WEBVTT 1 00:00:05.599 --> 00:00:22.399 I'm sorry, what's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? 2 00:00:22.879 --> 00:00:27.280 If you're hearing this episode, you're meant to be here, So keep listening 3 00:00:27.760 --> 00:00:32.640 on that Bitches Positive podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby 4 00:00:32.719 --> 00:00:37.119 Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most 5 00:00:37.159 --> 00:00:43.840 empowered positive bitch self. That is Baby in true connection with herself. We 6 00:00:44.039 --> 00:00:48.200 unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who we came 7 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:52.560 here to me. Can I get a name? And amen? And so 8 00:00:52.600 --> 00:00:57.520 it is. I got a very interesting DM from one of you beautiful positive 9 00:00:57.520 --> 00:01:02.359 bitches this week, and she was asking Ceci, how do we use our 10 00:01:02.520 --> 00:01:07.120 haters, the people who just get underneath our skin as motivators? And I 11 00:01:07.159 --> 00:01:11.319 said, you know, but the last time we did an episode how to 12 00:01:11.680 --> 00:01:15.760 Shine Out Sparkle out your Haters, that was in twenty twenty one. It 13 00:01:15.799 --> 00:01:19.840 was literally, I believe episode six. We needed an updated version on how 14 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:25.400 to deal with the people who send us not the best energy. And that's 15 00:01:25.400 --> 00:01:30.719 where we're gonna be talking about today, because babe a girl, listen up. 16 00:01:30.480 --> 00:01:37.000 Why get mad when you can get everything you've ever desired? Why get 17 00:01:37.040 --> 00:01:42.840 mad? I waste your own time and energy when you can be manifesting, 18 00:01:42.439 --> 00:01:52.120 Why get mad when you can be using the life that you have as a 19 00:01:52.200 --> 00:01:57.599 bridge to the life that you so desire. We are wasting our own time 20 00:01:57.719 --> 00:02:02.280 and I will just know longer have this for us. No no, no, 21 00:02:02.280 --> 00:02:07.719 no no. So today we're talking about energy transmutation, how to put 22 00:02:07.719 --> 00:02:12.879 ourselves back on the pedestal, and ultimately how to once again shine out the 23 00:02:12.919 --> 00:02:17.319 haters so instead of focusing on them, we can focus on our selves. 24 00:02:19.240 --> 00:02:23.400 That's right. Before we get into it, a couple of announcements. 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And these two meditations will be paired with this book, but 75 00:06:08.000 --> 00:06:12.360 you can get early access to them now, Start manifesting, start calling that 76 00:06:12.360 --> 00:06:15.639 power back? Why? Because why not live your best life? Okay, 77 00:06:15.680 --> 00:06:19.160 without further ado, we have to get into today's episode because we have so 78 00:06:19.279 --> 00:06:27.480 much to talk about now. I have always really posted about calling your power 79 00:06:27.560 --> 00:06:30.279 back and why it's so important that we stand in our power, and I 80 00:06:30.439 --> 00:06:35.720 keep for whatever reason, recently I keep seeing comments of when they steal our 81 00:06:35.720 --> 00:06:41.439 power blah blah blah blah, when they steal our power blah blah blah blah. 82 00:06:41.480 --> 00:06:45.680 I'm like, what what what steal our power? No, No, 83 00:06:46.120 --> 00:06:51.040 we need to refresh our mind on how energy works. No one hear me, 84 00:06:51.319 --> 00:06:55.800 hear me, hear me, hear me. Okay, we're traveling back 85 00:06:56.079 --> 00:06:59.879 to Victorian times or whatever people had to scroll and would say, hear me, 86 00:07:00.319 --> 00:07:03.639 hear me, hear me. No one can steal your power from you. 87 00:07:04.199 --> 00:07:10.600 In fact, no one can take your power from you. It's your 88 00:07:10.720 --> 00:07:15.920 power, which means the only way someone can quote unquote receive your power is 89 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:21.079 if you give it to them willingly. I'm going to say that again. 90 00:07:21.560 --> 00:07:27.360 No one can take your power away unless you willingly give it to them. 91 00:07:27.480 --> 00:07:31.439 When you think about a relationship, and let's go let's go full force here. 92 00:07:31.759 --> 00:07:39.560 Let's think about grade a narcissist and a codependent person. A codependent person 93 00:07:39.720 --> 00:07:44.839 in the relationship with a narcissist is just as much as fault as the narcissist 94 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:50.240 is just as much at fault. Why Because the codependent is agreeing to be 95 00:07:50.319 --> 00:07:56.600 in this energetic dynamic where they will be giving up their power and the narcissist 96 00:07:56.680 --> 00:08:01.639 is in this energetic dynamic and agreeing to take the other person's power. It 97 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:07.639 is an energetic contract between two people and they're both in agreement to it. 98 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:13.600 So when we're in a relationship dynamic where I recently started watching that show the 99 00:08:13.639 --> 00:08:16.600 summer I turned pretty or something. Everyone kept telling me to watch it until 100 00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:22.120 fine, I'll watch it. It's cute anyway. The main character has a 101 00:08:22.120 --> 00:08:26.560 best friend, Katie or something who knows, and the main character says that 102 00:08:26.680 --> 00:08:30.279 every time her friend is there, while she loves her friend, she always 103 00:08:30.319 --> 00:08:33.480 feels like a side character. She