that ripple effect and the way you 169 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:50.960 are able to confidently show up not only in your relationship and using your voice 170 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:56.080 in those vulnerable ways, but also in creating boundaries within your friendships, being 171 00:12:56.120 --> 00:13:03.120 able to show up in your business with confidence speaking about what you're passionate and 172 00:13:03.159 --> 00:13:07.200 how you are able to show up for your family, your friends and just 173 00:13:07.240 --> 00:13:13.600 really bring this higher quality of presence into your life. It's very powerful, 174 00:13:13.600 --> 00:13:16.879 very powerful. Thank you so much. I love when you said unique. 175 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:22.320 And I think that's one thing to mention about coaching is people may feel like 176 00:13:22.360 --> 00:13:26.399 it's vulnerable or what have you. But each person, and I'm sure Larry 177 00:13:26.639 --> 00:13:28.720 can talk to this a lot, is that even though people may have the 178 00:13:28.720 --> 00:13:33.600 same goal more money, better relationship, connection to self, I want you 179 00:13:33.639 --> 00:13:37.200 know, you know, I want my children and I want us to understand 180 00:13:37.399 --> 00:13:41.039 education more. Every story and every situation is unique, and it does need 181 00:13:41.080 --> 00:13:46.120 a bit of a different tweaking. Right. That's the beauty of individual coaching 182 00:13:46.200 --> 00:13:48.759 versus group coaching. Even though group coaching there's a different kind of power, 183 00:13:48.799 --> 00:13:54.559 and Linda rocks the group coaching circle. But there's something very unique that you 184 00:13:54.639 --> 00:13:58.360 get to tap into with a person, Right. That's why I call coaches 185 00:13:58.360 --> 00:14:03.679 and counselors really powerful servant leaders. Larry, what about yourself the power? 186 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:07.759 What happens for people? Well? I love what Janine said about showing up. 187 00:14:07.840 --> 00:14:11.600 She mentioned showing up several times, and you said in my business, 188 00:14:11.639 --> 00:14:16.600 I had people you know that came to help. But they came to help 189 00:14:16.639 --> 00:14:18.480 because I showed up. And I'm not trying to, you know, flow 190 00:14:18.600 --> 00:14:22.080 my own boat. But it really starts with you wanting more. It's all 191 00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:26.440 about desire, your own desire. Everything begins there, because if you don't 192 00:14:26.840 --> 00:14:31.559 show up, if you don't have that desire, you're not going to run 193 00:14:31.600 --> 00:14:37.759 through walls to accomplish and achieve. But I also played sports, so I 194 00:14:37.799 --> 00:14:43.480 had coaches. You know, to me, coaching was normal. Michael Jordan 195 00:14:43.559 --> 00:14:46.720 had a coach, he had several, actually, as did Serena Williams. 196 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:52.879 And then when I got into business, and all these mentors gave me so 197 00:14:54.080 --> 00:15:01.919 much. I started reading bios and Bill Gates and Steve Jobs had mentors and 198 00:15:01.080 --> 00:15:07.159 coaches, as did Oprah Winfrey and Cheryl Sandberg. In fact, top business 199 00:15:07.320 --> 00:15:11.799 leaders go to great lengths to find the right coach to help them up their 200 00:15:11.879 --> 00:15:16.039 games. Tony Robbins, the coach of all coaches, had a great coach 201 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:20.840 and his name was Jim Rohan, and he was my greatest mentor. So 202 00:15:20.720 --> 00:15:24.600 I mean, you want to find one that provides key value. But great 203 00:15:24.600 --> 00:15:28.759 coaches help you see things that you can't see yourself, and they can offer 204 00:15:28.759 --> 00:15:35.440 a different perspective. They know things or should know things that you don't know. 205 00:15:35.639 --> 00:15:39.360 So it's kind of hard to see through the forest while you're in it. 206 00:15:39.919 --> 00:15:43.919 So you need someone who is outside the forest and someone who's not in 207 00:15:45.000 --> 00:15:52.360 your head because that space is already occupied. And so I kind of lost 208 00:15:52.399 --> 00:15:58.720 you for a second. Oh there you are, Sorry, there was a 209 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:03.320 message that popped up. Sorry. So the whole idea here is not to 210 00:16:03.320 --> 00:16:07.799 be the only one coaching you. You know that saying about being an attorney. 