WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:03.120 Hi everyone, and welcome back to the podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:06.440 Gogan, the host of The Globe Secret podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.480 --> 00:00:09.759 your mind and become more self awares that you can glow up into the best 4 00:00:09.839 --> 00:00:14.039 version of yourself. Hello, how are you doing today? It is a 5 00:00:14.039 --> 00:00:17.160 sunny day and I am happy. Of course, if you're watching on YouTube. 6 00:00:17.399 --> 00:00:21.199 We got the nails done. Okay, you know it's spring when the 7 00:00:21.280 --> 00:00:26.280 nails are done. We got three coats of OPI bubble bath with French white 8 00:00:26.320 --> 00:00:32.479 tips biojail nails. I feel like a million dollars. Okay, Today though, 9 00:00:33.320 --> 00:00:39.079 I want to talk about letting go, trusting that the universe has your 10 00:00:39.159 --> 00:00:45.520 back, and I want to discuss some things that have helped me really detach 11 00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:50.719 and trust. And that really is of course talking about detachment, but also 12 00:00:50.799 --> 00:00:56.920 feminine energy and knowing your worth. So last week's episode, I was talking 13 00:00:56.960 --> 00:01:00.640 about how one of the things that I want to let go of for this 14 00:01:00.799 --> 00:01:08.159 season of my life is this to do energy, this goal oriented masculine energy 15 00:01:08.239 --> 00:01:14.719 that I was residing in. This is not to let go of any goals. 16 00:01:14.959 --> 00:01:18.439 I'm not waking up every morning and saying screw all of my goals. 17 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:23.560 But I'm just no longer deciding to feel like life is so hard. Like 18 00:01:23.680 --> 00:01:26.040 every day I have to take care of myself, I have to do these 19 00:01:26.120 --> 00:01:27.879 things. I have to work on my mindset. I want it to be 20 00:01:27.959 --> 00:01:32.799 light, I want it to be fun. I want it to be just 21 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:41.079 easy. I want life to be easy. And when you're sometimes in masculine 22 00:01:41.200 --> 00:01:46.599 energy, when you're in this to do list energy focusing on goals a lot, 23 00:01:46.760 --> 00:01:49.319 what tends to happen. And this is the reason why sometimes I like 24 00:01:49.400 --> 00:01:56.359 to fall back on hyper focusing on goals is your mind tends to go into 25 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:05.159 a level of worry, a level of time urgency. So you start to 26 00:02:05.280 --> 00:02:08.479 think about when, when is it going to happen, How is it going 27 00:02:08.520 --> 00:02:13.199 to happen, When is the money going to come, When is my success 28 00:02:13.240 --> 00:02:16.199 going to come for my career, When is my specific person going to come 29 00:02:16.199 --> 00:02:20.159 back into my life? Or when am I going to meet my specific person? 30 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:24.159 You really start to get in this energy of when. And I think 31 00:02:24.159 --> 00:02:29.719 when you are having those thoughts, that's when it's really time to let go 32 00:02:30.360 --> 00:02:34.319 and step back into or fall back into your feminine energy. And I was 33 00:02:34.400 --> 00:02:42.080 journaling the other day and journaling about how I trust the universe. I trust 34 00:02:43.000 --> 00:02:46.199 that the universe is going to bring me exactly what I need, what I 35 00:02:46.280 --> 00:02:51.120 want, what I desire, and I don't need. I don't need to 36 00:02:52.120 --> 00:02:57.360 put in this unhealthy level of trying and worrying that's not going to get me 37 00:02:57.400 --> 00:03:00.520 what I want. I already know that. Another thing I was writing is 38 00:03:02.039 --> 00:03:08.080 the universe is going to bring me all the things that I deserve in ways 39 00:03:08.080 --> 00:03:14.840 that I can't even imagine. So I'm not even going to waste my time 40 00:03:14.960 --> 00:03:20.120 trying to figure out when how things are going to be moving. All I 41 00:03:20.159 --> 00:03:23.080 need to do is believe in trust that things are moving. There's movement, 42 00:03:23.639 --> 00:03:30.919 even if I don't see it. There is movement, and it's so crazy 43 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:34.319 just I'm not going to get into it. But this morning I woke up 44 00:03:35.319 --> 00:03:40.919 and there was there was clear evidence that there was movement in my life for 45 00:03:42.039 --> 00:03:49.400 something that I have been thinking about, but not in a place of really 46 00:03:50.039 --> 00:03:53.719 forcing and stressing about it. And I think that that's why I saw this 47 00:03:53.879 --> 00:03:57.439 movement very quickly, because when I have been really thinking about it, it's 48 00:03:57.439 --> 00:04:03.759 been from this place of relaxation. So maybe that's why I'm like very I 49 00:04:03.759 --> 00:04:10.039 don't know inspired to speak about this right now, but in general, I 50 00:04:10.080 --> 00:04:15.199 always love to come