WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:17.600 Andy, cancit me. I'm so high ecstasy sage cancage not sorry, Andy. 2 00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:22.359 What's up? Positive Bitches? How are we doing today? If you're 3 00:00:22.359 --> 00:00:25.559 hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here, So keep listening 4 00:00:25.920 --> 00:00:30.039 all my Bitches Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh, other times, Baby 5 00:00:30.160 --> 00:00:33.880 Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most 6 00:00:33.920 --> 00:00:39.719 empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On 7 00:00:39.719 --> 00:00:43.479 this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into 8 00:00:43.679 --> 00:00:48.280 exactly who we came here to be. And today we are talking about how 9 00:00:48.280 --> 00:00:51.000 to keep them interested. You got them, but now you want to keep 10 00:00:51.039 --> 00:00:56.079 them and that is a whole other story before we get into it. Yes, 11 00:00:56.679 --> 00:01:00.280 you may have heard the news show up as her. My book, 12 00:01:00.399 --> 00:01:04.359 My Child, My Baby is now published. She is birthed into the world. 13 00:01:04.799 --> 00:01:08.799 If you want to learn more about manifestation, if you want to become 14 00:01:08.840 --> 00:01:15.439 a master manifestor release anxiety, if you want to enter your most magnetic era, 15 00:01:15.920 --> 00:01:19.079 then this book will give you all you need to know and more. 16 00:01:19.480 --> 00:01:23.719 I don't leave anything out, I was saying on Instagram yesterday. It would 17 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:26.640 be easier for me to tell you what's not in the book than to tell 18 00:01:26.680 --> 00:01:30.519 you what is in the book, because I give you everything you need to 19 00:01:30.599 --> 00:01:36.599 know. Shadow work, in her, Child's work, mindset, makeover. 20 00:01:37.120 --> 00:01:46.000 We do not gatekeep around here. There was a distinct choice that I made 21 00:01:46.599 --> 00:01:52.040 in twenty twenty and I did something very specific to quantum leap, and it 22 00:01:52.159 --> 00:01:56.000 changed my whole entire life. And I give you that exact technique in this 23 00:01:56.079 --> 00:01:59.239 book. If you want to become your desired self, if you want to 24 00:01:59.400 --> 00:02:02.840 enter into your most magnetic era, I have a technique and I write it 25 00:02:02.879 --> 00:02:07.280 out, step by step by step for you to do so that you can 26 00:02:07.400 --> 00:02:13.840 achieve that timeline. When I made this decision, not only did I release 27 00:02:13.960 --> 00:02:20.199 upwards of thirty pounds, I completely healed the relationship with myself with my partner. 28 00:02:20.759 --> 00:02:23.520 I found my purpose, started my own business, started my own podcast, 29 00:02:23.840 --> 00:02:30.680 got opportunity after opportunity after opportunity, groo my socials, and then got 30 00:02:30.680 --> 00:02:34.280 a book deal. So if you want to learn how to completely change your 31 00:02:34.680 --> 00:02:38.840 life in the present moment, in this instance, not tomorrow, not in 32 00:02:38.879 --> 00:02:42.240 one month, but today, show up as her will give you everything you 33 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:46.080 need to know and more, and you can get the book in the show 34 00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:53.240 notes. Without further ado, let's get into today's episode. As a celebration 35 00:02:53.439 --> 00:02:57.240 for Show Up as Her being released this week, we are actually going to 36 00:02:57.360 --> 00:03:01.800 pull some themes from the book. So in the book, I have two 37 00:03:01.919 --> 00:03:08.080 chapters on manifestation, how to attract a partner and how to keep them, 38 00:03:08.199 --> 00:03:14.599 Especially for my anxiety and codependent girlies, we need to learn how to use 39 00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:19.000 our power in a way that's actually conducive to our desires, and that is 40 00:03:19.039 --> 00:03:23.080 what this book will help you to do. So I posted this on Instagram 41 00:03:23.120 --> 00:03:24.840 and I was looking through some of the questions. One of the questions is 42 00:03:25.240 --> 00:03:29.879 how do you keep Once you attracted someone into your life, how do you 43 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:32.599 keep them? How do you not just send them all of your energy and 44 00:03:32.639 --> 00:03:37.879 then repel them. Remember this is the most important thing, and I will 45 00:03:37.879 --> 00:03:42.560 say it every podcast. If I need to anything you chase, whether it's 46 00:03:42.560 --> 00:03:46.560 a bug or a boy, will run away. In the book, I 47 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:53.680 give you a whole entire chart on what energetically chasing looks like. Because you 48 00:03:53.800 --> 00:03:57.319 might think you're playing it cool. Oh, I'm going to wait an hour 49 00:03:57.439 --> 00:04:00.560 before I text them back. That's a waste of your time. Oh, 50 00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:02.520 I know that they called me, but I'm gonna wait an hour till I 51 00:04:02.560 --> 00:04:04.680 call them back. It's a waste of your time, you know why, 52 00:04:05.240 --> 00:04:12.319 because energy does not lie. You can try to act like the chill girl, 53 00:04:12.360 --> 00:04:15.400 you can try to act like the cool girl, but you know who 54 00:04:15.599 --> 00:04:19.879 