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Well, hello there, welcome to
Laura Kane after Dark. I'llo Laura Kane.

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This is my co host of almost
five years, my bff almost seventeen

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years. I know it's over seventeen
years. It's like almost eighteen. Yes,

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Eric Grimmer, Laura Kade, I
love you. I love you too.

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Mary. Happy Merry Christmas early,
I guess yes, Holiday, someone

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in this room, it's going to
be a very merry Christmas. Producer Brian.

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Okay, now, before we get
to anything that's going on tonight,

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huh, there is something that Eric
is going to give Brian. Yep.

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And all I got was a text
message that said, in capitals, omg,

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omg, omg, You're never gonna
believe what I have for Brian.

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And here's why I got a text
message. Wait wait wait wait wait wait

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wait stop stop stop stop, oh
god, you're not gonna reveal anything.

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I don't want to say what it's
about. No, I'm not gonna say

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what it's about saying no, don't
say, don't say, don't tell.

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After Okay, you guys are don't
want to miss this. It's good.

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I purposely didn't want it. He
wanted to tell me that I'm glad you

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don't know, because otherwise I feel
way more left out just being the only

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person that didn't know. I wanted
to be surprised too, so I really

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like that. So anyway, so
that's coming up. Also, Eric is

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telling his story tonight. We're a
little late telling it because usually we tell

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the beginning of December. That hit
the anniversary of his mom's passing is December

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first. Uh, He's going to
talk about his mom and some things that

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I think a lot of you can
relate to. And I think you have

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an important message and he's Eric is
not normally this open and vulnerable, but

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but this is going to be something
that you're not gonna want to miss because

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I know what it's about, and
it's it's a big deal, and I'm

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excited. I'm I'm I'm very much
looking forward to what you're going to say.

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Thank you, because I love you
very much and I'm here. I'm

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I'm here, I'm here for you. Okay, you know that I'm here

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for you, and I'm always here
for you. I know, I know,

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I know, But more importantly,
everyone's here for me. Okay,

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let's talk about if Brian doesn't put
a shrine up in his house, my

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face on it, and some a
bullet already has one, I do,

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I do, I would need a
bigger one if if this is here's the

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thing. Also occasionally prone to I
don't want to say over exaggerating. Yes,

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things that are great are amazing,
and things like so, I mean,

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are things that are just cool are
also the greatest thing I've ever seen.

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So it could be something amazing,
or give me something that's just like,

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you know, oh that's really cool. Yeah, you know, I

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just don't know if I'm expecting like
earth shattering or just like a really good

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Christal. I'm sure I'll be good
regardless. But you know you are one

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thousand correct about that, you two. Eric's overly excited about it, Like

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I got you a brand new brand
of toothpaste that just came out. It's

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not hitting the shells for another twelve
hours. I got it before anyone know.

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Oh he's taking it away, he's
taking it away. No, he

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just got his present. Oh the
toothpaste. Yeah, it's a joke,

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Laura, that's a joke. I
know you don't get those, but right

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over my head, right over my
head. All right, So let's first

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talk about this big box that's sitting
there. Well, it's in the box.

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I had change the box because we
added some more stuff. Dig Hard

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seven, No, Diehard, what's
in the box is from seven? That's

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from die Hard. No, that's
from seven. I cud he is the

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worst. I made this joke last
week. I don't remember it. See

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well, remember when he goes what's
in the box? I went, oh,

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home alone and then went oh elf
or I said, oh, Polar

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Express is the worst. All right, just open your dam anyway, it

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wasn't funny the second time. It
was falling on you too, Okay,

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anyway, well I wasn't paying attention. I'll give Erica pass because he's got

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some informat your microphone on the box. You get to pass this box you,

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Brian is worth over one thousand dollars. And if you want to be

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in the drawing to win what's in
this box, which I will show you

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and Eric will show you too,
then go to Laura Kane after dark dot

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com and you will see the link
on there. It's five dollars an entry.

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Every time you you donate five dollars, you get your name put into

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a box. Somebody donated one hundred
dollars so their name goes in twenty times.

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So we're raising money for Claia and
the Doll Face Club Sober Living Home.

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By the way, I'm wearing Oh
my god, which damn it do

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I have to give that to you? I'm so mad right now because that's

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my favorite, so much better in
it. It is cool she I know

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her, her designs are incredible cool. So these girls who live in the

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Sober Living Home, like I said, I've lived in one before, and

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it's very important, and it's so
supportive and these people, these girls,

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these women really look up to Clia
and this is her passion and she's been

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clean for over ten years. And
the girls and the house need basic things.

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They also need things to entertain themselves, games and field trip type of

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stuffed and so that's where the money
is going that we are raising. And

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here's what's in the box? What
box? Okay? So oh elf,

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stop it, stop it. So
Claria she donated a hoodie doll Face Club

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the sell out like like this is
and they're not cheap. And then there's

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well there's this one's pretty cheap.
Laura. I'm sorry, La. Laura

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came after dark hoodie a lanyard we
have various things from San Diego crystals and

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jewelry. One of them being is
a necklace. Even you can't even see

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it. It's a what is that
stone, oh, tiger's eye. It's

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a tiger's ie heart. There's a
bunch of other like necklaces in here too,

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from San Diego crystals and jewelry.
And this handcarved box, it is

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so beautiful and it's got a bunch
of stones in it, and a bracelet

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and a necklace, and a gasha
and a sage. Then from our favorite

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man Jay Wurtzler, he's giving you
two hundred dollars cash cash money. We'll

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be in this box hichattle cheek.
And then from La joya Cosmetic, five

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hundred dollars to be used for anything, botox products, a surgery. Plus

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you get a year's worth of a
glam Fami membership, which is worth one

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hundred and twenty dollars. So six
hundred and twenty dollars this whole certificate is

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worth. Let me tell you those
products are off the hook. Oh my

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god, Eric can tell you that
someone who has spent six hundred and twenty

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dollars in their store, I have
try double that anyway, that's why he

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looks so incredible lately, all those
products, he's why he's our model for

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moddeling off all these items. That's
right, more stuff to be added.

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This box is already worth over one
thousand dollars. So this is what you

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have a chance to win when you
donate five dollars, and it's going to

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a great cause. If you watched
our show on Monday or two day,

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then you know all about Clea and
her Sober Living Home and doll Face Club.

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And it's just a really cool,
very awesome thing that I think we

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are behind one thousand percent, and
we hope you get behind it too.

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I think that box is now officially
the most expensive thing. That's the heaviest

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thing. That's the heaviest weight that
Laura's lifted hold one since her TV remote?

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Do you need help? No?
I got it. I got it

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sure. Because we like sitting here
watching your drug, I got to get

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it out of the way, all
right, Hold on, what is this

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down here? Look at that yets
yike? First, before I tell you

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the embarrassing and the other embarrassing thing
that happened to me last week, let

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me put on my big surprise face. Well, it was usually super weak.

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Yeah, no, this is well
the thousand dollars gift card wasn't weak.

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That was a pretty good story and
thank god I found it was embarrassing.

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You almost lost it though it almost
had to pay three hundred bucks to

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get a bet. It was embarrassing
what they found in my car. This

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is almost as embarrassing and pretty I
have evidence. I have something to show

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you. During my host chet,
Eric has something. God, Okay,

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I'm gonna quote him. It's gonna
be epic, Yes, epic. Huge

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For Brian, this could be huge. He couldn't wait to get here tonight.

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He would wait to tell me,
but I didn't want to hear it.

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You couldn't even wait till our Christmas
episode, which next week, where

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we're actually swapping gifts. That's what
I wanted him to do. But if

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it's that good, I'm okay having
a show to myself where I am the

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stone. Well you get to come
up here and get it. And during

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his host Chet, but first,
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Magical Holidays. I think I need
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will do. I'm annoyed. We
know we nailed down a date, but

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I don't think we nailed down a
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do that before you leave tonight.
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and fifty dollars hand card wooden box
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I'm wearing their earrings right now.
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They made me this ring. They've
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nice. Hi Sammy and brothers,
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thank you so much for sponsoring the
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of jewelry, I have a bone
to pick with you. What could that

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possibly be? I have not seen
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you for your TIMU gift exchange.
That's a good point. That was expensive

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stuff you got you. It was
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Yeah, Kucci, Coucci. Uh
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it was Rose Gold Baton. If
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the fifteen to the fifty two,
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Villa or a convoy. There's the
dump. It might be underneath all the

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trash that's in. Is that where
the coochie story isn't? Now? I

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threw it away? You did not. I was not. What am I

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gonna do with a toilet paper necklace
and spur earrings? Wear them? Did

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you actually get rid of them?
Yes? I'm not going to keep that

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around right on, Eric? Did
you do you still have your hairy belly

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fanny pack? Yes? And actually
I just wear my wore my sweatshirt the

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other day. I can't believe you
wear that hideous dolphin sweatshirt. That is

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crazy. If there was ever a
doubt, Eric really won that. I

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am getting you the grossest shit,
even if it's not your birthday or whatever.

