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Hey, Hey, I'm back with
something for you to think about. When

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they know that they have the advantage, they will take advantage. When they

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know they have the advantage, they
will take advantage because you have shown them

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that's how they can treat you.
You have shown them that whatever they do,

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it's okay, you go alone with
whatever, because you want to be

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with that person so bad. Do
you understand that the more you allow your

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significant other treat you badly, the
more badly they will treat you because you're

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giving them the okay, You're giving
them a green light, and you are

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making them believe that whatever they're putting
you through, you're gonna go along with

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it because you have no consequences for
what they do. You forgive every single

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thing that they do, and oftentimes
they don't even say sorry. You just

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act as if it never happened because
you want to be with that person so

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bad. Let me tell you right
now, that's telling you something about yourself.

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I did an episode a couple of
weeks ago that said, if your

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significant other don't enhance your life,
you've chosen the wrong person. If you

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allow a person to treat you any
kind of way, they know, they

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absolutely know they have the advantage over
you. They know it, and because

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they know it, they will always
take advantage of you. If you've allowed

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them to have advantage over you,
they will take advantage of you because you

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have allowed it. I've told you
before, people love their significant others not

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based on what they're significant others are
doing. They base their love on what

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they want, what they desire,
how they feel. That's why so many

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people are in bad situations because they're
not looking at reality. They're not looking

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at the big picture. They're only
looking at what they want. They're not

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getting it, but they don't even
realize they're not getting it because they're so

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focused on being with them, being
with her. They're not even grasping reality

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that they're not getting what they want. They're not grasping reality that they have

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allowed that person to take advantage of
them, and they know it. The

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individual know it, Your significant other
know it. They know when they have

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advantage over you. That's why they
take advantage of you. Anyone who allows

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their significant other to treat them this
way, you have to really look at

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yourself. What is it in your
life that you are lacking? What is

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it about you that have you in
the mindset that you're in. You have

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unhealed hearts and minds, and many
people in the world are this way.

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And when you have that unhealed heart, unhealed mind, your mindset, it's

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going to cause you to live a
life of drama. I'm just telling you

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you're gonna live a life of drama
because you can't see clearly. You can't

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see it all. Really, you're
blind by your feelings, your wants,

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your desires, your emotions. You're
blind. And that is why your significant

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other nose. They know without a
doubt, they know that they have advantage

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ovity. They know it. They
know it because you've shown them no requirements,

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no consequences, no boundaries, nothing. When you do this to yourself,

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you empower them absolutely, you empower
them, and you give them advantage

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over you while you putting yourself at
a disadvantage. So many people are in

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these types of unhealthy and toxic relationships. But again they cannot see because they're

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blind. They're blind by what they
feel, desire, want and all of

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those things. They cannot see how
badly they're actually being treated. Most times,

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people around you see it, but
you can't see it because your heart,

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in your mind won't allow you to
see it. You want what you

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want, you are blind to reality
because again, as I said earlier,

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you base your love not on what's
actually taking place because you can't see that

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your significant other it's taking advantage of
you. You can't see it because you're

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loving him or her based on how
you feel, what you want, what

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you desire, and not on what
you're getting. You're not basing it on

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what you're getting because you're so fixated
on what you want, what you desire,

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that you're blind to what you're actually
getting. People are taught too,

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terrible, disrespected, taking total advantage
of But many individuals they just go along

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with it. They don't say anything, They go along with it because they

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would rather do that than to be
by themselves. Now that isn't awful.

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It's not a word. It is
awful for anyone to put his or herself

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in that type of situation. And
I always tell you you you are the

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one who is the individual who teaches
your significant other exactly how they can treat

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you you. You are the one
who's teaching him or her exactly how to

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treat you. You're the one who's
taught them that they can take advantage of

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you. You. So many people
are in these types of relationships miserable,

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unhappy, sad, just in total
misery because again, you love your significant

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other and want to be with your
significant other most times based on how you

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feel and not based on what you're
actually getting. And I've said this plenty

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times, plenty of times I've talked
about all of this on previous episodes.

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If you didn't catch go back into
the episodes and find it and listen to

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it. If you stay with your
significant other seventy five years, one hundred

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years, they will still treat you
how you've allowed them to treat you.

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And I'm telling you, any time
a significant other treat who they're with any

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type of way, it's because they
know they can. It's because they know

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they have the advantage. And hey, like I said, if they know

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they have the advantage, they're gonna
take advantage of you. And this is

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what many people settle for. You
have to really understand your worth. Whether

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you're male or female, you must
understand your worth. And no one,

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no one should allow a man or
a woman to bring them down, to

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cause them drama and chaos, to
make them feel bad about self, to

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take advantage of them, Yet so
many people do because you have unhealed hearts

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and unhealed minds. You have all
of that unresolved inside of you that you

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cannot see the truth. You cannot
see reality. Your view of reality is

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distorted because you're blind to the truth. Check yourself, don't take my word,

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check yourself. Look at your relationship. What do you feel about it

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now? What do your significant other
feel about it? How are you trying

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to make it better? How is
your significant other trying to make it better?