always feels like she is not the main 104 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:37.039 star when her friend is there. So she loves her, but at the 105 00:08:37.080 --> 00:08:41.320 same time, she doesn't really want her coming there for her birthday because then 106 00:08:41.360 --> 00:08:45.720 she has to feel like the side character. But the main character, Belly 107 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:50.159 cannot feel like a side character unless she allows her friend to be the main 108 00:08:50.279 --> 00:08:54.120 character. And by the way, there are stories where there are multiple main 109 00:08:54.240 --> 00:08:58.559 characters. You don't need to slide into a side character identity just because you 110 00:08:58.600 --> 00:09:03.440 think you're friend is a main character. You don't need to slide into codependent 111 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:07.360 tendencies just because you think that person is a narcissist and it's going to take 112 00:09:07.360 --> 00:09:11.879 all your power. You have to understand that when you enter these energetic dynamics 113 00:09:11.919 --> 00:09:16.759 with your boss, with your friend who you think is the main character, 114 00:09:16.879 --> 00:09:22.480 with someone who is kind of narcissistic, understand they cannot take your power away. 115 00:09:22.919 --> 00:09:28.000 No one can unless you give them your power. And I'm saying this 116 00:09:28.080 --> 00:09:31.120 assuming that everyone has free will and no one's locked in a dungeon, etc. 117 00:09:33.440 --> 00:09:37.360 We when all parties have free will, you can only give your power 118 00:09:37.519 --> 00:09:43.759 away. They can't take it from you. So if you feel like you're 119 00:09:43.799 --> 00:09:48.120 in a relationship dynamic with someone who is constantly taking your power, who's constantly 120 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:54.279 making you the side character, stop allowing that to be your story. Stop 121 00:09:54.320 --> 00:09:58.519 allowing them to take your power, and say, you know what, instead 122 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:01.639 of going on autopilot just being a sorry character, I'm gonna wake the fuck 123 00:10:01.720 --> 00:10:05.200 up to my own reality and I'm going to start to decide that I'm not 124 00:10:05.240 --> 00:10:09.080 just gonna go with the flow about everything. I'm not just going to shut 125 00:10:09.159 --> 00:10:11.600 up and be pretty and stand there. I'm going to say what it is 126 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:13.960 I want, when I want, and I'm going to speak up for myself. 127 00:10:13.559 --> 00:10:18.120 You want to take back your power, take back conscious control. You 128 00:10:18.159 --> 00:10:22.360 want to take back your power, take back your present moment, your powers 129 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:24.559 in the present moment. It's not in your past, it's not worrying about 130 00:10:24.559 --> 00:10:28.919 your future. It's in your present. That's where you take your power back. 131 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:35.679 So the first part of us outshining our haters, I don't even like 132 00:10:35.759 --> 00:10:39.200 to say using our haters to motivate us. But the first part of us 133 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:43.919 taking back our power and not letting our haters use us, but us using 134 00:10:43.039 --> 00:10:48.000 them and their energy, is to say, I'm not going to keep being 135 00:10:48.120 --> 00:10:50.840 this character in this story that I didn't write for myself. If I learned 136 00:10:50.840 --> 00:10:54.000 a certain behavior, fuck it, I don't care. I'm going to become 137 00:10:54.000 --> 00:10:58.720 a new person today. Part of quantum leaping to your desired timeline is simply 138 00:10:58.759 --> 00:11:03.679 make a decision that you want to quantum leap. Part of quantum leaping is 139 00:11:03.720 --> 00:11:07.639 simply deciding that you don't want to be who you've been thus far. So 140 00:11:07.799 --> 00:11:11.519 you need to make a decision that you're no longer going to give up your 141 00:11:11.639 --> 00:11:16.679 power because no one's taking it from you. Take accountability. You want to 142 00:11:16.679 --> 00:11:22.000 take back your power, hi take responsibility over your own life. Because that 143 00:11:22.120 --> 00:11:24.720 is how you take your power back. If you want to keep being a 144 00:11:24.799 --> 00:11:26.919 victim to circumstance, have at it. Your life is not going to be 145 00:11:26.960 --> 00:11:31.120 fun. If you want to keep being a victim, everyone takes my power 146 00:11:31.120 --> 00:11:33.360 away, nothing ever works out for me. Okay, keep living that story. 147 00:11:33.440 --> 00:11:37.440 Have fun, Martha. You're gonna hate your life. So what you're 148 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:41.240 gonna do is say fuck that. No more of that. I'm taking back 149 00:11:41.240 --> 00:11:43.399 my power. I'm no longer going to give it away for free. I'm 150 00:11:43.440 --> 00:11:48.720 no longer giving it away to just anybody. I'm going to show up as 151 00:11:48.799 --> 00:11:52.360 who it is that I wish to be. I think another way we give 152 00:11:52.360 --> 00:11:58.799 away our power is everyone just wants to be understood so badly. Everyone wants 153 00:11:58.840 --> 00:12:05.159 to be respected so badly. Everyone, everyone and their mother. To me, 154 00:12:07.240 --> 00:12:11.039 one of the ways I've taken back my power is simply understanding. I 155 00:12:11.080 --> 00:12:13.960 don't give a fuck if you respect