back to these affirmations of the universe is going to bring 51 00:04:15.240 --> 00:04:18.399 me things exactly the way I need to and I don't need to figure out 52 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:24.000 how or when or why. And that's really us moving back into that masculine 53 00:04:24.120 --> 00:04:28.199 energy. And although yes, masculine energy is needed and we need to take 54 00:04:28.319 --> 00:04:32.279 action, we need to take inspired action. Really we need to do things 55 00:04:32.279 --> 00:04:35.399 in our lives, but we don't need to do it from a place of 56 00:04:35.600 --> 00:04:40.519 worry. Right when you're wondering when this money is going to come in, 57 00:04:40.639 --> 00:04:42.439 or when this person is going to come in, or what are they going 58 00:04:42.519 --> 00:04:44.600 to say, or how are they going to how is it going to happen? 59 00:04:44.639 --> 00:04:47.519 When all these things are in my way, that's you stepping back out 60 00:04:47.519 --> 00:04:50.279 of your feminine energy. And I think this is the season for a lot 61 00:04:50.279 --> 00:04:53.360 of us where it's like, Okay, I just want to relax for a 62 00:04:53.439 --> 00:04:56.480 second. I just want to relax for a second. I just want to 63 00:04:56.519 --> 00:05:02.319 breathe. So I I want to talk about something that I've spoken about in 64 00:05:02.319 --> 00:05:06.879 one of my main channel videos like last year, in regards to looking at 65 00:05:06.879 --> 00:05:13.319 yourself like a gem, and how this way of looking at yourself might be 66 00:05:13.439 --> 00:05:16.399 useful to help you step more into feminine energy or for you to even understand 67 00:05:16.439 --> 00:05:24.519 it and to allow you to really detach from the things that you are desiring 68 00:05:24.560 --> 00:05:28.759 in your life and you really want again. It's not about letting go of 69 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:33.519 your goals, but there is a difference between you chasing versus you attracting, 70 00:05:34.199 --> 00:05:45.959 and feminine energy is this essence of you receiving and becoming a magnet and trusting 71 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:47.720 that the universe, that God, that whatever is going to bring you what 72 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:54.680 you deserve. Right. So, something that I think is a good reminder 73 00:05:54.759 --> 00:05:58.160 for all of you and even for myself, is you need to start looking 74 00:05:58.199 --> 00:06:03.560 at yourself like a gem. And I remember when I had this as a 75 00:06:03.560 --> 00:06:08.319 title of one of my YouTube videos, and of course I was talking about 76 00:06:08.319 --> 00:06:11.360 this, and there's a few people who said, what is a gem? 77 00:06:11.439 --> 00:06:14.040 A gem is essentially like you just look at yourself like a diamond. I'm 78 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:20.560 just gonna use gem, Okay, So what is a gem in terms of 79 00:06:20.720 --> 00:06:29.079 how do people respond to a gem? A gem is very valuable. A 80 00:06:29.120 --> 00:06:32.519 gem is beautiful. People stop and stare at a gem or a diamond. 81 00:06:33.839 --> 00:06:40.279 It's also never changing its value. And we're talking and listen before you get 82 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:44.920 in those little limiting belief mindset traps that you get into and it's like, 83 00:06:44.959 --> 00:06:46.920 well, there's some people who can't afford it, but they get them anyways, 84 00:06:47.040 --> 00:06:50.399 or some people mistreat those gems or those diamonds, or some people bargain. 85 00:06:50.519 --> 00:06:53.519 No no, no, no no, we're talking about the gems that 86 00:06:53.519 --> 00:06:56.920 are in the stores that like there's no bargaining, there's no nothing. You 87 00:06:57.000 --> 00:06:59.720 gotta get it for full price and it's taken care of. And that's type 88 00:06:59.720 --> 00:07:01.040 a gem. Okay, we're gonna be talking about that type of gem. 89 00:07:02.279 --> 00:07:08.920 That type of gem never goes on sale. That type of gem doesn't negotiate 90 00:07:10.360 --> 00:07:13.079 her wants and desires and her needs. And I'm calling her or her because 91 00:07:13.079 --> 00:07:15.800 really we're just kind of looking at ourselves like a gem. Here. People 92 00:07:15.920 --> 00:07:21.680 also automatically know how to treat a gem aka a diamond or I know it's 93 00:07:21.720 --> 00:07:26.360 not aka, but whatever. Like you know, if you were to get 94 00:07:26.399 --> 00:07:30.959 a really expensive diamond ring, you would be taking care of that thing. 