knows the truth is this energetic universe, your subconscious mind and your higher self 55 00:04:20.079 --> 00:04:26.560 and also their subconscious mind. Energy is non local. People can feel when 56 00:04:26.639 --> 00:04:30.600 you're energetically chasing them, even though you think you're playing it cool. Think 57 00:04:30.639 --> 00:04:33.199 about it. The guy who's obsessed with you you think is creepy because he's 58 00:04:33.240 --> 00:04:36.439 sending way too much energy. Meanwhile, the guy who won't give you any 59 00:04:36.439 --> 00:04:43.160 attention you're obsessed with. It's almost like energy is controlling everything, because oh 60 00:04:43.240 --> 00:04:48.000 right, it is. If you want the full chart for what energetically chasing 61 00:04:48.120 --> 00:04:50.480 is, of course gets show up as her, But I'm gonna read you 62 00:04:50.480 --> 00:04:55.839 a couple of the things. Okay, waiting around for their texts, stalking 63 00:04:55.879 --> 00:05:00.439 their social media, checking their following count, saying manifesting them when really you're 64 00:05:00.480 --> 00:05:05.759 just obsessing over them. You're not manifesting them if you're just manically spiraling over 65 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:11.600 them, because what are you thinking about them? So where is your energy 66 00:05:11.639 --> 00:05:17.439 going towards them? Whatever you focus on, you're also giving that thing your 67 00:05:17.959 --> 00:05:23.839 energy. So if you just started to talk to someone and you feel yourself 68 00:05:25.480 --> 00:05:29.800 twenty four to seven obsessing over them, wanting to stalk them, looking at 69 00:05:29.839 --> 00:05:34.560 their following account, we need to reel it back in why Because anything we 70 00:05:34.680 --> 00:05:38.199 chase, whether it's a bug er boy, will run away. By the 71 00:05:38.199 --> 00:05:42.079 way, this is not just for relationships. This is for with coworkers. 72 00:05:42.160 --> 00:05:46.279 This is for getting a job or getting an opportunity. The energy of desperation 73 00:05:47.120 --> 00:05:54.199 jobs they can feel it, coworkers they can feel it. Opportunities, opportunities 74 00:05:54.240 --> 00:06:00.360 can feel it. The energy of desperation repels everything. As soon as you 75 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:04.199 become desperate and you're desperately sending them all of your energy, you are making 76 00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:11.040 this relationship or this job opportunity so much harder to actually align with because you're 77 00:06:11.079 --> 00:06:14.079 so focused on the lack of it in your life. You're so focused of 78 00:06:14.199 --> 00:06:17.399 feeling like it's so far away that all you end up doing is attracting more 79 00:06:17.439 --> 00:06:25.079 emotional experiences that make you feel more lack So how do we counteract energetically chasing 80 00:06:25.480 --> 00:06:30.360 How do we stay embodied in our own vessel, even when we really like 81 00:06:30.439 --> 00:06:35.600 someone Number one, you have to normalize the bare minimum. I see the 82 00:06:35.680 --> 00:06:40.079 question all the time, Well, they're watching all of my stories. That 83 00:06:40.160 --> 00:06:44.199 must mean something. Oh my god, no, no, stop it, 84 00:06:44.480 --> 00:06:49.439 stop it. My grandmother could watch your stories on Instagram. That doesn't mean 85 00:06:49.680 --> 00:06:55.279 that she's now committed to you. Someone being curious about your life and what 86 00:06:55.319 --> 00:07:00.079 you're doing is not commitment. Someone just being curious about you. Oh, 87 00:07:00.319 --> 00:07:04.160 that's not a big deal. We need to normalize the bare minimum. And 88 00:07:04.240 --> 00:07:09.839 guess what. Bread Crumbs is not enough to sustain you. We need a 89 00:07:09.839 --> 00:07:15.879 whole entire love love, baby girl. Bread Crumbs will never sustain you. 90 00:07:16.199 --> 00:07:21.839 We need to recognize the bare minimum as being a turn off, not a 91 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:27.360 moment to try to prove ourselves worthy of someone else. Why aren't they calling 92 00:07:27.439 --> 00:07:29.879 me? Why aren't they texting me? Oh my god, I'm gonna manipulate 93 00:07:29.879 --> 00:07:33.240 myself so they like me. I'm gonna become their dream girl instead of focusing 94 00:07:33.279 --> 00:07:40.279 on my own life. There's a positive bitch tip for normalizing the bare minimum. 95 00:07:40.560 --> 00:07:44.439 When we feel they are pulling away, our first instinct is to try 96 00:07:44.480 --> 00:07:48.120 to give more, but this only repels them further. If giving them some 97 00:07:48.199 --> 00:07:55.560 of your energy wasn't appreciated. Giving more of the same will not be appreciated 98 00:07:55.800 --> 00:08:01.560 either. We need to recognize that we They might have beautiful, lovely energy, 99 00:08:01.879 --> 00:08:07.839 but not everyone is going to be able to recognize the value that we 100 00:08:07.000 --> 00:08:11.879 hold, and not everyone, even if they do recognize our value, will 101 00:08:11.920 --> 00:08:18.319 be able to afford us energetically in their life. Now, listen up to 102 00:08:18.360 --> 00:08:26.360 me. If these people are able to play with NPCs on their little video 103 00:08:26.439 --> 00:08:28.560 games, and NPC is a non player character, if they have time to 104 00:08:28.600 --> 00:08:35.360 play with fake people okay in video games. They have time to text you, 105 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:39.519 they have