211 00:16:08.039 --> 00:16:11.279 If you act as your own attorney, you have a full for a 212 00:16:11.360 --> 00:16:15.519 client. It's kind of like that, and it's not to be harsh, 213 00:16:15.559 --> 00:16:18.120 but for your results to get better, you've got to get better. And 214 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:22.639 you can read books, attend seminars, online resources that offer training, join 215 00:16:22.720 --> 00:16:27.320 a mastermind group, and all of these are really good things and helpful and 216 00:16:27.399 --> 00:16:32.679 you should be doing them. But what a personal business coach can do for 217 00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:37.240 you is add to all of that. At a personal level. They can 218 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:40.879 get into the weeds with you, which is where the real growth lies and 219 00:16:41.279 --> 00:16:47.000 kind of where the rubber meets the road, because you're going to experience the 220 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:53.600 greatest impact with somebody dealing with your individual situation and going ahead and outlining a 221 00:16:53.639 --> 00:17:00.360 specific game plan based on you. And here's the most important part, going 222 00:17:00.399 --> 00:17:06.599 through the journey with you, because that provides accountability and support, and that's 223 00:17:06.720 --> 00:17:12.000 key, that's crucial. In fact, accountability and support is every It's like 224 00:17:12.119 --> 00:17:18.799 having a great personal trainer who's also your workout partner. You know, someone 225 00:17:18.920 --> 00:17:23.240 there on that road with you and guiding you along the way and making those 226 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:30.000 important adjustments so that you can grow. Because it's all about growth, and 227 00:17:30.039 --> 00:17:33.960 it's enough to do if you're just the only one coaching you. You know, 228 00:17:36.160 --> 00:17:38.519 Thank you. There's lots of gold in there. There's lots of gold 229 00:17:38.559 --> 00:17:45.240 in there. Linda, Please share what you feel has been powerful or is 230 00:17:45.319 --> 00:17:48.519 powerful about qunch. I love that, Larry. I love that you mentioned 231 00:17:48.839 --> 00:17:52.799 it's about desire, and Janine back to what you were sharing. I mean, 232 00:17:52.799 --> 00:18:00.680 that's what your work is, is learning to enjoy the pleasure of your 233 00:18:02.079 --> 00:18:07.000 field of desire. And I keep bringing people back to that over and over 234 00:18:07.079 --> 00:18:10.799 again, getting to the nugget of what they long for. In fact, 235 00:18:10.839 --> 00:18:15.920 that's what I write about in my book Mystical Intimacy. It's all around attuning 236 00:18:15.079 --> 00:18:22.880 to the somatic feeling the experience of desire, of our longing. And that's 237 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:30.559 about taking the pining out the action because we're so fixated on how, but 238 00:18:30.680 --> 00:18:36.839 how is the last step? There's so many more steps before how do we 239 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:40.519 get somewhere? And I was just working with someone yesterday and that she's like 240 00:18:40.880 --> 00:18:45.759 trying to find a direction and she's lost and she's caught in that identity. 241 00:18:48.240 --> 00:18:52.720 And as we unravel that, what she came to discover is she doesn't know 242 00:18:52.880 --> 00:18:59.640 her direction, she doesn't know what she wants because she's hiding her needs from 243 00:18:59.720 --> 00:19:07.240 herself. Of how can we actualize our dreams in all areas of our lives 244 00:19:07.480 --> 00:19:14.720 if we're hiding our needs? And that was such a new concept, hiding 245 00:19:14.720 --> 00:19:17.359 my needs? So yeah, okay, that resonates, But how am I 246 00:19:17.480 --> 00:19:23.880 doing that? And we started to unravel her upbringing and looking at her fundamental 247 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:30.279 needs. And fundamental needs are need the need to be safe, the need 248 00:19:30.519 --> 00:19:36.880 to be seen, understood, acknowledged, recognized, the needs to be comforted, 249 00:19:37.119 --> 00:19:41.839 reassured, soothed, the need to be secure and supported. And we've 250 00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:49.640 all learned to compromise those needs or invalidate them, or or think that we're 251 00:19:49.680 --> 00:19:56.440 not good enough because we have those needs. And I work with so many 252 00:19:56.559 --> 00:20:06.000 highly sensitive people that have developed insecurity around the richness of their fundamental needs. 253 00:20:06.279 --> 00:20:10.920 And for this person I mentioned, she's when we look back at some of 254 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:14.160 her history, she's like, Oh, I felt safe growing up. Yeah, 255 00:20:14.160 --> 00:20:17.240 everything was fine. I don't remember my childhood much. I'm like, 256 00:20:17.319 --> 00:20:22.079 hmm, that's interesting, I wonder why. And then getting closer to it, 257 00:20:22.440 --> 00:20:26.880 she started realizing, well, she didn't feel seen really, and she 258 00:20:26.920 --> 00:20:32.319 didn't feel soothed, and she realized that in order to feel safe, she 259 00:20:32.559 --> 00:20:37.119 hid her need. She became strong, tough, took care of other people 260 00:20:38.000 --> 00:20:45.359 that didn't that didn't help her have a relationship with herself. I think, 261 00:20:45.559 --> 00:20:52.960 ultimately the gem in this work and finding that the person coach, the counsel 262 00:20:52.960 --> 00:20:57.039 of the healer, that that you have a resonance with where you feel safe, 263 00:20:57.319 --> 00:21:04.359 you feel seen, you feel encouraged and supported and reassured. You know 264 00:21:04.680 --> 00:21:10.640 that person that journeys with you, like Larry said, is essential. It's 265 00:21:10.759 --> 00:21:17.119 essential. It