I'm back with something for you to think about. In this episode, I'm
gonna talk about the lack of self control and discipline, the lack of self
control and discipline. Millions in the world have a lack of self control and
discipline. People want to blame everyone and everything for their lack of self control
and discipline. That's why so many people do all types of things. They
fly out the handle, meaning they get angry, enraged, people overeating.
They just get bigger and bigger. And that's not always the case. It's
not always about gaining weight. Some people lose tremendous amount of weight because they're
an erected, they have eating disorders. People still liars, pathological liars.
I mean, the list can go on and on. Bottom line of up
front lack of self control and discipline, and a lot of it steems from
immaturity. Because I've told you many times it doesn't matter if you're older,
if you're an adult, grown grown, as I say, it doesn't mean
you're mature. A lot of people go through life so difficult they take the
hard room when they don't have to. It's not hard to have self control
in discipline. It's not even if you wasn't taught self control and discipline.
Even if you don't know anything about it, you can learn it. It's
all about the mindset. It's all about you who you choose to be.
Let's just talk about losing weight. If you want to lose weight, what's
stopping you. No one is stopping you. Nothing is stopping you. It's
your mindset. That's your greatest enemy, your mindset. You don't think you
can lose weight. You think it's so hard. You allow the cravings and
all of that to get to you because you have no willpower you. You
don't have no self control, you have no discipline. Now, everyone have
a certain amount when it comes to what they want to do, but normally
those things that they're kind of kind of stand offishabau really don't want to approach.
Oh my goodness, people blame and blame the bank. I had someone
told me, oh, you don't need to lose any more weight because if
you get sick, who's planning on getting sick? Who is planning on getting
sick? That makes no sense to me. So don't be at your healthy
weight because if you get sick, that's ridiculous, totally ridiculous. First of
all people are overweight and they get so comfortable with a certain weight that it's
normal to them. They've been that weight for so many years that it becomes
normal to them. But that don't mean that you're at a healthy weight.
Just because you're comfortable and it's normal to you because you've been that weight for
so long, it does not mean it's normal. So please stop thinking that
it's normal, and stop thinking, oh, you don't need to lose any
more weight, because that's ridiculous. If you're not at your good healthy weight
means you're still overweight. You may not look at but you are according to
the scale. So please get that out of your head. Because first of
all, none of us was meant to be fat and overweight, and some
are morbidly obese. That wasn't their intent for any of us. And the
only way you get that way is been in those elbows. I mean,
that's the truth. Don't tell me old medication. No, medication don't make
you fat. It may make you want to eat, but it don't make
you fat. You gain weight because you've been in those elbows and you're eating
the wrong things, and because people lack self control and discipline. It's so
hard for them. They struggle immensely because their mind is telling them one thing
and their hearts is telling them something else. So they're struggling. They want
that chocolate cake, they want that ice cream, they want those chips.
I know I don't even eat those things. But guess what if I go
to the store and pass them my mind and say, hey, get that,
knowing I don't eat that. But you should be controlling your mind,
not letting your mind control you. So you have to have self control an
discipline. When that little voice in my head, I said, are you
the devil? Go back to the pit of hell. That's where you belong.
Go to the deepest part of the abyss because you get nothing here.
I'm not gonna get it. And that's that, and I'm moved right on
alone. I don't give in. So you have to gain self control.
Some people are terribly overweight, but they're still eating large amounts of food.
You're never gonna lose weight like that. You have to change your way of
thinking. Some people have had weight loss surgery and still gain weight back because
their mindsets didn't change. And let me tell you something. People who mindsets
didn't change, but they were forced to lose weight because when they had the
surgery, it automatically affected how much they could eat. It is a struggle
for them. They're always sick because they're still trying to overeat. They can't,
but every time they try, they're sick. Some people gain weight back,
some people don't, but they're always struggling because they didn't change that mindset.