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Just wait. Coming up next week
is our TMU Christmas Show. It's

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gonna be a long week next week. It's gonna be a great week next

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week. Because it's gonna be a
great week. You're gonna lose. Yeah

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whatever, look at Oh you're see
you're nervous, so scary. You're nervous.

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I'm nervous because this week is my
week. I okay, oh yeah,

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all right, let me start so
we can bring Brian up and make

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this for his host chat this week. It's not really necessary. I got

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to get this out of the way, so Brian can We're going to stretch

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this out this surprise. God,
I will cut you off. I will

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mute your microphone. Hey. So
Thursday, here's my host shot. There

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was a Christmas party that I was
invited to. It's not my company,

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but it's a Christmas party. And
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ex at this party. So not
that I want this person back in my

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life, because I don't, but
you know how, I don't know.

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As a woman, you kind of
want a guy to see you and go,

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god, wow, I made a
mistake, even though they never do

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that. It's just a fantasy.
Quickly, do you feel like you need

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closure from that encounter or well,
let me just we were together five months,

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so not really, it's still a
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a decent amount of time, but
the way it ended was so rude that

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I no, I don't need closure
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person he is now from what he
did. But still, if I had

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run into him, I wanted to
look banging right. So I got this

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dress at a store called act Too, which is in let Mesa. No,

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this is a Marchiano by guess.
This dress was originally four hundred dollars,

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but it was they sold it.
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It's pure silk. It's absolutely no, it's really beautiful. On.

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No, it's actually beautiful on And
let me preface this by saying, would

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you like to tell our viewing and
listening audience. Okay, your your actual

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dress size? Okay, I'm a
size six, and what size is this

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dress? It's a sice too,
so nothing bad could possibly have h Well,

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I mean, she's probably busting out
of it, so she's trying to

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make sound jealous. It goes down
to my feet. The bottom part was

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fine until it got to about here
to her boobs. Now standing no,

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and it had a nice low It
looked really pretty low cuts. I could

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not button the top buttons, but
it was fine. It looked good as

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long as I was standing well.
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I had to sit in my car
and drive. As I'm driving, six

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buttons exploding. Oh my god,
if we could only have been that lucky

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Brian. The button. The buttons
were screaming. They were hanging on so

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tight, the one right here,
and then I looked down and where is

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it? Here it is? Then
it starts to ripe. So I'm like,

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great, I can't go to the
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it ripped in the bath. Two. So I'm halfway to del Mar and

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I'm like, damn it. I
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rip dress. I look like trash. So I'm not really familiar with you

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TC. Only I know Nordstrom,
right, So I hurried into Nordstrum and

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I grabbed the first thing I saw, which actually was a skims dress,

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long sleeve long. It was fine, it was olive green, and it

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was a decent price. So anyway, went to the party. He didn't

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show up, which was fine.
Do you think he knew you were gonna

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be there? I don't know.
I don't know, and I don't care.

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Yeah, but so that's what.
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the credit card, I know,
the gift card thing happened. So it's

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been a crazy week anyway, So
that's my host chat all right, Now,

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Brian, get up here. Gonna
keep a little clasp on this so

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there's no peaking. Okay, Now, do you want to give him like

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a little like a backstory? Do
you wanna do you just want to give

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it to him? What do you
want to say anything? Knowing that I

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drew Brian's name in our Laura Cane
after Dark gift exchange, well we didn't,

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but it's interesting because I got him
something too. Oh well, I

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drew no one's name, but it
seems like everyone drew my name. I

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was working my magic and I was
hoping, hoping, hoping it would come

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before Christmas. There was a lot
of texting going on a lot of emailing

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and today, bro oh my god, in the mail. Yes, it

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was sent to me by someone's publicist
and possibly the legend himself. Is that

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all you want to say? And
then just jews want him to open it?

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Merry Christmas, Brian, from both
of us, from your favorite ginger,

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from both of us, from Laura
Kane after dark. No, no,

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you already got him something. And
once again, my gift is better

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than I mean. Yeah, no
doubt, no doubt. I need to

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hand you the items or would you
like no, no, no, let

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them open it. Well, well
I want to do this first, all

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right, do it however you think
it's going to be better, close your

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eyes and Santa is going to give
you a big surprise. Okay, it

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is a okay, wait, this
is great. What it's a wait,

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it's keano wreaths. Oh geez,
that's perfect. It is because I was

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just about to order an ugly sweater
for a party you have to go to.

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So this is perfect. Well that
is good because I was gonna say

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this is him exaggerating again. But
oh my god, oh my god,

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oh my god. Okay, Brian, close your eyes again, close your

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eyes. Oh my god, wait, what on God's green earth? Oh,

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Jess Waite, what on God's green
Earth? It's a piece of paper,

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a handwritten piece of paper. Oh
my god, just blank, he

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has terrible hand ring. I'm just
gonna that there, I still have you.

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What does it say? Can you
read it? Even? It's in

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black ink on a blank, white
piece of paper? Oh my god,

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what does it say? Okay,
my god, Brian, Oh my god,

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I hear. You're a big fan
and I'm truly grateful. Keep up

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the good work. Enjoy Ballerina.
Oh that's the latest. That's the latest

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movie. Yes, oh my oh
my fucking god. This was in his

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hands an autograph addressed to me,
an autograph picture of Keanu Reeves as Jesus.

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It's from John Wick. That is
insane. That's really cool. Eric,

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Oh my god, Oh my god, here show this, show this.

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Oh my god. Okay, what
are you gonna do with this?

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Wow? What are you gonna do
with this? I will I'm of course

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you are. Oh my god.
That's a that's on a vinyl print too.

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That's not even like just paper.
Holy, that won't even This might

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be the craziest thing that's ever happened
to me. Eric, you did a

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good job. Wow. So this
is our clip for the episode. Oh

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my god, Oh my god.
He touched this, he signed, he

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touched and he put energy into that. He thought about you, Eric,

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you did. I'm in utter shock, like, actually that's insane. Okay,

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wow, good well done, and
thank you. You're welcome because you

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ran into it. I thought he
was lyingve me this entire time. Now,

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can you expand upon the story at
all or like, did you you

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really didn't meet him? Yes?
And yeah, can you break us down?

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Yeah? Can you break it down
a little bit beat because I know

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you couldn't say anything for a while. No. So, uh, it

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was obvious that I was taking photographs. I was like, hey, I'm

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with a podcast on iHeartRadio here in
San Diego. That was a little bit

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of our producer is a big fan. Is there something we're on like a

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bunch of other but anyway, continue, Yeah, and I told him okay.

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And so I was put in touch
with his people and you talked to

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him like on the street, right, Yeah, Oh my god. He

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is the coolest guy, the nicest
guy. I just see him like popping

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up into people's weddings, playing catch
with bowl. You know, like like

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families. There's an Instagram thing that
I follow it. I's not his official

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Instagram, but he's like dancing all
the time and doing cool things. We

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gotta go see dog Star if they
ever come into town, Brian, that'll

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be our next Like if they come
to San Diego, we'll go and then

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we will. Then there'll be a
lot of texting, yes, emailing.

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Oh my god, so you have
all his contact in and stuff. Oh

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my gosh, that's insane. I
was so cool, Eric, good job,

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Yeah, well done, Jesus.
I didn't think anything would come of

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this, Brian. And then where
did you get the I pad the sweat

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shirt that was sent that came that
was sent separately. Oh yeah they sent

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that. Yeah, that came to
my house. Wow, Oh my god.

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Okay, so now you have something
to word to your fun party.

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And then you have something to frame. Two things to frame. Yeah,

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I just figured to I frame them
together or separately or oh yeah they're Oh

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gosh, wow, that's really cool. Get I feel like I need a

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custom, like really nice frame.
Yeah, definitely go for the go for

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the money. Spend the money,
spend the money to get it done.

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All I frame them and then you
can text them back a picture of it

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all nicely framed with him in it, with you in it. Yeah,

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yes, for sure. Oh my
god, we got to keep this relationship

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up. Well. I did not
know how this was going to come,

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and I was stressing out because I
got the I got an email that said

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heavy received the package. The package
yet and I said, no, I

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haven't. And then I was like, oh no, did they send it

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to the wrong address? What happened? And so they sent me a tracking

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number and I typed it into UPS
and it said arrived at the facility in

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San Diego, and it was supposed
to be here on the eighth or ninth,

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and it wasn't coming, and it
was still showing that it was at

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the that it arrived at the if
this gets lost, I didn't know what

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it was. I had no idea
what it was until and then I went

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to check my mail today and there
was a package in there, and I'm

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all, oh, oh my,
did you know what they were sending.

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I did not know. I did
not know. It's so fucking insane.

