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I'm back with something for you to
think about. In this episode, I'm

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gonna talk about the lack of self
control and discipline, the lack of self

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control and discipline. Millions in the
world have a lack of self control and

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discipline. People want to blame everyone
and everything for their lack of self control

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and discipline. That's why so many
people do all types of things. They

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fly out the handle, meaning they
get angry, enraged, people overeating.

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They just get bigger and bigger.
And that's not always the case. It's

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not always about gaining weight. Some
people lose tremendous amount of weight because they're

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an erected, they have eating disorders. People still liars, pathological liars.

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I mean, the list can go
on and on. Bottom line of up

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front lack of self control and discipline, and a lot of it steems from

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immaturity. Because I've told you many
times it doesn't matter if you're older,

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if you're an adult, grown grown, as I say, it doesn't mean

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you're mature. A lot of people
go through life so difficult they take the

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hard room when they don't have to. It's not hard to have self control

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in discipline. It's not even if
you wasn't taught self control and discipline.

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Even if you don't know anything about
it, you can learn it. It's

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all about the mindset. It's all
about you who you choose to be.

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Let's just talk about losing weight.
If you want to lose weight, what's

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stopping you. No one is stopping
you. Nothing is stopping you. It's

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your mindset. That's your greatest enemy, your mindset. You don't think you

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can lose weight. You think it's
so hard. You allow the cravings and

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all of that to get to you
because you have no willpower you. You

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don't have no self control, you
have no discipline. Now, everyone have

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a certain amount when it comes to
what they want to do, but normally

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those things that they're kind of kind
of stand offishabau really don't want to approach.

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Oh my goodness, people blame and
blame the bank. I had someone

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told me, oh, you don't
need to lose any more weight because if

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you get sick, who's planning on
getting sick? Who is planning on getting

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sick? That makes no sense to
me. So don't be at your healthy

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weight because if you get sick,
that's ridiculous, totally ridiculous. First of

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all people are overweight and they get
so comfortable with a certain weight that it's

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normal to them. They've been that
weight for so many years that it becomes

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normal to them. But that don't
mean that you're at a healthy weight.

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Just because you're comfortable and it's normal
to you because you've been that weight for

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so long, it does not mean
it's normal. So please stop thinking that

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it's normal, and stop thinking,
oh, you don't need to lose any

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more weight, because that's ridiculous.
If you're not at your good healthy weight

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means you're still overweight. You may
not look at but you are according to

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the scale. So please get that
out of your head. Because first of

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all, none of us was meant
to be fat and overweight, and some

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are morbidly obese. That wasn't their
intent for any of us. And the

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only way you get that way is
been in those elbows. I mean,

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that's the truth. Don't tell me
old medication. No, medication don't make

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you fat. It may make you
want to eat, but it don't make

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you fat. You gain weight because
you've been in those elbows and you're eating

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the wrong things, and because people
lack self control and discipline. It's so

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hard for them. They struggle immensely
because their mind is telling them one thing

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and their hearts is telling them something
else. So they're struggling. They want

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that chocolate cake, they want that
ice cream, they want those chips.

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I know I don't even eat those
things. But guess what if I go

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to the store and pass them my
mind and say, hey, get that,

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knowing I don't eat that. But
you should be controlling your mind,

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not letting your mind control you.
So you have to have self control an

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discipline. When that little voice in
my head, I said, are you

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the devil? Go back to the
pit of hell. That's where you belong.

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Go to the deepest part of the
abyss because you get nothing here.

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I'm not gonna get it. And
that's that, and I'm moved right on

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alone. I don't give in.
So you have to gain self control.

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Some people are terribly overweight, but
they're still eating large amounts of food.

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You're never gonna lose weight like that. You have to change your way of

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thinking. Some people have had weight
loss surgery and still gain weight back because

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their mindsets didn't change. And let
me tell you something. People who mindsets

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didn't change, but they were forced
to lose weight because when they had the

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surgery, it automatically affected how much
they could eat. It is a struggle

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for them. They're always sick because
they're still trying to overeat. They can't,

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but every time they try, they're
sick. Some people gain weight back,

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some people don't, but they're always
struggling because they didn't change that mindset.