time to call you, they have time to interact with you. 106 00:08:41.320 --> 00:08:46.000 No one on God's green Earth is that busy. I know men who 107 00:08:46.039 --> 00:08:52.919 work very high power jobs and they always they've always had enough time to contact 108 00:08:52.919 --> 00:08:58.320 their wife and or the girl that they were pursuing. They never said, 109 00:08:58.360 --> 00:09:03.039 well, you know, I'm busy, I can't. I actually had a 110 00:09:03.039 --> 00:09:09.759 man who's very high up there literally say to me, everyone has enough time 111 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:16.120 in their day when they prioritize that person. It's not about not having enough 112 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:20.360 time. It's about someone's priorities and what they value. If someone is telling 113 00:09:20.440 --> 00:09:24.879 you that they're too busy. That's simply not true. They just don't value 114 00:09:24.919 --> 00:09:28.159 you enough. And I know that's a hard pill to swallow, but baby 115 00:09:28.200 --> 00:09:35.320 girl, I rather you swallow this now than choke later, because you allow 116 00:09:35.399 --> 00:09:39.799 this person into your life and you let them play you, because really you're 117 00:09:39.840 --> 00:09:45.000 playing yourself. And around here, we're not gonna blame ourselves. We're not 118 00:09:45.000 --> 00:09:48.840 gonna throw out ourselves a pity party. All we're gonna do is take total 119 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:56.559 responsibility and read the writing on the wall. They should be pursuing you. 120 00:09:56.000 --> 00:10:01.360 They should be sending the flowers, they should be sending the text message. 121 00:10:01.440 --> 00:10:05.080 They should be calling you. They should be trying to see you, and 122 00:10:05.120 --> 00:10:11.799 that should become increasingly and increasingly increasingly more of an occurrence. The cadence should 123 00:10:11.799 --> 00:10:16.480 speed up. You should not be sitting there confused. And if you're confused, 124 00:10:16.919 --> 00:10:22.799 that is not courtship. That's confusion. And confusion is a signals. 125 00:10:22.919 --> 00:10:31.440 Mixed signal is a signal. Silence is a signal. All of this is 126 00:10:31.519 --> 00:10:35.559 information. Now, I don't want you looking at this other person and psychoanalyzing 127 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:39.159 every single thing. Just take it as data. Dating is data. That's 128 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:43.519 it. That's all it is. What is this person doing, Are they 129 00:10:43.519 --> 00:10:48.840 pursuing me? Are they not saying anything? Okay, let me jop this 130 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:52.679 down. Let me pay attention to what's going on. It's so important that 131 00:10:52.720 --> 00:10:58.240 we do this. Yesterday on Live or two days ago, someone was saying, 132 00:10:58.279 --> 00:11:00.879 you know, they're not reaching out to me. Should I reach out 133 00:11:00.919 --> 00:11:03.720 to them? What should I do? I said, no, do not 134 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:09.240 reach out to them. You need to see who this person is. You 135 00:11:09.320 --> 00:11:13.679 need to see if this person has a stamina to actually pursue you and get 136 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:20.639 you. You need to see who this person is when you're not reaching out 137 00:11:20.679 --> 00:11:24.960 to them, What are they doing, how are they acting? How are 138 00:11:24.120 --> 00:11:31.080 they going after you to seal the deal? And if they're not, that's 139 00:11:31.120 --> 00:11:35.120 not an invitation to chase them. That should be a signal. Oh, 140 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:37.519 this person obviously is not that into it. I'm going to refocus on me 141 00:11:37.960 --> 00:11:41.240 and see what else is out there. This brings me to my next point. 142 00:11:41.879 --> 00:11:46.120 You've attracted this person into your life. You want to keep them around. 143 00:11:46.159 --> 00:11:50.159 You're dating, You're not sure what the boundaries are. The lines sometimes 144 00:11:50.159 --> 00:11:54.399 get blurred. What do we do? The number one thing I really want 145 00:11:54.399 --> 00:11:58.639 you to pay attention to is not overfeeding them with your energy. And this 146 00:11:58.720 --> 00:12:05.519 isn't because your stingy, It's because you need to stay in your own damn 147 00:12:05.720 --> 00:12:11.360 vessel. So let's read stop overfeeding them. Allowing people to not treat you 148 00:12:11.360 --> 00:12:13.960 with the utmost respect and love is a symptom of you placing them on your 149 00:12:15.000 --> 00:12:20.120 pedestal. What would help is putting them on an energetic diet. This means 150 00:12:20.440 --> 00:12:24.960 no more sending them endless amounts of your energy for nothing in return, because 151 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:28.200 you are not a bowling ball. If you have been overfeeding them with your 152 00:12:28.320 --> 00:12:35.720 energy, you're simultaneously starving yourself. Shift your focus and your energy will follow. 153 00:12:37.159 --> 00:12:39.879 If you're constantly worried, who are they following? What are they doing? 154 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:43.960 Why aren't they calling me? You're more focused on their reality than your 155 00:12:45.000 --> 00:12:50.639 own. You're more focused on their incarnation than your own. I'm sorry. 