Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to think about.
I want to talk about something that I saw on YouTube. A well
known actor, singer, businessman made a YouTube video or on Twitter or somewhere.
I saw it on YouTube where he talks about some prominent person sexually harassed
him for fifteen years. Crazy and this individual I've saw him, I've seen
him in movies, plays, etc. And I've always liked him, and
it's very unfortunate that he's dealing with what he's dealing with. But I want
to talk about sexual harassment when it comes to the mindsets of people. People
move based on how they think. People move based on how they think.
So many people in this world are lifetime victims, meaning they were victimized when
they were younger, and they continue the cycle as adults. Then they become
individuals who were not only victims, but now they also victimize. In this
world, you're either the prey or the predator, point blank. People are
always seeking self gratification in some form or another. People move based on their
mindsets. Sexual harassment is unwelcomed. It's unwelcomed. Nobody should have to deal
with sexual harassment from anyone, whether it's a look something verible, or you
put in your hands on someone when you shouldn't. No one knows better than
you, and I do mean no one. No one knows better than you
your dirty secrets. No one knows better than you what's really inside of you.
No one knows better than you your agenda. No one, no man
or woman, not down here on earth. You know when you're up to
no good. You know when you're no good at all. Now I'm just
telling you like it is. I'm not trying to be funny judgmental. I'm
just telling you like it is. You know, when you have an agenda.
So many people in this world, they get into positions where they can
have easy access to their victims, the people they want to victimize, to
make victims, the people they want to pray upon. They will get into
positions, all types of statuses, titles, and it's always a position of
ninety nine percent of the time is a position of power, meaning you,
the aggressor, have an advantage upon the person that you are victimizing. When
you are in a position of authority and power, that could be considered as
sexual assault. When you do inappropriate things or have inappropriate relationships with people that
are under your authority. When a person touch you in your private parts,
that is sexual assault. You move from harassment to assault. Yes, there
are different forms of sexual harassment. Touching a person, cornering them, you
know, putting your hands on them in any shape, form or fashion unwelcome
when they didn't ask you to. But when you go and touch people's private
areas, that is considered as sexual assault. Individuals who know they have this
type of stuff in their hearts and on their minds, you need to seek
help. You need to seek help because you obviously have unhealed inner issues.
You're still walking around with a victim mentality as an adult. You're still being
led by what you went through. You're trying to make people a victim,
but you forgot you were once a victim. Why would you do that to
someone else? I'll tell you why. I will answer that question. People
do it because they don't heal from what they went through, and they go
through life projecting their pains on other people. They go through life projecting all
of that negativity onto other people. They lie, they manipulate, they deceive,
They do all types of things to get a person in a position that
they want them in and then some will do it straight out, some will
do it in subtle ways, but if they touch your private parts, that
is assault. Unfortunately, in workplaces all over the world, is happening.
The person that I was talking about at the beginning of the episode, he's
a a millionaire, he is a actor on national TV, but it still
happened to him by someone who's even higher up than him. Let me tell
you those inner issues that people carry for years and years, inner issues don't
discriminate. People are affected from the top down, in the most highest positions
down to the lowest. Millions of people are carrying dirty little secrets that sooner
or later going to surface because what's in you is coming out. So people,
the higher up they get, they think that they above reproach. But
let me tell you, no one is above reproach. Do the wrong thing
long enough, it will bite you in the butt. It will cause you
problems. If you know that you have an issue, like I said,
you know you know better than anyone. So if you know you have an
issue, you don't deal with that by acting on it. You deal with
that by healing, so you can change that maladaptive behavior. You don't go
through life with the same victim mentality now victimizing. You shouldn't do that,
but so many people think because they've gotten away so many times that they can
keep doing it. But sooner a letter, it's gonna bite you in the
butt. That behavior you have is gonna bite you in the butt. And
when it does, you'll remember you You if you listen to this, you
heard it from me. You heard it from me. No one in the
workplace, in the church, in the school, on the police department.