me or not. I don't care if 156 00:12:13.960 --> 00:12:20.120 you like me or not. I don't give a flying fuck if you understand 157 00:12:20.159 --> 00:12:24.240 me or not. Maybe I didn't come here to live for you. I 158 00:12:24.320 --> 00:12:28.200 came here to live for me. Part of taking our power back and using 159 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:33.240 our haters to motivate us. However you want to say, This is simply 160 00:12:33.320 --> 00:12:37.039 by adopting the mindset that, regardless of how people are going to respond to 161 00:12:37.080 --> 00:12:41.720 me, I'm going to show up how I wish. That's it, because 162 00:12:41.960 --> 00:12:43.799 at the end of the day, you have to live and die by you. 163 00:12:43.799 --> 00:12:46.360 You have to wake up in your body every single day. You have 164 00:12:46.440 --> 00:12:52.559 to exist in your vessel every single day as you. So the person you 165 00:12:52.600 --> 00:12:58.279 need to be pleasing is you and God, not everybody else. You and 166 00:12:58.399 --> 00:13:01.440 God, God's person option of you, that's more important than anybody else's. 167 00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:07.080 Period done. You're higher selves, perspective of you, more important than anyone 168 00:13:07.120 --> 00:13:11.320 else. Your angel's perspective of you. Yeah. Important. Not all these 169 00:13:11.799 --> 00:13:15.320 people who hate themselves on planet or they don't that, they don't matter, 170 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:20.759 they don't match her. I recently was out with one of my friends and 171 00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:24.399 when I go out, you guys know, I like to enter something called 172 00:13:24.440 --> 00:13:28.879 messy makeup mode. And when I enter messy makeup mode, it looks like 173 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:33.600 I stepped out of the shower because I'm sweating. My eyelashes if I put 174 00:13:33.600 --> 00:13:37.279 any on, are like coming off my eyeliner. Who is she? She 175 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:45.240 left the building? I am sweating my little tush off. I'm doing the 176 00:13:45.360 --> 00:13:50.679 most dancing and I'm not like a sexual like dancer, per se, like 177 00:13:50.799 --> 00:13:54.159 twerking on a wall, that's not exactly me. I like to just have 178 00:13:54.240 --> 00:13:58.360 fun and move my body however it wants to move. And when I'm dancing 179 00:13:58.399 --> 00:14:03.240 and I enter messy makeup, I always say that is a magnetic tool because 180 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:05.639 I just show up. However it is. I want to show up and 181 00:14:05.639 --> 00:14:09.039 I don't care what you think. And ironically, which is not ironic at 182 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:13.639 all, if you understand anything about energy. That is when the most people 183 00:14:13.720 --> 00:14:16.159 when I was single and still to this day, will come up to me 184 00:14:16.600 --> 00:14:20.200 when I'm dancing. Obviously I responded differently when I was single than now, 185 00:14:20.480 --> 00:14:24.440 But still people come up to me when I'm moving and grooving it because they 186 00:14:24.519 --> 00:14:28.240 see, wow, that person is so in their own energy, enjoying themselves 187 00:14:28.360 --> 00:14:33.600 or not trying to impress anyone. I either want to be like that or 188 00:14:33.679 --> 00:14:37.279 I want to be near someone who is like that. I respect that. 189 00:14:37.159 --> 00:14:39.279 That is, you want to get someone's respect, show up as your authentic 190 00:14:39.320 --> 00:14:43.440 self. But that is what happens when I don't even want their respect or 191 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:46.440 their attention. That is when it happens, because I'm so on my own 192 00:14:46.480 --> 00:14:50.320 pedestal and this is something we talk about in the pedestal path, so be 193 00:14:50.360 --> 00:14:54.559 sure to sign up for that. When I was out this past weekend with 194 00:14:54.600 --> 00:14:58.960 my friend and I'm looking around the bar and this is not the first time 195 00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:01.720 I made this realization, I mean it so many times, but I just 196 00:15:03.360 --> 00:15:05.600 every time I realize it. I just saw four or four four on the 197 00:15:05.600 --> 00:15:11.000 clock and I saw four deer the other day. Oh, stability is upon 198 00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:13.759 us, positive bitches. Stability home, love life. Oh I love it. 199 00:15:13.759 --> 00:15:18.080 Okay, anyway, I'm gonna keep it moving and grooving. When I 200 00:15:18.120 --> 00:15:22.320 was on the dance floor, something I notice is I will sometimes pause and 201 00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:26.000 look around and I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with everyone? I 202 00:15:26.080 --> 00:15:31.600 look around, Everyone's just standing I'm like, there's a great song right on 203 00:15:31.720 --> 00:15:37.840 right now? What are you guys doing? What you hello? Wake up? 204 00:15:39.440 --> 00:15:43.039 Everyone was just standing around. And when my friend looked at me and 205 00:15:43.039 --> 00:15:46.759 we started talking, We're like, everyone looks so afraid to just be who 206 00:15:46.759 --> 00:15:50.080 they are. Even my boyfriend was like everyone even dressed the same that night, 207 00:15:50.120 --> 00:15:54.399 Like it was just a weird night where we noticed like everyone was copying 208 00:15:54.399 --> 00:15:56.960 one another, and we