95 00:07:30.040 --> 00:07:33.800 You beget in insurance, you beget it cleaned whenever you need to be getting 96 00:07:33.800 --> 00:07:35.920 it cleaned. You'd make sure that when you take it off, you know 97 00:07:36.000 --> 00:07:41.040 exactly where where it's being put down, you know where to keep it. 98 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:47.680 You would be just so consumed and just loving this gem, okay, And 99 00:07:48.319 --> 00:07:51.439 I want you to start looking at yourself like that, because when you look 100 00:07:51.480 --> 00:07:58.279 at yourself like that, you fall back into your feminine energy naturally, because 101 00:07:58.279 --> 00:08:00.720 when you look at yourself like a gem and you were mind yourself. Does 102 00:08:00.720 --> 00:08:05.839 a gem chase? Does a gem try and convince these people over here to 103 00:08:05.240 --> 00:08:13.360 buy it? Does a gem go on sale just does a gem negotiate her 104 00:08:13.399 --> 00:08:20.000 price? Does a gem not make people stop and stare? No, the 105 00:08:20.040 --> 00:08:24.560 gem doesn't do that. Okay, So you can look at yourself as a 106 00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:28.959 gem in terms of your relationships, career, finances, friendships. So maybe 107 00:08:30.000 --> 00:08:31.240 i'll give you a quick little example. I mean, I kind of already 108 00:08:31.240 --> 00:08:37.919 said it, but let's say for relationships, a gem doesn't chase. A 109 00:08:37.000 --> 00:08:46.159 gem doesn't send a huge long paragraph explaining her worth. A gem doesn't worry 110 00:08:46.159 --> 00:08:50.200 about how her sp special person is going to make it back to her. 111 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:56.639 He will find a way why, because she's a gem and a gem special 112 00:08:56.679 --> 00:09:03.240 person is going to fight for her, is going to apologize, is going 113 00:09:03.279 --> 00:09:05.679 to step up to the plate, is going to protect her, is going 114 00:09:05.720 --> 00:09:13.120 to always want to keep her safe, is going to value her. He's 115 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:18.320 not going to ask you to negotiate your price. You're not doing that. 116 00:09:20.120 --> 00:09:24.200 So when you find yourself doing those things or second guessing or thinking about maybe 117 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:28.600 I should lower my price, is that what a gem would do. No, 118 00:09:28.200 --> 00:09:31.960 let's think about a gem in terms of a career. A gem doesn't 119 00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:41.039 settle or second guess. A gem doesn't look at herself and her work ethic 120 00:09:41.240 --> 00:09:45.960 and the work that she does in her skills and says I'm not good enough. 121 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:50.200 A gem maybe if she needs to. Of course, she's refining her 122 00:09:50.240 --> 00:09:56.080 skills, but she has an inherent worth within herself, and she knows she 123 00:09:56.200 --> 00:10:03.080 is valuable. She knows she is worthy standing in this position, even if 124 00:10:03.320 --> 00:10:07.440 there's some people who don't want to give her that position. Yet she is 125 00:10:07.519 --> 00:10:11.759 not giving up. This is not about her having to convince people of her 126 00:10:11.840 --> 00:10:16.600 worth. But it's also not because I know some people will be like, 127 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:20.200 well, you have to try in life to get where you want. Yes, 128 00:10:20.240 --> 00:10:26.039 but there's definitely a difference between you trying from this confident place of a 129 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:31.279 knowing the same way I did. When it came to starting a podcast channel. 130 00:10:31.320 --> 00:10:33.799 I didn't get the views and the downloads the way that I do now, 131 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:37.159 But when I started, I had confidence with myself. I believed in 132 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:41.399 myself before anyone else believed in me. And that's going to be the same 133 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:46.120 with you when it comes to a job, when it comes to you attracting 134 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:52.399 people even physically. I decide that I look good my Instagram. I've decided 135 00:10:52.440 --> 00:10:54.519 that that photo looks good before anyone else decides to go and light that photo 136 00:10:54.559 --> 00:10:58.679 and tell me I look beautiful. I decide that's what you need to do 137 00:10:58.720 --> 00:11:03.960 when it comes to your relationships to whatever. Bring it back to relationships. 138 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:07.600 No, I know that I'm a gem and that I should be protected and 139 00:11:07.639 --> 00:11:11.080 that I should be fought for, and that I should be having this level 140 00:11:11.639 --> 00:11:16.279 of a readiness from somebody or X, Y and Z. This is not 141 00:11:16.320 --> 00:11:20.200 about me being a narcissist. I have a lot of love to give. 142 00:11:20.440 --> 00:11:26.000 I treat people with respect. I know that I bring this essence of joyfulness 143 00:11:26.000 --> 00:11:30.639 and happiness to people's lives when I'm in them, So it's not about being 144 00:11:30.679 --> 00:11:33.399 a narcissist. But I know that I don't need to and I should not 145 00:11:33.679 --> 00:11:39.840 negotiate my worth. And quite frankly, when you walk through life and you're 146 00:11:39.919 --> 00:11:43.559 saying that