I don't care where you are. No one should have to be in a
position where they're sexually harassed or assaulted. But it's happening everywhere, far too
often, far too often, way too often, and it's because of the
hearts and minds of people. When you're not healed from those things, what's
in you, it's coming out. And unfortunately, it happens a lot in
the workforce. People try to play games, try to pretend there's something else
when they know they're another way, deceiving, lie, in manipulating, and
they do it all to get close to who they want to be close to.
It's very, very unfortunate because you know a lot of times you have
people most times not a lot. Most times you have people who are in
the workforce that have we have so many unresolved issues, and then they have
to deal with shenanigans of a predator. They have to deal with the shenanigans
of a predator. And it's sad because no one shouldn't should ever have to
subject themselves to it. No one people tell me, well, you know
everybody can't speak up like you. Yes you can, Yes you can,
you can speak up. Then let me tell you this. If you don't
speak up, it gives them indication that they can do it again. It
gives them indication that they can go further than next time. When you do
nothing or say nothing, it gives them a upper hand. Sexual harassment is
unwelcome, inappropriate, and like I said, it could be touching things,
you say, looks, all types of things, and no one should let
anyone get away with it. Everyone need to have boundaries that they do not
allow anyone to cross. I don't care who it is, I don't care
how much power they have, I don't care how rich they are, I
don't care what their title is. You should not allow anyone to sexually assault
you or sexually harass you. Some people are afraid to speak up because they're
afraid they're gonna lose their jobs. People are afraid that it's gonna backfire so
much. And I get that, I truly do. I understand. I
understand completely. However, you're not the one doing something wrong. But people
will treat you exactly exactly how you allow them to treat you if you don't
do anything that gives them an indication that you're cool with what they're doing.
Don't ever let anybody think you're cool with them touching you when you don't want
them to touch you. I've been sexual harassed so many times. I cannot
count the times on my hands and feet together, way more than the fingers
and toes I have throughout my military career and as a federal civilian so many
times. But I have never been touched. I was just, oh my
goodness, I don't play that. And I carried myself a certain way.
Anybody that knows me, I carry myself a certain way, so people wouldn't
dare touch me. Now. They have said some things, but I've checked
them immediately immediately, not later, but right then, right there. But
I've never ever had anyone to touch me. Like I said, I've had
verbal things said. I've definitely had looks, but no one has ever touched
me. And it's a good thing that they've never touched me because they would
have regretted it. I don't care who they may have been, they would
have regretted it. I promise you. Because I don't play that I'm not
touching you. Don't you touch me. And I mean that on everything.
So I carry myself a certain way so people, no, they don't touch
me. No, And I do check them, and I've checked some high
ranking people before they can get chin checked like anybody else. I'm not a
violent person. I don't condone violence, but you will regret it if you
put your hands on me because I don't carry myself in a way that's disrespectful
or make anyone think that they can do that to me. And most people
don't. But because of the hearts and minds of many individuals, they think
that they can do what they want to do. Some people have been doing
it for so long. There are predators who have been victimizing people since they
were young, before they became full adults. They've made a habit out of
it. It's a pattern in their lives. Some people waiting until they became
adults and start doing it, and it became a pattern in their life.
They became comfortable and complacent in doing that. Just because you were a victim
at one time, that gives you no right to victimize anyone. Matter of
fact, you should be a better person than that because you went through it.
You went through it, so you shouldn't do that to anyone else.
But unfortunately people do. But I'm sitting here, my heart goes out to
the actor. Like I said, I've always loved seeing him in different movies
and things like that. Those of you who have listened to me, you
know I don't idolize worship or any of that. No, man, I
don't care who they are, what movies they are in, they're titles,
positions, how much money they have, how they look. I don't care
about none of that at all. But this one particular person I have watched
in different movies and plays, and he had it's a phenomenal voice as well,
And my heart goes out to him, it really does, because he
don't deserve it. He didn't deserve it. If you've gone through it,
you didn't deserve it. I didn't deserve it, but because of the hearts
and minds of people who continue to go through life caring the same own tarch,
the same flame of hurt that they never ever ever put out. They
just repressed it or suppressed it those pains of yesteryear. People get so comfortable
in their negativity, but sooner or later, you're going to be called out.