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That is really superol. Oh my
god. Here, I feel like we

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just have to end the show now, Like, yeah, there he goes,

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great guy, what a great,
great guy. Thank you so much.

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That made my That made my year
and next year probably a couple of

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years. My gift is gonna suck, really, it probably will. Well,

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you've got one week to get another. Oh I hear like Steven Spielberg's

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signing Harriston for chop Kine. Right, Quentin Tarantino guarant she's gonna be the

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new Ballerina. Oh yeah, that'd
be cool. Yeah, huh, she's

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gonna be in the new She's the
star of the new movie Ballerina, which

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he is in. Okay, I
don't think that's confirmed, but it was

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confirmed, yeah, because it was
gonna be the girl that was in Parabellum

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and she opted out and so on. Ad armis. I'm cool with that

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in anyway. Awesome. Okay,
you can now take your goods and go

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back because Eric is gonna tell us
the story. Enjoy. Brian, Oh

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my gosh, Brian, I know
this is like see why I couldn't wait

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till Christmas show. I understand I
wouldn't have been able to wait either.

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What a total like mind fuck,
Oh my god, I've never seen him

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smile, this giant in my life. How cool. How freak Laura will

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never make me smile? This never
y Well? Actually, now this is

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a challenge. I love challenges.
I love challenges. Challenge. Yes,

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Also, the bounty is still on
the table if kan Reeves comes in the

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studio. So you're free, free
work. Can I tell you what I

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have if you and they're spoils already? No, I don't have anything to

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do. Yeah, but the contact
that I have, You have a contact?

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Oh? Sure, tell me the
contact? Should I say it out

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loud? Or is this or is
that a stupid thing for me to do?

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Just say it? Or actually here, wait here, let me mean

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it for I don't think it'll work
out, but that's cool. Should I

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not say anything? That's right.
We're just we're gonna look like stalkers by

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the end. We're like the same
company has has approached you from two different

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angles. See, maybe if you
were just adorable like I was. Oh

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god, it's a pincer manuvement.
Oh my god, you want to arrest

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the rest of the show. Okay, So why don't we play a little

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bit of the nice Christmas music?
Because this is this is not the easiest

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time of year for Eric, because
this December is when he lost this dear,

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wonderful, precious mother. Yes,
and we at this time he shares

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the story about his relationship with his
mother and what an incredible person she was

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and how close they were and what
happened. And this year you have kind

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of a message about other things too. So, yeah, so this has

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been a very weird season. I
So I lost my mom shortly before COVID

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to brain cancer, and you and
Marla and probably Karen were the three people

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that really knew what was going on, because I really didn't share it with

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a lot of people. And and
you and Marla were actually at her celebration

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of life. And she was diagnosed
probably ten years prior with Parkinson's and so

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I, you know, we'd always
been very close, and I was taking

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her into her doctor's appointments and all
that, and probably about I don't know,

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ten years in twelve years in she
started acting really weird and she was

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getting really really upset in like the
late afternoons where she would call me at

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work and she'd be like, when
are you coming over, Like I'm scared

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things like that. I'm like,
what is going on? And so a

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friend of mine, her mom had
Parkinson's and got something called sundowner syndrome.

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So that and sundowner syndrome is something
that's very hard to determine in somebody.

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So I did stuff like got her
lights, you know, the automatic that

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they would turn on, got her
music and stuff so that at that time

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of day it would kind of mellow
her out. And I would stay over

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there and stuff like that. So
I had asked her at one point to

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come and live with me because she
was starting to forget things and she was

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making doctor's appointments and not telling me
about them, and so I said,

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listen, I want you to come
and live with me, and she's like,

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well, I don't want to.
You know, you live downtown and

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I just want to stay in my
house. And I'm like okay. So

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I was staying over there a lot, but it was getting to be exhausting

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because I had a job and I
also had to live my life and do

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things that I needed to do,
and so I was doing this just on

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my own, and so I had
to get my sibling involved. And there's

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with my with my family, it's
just me and another sibling from our actual

407
00:32:55.880 --> 00:33:07.039
parents, and so about I don't
know, maybe six months later, I

408
00:33:07.160 --> 00:33:09.440
was going on a business trip and
I said, hey, listen, I'm

409
00:33:09.440 --> 00:33:14.279
going to pre make all your food
because I took her grocery shopping every week.

410
00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:15.720
And I've talked about that, I
think on the show, which was

411
00:33:15.759 --> 00:33:22.519
a just an exercise in tear with
her lists and she'd look at all the

412
00:33:22.680 --> 00:33:29.200
ingredients. It was hilarious and it
was always fun, like we traveled together,

413
00:33:29.240 --> 00:33:32.440
we went to concerts together. She
was always game for anything. So

414
00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:39.640
I noticed that her left hand was
gnarled and it was just retracting, and

415
00:33:39.640 --> 00:33:45.279
she was complaining about her eye sight
in her left eye. So I called

416
00:33:45.279 --> 00:33:50.160
her optometrist. I'm like, hey, that prescription that you just filled for

417
00:33:50.200 --> 00:33:53.200
her, isn't the right one.
We're going to need to come back in

418
00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:55.680
and they're like, no, it's
the right one, and she's like,

419
00:33:55.799 --> 00:34:04.319
Eric, I can't see. So
it got to the point where we both

420
00:34:04.359 --> 00:34:10.360
had full time jobs, my sibling
and I, so I said, we're

421
00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:15.159
gonna have to do something right now. She's gonna need full time care.

422
00:34:15.239 --> 00:34:24.320
So we looked at care facilities and
I was beside myself. I was in

423
00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:30.119
tears. Every day. I probably
looked at every single one in San Diego

424
00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:34.400
County, and I thought I wouldn't
put my worst enemy in. Some of

425
00:34:34.400 --> 00:34:39.559
these so not cheap. They are
about ten thousand dollars a month. So

426
00:34:40.159 --> 00:34:45.039
if you do not, if you
have an opportunity to get long term care,

427
00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:47.159
get it, get it. Get
it, because it will save your

428
00:34:47.159 --> 00:34:52.519
life. You will not. We
didn't have to pay hardly anything out.

429
00:34:52.719 --> 00:34:55.639
So your mom had that. She
had it. So my dad had set

430
00:34:55.679 --> 00:35:04.599
her up a long time ago for
it. And so we through a recommendation

431
00:35:04.679 --> 00:35:08.159
of a friend that does this for
a living. She said, if you

432
00:35:08.199 --> 00:35:13.840
can get your mom into this particular
facility, and if anybody's looking to do

433
00:35:13.880 --> 00:35:16.519
it, just DM me and I'll
give you the love this placed people.

434
00:35:17.119 --> 00:35:22.880
I loved the place. I love
the people. They were so kind to

435
00:35:22.960 --> 00:35:27.199
her and so good to her,
and they let me. I mean,

436
00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:31.920
there's rules, and I just had
full rain of like I was able to

437
00:35:32.000 --> 00:35:37.280
stay with her all night. I
used to dog set for this little dog

438
00:35:37.360 --> 00:35:42.239
named London, and my mom just
loved her, and they'd let me sneak

439
00:35:42.239 --> 00:35:45.280
her in because it was sometimes the
only thing that would calm my mom down.

440
00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:50.159
And so we took her and took
her to see it, and she

441
00:35:50.360 --> 00:35:55.719
liked it, so the day after
Thanksgiving we put her in and then within

442
00:35:55.800 --> 00:35:59.960
a month I got a phone call
at work and they said, your mom

443
00:36:00.239 --> 00:36:04.760
in the emergency room. You need
to get down there. So I called

444
00:36:04.760 --> 00:36:12.559
my sibling and everything was kind of
like it wasn't at the time serious because

445
00:36:12.559 --> 00:36:15.559
nobody really knew what was going on
until I was on my way there,

446
00:36:15.599 --> 00:36:20.400
and I guess that's when the news
got delivered. So I got there and

447
00:36:20.679 --> 00:36:23.360
I went into my mom's room and
all she said was I'm sorry, and

448
00:36:23.400 --> 00:36:28.119
she started crying and I was like, what are you sorry about? And

449
00:36:28.679 --> 00:36:31.679
they said, well, she has
brain cancer and so I was like,

450
00:36:31.960 --> 00:36:37.199
you know, well, how bad
is it and they're like, it's bad

451
00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:44.599
and it's at the base of her
neck on the right side, so that's

452
00:36:44.639 --> 00:36:47.480
why it's affecting everything on the left. And they said we can do surgery

453
00:36:47.719 --> 00:36:54.800
because it's contained. But with her
age she was eighty and how frail she

454
00:36:55.039 --> 00:37:07.840
was, it was going to be
a coins toss. So they said there's

455
00:37:07.880 --> 00:37:12.519
an eighty five percent chance that she
won't make it, and I was like,

456
00:37:13.199 --> 00:37:21.679
well, you know, this isn't
great. So this was in December

457
00:37:22.960 --> 00:37:28.760
and oh no, no, no, this wasn't November, because no,

458
00:37:28.920 --> 00:37:32.039
this was We took her at the
end of November. I'm sorry. I

459
00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:36.760
got a little ahead of myself.
So in December her health was just declining

460
00:37:37.159 --> 00:37:38.679
and we didn't know what it was. I had just taken her three months

461
00:37:38.679 --> 00:37:44.840
earlier for a cat scan everything,
and they were like, nope, everything's

462
00:37:44.880 --> 00:37:47.920
fine, there's nothing going on.
There's a little bit of a shadow,

463
00:37:49.000 --> 00:37:57.880
but it's nothing. So Christmas came
around and she was really depressed and I

464
00:37:57.920 --> 00:38:00.440
was like, mom, you know
what's what do you want to do?

