Checking the wave form Jenny to make sure we are recording and we are all
right. Let's dive into the emails on the Minnesota Goodbye and get right to
it. Here we go, Brianna writes in She says this is in response
to the weird food convo. Did we have a weird food convo yesterday?
Yeah, yesterday we talked about just weird foods we ate. I think my
weirdest one was I a summer sausage sandwich with ketchup on the summer sausage,
and it's super good. Okay, not a bad choice. I would say
Mayo would be a better choice with a little mustard on there. But I
do love summer sausage. She says. When I was a kid, I
saw the Hanson Brothers make a sandwich that was white bread, potato, chips,
pickles, and mustard. I loved it. Okay, I mean I
would try it, and all of those are good potato, chips, pickles,
and mustard. I would try it. I don't know that I would
do it more than once. Yeah, it almost doesn't feel as much like
a sandwich. I almost feel like there needs to be like a meat on
there. Yeah, but still it does sound good. You ever make a
sandwich like a turkey sandwich and then crunch up with your hands a bunch of
potato chips on top of the sandwich. I haven't done that inside the sandwich,
right, I've seen plenty of people do it. Or you can even
get like gourmet sandwiches at restaurants like that before. Oh really, yeah,
I mean it probably is at like a sandwich restaurant. They're probably not going
to go down and beat ups and get that. But yeah, what is
the best sandwich that you make? The best sandwich that you personally make.
I don't really make sandwiches, so I feel like I don't have one.
I mean I used to be, but I just don't as much anymore.
I just I'm a simple gal. I love my turkey breast with cheese and
some lettuce on it and then mayo on the bread. Okay, no mustard,
No, I'm not a mustard person. I only like that on brat's,
like a spicy mustard. Oh that sounds good. Here's Jessica. Oh
my god, Dave, why would you go to work while doing colonoscby prep?
Because I did that on Thursday and I was doing the prep for a
klonoscby schedule that eleven. I have an autoimmune condition and have had almost a
dozen colonoscopies to monitor my condition. I'm in my mid thirty so I know
exactly what prep is like you, sir, are an American hero or a
crazy person. Haha. When doing prep, I sometimes had to run in
the bathroom ten times in an hour. That's every five minutes. I just
hope that you made it home from the radio station without ruining the fabric on
your car seats. Oh, Jessica, come on, I have leather seats.
Come on there, Come on. Anyway, you are the best.
Hope it went well, and hope you had some yummy food. After we
stopped at McDonald's. Susan was like, what do you want to eat?
Do you want McDonald's? And I'm like, nothing really sounds good, but
I feel like I should because I wasn't recovering to the point where it was
like, oh, I'm so hungry. I haven't eaten in more than twenty
four hours. I just wasn't hungry, so I had some McDonald's and threw
the rest away. Anyway, she goes pro tip the best time to dart
lick is after a colonoscopy prep. So there's a little silver lining. Okay,
so interesting. I guess that's true because you're so cleaned out. Yeah
yeah, apparently. So Jenny is wrinkling up her nose at that idea.
So I'm not a dart liquor. Not a dart liquor. No, Jenny,
you should try it. Well. I think I'm good on that one.
All right, okay, fine, uh here we go next one,
Caroline says, Dave Jenny Drake, you can say my name question for the
Dave Ryan Show or the Minnesota Goodbye. I am twenty seven and dating via
hinge and bumble. I went on a date with a man recently, and
I have a question for all for you all for context. The date was
drinks at pie Pire's Brewery. The date was going well, but he told
me he has co custody of a dog with his ex. She drops the
dog off whenever he wants to see it or if she is busy. Thoughts
on this is that a big red flag? If I continue to see this
man, will his ex forever be dropping off their dog? Love y'all from
Caroline, I would say, no, it doesn't seem like that big of
a thing unless he puts the dog visits ahead of quality time with you,
so they just drop off, or they share custody of the dog. They
said they have co custody. She drops the dog off whenever he wants to
see it, so it sounds like she has if you will primary custody and
he'll be like, hey, bring buddy over because I want to see him
this weekend, so she'll bring him over. Or she's like I gotta go
out of town or whatever, then she'll bring the dog over. I don't
have a problem with that at all. If you like dogs, great,
If she is in and out, great, I will say, if he's
obsessed with the dog, where like the dog is his child and it's like
our long walks with the dog and just you know, the dog can get
up on the chair during dinner, or the dog is allowed to do whatever
they want to, that's no, huh. I have friends that have been
in both scenarios where they broken up and they one of the person got the
dog. And then I have a friend who does do like full blown shared
custody bi weekly with their ex and she's been doing it for like five years
because I think they got the dog as a puppy and had it like a
year or two, and they loved the dog so much that they were not
willing, either of them willing to part with the dog. So once a
week they meet up and they exchange the dog or I mean, it's obviously
not always like that. Sometimes someone's on vacation or has work or something.