you're a gem, especially to guys, right, Oh, I 147 00:11:43.600 --> 00:11:46.320 know my worth. I'm different than all the other girls. I know my 148 00:11:46.399 --> 00:11:52.720 worth. But then you are simultaneously accepting the bare minimum. This guy's looking 149 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:56.759 at you like, really, do you know your worth? Because it's almost 150 00:11:56.840 --> 00:11:58.679 like I really want to believe that you're you know you're worth, You're this 151 00:11:58.759 --> 00:12:03.759 gem, But then you go and you accept the bare minimum from even me. 152 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:07.639 That don't make sense. Trust me, I've seen it. I've even 153 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:11.679 seen it in myself. Let's talk about finances. A gem knows that there's 154 00:12:11.799 --> 00:12:16.759 always people that have money and that will give her more than she even is 155 00:12:16.799 --> 00:12:22.000 worth. But there's a lot out there and that there's abundance. Okay, 156 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:26.000 there are people in life that can afford a gem, that can afford a 157 00:12:26.039 --> 00:12:31.120 diamond, that can afford ten million of them if they want. But you're 158 00:12:31.159 --> 00:12:35.919 moving through life maybe thinking, well, no one's gonna give me what I'm 159 00:12:35.000 --> 00:12:39.360 worth or no one there's not enough, there's not enough to go around. 160 00:12:39.519 --> 00:12:43.639 Know, A gem knows that there are people that will pay and be willing 161 00:12:43.679 --> 00:12:48.320 to pay full price. But if you don't have that belief, you'll be 162 00:12:48.320 --> 00:12:50.320 starting to accept the bare minimum, thinking that Okay, well maybe this is 163 00:12:50.360 --> 00:12:56.080 all I can get, or you know, settling for this goal over here, 164 00:12:56.200 --> 00:12:58.519 or like this desire because it's like, oh, maybe it's too big, 165 00:12:58.559 --> 00:13:01.279 I'm asking for too much. Well, that comes from you thinking that 166 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:07.519 there's not enough abundance to go around surround yourself by people who have it the 167 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:09.039 way that you want. And this is something that I had to do, 168 00:13:09.200 --> 00:13:13.440 like really expand my mind, right, and I talked about this in my 169 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:20.440 intro Expanding your Mind. I expanded what was really possible for me starting at 170 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:24.960 the age of sixteen, when I would go on Tumblr. I was looking 171 00:13:24.960 --> 00:13:28.480 at homes in Florida and I was seeing these lifestyles that I had never seen 172 00:13:28.519 --> 00:13:35.120 before. I expanded my view of life, my desires to show that it's 173 00:13:35.159 --> 00:13:37.519 possible to live a life that was not the one that I had. I 174 00:13:37.600 --> 00:13:41.080 learned to be grateful for the life that I had. That was the thing 175 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:43.679 that really helped me get out of it. But the end of the day, 176 00:13:43.759 --> 00:13:48.960 like I surrounded myself with pictures with visions, with people speaking words of 177 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:54.440 affirmation or stories about how you can have it too. So be careful with 178 00:13:54.480 --> 00:14:00.120 who it is that you're surrounding yourself with and the things that your feet in 179 00:14:00.159 --> 00:14:03.559 your mind, because that really is going to affect the way that you believe 180 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:09.240 there's abundance or not realistically. And the more you level up your life and 181 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:15.440 you move around people who got it like that, or who are positive or 182 00:14:15.440 --> 00:14:18.279 who have healthy relationships, you see, Wow, it's actually very normalized. 183 00:14:18.320 --> 00:14:22.519 There's actually a lot of people who have a lot of money and who can 184 00:14:22.600 --> 00:14:26.440 pay this amount of money for a gem. You know, just go walk 185 00:14:26.519 --> 00:14:31.320 down Yorkville in Toronto and you'll see there's actually people who got money like that. 186 00:14:31.679 --> 00:14:33.360 And then of course you've been around a lot of people probably who don't, 187 00:14:33.480 --> 00:14:37.399 who haven't had money like that, or maybe you haven't had money like 188 00:14:37.399 --> 00:14:41.480 that, or you know, you've been told this story of we don't there's 189 00:14:41.480 --> 00:14:46.960 never you can't. No, Listen, that is just a part of the 190 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:50.159 reality that you've lived in. But that is not the entirety of the world. 191 00:14:50.159 --> 00:14:58.519 Okay, So go look into surround yourself with people who have more than 192 00:14:58.559 --> 00:15:01.559 you even do, show yourself it's possible even when it comes to friendships. 