Hi everyone, and welcome back to the podcast episode. My name is Alicia
Gogan, the host of The Globe Secret podcast, where I help you expand
your mind and become more self awares that you can glow up into the best
version of yourself. Hello, how are you doing today? It is a
sunny day and I am happy. Of course, if you're watching on YouTube.
We got the nails done. Okay, you know it's spring when the
nails are done. We got three coats of OPI bubble bath with French white
tips biojail nails. I feel like a million dollars. Okay, Today though,
I want to talk about letting go, trusting that the universe has your
back, and I want to discuss some things that have helped me really detach
and trust. And that really is of course talking about detachment, but also
feminine energy and knowing your worth. So last week's episode, I was talking
about how one of the things that I want to let go of for this
season of my life is this to do energy, this goal oriented masculine energy
that I was residing in. This is not to let go of any goals.
I'm not waking up every morning and saying screw all of my goals.
But I'm just no longer deciding to feel like life is so hard. Like
every day I have to take care of myself, I have to do these
things. I have to work on my mindset. I want it to be
light, I want it to be fun. I want it to be just
easy. I want life to be easy. And when you're sometimes in masculine
energy, when you're in this to do list energy focusing on goals a lot,
what tends to happen. And this is the reason why sometimes I like
to fall back on hyper focusing on goals is your mind tends to go into
a level of worry, a level of time urgency. So you start to
think about when, when is it going to happen, How is it going
to happen, When is the money going to come, When is my success
going to come for my career, When is my specific person going to come
back into my life? Or when am I going to meet my specific person?
You really start to get in this energy of when. And I think
when you are having those thoughts, that's when it's really time to let go
and step back into or fall back into your feminine energy. And I was
journaling the other day and journaling about how I trust the universe. I trust
that the universe is going to bring me exactly what I need, what I
want, what I desire, and I don't need. I don't need to
put in this unhealthy level of trying and worrying that's not going to get me
what I want. I already know that. Another thing I was writing is
the universe is going to bring me all the things that I deserve in ways
that I can't even imagine. So I'm not even going to waste my time
trying to figure out when how things are going to be moving. All I
need to do is believe in trust that things are moving. There's movement,
even if I don't see it. There is movement, and it's so crazy
just I'm not going to get into it. But this morning I woke up
and there was there was clear evidence that there was movement in my life for
something that I have been thinking about, but not in a place of really
forcing and stressing about it. And I think that that's why I saw this
movement very quickly, because when I have been really thinking about it, it's
been from this place of relaxation. So maybe that's why I'm like very I
don't know inspired to speak about this right now, but in general, I
always love to come back to these affirmations of the universe is going to bring
me things exactly the way I need to and I don't need to figure out
how or when or why. And that's really us moving back into that masculine
energy. And although yes, masculine energy is needed and we need to take
action, we need to take inspired action. Really we need to do things
in our lives, but we don't need to do it from a place of
worry. Right when you're wondering when this money is going to come in,
or when this person is going to come in, or what are they going
to say, or how are they going to how is it going to happen?
When all these things are in my way, that's you stepping back out
of your feminine energy. And I think this is the season for a lot
of us where it's like, Okay, I just want to relax for a
second. I just want to relax for a second. I just want to
breathe. So I I want to talk about something that I've spoken about in
one of my main channel videos like last year, in regards to looking at
yourself like a gem, and how this way of looking at yourself might be
useful to help you step more into feminine energy or for you to even understand
it and to allow you to really detach from the things that you are desiring
in your life and you really want again. It's not about letting go of
your goals, but there is a difference between you chasing versus you attracting,
and feminine energy is this essence of you receiving and becoming a magnet and trusting
that the universe, that God, that whatever is going to bring you what
you deserve. Right. So, something that I think is a good reminder
for all of you and even for myself, is you need to start looking
at yourself like a gem. And I remember when I had this as a
title of one of my YouTube videos, and of course I was talking about
this, and there's a few people who said, what is a gem?
A gem is essentially like you just look at yourself like a diamond. I'm
just gonna use gem, Okay, So what is a gem in terms of
how do people respond to a gem? A gem is very valuable. A
gem is beautiful. People stop and stare at a gem or a diamond.