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They just have the weight loss surgery. It's that way with anything,

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any addiction, just anything. Discipline, self control, that's what it's gonna

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take. When you know your mind
is tryna make you want something that you

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know you shouldn't have. You have
to take control. You have to get

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disciplined. Some of you have children, and your children see exactly what you're

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doing. Some of you project the
same things on your children. Some of

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you develop, oh these children,
because you're projecting the same things onto your

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child. Same things with drugs and
alcohol. I've counseled people who say they

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saw mom and dad all their lives
alcoholics and drug addicts, or alcoholic or

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a drug addict. They've seen it
all their lives. They saw, you

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know, paraphernalia, you just laying
around, and they started taking it themselves

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early, early, early in life
young kids because their parents are so inegorated

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they don't even know that their child
is taking their drugs or drinking their alcohol.

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They can't worry about their child because
they're so out of it, and

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a lot of children become addicts because
of that, and they get to the

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point where they have no discipline or
self control because they they have been that

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way for so long it's normal to
them, even though it's not normal.

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Anybody can change anything if they choose
to. But when you never develop self

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control and discipline, you gonna have
a hard struggle in life. Cheaters cheat

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because they're used to cheating. They're
used to individuals who will cheat with them.

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They're used to satisfying that self gratification. They're used to it, so

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they're not even trying to have discipline
or our self control. A lot of

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them are married, but they still
do it because that's what's in them.

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It's like people who go to the
bank and work knowing they are thieves.

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They know it, but they still
go to the bank and work. They'll

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start off good and being who they
really are comes out. The next thing

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you know, they're stealing. And
not only at banks, many jobs that

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require people to handle money. So
many are sitting behind bars right now because

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they have allowed themselves to fall into
the trap because they lack self control and

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discipline. People on the jobs,
especially bosses, having inappropriate affairs. You

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could have walked away, you could
have done the right thing, but because

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you lack self control and discipline,
you got into an inappropriate relationship. It

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happens all of the time, all
of the time. So when you are

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doing things that you know are not
right or they are not good for you,

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don't look to love to the right, to the front, to the

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back, look in the mirror,
Look in the mirror, look at yourself,

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look inward, because I'm telling you, until you learn you, until

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you figure you out, until you
love you, you're gonna keep going through

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a necessary things in life. When
you love you and you understand you,

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you want the best for you,
mind, body, and soul. You

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want the best for yourself. You
will. But so many people are comfortable

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and familiar with the way they've always
been. They don't think they need to

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change. Although some are struggling so
hard because they're right where they've always been,

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they still won't change. They won't
They still have that same old negative

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mindset. I've mentioned it before.
How there are some people who've been struggling

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financially for twenty years, some longer
than that. Come on, wake up.

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You need to move locations, or
you need to get another job.

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You need to get new people to
be around. Something. You need change.

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If you are struggling financially for twenty
years, five years, ten years,

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fifteen years, twenty more, something
is wrong. Seriously, you have

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no discipline, no self control,
because you can make your situation better if

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you choose. People make money,
but they spend more than they make.

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You have millionaires who go back up
because they're living well beyond their means,

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well beyond their means. You have
some people who don't make a lot of

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money, but they spend more than
they make. No discipline or self control,

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you lack it. These types of
people lack it. There is no

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way anyone who is an adult,
there is no way their lives shouldn't be

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better. No way, no way. Anybody who's listening to me right now,

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if you dispute what I'm saying,
please please let's talk about it.

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Prove me wrong. But I feel
that there is no way a person's life

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shouldn't be better as an adult,
I can understand. As a child,

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you go through things. Some kids
go through things that should never have happened.

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Some parents should never be parents.
People go through all of this to

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bring the children into the world and
be and do the most horrific things to

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them because of their old mindsets.
But as an adult, if you choose

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to stay on the same path that
you've been on as a child, shame

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on you. Shame on you,
because you have an opportunity to change.

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But yet so many remain the same. They go on and become old people

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with the same mindset. Shame on
you. No one should be in the

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same place, no one. You
should not be in the same in place,

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are the same space. Mentally,
you shouldn't no one, because we

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all can be better if we choose
it. All we have to do is

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choose it. But so many people
lack self control and discipline because they want

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what they want, or they're so
comfortable and complacent and they're unwilling to change.

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So if you don't change, you
get the same results because there's no

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change in your life, you will
get the same results. And that is

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why people been on the jobs twenty
years still don't have one hundred dollars in

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the bank. Now, you know
that's a shame. That's a shame.

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I know people who've been working forever
and still don't even have a bank account.

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Come on now, really, But
it's the truth. So when you

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choose to remain where you are,
hey, that's where you'll be. A

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lot of people say, oh,
I love the Lord, I love Jesus.

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Jesus even wants you to change.
He wants you to become better.