193 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:07.639 A gem knows that she makes people feel amazing when they're around her. And 194 00:15:07.679 --> 00:15:11.960 I think this comes back to this not being a narcissist thing, Like you 195 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:18.440 know, you bring value to people, you make people feel seen love, 196 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:22.440 you're sweet to people, you're kind to people, you listen to people, 197 00:15:22.480 --> 00:15:26.159 whatever uniquely is for you. And that is what a gem is too, 198 00:15:26.240 --> 00:15:28.559 right if you think about it, like, yes, people are spending money 199 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:30.759 on a gem, and yes people are wanting to protect it and learn how 200 00:15:30.759 --> 00:15:33.039 to care for it and this that, But a gem brings a lot of 201 00:15:33.080 --> 00:15:37.080 good feeling to people. When you got this expensive gem, this diamond on 202 00:15:37.120 --> 00:15:41.559 your hand, do you not feel the best? I feel good and not 203 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:46.440 even got it. Okay, So just know that. So bringing it back 204 00:15:46.480 --> 00:15:52.279 to trusting the process, trusting that whatever it is that you're really calling in 205 00:15:52.320 --> 00:15:56.000 your life right now is going to come. It is going to require you 206 00:15:56.039 --> 00:16:02.159 to step into this feminine ermy in a way and a lot of different circumstances. 207 00:16:02.200 --> 00:16:04.639 Like I've been saying with these examples, there's gonna be a level of 208 00:16:04.679 --> 00:16:08.159 you, you know what, I'm not gonna try and figure it out. 209 00:16:08.200 --> 00:16:11.279 I can't even figure it out. I don't even need to. All I 210 00:16:11.320 --> 00:16:15.440 need to do is trust that everything that I want in my life is coming 211 00:16:15.519 --> 00:16:18.960 to me. And what I'm gonna do right now is I'm gonna focus on 212 00:16:19.000 --> 00:16:22.440 myself. I'm gonna look at myself like a gem. I am not going 213 00:16:22.440 --> 00:16:27.600 to accept the things around me who are reflecting otherwise reflecting on a damn rock 214 00:16:27.639 --> 00:16:30.039 on the freaking side of the road. Okay, sorry for the rocks. 215 00:16:30.039 --> 00:16:33.559 Storry to the rocks. I should say, we love the rocks. Maybe 216 00:16:33.559 --> 00:16:37.519 you can think about yourself like, I don't know, upgrade to a crystal 217 00:16:37.600 --> 00:16:44.000 or something. But what do you do in order to look at yourself more 218 00:16:44.039 --> 00:16:47.159 like a gem? Obviously those mindset shifts, yes, And you know when 219 00:16:47.159 --> 00:16:49.960 you see yourself maybe negotiating or bargaining, bargaining yourself and this, that we're 220 00:16:51.000 --> 00:16:53.360 not doing that. We're not doing that, we're not chasing, we're not 221 00:16:53.480 --> 00:16:57.480 doing that. What do you do? Well? The spotlight right now is 222 00:16:57.519 --> 00:17:03.759 on everything outside of you you, and the spotlight needs to be back on 223 00:17:03.840 --> 00:17:07.240 you. So whether that's in your relationships or even let's say you're stressing about 224 00:17:07.279 --> 00:17:11.720 finances, you're stressing about career, these things. Anytime you're stressing or you're 225 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:15.799 worrying. It's like the spotlight is over here, like outside of you, 226 00:17:15.880 --> 00:17:21.559 looking at all the things that are going wrong. Okay, so let's lift 227 00:17:21.640 --> 00:17:25.160 that spotlight off all the things that are going wrong, and we're gonna put 228 00:17:25.200 --> 00:17:30.119 the spotlight back on ourselves. What do we need to be the best gem 229 00:17:30.279 --> 00:17:34.400 that we've ever been, the highest value gem? And that's gonna look different 230 00:17:34.440 --> 00:17:40.079 for everyone, but it's quite simple, and it's things you already know what 231 00:17:40.160 --> 00:17:44.200 to do. You just probably been slipping maybe a little bit, or just 232 00:17:45.160 --> 00:17:48.799 not even realize, like not even enjoying the process. And this is kind 233 00:17:48.799 --> 00:17:52.680 of again what I was saying in my last episode. Just self care, 234 00:17:52.720 --> 00:17:56.720 taking care of yourself, yes, but from this place of enjoyment, like 235 00:17:56.559 --> 00:18:00.359 hitting goals, not just because you have to do this and every day there's 236 00:18:00.400 --> 00:18:04.559 a new task, but hitting goals and taking care of yourself and doing self 237 00:18:04.599 --> 00:18:10.079 care because you deserve it. You deserve to have in everything shower, you 238 00:18:10.119 --> 00:18:14.200 deserve to enjoy your movement. You deserve to go on your Hawt Girl walk 239 00:18:14.240 --> 00:18:18.119 and listen to a podcast and wake up in the morning and be happy and 240 00:18:18.200 --> 00:18:23.160 have gratitude and journal because that's what you want to feel good. Let's drop 241 00:18:23.240 --> 00:18:26.880 this energy of not feeling good if we bring it to the law of attraction 242 00:18:27.519 --> 00:18:33.680 like attracts like. So in order for you really to attract the things that 243 00:18:33.720 --> 00:18:37.240 you want in your life, you have to be that thing. You have 244 00:18:37.319 --> 00:18:40.880 to feel love, you have to feel happiness, you have to feel all 245 00:18:40.920 --> 00:18:47.279 the things that you're really wanting outside of you, and that really just brings 246 00:18:47.319 --> 00:18:49.839 you into femin energy, because that's what feminine energy is. Feminine energy is 247 00:18:51.079 --> 00:18:53.880 not chasing. You're not chasing things. You're not trying to convince people to 248 00:18:53.880 --> 00:18:56.839 see your worth. You're not trying to convince people on why you should have 249 00:18:57.079 --> 00:19:02.000 this thing. You stand in your worth. Then you know that you are 250 00:19:02.039 --> 00:19:04.960 a gem and you water yourself and you take care of yourself and you trust, 251 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:10.559 and you know that the universe is going to reflect that back into your 252 00:19:10.559 --> 00:19:15.319 reality. Understand this. When you're changing your self concept, you're changing your 253 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:18.960 self worth, you're changing the things that you're just looking at yourself like or 254 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:23.559 doing in your life. There's going to be a sometimes a little bit of 255 00:19:23.599 --> 00:19:29.720 a buffer period, which is where people really really trip up. I would 256 00:19:29.759 --> 00:19:32.680 say, and I've done this before too. You know, you wake up 257 00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:33.920 and you're like, Okay, I'm going to start working on my self worth 258 00:19:33.960 --> 00:19:37.359 and yes I'm a gem and I'm not going to chase. I don't need 259 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:41.240 to chase. You know, I do trust that this person might come back, 260 00:19:41.319 --> 00:19:42.400 or I do trust that X, Y and Z, and yeah, 261 00:19:42.400 --> 00:19:45.200 I do know my worth and yeah there's a bunch of abundance to go around. 262 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:48.359 And you spend a few days like focusing on that, and you're feeling 263 00:19:48.440 --> 00:19:52.119 really good, and then you look outside and your reality, because this is 264 00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:56.160 what you're trained to do, your mind is still focused dominantly more on everything 265 00:19:56.200 --> 00:20:00.680 that's going wrong. So you're going through your day you're like, well, 266 00:20:00.640 --> 00:20:04.680 but my bank account still doesn't have the money, or he hasn't come back 267 00:20:04.759 --> 00:20:10.000 yet, or oh my god, I haven't gotten that position. Da da 268 00:20:10.119 --> 00:20:15.559 da da. Understand that the universe is working in your favor. Give it 269 00:20:15.640 --> 00:20:22.920 time, drop the time urgency, drop it. You don't even know what 270 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:26.920 the universe is doing. It's moving mountains for you. So anytime that I 271 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:30.519 am really wanting something in my life and I want to like rein it back 272 00:20:30.519 --> 00:20:33.440 and be like, hey, let me drop into my feminine energy here, 273 00:20:33.519 --> 00:20:37.799 let me focus on myself nourish, enjoy the moment, you know, treating 274 00:20:37.799 --> 00:20:40.559 myself like a gem. This is what I know, that that's who I 275 00:20:40.599 --> 00:20:42.839 am, and maybe I've been doing so much changing it out here and this 276 00:20:42.920 --> 00:20:48.480 that let me focus on me. I remind myself, especially when I maybe 277 00:20:48.599 --> 00:20:52.319 don't see the things that I really want in my external world, I remind 278 00:20:52.359 --> 00:20:56.279 myself, you know what, the universe is working in a way that I 279 00:20:56.359 --> 00:21:00.640 just cannot see right now. But it doesn't mean that it's not working. 280 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:03.799 It's working in the background. Okay. The universe is not something that's just 281 00:21:03.839 --> 00:21:07.880 like knocks on your door every single day and it's like, hey, so 282 00:21:07.359 --> 00:21:11.359 this is what we're gonna be doing today, and we have five steps, 283 00:21:11.359 --> 00:21:15.440 and we're gonna put this person here for you and that person there over there, 284 00:21:15.480 --> 00:21:17.680 and then they're gonna have that conversation with you, and you're gonna go 285 00:21:17.720 --> 00:21:19.799 on this direction and then you're gonna talk to this person's gonna get you there. 