lets you come back home to yourself. Thank you for sharing 266 00:21:17.160 --> 00:21:22.200 that. When I listen to you and when people hear the word being coached 267 00:21:22.400 --> 00:21:27.200 or spiritual coached or empowerment coach or money coach or education coach. I think 268 00:21:27.279 --> 00:21:32.759 what you just kind of gave us was a vastness how when addressing one area 269 00:21:32.839 --> 00:21:37.240 of your life, right, I mean Larry talked to it that people have 270 00:21:37.559 --> 00:21:41.000 many different coaches, They've had many different coaches start their life, many different 271 00:21:41.000 --> 00:21:45.160 coaches start their journey at a time they really need to fill up in this 272 00:21:45.319 --> 00:21:49.359 area which actually could empower them to be better in their business, and then 273 00:21:49.400 --> 00:21:55.160 go over to someone who specializes in that even area of their business. And 274 00:21:55.240 --> 00:21:59.720 I think that when you hear about the different coaches that are available or doing 275 00:21:59.799 --> 00:22:03.960 the kind of work, it is incredible how you can build a team. 276 00:22:03.039 --> 00:22:07.839 I love that. You know, if you've listened or read Thinking of Rich 277 00:22:07.880 --> 00:22:11.720 by Napoleon Hill, and he talks about the chapter of Desire, but he 278 00:22:11.759 --> 00:22:15.240 also talks about building your team a live or not alive, right, He's 279 00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:21.400 like, you pull in different people's expertise and they become your circle. They 280 00:22:21.480 --> 00:22:25.400 become your you know what I call your board of directors, like the people 281 00:22:25.400 --> 00:22:27.200 that I go for coaching. When we do our board of directors, when 282 00:22:27.200 --> 00:22:30.640 we actually we do it in circle and write it on paper. Those people 283 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:36.319 advisors. You know, whether they're a coach or an accountant, they hold 284 00:22:36.359 --> 00:22:40.079 the same presence in our formula, in our structure, in our company. 285 00:22:40.559 --> 00:22:44.720 I love that, just that specialized knowledge that that woman got. Thank you 286 00:22:44.720 --> 00:22:47.920 so much for sharing and Joanne the power. What do you feel about the 287 00:22:47.960 --> 00:22:49.240 power of coaching? I mean, oh, my gosh, I know so 288 00:22:49.279 --> 00:22:52.960 many stories and I know so many things that you do. Hard for me 289 00:22:52.000 --> 00:22:57.119 to let keep my mouth quiet and give you the stage because you do such 290 00:22:57.119 --> 00:23:02.920 incredible work, and your work impact generations right as ours does as well, 291 00:23:02.920 --> 00:23:07.839 but yours really specifically you see it right away. Well, I think working 292 00:23:07.880 --> 00:23:12.319 with children, I think I bring in that layer of believing in them, 293 00:23:12.960 --> 00:23:18.039 and I mean I mean unfortunately they're not at that point where they believe in 294 00:23:18.039 --> 00:23:22.839 themselves, and they're they bring a lot of insecurities to the table. So 295 00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:27.720 for me, it's tapping inside, letting them, you know, create, 296 00:23:27.880 --> 00:23:36.400 use their imagination. They're skillful minds, and I think each encounter allows them 297 00:23:36.599 --> 00:23:41.759 to feel more comfortable along the way to communicate, to express their needs to 298 00:23:41.920 --> 00:23:45.240 talk about, you know, their day, because a lot of the children 299 00:23:45.319 --> 00:23:48.440 I work with, when I first meet them, they're not saying a word, 300 00:23:48.480 --> 00:23:56.160 they're They're just there's no affect. They're just emotionally flat. And so 301 00:23:56.200 --> 00:23:59.480 what I tried to do is I tried to bring the fun stuff to the 302 00:23:59.559 --> 00:24:04.119 table so they can just to just to to to engage with them at a 303 00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:10.200 comfort level where where they can start coming out of their shell and express who 304 00:24:10.240 --> 00:24:12.240 they are. Again that same thing I already said. But I think that's 305 00:24:12.279 --> 00:24:15.720 the most important thing is believing them. It's almost like, I know there's 306 00:24:15.720 --> 00:24:19.000 that saying I'll believe it when I see it, But I think it's more 307 00:24:21.200 --> 00:24:25.680 i'll see it when I believe it, because you have I have to believe 308 00:24:25.720 --> 00:24:29.359 in them. I have to know that they have to they have to feel 309 00:24:30.079 --> 00:24:33.880 that resonating in the room right that I can't come in there with this groutcheet 310 00:24:33.079 --> 00:24:36.920 demean or whatever. You know, I have to leave my stuff at the 311 00:24:36.960 --> 00:24:41.000 door and just bring come to the table with just the fun, that the 312 00:24:41.079 --> 00:24:45.920 laughter, the joy, and at the same time bringing in the educational aspects 313 00:24:45.960 --> 00:24:48.319 at all, because you know that we are working on goals. But at 314 00:24:48.319 --> 00:24:52.559 the end of the day, it's it's just the comfort of believing in the 315 00:24:52.640 --> 00:24:56.640 kids so and and that just helps them to move forward. And I think 316 00:24:56.680 --> 00:25:00.759 that's powerful and I think that's been a theme through what all of you has 317 00:25:00.799 --> 00:25:03.599 shared. It's like the power and believing in somebody. And Larry talked about 318 00:25:03.599 --> 00:25:07.880 you. They're in it with you, and you know Linda's digging for the 319 00:25:07.920 --> 00:25:10.720 goal. Then Janine's like, this is going to change your life and how 320 00:25:10.720 --> 00:25:15.119 and what makes you unique? And I know that. I mean when you 321 00:25:15.359 --> 00:25:18.440 change as someone, it changes everything. Like the ripple effect is strong. 