465
00:38:00.599 --> 00:38:04.360
And she said, I want to
go to church and I want to go

466
00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:07.599
to my house. And I was
like, well, mom, they're not

467
00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:10.440
going to let us because she could
she couldn't even stand up on her own,

468
00:38:10.519 --> 00:38:14.679
like we had to carry her,
like from the bed to the wheelchair

469
00:38:14.719 --> 00:38:17.559
and stuff like that. And I
said, and we were. I was

470
00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:22.079
a mess because I didn't know what
was wrong with her. And then I

471
00:38:22.199 --> 00:38:23.880
questioned myself putting her in there.
I was like, did they do something

472
00:38:23.880 --> 00:38:35.639
like? I didn't know? So
I got clearance from the head person.

473
00:38:37.960 --> 00:38:42.599
I said, can we just take
her for a few hours and we'll promise

474
00:38:42.639 --> 00:38:46.039
we'll bring her back at one piece
so when they said yes, I went

475
00:38:46.199 --> 00:38:52.000
to her house and I decorated the
entire house because I knew it was going

476
00:38:52.079 --> 00:39:00.280
to be the last time, and
so I got the tree decorated, decorated

477
00:39:00.280 --> 00:39:07.039
the whole house, and then I
got uh food and everything. So when

478
00:39:07.079 --> 00:39:12.440
we took her to church, I
was like, Okay, I got to

479
00:39:12.480 --> 00:39:15.679
get back to the house to get
the lights on, to get the food

480
00:39:15.719 --> 00:39:17.519
warmed up. And my Mom's like, what's the hurry, you know,

481
00:39:17.800 --> 00:39:22.000
don't I don't want to go.
There's not going to be anything there.

482
00:39:23.159 --> 00:39:28.280
You know, what's the point in
opening presence when there's no Christmas? And

483
00:39:28.360 --> 00:39:30.119
so I was like, Mom,
let's just do it, Like you wanted

484
00:39:30.119 --> 00:39:35.719
to go to see your house near
things, Let's just go. Because we

485
00:39:35.760 --> 00:39:38.880
had to get her out of there, like it was a very covert thing,

486
00:39:39.719 --> 00:39:44.440
and she did not want to go, and my sibling was like,

487
00:39:44.440 --> 00:39:46.760
well you're going, So they literally
packed a bag. She didn't have time

488
00:39:46.800 --> 00:39:53.760
to go through anything. So she
was kind of expecting to come and just

489
00:39:53.880 --> 00:39:58.800
be in an empty in a house
that had no decorations or anything. So

490
00:39:58.880 --> 00:40:01.679
I had opened her mail and put
Christmas cards out and you know, all

491
00:40:01.719 --> 00:40:10.360
that stuff. So we get there
and she was like a kid on Christmas

492
00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:15.840
Day, Like she was so happy
and she just wanted to stay and stay

493
00:40:15.880 --> 00:40:22.239
and stay, and you know,
it was so beautiful. It was it

494
00:40:22.239 --> 00:40:30.159
was probably one of the best Christmases
I've ever had. So literally eight days

495
00:40:30.239 --> 00:40:34.480
later, it was the day before
my birth two days before my birthday,

496
00:40:35.159 --> 00:40:37.239
that she got diagnosed with brain cancer. So it was on January sixth,

497
00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:46.760
my birthday's on the eighth, and
I there was some chatter between my sibling

498
00:40:46.960 --> 00:40:54.280
and his partner about very nondescript stuff. It was nothing. It was just

499
00:40:54.320 --> 00:41:04.199
something that was at her house that
wasn't a big deal compared to what the

500
00:41:04.239 --> 00:41:09.239
fate was that we had at hand. So she had the surgery, and

501
00:41:09.280 --> 00:41:12.559
the surgeon called and said, your
mom was a rock star. She made

502
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:15.199
it through just great. And I
was like, that's all I wanted.

503
00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:19.559
That's that was the best Christmas gift. I was like, I don't need

504
00:41:19.639 --> 00:41:23.440
anything, I don't want for anything, and so I was, you know,

505
00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:28.559
and she knew who I was.
Like when we were able to see

506
00:41:28.559 --> 00:41:30.639
her in recovery, she's like,
she's asking for you, you know,

507
00:41:31.280 --> 00:41:37.559
for both of us, which was
great, and so on the way out.

508
00:41:38.119 --> 00:41:45.920
I'm told, well, we're leaving
for a couple of days. The

509
00:41:45.960 --> 00:41:51.440
sibling mm hmm, And I said, so in the you're going to leave

510
00:41:52.039 --> 00:41:55.199
with all this going on? And
so I was like, all right,

511
00:41:55.239 --> 00:41:58.639
well, it's your life, you
know, do whatever you need to do.

512
00:41:59.800 --> 00:42:07.920
And that started an avalanche, which
I we never recovered from it.

513
00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:13.639
So we had a conversation in the
morning. It was my birthday and I

514
00:42:13.719 --> 00:42:17.320
was going to spend the day with
her and do some therapy with her and

515
00:42:17.360 --> 00:42:24.400
stuff. And I had turned my
phone off because I had forgot to charge

516
00:42:24.400 --> 00:42:34.480
it, and so I had like
a five percent battery and I didn't think,

517
00:42:34.559 --> 00:42:37.000
you know, all these people were
like blowing up my phone, like

518
00:42:37.079 --> 00:42:44.639
how's your mom? Happy birthday?
And so around seven point thirty in the

519
00:42:44.719 --> 00:42:46.039
evening, I was like, hey, Mom, I'm going to just run

520
00:42:46.079 --> 00:42:51.840
downstairs and get something to eat.
And she was like, well, you're

521
00:42:51.880 --> 00:42:52.639
going to come back, right and
I said, sure, yeah, I'm

522
00:42:52.639 --> 00:42:57.000
going to come back. So at
that point I decided to check my phone,

523
00:42:58.400 --> 00:43:04.000
and I think between between text messages
and voicemails, I think I had

524
00:43:04.000 --> 00:43:10.280
something like two hundred and eighty nine
messages and I wasn't going to go through

525
00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:14.159
them all at that time, I
would have never been able to. So

526
00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:23.679
I as I was leaving from eating, I noticed that my sibling and this

527
00:43:23.760 --> 00:43:28.039
partner had both called me, and
I was like, nothing could have possibly

528
00:43:28.079 --> 00:43:31.320
happened in the half an hour that
I'd been gone. So I called,

529
00:43:32.360 --> 00:43:39.320
and it was just awful. It
was like shouting at me and telling me

530
00:43:39.440 --> 00:43:44.760
that I was just a piece of
shit basically, you know, and I

531
00:43:44.920 --> 00:43:50.639
wasn't communicating and everything, and I'm
like, wait a minute, you're gone,

532
00:43:50.880 --> 00:43:54.400
and I'm the only one here and
I'm doing exactly what I said I

533
00:43:54.440 --> 00:44:04.360
was going to do. So I'm
done with that conversation. And so it

534
00:44:04.519 --> 00:44:09.360
just it just got worse to the
point where I wasn't being told about There

535
00:44:09.400 --> 00:44:15.400
were things that were done that you
shared with me when this was going on

536
00:44:16.840 --> 00:44:27.599
that year that were They're horrible.
Yeah, nobody should ever be treated like

537
00:44:27.639 --> 00:44:35.800
that, especially somebody whose family and
I felt so I was right there.

538
00:44:36.199 --> 00:44:43.760
I was listening to it all and
I didn't understand why. Yeah, and

539
00:44:43.800 --> 00:44:49.559
it's it's so I know you have
a message for people about and this is

540
00:44:49.559 --> 00:44:51.920
the message. It just went on
and on and on, and it got

541
00:44:52.000 --> 00:45:00.320
so bad that we don't speak anymore. And a couple of months ago I

542
00:45:00.559 --> 00:45:10.719
got I was contacted by a relative
and they informed me that my sibling has

543
00:45:10.760 --> 00:45:19.800
stage four cancer. And I thought, well, I'm going to have to

544
00:45:19.840 --> 00:45:28.559
reach out now because I can't know
this information and not do anything. So

545
00:45:30.320 --> 00:45:34.400
after my mom died, there was
a lot of stuff I just wouldn't put

546
00:45:34.480 --> 00:45:39.519
up with anymore, and I thought
negativity was one of the main ones.