156 00:12:50.360 --> 00:12:54.519 Did you incarnate as them? No? You did not, so what are 157 00:12:54.639 --> 00:13:00.960 you do? Wing? So we have to put them on an energetic diet. 158 00:13:01.360 --> 00:13:05.639 One of the ways we can stay centered and not give them all of 159 00:13:05.639 --> 00:13:11.399 our energy is to have non negotiables. We've talked about this before. Non 160 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:16.519 negotiables are activities or hobbies, your side, hustle, your career. There 161 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:20.399 are things you engage with regardless of who comes in and out of your life, 162 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:26.720 because these activities, these behaviors make you you. They're healthy habits that 163 00:13:26.799 --> 00:13:31.960 allow you to feel your best in your own skin. If you have non 164 00:13:31.960 --> 00:13:35.200 negotiables, what will this do for you? It will help you to focus 165 00:13:35.279 --> 00:13:39.799 on you. If you're focused on you, where will your energy be. 166 00:13:39.679 --> 00:13:45.519 Your energy will be on you. You will be feeding yourself with your own 167 00:13:45.639 --> 00:13:48.240 energy. You will be embodied in your own vessel, and you will not 168 00:13:48.320 --> 00:13:54.080 be sending them all of your energy. The reason I referenced a Boeing ball 169 00:13:54.360 --> 00:13:58.679 in that passage is because earlier on in the chapter, I talk about two 170 00:13:58.720 --> 00:14:03.919 differ energetic dynamics that you might be experiencing, and I think we all have 171 00:14:05.080 --> 00:14:09.200 experienced both of these. Maybe not, but you definitely feel the difference. 172 00:14:09.559 --> 00:14:13.440 So the dynamic you don't want, the dynamic that is overfeeding them with your 173 00:14:13.559 --> 00:14:18.559 energy, is that of a bowling ball. You're thinking about them, you're 174 00:14:18.600 --> 00:14:22.240 sending the text, you're pursuing them, you're giving them all of your thoughts 175 00:14:22.279 --> 00:14:26.759 and your emotions, and you're really selling yourself. But all this does is 176 00:14:26.840 --> 00:14:31.759 deplete you, and just like a bowling ball. You come in with all 177 00:14:31.879 --> 00:14:35.720 this force, but you knock all the pins down and you repel the pins 178 00:14:35.759 --> 00:14:39.960 in the opposite direction. When you overfeed someone with your energy, you are 179 00:14:41.080 --> 00:14:43.320 like a bowling ball and you knock the pins all over the place and you 180 00:14:43.919 --> 00:14:48.799 repel them. Essentially, you repel them. That is what we don't want 181 00:14:48.840 --> 00:14:52.720 to do, because that means we're starving ourselves of our own energy. We're 182 00:14:52.720 --> 00:14:56.200 going to feel depleted, and also we're just getting bad results because we're repelling 183 00:14:56.240 --> 00:15:00.840 everybody. What you want to look for is something that feels like a tennis 184 00:15:00.879 --> 00:15:05.080 match. They send some energy, you give some back. They send some 185 00:15:05.360 --> 00:15:09.120 energy, you give some back. You are hitting the ball from them to 186 00:15:09.240 --> 00:15:13.480 you, from them to you, from them to you. You are allowing 187 00:15:13.679 --> 00:15:18.200 them to pursue you. You're getting data on how they're pursuing you. You're 188 00:15:18.200 --> 00:15:24.360 getting information you need because, by the way, you have to know if 189 00:15:24.399 --> 00:15:28.960 you even like this person, and I swear sometimes I really don't even think 190 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:31.720 we know whether or not we like them. We miss all the red flags 191 00:15:31.720 --> 00:15:37.080 because all we're doing is body bouncing and trying to see how they're perceiving us, 192 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:43.919 rather than us even seeing if we like them. That is repellent. 193 00:15:43.639 --> 00:15:48.399 You might as well bottle that up and spray it on yourself when you're on 194 00:15:48.440 --> 00:15:52.279 a trail, because you are going to repel everyone, even the bugs. 195 00:15:52.759 --> 00:15:58.600 Yep, that's how it works. This universe that we reside in is an 196 00:15:58.799 --> 00:16:04.759 energetic way, and there are energetic laws that baby girl. They apply whether 197 00:16:04.879 --> 00:16:08.639 or not you believe in them, whether or not you know about these energetic 198 00:16:08.679 --> 00:16:12.240 laws like gravity, they will apply. If you walk off the cliff, 199 00:16:12.279 --> 00:16:18.159 you are falling. If you energetically chase, you will repel them. It 200 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:23.559 does not matter it, Nothing else matters because everything at its core is energy. 