322 00:25:18.519 --> 00:25:22.920 And I know for you, when you're working with children, you are able 323 00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:26.200 to capture them at an age where those things get filled, like Linda was 324 00:25:26.200 --> 00:25:30.279 talking about, they get filled and they have someone with them. How important 325 00:25:30.359 --> 00:25:33.960 is that and how that changes I know statistics in terms of how many of 326 00:25:33.000 --> 00:25:37.319 them graduate, how many of them actually can make jobs for themselves, get 327 00:25:37.319 --> 00:25:41.160 into universities and colleges where that was not an option for them before. That's 328 00:25:41.400 --> 00:25:45.759 so incredible. I was going to ask you to be able to share. 329 00:25:45.799 --> 00:25:51.240 We're not tight for time, but we're close to time. And Linda, 330 00:25:51.279 --> 00:25:53.000 you just shared a story. If you wanted to share another or something different 331 00:25:53.000 --> 00:25:56.880 that you feels important for people to know about coaching is if you could share 332 00:25:56.880 --> 00:26:02.559 a story. I think It's always powerful for people to have things to relate 333 00:26:02.599 --> 00:26:04.720 to, and you know, we all hear people's stories and stories just are 334 00:26:04.839 --> 00:26:10.000 unfolding, and maybe if you can share a story, you know, obviously 335 00:26:10.160 --> 00:26:14.240 not share their name, but someone that came to you, or someone something 336 00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:18.559 that you observed in someone that made you want to go see, it was 337 00:26:18.640 --> 00:26:21.519 all worth it saying yes, see, it was so important for you to 338 00:26:21.559 --> 00:26:26.079 take this leap, and that coaching is important. Janine, Let's start with 339 00:26:26.119 --> 00:26:30.160 you. Oh, we can't hear you, han, I think you just 340 00:26:30.200 --> 00:26:34.680 turned your mic off. Oo. Sorry, Yes, So what really jumps 341 00:26:34.720 --> 00:26:41.880 to mind is this client who came to me last year and her kid. 342 00:26:42.000 --> 00:26:48.039 She's just been through the trenches of motherhood, two kids, and now she 343 00:26:48.319 --> 00:26:53.519 was at a place just feeling caught up in the day to day, very 344 00:26:53.759 --> 00:26:59.920 busy with work, busy with the kids, doing the things, and was 345 00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:06.640 worried that the way her relationship was that down the road, not right now, 346 00:27:06.680 --> 00:27:08.920 but if they continue to just kind of be in this co parent roommate 347 00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:15.000 phase, that it might end up in divorce. And she remembered pre kids, 348 00:27:15.039 --> 00:27:19.920 she had this energy about her, this exuberancy, and that just wasn't 349 00:27:19.960 --> 00:27:25.480 there anymore, and so she really desired to be able to tap back into 350 00:27:25.519 --> 00:27:30.079 that again. And so through our process of coaching, very much like Linda 351 00:27:30.279 --> 00:27:36.200 touched on, and what she shared is there was so many layers going deep 352 00:27:36.279 --> 00:27:41.079 down into things, and as we peeled back those layers, there was this 353 00:27:41.440 --> 00:27:48.680 strong disconnection within herself, within her body, and it stemmed of course, 354 00:27:48.799 --> 00:27:53.079 back down to childhood where there was unsafety in the home, where she had 355 00:27:53.119 --> 00:28:00.920 to keep herself quiet, not express her needs. She wasn't able to be 356 00:28:00.000 --> 00:28:06.559 seen or validated, and so she just continued to stuff those feelings down. 357 00:28:07.240 --> 00:28:11.680 And the more we stuff our feelings down, the more we hold ourselves back 358 00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:18.759 from using our voice asking for help or support, the more we create this 359 00:28:18.839 --> 00:28:25.640 disconnection. And every time we have these different impulses and we don't act on 360 00:28:25.680 --> 00:28:30.279 them, we dismiss them, that disconnection grows and grows and grows. And 361 00:28:30.319 --> 00:28:33.920 what ended up happening in her case is she would just get very much caught 362 00:28:33.000 --> 00:28:37.319 up in her head because there was no connection with her body. So the 363 00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:41.720 busyness of life, of work, of doing things with the kids, it 364 00:28:41.759 --> 00:28:47.240 would just be the stress spiral all the time. There's always different things to 365 00:28:47.319 --> 00:28:51.400 worry about the to do list, this and that, and she wasn't able 