286 00:21:21.119 --> 00:21:23.279 They don't come to you three D and be like, hey, this 287 00:21:23.359 --> 00:21:27.400 is the plan that we have for you. You have to trust that that 288 00:21:27.480 --> 00:21:30.759 plan is happening in the background. And if you want to think about it 289 00:21:30.799 --> 00:21:34.119 in terms of being a gem or being somebody who knows her worth. You 290 00:21:34.160 --> 00:21:37.839 ain't got to work and I and I mean this like not literally, yes 291 00:21:37.880 --> 00:21:42.640 we work, but like you're doing too much. You're you're needing to know 292 00:21:42.720 --> 00:21:45.880 the whole plan, and you want to sit at the table with the with 293 00:21:45.960 --> 00:21:51.200 the big dogs, and you want to create this whole map and this you 294 00:21:51.240 --> 00:21:55.160 want to get down in the freaking oil wigs. I'm good. Let let 295 00:21:55.240 --> 00:21:56.640 the men do it or let the girls do it. I don't care. 296 00:21:56.680 --> 00:21:59.599 But that's not my job anymore. I don't want to do it. I'm 297 00:21:59.640 --> 00:22:03.559 not into in doing it. I'm not interested in figuring out how. And 298 00:22:03.640 --> 00:22:04.839 at the end of the day, I know some of you guys aren't wanting 299 00:22:04.880 --> 00:22:07.759 to be like that in relationships. You don't want to be that with your 300 00:22:07.759 --> 00:22:11.119 careers, Like you don't want to be in this energy of you always figuring 301 00:22:11.160 --> 00:22:14.720 it out and you always having to have the answer, and you always having 302 00:22:14.759 --> 00:22:17.880 to make things happen. We've been in the masculine energy for too long. 303 00:22:18.240 --> 00:22:21.720 It's not needed. And when I mean it's not needed, it is needed 304 00:22:21.759 --> 00:22:23.960 in a certain sense, yes, but in your sense, in my sense, 305 00:22:25.200 --> 00:22:29.000 let's just relax for a second, Okay, Let's just trust that whatever 306 00:22:29.079 --> 00:22:30.599 it is that we are wanting to call into our lives, it is going 307 00:22:30.640 --> 00:22:36.559 to happen. Remove the time urgency, detached from the outcome. It is 308 00:22:36.599 --> 00:22:40.480 coming, It is on its way. What can you do in the meantime? 309 00:22:40.839 --> 00:22:42.960 And not in a way of all right, well, I'm just going 310 00:22:44.000 --> 00:22:48.880 to occupy myself as I wait and stress about it coming. No, because 311 00:22:48.920 --> 00:22:52.039 you don't need to anyways. That's not how you're going to even sustain anything 312 00:22:52.079 --> 00:22:56.319 in your life. You want that relationship that you really want where somebody is 313 00:22:56.359 --> 00:23:00.279 treating you correctly and protecting you and keep being you safe and loving you and 314 00:23:00.319 --> 00:23:04.400 pouring into you. You need to learn how to look at yourself like a 315 00:23:04.440 --> 00:23:08.720 gem before that even happens, because as soon as they come, and if 316 00:23:08.759 --> 00:23:12.400 you don't, then you're gonna go right back into the working energy of trying 317 00:23:12.440 --> 00:23:17.119 to prove your worth and people, please and do all these things. Work 318 00:23:17.160 --> 00:23:21.279 on the confidence right now, pour into yourself. You know, if you're 319 00:23:21.799 --> 00:23:25.079 not seeing the numbers and your bank account, if you're not seeing the job 320 00:23:25.119 --> 00:23:26.599 opportunities, or you're not seeing the greeds yet, what do you do? 321 00:23:27.279 --> 00:23:30.680 Focus on what it is that you're here to do become that version of you, 322 00:23:30.720 --> 00:23:34.759 become the YouTuber, become the person who refines their skills. I feel 323 00:23:34.799 --> 00:23:37.960 like sometimes when we see things aren't happening in our lives, we just want 324 00:23:37.960 --> 00:23:41.519 to give up. We want to give up on our desires. We want 325 00:23:41.519 --> 00:23:44.359 to say, see, I'm a failure. I can't do it. No, 326 00:23:45.559 --> 00:23:51.079 it's not about that. It's either sometimes continue working and not chesting yourself 327 00:23:51.079 --> 00:23:53.799 out. But Okay, I didn't get that job position right now, I'm 328 00:23:53.799 --> 00:23:57.400 going to continue to work at the job that I have right now. I'm 329 00:23:57.480 --> 00:24:03.039 going to you know, if I to refine any skills I can do that, 330 00:24:03.039 --> 00:24:07.359 that's totally fine. Or I'll just wait so I can see another opportunity 331 00:24:07.440 --> 00:24:10.160 come to me and I'll apply to that new job or whatever the case is. 332 00:24:10.200 --> 00:24:11.839 Like, why are we stressing about it? It's gonna happen. It's 333 00:24:11.880 --> 00:24:15.720 going to happen. And I understand that there's things in your life where you're 334 00:24:15.720 --> 00:24:18.319 so uncomfortable, you're so desperate to get out of, or even when it 335 00:24:18.359 --> 00:24:23.359 comes to relationships, right you're so alone, you're sad, you're alone. 