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Hey, hey, hey, I'm
back with something for you to think about.

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I want to talk about something that
I saw on YouTube. A well

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known actor, singer, businessman made
a YouTube video or on Twitter or somewhere.

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I saw it on YouTube where he
talks about some prominent person sexually harassed

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him for fifteen years. Crazy and
this individual I've saw him, I've seen

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him in movies, plays, etc. And I've always liked him, and

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it's very unfortunate that he's dealing with
what he's dealing with. But I want

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to talk about sexual harassment when it
comes to the mindsets of people. People

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move based on how they think.
People move based on how they think.

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So many people in this world are
lifetime victims, meaning they were victimized when

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they were younger, and they continue
the cycle as adults. Then they become

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individuals who were not only victims,
but now they also victimize. In this

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world, you're either the prey or
the predator, point blank. People are

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always seeking self gratification in some form
or another. People move based on their

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mindsets. Sexual harassment is unwelcomed.
It's unwelcomed. Nobody should have to deal

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with sexual harassment from anyone, whether
it's a look something verible, or you

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put in your hands on someone when
you shouldn't. No one knows better than

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you, and I do mean no
one. No one knows better than you

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your dirty secrets. No one knows
better than you what's really inside of you.

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No one knows better than you your
agenda. No one, no man

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or woman, not down here on
earth. You know when you're up to

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no good. You know when you're
no good at all. Now I'm just

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telling you like it is. I'm
not trying to be funny judgmental. I'm

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just telling you like it is.
You know, when you have an agenda.

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So many people in this world,
they get into positions where they can

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have easy access to their victims,
the people they want to victimize, to

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make victims, the people they want
to pray upon. They will get into

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positions, all types of statuses,
titles, and it's always a position of

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ninety nine percent of the time is
a position of power, meaning you,

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the aggressor, have an advantage upon
the person that you are victimizing. When

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you are in a position of authority
and power, that could be considered as

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sexual assault. When you do inappropriate
things or have inappropriate relationships with people that

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are under your authority. When a
person touch you in your private parts,

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that is sexual assault. You move
from harassment to assault. Yes, there

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are different forms of sexual harassment.
Touching a person, cornering them, you

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know, putting your hands on them
in any shape, form or fashion unwelcome

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when they didn't ask you to.
But when you go and touch people's private

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areas, that is considered as sexual
assault. Individuals who know they have this

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type of stuff in their hearts and
on their minds, you need to seek

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help. You need to seek help
because you obviously have unhealed inner issues.

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You're still walking around with a victim
mentality as an adult. You're still being

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led by what you went through.
You're trying to make people a victim,

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but you forgot you were once a
victim. Why would you do that to

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someone else? I'll tell you why. I will answer that question. People

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do it because they don't heal from
what they went through, and they go

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through life projecting their pains on other
people. They go through life projecting all

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of that negativity onto other people.
They lie, they manipulate, they deceive,

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They do all types of things to
get a person in a position that

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they want them in and then some
will do it straight out, some will

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do it in subtle ways, but
if they touch your private parts, that

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is assault. Unfortunately, in workplaces
all over the world, is happening.

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The person that I was talking about
at the beginning of the episode, he's

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a a millionaire, he is a
actor on national TV, but it still

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happened to him by someone who's even
higher up than him. Let me tell

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you those inner issues that people carry
for years and years, inner issues don't

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discriminate. People are affected from the
top down, in the most highest positions

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down to the lowest. Millions of
people are carrying dirty little secrets that sooner

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or later going to surface because what's
in you is coming out. So people,

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the higher up they get, they
think that they above reproach. But

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let me tell you, no one
is above reproach. Do the wrong thing

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long enough, it will bite you
in the butt. It will cause you

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problems. If you know that you
have an issue, like I said,

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you know you know better than anyone. So if you know you have an

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issue, you don't deal with that
by acting on it. You deal with

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that by healing, so you can
change that maladaptive behavior. You don't go

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through life with the same victim mentality
now victimizing. You shouldn't do that,

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but so many people think because they've
gotten away so many times that they can

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keep doing it. But sooner a
letter, it's gonna bite you in the

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butt. That behavior you have is
gonna bite you in the butt. And

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when it does, you'll remember you
You if you listen to this, you

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heard it from me. You heard
it from me. No one in the

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workplace, in the church, in
the school, on the police department.