366 00:28:51.480 --> 00:28:55.880 to get present, to get grounded, because it really comes from our connection 367 00:28:56.000 --> 00:29:00.960 with our body, with our senses, and so being able to peel back 368 00:29:00.000 --> 00:29:06.480 those layers, and it is work when it's been decades of this disconnection piling 369 00:29:06.519 --> 00:29:11.400 on. But one of the most beautiful things that she shared with me recently 370 00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:18.079 is there was these stressful moments that was happening, as life does, and 371 00:29:18.119 --> 00:29:26.960 she was able to stop herself and tune into what was going on and really 372 00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:32.599 put a stop to that stress spiral and the freaking out and the arguments and 373 00:29:32.640 --> 00:29:36.720 all these things that came from it, and she was able to meet herself, 374 00:29:37.079 --> 00:29:41.279 meet her emotions, feel it take time to ground in her body, 375 00:29:42.279 --> 00:29:48.279 and from that, she was able to be present with her kids as they're 376 00:29:48.359 --> 00:29:53.319 navigating these tricky situations. She was able to be connected with her husband. 377 00:29:53.480 --> 00:29:59.799 Instead of having these freak outs and arguments and the spirals that happened, they 378 00:29:59.839 --> 00:30:03.960 were were able to come together and really support each other through what was coming 379 00:30:04.079 --> 00:30:10.359 through. And so that's where that ripple effect really takes place, is through 380 00:30:10.480 --> 00:30:15.359 deep down this disconnection with her body and really being able to heal that she 381 00:30:15.559 --> 00:30:19.440 was able to deal with her emotions, get out of that spin out, 382 00:30:19.720 --> 00:30:23.519 really connect with her husband, and be there for her kids at a time 383 00:30:23.559 --> 00:30:29.160 where they all needed it so much. And so it's just it's so beautiful 384 00:30:29.240 --> 00:30:33.279 to be able to witness and process like that. Wow, that's amazing, 385 00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:40.880 Larry Well, I don't think I'm going to share anything of impact. I'm 386 00:30:40.920 --> 00:30:47.920 here. I'm here with three women to deal with relationships and children and spirituality, 387 00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:52.480 and I'm in business. So it's ROI for me. That's important. 388 00:30:52.839 --> 00:30:59.039 We all ROI ist. It is, it is. And I this is 389 00:30:59.079 --> 00:31:03.279 the part where I kind of fall down because I hate to speak about, 390 00:31:03.440 --> 00:31:07.759 you know, someone and changing their life and enabling them to send their kids 391 00:31:07.799 --> 00:31:12.480 to a better school or afford their car payment and all that, And it 392 00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:15.559 all seems to me the end of the day, to be self serving to 393 00:31:15.640 --> 00:31:22.039 say, you know, my sixty ninety day program documented demonstrated ROI minimum fifty 394 00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:26.839 percent, maximum four hundred percent, and then taking out an individual and saying 395 00:31:26.839 --> 00:31:33.640 what they got out of it. But I will say, if I could 396 00:31:33.160 --> 00:31:38.759 that I just want to encourage anybody out there to take action, whatever that 397 00:31:38.960 --> 00:31:45.279 action is, towards your own growth and go out and explore and do your 398 00:31:45.319 --> 00:31:49.720 homework and find the right person to help you get to where you want to 399 00:31:49.759 --> 00:31:56.359 get to, because, as you are witnessing here today, you've got incredibly 400 00:31:56.519 --> 00:32:00.960 talented, caring people. It's one thing that if I can flow my boat 401 00:32:01.000 --> 00:32:07.720 for a second, makes me not just proud, but makes me effective. 402 00:32:07.000 --> 00:32:13.720 Is I remember what I had at stake on the line when I entered into 403 00:32:13.720 --> 00:32:19.920 my business, and I always consider that when I'm entering somebody else's world and 404 00:32:19.960 --> 00:32:22.519 what they might have at stake, and the gravity of that is something I 405 00:32:22.559 --> 00:32:30.440 don't take lightly. So there is a plethora and a whole world of people 406 00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:36.480 out there that really wear their heart on their sleeve and care and want to 407 00:32:36.559 --> 00:32:40.440 help. So if you're looking to help yourself, you can find those people. 