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Welcome to Round four of the Parenting
Roundabout podcasts for the week of June twelfth.

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I'm Terry Morrow, and I'm here
with Nicole Ritis Hello and Catherine Heleco.

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Hello. As moms of teens and
young adults, we've survived those little

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kid days, yet we're still rethinking
the decisions we've made all through our kids'

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lives and worrying about what's going on
right now. Today's Thursday, which means

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it's time to give into our obsessing, and today we are obsessing about a

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scene from the second to last episode
of ted Lasso. Are people still obsessing

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about ted Lasso now it's been a
couple of weeks. Still shaking their fists

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on Twitter or posting their favorite scenes
on Twitter? Could be. But a

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scene that has stuck in my mind
was from the next to last episode,

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Mom City, in which ted Lasso
had a conversation with his mother in which

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how can we say this? How
can we describe this? For the our

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g rated podcast, Katherine and Him
loses some of its punch without yes,

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without the f barm. But over
the course of three seasons of ted Lasso,

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we got to know some of the
tragedies in Ted's life and some of

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the things that have sort of caused
him to be the dude he is.

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And he has this scene where his
mother has come to visit and he says

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some things to her that I guess
he has wanted to say for a long

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time, but it's in the format
of he says, thank you, mom

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for doing such and such, and
f you for doing this thing that messed

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me up, and thank you for
doing this, and f you for doing

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that. And it made me think
that are there some things I would have

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liked to have a conversation like that
with my mom about? Probably? Are

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there things that my kids would want
to have a conversation like that about with

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me? I would love it if
they would. They won't because because I

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like I can think of lots of
things I did that fed them up,

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shall we say? Which was another
theme of that episode. There was a

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there's a poem about what your how
your parents mess you up? I can

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think of lots of things that mess
them up. And when I bring it

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up to them and they go,
oh, no, that was fine.

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I was glad. I was glad
about that. That was fine. I

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had no problem with that. Everything
you did was perfect. It was fine,

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It was fine, It was fine. It's like I know, it

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wasn't all fine. Give me that
thank you and f you right now,

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come on, come on, come
on. They will not give me the

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not the satisfaction, it is not
quite the right word, but the resolution,

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the yea, the settling of scores. That will not happen. I

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will just carry the guilt with me
without having that cathartic moment. But Catherine,

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you actually saw that scene and knew
what happened before and after. Did

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it resonate with you in any way? Um? I mean, I don't

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know. Maybe I don't have the
like, maybe I need some therapy to

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kind of unpack wanting it all up, Yeah, to bring it all up,

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all the things that you know.
I mean, I I don't think

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my parents left me up. I
mean I think they did. They did

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a good job, and I you
know, had a good childhood and you

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know, um, I'm sure there
are things that I mean, obviously we

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all you know, there's things that
our parents did that you know, they

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couldn't help. And that's just yes, because of the circumstances that you were

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in and that they were in,
and that they were raised in and everything

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else. Um, So it's it's
tough to say. And that goes for

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us raising our kids too, right, I mean, yeah, I'm sure

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that they're that there are you know, I mean I I certainly have I

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have regrets and about I mean,
this is this is one that my son

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still brings up. So he you
know, when my kids were before they

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started school, they went to a
childcare center, um, which you know,

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basically by the time they're in the
you know, three year old,

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four year old classroom, it's basically
it's preschool. But then it just isn't

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is more than you know, two
hours a day, so that it can

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work for working people. Um.
But so my one of my kids good

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friends from when he was in preschool, UM, her mother, um took

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a layoff package when she was a
little kid, and so then switched her

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to a preschool program instead of being
a daycare. And to this day,

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Michael will be like, well,
you never sent me to preschool. I'm

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like, yes, you were at
preschool like ten times the amount as every

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other kid, because you were there
all day. They were going they were

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going for two hours, three days
a year or whatever. You were going

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all day. That's on the list. Yeah, so yeah, thank you

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for finding me such a nice facility
to spend my time in. Right there

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you go. Yeah, and my
daughter will still you know, bring up

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thank you for um taking good care
of me when I'm sick of you for

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not knowing that my appendix was bursting. Oh yeah, you had one of

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those ary. Yeah, my son
could totally do that, but he won't.

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He's like not interested, not interested
in recriminations. My children, they

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will just go through their traumas and
go, no, no, it's fine,

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it's all good. And I mean
I had I had a good childhood

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and I really can't complain about anything. I was set up well for life.

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But there are some some of my
mom's particular anxieties and fears and phobias

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did get passed down. You know. We talk about the anxiety gene that

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I have somehow passed to my daughter
through you know, nurture, not nature.

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So you know, I don't know
that I would want to have that

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conversation with her necessarily if she were
still alive, but I do think it

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sometimes. How about ju Nicole feeling
conversation to have? Well, I know

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my son is very much you know, he tells the story over and over

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again about how he came running in
the house one day after playing outside and

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to tell me that he broke his
wrist. And I was it was the

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end of the day and I was
tired and I'd worked blah blah blah blah

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blah, and I'm like, you
didn't break it, you just rained it,

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like, go put some ice on
it. That was my like famous

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last words, go put some ice
on it, because then kind of like

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just shake it off. Yeah,
yeah, I just wrote some dirt on

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it. Exactly, you'll live.
So of course my husband comes home.

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My son's in pain. My husband
was like, why didn't you take an

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urgent care? So they had the
urgent care, and of course it's broken.

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So I will never hear the end
of that, much like Appendix Yes

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and the styles, although I had
the opposite situation because my son was going,

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it's nothing, it's nothing, it's
nothing, right up to the point

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where he's going, oh my god. Yeah, I would say telling me

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your stomach was rupturing, right yeah, no, no, um. And

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I'm just really salty with my parents
for yeah, raising me in a very

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small, remote town in the middle
of Yes, it definitely did not you

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know, it's just too small,
too too um insular. Yeah yeah not.

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I am very much a big city
person. I need options, I

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need choices, I need diversity.
So that did not I mean, it

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did serve me well in the sense
that I got the heck out as soon

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as I could. I've never been
back, so yeah, that's that was

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definitely a place that I and they
look back on it and they're like,

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oh, it was so great.
It was such a great place to raise

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kids. And I'm like, take
it from a kid, it wasn't.

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It was not. You had fun
because you got to like go to the

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curling rink every weekend and curl and
then have some you know, socialization time.

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And yeah you had to lead to
Australia. Yes, I literally did.

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I bailed when I was sixteen and
that was it. So yeah,

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that's what I would That's my big
grief. They meant well, but right

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it really benefited them more than me, right, Yeah, they always mean

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well, well, I guess not
all of them. Yes, yeah,

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anyway, that's my little my little
spiel or our kids. One day take

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us to chask for having talked about
them on a podcast relentlessly exposed all their

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foibles. To the general public.
Anybody can listen to this. That's right,

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Yes, too bad, But that's
it for today's Round four. Right

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didn't mean any of that exactly. Asked

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