Hey, hey, hey, good people, I'm back with something for you
to think about. Listen up. If you don't make the time for your
boyfriend, girlfriend, significant other, husband, wife, if you don't make
the time for them, trust and believe somebody else will. People have to
stop it. When you get in a relationship with someone, you have to
remember how important it is to continue in that relationship treating your significant other just
as good or better than what you were while you were dating that person.
While you were quarting that person. Now, I know some of you.
You don't those rough relationships where you got into it wrong, acting wrong and
they accepted you. But even still, there has to be consistency. People
want consistency. A lot of people get into relationships. They go out of
their way to make the relationship happen. I know some men they'll travel across
the world to meet a woman they want to be with, and vice versa.
Women would do it too, So when a person really wants a relationship,
they would do what they have to do to make it work. Don't
ever believe long distances kill a relationship, because if people want them to work,
they will. So a lot of individuals get into relationships and then all
of the romance and the intimacy and the fun things just fall by the wayside.
You cannot be that way, because I'm telling you, you set yourself
up for a lot of things you truly don't want. When you are ignoring
or rejecting your significant other. It is so very important that you put in
the time. You make sure, no matter how busy your schedule is,
that you put in time for your significant other, because if you don't,
I guarantee you with certainty, someone else will. Someone else will definitely be
more than willing to give your significant other the time that you should be given
to your significant other. This is how, unfortunately, a lot of emotional
affairs happening, because people are desperate, they're longing for they're yearning for someone
to just listen to them. Some of you are not listening to your significant
others. They're trying to tell you something, they're trying to show you something,
and you're not paying them no attention. And it is not healthy for
your relationship. It is not healthy at all. So when someone comes alone,
they may be going through the same thing with their significant other, and
boom, there you go an emotional affair. Sometimes it's individuals who are not
in the same situation, but there's still someone who's looking for something and there
you are, or there your significant can other is. So you have to
be careful, very very very careful about what is going on in your relationship.
You must always take time for your significant other. As I said,
it does not matter how busy you say you are or how busy you are,
for real, you must take time for your significant other because someone is
just waiting in the wings. Trust they are waiting in the wings for your
significant other, or they're just waiting in the wings for someone who needs someone
to talk to, need their ego, stroke need to be told they're beautiful
or whatever nice compliment. Some of you are not giving your significant others compliments.
You should be complimenting your significant other. You should be letting them you're
proud of them, You're there to support them, whatever it may be.
You should be complimenting your significant other, and your significant other should be complimenting
you. This is not a one way street. It goes both ways.
But some of you are workaholics work at its, you truly are, and
you've begin to console in your closed workmates when you should be doing that with
your significant other. See this is why it is so easy, I mean
terribly easy for so many people to open that door to temptation or step through
that door of temptation, because people set themselves up. You set yourself up,
and you put yourself in that situation. You know it's wrong. You
know you wouldn't want your significant other act in that way towards you. So
you have to be careful of what doors you open in your life. If
you know you're in a relationship, then that relationship should matter to you.
It shouldn't matter what's going on, shouldn't matter how you're a significant others feeling
should matter. If it does not, you are in the wrong relationship with
the wrong person both sides. You're the wrong person to be with, period.
But a lot of people are settling for this. A lot of people,
a lot of people are upset and hurting because they're significant other show someone
else who would listen to them or who would just let them be who they
are, So they open themselves up to that person and started an emotional like
affair, and a lot of people are upset about it, but they don't
realize what they've contributed to their relationship, what they've caused in their relationships.
Now, now, don't give me misconstrued. I'm not saying that is a
pass for your significant other to talk to someone else. I'm not saying that.
I'm just saying, if you don't put it in the time, someone
else would put it in that time for you. Simple as that. Some
of you are not giving your significant others no time. You go to work,
you don't check going them through today, You come home late, you
don't try to communicate when you get home. You just seem like you don't
have time for your significant other. And you think that they are supposed to
sit around and just wait through the their thumbs, just waiting for you to
notice them. No, if you don't notice them, someone else will.
And some significant others will look for someone else to notice them, and when
they do, it's not a good ending a lot of times. Mine suggestion
would be make time. That's my advice. Make time for your significant other.
I don't care what you have to shuffle around, who you have to
shuffle around. Always, always, let me say it again, always make
time for your significant other outside of your children. If you have any outside
of anything and anyone, you need to make time for your significant other,
and I'm not talking about old schedules them in once a week. You need
to make time every day for your significant other. After all, that's who
you chose to be with. Too many people are in relationships, married and
unmarried. In relationships with people, it's just like their roommates, their roommates,
companions. No nothing going on, no intimacy, no communication, nothing,
no chemistry. They're not I be nothing, just dead, and no
one is doing nothing about it. Neither person is trying to make it better.
That's why I've said so many times in earlier episodes, it is important
that people keep the fire going. Keep the fire going in your marriages,
keep the fire going in your relationships. When the fire dies, you are
going to feel the effects of it. You are. Some people are just
no good. They're immature, and no matter what, they're gonna cheat.
They're gonna cheat. You can next time, you can do whatever. They're
still gonna cheat because they're dirty dogs, male and female. They're no good.
They're immature. That's just who they are. That's just they are.
But overall, for any relationship, you must put it in that time.
You must. It is very important because people want to know that you care.
They want to know that they mean something to you. They want to
know that the relationship means something, and lip service is not gonna get it.
But for so long, you have to act. Actions speak louder than
words. You have to act. Love is an action word. You can
say I love you all day. You got to show it in your actions
if they're important to you. You know, I know. People say,
well, I gotta work. Okay, okay, that's not even a topic
that you have to discuss. That's not even anywhere on the radar, because
duh, of course people have to work. But you do that prior to
the relationship. You was working prior to the relationship. But you always made
time, didn't You was working hard prior to the relationship, but you always
made time for her or for him, didn't you. Of course you did.