It's also never changing its value. And we're talking and listen before you get
in those little limiting belief mindset traps that you get into and it's like,
well, there's some people who can't afford it, but they get them anyways,
or some people mistreat those gems or those diamonds, or some people bargain.
No no, no, no no, we're talking about the gems that
are in the stores that like there's no bargaining, there's no nothing. You
gotta get it for full price and it's taken care of. And that's type
a gem. Okay, we're gonna be talking about that type of gem.
That type of gem never goes on sale. That type of gem doesn't negotiate
her wants and desires and her needs. And I'm calling her or her because
really we're just kind of looking at ourselves like a gem. Here. People
also automatically know how to treat a gem aka a diamond or I know it's
not aka, but whatever. Like you know, if you were to get
a really expensive diamond ring, you would be taking care of that thing.
You beget in insurance, you beget it cleaned whenever you need to be getting
it cleaned. You'd make sure that when you take it off, you know
exactly where where it's being put down, you know where to keep it.
You would be just so consumed and just loving this gem, okay, And
I want you to start looking at yourself like that, because when you look
at yourself like that, you fall back into your feminine energy naturally, because
when you look at yourself like a gem and you were mind yourself. Does
a gem chase? Does a gem try and convince these people over here to
buy it? Does a gem go on sale just does a gem negotiate her
price? Does a gem not make people stop and stare? No, the
gem doesn't do that. Okay, So you can look at yourself as a
gem in terms of your relationships, career, finances, friendships. So maybe
i'll give you a quick little example. I mean, I kind of already
said it, but let's say for relationships, a gem doesn't chase. A
gem doesn't send a huge long paragraph explaining her worth. A gem doesn't worry
about how her sp special person is going to make it back to her.
He will find a way why, because she's a gem and a gem special
person is going to fight for her, is going to apologize, is going
to step up to the plate, is going to protect her, is going
to always want to keep her safe, is going to value her. He's
not going to ask you to negotiate your price. You're not doing that.
So when you find yourself doing those things or second guessing or thinking about maybe
I should lower my price, is that what a gem would do. No,
let's think about a gem in terms of a career. A gem doesn't
settle or second guess. A gem doesn't look at herself and her work ethic
and the work that she does in her skills and says I'm not good enough.
A gem maybe if she needs to. Of course, she's refining her
skills, but she has an inherent worth within herself, and she knows she
is valuable. She knows she is worthy standing in this position, even if
there's some people who don't want to give her that position. Yet she is
not giving up. This is not about her having to convince people of her
worth. But it's also not because I know some people will be like,
well, you have to try in life to get where you want. Yes,
but there's definitely a difference between you trying from this confident place of a
knowing the same way I did. When it came to starting a podcast channel.
I didn't get the views and the downloads the way that I do now,
But when I started, I had confidence with myself. I believed in
myself before anyone else believed in me. And that's going to be the same
with you when it comes to a job, when it comes to you attracting
people even physically. I decide that I look good my Instagram. I've decided
that that photo looks good before anyone else decides to go and light that photo
and tell me I look beautiful. I decide that's what you need to do
when it comes to your relationships to whatever. Bring it back to relationships.
No, I know that I'm a gem and that I should be protected and
that I should be fought for, and that I should be having this level
of a readiness from somebody or X, Y and Z. This is not
about me being a narcissist. I have a lot of love to give.
I treat people with respect. I know that I bring this essence of joyfulness
and happiness to people's lives when I'm in them, So it's not about being
a narcissist. But I know that I don't need to and I should not
negotiate my worth. And quite frankly, when you walk through life and you're
saying that you're a gem, especially to guys, right, Oh, I
know my worth. I'm different than all the other girls. I know my
worth. But then you are simultaneously accepting the bare minimum. This guy's looking
at you like, really, do you know your worth? Because it's almost
like I really want to believe that you're you know you're worth, You're this
gem, But then you go and you accept the bare minimum from even me.
That don't make sense. Trust me, I've seen it. I've even
seen it in myself. Let's talk about finances. A gem knows that there's
always people that have money and that will give her more than she even is
worth. But there's a lot out there and that there's abundance. Okay,
there are people in life that can afford a gem, that can afford a
diamond, that can afford ten million of them if they want. But you're
moving through life maybe thinking, well, no one's gonna give me what I'm
worth or no one there's not enough, there's not enough to go around.