408 00:32:40.720 --> 00:32:45.319 And I'll leave it at that, awesome, Well, I think, 409 00:32:45.359 --> 00:32:49.319 thank you so much, and it is important, and I mean I know 410 00:32:49.400 --> 00:32:52.920 you, I know you very well. And those things that do make and 411 00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:58.759 change people's lives that are revenue driven, it's a game changer when you change 412 00:32:58.759 --> 00:33:01.599 someone's lives, and however, you change yourself so that you can change, 413 00:33:01.720 --> 00:33:07.640 you know it, Sending a kid to school, affording tutors. You know, 414 00:33:08.200 --> 00:33:13.200 the difference between fighting with the partner you're with because you don't have the 415 00:33:13.279 --> 00:33:17.240 money to pay the mortgage and all those things that really put people's back against 416 00:33:17.279 --> 00:33:22.880 the wall. Financial is such a big important piece of our world, and 417 00:33:22.160 --> 00:33:25.480 they can bring a lot of stress and therefore bring a lot of discomfort into 418 00:33:25.480 --> 00:33:30.319 people's lives. And to be able to offer advice that alleviates that and I 419 00:33:30.359 --> 00:33:36.319 think mostly gives hope that it can be alleviated and be an example that it 420 00:33:36.359 --> 00:33:38.480 can be alleviated. I think that's the power of story, when you haven't 421 00:33:38.519 --> 00:33:42.640 had to, when you've had to, when you've been broken, to when 422 00:33:42.640 --> 00:33:45.680 you've been healed. I mean, that's a lot of people's stories behind the 423 00:33:45.720 --> 00:33:50.359 coach and the expert tag is that they've seen it, they've done it, 424 00:33:50.400 --> 00:33:53.160 they've experienced it, they've known it, they've watched it, They've seen people 425 00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:59.160 have those joys. And I know that you get elated when someone alleviates one 426 00:33:59.160 --> 00:34:02.160 of those things. Crossing off a debt, finishing paying off a car, 427 00:34:02.400 --> 00:34:08.679 finished paying off or receiving those things as gifts is game changing for people's accessibility 428 00:34:09.119 --> 00:34:13.639 to be able to afford the things that need that you know, fulfill their 429 00:34:13.679 --> 00:34:16.880 desires. So I know you took desire and so did Linda, but it 430 00:34:16.920 --> 00:34:22.079 is a really important piece to it. So I appreciate that. Linda. 431 00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:28.320 I'm going to come back to Larry for a moment and acknowledge something Larry that 432 00:34:28.360 --> 00:34:34.719 you mentioned earlier, which is that you journey. You journey with your clients. 433 00:34:35.400 --> 00:34:38.400 They become more than a client, they become someone that you advocate for, 434 00:34:39.639 --> 00:34:45.239 and that says it all. That says it all. We need that. 435 00:34:46.119 --> 00:34:50.519 I see that in the spiritual field, everybody's just trying to do it 436 00:34:50.559 --> 00:34:53.639 on their own, and they seem to pride themselves on being able to do 437 00:34:53.679 --> 00:34:58.360 that. Well, I don't think that's possible. I can't. I've never 438 00:34:58.400 --> 00:35:02.440 been able to do it on my own. We need people, And whenever 439 00:35:02.519 --> 00:35:06.719 I think that I need to do it on my own, I'm I'm that's 440 00:35:06.920 --> 00:35:10.960 a survival strategy, that's a coping mechanism. That's me operating out of hurt 441 00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:14.719 or sense of abandonment. Look, you're fine, I can do it on 442 00:35:14.760 --> 00:35:17.719 my own, and I'm going to prove it well. I lived my young 443 00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:23.400 adult life doing it on my own and feeling really alone. I say to 444 00:35:23.519 --> 00:35:30.760 people. A guiding hand, a supporting hand, is indispensable. And I 445 00:35:30.800 --> 00:35:34.639 see this time and time again again. Like I said earlier, the people 446 00:35:34.639 --> 00:35:39.119 that see me are predominantly highly sensitive. They're impaths, they're on a spiritual 447 00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:43.880 path. I mean, they're a reflection of me in some ways. I 448 00:35:43.880 --> 00:35:51.199 mean I tracked what's familiar, what's known, and they find themselves in me 449 00:35:51.360 --> 00:35:57.519 because I recognize them. There's a relatedness. And not long ago, someone 450 00:35:57.559 --> 00:36:01.119 that came to me was was stuck. Now people that are stuck, people 451 00:36:01.119 --> 00:36:07.880 that are across roads. She was trying to complete a manuscript. She was 452 00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:10.480 so proud of what she's doing, and she spent the first half an hour 453 00:36:10.679 --> 00:36:16.480 session telling me how great she was and what she knows, and so I 454 00:36:16.599 --> 00:36:22.039 got right away she needs to be recognized. So I spent the next ten 455 00:36:22.079 --> 00:36:30.840 to fifteen minutes reflecting all that she was great at and then we got close 456 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:35.559 to what was in the way. Then we got really close to it. 457 00:36:36.239 --> 00:36:40.039 I looked to get closer and closer and closer and closer to what's behind that. 458 00:36:43.159 --> 00:36:46.440 Let's talk to the self, the part of her that doesn't believe what 459 00:36:46.519 --> 00:36:52.000 she just shared with me, the part of her that's defended against criticism. 460 00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:59.599 Then we get close to conditioned patterns, we get close to ancestral patterns. 