336 00:24:23.559 --> 00:24:29.480 Just understand it's coming and feel into the feeling of what it would feel like. 337 00:24:30.240 --> 00:24:33.519 If you had everything that you wanted, think back to a time where 338 00:24:33.559 --> 00:24:38.400 you were your most prime. Maybe you were in love, or maybe you 339 00:24:38.440 --> 00:24:41.319 had all the money that you wanted, or you just felt like things were 340 00:24:41.359 --> 00:24:48.000 really moving in that direction that you wanted. Embody that energy again, get 341 00:24:48.039 --> 00:24:52.799 back to that place before these things externally even come into your life. That's 342 00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:56.680 what I've done a lot in my life, and I go through many seasons 343 00:24:56.680 --> 00:25:00.599 of that. And if you think back to the time right before the thing 344 00:25:00.640 --> 00:25:06.119 that you really wanted happened, most likely you were residing in some sort of 345 00:25:06.119 --> 00:25:12.359 that energy I have found in my life when I start a new relationship, 346 00:25:14.079 --> 00:25:21.880 usually I tend to start relationships when I am detached from anyone or anything. 347 00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:26.480 I have a trusting and a knowing I'm enjoying my life. This doesn't mean 348 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:29.359 that my life is perfect, or that I have the most confidence in myself 349 00:25:29.480 --> 00:25:32.000 or I feel like I'm like the most ready for a relationship. It's not 350 00:25:32.039 --> 00:25:36.599 even about that. But there's this essence of me genuinely just residing in my 351 00:25:36.599 --> 00:25:41.440 feminine energy. I'm not sitting here like stressing about a guy all day and 352 00:25:41.039 --> 00:25:45.039 is he texting me or this? That not anything like that, and they 353 00:25:45.039 --> 00:25:52.400 always come when I'm in that energy, and it's not surprising because I'm in 354 00:25:52.480 --> 00:25:55.640 this energy of attracting. You don't have to be one hundred percent perfect to 355 00:25:55.880 --> 00:26:00.839 get that job opportunity, or get that huge raise or that person that might 356 00:26:00.880 --> 00:26:03.599 be the love of your life. You don't have to be perfect. I 357 00:26:03.599 --> 00:26:07.279 think sometimes we get so stressed out about oh, okay, I have to 358 00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:10.319 be in this perfect energy to be able to attract. No no, no, 359 00:26:10.440 --> 00:26:12.400 no, See you're still trying, You're still back in your masculine energy. 360 00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:15.160 When you're doing that, you're second guessing yourself. Solve second guessing yourself. 361 00:26:17.039 --> 00:26:19.559 Be you, what do you want to do during your days? Instead 362 00:26:19.559 --> 00:26:26.440 of worrying and trying and stressing so much, be in the identity that you 363 00:26:26.519 --> 00:26:30.599 want to be in, whether that's your you know, your in your fitness 364 00:26:30.640 --> 00:26:34.920 era, or you're becoming a YouTube or a content creator, or you're working 365 00:26:34.960 --> 00:26:37.920 towards a new job in terms of your learning the skills, and you're just 366 00:26:37.960 --> 00:26:41.279 really inspired by the things that you're talking about, or you know, you're 367 00:26:41.359 --> 00:26:45.240 jumping on opportunities when they fall into your lap, whatever it is, working 368 00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:51.880 on your mindset, eating right, listening to everything we've been talking about it, 369 00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:55.920 romanticizing your life and joying the process. Slow down, stop rushing, 370 00:26:56.759 --> 00:26:59.960 and it's going to come. And that's really all I want to say. 371 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:06.279 Okay, understand that the universe is working in ways you can't even imagine, 372 00:27:06.319 --> 00:27:10.559 So let's just drop it. If you find that you have been thinking about 373 00:27:10.559 --> 00:27:17.359 the how and the when and just stressing, remind yourself that you're a gem. 374 00:27:18.680 --> 00:27:26.039 And does a gem worry and wonder about how No, she knows her 375 00:27:26.039 --> 00:27:33.000 perfect buyer will come at the perfect time with exactly anything that whatever she's asking 376 00:27:33.039 --> 00:27:37.480 for in terms of money or whatever, exactly what she wants and exactly what 377 00:27:37.519 --> 00:27:41.480 she deserves. And she's also going to be such a beautiful gem and bring 378 00:27:41.519 --> 00:27:45.000 this person amazing joy and love and everything in his life as well. I'm 379 00:27:45.039 --> 00:27:47.519 saying his because I kind of thinking about relationships right now, but you know 380 00:27:47.559 --> 00:27:51.599 what I mean. Okay, so it's a mutual thing. It's great, 381 00:27:51.680 --> 00:27:53.039 we don't have to stress about that. But at the end of the day, 382 00:27:53.119 --> 00:27:56.599 you are a gem. Remind yourself of that, and how do you 383 00:27:56.640 --> 00:28:00.720 take care of a gem? Right now? Think about that, Pour into 384 00:28:00.759 --> 00:28:07.119 yourself, nourish yourself and watch the universe work in ways that you can't even 385 00:28:07.160 --> 00:28:11.559 imagine. I hope you guys enjoyed this episode, and I'll see you guys 386 00:28:11.559 --> 00:28:12.240 in the next one. Bye.