Know, A gem knows that there are people that will pay and be willing
to pay full price. But if you don't have that belief, you'll be
starting to accept the bare minimum, thinking that Okay, well maybe this is
all I can get, or you know, settling for this goal over here,
or like this desire because it's like, oh, maybe it's too big,
I'm asking for too much. Well, that comes from you thinking that
there's not enough abundance to go around surround yourself by people who have it the
way that you want. And this is something that I had to do,
like really expand my mind, right, and I talked about this in my
intro Expanding your Mind. I expanded what was really possible for me starting at
the age of sixteen, when I would go on Tumblr. I was looking
at homes in Florida and I was seeing these lifestyles that I had never seen
before. I expanded my view of life, my desires to show that it's
possible to live a life that was not the one that I had. I
learned to be grateful for the life that I had. That was the thing
that really helped me get out of it. But the end of the day,
like I surrounded myself with pictures with visions, with people speaking words of
affirmation or stories about how you can have it too. So be careful with
who it is that you're surrounding yourself with and the things that your feet in
your mind, because that really is going to affect the way that you believe
there's abundance or not realistically. And the more you level up your life and
you move around people who got it like that, or who are positive or
who have healthy relationships, you see, Wow, it's actually very normalized.
There's actually a lot of people who have a lot of money and who can
pay this amount of money for a gem. You know, just go walk
down Yorkville in Toronto and you'll see there's actually people who got money like that.
And then of course you've been around a lot of people probably who don't,
who haven't had money like that, or maybe you haven't had money like
that, or you know, you've been told this story of we don't there's
never you can't. No, Listen, that is just a part of the
reality that you've lived in. But that is not the entirety of the world.
Okay, So go look into surround yourself with people who have more than
you even do, show yourself it's possible even when it comes to friendships.
A gem knows that she makes people feel amazing when they're around her. And
I think this comes back to this not being a narcissist thing, Like you
know, you bring value to people, you make people feel seen love,
you're sweet to people, you're kind to people, you listen to people,
whatever uniquely is for you. And that is what a gem is too,
right if you think about it, like, yes, people are spending money
on a gem, and yes people are wanting to protect it and learn how
to care for it and this that, But a gem brings a lot of
good feeling to people. When you got this expensive gem, this diamond on
your hand, do you not feel the best? I feel good and not
even got it. Okay, So just know that. So bringing it back
to trusting the process, trusting that whatever it is that you're really calling in
your life right now is going to come. It is going to require you
to step into this feminine ermy in a way and a lot of different circumstances.
Like I've been saying with these examples, there's gonna be a level of
you, you know what, I'm not gonna try and figure it out.
I can't even figure it out. I don't even need to. All I
need to do is trust that everything that I want in my life is coming
to me. And what I'm gonna do right now is I'm gonna focus on
myself. I'm gonna look at myself like a gem. I am not going
to accept the things around me who are reflecting otherwise reflecting on a damn rock
on the freaking side of the road. Okay, sorry for the rocks.