461 00:36:59.599 --> 00:37:05.719 We got really close to something that occurred three generations back. And people don't 462 00:37:05.760 --> 00:37:13.719 realize that a lot of a lot of our hold ups, a lot of 463 00:37:13.719 --> 00:37:20.280 what's in the way of our success in many ways, is an inherited block, 464 00:37:20.440 --> 00:37:28.599 an inherited limiting belief of some form. And what we did with that 465 00:37:28.639 --> 00:37:35.039 person specifically, is we got right up close to how unsupported she felt in 466 00:37:35.079 --> 00:37:39.719 her family life and how much she was bracing against that, trying to prove 467 00:37:39.840 --> 00:37:44.880 I can do it, you wait and see. But that wasn't helping her 468 00:37:45.000 --> 00:37:51.400 write her manuscript. She needed to come back to desire, to her longing, 469 00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:58.320 to what it is that wanted to emerge through her on paper, what 470 00:37:59.239 --> 00:38:06.440 she yearned to gift the world. And afterwards she contacted me, I don't 471 00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:09.159 have the block anymore. I've been writing, and I'm like, yes, 472 00:38:09.360 --> 00:38:15.079 yes, I mean that's what we do this for. Then I just I, 473 00:38:15.159 --> 00:38:19.079 you know, it's not even about my success and that and it's about 474 00:38:19.119 --> 00:38:23.400 hers. It's about her being lit up and on fire. It's I guess 475 00:38:23.800 --> 00:38:30.119 that's what's exciting awesome, Thank you so much, Joanne. We'll finish with 476 00:38:30.199 --> 00:38:32.599 you and then I have a special little question and all that good stuff. 477 00:38:34.360 --> 00:38:37.840 Okay, So I had, you know, a handful of success stories, 478 00:38:37.840 --> 00:38:43.400 but the one that really sticks out is the student that I worked with who 479 00:38:43.440 --> 00:38:45.480 came into my life, who was on my speech case load, and he 480 00:38:45.599 --> 00:38:52.320 was so sweet, and I just had this instinct that we are going to 481 00:38:52.360 --> 00:38:55.079 be connected. I didn't know. I would come home and I would pray 482 00:38:55.199 --> 00:38:59.199 because I was scared to death because I've never done anything like this. But 483 00:38:59.320 --> 00:39:02.320 I did reach out to his family, his dad, and I did. 484 00:39:02.360 --> 00:39:07.800 He was showing that his reading skills were emerging. He had the fundamentals of 485 00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:12.400 reading, but he certainly was in that grade level he was reading at what 486 00:39:12.559 --> 00:39:15.400 was He came in with six words a minute in third grade, which is 487 00:39:15.480 --> 00:39:20.800 basically is not reading non readers. So I checked in with Dan and he 488 00:39:20.920 --> 00:39:23.000 was open to the opportunity. So I took this kid under my wing, 489 00:39:23.119 --> 00:39:27.079 thinking, oh my gosh, I don't know exactly what I'm doing. But 490 00:39:27.119 --> 00:39:30.199 I went to Barnes and Nobles and got how to read, or how to 491 00:39:30.239 --> 00:39:31.679 teach our kid how to read? In one hundred easy lesson. It's like, 492 00:39:31.719 --> 00:39:35.719 Bam, I got the book. It's direct instruction, and we can 493 00:39:35.760 --> 00:39:39.280 do this. So I think I shared my drive with this student, which 494 00:39:39.440 --> 00:39:45.440 ended with him to be driven to master the skill of reading. So by 495 00:39:45.480 --> 00:39:49.639 the end of third grade, he was reading one hundred words a minute. 496 00:39:49.719 --> 00:39:52.719 Again, he came in with six words minute, and a third grader is 497 00:39:52.760 --> 00:39:55.000 expected to read one hundred and fourteen minutes word a minute. And I remember 498 00:39:55.039 --> 00:40:00.639 they had an assembly for the kids that had the high you know, there's 499 00:40:00.639 --> 00:40:05.039 so many words per minute, and he was two words under the mats is 500 00:40:05.079 --> 00:40:08.079 like, oh, man, shouldn't get eper outward or like he I mean, 501 00:40:08.119 --> 00:40:10.639 some kids already came in with fifty words a minute, so I thought 502 00:40:10.760 --> 00:40:14.880 this is not fair, but he was. He was clapping everybody on and 503 00:40:15.079 --> 00:40:17.000 you know what, he is so happy. I'm so happy. So that's 504 00:40:17.039 --> 00:40:21.760 one of the best stories because it just showed me not you know, not 505 00:40:21.800 --> 00:40:28.360 only the humanitarian part about it, the connections, but the fact that even 506 00:40:28.400 --> 00:40:31.519 though he was a slower reader and not exposed to reading at home, that 507 00:40:31.719 --> 00:40:35.679 children can read. It's just people need to reach out to them and give 508 00:40:35.719 --> 00:40:37.800 them a boost. So that was That's very exciting. For me. So 509 00:40:38.280 --> 00:40:42.480 that's awesome. I think we all feel like we all are and we're like, 510 00:40:42.519 --> 00:40:44.239 hey, dude, we don't know who you are, but we want 511 00:40:44.239 --> 00:40:46.119 to know how you you know, how you end up in your world. 512 00:40:46.920 --> 00:40:50.320 Okay, So I'm going to ask a question, just kind of shake up 513 00:40:50.320 --> 00:40:52.039 the energy a little bit. I know that all of you that are listening 514 00:40:52.119 --> 00:40:54.320 and watching want to go. I want to get in touch with and I 515 00:40:54.320 --> 00:40:57.800 want to get in touch with these people. We're going to put all their 516 00:40:57.800 --> 00:41:00.519 information in the show notes, as we always do. We're also going to 517 00:41:00.559 --> 00:41:05.159 ask all our coaches here to go on to the two sixty two Facebook the 518 00:41:05.239 --> 00:41:08.519 public one, and please put your information. You can find it there. 