Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. When
they know that they have the advantage, they will take advantage. When they
know they have the advantage, they will take advantage because you have shown them
that's how they can treat you. You have shown them that whatever they do,
it's okay, you go alone with whatever, because you want to be
with that person so bad. Do you understand that the more you allow your
significant other treat you badly, the more badly they will treat you because you're
giving them the okay, You're giving them a green light, and you are
making them believe that whatever they're putting you through, you're gonna go along with
it because you have no consequences for what they do. You forgive every single
thing that they do, and oftentimes they don't even say sorry. You just
act as if it never happened because you want to be with that person so
bad. Let me tell you right now, that's telling you something about yourself.
I did an episode a couple of weeks ago that said, if your
significant other don't enhance your life, you've chosen the wrong person. If you
allow a person to treat you any kind of way, they know, they
absolutely know they have the advantage over you. They know it, and because
they know it, they will always take advantage of you. If you've allowed
them to have advantage over you, they will take advantage of you because you
have allowed it. I've told you before, people love their significant others not
based on what they're significant others are doing. They base their love on what
they want, what they desire, how they feel. That's why so many
people are in bad situations because they're not looking at reality. They're not looking
at the big picture. They're only looking at what they want. They're not
getting it, but they don't even realize they're not getting it because they're so
focused on being with them, being with her. They're not even grasping reality
that they're not getting what they want. They're not grasping reality that they have
allowed that person to take advantage of them, and they know it. The
individual know it, Your significant other know it. They know when they have
advantage over you. That's why they take advantage of you. Anyone who allows
their significant other to treat them this way, you have to really look at
yourself. What is it in your life that you are lacking? What is
it about you that have you in the mindset that you're in. You have
unhealed hearts and minds, and many people in the world are this way.
And when you have that unhealed heart, unhealed mind, your mindset, it's
going to cause you to live a life of drama. I'm just telling you
you're gonna live a life of drama because you can't see clearly. You can't
see it all. Really, you're blind by your feelings, your wants,
your desires, your emotions. You're blind. And that is why your significant
other nose. They know without a doubt, they know that they have advantage
ovity. They know it. They know it because you've shown them no requirements,
no consequences, no boundaries, nothing. When you do this to yourself,
you empower them absolutely, you empower them, and you give them advantage
over you while you putting yourself at a disadvantage. So many people are in
these types of unhealthy and toxic relationships. But again they cannot see because they're
blind. They're blind by what they feel, desire, want and all of
those things. They cannot see how badly they're actually being treated. Most times,
people around you see it, but you can't see it because your heart,
in your mind won't allow you to see it. You want what you
want, you are blind to reality because again, as I said earlier,
you base your love not on what's actually taking place because you can't see that
your significant other it's taking advantage of you. You can't see it because you're
loving him or her based on how you feel, what you want, what
you desire, and not on what you're getting. You're not basing it on
what you're getting because you're so fixated on what you want, what you desire,
that you're blind to what you're actually getting. People are taught too,
terrible, disrespected, taking total advantage of But many individuals they just go along
with it. They don't say anything, They go along with it because they
would rather do that than to be by themselves. Now that isn't awful.
It's not a word. It is awful for anyone to put his or herself
in that type of situation. And I always tell you you you are the
one who is the individual who teaches your significant other exactly how they can treat
you you. You are the one who's teaching him or her exactly how to
treat you. You're the one who's taught them that they can take advantage of
you. You. So many people are in these types of relationships miserable,
unhappy, sad, just in total misery because again, you love your significant
other and want to be with your significant other most times based on how you
feel and not based on what you're actually getting. And I've said this plenty
times, plenty of times I've talked about all of this on previous episodes.
If you didn't catch go back into the episodes and find it and listen to
it. If you stay with your significant other seventy five years, one hundred
years, they will still treat you how you've allowed them to treat you.
And I'm telling you, any time a significant other treat who they're with any
type of way, it's because they know they can. It's because they know
they have the advantage. And hey, like I said, if they know
they have the advantage, they're gonna take advantage of you. And this is
what many people settle for. You have to really understand your worth. Whether
you're male or female, you must understand your worth. And no one,
no one should allow a man or a woman to bring them down, to
cause them drama and chaos, to make them feel bad about self, to
take advantage of them, Yet so many people do because you have unhealed hearts
and unhealed minds. You have all of that unresolved inside of you that you
cannot see the truth. You cannot see reality. Your view of reality is
distorted because you're blind to the truth. Check yourself, don't take my word,
check yourself. Look at your relationship. What do you feel about it
now? What do your significant other feel about it? How are you trying
to make it better? How is your significant other trying to make it better?