547
00:45:39.639 --> 00:45:44.719
I was just like, I have
no time for it. I don't want

548
00:45:44.719 --> 00:45:52.000
to revisit it. So all of
the contact information for them was gone.

549
00:45:53.039 --> 00:45:57.480
I was just like, not going
to need it again, so, you

550
00:45:57.480 --> 00:46:06.920
know, so I found surprisingly an
old email. I sent an email and

551
00:46:06.920 --> 00:46:13.239
I didn't hear anything back. So
my relative said, well, text,

552
00:46:14.079 --> 00:46:16.320
so I got the number. I
texted, and I didn't hear anything.

553
00:46:17.159 --> 00:46:27.920
And then I finally heard something.
It might have been later that that day

554
00:46:27.960 --> 00:46:31.000
when I texted, but it was
late in the evening and I was like,

555
00:46:31.079 --> 00:46:35.400
oh my gosh, this is a
great sign. And what you said

556
00:46:35.559 --> 00:46:44.119
was very kind considering what he had. Yeah, yeah, you said you

557
00:46:44.159 --> 00:46:51.920
loved it. Yes, And I
said that I really missed them and that

558
00:46:52.360 --> 00:46:59.960
I would, you know, to
keep me abreast of what was going on

559
00:47:00.360 --> 00:47:07.360
and maybe we could meet. And
then I found out something that just crushed

560
00:47:07.360 --> 00:47:14.000
me, and that was they did
not want me to know, and for

561
00:47:14.119 --> 00:47:22.119
the reasons that they didn't want me
to know were unbelievable. And so I

562
00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:28.719
thought, well, I've done my
part and I don't think there's really anything

563
00:47:28.760 --> 00:47:34.119
else that I can do. So
my message for people, especially, you

564
00:47:34.119 --> 00:47:40.280
know, with the holiday season and
sometimes things are this all started with something

565
00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:50.960
that was so petty and minuscule and
it just ballooned into something that it should

566
00:47:50.960 --> 00:47:55.360
have never done. And you know, I know there's two sides to every

567
00:47:55.400 --> 00:48:01.239
story, and they've got theirs,
and you were actually a witness to it,

568
00:48:02.599 --> 00:48:09.639
so you know, and I I
subsequently heard from another family member that's

569
00:48:09.679 --> 00:48:17.800
no longer here, but it confirmed
a lot. And it's just if you

570
00:48:17.960 --> 00:48:25.079
can just don't let it, don't
let it get to what it did with

571
00:48:27.159 --> 00:48:32.480
my family. You know, well, because to choose your related to you

572
00:48:32.480 --> 00:48:36.039
don't you don't get to choose your
family, but you do get to choose

573
00:48:36.079 --> 00:48:38.960
your chosen family. So you know, I mean, I've got you,

574
00:48:39.119 --> 00:48:44.719
I've got Marla, I've got amazing
people in my life. And had I

575
00:48:44.920 --> 00:48:52.960
not had that I don't know,
because not only did you lose your mother

576
00:48:52.039 --> 00:48:55.519
because you had already lost your father, but you lost a sibling too,

577
00:48:57.000 --> 00:49:00.599
my only one at the at the
exact same time. So circumstances that were

578
00:49:00.800 --> 00:49:07.679
Yeah. So it was literally like
it wasn't just my mom's passing, it

579
00:49:07.719 --> 00:49:13.119
was the passing of the relationship with
my sibling and the whole family. Yeah.

580
00:49:13.239 --> 00:49:17.280
So I went to really being an
orphan, yeah, because I just

581
00:49:17.320 --> 00:49:22.000
didn't have anybody. And you know
when you're when you're going through that,

582
00:49:22.119 --> 00:49:27.000
it's not about who wins. It's
not about who gets the most money.

583
00:49:27.119 --> 00:49:32.480
It's not about who gets this and
who gets that. That's all tangible.

584
00:49:32.719 --> 00:49:38.559
It's all stuff that can be replaced
for the most part. This is the

585
00:49:38.599 --> 00:49:45.960
first Christmas that I actually put up
a tree, because I stopped the minute.

586
00:49:45.079 --> 00:49:49.320
It was our favorite time of the
year. So the minute my mom

587
00:49:49.360 --> 00:49:54.480
passed, I I stopped believing in
a lot of stuff. But I am

588
00:49:54.960 --> 00:50:00.280
I was like, I'm never celebrating
Christmas again. And so this was really

589
00:50:00.320 --> 00:50:05.559
the first year. I did it. Last year and it was really but

590
00:50:05.679 --> 00:50:08.639
it wasn't at my home. So
this year I did it at my home,

591
00:50:08.800 --> 00:50:15.440
and I thought I have very little
regrets in life. And I had

592
00:50:15.480 --> 00:50:22.159
a few ornaments that my mom had
that were beautiful, but there were ones

593
00:50:22.159 --> 00:50:25.079
that she made, and then there're
ones that I got from like my grandparents.

594
00:50:25.239 --> 00:50:29.920
And when I was going through all
that, I was just so broken

595
00:50:29.960 --> 00:50:32.000
that I was like, I don't
want any of it. Just take it.

596
00:50:32.079 --> 00:50:37.360
I don't want any of it.
So they've got everything, and I

597
00:50:37.400 --> 00:50:40.800
was like, oh man, there
were a couple things that I would have

598
00:50:42.800 --> 00:50:45.239
loved to have just had, but
in the mindset at the time, I

599
00:50:45.320 --> 00:50:49.480
was just like, Nope, never
going to use it. And it is,

600
00:50:49.880 --> 00:50:52.400
it's memories, but you remember,
you remember that. I remember them,

601
00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:59.320
so yeah, And like I said, it's just stuff. But if

602
00:50:59.360 --> 00:51:04.760
you're holidays are a hard tire for
a lot of people because of this reason

603
00:51:05.440 --> 00:51:08.920
family friction. Yeah, And if
there's a way that you can fix it,

604
00:51:10.079 --> 00:51:15.079
do it. If there's not,
it's okay to say no. Like

605
00:51:15.320 --> 00:51:20.840
if you have friction in your family
and they're like come visit and you're like,

606
00:51:20.920 --> 00:51:22.599
I don't want to. You can
put up boundaries. You're allowed to

607
00:51:22.639 --> 00:51:29.400
do that. You really have to, Yeah, because sometimes it's just not

608
00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:35.840
worth it. It can be worth
it if you can mend things. But

609
00:51:36.440 --> 00:51:44.000
if you can't, your own self
preservation and well being is much more important.

610
00:51:44.320 --> 00:51:52.480
And you feel, you feel whole
because you did your You reached out.

611
00:51:52.679 --> 00:51:55.760
I did, which was hard to
do considering the things that went on.

612
00:51:55.960 --> 00:52:00.480
It was very hard, and you
stepped up mm hmm. And I

613
00:52:00.519 --> 00:52:04.400
did it for my mom and my
dad, Yes, because I thought,

614
00:52:05.079 --> 00:52:09.519
even though they're not here, I
thought if they knew, Yeah, that

615
00:52:10.719 --> 00:52:15.159
I knew and didn't do anything.
I mean, that would just But remember

616
00:52:15.159 --> 00:52:19.920
what Natalie the psychic said. Yes, she said, your mom does know.

617
00:52:20.199 --> 00:52:23.400
Yeah, she knows, and she's
at peace. Yeah. Yes,

618
00:52:23.480 --> 00:52:29.000
she didn't understand, so that was
kind of she didn't know any of this.

619
00:52:29.320 --> 00:52:31.199
No, she didn't know anything.
So that hopefully gave you a little

620
00:52:31.199 --> 00:52:35.840
bit of it, did peace,
Yeah, it did. But that's my

621
00:52:36.000 --> 00:52:39.000
main thing with the holidays is if
it's not something that you want to do,

622
00:52:39.719 --> 00:52:43.559
if it gives you too much stress
and too much anxiety, don't do

623
00:52:43.679 --> 00:52:46.760
it. Yeah, you know,
if it's going to result in maybe a

624
00:52:46.800 --> 00:52:54.280
fractured relationship becoming even more fractured,
sometimes it's best to just spend it with

625
00:52:54.320 --> 00:52:59.440
your chosen family. And that's what's
cool at this age we can choose our

626
00:52:59.440 --> 00:53:02.519
family, can Yeah, yeah,
yeah, you really can. And I'm

627
00:53:02.679 --> 00:53:07.039
very grateful for that. I'm very
grateful for you and the people in my

628
00:53:07.119 --> 00:53:13.159
life that I just love and cherish. You know. It's uh yeah,

629
00:53:13.800 --> 00:53:19.119
so important that you have, Like
Claire was saying, that you have someone,

630
00:53:19.719 --> 00:53:22.159
yeah, you know, support system. Yeah, support system. Yeah,

631
00:53:22.199 --> 00:53:27.599
you went through hell. I will
never forget that year. Oh no,

632
00:53:27.719 --> 00:53:34.119
it was awful. It was you
were so so stressed and so skinny,

633
00:53:34.159 --> 00:53:38.239
and you were so so sad and
yeah, everything was coming at you

634
00:53:38.320 --> 00:53:45.960
and well, and I have to
thank you because there were times where it's

635
00:53:45.000 --> 00:53:51.920
like nobody wants to hear this drama. I mean, nobody would believe some

636
00:53:51.960 --> 00:53:54.000
of the stuff that happened. Like
I could write a book, I know,

637
00:53:54.679 --> 00:53:59.000
some of the stuff was. It
was like out of a movie,

638
00:53:59.119 --> 00:54:05.079
it really is. And it was
mind boggling. And it's weird how like

639
00:54:05.280 --> 00:54:10.840
somebody you grow up with can change
like that, or can from other influences.