519 00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:13.239 Facebook's easy. We're going to put the link to the Facebook group in the 520 00:41:13.239 --> 00:41:16.239 show notes and all of these people will put their information there, their contact 521 00:41:16.320 --> 00:41:20.119 information, anything that they're doing right now, their courses, their classes, 522 00:41:20.199 --> 00:41:24.079 what they're teaching. Three out of four of the people here with us today, 523 00:41:24.400 --> 00:41:28.599 Larry stated as like, I'm here with some pretty cool woman happened to 524 00:41:28.679 --> 00:41:31.239 have just be authors in the mission accepted tutor in sixty two women book, 525 00:41:31.440 --> 00:41:36.400 which is all over our things. But we'll also put that link in and 526 00:41:36.440 --> 00:41:42.119 you can read their stories in the two sixty two book. Absolutely so you 527 00:41:42.159 --> 00:41:45.159 will be able to have access to these incredible people and then ask more for 528 00:41:45.239 --> 00:41:49.679 yourselves. But I'm going to ask something completely shift off, something that is 529 00:41:49.760 --> 00:41:53.079 dear and important to me that I use in everything including coaching, and I'm 530 00:41:53.079 --> 00:41:57.199 going to ask you and it is one It is one question, and you 531 00:41:57.280 --> 00:42:00.559 have to give one answer. And if you were all if you were on 532 00:42:00.599 --> 00:42:02.320 a desert island, and I'll go one by one, if you were on 533 00:42:02.360 --> 00:42:06.079 a desert island. You're getting ready to go on a desert island and you 534 00:42:06.159 --> 00:42:09.320 are packing your suitcase and you only get one suitcase, and you had to 535 00:42:09.400 --> 00:42:14.880 take one album with you, and it was the album that you could not 536 00:42:15.039 --> 00:42:19.360 imagine not listening to for the rest of your life. This is it you 537 00:42:20.000 --> 00:42:23.320 some mangoes, couple of friend monkeys, maybe a soccer ball like Tom Hanks, 538 00:42:23.559 --> 00:42:27.559 and it's you and you and there's one album that you are taking with 539 00:42:27.639 --> 00:42:30.559 you the rest to hear the rest of your days. Janine, what would 540 00:42:30.599 --> 00:42:34.920 it be? And it can't be a collection, and it can't be a 541 00:42:34.960 --> 00:42:38.599 playlist. It's one album. What's it gonna be? Girl? I'm terreful 542 00:42:39.039 --> 00:42:43.679 at this because I just put playlists on and listen to it and I don't 543 00:42:43.679 --> 00:42:46.159 even know the artists or the song. So I'm gonna go with what is 544 00:42:46.199 --> 00:42:51.800 an actual album? Playlist? I've been listening to recently, and it has 545 00:42:51.880 --> 00:42:55.639 made so much fun for our family, and it gets both the parents and 546 00:42:55.679 --> 00:43:00.440 the kids into it. And a singer, a song, or an album, 547 00:43:00.639 --> 00:43:02.480 what's it? What's it gonna be? Well, I'll just go with 548 00:43:02.599 --> 00:43:07.239 it's the Lion Guard soundtrack. It's a spinoff from Lion King, and it's 549 00:43:07.280 --> 00:43:13.320 got this African flare and this heartfelt singing and it's pretty okay, awesome, 550 00:43:13.400 --> 00:43:15.119 thank you, thank you, thank you. And mister Larry Zimberg, who 551 00:43:15.519 --> 00:43:21.039 is like, oh, I'm asking you this question. He is a musical 552 00:43:21.239 --> 00:43:25.039 genius. We we bent her back and forth with music and love. What's 553 00:43:25.079 --> 00:43:29.280 it? One song? One song? I know you're gonna say it, 554 00:43:29.360 --> 00:43:31.679 you can't, but you have to. I know it's one show. It's 555 00:43:31.679 --> 00:43:36.360 okay. You can come back and answer it differently next time. Ye. 556 00:43:40.559 --> 00:43:45.239 Marvin Gaye, what's going on? All right? Nice? Nice, surprising 557 00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:51.639 and nice Linda. Yeah, I've been listening to t Nile. I've discovered 558 00:43:51.679 --> 00:43:57.960 her on Galliano at a festival and she is such amazing. She love her 559 00:43:58.039 --> 00:44:01.800 writing and she plays banjo and it's fantastic. And I just looked up the 560 00:44:02.639 --> 00:44:07.199 album. Her newest album is coming Back from Everything, and I thought her 561 00:44:07.280 --> 00:44:13.880 lyrics everything, She's got such presence, all right, and Joanne. So 562 00:44:14.400 --> 00:44:17.880 I didn't used to be a Taylor Swift fan, but however I watched the 563 00:44:17.920 --> 00:44:22.679 Aras concert and then the Aras to it and I love love it. So 564 00:44:22.760 --> 00:44:28.239 I'm gonna say any of her music because it's so fun and I love to 565 00:44:28.320 --> 00:44:30.960 dance to it. What have you? So I guess the most recent album 566 00:44:30.039 --> 00:44:35.440 is The Tortured Poets Department something like that, So that's what I'm going with, 567 00:44:35.840 --> 00:44:37.519 all right. All right, Well there you go, as varied as 568 00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:42.719 all of you. So I want to thank you and our audience. Thanks 569 00:44:42.760 --> 00:44:45.559 you for sharing and getting deep with us today. 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