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Because people only and I do mean
only do what you let them get

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away with it. So many do
not understand just what I said. They

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only get away with what you allow
them to get away with. If you

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don't think you're worth better, you're
gonna stay right where you are. If

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you lack things such as self love, the ability to know your words,

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most times, you're gonna remain where
you're at because you would rather be there

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than by yourself. Many people walking
around every day crying on the inside,

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completely miserable, just miserable because you're
trying to love someone who is not evenly

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yoked with you. You're trying to
love someone who has a different agenda.

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You're trying to love someone who don't
love you back. You're trying to love

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someone who's taking advantage of you.
You're trying to love someone who's not worthy

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of your love. And I can
go on and on and on. People

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only do to you what you allow. And if you don't think that you're

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worth better than what you're getting,
if you don't think you deserve better,

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you will continue to stay where you
are physically and mentally. It's a fact

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many people they've lost themselves. They
feel helpless, they feel alone, they're

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lonely, yet they have a significant
other. You're hurting full of head,

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in a heartache because you have not
dealt with your unresolved issues. You have

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a dealt with them. Now you're
in a relationship with someone who is taking

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full and total advantage of you.
They know, they know they're doing it.

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A person who takes advantage of you, they know they're doing it,

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But as long as you don't say
anything or do anything about it, they'll

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keep doing it. They know they're
doing it. When you know and you

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still do it, you don't care. You do not care. You gotta

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know your worth. You have to
want better for yourself. Some of you

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just give all of your power away. You lose yourself. You don't even

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know who you are anymore. Some
of you never found yourself. You never

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found yourself, you never figured you
out because you spend all of your time

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worrying about your significant other, trying
to figure him out, trying to figure

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her out, that you end up
losing yourself. Now, you're unhappy,

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you're sad, all types of things
that could be avoided so many but it's

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what people do to themselves. All
around the world, you have people in

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relationships being taken advantage of. Some
of you know it's taking place, but

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you won't do anything about it,
because, like I said, you'd rather

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be with that person than no one
at all. You set yourself up for

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great failure, for great headache and
heartache when you know you're being taken advantage

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of and do nothing. You're not
alone, though. Many people are in

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the same situation as you. They
know they're taking advantage of. They know

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that the person that they love or
want to be with is not doing right

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by them. They know it,
but some of you won't say anything.

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You will not rock the boat.
You're walking on eggshelves. You're keeping your

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lips zipped because you don't want to
rock the boat. You don't want to,

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you're afraid to, so you go
along with it. Even though you

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don't like it. You're hurt,
it makes you cry, but you still

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go along with it. Your significant
other knows they have the advantage. They

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know that's why they're taking advantage of
you. They know it. And until

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people really want better for self,
they'll continue the same path. They'll continue

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the same drama. You'll keep reliving
it because you've never ever got to that

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place of understanding who you are,
loving yourself, accepting responsibility for who you

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have become, and who you've allowed
in your life. If you keep going

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through life the same, you're gonna
keep getting the same results. You're gonna

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continue to get into relationships where you
have given all your power away. You're

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gonna continue in relationships where you're being
taken advantage of because at the end of

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it all you treat it how you've
allowed yourself to be treated, and your

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significant other always know. That's why
the are some who they're abusive. They

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disrespect on all levels. They don't
contribute to the relationship. They do whatever

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they want. They come and go
all times of day and night. They

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go, come and go whenever they
please, all times of day and night.

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Some don't come home at all.
They go home when they feel like

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it. But you say nothing,
you do nothing. So guess what.

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It continues to happen. Duh.
It continues to happen because they know they

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can go hang out all night,
a day or whatever, and they know

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you're not gonna say anything. That's
why they do it. Because they know

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they have the advantage over you.
They know it. That's why they take

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advantage of you, and they will
continue to do so until you do something

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about it because they know exactly what
they're doing. That individual who knows where

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he or she is doing, they're
not into you like you're into them,

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I promise you, because a person
who truly loves you care about you and

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your well being. They're not going
to share take advantage of you. They're

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not. They're not how you live
your life. Allowing people to treat you

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is exactly how they'll treat you.
If you let yourself be taking advantage of

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it's gonna happen. So people have
to really work on self, really work

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on self and face those issues,
those unresolved unhealed parts of you that have

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you in the mindset that you're in. Because if that mindset don't change,

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forget about it. Forget about it. If your mindset does not change,

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let me say it again, if
your mindset does not change, there is

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no change taking place. You will
remain the same. And that's just the

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way it is. It's the truth. You don't have to accept it,

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but it's still the truth. You
know, this life is full of people

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with unresolved issues full. We see
it every day. We see it in

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the things people do, the things
people say. But when you have a

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significant other, that individual is supposed
to love you, be there for you,

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you know, support you, and
you protect him. He protect you.

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That individual If he's taking advantage of
you, he's doing it because he

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know he can. They know exactly
what they can and cannot do, because

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you show them, you teach them. If you want your life to be

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better, you have to be willing
to do better. You have to be

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willing to make that change. And
as I always tell you, what you're

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doing is up to you. I'm
just giving you the information. On that

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note, I'm leaving it right there. I hope that you really, really,

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really really listen to my words.
I hope that you really really allow

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what I've said to permeate, that
to get down inside of you, that

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you can go back to it and
think about it when you realize, when

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you accept how you're being treated.
So I'm leaving it right there. Thank

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you for listening. Much love to
each and every one of you. I

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