But it works out well for them. They're both in relationships with other people
now, and I think her ex has a baby and a fiance and then
she has a very serious relationship and it works for them. So I don't
know. I don't think it's like a red flag in my mind. No,
I don't think so at all. I think it's fine. If he's
normal and he puts you ahead of the dog, I get it. He
loves the dog and he's got shared custody of the dog. But if he
like is like, oh, you know what, Sparky is coming over this
weekend. I know it's our date night, but Sparky's coming over this weekend.
Well, okay, fine, And can Sparky stay home while you guys
go out on a date or is Sparky all always the center of everything?
Because I could not stand that and I love dogs. If Susan and I
were to split up, I would probably get primary custody of Josie because she
loves Josie, but not the way I love Josie. Yeah, although I
got so mad at that freaking dog last night, it happens. She's getting
older. She's starting to lose her mind a little bit, and so she's
had the invisible fence, and she knows where the yard is, even though
we don't have the invisible fence on her anymore. If I let her out
the front door, she will want literally wander into the street, across the
street, down the street, and she could easily get hit by a car.
And so I let her out last night. I look out like two
minutes later, and instead of being in the yard, she is in the
middle of the street, crossing to the neighbor's house. And so I had
to run and get my shoes, and then I had to walk down the
street to find where she was. Josie Josie, and she'll look at me
like, what what do you want? But she won't come. It's like
I'm out here wandering around, and so I get really mad at her.
So we're gonna have to get a tie out, so we can tie her
out in the yard and so she can, you know, wander around without
wandering off. But the problem with a tie out. Guess what the problem
is with a tie out. I don't know. They get tangled around everything.
Okay, So because dogs are smart, but not always smart enough to
like if they go around a tree and they can't get back to the door.
Now you've got to wander out in your bare feet in the snow to
get her untangled from the tree. So I love her, but she is
getting on my nerves lately. Here's the last email. We only got a
few for today. Hey, guys, don't say my name. First of
all, I'm four and a half weeks pregnant. I am one of the
lucky ones who gets sick instantly and doesn't wait until six or so weeks.
So the random weird foods from yesterday's podcast was beyond disgusting. Oh I'm sorry
for that, But the real reason I have three other kids. We've been
trying for about three years and have had two losses. I'm finally pregnant.
Yeay. My husband's family knows our infertility struggles. I was talking to his
brother's wife and she told me. Since they've walked this infertility path with me,
they deserve to know right away when I get pregnant. I haven't told
them. Now. Remember she's four and a half weeks pregnant, which is
really really early. Yeah, we almost don't even know at that point.
Sometimes the reason is because in twenty twenty two, I was pregnant and we
told our then four year old and he was heartbroken when I lost it.
So now we're waiting until the first ultrasound and letting him tell everyone is our
announcement. I know she was a little hurt last year in twenty twenty three
when I lost another baby and I had not told them I was pregnant,
but it's to protect my son's heart. I'm a little worried she'll be mad
when I tell or how would you go about this? Just do what you
want and explain to her later. My husband is the kind of effet mentality
and with it because it's us who have been trying so hard, not anybody
else. Thanks, I'm with your husband. You don't know anybody an explanation
or know nothing at all, especially not after going through everything you've been through.