Because people only and I do mean only do what you let them get
away with it. So many do not understand just what I said. They
only get away with what you allow them to get away with. If you
don't think you're worth better, you're gonna stay right where you are. If
you lack things such as self love, the ability to know your words,
most times, you're gonna remain where you're at because you would rather be there
than by yourself. Many people walking around every day crying on the inside,
completely miserable, just miserable because you're trying to love someone who is not evenly
yoked with you. You're trying to love someone who has a different agenda.
You're trying to love someone who don't love you back. You're trying to love
someone who's taking advantage of you. You're trying to love someone who's not worthy
of your love. And I can go on and on and on. People
only do to you what you allow. And if you don't think that you're
worth better than what you're getting, if you don't think you deserve better,
you will continue to stay where you are physically and mentally. It's a fact
many people they've lost themselves. They feel helpless, they feel alone, they're
lonely, yet they have a significant other. You're hurting full of head,
in a heartache because you have not dealt with your unresolved issues. You have
a dealt with them. Now you're in a relationship with someone who is taking
full and total advantage of you. They know, they know they're doing it.
A person who takes advantage of you, they know they're doing it,
But as long as you don't say anything or do anything about it, they'll
keep doing it. They know they're doing it. When you know and you
still do it, you don't care. You do not care. You gotta
know your worth. You have to want better for yourself. Some of you
just give all of your power away. You lose yourself. You don't even
know who you are anymore. Some of you never found yourself. You never
found yourself, you never figured you out because you spend all of your time
worrying about your significant other, trying to figure him out, trying to figure
her out, that you end up losing yourself. Now, you're unhappy,
you're sad, all types of things that could be avoided so many but it's
what people do to themselves. All around the world, you have people in
relationships being taken advantage of. Some of you know it's taking place, but
you won't do anything about it, because, like I said, you'd rather
be with that person than no one at all. You set yourself up for
great failure, for great headache and heartache when you know you're being taken advantage
of and do nothing. You're not alone, though. Many people are in
the same situation as you. They know they're taking advantage of. They know
that the person that they love or want to be with is not doing right
by them. They know it, but some of you won't say anything.
You will not rock the boat. You're walking on eggshelves. You're keeping your
lips zipped because you don't want to rock the boat. You don't want to,
you're afraid to, so you go along with it. Even though you
don't like it. You're hurt, it makes you cry, but you still
go along with it. Your significant other knows they have the advantage. They
know that's why they're taking advantage of you. They know it. And until
people really want better for self, they'll continue the same path. They'll continue
the same drama. You'll keep reliving it because you've never ever got to that
place of understanding who you are, loving yourself, accepting responsibility for who you
have become, and who you've allowed in your life. If you keep going
through life the same, you're gonna keep getting the same results. You're gonna
continue to get into relationships where you have given all your power away. You're
gonna continue in relationships where you're being taken advantage of because at the end of
it all you treat it how you've allowed yourself to be treated, and your
significant other always know. That's why the are some who they're abusive. They
disrespect on all levels. They don't contribute to the relationship. They do whatever
they want. They come and go all times of day and night. They
go, come and go whenever they please, all times of day and night.
Some don't come home at all. They go home when they feel like
it. But you say nothing, you do nothing. So guess what.
It continues to happen. Duh. It continues to happen because they know they
can go hang out all night, a day or whatever, and they know
you're not gonna say anything. That's why they do it. Because they know
they have the advantage over you. They know it. That's why they take
advantage of you, and they will continue to do so until you do something
about it because they know exactly what they're doing. That individual who knows where
he or she is doing, they're not into you like you're into them,
I promise you, because a person who truly loves you care about you and
your well being. They're not going to share take advantage of you. They're
not. They're not how you live your life. Allowing people to treat you
is exactly how they'll treat you. If you let yourself be taking advantage of
it's gonna happen. So people have to really work on self, really work
on self and face those issues, those unresolved unhealed parts of you that have
you in the mindset that you're in. Because if that mindset don't change,
forget about it. Forget about it. If your mindset does not change,
let me say it again, if your mindset does not change, there is
no change taking place. You will remain the same. And that's just the
way it is. It's the truth. You don't have to accept it,
but it's still the truth. You know, this life is full of people
with unresolved issues full. We see it every day. We see it in
the things people do, the things people say. But when you have a
significant other, that individual is supposed to love you, be there for you,
you know, support you, and you protect him. He protect you.
That individual If he's taking advantage of you, he's doing it because he
know he can. They know exactly what they can and cannot do, because
you show them, you teach them. If you want your life to be
better, you have to be willing to do better. You have to be
willing to make that change. And as I always tell you, what you're
doing is up to you. I'm just giving you the information. On that
note, I'm leaving it right there. I hope that you really, really,
really really listen to my words. I hope that you really really allow
what I've said to permeate, that to get down inside of you, that
you can go back to it and think about it when you realize, when
you accept how you're being treated. So I'm leaving it right there. Thank
you for listening. Much love to each and every one of you. I
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