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He wants you to prosper. He
wants you to be better. That's why

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he tells us. He wants us
to be in good health as our soul

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asperse. He wants us to be
better, better than the day before,

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better than the week before, the
month, the year before. He wants

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us to be better and closer to
him. And I know that's your choice,

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like anything else is your choice.
But I'm just trying to tell you

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you have a choice to be better. If you know you lack self control

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and discipline, that's what you should
be working on. If you know you

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struggling with your weight, that's what
you should be working on. Anything that

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you feel you are struggling with or
you lack, that's what you should be

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working on, not going through life
remaining the same. If you know you

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have angry issues, you should be
working on that. You shouldn't be thirty,

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forty, fifty, sixty, seventy
eighty years old still angry. That

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is total neglect to self. You
should be better. So many people go

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through life and they get into these
relationships with all of these issues, with

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individuals with all of their issues.
It's a mess. You have no self

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control, They have no self control. It's a train wreck. But instead

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of trying to be better, people
stay right on that same path, same

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path of the lack of self control
and discipline. Nobody can give it to

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you. You have to want it
for yourself. You know that. Old

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sand birds of a feather flock together. Listen. I've been around people who

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are doing things that I did not
do. Granted I'm older and wiser now,

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but there was once upon a time
I was around people who were doing

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things that I did not do.
I willfully chose that not to do what

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they were doing at a much younger
age than I am now. So you

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can do it if you choose.
I don't know about anyone else but me.

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I don't ever want to do wrong. I don't want to do people

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wrong. I don't want to do
wrong to myself, but that's my mindset.

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I want better for myself. I
want continued peace in my life.

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And there have been things that,
oh my gosh, that has been thrown

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at me, not of my doing, but loved ones doing. But I

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still have to keep going and doing
the right thing for me because life goes

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on, period, no matter what, no matter who, life goes on.

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And I could be a person who
is, like a lot of other

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people, distraught, broken, just
beside myself, totally depressed, all types

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of things. I could be that
woman, but I choose not to be

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because I still have a life to
live no matter who comes or who goes.

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I still have a life to live, no matter my children, my

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grandchildren, I still have a life
to live, no matter my siblings or

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my friends on whoever. I still
have a life to live. And I

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can't let nothing anyone, and I
do mean anyone. I can't let nothing

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they do or nothing that's done,
hinder me from having peace. I choose

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that for myself because guess what,
even though sometimes I cry, you know,

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because we have emotions, but I
don't let them get the best of

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me because I do have self control
and discipline. Sometimes the tears come when

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I really don't. Don't be thinking
about crying, it's just something triggers.

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But I have I do have self
control and discipline, And I mean,

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life can throw you some doozies.
Oh my goodness, Maybe one day I'll

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tell you. Maybe not, I
don't know, but oh my gosh,

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but you gotta. You have to
love yourself beyond everything and everyone, because

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if you're not in the right mindset, all types of things, even the

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smallest thing, will affect you greatly. I don't choose that for myself.

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I don't and I'm not special.
By no means you can be the same

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way. You just have to choose
it. You have to choose it for

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yourself. Lacking self control and discipline
have many, many many in bad situations,

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bad situations. Some there's no turning
back from the situation you're in because

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of the lack of self control and
discipline. So I want you to really

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think about your life, really they
think about it. Are you in the

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same space mentally that you've been in
for years and years? If you are,

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today's your day for change. It's
time to wake up. It's time

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to become better. Stop blaming people
for who you've allowed yourself to become.

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It's on you, as an adult. It is on you, and I've

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told you because I know people can
contribute to the pain that you have,

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but holding on to it, that's
on you. To let it go.

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That's on you. So many people
have allowed what they've gone through to just

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devastate destroy their lives, but that's
because you allowed it to. Whatever you

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allow is normally what you're gonna get. If you stay down the wrong path,

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you're gonna run into that brick wall
one day. So I hope and

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I pray that you got something out
of this message. Even if it's just

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a little bit, hope it it's
enough to spark something within you for change.

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So I'm leaving it right there.
Thank you for listening. Please share

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this episode. Go check out Relatable
life Chronicles. I guarantee you it's something

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there that would be of interest to
you. Please share. I appreciate you

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so much much, love to each
and every one of you. New Year,

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knew you. That should be your
motto. Thank you again. You

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know I end every episode the same, and if it's your first time here,

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welcome and thank you and please come
again. I end every episode the

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same, and I hope you do
it. Thank on it