were thinking, what's going on? Everyone looked like 209 00:15:58.000 --> 00:16:00.399 one another dressing wise, and like, yeah, yeah, there's a general 210 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:04.759 style that most people have, I think, but every single person at the 211 00:16:04.759 --> 00:16:08.480 bar have the same exact alphit on. It was just very weird. And 212 00:16:08.559 --> 00:16:12.360 anyway, we're like, why is everyone so afraid to just show up how 213 00:16:12.360 --> 00:16:15.960 they want to be? Like what is really stopping us? And obviously we 214 00:16:17.039 --> 00:16:21.279 know we have a biological need to be socially included, we have this need 215 00:16:21.360 --> 00:16:26.200 to be accepted by our peers. But we can't value being accepted by others 216 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:30.559 more than we value showing up authentically, because that is a path that's going 217 00:16:30.639 --> 00:16:37.480 to lead you down people pleasing, feeling unfulfilled, and just unhappy. When 218 00:16:37.480 --> 00:16:41.720 you're constantly trying to make everyone else happy, who do you forget about? 219 00:16:41.759 --> 00:16:45.639 You? Forget about you? And then you end up resenting everyone and hating 220 00:16:45.639 --> 00:16:48.399 them. Anyway, so you might as well just show up however it is 221 00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:51.159 you wish to show up. So anyway, me and my friends are in 222 00:16:51.240 --> 00:16:53.240 messy makeup mode and we are just having the time of our life. We're 223 00:16:53.360 --> 00:16:57.720 dancing, We're having so much fun. And I look around and when I 224 00:16:57.759 --> 00:17:03.559 look around. I really have now adopted the mindset of no one else is 225 00:17:03.640 --> 00:17:07.519 dancing. I think that's weird. But everyone, to me seems like an 226 00:17:07.599 --> 00:17:11.160 NPC. And I don't play video games, but if you know, you 227 00:17:11.200 --> 00:17:15.359 know, an NPC in a video game is a non player character. There's 228 00:17:15.400 --> 00:17:19.319 someone who's in the background, who is just there for aesthetic purposes for the 229 00:17:19.400 --> 00:17:23.680 storyline. It's a character who's not played by anyone. It's a fake character. 230 00:17:25.200 --> 00:17:29.720 It's part of the background, essentially. And so we're looking around and 231 00:17:29.759 --> 00:17:32.759 I'm like, I say to my friend Sophia, I was like, let's 232 00:17:32.799 --> 00:17:34.759 tone it up, because I feel like we live in a society where they're 233 00:17:34.759 --> 00:17:37.559 always like, tone it down, tone it down, tone it down. 234 00:17:38.039 --> 00:17:41.559 And I say fuck that. I say, tone it the fuck up. 235 00:17:41.599 --> 00:17:44.480 Tone it up, tone it up, tone up who you are to a 236 00:17:44.599 --> 00:17:48.559 thousand percent, a billion percent, infinity percent. Just tone it up, 237 00:17:48.839 --> 00:17:52.359 because at the end of the day, all these people who are standing around 238 00:17:52.759 --> 00:17:56.519 are so miserable trying to put themselves in a cage. They might judge you, 239 00:17:56.599 --> 00:18:00.279 but why do you care about being judged by someone who's in there own 240 00:18:00.279 --> 00:18:04.240 cage. I really have adopted the mindset everyone's a fucking NPC anyway when I'm 241 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:07.319 out, and I would never do any harm to anyone. But I'm also 242 00:18:07.400 --> 00:18:11.680 not going to take other people shit or perceptions personally. I don't care. 243 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:15.079 Take it vibrational not personal. Understand where you're at and it will help you 244 00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:22.119 move to a better vibrational timeline. But anyway, I'm telling you, whether 245 00:18:22.200 --> 00:18:26.880 you think people are being catty or rude or weird or judgy, tone yourself 246 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:30.359 up even more. It will make them go crazy. And that's the funny 247 00:18:30.400 --> 00:18:34.359 thing. We give them our power when we tone ourselves down. We try 248 00:18:34.359 --> 00:18:37.599 to dim our own light. If this is too much for you to digest, 249 00:18:37.880 --> 00:18:41.759 choke on it. I don't care. That's how you need to be 250 00:18:41.839 --> 00:18:45.880 showing up because that is what's going to bring you fulfillment. Tone it the 251 00:18:47.079 --> 00:18:51.400 fuck up, all the way up, turn the volume on who you are 252 00:18:51.559 --> 00:18:55.119 all the way up, and show up as you. Because when you do 253 00:18:55.160 --> 00:18:59.599 that and you enter messy makeup mode, you're entering a magnetic frequency, your 254 00:19:00.160 --> 00:19:03.799 ring positive bitch frequency. You are putting yourself on the pedestal, and then 255 00:19:03.799 --> 00:19:10.000 you're going to get the best vibrational matches and results anyway. Anyway, So 256 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:15.960 part of this mindset is instead of placing other people's perception of us on a 257 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:22.680 pedestal, I want you to place your authenticity on the pedestal. I want 258 00:19:22.680 --> 00:19:26.839 you to place your joy on the pedestal. I want you to place whatever 259 00:19:26.960 --> 00:19:30.920 feels good to you in that moment, as long as we're not doing harm 260 00:19:30.960 --> 00:19:37.319 to others on the pedestal. Okay, that's where we're starting. So what 261 00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:41.640 are we doing so