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I don't care where you are.
No one should have to be in a

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position where they're sexually harassed or assaulted. But it's happening everywhere, far too

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often, far too often, way
too often, and it's because of the

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hearts and minds of people. When
you're not healed from those things, what's

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in you, it's coming out.
And unfortunately, it happens a lot in

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the workforce. People try to play
games, try to pretend there's something else

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when they know they're another way,
deceiving, lie, in manipulating, and

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they do it all to get close
to who they want to be close to.

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It's very, very unfortunate because you
know a lot of times you have

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people most times not a lot.
Most times you have people who are in

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the workforce that have we have so
many unresolved issues, and then they have

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to deal with shenanigans of a predator. They have to deal with the shenanigans

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of a predator. And it's sad
because no one shouldn't should ever have to

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subject themselves to it. No one
people tell me, well, you know

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everybody can't speak up like you.
Yes you can, Yes you can,

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you can speak up. Then let
me tell you this. If you don't

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speak up, it gives them indication
that they can do it again. It

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gives them indication that they can go
further than next time. When you do

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nothing or say nothing, it gives
them a upper hand. Sexual harassment is

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unwelcome, inappropriate, and like I
said, it could be touching things,

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you say, looks, all types
of things, and no one should let

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anyone get away with it. Everyone
need to have boundaries that they do not

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allow anyone to cross. I don't
care who it is, I don't care

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how much power they have, I
don't care how rich they are, I

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don't care what their title is.
You should not allow anyone to sexually assault

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you or sexually harass you. Some
people are afraid to speak up because they're

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afraid they're gonna lose their jobs.
People are afraid that it's gonna backfire so

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much. And I get that,
I truly do. I understand. I

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understand completely. However, you're not
the one doing something wrong. But people

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will treat you exactly exactly how you
allow them to treat you if you don't

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do anything that gives them an indication
that you're cool with what they're doing.

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Don't ever let anybody think you're cool
with them touching you when you don't want

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them to touch you. I've been
sexual harassed so many times. I cannot

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count the times on my hands and
feet together, way more than the fingers

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and toes I have throughout my military
career and as a federal civilian so many

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times. But I have never been
touched. I was just, oh my

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goodness, I don't play that.
And I carried myself a certain way.

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Anybody that knows me, I carry
myself a certain way, so people wouldn't

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dare touch me. Now. They
have said some things, but I've checked

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them immediately immediately, not later,
but right then, right there. But

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I've never ever had anyone to touch
me. Like I said, I've had

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verbal things said. I've definitely had
looks, but no one has ever touched

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me. And it's a good thing
that they've never touched me because they would

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have regretted it. I don't care
who they may have been, they would

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have regretted it. I promise you. Because I don't play that I'm not

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touching you. Don't you touch me. And I mean that on everything.

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So I carry myself a certain way
so people, no, they don't touch

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me. No, And I do
check them, and I've checked some high

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ranking people before they can get chin
checked like anybody else. I'm not a

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violent person. I don't condone violence, but you will regret it if you

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put your hands on me because I
don't carry myself in a way that's disrespectful

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or make anyone think that they can
do that to me. And most people

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don't. But because of the hearts
and minds of many individuals, they think

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that they can do what they want
to do. Some people have been doing

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it for so long. There are
predators who have been victimizing people since they

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were young, before they became full
adults. They've made a habit out of

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it. It's a pattern in their
lives. Some people waiting until they became

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adults and start doing it, and
it became a pattern in their life.

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They became comfortable and complacent in doing
that. Just because you were a victim

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at one time, that gives you
no right to victimize anyone. Matter of

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fact, you should be a better
person than that because you went through it.

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You went through it, so you
shouldn't do that to anyone else.

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But unfortunately people do. But I'm
sitting here, my heart goes out to

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the actor. Like I said,
I've always loved seeing him in different movies

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and things like that. Those of
you who have listened to me, you

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know I don't idolize worship or any
of that. No, man, I

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don't care who they are, what
movies they are in, they're titles,

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positions, how much money they have, how they look. I don't care

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about none of that at all.
But this one particular person I have watched

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in different movies and plays, and
he had it's a phenomenal voice as well,

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And my heart goes out to him, it really does, because he

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don't deserve it. He didn't deserve
it. If you've gone through it,

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you didn't deserve it. I didn't
deserve it, but because of the hearts

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and minds of people who continue to
go through life caring the same own tarch,

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the same flame of hurt that they
never ever ever put out. They

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just repressed it or suppressed it those
pains of yesteryear. People get so comfortable

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in their negativity, but sooner or
later, you're going to be called out.