640
00:54:12.000 --> 00:54:14.920
Yeah. Yeah, we're trying to
be super vague about that. Yeah,

641
00:54:14.960 --> 00:54:19.880
but it was. I mean,
sometimes you're just so blown away by

642
00:54:19.920 --> 00:54:24.639
it that you I mean I was
not only knew that I was losing my

643
00:54:24.719 --> 00:54:30.679
mom, but I was just I
would wake up barely able to breathe.

644
00:54:30.800 --> 00:54:34.719
And I mean, I'm not being
over dramatic about that. I think there

645
00:54:34.760 --> 00:54:38.639
were there were times where I don't
I think I would just forget because you're

646
00:54:38.679 --> 00:54:43.000
just waiting for that other shoe to
drop, and you're like, when's it

647
00:54:43.039 --> 00:54:46.199
gonna I know it's going to happen, it's just a matter of when and

648
00:54:46.360 --> 00:54:52.719
how bad it's going to be,
you know. And a lot of it

649
00:54:52.760 --> 00:54:58.360
is like, honestly, you know, it's like I'm her son and I

650
00:54:58.400 --> 00:55:04.760
am being made to look terrible and
I hadn't done anything, and so I'm

651
00:55:04.880 --> 00:55:10.639
like yeah, and so I was
like this is crazy, but yeah,

652
00:55:10.880 --> 00:55:16.320
but you know, it's it left
me with a lot of like I went

653
00:55:16.360 --> 00:55:22.840
and visited her and my dad on
December first, and it was the first

654
00:55:22.880 --> 00:55:30.440
time that I left where I didn't
cry, because I always felt like I

655
00:55:30.480 --> 00:55:36.440
was leaving them, and this time, I, for some odd reason,

656
00:55:36.480 --> 00:55:38.840
I didn't like. It was very
with you. It was, Yeah,

657
00:55:38.840 --> 00:55:43.559
it was very strange. It was
the first time in a couple of years

658
00:55:43.559 --> 00:55:47.800
that I I didn't get super emotional
when I left. But the following day

659
00:55:49.400 --> 00:55:54.880
I woke up in tears, like
just sob out of a dead ass sleep,

660
00:55:55.880 --> 00:56:00.039
just sobbing, and I wasn't exactly
sure why. And then it just

661
00:56:00.119 --> 00:56:05.480
kind of passed like I felt a
very like I was laying in bed and

662
00:56:05.519 --> 00:56:09.360
I just felt like a very kind
of a warm sensation come over, and

663
00:56:09.400 --> 00:56:14.679
I was like, oh, I
feel like they're here and they're letting me

664
00:56:14.719 --> 00:56:16.440
know this. Okay, So yeah, I was. You know, it's

665
00:56:16.519 --> 00:56:21.800
weird leading but my dad died in
nineteen ninety eight. He was sixty years

666
00:56:21.840 --> 00:56:28.360
old suddenly, and that was a
long time ago. Yeah, and uh

667
00:56:28.960 --> 00:56:34.199
so it's the sixteenth of December is
his passing date. And so it was

668
00:56:34.239 --> 00:56:37.840
similar to you where like, God, Christmas kind of sucks now, I

669
00:56:37.840 --> 00:56:42.239
don't I don't even care, Like
I don't want to celebrate. It's but

670
00:56:42.800 --> 00:56:45.239
then you know, time passes and
then you know, you have your kids

671
00:56:45.239 --> 00:56:49.639
and you have you know, which
he never got to me, unfortunately.

672
00:56:50.199 --> 00:56:57.199
But some years, even this long
of a time, Yeah, it hits

673
00:56:57.239 --> 00:57:00.360
you. It does all at once, like whoa, and it just you

674
00:57:00.400 --> 00:57:04.360
can't predict it. Yeah, Like, I don't know what's gonna happen on

675
00:57:04.360 --> 00:57:07.119
the sixteenth. Maybe it'll just be
a day. Hey, he was cremated,

676
00:57:07.159 --> 00:57:09.039
we spread his ashes. I don't
have a place to go visit him,

677
00:57:09.079 --> 00:57:14.360
but I feel like he's everywhere.
Yeah, and I've always felt like

678
00:57:14.400 --> 00:57:17.719
that. Yeah. So, and
you know, I'm blessed to still have

679
00:57:17.800 --> 00:57:21.519
my mother. God I'm so black, and I do not take that for

680
00:57:21.599 --> 00:57:23.920
granted. Oh no, especially knowing
what you went through and how close you

681
00:57:23.960 --> 00:57:29.800
were. I call your mom,
Call your mom, tell her you love

682
00:57:29.840 --> 00:57:32.239
her. My mom used to say
to me, we'd go to dinner and

683
00:57:32.320 --> 00:57:37.039
we'd be like, the staff would
literally come to us and go she would

684
00:57:37.079 --> 00:57:40.119
eat it. Two places. She'd
eat it Islands and she'd eat it telios.

685
00:57:40.119 --> 00:57:44.199
Those were the only two places I'd
ask her to venture out and she'd

686
00:57:44.199 --> 00:57:46.159
be like, oh no, let's
no, you know, I feel like

687
00:57:46.199 --> 00:57:52.480
a tackle. But they'd have to
tell us, like I mean, they

688
00:57:52.599 --> 00:57:55.679
knew us by name, and they
were always super excited. But they'd say,

689
00:57:55.719 --> 00:57:59.559
Okay, you know, we've just
been watching you two laugh for an

690
00:57:59.559 --> 00:58:01.159
hour, but we're close. We
want to go home, and we're like

691
00:58:01.239 --> 00:58:04.840
oh, and then you know,
it'd be ten o'clock and I'd be like,

692
00:58:04.880 --> 00:58:07.079
oh god, I need to go
grocery shopping, and she's like let's

693
00:58:07.119 --> 00:58:12.079
go. Wow. So I mean
she'd be out till midnight or whatever.

694
00:58:12.159 --> 00:58:16.400
But yeah, it was uh And
I used to just stare at her like

695
00:58:16.440 --> 00:58:21.400
I was memorizing every line in her
face, and she's like, what are

696
00:58:21.440 --> 00:58:24.599
you doing? I know, isn't
that? Did you look more like your

697
00:58:24.679 --> 00:58:32.039
dad or your mom? I look
more like my I looked a lot more

698
00:58:32.079 --> 00:58:35.719
like my mom growing up, but
I look a little more like my dad

699
00:58:35.760 --> 00:58:38.280
now. But I still have a
lot of my mom's features. Yeah,

700
00:58:38.480 --> 00:58:44.760
yeah, because she was very tall
and thin and yeah. Yeah, Well,

701
00:58:45.039 --> 00:58:46.400
thank you for sharing your story,
and thank you for the message,

702
00:58:46.440 --> 00:58:51.159
because I think somebody needed to hear
that that's going through something similar. Yeah,

703
00:58:51.159 --> 00:58:52.639
and you're not alone. I mean
the first time I told that story,

704
00:58:52.960 --> 00:58:55.639
so many people messaged and said,
God, I thought I was the

705
00:58:55.679 --> 00:59:01.840
only one going through it. And
you know, I mean I still talk

706
00:59:01.920 --> 00:59:06.199
to my parents all the time.
Oh yeah, I know, I do,

707
00:59:06.320 --> 00:59:08.760
I see, Yeah, same to
my dad all the time. Yeah,

708
00:59:08.960 --> 00:59:13.639
I mean why not, I know
they're there with board, right,

709
00:59:14.360 --> 00:59:17.519
Yeah, I know my dad was
named Hester only keel. Oh my god,

710
00:59:17.519 --> 00:59:21.239
have you seen her lately? No? Oh boy, I think that

711
00:59:21.360 --> 00:59:25.719
was real. Oh it was something
picks or it didn't happen, but you

712
00:59:25.760 --> 00:59:29.159
saw it. I think you saw
something. I think you think you saw

713
00:59:29.199 --> 00:59:32.599
something. Oh, I definitely saw
something stamping, but that I don't want

714
00:59:32.639 --> 00:59:36.119
to talk about it because I don't
want to come back. Oh God,

715
00:59:36.239 --> 00:59:38.199
here she comes. I'm in a
very emotionally conflicted place right now because,

716
00:59:38.199 --> 00:59:42.679
on one hand, Eric just sold
a very heart touching story. But every

717
00:59:42.679 --> 00:59:46.480
fifteen seconds the words I have a
personalized letter from Keanu Reeves would just flash

718
00:59:46.519 --> 00:59:50.519
as my head. I'd be like, this is really touching. I'd be

719
00:59:50.559 --> 00:59:55.519
like, don't you smile like they
could see you. Oh my god,

720
00:59:55.639 --> 01:00:01.000
Kean, what a great show.
I know, real tonight for sure?