far? We're starting to shift our mindset. We're starting 262 00:19:41.640 --> 00:19:45.599 to shift our values. We're starting to understand that no one can just take 263 00:19:45.640 --> 00:19:48.519 our power away. Where we are not these powerless little monkeys floating in outer 264 00:19:48.559 --> 00:19:56.160 space. We are divinely crafted, multi dimensional beings who stands in our power 265 00:19:56.279 --> 00:20:03.000 with free will. Another way I see a lot of us giving our power 266 00:20:03.079 --> 00:20:08.279 away is we will talk a problem to death. We will see. Okay, 267 00:20:08.359 --> 00:20:12.279 I have to tell this story. There is someone that I know in 268 00:20:12.319 --> 00:20:18.400 my life and they hate someone else. I'm gonna make up names. Okay, 269 00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:22.240 I'm gonna call the girl Betsy, and I'm gonna call the other girl 270 00:20:22.519 --> 00:20:30.200 Sarah. Betsy and Sarah have had drama in the past, and Betsy is 271 00:20:30.279 --> 00:20:33.400 fucking obsessed with the drama that they had. I believe it was like years 272 00:20:33.400 --> 00:20:37.440 ago. I really, I know Betsy has told me the story so many 273 00:20:37.440 --> 00:20:40.839 times, but I don't really know it went down, and it doesn't matter. 274 00:20:41.039 --> 00:20:47.160 The point is Betsy does not stop talking about Sarah. She does not 275 00:20:47.200 --> 00:20:49.960 stop talking about about the drama. She does not stop talking about what has 276 00:20:51.079 --> 00:20:55.640 went down years ago. She does not stop explaining it. She will corner 277 00:20:55.720 --> 00:21:00.839 people and retell the same story or try to point out something Sarah is doing 278 00:21:00.880 --> 00:21:03.880 that's annoying. And I'm like, listen, I talk to God. I 279 00:21:03.880 --> 00:21:07.440 don't waste time gossiping. Like, if I'm going to spend my time doing 280 00:21:07.480 --> 00:21:10.359 something while on planet Earth, you can for shiit. Sure, No, 281 00:21:10.440 --> 00:21:12.680 I'm not going to spend it gossiping about people I don't really even know and 282 00:21:12.720 --> 00:21:17.160 I don't care. And also it's not doing anything for anyone, you know 283 00:21:17.160 --> 00:21:19.839 what I mean, Betsy, If you want to hire me as a life 284 00:21:19.839 --> 00:21:22.799 coach, girl, do it like I got you. But otherwise, I'm 285 00:21:22.799 --> 00:21:26.680 not here to gossip. Okay, I'm not here to gossip in life coaching 286 00:21:26.720 --> 00:21:32.279 either, but I will help you create tools for you to move on anyway. 287 00:21:32.519 --> 00:21:38.000 So Betsy doesn't realize it, but instead of Betsy connecting to me or 288 00:21:38.039 --> 00:21:44.920 the other girls. She spends her time talking about someone she doesn't like. 289 00:21:45.359 --> 00:21:48.440 She spends her time giving all her power to someone she doesn't like. She 290 00:21:48.599 --> 00:21:52.880 spends her energy on someone she doesn't like. Do you see how that's a 291 00:21:52.920 --> 00:21:56.319 waste of mind, energy, heart, and soul. Do you see how 292 00:21:56.359 --> 00:22:02.279 that does nothing for you spending time? I don't care if it's a person 293 00:22:02.400 --> 00:22:10.079 or just a generic problem. Stop coming at situations problem oriented. It's not 294 00:22:10.200 --> 00:22:12.920 helping you. And if it fucking helped, you would have gotten a solution 295 00:22:14.000 --> 00:22:18.400 already. So what obviously doesn't work? Can we agree on that? Thank 296 00:22:18.440 --> 00:22:23.400 you? Moving on. If Betsy spent her time connecting with me, talking 297 00:22:23.400 --> 00:22:27.200 about hobbies, books that she liked, things that were going on in her 298 00:22:27.240 --> 00:22:30.880 love life, maybe we would have been able to connect. But because she 299 00:22:32.000 --> 00:22:34.680 only spends her time talking bad about Sarah, everyone kind of thinks she's a 300 00:22:34.759 --> 00:22:37.200 little bit annoying. And I hate to be the one to say that, 301 00:22:37.240 --> 00:22:41.519 but that is the truth. I don't find her annoying. I think she's 302 00:22:41.960 --> 00:22:45.960 a good hearted person, but I do think she's stuck in her own stories, 303 00:22:45.960 --> 00:22:48.680 and I just feel bad for her. I feel bad for people who 304 00:22:48.720 --> 00:22:52.759 are addicted to their own dynamics, a misery that's sad for me to see. 305 00:22:53.160 --> 00:22:59.640 It's a nice girl, but you gotta prime up that mindset, you 306 00:22:59.680 --> 00:23:04.720 gotta switch it up sometimes. My point here is that we sometimes spend all 307 00:23:04.720 --> 00:23:08.759 of our time talking about what's draining us, that we drain ourselves even more. 308 00:23:10.279 --> 00:23:14.880 Think about energetically chasing. When you're energetically chasing someone, stalking them, 309 00:23:14.960 --> 00:23:18.400 manipulating yourself so they like you. How do you feel you feel dreamed because 310 00:23:18.400 --> 00:23:22.440 you're sending out so much energy. When you spend all of your time complaining 311 00:23:22.519 --> 00:23:26.880 about your boss or your friend or something going on at work, all you're 312 00:23:26.960 --> 00:23:32.839 doing is feeding the problem. You're feeding the thing you don't want in your 313 00:23:32.839 --> 00:23:37.880 life, and you're making it bigger. Because where focus goes, energy flows, 314 00:23:37.279 --> 00:23:45.640 and what you feed what your focus will grow to be larger. Whatever 315 00:23:45.759 --> 00:23:49.039 you're giving your time and your energy too, is going to become a bigger 316 00:23:49.079 --> 00:23:56.160 part of your life. You have better luck