201 00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:29.080 You are energy, they are energy, and how we interact with other 202 00:16:29.159 --> 00:16:34.840 people is all in energetic exchange. This is why it's so important you get 203 00:16:34.879 --> 00:16:41.559 this book show up as her, because you have to understand the results you're 204 00:16:41.600 --> 00:16:45.600 getting, why you're getting them, and how you're using your energy. It 205 00:16:45.720 --> 00:16:52.799 breaks my heart. I wanted to put another word in there, but YouTube 206 00:16:52.799 --> 00:16:56.320 will demonetize me and like take me down, so I can't. But it 207 00:16:56.399 --> 00:17:02.000 breaks my heart that I get messages every single day from women all over the 208 00:17:02.000 --> 00:17:07.119 world and men. They left me. Everyone leaves me. I'm always abandoned, 209 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:11.559 and they think it's because there's something fundamentally wrong with them, when there's 210 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:15.000 nothing wrong with them. They just don't know how to use their energy in 211 00:17:15.000 --> 00:17:19.680 a way that's conducive to their desires. I'm telling you you have the power, 212 00:17:19.759 --> 00:17:22.799 you have the energy, but you have to learn the tools, because 213 00:17:22.839 --> 00:17:27.000 without the tools, what is knowledge? Knowledge is nothing if you can't put 214 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:32.160 it into action. Knowledge means gententtly squat If you don't know how to actually 215 00:17:32.599 --> 00:17:34.599 use that knowledge to make your life better. What's the point of being the 216 00:17:34.640 --> 00:17:41.240 smartest person alive if you don't do anything with the information. What is the 217 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:47.000 point? Oh that's right, there's no point. There is none. So 218 00:17:47.079 --> 00:17:51.640 you have to actually take responsibility and use this knowledge and put it into action. 219 00:17:52.279 --> 00:17:56.519 Not for me, for you, Okay, next point, stop ghosting 220 00:17:56.559 --> 00:18:02.400 your own needs. There's a difference between being needy and expressing your needs. 221 00:18:02.640 --> 00:18:04.240 I'm want to say that again for the people in the back. There's a 222 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:11.200 difference between being needy and expressing your needs. Expressing your own needs places you 223 00:18:11.279 --> 00:18:17.680 on your own pedestal and communicates to your subconscious mind as well as the universe 224 00:18:18.039 --> 00:18:25.079 and other people, that you know your worth there's nothing wrong with expressing your 225 00:18:25.119 --> 00:18:27.440 needs. In fact, it must be done if you want a healthy relationship. 226 00:18:27.799 --> 00:18:33.599 News flash, no one can read your mind being need needs when you 227 00:18:33.640 --> 00:18:37.759 place the other person on the pedestal and derive all your happiness, excitement, 228 00:18:37.759 --> 00:18:41.640 and love from them. When we are needy of them, we will often 229 00:18:41.759 --> 00:18:45.240 ghost ourselves, thinking it's a way to ensure to get them. I see 230 00:18:45.240 --> 00:18:48.480 this all the time, even in my own life, I would abandon myself, 231 00:18:48.519 --> 00:18:52.359 my wants, and my needs because I thought that is how I could 232 00:18:52.480 --> 00:18:56.519 ensure them in my life. I thought if I gave up my center, 233 00:18:56.519 --> 00:19:00.000 if I gave up myself, well then I'll be able to get love in 234 00:19:00.039 --> 00:19:04.839 a relationship. If I give up myself, I will earn them. That 235 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:11.319 is faulty programming, and that is not true. And it's so important early 236 00:19:11.440 --> 00:19:18.839 on in your relationship that you set up a healthy, energetic dynamic where both 237 00:19:18.880 --> 00:19:23.720 of you get your needs met and you're also both in complete clarity about what 238 00:19:23.759 --> 00:19:27.960 one another wants and needs. You don't want to set up a dynamic where 239 00:19:29.039 --> 00:19:33.000 you are just someone's slave and you never express yourself and you're in constant fear 240 00:19:33.039 --> 00:19:37.920 that they're gonna leave you. If they want to leave, let them because 241 00:19:37.960 --> 00:19:40.720 in the space that they lead you with, not only will you find your 242 00:19:40.720 --> 00:19:45.559 purpose, but you'll find someone better. Hello. Anyway, when you speak 243 00:19:45.640 --> 00:19:49.000 up for yourself, my mom always said, and it's the truest form of 244 00:19:49.119 --> 00:19:52.519 energy. When you speak up for your needs, a squeaky wheel gets the 245 00:19:52.559 --> 00:19:56.240 grease they will be met. When you speak up for your needs, they 246 00:19:56.279 --> 00:20:02.039 will be met. That doesn't make you needy, it doesn't make you annoying. 247 00:20:02.440 --> 00:20:07.079 It makes you someone who's so confident in themselves that they know if this 248 00:20:07.119 --> 00:20:14.559 person can't meet their needs, that someone else will. Give people the chance 249 00:20:15.000 --> 00:20:19.279 to show up for you, give people the chance to pursue you in a 250 00:20:19.319 --> 00:20:23.559 way you actually want to be pursued, and be honest about what it is 251 00:20:23.599 --> 00:20:27.839 you want in need. I remember when I was dating someone and I always 252 00:20:27.839 --> 00:20:37.720 call him Specimen six foot four because girl. Anyway. I remember telling him 253 00:20:37.400 --> 00:20:44.039 I literally a phone call to me is so important. It's really important to 254 00:20:44.079 --> 00:20:45.720 me, and he literally said, to my face, I'll never call you. 255 00:20:47.160 --> 00:20:49.319 I thought that I could just stuff down my needs and be okay with 256 00:20:49.400 --> 00:20:52.319 that. I was like, it's fine, it's fine, it's fine. 257 00:20:52.400 --> 00:20:56.759 I was in such a low vibration at the time, and I really just 258 00:20:56.799 --> 00:21:00.599 want a companionship because I felt so lonely that I was willing to accept anything. 