Sooner or later it's coming to the surface. You're going to be called
out. You're going through life so many times victimizing that you have become comfortable
in it, but sooner or later it will catch up with you. I
hope whoever is listening, I hope you're not one of those people that's been
victimizing others. But if you are, shame on you. You know better.
I understand that old statement, when you know better, you do better.
It's a lie. For most people, it's a lie. I don't
expect you to be like me. I'm a unique individual. I know I'm
unique. I'm not bragging about it, because being who I am, I
have to stand alone a lot of times. But I'm okay with that because
I know me. I'm never alone. I always have my Lord and Savior
with me. I'm never alone, but in the natural it appears that I'm
alone, because again, I'm a unique creature. I don't do what other
people do. You can't convince me, or persuade me, or comherse me
to do what other people do because I have my own mind. I love
the Lord and I love me. I'm not trying to do it like other
people. I'm not chasing fame and fortune. I'm not looking for validation,
no, the arriety, recognition. I'm not looking for any of that from
anyone. So I'm not like most people. I truly, I mean truly,
live by everything I teach or preach everything. I live by it.
I wouldn't be a hypocrite to say something and then I can't live with myself.
I live by everything I talk about, and I know it's unbelievable for
most people because so many shuck and jibs, lie, deceive, manipulate,
fake, pretend that's not me. I'm exactly who I say I am because
I live my life as if God the Father and Jesus the Son are watching
me. That's how I live my life in my home and outside of my
home. So I don't care what man say or think I am who I
say I am. I don't flip and you know, change and all of
that. According to who I'm talking to, you get me, whether it's
the President of the United States or someone else, because I don't flipping and
flop like a lot of people according to who they're talking to. I don't
do it. Accept me for me. If not, keep it moving.
You're no better than me and I'm no better than you. But what I
won't ever do is allow people to do me any kind of way. Been
there done that. I've been in a beauthful relationship. I've been cheated on.
Never again, Never again. I'm not a mean, angry black woman.
You know a lot of people will say that. No, I'm a
woman who know who I am, who allow the Lord to lead and guide
me. And I love myself, so I got me together and I will
not let any man invade my space with shenanigans. I will not let any
person invade my space with shenanigans. And that's just how I live my life.
I love everyone. I'll help who I can those who really want help
or assistance, but I won't be a pushover. I won't allow you to
talk to me any kind of way. You got a way to approach me,
just like I have a way to approach you. I mean, I
live by these things. I won't disrespect you, but you sure won't do
it to me either, not and get away with it. So I said
all of that to say this, People treat you how you have taught them
to treat you. If they touch you and you don't do anything, you
messed up. I'm not saying that in a bad way. What I'm saying
is you messed up because now they think that they can do what they want
to do to you, they will try it again if you didn't do nothing
the first time. So don't take it a negative way. Because predators,
oh, they are watching, they have their eyes on their target. Trust
and believe they have their eyes on their target and they just waiting for that
moment to do what they want to do. Don't let them. We live
in a world full of wicked, mean, evil people who agenda is different
than yours. So be careful out there. Love yourself enough to do something
I didn't say you have to knock them out, even though they'll deserve it.
Don't put yourself in a situation where you have to go to jail.
There's a whole lot of ways that you can handle the situation without being violent,
because I've never been violent, but all people get my point. I
don't curse, but they get my point. Trust and believe because of how
I carry myself. I have people who don't like me because they can't do
me any kind of way. Oh well, I don't care, Honestly I
don't. But that's all I'm gonna say. Please take care of yourself and
again, people treat you how you allow, don't let them get away with
nothing. And never ever, ever, ever, ever be that person who
will let a person sexually assault or harass you because you're afraid of losing your
job or something, or you are trying to get to the next level.
Don't be that person. Don't never lower your standards or your integrity for a
no good person that you know doing wrong, that you know what they're doing
is inappropriate, Don't ever ever ever allow that to happen to you. I'm
leaving it right there. Thank you so much for listening. Much much much,
much much love to each and every one of you. If you have
any questions concerns, please reach out to me. Go to my podcast page.
It'll tell you exactly how to contact me. I will respond. Thank
you again. You know I end every episode the same and I hope you
do it. Thank on it