Storry to the rocks. I should say, we love the rocks. Maybe
you can think about yourself like, I don't know, upgrade to a crystal
or something. But what do you do in order to look at yourself more
like a gem? Obviously those mindset shifts, yes, And you know when
you see yourself maybe negotiating or bargaining, bargaining yourself and this, that we're
not doing that. We're not doing that, we're not chasing, we're not
doing that. What do you do? Well? The spotlight right now is
on everything outside of you you, and the spotlight needs to be back on
you. So whether that's in your relationships or even let's say you're stressing about
finances, you're stressing about career, these things. Anytime you're stressing or you're
worrying. It's like the spotlight is over here, like outside of you,
looking at all the things that are going wrong. Okay, so let's lift
that spotlight off all the things that are going wrong, and we're gonna put
the spotlight back on ourselves. What do we need to be the best gem
that we've ever been, the highest value gem? And that's gonna look different
for everyone, but it's quite simple, and it's things you already know what
to do. You just probably been slipping maybe a little bit, or just
not even realize, like not even enjoying the process. And this is kind
of again what I was saying in my last episode. Just self care,
taking care of yourself, yes, but from this place of enjoyment, like
hitting goals, not just because you have to do this and every day there's
a new task, but hitting goals and taking care of yourself and doing self
care because you deserve it. You deserve to have in everything shower, you
deserve to enjoy your movement. You deserve to go on your Hawt Girl walk
and listen to a podcast and wake up in the morning and be happy and
have gratitude and journal because that's what you want to feel good. Let's drop
this energy of not feeling good if we bring it to the law of attraction
like attracts like. So in order for you really to attract the things that
you want in your life, you have to be that thing. You have
to feel love, you have to feel happiness, you have to feel all
the things that you're really wanting outside of you, and that really just brings
you into femin energy, because that's what feminine energy is. Feminine energy is
not chasing. You're not chasing things. You're not trying to convince people to
see your worth. You're not trying to convince people on why you should have
this thing. You stand in your worth. Then you know that you are
a gem and you water yourself and you take care of yourself and you trust,
and you know that the universe is going to reflect that back into your
reality. Understand this. When you're changing your self concept, you're changing your
self worth, you're changing the things that you're just looking at yourself like or
doing in your life. There's going to be a sometimes a little bit of
a buffer period, which is where people really really trip up. I would
say, and I've done this before too. You know, you wake up
and you're like, Okay, I'm going to start working on my self worth
and yes I'm a gem and I'm not going to chase. I don't need
to chase. You know, I do trust that this person might come back,
or I do trust that X, Y and Z, and yeah,
I do know my worth and yeah there's a bunch of abundance to go around.
And you spend a few days like focusing on that, and you're feeling
really good, and then you look outside and your reality, because this is
what you're trained to do, your mind is still focused dominantly more on everything
that's going wrong. So you're going through your day you're like, well,
but my bank account still doesn't have the money, or he hasn't come back
yet, or oh my god, I haven't gotten that position. Da da
da da. Understand that the universe is working in your favor. Give it
time, drop the time urgency, drop it. You don't even know what
the universe is doing. It's moving mountains for you. So anytime that I
am really wanting something in my life and I want to like rein it back
and be like, hey, let me drop into my feminine energy here,
let me focus on myself nourish, enjoy the moment, you know, treating
myself like a gem. This is what I know, that that's who I
am, and maybe I've been doing so much changing it out here and this
that let me focus on me. I remind myself, especially when I maybe
don't see the things that I really want in my external world, I remind
myself, you know what, the universe is working in a way that I
just cannot see right now. But it doesn't mean that it's not working.
It's working in the background. Okay. The universe is not something that's just
like knocks on your door every single day and it's like, hey, so
this is what we're gonna be doing today, and we have five steps,
and we're gonna put this person here for you and that person there over there,
and then they're gonna have that conversation with you, and you're gonna go
on this direction and then you're gonna talk to this person's gonna get you there.
They don't come to you three D and be like, hey, this
is the plan that we have for you. You have to trust that that
plan is happening in the background. And if you want to think about it
in terms of being a gem or being somebody who knows her worth. You
ain't got to work and I and I mean this like not literally, yes
we work, but like you're doing too much. You're you're needing to know
the whole plan, and you want to sit at the table with the with
the big dogs, and you want to create this whole map and this you
want to get down in the freaking oil wigs. I'm good. Let let
the men do it or let the girls do it. I don't care.
But that's not my job anymore. I don't want to do it. I'm
not into in doing it. I'm not interested in figuring out how. And
at the end of the day, I know some of you guys aren't wanting
to be like that in relationships. You don't want to be that with your
careers, Like you don't want to be in this energy of you always figuring
it out and you always having to have the answer, and you always having
to make things happen. We've been in the masculine energy for too long.
It's not needed. And when I mean it's not needed, it is needed
in a certain sense, yes, but in your sense, in my sense,
let's just relax for a second, Okay, Let's just trust that whatever
it is that we are wanting to call into our lives, it is going
to happen. Remove the time urgency, detached from the outcome. It is
coming, It is on its way. What can you do in the meantime?