focusing on socks and sandals than 317 00:23:56.240 --> 00:24:00.920 you do something you hate. You will have a better life focusing on curtains, 318 00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:04.880 then you will have If you are just gossiping, gossiping about everyone and 319 00:24:04.920 --> 00:24:08.680 everything it's a waste of your own time, and I don't want to see 320 00:24:08.720 --> 00:24:14.759 you waste your own time and energy. If someone is targeting you, if 321 00:24:14.799 --> 00:24:18.119 someone is trying to mess with you at work or wherever it may be, 322 00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:21.799 Listen, I don't play games. I will end them though. Okay, 323 00:24:21.799 --> 00:24:23.400 I'm not gonna play with you, but I'll end them real quick. You 324 00:24:23.440 --> 00:24:26.279 can say what you need to say, be a direct set of boundary, 325 00:24:26.440 --> 00:24:32.319 but do not let it eat you from the inside by talking about it to 326 00:24:32.359 --> 00:24:36.480 everyone, thinking about it every single day, night, day, evening, 327 00:24:36.519 --> 00:24:41.240 whatever it may be. Now, when someone is sending you negative energy, 328 00:24:41.839 --> 00:24:45.519 you can actually use that to your advantage. You can use that to make 329 00:24:45.559 --> 00:24:52.720 you stronger, wiser, smarter, anything you want. I remember one of 330 00:24:52.720 --> 00:24:57.480 my spiritual teachers telling me that when someone sends you a negative comment online, 331 00:24:57.960 --> 00:25:03.559 he's like, don't fear, don't contract your body. Instead send that person 332 00:25:03.839 --> 00:25:08.279 lights and love, and it will make you stronger. It will give you 333 00:25:08.359 --> 00:25:12.480 more energy because when someone comments something negative to you, and let's say you're 334 00:25:12.519 --> 00:25:15.480 not on social media, but this is in real life, your co worker 335 00:25:15.559 --> 00:25:21.559 is kind of being rude. When someone is rude to you and you instead 336 00:25:21.640 --> 00:25:25.640 send them love, and light. It's not about helping them. That's a 337 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:27.960 side effect, that's a symptom. But really it's about putting you back on 338 00:25:29.039 --> 00:25:32.759 your own pedestal. It's about you feeling good for you. It's about you 339 00:25:32.880 --> 00:25:36.279 relaxing your own nervous system for you so you can get your homework done, 340 00:25:36.319 --> 00:25:38.599 your job done, your career on the right path, get back on the 341 00:25:38.599 --> 00:25:42.359 horse. When it comes to dating, it's about doing what's best for you, 342 00:25:42.880 --> 00:25:45.200 what I want you. When someone is rude to you, whatever it 343 00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:48.880 may be, send them light and love just in your head. Be like 344 00:25:48.960 --> 00:25:52.079 I send you light and love and see light going their way. Because when 345 00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:56.559 you do this, what you give out is what you get back. You 346 00:25:56.599 --> 00:26:00.640 don't have to worry about them getting theirs. You know that Taylor Swift song 347 00:26:00.799 --> 00:26:04.680 Karma is my boyfriend. Karma is a well I don't even I really don't 348 00:26:04.680 --> 00:26:10.480 know that much, but I know that it's a catchy song. Leave it 349 00:26:10.519 --> 00:26:17.160 to Karma. I promised you positive bitches. I know Karma. Karma is 350 00:26:17.200 --> 00:26:22.480 a fellow positive bitch. Okay, And Karma will always take care of whatever 351 00:26:22.640 --> 00:26:27.960 loose ends have gone on in your life. Justice, oh, it will 352 00:26:29.000 --> 00:26:33.000 always be served. The truth will always come out. It might not come 353 00:26:33.000 --> 00:26:36.680 out on your timeline, it might not be unfolding exactly how you wanted to, 354 00:26:37.119 --> 00:26:42.799 but it will happen. It will have pen I watched my dad as 355 00:26:42.839 --> 00:26:48.119 he's gone through business and expanding himself. I've seen some people kind of f 356 00:26:48.359 --> 00:26:53.680 him over, and sometimes it took a couple of months, sometimes it took 357 00:26:55.119 --> 00:26:59.759 a year, sometimes it took multiple years. But the people who effed him 358 00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:03.119 over always got theirs. I see this in my own life. I see 359 00:27:03.119 --> 00:27:08.160 this in my family and friends lives. You have to understand it's not going 360 00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:14.440 according to your plan, is going according to Miss Karma's plan. There's nothing 361 00:27:14.519 --> 00:27:17.519 you need to take care of, And when you think you need to take 362 00:27:17.559 --> 00:27:19.799 care of it, all you do is drain your own energy. All you 363 00:27:19.839 --> 00:27:23.400 do is empower them if you don't send them love and light. So you 364 00:27:23.440 --> 00:27:26.319 place yourself back on the pedestal. You know who you're putting on your pedestal 365 00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:30.880 is them. And guess what, you can never hate the person who's hating 366 00:27:32.000 --> 00:27:34.720 on you as much as they hate themselves. You can never do it. 367 00:27:34.960 --> 00:27:41.319 So instead of them placing excuse me, instead of you placing them on your 368 00:27:41.359 --> 00:27:45.240 pedestal, and wasting your own time thinking about them, talking about them, 369 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:49.839 sending your energy, send them love and light, and refocus on