259 00:21:00.119 --> 00:21:06.680 And because I ghosted my own wants and needs because I really didn't speak 260 00:21:06.799 --> 00:21:10.839 up for myself and say no, that's not okay with me. I did 261 00:21:10.880 --> 00:21:15.160 get the bare minimum and I took those crumbs, and I tried to make 262 00:21:15.319 --> 00:21:22.400 myself be satisfied with crumbs, and all it did would was make myself turn 263 00:21:22.480 --> 00:21:27.000 on myself. All I did was get so angry at myself for allowing this 264 00:21:27.079 --> 00:21:33.759 dynamic, and I betrayed myself. And what ended up happening is he basically 265 00:21:33.839 --> 00:21:37.920 just ghosted me. It was like it was weird because it was like it 266 00:21:37.960 --> 00:21:40.920 was cosmic cancelation. We kind of just canceled each other out. But he 267 00:21:41.000 --> 00:21:45.599 really did just leave my life and never met any of my needs. And 268 00:21:45.640 --> 00:21:49.279 it was not an equal energetic exchange because I was so willing to ghost myself 269 00:21:49.759 --> 00:21:56.039 and that will never allow you to be satisfied. We think we have to 270 00:21:56.079 --> 00:22:00.000 ghost ourselves, but this gets us the opposite of what we want. If 271 00:22:00.039 --> 00:22:04.440 you can ghost your own self, why wouldn't someone else when you ghost your 272 00:22:04.440 --> 00:22:07.799 own needs, beliefs, morals, and values, it will be easy for 273 00:22:07.839 --> 00:22:12.880 that other person to ghost you too. People will continue to mirror this behavior 274 00:22:14.359 --> 00:22:18.519 until you show up differently. The universe will not let up on you, 275 00:22:18.599 --> 00:22:25.240 baby girl, because the universe it is always extending energetic invitations for you to 276 00:22:25.359 --> 00:22:30.759 heal deeper. So you will keep getting these situationships, these people who ghost 277 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:37.440 you until you stop ghosting yourself. If your early stage is dating someone and 278 00:22:37.480 --> 00:22:40.640 you want to keep them around, you really see potential with this person. 279 00:22:41.000 --> 00:22:45.480 You can't keep doing what you've been doing. You can't keep letting go of 280 00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:48.039 yourself in order to try to get other people to stay, because if you 281 00:22:48.200 --> 00:22:52.279 have to betray yourself, that is not the right person for you. Positive 282 00:22:52.319 --> 00:22:57.720 bitch tip. How we treat ourselves mentally, physically, and energetically will teach 283 00:22:57.759 --> 00:23:02.000 other people how to treat us. If they see that you do not value 284 00:23:02.039 --> 00:23:07.640 yourself, they will not value you either. I hate to be the one 285 00:23:07.640 --> 00:23:11.200 to tell you this, and I also love it because I'm not gonna lie 286 00:23:11.240 --> 00:23:15.279 to you and say everything's gonna be okay and you'll find that person. No, 287 00:23:15.440 --> 00:23:18.759 you won't if you don't stop doing what you've been doing. Sorry, 288 00:23:19.000 --> 00:23:23.319 that's the truth. If you want to get different results, newsflash, you 289 00:23:23.400 --> 00:23:27.480 gotta show up differently. If you want a new life, you have to 290 00:23:27.839 --> 00:23:33.359 pay up, and you have to release the behaviors, the thought patterns that 291 00:23:33.400 --> 00:23:38.200 you've been engaging with, and you have to adopt new thoughts, new behaviors, 292 00:23:38.200 --> 00:23:44.480 and a new mentality. Show up as her will help you do this. 293 00:23:45.079 --> 00:23:49.279 There's no point in suffering anymore. There's no point. Why would you 294 00:23:49.440 --> 00:23:56.319 continue on doing the same thing and repeatedly just getting upset with yourself. You 295 00:23:56.359 --> 00:24:03.079 don't have to suffer anymore. If you don't have to suffer anymore, you 296 00:24:03.119 --> 00:24:04.759 can get this book. You can change your mind, you can change your 297 00:24:04.839 --> 00:24:12.599 life. There's no reward for repeatedly, constantly, consistently suffering when it comes 298 00:24:12.599 --> 00:24:19.400 to relationships, career, your body, your life. You're not Jesus Christ. 299 00:24:19.440 --> 00:24:23.160 You don't have to die on the cross for us. That's not your 300 00:24:23.319 --> 00:24:27.759 journey. Baby, it's not your journey. Okay, that's not your life. 301 00:24:29.000 --> 00:24:30.200 You have a different one, good for you. By the way, 302 00:24:30.359 --> 00:24:34.240 you know that's his sounds like a really rough journey. I don't think any 303 00:24:34.240 --> 00:24:40.680 of us need that right now. But this this stuff cuts deep, intimate 304 00:24:40.759 --> 00:24:48.599 relationships. Oh, they cut deep. Another point, don't try hard, 305 00:24:48.400 --> 00:24:55.920 try easy? Yep. I think so much of the time we try so 306 00:24:56.319 --> 00:25:02.240 hard for career, love life in general. We try so hard to get 307 00:25:02.279 --> 00:25:07.319 people to stay. We try so hard to make situations work out in a 308 00:25:07.319 --> 00:25:11.359 way where we have control. What if we just tried easy, like, 309 00:25:11.440 --> 00:25:17.960 actually ask yourself, how does that feel in your body? Literally say aloud? 310 00:25:18.079 --> 00:25:23.480 What if I just tried easy? What if I just surrendered? What 311 00:25:23.599 --> 00:25:29.559 if I just allowed people to show me who they are? What if I 312 00:25:29.720 --> 00:25:33.880 just allowed people to pursue me instead of me thinking and I have to pursue 313 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:40.559 them. What if I just let things unfold? What is your body doing? 