They just have the weight loss surgery. It's that way with anything,
any addiction, just anything. Discipline, self control, that's what it's gonna
take. When you know your mind is tryna make you want something that you
know you shouldn't have. You have to take control. You have to get
disciplined. Some of you have children, and your children see exactly what you're
doing. Some of you project the same things on your children. Some of
you develop, oh these children, because you're projecting the same things onto your
child. Same things with drugs and alcohol. I've counseled people who say they
saw mom and dad all their lives alcoholics and drug addicts, or alcoholic or
a drug addict. They've seen it all their lives. They saw, you
know, paraphernalia, you just laying around, and they started taking it themselves
early, early, early in life young kids because their parents are so inegorated
they don't even know that their child is taking their drugs or drinking their alcohol.
They can't worry about their child because they're so out of it, and
a lot of children become addicts because of that, and they get to the
point where they have no discipline or self control because they they have been that
way for so long it's normal to them, even though it's not normal.
Anybody can change anything if they choose to. But when you never develop self
control and discipline, you gonna have a hard struggle in life. Cheaters cheat
because they're used to cheating. They're used to individuals who will cheat with them.
They're used to satisfying that self gratification. They're used to it, so
they're not even trying to have discipline or our self control. A lot of
them are married, but they still do it because that's what's in them.
It's like people who go to the bank and work knowing they are thieves.
They know it, but they still go to the bank and work. They'll
start off good and being who they really are comes out. The next thing
you know, they're stealing. And not only at banks, many jobs that
require people to handle money. So many are sitting behind bars right now because
they have allowed themselves to fall into the trap because they lack self control and
discipline. People on the jobs, especially bosses, having inappropriate affairs. You
could have walked away, you could have done the right thing, but because
you lack self control and discipline, you got into an inappropriate relationship. It
happens all of the time, all of the time. So when you are
doing things that you know are not right or they are not good for you,
don't look to love to the right, to the front, to the
back, look in the mirror, Look in the mirror, look at yourself,
look inward, because I'm telling you, until you learn you, until
you figure you out, until you love you, you're gonna keep going through
a necessary things in life. When you love you and you understand you,
you want the best for you, mind, body, and soul. You
want the best for yourself. You will. But so many people are comfortable
and familiar with the way they've always been. They don't think they need to
change. Although some are struggling so hard because they're right where they've always been,
they still won't change. They won't They still have that same old negative
mindset. I've mentioned it before. How there are some people who've been struggling
financially for twenty years, some longer than that. Come on, wake up.
You need to move locations, or you need to get another job.
You need to get new people to be around. Something. You need change.
If you are struggling financially for twenty years, five years, ten years,
fifteen years, twenty more, something is wrong. Seriously, you have
no discipline, no self control, because you can make your situation better if
you choose. People make money, but they spend more than they make.
You have millionaires who go back up because they're living well beyond their means,
well beyond their means. You have some people who don't make a lot of
money, but they spend more than they make. No discipline or self control,
you lack it. These types of people lack it. There is no
way anyone who is an adult, there is no way their lives shouldn't be
better. No way, no way. Anybody who's listening to me right now,
if you dispute what I'm saying, please please let's talk about it.
Prove me wrong. But I feel that there is no way a person's life
shouldn't be better as an adult, I can understand. As a child,
you go through things. Some kids go through things that should never have happened.
Some parents should never be parents. People go through all of this to
bring the children into the world and be and do the most horrific things to
them because of their old mindsets. But as an adult, if you choose
to stay on the same path that you've been on as a child, shame
on you. Shame on you, because you have an opportunity to change.
But yet so many remain the same. They go on and become old people
with the same mindset. Shame on you. No one should be in the
same place, no one. You should not be in the same in place,
are the same space. Mentally, you shouldn't no one, because we
all can be better if we choose it. All we have to do is
choose it. But so many people lack self control and discipline because they want
what they want, or they're so comfortable and complacent and they're unwilling to change.
So if you don't change, you get the same results because there's no
change in your life, you will get the same results. And that is
why people been on the jobs twenty years still don't have one hundred dollars in
the bank. Now, you know that's a shame. That's a shame.