You did whatever you have to do when you were trying to get that
person. So you have to continue to work because if you don't put in
the time, someone else will. And some of you think, oh no,
she'll never or he'll never. Okay, you can believe that of them
you want to. Some people may not, but the majority will, and
those who don't, they'll simply leave the relationship because they're tired. They're tired
of being in a deadened relationship not being shown anything, so they'll just walk
away from the relationship. They won't cheat on you, because that's not who
they are. They'll just walk away. All I'm telling you is, if
you're in a relationship with someone that you supposedly love and really care about,
well, you know, if you really did, we wouldn't have You have
to have this conversation right now. But because a lot of people talk it
but they don't walk it, then that's why having this conversation. There are
millions of people who are in relationships, but those millions of people are immature
individuals. They think they're mature, but a lot of people are not mature.
They think the same as they used to think. They're running like you
ever seen a tire that's in the mud and it's just spinning, spinning,
spinning, going nowhere. That's what a lot of people. Relationships are tires
in the mud, just spinning, spinning, spinning, going nowhere. You
have to continue to nourish your relationship. You have to in order for it
to continue to grow, because if you don't anything that you don't nourish will
become stagnant. Anything that's another human. If you don't feed that human and
nourish that human and give that human what that human needs to develop, they
will become stagnant in their development mentally, physically, emotionally, verbally, they
will become stagnant. Anything plants, anything you have to give attention to.
And that's all I'm trying to tell you here today. If you are in
a relationship and you feel that you really care about who you're with, you
gotta keep that keep kindling that fire, Keep continue to kindle that fire,
because it takes consistency. You have to always show that individual that they matter
to you. I know some people are more affectionate than others, but you
cannot use that as a crutch and make it an excuse because you knew that
before you got into relationship. They probably knew it too, But still you
did enough to get him or her. Even though some people are followers,
they just take the lead of the initiator. But still you've done enough.
You have to continue to do enough. And you know what, don't make
excuses. If you know that you're a person who is not very affectionate,
you have to figure out why why are you like that? Normally, it's
because you was brought up that way. You were brought up not being given
that type of attention, love and affection from your parents. They was not
individuals who told you I love you, who showed you, who hugged you,
who loved on you. Everyone is not fortunate to have that. But
you you cannot make that as an excuse because you can learn to be that
way. If you love a person, show it, show it in your
actions. And have you noticed I didn't say one thing about spending one penny,
however, because it's not about money. People need to know that they're
appreciating it. You see them, you hear them that you're not just saying
nice words, that you're showing them that you love them, that you're given
that time. You're making a way to give that time for a relationship.
It is very very important to a healthy relationship. I have to pause for
a second because I almost sleaze. Just came out of nowhere, But it's
very important to a healthy relationship to keep kindeling that fire. Keep kindeling that
fire. You have to because for relationships to last and be healthy and strong,
you gotta keep working, keep showing up and doing the things that you
need to do, keep making that time. Because people stay together thirty forty
fifty, sixty seventy years, let me tell you one thing, it don't
mean that they're all they're soul as love. They stayed together all of those
years, or they're together all of these years, that do not mean they're
in love, honey in their own fire and passionate for each other. A
lot of times it's complacency, it's familiar, it's comfortable, it's companionship.
They've been together so long they don't want to start over. They've not even
thinking about that. They just rather cruise on to the graves with who they
have been with us so long. They just rather stay there than to be
by themselves. So don't think because people have been together thirty forty fifty years
that oh, it's all of this and that, because a lot of times,
most times it's not. I know plenty of people who've been married forty
and fifty years, plenty of them. They are miserable, can't stand each
other, sleeping separate rooms, don't sit down to eat together, and none
of that. So just because people have been together alone time don't mean anything.
If you're gonna be together with someone for years and years, make it
matter, Let it mean something. Be adventurous with each other. I'm not
saying crazy stuff because no one should do anything in a relationship that they don't
want to do. Period. Anyone brings some foolishness to you in your relationship.
No, you have a voice, speak up, implement the word no
in your vocabulary. But I'm talking about individuals who are in relationships. You
must make time for your significant other because if you don't, someone else will
swoop in and make the time for that person that you should be making and
you have only yourself to look at. Yes, as I said earlier,
individuals make choices that they want to make. So if they decide to entertain
someone else, they made that choice. They didn't have to do it.
But when you don't do what you're supposed to do, someone else would be
so happy to swooping and give the time that you should be given. So
I just wanted to talk about that because a lot of people are in this
situation. They're in relationships not giving time to their significant others, no time
at all. But you expect for your significant other to still want to be
with you, still be in love with you, and all of that.
It don't work like that. You must put in that time. You must
give that time. You must be loyal, faithful, dedicated, committed to
who you're with. You gotta let them know they are important to you.
Some of you put your children before your significant other and don't don't under any
terms at all, or don't do not twist up my words. I believe
children should be first, meaning you as their protector, their provider, their
nourish, their nurturing and nourishing person for them. All of that, yes,
first and utmost, But I'm talking about in your relationship. You love
your children, but you still must must make time for your significant other.
You must. You must because when the children grow up and leave that nest,
who want to be there? Your significant other? You must make time
for your significant other because if you don't, it can lead to emotional affairs
and sometimes full blown affairs. It's no reason to have an affair, but
sometimes it does happen when people are ignored by their significant others. And I
just wanted to talk about it, so I'm leaving it right there. As
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