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Sooner or later it's coming to the
surface. You're going to be called

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out. You're going through life so
many times victimizing that you have become comfortable

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in it, but sooner or later
it will catch up with you. I

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hope whoever is listening, I hope
you're not one of those people that's been

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victimizing others. But if you are, shame on you. You know better.

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I understand that old statement, when
you know better, you do better.

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It's a lie. For most people, it's a lie. I don't

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expect you to be like me.
I'm a unique individual. I know I'm

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unique. I'm not bragging about it, because being who I am, I

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have to stand alone a lot of
times. But I'm okay with that because

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I know me. I'm never alone. I always have my Lord and Savior

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with me. I'm never alone,
but in the natural it appears that I'm

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alone, because again, I'm a
unique creature. I don't do what other

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people do. You can't convince me, or persuade me, or comherse me

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to do what other people do because
I have my own mind. I love

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the Lord and I love me.
I'm not trying to do it like other

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people. I'm not chasing fame and
fortune. I'm not looking for validation,

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no, the arriety, recognition.
I'm not looking for any of that from

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anyone. So I'm not like most
people. I truly, I mean truly,

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live by everything I teach or preach
everything. I live by it.

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I wouldn't be a hypocrite to say
something and then I can't live with myself.

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I live by everything I talk about, and I know it's unbelievable for

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most people because so many shuck and
jibs, lie, deceive, manipulate,

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fake, pretend that's not me.
I'm exactly who I say I am because

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I live my life as if God
the Father and Jesus the Son are watching

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me. That's how I live my
life in my home and outside of my

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home. So I don't care what
man say or think I am who I

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say I am. I don't flip
and you know, change and all of

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that. According to who I'm talking
to, you get me, whether it's

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the President of the United States or
someone else, because I don't flipping and

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flop like a lot of people according
to who they're talking to. I don't

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do it. Accept me for me. If not, keep it moving.

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You're no better than me and I'm
no better than you. But what I

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won't ever do is allow people to
do me any kind of way. Been

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there done that. I've been in
a beauthful relationship. I've been cheated on.

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Never again, Never again. I'm
not a mean, angry black woman.

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You know a lot of people will
say that. No, I'm a

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woman who know who I am,
who allow the Lord to lead and guide

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me. And I love myself,
so I got me together and I will

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not let any man invade my space
with shenanigans. I will not let any

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person invade my space with shenanigans.
And that's just how I live my life.

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I love everyone. I'll help who
I can those who really want help

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or assistance, but I won't be
a pushover. I won't allow you to

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talk to me any kind of way. You got a way to approach me,

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just like I have a way to
approach you. I mean, I

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live by these things. I won't
disrespect you, but you sure won't do

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it to me either, not and
get away with it. So I said

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all of that to say this,
People treat you how you have taught them

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to treat you. If they touch
you and you don't do anything, you

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messed up. I'm not saying that
in a bad way. What I'm saying

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is you messed up because now they
think that they can do what they want

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to do to you, they will
try it again if you didn't do nothing

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the first time. So don't take
it a negative way. Because predators,

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oh, they are watching, they
have their eyes on their target. Trust

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and believe they have their eyes on
their target and they just waiting for that

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moment to do what they want to
do. Don't let them. We live

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in a world full of wicked,
mean, evil people who agenda is different

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than yours. So be careful out
there. Love yourself enough to do something

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I didn't say you have to knock
them out, even though they'll deserve it.

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Don't put yourself in a situation where
you have to go to jail.

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There's a whole lot of ways that
you can handle the situation without being violent,

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because I've never been violent, but
all people get my point. I

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don't curse, but they get my
point. Trust and believe because of how

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I carry myself. I have people
who don't like me because they can't do

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me any kind of way. Oh
well, I don't care, Honestly I

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don't. But that's all I'm gonna
say. Please take care of yourself and

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again, people treat you how you
allow, don't let them get away with

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nothing. And never ever, ever, ever, ever be that person who

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will let a person sexually assault or
harass you because you're afraid of losing your

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job or something, or you are
trying to get to the next level.

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Don't be that person. Don't never
lower your standards or your integrity for a

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no good person that you know doing
wrong, that you know what they're doing

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is inappropriate, Don't ever ever ever
allow that to happen to you. I'm

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leaving it right there. Thank you
so much for listening. Much much much,

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much much love to each and every
one of you. If you have

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any questions concerns, please reach out
to me. Go to my podcast page.

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It'll tell you exactly how to contact
me. I will respond. Thank

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you again. You know I end
every episode the same and I hope you

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do it. Thank on it