you. 370 00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:55.400 Because that negative energy that they sent you, you can use that to your 371 00:27:55.440 --> 00:28:04.640 advantage through energy transmu motherfuckingation, energy transmutation. When we are energetically chasing someone, 372 00:28:04.680 --> 00:28:08.720 we're sending out energy and we're draining ourselves. But when someone sending us 373 00:28:08.839 --> 00:28:14.359 energy, even if it's hatred, they're still sending us energy. And at 374 00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:18.400 the end of the day, energy is energy, and you can use that 375 00:28:18.599 --> 00:28:26.160 energy and transmute it alkomize it into power that can serve you in your life. 376 00:28:26.440 --> 00:28:30.200 What do I mean by this? When I was going through a season 377 00:28:30.240 --> 00:28:33.039 where I was getting separated from a friend group that I thought would be my 378 00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:37.359 friends forever, and they were kind of hating on me. They obviously didn't 379 00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:41.200 want to be my friend anymore, and they were sending me not the nicest 380 00:28:41.200 --> 00:28:45.920 comments and conversations and it really hurt. Instead of letting that destroy me, 381 00:28:45.000 --> 00:28:48.039 I said, I'm going to use that energy and I'm going to get on 382 00:28:48.039 --> 00:28:52.480 TikTok. I'm going to start writing music. When I was going through a 383 00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:56.799 breakup, I started writing more music. When someone is sending you negativity, 384 00:28:56.400 --> 00:29:03.680 use it to motivate you by trans from negative, low vibrational energy into high 385 00:29:03.759 --> 00:29:07.599 vibrational energy. So what you do is you realize, Okay, I'm going 386 00:29:07.640 --> 00:29:11.359 to send them white light, and now that they have sent me their negative 387 00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:15.160 energy, I'm going to use that as armor and I'm going to turn it 388 00:29:15.200 --> 00:29:18.519 into wings to fly. I'm going to use that energy to do a workout. 389 00:29:19.359 --> 00:29:23.240 I always think of that show Revenge Body by Chloe Kardashian because it's so 390 00:29:23.359 --> 00:29:29.960 true when someone does you wrong or whatever has occurred in your life and you 391 00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:33.440 feel pissed off. You can use that anger and turn it into the best 392 00:29:33.440 --> 00:29:37.319 workout of your life. You can use that sadness and turn it into the 393 00:29:37.359 --> 00:29:41.240 best song you've ever written. Think of Olivia Rodrigo, Taylor Swift, we 394 00:29:41.279 --> 00:29:48.079 mentioned her before. They take their pain and they transmute it into creativity, 395 00:29:48.119 --> 00:29:52.759 into music, and they create beauty where once there was only darkness. All 396 00:29:52.920 --> 00:29:57.000 things begin in darkness. A seed germinates in the dark, a baby grows 397 00:29:57.039 --> 00:30:06.559 within a dark womb. Every morning comes from the night before. Everything, 398 00:30:06.759 --> 00:30:12.799 always, forever and always begins in darkness. First, after every dark period, 399 00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:21.440 there is a light. One and so forth. Use this darkness befriended. 400 00:30:21.519 --> 00:30:23.480 Don't run away from your darkness, don't run away from the feelings. 401 00:30:23.759 --> 00:30:30.640 Use it to motivate you by transmuting it into power. What is it you've 402 00:30:30.640 --> 00:30:34.759 been pushing off. Use this energy that they're sending you, even if it's 403 00:30:34.799 --> 00:30:38.160 hate again, it does not matter, because energy is energy, and use 404 00:30:38.240 --> 00:30:45.039 it to motivate you. Put in extra hours at your job, do that 405 00:30:45.119 --> 00:30:49.960 workout, write a song, get on TikTok. Creates something new because instead 406 00:30:49.960 --> 00:30:56.000 of wasting your energy talking about them, thinking about them, pedestaling them, 407 00:30:56.799 --> 00:31:03.079 use your energy and put it towards something that's going to elevate you. There's 408 00:31:03.079 --> 00:31:07.279 a quote that says, no one above you can pull you down. Only 409 00:31:07.319 --> 00:31:10.599 the people below you are going to try to pull you down because that's where 410 00:31:10.599 --> 00:31:15.799 they are. Misery loves company. Why because misery is at the bottom all 411 00:31:15.839 --> 00:31:22.000 alone, So misery will try to pull you down with it. We're not 412 00:31:22.160 --> 00:31:26.160 going down. We are not going down. We are on our own ship, 413 00:31:26.519 --> 00:31:30.039 the positive bitch ship. That is what we're on, and we will 414 00:31:30.119 --> 00:31:36.240 not be tent. We are going to float our way to our happiest timeline, 415 00:31:36.599 --> 00:31:40.759 our most magnetic timeline. Because that is what we truly deserve, that 416 00:31:40.920 --> 00:31:45.319 is what we owe to ourselves. And I think if someone's not wasting tears 417 00:31:45.359 --> 00:31:48.319 on me, I'm not wasting tears on them. If someone's gonna try to 418 00:31:48.359 --> 00:31:51.920 be mean to me, take me down, I'm not going to betray myself 419 00:31:51.960 --> 00:31:55.680 and get on your team. Fuck no, I have to be my best 420 00:31:55.720 --> 00:32:00.079 friend now more than ever. I have to advocate for myself now more and 421 00:32:00.359 --> 00:32:05.839 ever than ever. If you want to look at me and perceive me from 422 00:32:05.839 --> 00:32:08.799 a negative point of view, cisco the fuck off. I perceived me from 423 00:32:08.799 --> 00:32:13.039 God's point of view. I like it much better up there, and that's 424 00:32:13.039 --> 00:32:17.559 where I'm gonna stay at the end of the day. The number one regret 425 00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:23.640 of the dying is that they weren't authentic to who they were. They were 426 00:32:23.720 --> 00:32:30.160 not authentically living as they wish to live. Instead, they let the opinions 427 00:32:30.200 --> 00:32:32.000 of others sway them on a path that they didn't want to go down. 428 00:32:32.480 --> 00:32:37.960 They let how people perceive them affect them. When you're on your deathbed, 429 00:32:37.079 --> 00:32:42.039 sometimes we have to think about death because death can be a motivator in itself. 