And not in a way of all right, well, I'm just going
to occupy myself as I wait and stress about it coming. No, because
you don't need to anyways. That's not how you're going to even sustain anything
in your life. You want that relationship that you really want where somebody is
treating you correctly and protecting you and keep being you safe and loving you and
pouring into you. You need to learn how to look at yourself like a
gem before that even happens, because as soon as they come, and if
you don't, then you're gonna go right back into the working energy of trying
to prove your worth and people, please and do all these things. Work
on the confidence right now, pour into yourself. You know, if you're
not seeing the numbers and your bank account, if you're not seeing the job
opportunities, or you're not seeing the greeds yet, what do you do?
Focus on what it is that you're here to do become that version of you,
become the YouTuber, become the person who refines their skills. I feel
like sometimes when we see things aren't happening in our lives, we just want
to give up. We want to give up on our desires. We want
to say, see, I'm a failure. I can't do it. No,
it's not about that. It's either sometimes continue working and not chesting yourself
out. But Okay, I didn't get that job position right now, I'm
going to continue to work at the job that I have right now. I'm
going to you know, if I to refine any skills I can do that,
that's totally fine. Or I'll just wait so I can see another opportunity
come to me and I'll apply to that new job or whatever the case is.
Like, why are we stressing about it? It's gonna happen. It's
going to happen. And I understand that there's things in your life where you're
so uncomfortable, you're so desperate to get out of, or even when it
comes to relationships, right you're so alone, you're sad, you're alone.
Just understand it's coming and feel into the feeling of what it would feel like.
If you had everything that you wanted, think back to a time where
you were your most prime. Maybe you were in love, or maybe you
had all the money that you wanted, or you just felt like things were
really moving in that direction that you wanted. Embody that energy again, get
back to that place before these things externally even come into your life. That's
what I've done a lot in my life, and I go through many seasons
of that. And if you think back to the time right before the thing
that you really wanted happened, most likely you were residing in some sort of
that energy I have found in my life when I start a new relationship,
usually I tend to start relationships when I am detached from anyone or anything.
I have a trusting and a knowing I'm enjoying my life. This doesn't mean
that my life is perfect, or that I have the most confidence in myself
or I feel like I'm like the most ready for a relationship. It's not
even about that. But there's this essence of me genuinely just residing in my
feminine energy. I'm not sitting here like stressing about a guy all day and
is he texting me or this? That not anything like that, and they
always come when I'm in that energy, and it's not surprising because I'm in
this energy of attracting. You don't have to be one hundred percent perfect to
get that job opportunity, or get that huge raise or that person that might
be the love of your life. You don't have to be perfect. I
think sometimes we get so stressed out about oh, okay, I have to
be in this perfect energy to be able to attract. No no, no,
no, See you're still trying, You're still back in your masculine energy.
When you're doing that, you're second guessing yourself. Solve second guessing yourself.
Be you, what do you want to do during your days? Instead
of worrying and trying and stressing so much, be in the identity that you
want to be in, whether that's your you know, your in your fitness
era, or you're becoming a YouTube or a content creator, or you're working
towards a new job in terms of your learning the skills, and you're just
really inspired by the things that you're talking about, or you know, you're
jumping on opportunities when they fall into your lap, whatever it is, working
on your mindset, eating right, listening to everything we've been talking about it,
romanticizing your life and joying the process. Slow down, stop rushing,
and it's going to come. And that's really all I want to say.
Okay, understand that the universe is working in ways you can't even imagine,
So let's just drop it. If you find that you have been thinking about
the how and the when and just stressing, remind yourself that you're a gem.
And does a gem worry and wonder about how No, she knows her
perfect buyer will come at the perfect time with exactly anything that whatever she's asking
for in terms of money or whatever, exactly what she wants and exactly what
she deserves. And she's also going to be such a beautiful gem and bring
this person amazing joy and love and everything in his life as well. I'm
saying his because I kind of thinking about relationships right now, but you know
what I mean. Okay, so it's a mutual thing. It's great,
we don't have to stress about that. But at the end of the day,
you are a gem. Remind yourself of that, and how do you
take care of a gem? Right now? Think about that, Pour into
yourself, nourish yourself and watch the universe work in ways that you can't even
imagine. I hope you guys enjoyed this episode, and I'll see you guys
in the next one. Bye.