Oh, that is like completely up to your discretion of how you want
to handle it and moving forward, because it's a really hard thing to deal
with, and especially if your son is getting affected by it, Like you
got to look up for your family first before it is sister or sister in
law either way, sister in law, yeah, either way, you look
up for your family first. I know she's family, but yeah, and
I think that you know. I think that she is well intended in saying
hey, I care, and I deserve to know because I've been following the
whole struggle. If she doesn't understand why you don't want to tell her,
then maybe she's not the nicist person. So I'm going to tell you quick
story, and I hope that Beth, my daughter, if she's listening,
does not get mad when I tell the story. But it has nothing to
do with what we just talked about. But we have some time. So
I like to send Beth's kids, they are fourteen and eleven, little gifts,
Like on Halloween, I send them like a box of candy. Of
course, Christmas I send them something. So for Valentine's Day, I got
one a box of Hershey's Kisses, and I got one a bunch of like
Nerds, Ropes or something like that, and a card with twenty bucks in
it. You know it's twenty bucks, A no big deal. So Beth
and I have had a discussion and they don't say thank you. And I
am a gratitude kind of a person, and I always say, I don't
expect anybody to kiss my ass for doing something nice for them, but I
expect gratitude, like, hey, I appreciate that. And so i'd gotten
annoyed with Beth the last couple of years because the kids don't write or call
or text to say hey, thank you for sending that. And so they
opened it on Valentine's Day Wednesday, and she sent me a picture of the
kids holding up their Valentine's candy and their twenty dollars bill and she said,
the kids say thank you. They really love their presence. And so I
sat there and I stewed on it for a little bit, and then I
wrote to Beth and I said, Beth, I gotta tell you, I'm
disappointed, I'm hurt, and I'm frustrated that we have talked about this before.
I want I expect to thank you. Yeah, And like I said,
I don't expect them to like kiss my ass. I don't expect them
to bend over backwards, but a personal text that says thank you or a
phone call would be nice because it just it's like that's a life lesson,
same thank you. So you want the kids to individually reach out to you,
not just like this group text from mom, not for mom at all.
I mean, Mom can say thanks, but I want the kids because
I think that is what results in a good human is when you teach your
kids to say thank you one day down the road when their boss buys them
a present, or one day down the road when somebody gives them a ride
to work, or one day down the road when somebody gives them a jump
start because their car won't start. You've got to learn gratitude. You got
to say thank thank you very much for that. And if you don't learn
it at a young age, then I think, and I think overall,
there's a lack of gratitude in the world. I really think sometimes I get
so tired of doing nice things for people and nobody wants to do anything for
me. I'll give you an example. Somebody texted me the other day and
they said, Hey, do you have a promo code for Motley Crue tickets?
Do you guys have a promo code? And I'm like, I was
kind of like, fuck you, you know, like this is somebody that
I like but I never hear from unless they want something. Yeah, and
here it is, Do you have a promo code for the Motley Crue concert?
And I was like, no, we really don't. We don't play
Motley Crue music on our show, so we don't have a connection. And
I was kind of like I would never say this, but it was like,
what do you ever do for me? I am tired of doing things
for you and you never do anything for me. What don't you think there
should be some equity there? Like you and I will do nice things for
each other. Yeah, but if you've got a one sided friend who never
does anything for you, You always buy the drinks, you always buy coffee,
you always pick up the uber, don't you just kind of get burnout
on it? Absolutely? I do. I mean I feel like my situations
have probably been different, but like I've probably like been there for friends or
like lifted friends up in moments of like where there they've achieved success of some
sorts, And I've really like lifted them up in those moments, but then
they never reciprocated it back with me when I was excited about something, like
to the point where one friend almost made me feel like I was conceited about
talking about some kind of success in my life. And I am not friends
with those people anymore because I just was like, this isn't good, This
isn't a healthy friendship or relationship. But I mean, I'm on your side
with gratitude. I think my number one experience I have with that is I
am the group trip planner for almost every trip I got on YEP. And
you always know the people who are grateful because they are saying, thank you
for planning this, thank you for getting the grocery list together, thank you
for cookiing or whatever, while others just like don't think much of it.