721
01:00:01.119 --> 01:00:07.239
Of course? What what is that? Merry Christmas? Yes, yeah,

722
01:00:07.719 --> 01:00:09.480
mom and dad. Merry Christmas to
your dad. Yeah, Mary rims with

723
01:00:09.559 --> 01:00:13.760
daddy and mom. I'm going to
see you on Christmas Eve, and most

724
01:00:13.760 --> 01:00:16.840
of all, Merry Christmas to me. I know your mom was so cute.

725
01:00:16.840 --> 01:00:21.280
I texted her on Thanksgiving and she's
like, my Eric, she goes,

726
01:00:21.320 --> 01:00:22.639
I was just thinking about you,
and I was like, God,

727
01:00:22.719 --> 01:00:25.480
I love her. You want to
hear something. My brother is named Eric

728
01:00:25.599 --> 01:00:30.760
spelled with a K with red hair, so like you could easily be my

729
01:00:30.800 --> 01:00:35.920
brother, like you might as well
be, because I have a similar situation

730
01:00:36.079 --> 01:00:38.679
with my brother kind of going on
sort of ever since my dad died.

731
01:00:38.719 --> 01:00:43.840
It kind of got weird. Yeah, but we're working through it. Yeah,

732
01:00:44.119 --> 01:00:54.199
my brother's named keanun you say that
him the best, not just say

733
01:00:54.239 --> 01:01:00.199
he's a lot older than me.
There's no one to thank you for my

734
01:01:00.320 --> 01:01:04.440
sweatshirt. Oh my god, I
knew it. Damn it. That was

735
01:01:04.480 --> 01:01:07.960
my favorite one. I don't want
I don't know, but I'll get you.

736
01:01:07.960 --> 01:01:09.400
Want you want what you want this
kind? Did they have one do

737
01:01:09.480 --> 01:01:12.800
anything with like their font on it, like their logo? Yeah, I'll

738
01:01:12.840 --> 01:01:15.320
get you. Want a hoodie?
Yeah, all right, I'll get you.

739
01:01:15.920 --> 01:01:19.360
I love their text, like the
like logo. I know it's super

740
01:01:19.360 --> 01:01:22.480
cool. Alright, we're talking about
Dolphe's Club and all right, we're just

741
01:01:22.599 --> 01:01:30.320
we're rolling through topics. Damn anything, damn it. Next week is our

742
01:01:30.400 --> 01:01:36.960
big TAMU Christmas, No Tuesday.
I have a big gift for both of

743
01:01:36.960 --> 01:01:40.159
you though, actually is it a
duel get like for both of us or

744
01:01:40.199 --> 01:01:43.920
one for me one for him.
It's for the show. I was also

745
01:01:43.960 --> 01:01:45.800
going to have a gift individually,
for each of you that I'll still do

746
01:01:45.880 --> 01:01:49.800
eventually, but it wasn't going to
be ready in time. But I have

747
01:01:49.880 --> 01:01:52.719
a gift for the show. So
cool all of us. Oh, that's

748
01:01:52.760 --> 01:01:57.880
awesome. And then on our Thursday
show we have that's our Christmas Christmas show

749
01:01:58.159 --> 01:02:01.079
and we have special outfits and everything. Yes, and you're going to sing,

750
01:02:01.480 --> 01:02:05.800
uh, jingle bells or something.
Ill. No, I do not.

751
01:02:07.760 --> 01:02:12.519
I do not do Christmas carols walking
around in ladies underwear or whatever,

752
01:02:13.280 --> 01:02:16.280
walking around and deck the halls with
balls of holly. Oh yeah, I

753
01:02:16.320 --> 01:02:19.719
thought you were going to do that. Oh my god, maybe miss Leo

754
01:02:19.880 --> 01:02:22.880
come in? Oh my god?
What miss Lee and Drake came in last

755
01:02:22.960 --> 01:02:27.800
year. We used to do when
I worked with Jeff and Jerr, we

756
01:02:28.159 --> 01:02:30.400
used to have to play Christmas music
on one of the stations we weren't and

757
01:02:30.440 --> 01:02:36.599
we've made up dirty lyrics to every
single Christmas during the breaks. It was

758
01:02:37.119 --> 01:02:42.760
so do you have those written down
anywhere? Oh? Oh, they're they're

759
01:02:43.519 --> 01:02:46.679
definitely. Balls were in there,
definitely, Like I don't know, I

760
01:02:46.679 --> 01:02:50.400
can't think of anything off the top
of my head, and I don't want

761
01:02:50.440 --> 01:02:53.599
to bag on the station because one
of the things we talked about was about

762
01:02:53.639 --> 01:02:58.960
the stage. Oh no, oh, no, all no, I can't

763
01:02:59.000 --> 01:03:01.599
say tell me later. No,
I'll tell you later. Anyway, thank

764
01:03:01.639 --> 01:03:06.199
you for sharing her because I know
you're you're kind of a private person,

765
01:03:06.239 --> 01:03:09.840
and I I respect that. You
know, I'm like completely the opposite.

766
01:03:10.880 --> 01:03:19.519
So it's it's it's really cool to
have some insight into your life. Yeah,

767
01:03:19.639 --> 01:03:23.760
I think I don't. Yeah,
anyway, don't miss next week.

768
01:03:23.880 --> 01:03:29.079
It's gonna be big. You are
going down. You're going down. So

769
01:03:29.559 --> 01:03:32.920
my gifts run the gamut. You
guys, I mean Eric one, but

770
01:03:34.119 --> 01:03:39.400
I won for receiving, so you
really did so Eric won, Eric one

771
01:03:39.719 --> 01:03:45.000
already one. But this little thing
we're doing, it's we're not going to

772
01:03:45.079 --> 01:03:47.760
do a vote on the website or
anything. Is better. Are you guys

773
01:03:47.760 --> 01:03:52.880
giving real gifts as well? Or
only team Yeah? My real gift was

774
01:03:52.920 --> 01:03:59.519
the the he got He brought us
new microphones. Yeah, for the show

775
01:04:00.079 --> 01:04:02.840
gifts. But but as far as
giving each other something, no, we

776
01:04:02.840 --> 01:04:08.280
we said we're only going to do
that hideous like that's your gift, So

777
01:04:08.400 --> 01:04:11.039
this is your gift. I'm the
only person getting real gifts this year.

778
01:04:11.079 --> 01:04:15.920
Friend, you really you are?
Yeah, family, the only gift that's

779
01:04:15.920 --> 01:04:18.800
gonna make anybody in this group smile, because Laura will be crying next week

780
01:04:18.920 --> 01:04:23.920
when I'm the baby, real baby
of the family. You are, so

781
01:04:24.239 --> 01:04:28.960
you are literally quite so, Yeah
you are. You're gonna wake up on

782
01:04:29.039 --> 01:04:38.239
Christmas morning Santa is coming for you. That was what a great thing.

783
01:04:38.519 --> 01:04:43.440
That was fantastic, well done,
well done, well done. All right,

784
01:04:44.840 --> 01:04:46.360
it's literally like my family heirloom.
Now like this is gonna get passed

785
01:04:46.400 --> 01:04:50.559
down, Oh my god, totally, which is like my dad Like,

786
01:04:50.639 --> 01:04:53.880
yeah, I got the autograph from
Clark Gable. I'm like, what the

787
01:04:53.920 --> 01:05:00.199
fuck is Clark Gable? I love
Clark Gable, but that would be amazing

788
01:05:00.199 --> 01:05:09.000
thing to have. Keanu's like,
he's iconic. K He's getting a little

789
01:05:09.000 --> 01:05:13.000
bit closer to home every day.
I know he's gonna be sitting right there

790
01:05:13.119 --> 01:05:15.840
one of these days eventually, when
that when the Funko Pop reaches the seat,

791
01:05:16.039 --> 01:05:18.719
we will summon real Kean. He
yes, yes, full sized.