314 00:25:41.160 --> 00:25:44.200 How does it feel? For some of you, you might be feeling 315 00:25:44.200 --> 00:25:48.000 a piece you haven't felt in a really long time. For others of you, 316 00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:53.400 you might feel actually extreme stressed because you're not familiar with giving up control. 317 00:25:53.720 --> 00:25:57.599 You're not familiar with being in your divine feminine energy. All you know 318 00:25:57.680 --> 00:26:03.119 is your masculine energy. And what does the masculine want to do? Really, 319 00:26:03.160 --> 00:26:07.359 the wounded masculine, what does it want to do? Control? Dominate? 320 00:26:07.880 --> 00:26:15.240 It always is so deeply trying to connect every single dot before your soul 321 00:26:15.319 --> 00:26:21.559 should even know where the next dot is coming from. Don't try hard, 322 00:26:22.319 --> 00:26:26.960 try easy. What we don't realize is when we're trying so hard, what 323 00:26:27.000 --> 00:26:32.000 are you feeling? Emotionally? We're feeling the lack of what it is we 324 00:26:32.039 --> 00:26:34.759 want in our life. We're feeling the lack of love, the lack of 325 00:26:36.000 --> 00:26:41.640 abundance, the lack of appreciation. When we're trying really, really hard in 326 00:26:41.680 --> 00:26:48.759 the three DS, because energetically, we're feeling lack And what matters is not 327 00:26:48.839 --> 00:26:52.799 what's happening in the three D. Are you facing your reality or are you 328 00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:59.440 creating your reality? What matters is what you're broadcasting on an energetic level, 329 00:26:59.480 --> 00:27:03.519 because that is what is pulling in your experiences. Your energetic signature is made 330 00:27:03.599 --> 00:27:07.400 up of your dominant thoughts and your dominant feelings. Really feelings is the more 331 00:27:07.480 --> 00:27:12.799 powerful one, but it's both because thoughts cause biochemical reactions which cause feelings. 332 00:27:14.480 --> 00:27:18.480 Either way, your dominant thoughts in your dominant feelings are pulling in your experiences. 333 00:27:18.880 --> 00:27:22.680 If you're trying hard in the three D, what are you thinking and 334 00:27:22.720 --> 00:27:27.519 what are you feeling energetically, because that is what's manifesting. If you're trying 335 00:27:27.559 --> 00:27:30.480 so hard in the three D because the root is that you don't think you're 336 00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:33.440 good enough and you feel the lack of whatever it is you want in your 337 00:27:33.480 --> 00:27:40.200 life, Well, you're just going to attract more lack. The masculine energy 338 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:45.200 can get stuck in survival mode and become over focused on chasing material goods, 339 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:49.519 relationships, people, places, anything. The masculine tends to get lost under 340 00:27:49.559 --> 00:27:53.039 the guise of the ego, while the feminine knows we are much more than 341 00:27:53.039 --> 00:27:56.960 what meets the eye. The feminine energy doesn't try hard because she knows she 342 00:27:57.079 --> 00:28:02.839 already has everything she needs within her. When we try hard for something or 343 00:28:02.839 --> 00:28:07.920 should I say, someone, na, not only do we begin to energetically 344 00:28:07.000 --> 00:28:11.880 chase that thing or person, but we place them on our pedestal. This 345 00:28:11.000 --> 00:28:15.680 makes them the king and us the peasant. Are you a peasant? No, 346 00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:19.799 so stop acting like one. Anytime we place anything on our pedestal, 347 00:28:19.839 --> 00:28:27.640 it automatically energetically is above us, and therefore it becomes harder to align with. 348 00:28:29.160 --> 00:28:32.720 When we place the person on our pedestal, we end up living according 349 00:28:32.720 --> 00:28:36.440 to their law, their rules, and their way. We have gotten lost 350 00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:41.160 in trying hard. We have forgotten how easy aligning with like vibration people is 351 00:28:42.039 --> 00:28:49.039 like naturally attracts like, you don't have to do much. The one thing 352 00:28:49.079 --> 00:28:53.680 you must do is show up authentically as yourself and leave the rest up to 353 00:28:53.720 --> 00:29:04.759 the universes electromagnetic field. So here's the thing. Like naturally attracts like attracting 354 00:29:04.920 --> 00:29:11.359 what you want is simpler than what you think. It's energetic law. That 355 00:29:11.640 --> 00:29:17.640 like attracts like, it's energetic law. Therefore, that what you're seeking, 356 00:29:18.240 --> 00:29:22.559 that right person is also seeking you. The person you're praying for is also 357 00:29:22.599 --> 00:29:26.880 praying for you. The person that you're wanting is also wanting you. You 358 00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:30.759 have to let the energetic universe place you in the right place, at the 359 00:29:30.839 --> 00:29:33.839 right time, with the right people. If you're going out on a date 360 00:29:33.880 --> 00:29:37.319 with someone new or someone you've been dating for a little bit but it's still 361 00:29:37.359 --> 00:29:41.160 new, even if you're just going out to the bar or the restaurant, 362 00:29:41.200 --> 00:29:47.240 the club. What I want you to be asking yourself