I know people who've been working forever and still don't even have a bank account.
Come on now, really, But it's the truth. So when you
choose to remain where you are, hey, that's where you'll be. A
lot of people say, oh, I love the Lord, I love Jesus.
Jesus even wants you to change. He wants you to become better.
He wants you to prosper. He wants you to be better. That's why
he tells us. He wants us to be in good health as our soul
asperse. He wants us to be better, better than the day before,
better than the week before, the month, the year before. He wants
us to be better and closer to him. And I know that's your choice,
like anything else is your choice. But I'm just trying to tell you
you have a choice to be better. If you know you lack self control
and discipline, that's what you should be working on. If you know you
struggling with your weight, that's what you should be working on. Anything that
you feel you are struggling with or you lack, that's what you should be
working on, not going through life remaining the same. If you know you
have angry issues, you should be working on that. You shouldn't be thirty,
forty, fifty, sixty, seventy eighty years old still angry. That
is total neglect to self. You should be better. So many people go
through life and they get into these relationships with all of these issues, with
individuals with all of their issues. It's a mess. You have no self
control, They have no self control. It's a train wreck. But instead
of trying to be better, people stay right on that same path, same
path of the lack of self control and discipline. Nobody can give it to
you. You have to want it for yourself. You know that. Old
sand birds of a feather flock together. Listen. I've been around people who
are doing things that I did not do. Granted I'm older and wiser now,
but there was once upon a time I was around people who were doing
things that I did not do. I willfully chose that not to do what
they were doing at a much younger age than I am now. So you
can do it if you choose. I don't know about anyone else but me.
I don't ever want to do wrong. I don't want to do people
wrong. I don't want to do wrong to myself, but that's my mindset.
I want better for myself. I want continued peace in my life.
And there have been things that, oh my gosh, that has been thrown
at me, not of my doing, but loved ones doing. But I
still have to keep going and doing the right thing for me because life goes
on, period, no matter what, no matter who, life goes on.
And I could be a person who is, like a lot of other
people, distraught, broken, just beside myself, totally depressed, all types
of things. I could be that woman, but I choose not to be
because I still have a life to live no matter who comes or who goes.
I still have a life to live, no matter my children, my
grandchildren, I still have a life to live, no matter my siblings or
my friends on whoever. I still have a life to live. And I
can't let nothing anyone, and I do mean anyone. I can't let nothing
they do or nothing that's done, hinder me from having peace. I choose
that for myself because guess what, even though sometimes I cry, you know,
because we have emotions, but I don't let them get the best of
me because I do have self control and discipline. Sometimes the tears come when
I really don't. Don't be thinking about crying, it's just something triggers.
But I have I do have self control and discipline, And I mean,
life can throw you some doozies. Oh my goodness, Maybe one day I'll
tell you. Maybe not, I don't know, but oh my gosh,
but you gotta. You have to love yourself beyond everything and everyone, because
if you're not in the right mindset, all types of things, even the
smallest thing, will affect you greatly. I don't choose that for myself.
I don't and I'm not special. By no means you can be the same
way. You just have to choose it. You have to choose it for
yourself. Lacking self control and discipline have many, many many in bad situations,
bad situations. Some there's no turning back from the situation you're in because
of the lack of self control and discipline. So I want you to really
think about your life, really they think about it. Are you in the
same space mentally that you've been in for years and years? If you are,
today's your day for change. It's time to wake up. It's time
to become better. Stop blaming people for who you've allowed yourself to become.
It's on you, as an adult. It is on you, and I've
told you because I know people can contribute to the pain that you have,
but holding on to it, that's on you. To let it go.
That's on you. So many people have allowed what they've gone through to just
devastate destroy their lives, but that's because you allowed it to. Whatever you
allow is normally what you're gonna get. If you stay down the wrong path,
you're gonna run into that brick wall one day. So I hope and
I pray that you got something out of this message. Even if it's just
a little bit, hope it it's enough to spark something within you for change.
So I'm leaving it right there. Thank you for listening. Please share
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