And I mean I witnessed it at this bachelorette party. I was overly grateful
this past weekend because I did not plan this stuff the other girls planned for
once and I said thank you to the main girl who got all the presents
for everyone. I was like, this is so sweet, and I was
like, thanks for planning all of this and getting in organized. And then
one girl was doing all the cookie and I was like, thank you for
making the meal, you know, like I always made sure to say thank
you because I have been on the other side so many times we'll say thank
you. Yeah, yeah, good. No. I think that is exactly
right. And I think that I'm a big gratitude person in saying thank you
to people too, like the boss. This morning. I think the boss
wrote and said, hey, how are you feeling? And I said good,
thanks for asking, because you know, it's just nice. Yeah,
And when somebody says, hey, how are you feeling, you go good,
how are you feeling? I think it's just then it's not all about
you. Anyway, back to the Beath story. So five minutes later,
she writes back, She's like, you're absolutely right. We've talked about this
before. You're absolutely right. And so within a couple of minutes, Liam,
he's the eleven year old, he texted me and he's very chatty,
he's very conversational. So we're chat chat chat, and he was very fun
to talk to and he said thank you for the gift and blah blah blah.
And then Kelsey, who's very shy, she wrote and she did her
best you know, and I said, well, what are you doing.
She's like, oh, we're going skiing tomorrow and blah blah blah. So
you know, I mean, Beth did get them on that, but I
and again, I love Beth so much, but it does get frustrating because
again, I don't expect anybody to bend over backwards to say thank you,
but just a simple thank you means so much. It does, It really
does. And I think that's all I had to say on that one,
although there was seems like there's something else. Maybe not. I can sit
here and think about it. You can think about it. If you have
something else you leave you doutally do No. Not really, I think that's
it. I would say thank you for listening to the Minnesota Goodbye. We
really appreciate it because I know you get a lot of stuff to do during
the day, and I'm glad that you make time for our fifteen or twenty
minute podcast when you can appreciate that. Send your emails in because we need
more content. You are the official staff writer. If you don't have anything
to say with a we don't have a you know, an email to send
us, then we're going to talk about like I don't know crockpot recipes or
boy or toenail fungus. No, have you ever had toenail fungus? No?
Well I did add that black toe after my half of Earth on that
one time, and I went to a podiatrist and he's like, that's just
the results of being a runner, and I was like, that is not
fun. No, No, it's not tomorrow toenail fungus or your emails on
the Minnesota Goodbye. Actually, we're off on Monday, so there won't be
one until Tuesday, so you do anything with your three day weekend. We
have two dogs coming today and we haven't had dogs in like a month,
so I Andrew and I are so excited because we feel like the house has
felt kind of empty for a little bit, so we're excited about that.
But then we also our friend has I think he built a sauna or something
at his house, So we're going to go to his house and have like
a sauna. Oh maybe cold plunge day because he lives by a lake.
We might be doing that too. But other than that, pretty low key.
I was just at a bachelor at party last weekend, so I'm just
trying to hang this week Anday just kind of hang out. What about you.
The girls are coming over this afternoon, and they are three and one,
and they are wonderful, and you try to appreciate, even during the
midst of all the chaos, you try to appreciate how wonderful this is.
How Like, in a few years they're going to be different, and in
ten years they're going to be totally different. But when they are three and
one, especially three, you are the center of their world. Think about
like a three year old and looking up to their mom and dad. You
are the center of their world. And I'll leave you with one thought.
They said, why do grandparents love their grandparents that love their grandkids so much?
And I think this is kind of true, and I'm kind of paraphrase.
It said something like, because playing with my grandkids reminds me of raising
you. So like when I play with Ava, it reminds me of when
Allison was little, and Alison was the most fun, sweet little girl.
She was so happy and full of smiles. And Ava is a lot that
way too. And so if you're a grandparent and you're playing with your little
grandbabies, there's a part of you that's like, ah, this reminds me
of when my daughter or my son was little, So all right, send
your emails to Ryan Show at kadiwb dot com and we'll see you next week