430 00:32:43.000 --> 00:32:46.720 Let this version of you rest in fucking peace and think about when you're 431 00:32:46.759 --> 00:32:51.480 on your deathbed, are you gonna care? What Mary had to say, 432 00:32:51.920 --> 00:32:55.000 what Betsy and Sorrow were talking about in the locker room. You're not going 433 00:32:55.039 --> 00:32:59.160 to give a fuck. You're you're not going to care. And I think 434 00:32:59.200 --> 00:33:05.519 we forget that life is temporary, but so are the seasons. The seasons 435 00:33:05.519 --> 00:33:09.680 are even more temporary when you think about high school. I remember this guy 436 00:33:09.799 --> 00:33:16.440 came to talk to us because his son committed suicide from bullying. And this 437 00:33:16.480 --> 00:33:22.599 man would go around to schools and give anti bullying talks, and I remember 438 00:33:22.599 --> 00:33:29.759 one time he was saying, how the one thing someone asked him, actually 439 00:33:29.960 --> 00:33:31.680 a kid from my school asked him, is there something you wish you could 440 00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:36.960 have told your son? And oh God, it's giving me goosebumps and making 441 00:33:36.960 --> 00:33:39.319 me emotional. But the thing he wished she could have told his son is 442 00:33:39.359 --> 00:33:45.759 that this part of your life is so temporary. It is so short. 443 00:33:45.559 --> 00:33:52.000 Whatever season you're in, oh it's temporary. You're gonna go off and you're 444 00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:57.119 gonna graduate from high school and you're gonna meet a ton of new people at 445 00:33:57.200 --> 00:34:00.799 college, the people you're gonna love the most, and friends. You might 446 00:34:00.839 --> 00:34:04.480 not have met them yet, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. It 447 00:34:04.519 --> 00:34:09.440 means they aren't in your reality just yet. That was so moving to me. 448 00:34:09.480 --> 00:34:14.960 I'll never forget that, and I always remember that because it's so true. 449 00:34:15.880 --> 00:34:20.719 This lifetime is so temporary. Let alone the little season where Okay, 450 00:34:20.719 --> 00:34:22.039 fuck, we're kind of getting bullied right now, but we're not going to 451 00:34:22.079 --> 00:34:25.480 give our power away to them. Okay, these girls are really catty, 452 00:34:25.559 --> 00:34:29.480 but we're not going to give our power away to them. Okay, my 453 00:34:29.599 --> 00:34:32.239 relationship is not going right, but I'm not going to give my power away 454 00:34:32.280 --> 00:34:36.440 to it. I'm gonna take myself and I'm gonna put myself on a different 455 00:34:36.440 --> 00:34:39.920 path. Don't let a temporary bad situation trick you into thinking you of a 456 00:34:40.000 --> 00:34:45.800 terrible life, because it's not true. It's not true. What you're experiencing 457 00:34:46.280 --> 00:34:51.679 is happening now, but it's not gonna be forever. What's happening now, 458 00:34:51.920 --> 00:34:57.760 it's a moment in time. But you've moved past difficult situations and you're going 459 00:34:57.800 --> 00:35:02.840 to move past this difficult situation. Two, don't doubt your own power. 460 00:35:04.800 --> 00:35:08.800 In fact, is that not what every episode is about? Remembering how much 461 00:35:08.840 --> 00:35:14.719 power you actually have. If you need to make a list of every difficult 462 00:35:14.719 --> 00:35:17.800 situation you've ever gotten through. Make that list and read it every day to 463 00:35:17.880 --> 00:35:23.880 remind yourself how powerful you truly are. I hope you enjoyed this podcast. 464 00:35:24.519 --> 00:35:29.960 If this podcast resonated, please leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts and on 465 00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:34.599 Spotify. It really helps this podcast grow. I love reading them and it 466 00:35:34.639 --> 00:35:37.440 helps us reach more positive bitches. If you know someone in your life that 467 00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:42.000 could use this message, share it with them, spread the lup, spread 468 00:35:42.039 --> 00:35:44.719 the joy, and if not for me, do it for you, Because 469 00:35:44.760 --> 00:35:49.079 Hello, good karma as always a sparkle in me honors the sparkle in you. 470 00:35:49.320 --> 00:35:52.599 I love you absolutely so much. Thank you for being here with me 471 00:35:52.679 --> 00:35:54.880 in this moment and in this time, wherever you may be, whatever time 472 00:35:54.920 --> 00:35:59.760 it may be, and I will absolutely see you in the next one. 473 00:36:00.039 --> 00:36:10.400 Mm Me, I can't see Pat turning into energies. Shake you can't change, 474 00:36:12.880 --> 00:36:28.840 I got, I got back, Join go, can't strange, can't 475 00:36:28.880 --> 00:36:30.639 susk free, can't susk f