792
01:05:19.920 --> 01:05:24.639
So oh, make sure that you
guys check out Laura Kane after Dark and

793
01:05:24.760 --> 01:05:28.320
the doll Face Club. So we're
a living house. The five dollars donation

794
01:05:28.440 --> 01:05:32.559
that you give gets your name into
a box and the thousand dollars holiday Christmas

795
01:05:32.559 --> 01:05:36.679
box could be yours. We're gonna
pick the winters. There's more stuff coming

796
01:05:38.159 --> 01:05:41.599
and every five dollars you donate gets
your name put into the box and we'll

797
01:05:41.599 --> 01:05:44.119
do the drawing on the twenty first. Do you want to put your Do

798
01:05:44.119 --> 01:05:45.719
you want to put your dress in
the box for somebody that can actually fit

799
01:05:45.800 --> 01:05:49.679
into it's ruined, it's ripped.
I can't. And it was a nice

800
01:05:49.719 --> 01:05:53.960
dress once it was if your size
too, and you know how to sew,

801
01:05:54.480 --> 01:06:00.039
yeah, be my guess you don't
mind looking like ornate furniture. It

802
01:06:00.079 --> 01:06:04.320
was a beautiful dress. She sent
me a picture of her in it,

803
01:06:04.360 --> 01:06:08.960
and I was all, Holy smoke, were you just like pouring out of

804
01:06:09.000 --> 01:06:13.039
it? Oh my god? The
top was like Dolly Parton. All I

805
01:06:13.039 --> 01:06:15.559
wanted to do was I took a
selfie of me in the car in the

806
01:06:15.639 --> 01:06:19.960
dress. I wanted to show how
the buttons were kind of like coming like

807
01:06:20.239 --> 01:06:28.400
screaming. Gap. Let me just
say something. All the comments I got

808
01:06:28.800 --> 01:06:32.119
were from men because my boobs are
so it looks so hute. Oh my

809
01:06:32.119 --> 01:06:38.360
god. I did. I posted
it because I wanted to show what was

810
01:06:38.400 --> 01:06:44.239
happening to the dress. When in
reality my boobs look at this. Oh

811
01:06:44.280 --> 01:06:50.360
my god. And then I don't
mean as if I wasn't assaulted enough.

812
01:06:50.760 --> 01:06:56.159
She sends me this that she wore
these to work pink crocs, yes,

813
01:06:56.639 --> 01:07:02.119
hideous with socks. You know what
else I wore to work on Sunday onesie?

814
01:07:02.760 --> 01:07:05.480
Oh god, you know why didn't
you just wear it all together?

815
01:07:06.039 --> 01:07:09.440
Did I wear the cross? No? But look what I'm worrying right now.

816
01:07:09.559 --> 01:07:15.519
Oh no, oh no, for
Walt, I'll take my god,

817
01:07:15.760 --> 01:07:20.679
not even real. I'll take birks
of our croc furry pinks from Walmart.

818
01:07:21.199 --> 01:07:25.519
There's so many things wrong with that
sentence. Yeah, you have no class,

819
01:07:25.639 --> 01:07:30.320
King God, Me and Eric over
here we understand Stoley, we do.

820
01:07:30.800 --> 01:07:33.840
Oh my god. You don't break
out into a rash when you walk

821
01:07:33.880 --> 01:07:40.239
into a Walmart. No, I
love like a shame wrest. Walmart is

822
01:07:40.280 --> 01:07:44.400
there's so many good prices and you
can find some. Probably they probably have

823
01:07:44.480 --> 01:07:48.239
a cream there for your rash of
shame. Ship you out to the lakeside

824
01:07:48.280 --> 01:07:51.360
that you get when you I thought
you were in the same from my vagina

825
01:07:51.519 --> 01:07:58.239
something no box? Okay, wait
a minute, what whoa what? So?

826
01:07:58.480 --> 01:08:04.719
She says the other day oh god, what I'm gonna No, yes,

827
01:08:05.960 --> 01:08:09.280
do I want to know this?
No, check this out. You

828
01:08:09.400 --> 01:08:11.920
might not want to come into work
that day. I'm not coming to work

829
01:08:12.000 --> 01:08:16.000
that day. What my the man
who delivered both my babies, my guy,

830
01:08:16.199 --> 01:08:19.520
my obg Yan, the guy who's
had his fists right up in your

831
01:08:20.039 --> 01:08:26.800
boo many many times. Yuck has
retired, but in his office he had

832
01:08:27.159 --> 01:08:31.680
a of like a mold, not
a mold. But when I talked about

833
01:08:31.720 --> 01:08:33.840
this, yeah, you want to
bring in the model. I know he

834
01:08:33.960 --> 01:08:36.359
still has it. I know he
kept it and I'm going to get it

835
01:08:36.359 --> 01:08:42.720
from him Amazon like dirty. No, do not give her any ideas where's

836
01:08:42.800 --> 01:08:45.119
that one that comes apart so we
can put it back together. I already

837
01:08:45.199 --> 01:08:48.960
told you I'm not doing that.
You have to order it because I'm not

838
01:08:49.000 --> 01:08:51.439
going to order it. Order it. I'll order it. I'll send it

839
01:08:51.520 --> 01:08:55.119
to you. You know. It's
so funny. My son is also on

840
01:08:55.199 --> 01:08:58.239
my Amazon account. He goes,
Mom, what in the hell are you?

841
01:08:58.319 --> 01:09:00.039
Because there's some things on there that
I ordered that are like whack could

842
01:09:00.039 --> 01:09:02.600
do? And this is going to
be the most whack. And this is

843
01:09:02.680 --> 01:09:08.359
my disclaimer, and I will say
it right now. If you bring one

844
01:09:08.399 --> 01:09:14.800
of those in, I'm going to
have a jug of epicac. All your

845
01:09:15.640 --> 01:09:21.079
friends are mail, all your best
friends are female. There's some lifelike ones.

846
01:09:21.239 --> 01:09:26.680
Okay, don't show him. Don't
show okay, because help me pick

847
01:09:26.760 --> 01:09:30.960
one. Oh oh my god,
no, you are not asking my Brian

848
01:09:30.119 --> 01:09:34.640
to help. I think you.
Brian is actually like excited about this.

849
01:09:34.760 --> 01:09:39.479
Oh he's not. He's going to
tell you to f off because he got

850
01:09:39.560 --> 01:09:43.359
the gift that's going to keep giving. Oh now he's going to use the

851
01:09:43.439 --> 01:09:45.840
gift against you, Brian, don't
you don't. He said he got you

852
01:09:45.920 --> 01:09:49.039
the gift that keeps on giving.
So now don't help me. Absolutely is

853
01:09:49.039 --> 01:09:51.840
a million favors from me. Oh
god, all right, we got to

854
01:09:51.960 --> 01:09:56.239
end this show. We do.
We were having so much I know,

855
01:09:56.279 --> 01:10:00.399
we're having so much fun, and
it was it's been great and and we

856
01:10:00.560 --> 01:10:02.479
love you guys, thank you so
much for listening. And next week is

857
01:10:02.520 --> 01:10:10.279
going to be awesome. It's gonna
be can't so much fun and it's our

858
01:10:10.399 --> 01:10:15.199
big Christmas week shows two and make
sure you donate. Laura Kane after dark

859
01:10:15.239 --> 01:10:19.960
dot com so living and love your
podcast. Thank you so much, you

860
01:10:20.000 --> 01:10:25.359
guys for watching and listening. What
are you doing? What was that?

861
01:10:25.880 --> 01:10:29.680
I don't know what are you talking
about? Just lock out? I love

862
01:10:29.720 --> 01:10:31.239
you. I love you too.
I'm actually not gonna cu him off this

863
01:10:31.279 --> 01:10:36.039
time because he has a million favors
from me. He's gonna he gets as

864
01:10:36.119 --> 01:10:41.000
much time to ramble as Brian.
Why did you tell him that? Well,

865
01:10:41.079 --> 01:10:44.039
I'm just saying that he I owe
him a lot of favors now,

866
01:10:44.119 --> 01:10:46.039
and so I am not going to
forcibly sign him out now. Brian's the

867
01:10:46.119 --> 01:10:50.039
best thing since slice bread. I'm
going to take my pants off right now.

868
01:10:50.119 --> 01:10:55.640
Oh no, I do not want
to see your labia. No,

869
01:10:55.800 --> 01:10:58.279
okay, well I don't want to
see that either. You can't see it

870
01:10:58.359 --> 01:11:01.199
from here, only he can.
No, wouldn't bet All right, I'm

871
01:11:01.239 --> 01:11:04.560
doing it. Here goes my belt, then lock out? No, here

872
01:11:04.680 --> 01:11:10.159
goes my belt, Here goes my
love your podcast, Love you, my

873
01:11:10.279 --> 01:11:12.399
sweet babies. Bye bye