not is not how 363 00:29:47.240 --> 00:29:48.599 can I prove myself? How can I look good for them? Blah blah 364 00:29:48.599 --> 00:29:52.680 blah blah, not all that word vomit. What I want you to be 365 00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:56.559 asking yourself is one simple question, and that is how can I just enjoy 366 00:29:56.640 --> 00:30:03.319 myself tonight. We have forgotten how easy and fun manifestation is. If you 367 00:30:03.440 --> 00:30:08.359 want to manifest ten times more efficiently and better, just ask yourself, how 368 00:30:08.359 --> 00:30:12.640 can I find joy in every single moment? I prefer how can I find 369 00:30:12.759 --> 00:30:18.160 fun in every single moment? As a Capricorn, I have found a lot 370 00:30:18.160 --> 00:30:22.559 of my time I am so in a work mindset. I spent most of 371 00:30:22.599 --> 00:30:26.079 my life in my masculine energy. That's why I'm here right now talking about 372 00:30:26.079 --> 00:30:30.000 this stuff. Because it's so important that we don't get lost in the sauce. 373 00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:34.279 Hello, wake up? Is anyone out there? It's time to show 374 00:30:34.359 --> 00:30:40.160 up as her life is so short. One day we will not be here. 375 00:30:41.400 --> 00:30:44.599 What are we doing wasting our time? Today? Is so important? 376 00:30:44.880 --> 00:30:48.279 So how can we find joy? How can we find happiness and fun in 377 00:30:48.440 --> 00:30:56.480 right now? In right now? It's imperative that you are setting intentions before 378 00:30:56.519 --> 00:31:00.720 you go out tonight. I'm gonna have fun tonight and I'm going to enjoy 379 00:31:00.759 --> 00:31:03.920 myself. Tonight is gonna be a night like no other. I'm gonna stay 380 00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:10.920 focused on me, I'm gonna enjoy my own human experience. I've been thinking 381 00:31:10.960 --> 00:31:15.839 a lot about this mantra recently that just came to my mind mantra moment. 382 00:31:15.519 --> 00:31:19.799 This new mantra I've been working with is when I focus on me, I 383 00:31:19.920 --> 00:31:26.440 have peace. When I focus on me, I have peace. This reminds 384 00:31:26.519 --> 00:31:30.599 me that when I stay focused on my own incarnation and I feed myself with 385 00:31:30.640 --> 00:31:37.440 my energy, I have peace. I'm not worried about someone else, I'm 386 00:31:37.519 --> 00:31:41.240 not worried about something in the future, and I'm not regretting something from my 387 00:31:41.400 --> 00:31:45.200 past. I am so steeped in my present moment, and when I do 388 00:31:45.319 --> 00:31:51.519 that, I have peace. We get depression from our past, anxiety from 389 00:31:51.599 --> 00:31:56.079 our future. What do we get from our present moment? Power and peace? 390 00:31:56.559 --> 00:32:02.880 The double peace. Ooh, it's good and it feels good because our 391 00:32:04.119 --> 00:32:08.119 power lies in our present moment. We can reframe the past, of course, 392 00:32:08.519 --> 00:32:13.200 we can intend for our future, of course, But where can we 393 00:32:13.279 --> 00:32:19.799 take true aligned action, It's in our present moment. If you want to 394 00:32:19.920 --> 00:32:27.000 learn more about manifestation, more about how to unlock your magnetic energy, how 395 00:32:27.039 --> 00:32:32.039 to release anxiety, how to regulate your nervous system, how to stay embodied 396 00:32:32.119 --> 00:32:37.240 in your own vessel, not get mad, but get everything you've ever wanted, 397 00:32:37.279 --> 00:32:42.960 and desired I really invite you to get show up as her. Ten 398 00:32:43.119 --> 00:32:52.400 laws for reclaiming your power, embodying magnetic energy and positive manifestation. I really 399 00:32:52.480 --> 00:32:58.799 really invite you to take action and invest in yourself. You are the greatest 400 00:32:58.839 --> 00:33:04.880 investment that you can possibly make. You have to take healthy risk on yourself, 401 00:33:04.920 --> 00:33:07.039 and I would hardly equate getting a book and reading it as a risk. 402 00:33:07.359 --> 00:33:10.720 But if you're not used to doing that, then it can feel unfamiliar 403 00:33:10.759 --> 00:33:15.920 and maybe a little scary, and your ego might even want to resist it. 404 00:33:15.000 --> 00:33:20.559 But your soul has brought you to this podcast today. Your soul has 405 00:33:20.599 --> 00:33:27.799 aligned you with me for good reason. Don't let your soul down. Don't 406 00:33:27.880 --> 00:33:34.559 let your future self down. Don't let your potential be so far away from 407 00:33:34.599 --> 00:33:37.759 you. Your potential, the relationship you want, the career that you want, 408 00:33:37.799 --> 00:33:40.880 the body that you want. All of these things are in your reach. 409 00:33:42.119 --> 00:33:45.200 But are you grabbing them or are you just thinking about them? Because 410 00:33:45.279 --> 00:33:51.880 thought in itself is not enough. You have to become her and show up 411 00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:59.519 as her every damn day. That is the price of admission to your desired 412 00:33:59.559 --> 00:34:02.640 life. That is the price that you have to pay to get what it 413 00:34:02.720 --> 00:34:07.599 is you want, but it will be truly the best thing you do for 414 00:34:07.760 --> 00:34:12.679 yourself. I love you so much. If you want to get you up 415 00:34:12.719 --> 00:34:15.360 as her, the link will be in the show notes and I will see 416 00:34:15.400 --> 00:34:46.000 you the next one. Coenogy. Cancel Engy, cancel me, Cancel me.