1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:11,160 Made a decision. Oh Pace, Sunny sun on, I had vision life. 2 00:00:15,279 --> 00:00:19,920 What's up everybody, We have a special guest in studio. It was 3 00:00:20,039 --> 00:00:23,239 really hard to book her. It took months and months. We had to 4 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:27,280 get our people in touch with her people, but we finally made it happen. 5 00:00:27,399 --> 00:00:32,240 We have LB and studio. Hello, Hi Helby. Hi. You 6 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:36,920 know what, it was kind of hard because between school and her job, 7 00:00:37,799 --> 00:00:41,359 it's not always easy. It's not easy. Yeah, it's busy life, 8 00:00:41,399 --> 00:00:46,640 busy life. Congratulations, be the first to say thank you on behalf of 9 00:00:46,719 --> 00:00:52,159 everybody listening. I'm sure everybody is. I know a lot of people were 10 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:55,880 rooting for you and pulling for you, and uh, I don't know. 11 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,960 I knew you could do it. It wasn't I want. I want to 12 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,840 hope that when it was all coming, you know, I got this. 13 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:07,840 But right in being in the thick of it and having your mom and of 14 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:12,560 course like but as an outsider and hearing the updates, I'm like, oh, 15 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:17,200 yeah, she's got this. It's got it in the bag. But 16 00:01:17,359 --> 00:01:21,400 it was rough going for a while, and I was trying to remember what 17 00:01:22,359 --> 00:01:25,879 exactly where you were in the process when you came on last time. She 18 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:30,239 came on as kind of a cautionary tale of like not going for an impacted 19 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:36,319 major and not and you can. I think you told the story about going 20 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:41,760 on the tour of you see Santa Cruz and hating it and having made the 21 00:01:41,799 --> 00:01:46,599 decision that you're going to try to do a community college for one year and 22 00:01:46,879 --> 00:01:51,480 you were hopeful. But we couldn't remember if she'd even done her applications yet 23 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:55,439 redone her application. I don't think so, I was saying, I feel 24 00:01:55,480 --> 00:02:00,719 like I hadn't. I feel like I had just started at here now see 25 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,000 I kind of feel like you had, because hadn't we already got you the 26 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:08,520 essay coach we might have? I feel maybe I was working on them. 27 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:13,159 I feel like I hadn't finished them, Like I feel like they weren't done. 28 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:16,120 Yeah. Maybe, Well, I'm going to tell you guys this about 29 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:23,479 LB. She's back, baby, her her optimism, her personality, She's 30 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:27,879 she's back. And what was it like Elbie when it was you know, 31 00:02:28,599 --> 00:02:31,280 I know that it was gotta be hard and we don't have to go through 32 00:02:31,319 --> 00:02:36,879 that like last year when your friends were leaving, but you know when you 33 00:02:37,039 --> 00:02:40,759 enrolled in Pierced and everything like did you enjoy Did you go like, Okay, 34 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:45,120 I got I think I got this, Like I got yeah, get 35 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:47,759 it done in a year. Yeah, I mean like starting out, it 36 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:53,840 was definitely horrible. It was very isolating because I was so you know, 37 00:02:53,439 --> 00:03:00,680 in my head I had convinced myself after starting I was like because I catastrophized. 38 00:03:00,719 --> 00:03:02,360 So I was like, oh, this is going to be terrible. 39 00:03:02,719 --> 00:03:07,599 I have no friends, Like, this is awful, it's gonna be I 40 00:03:07,599 --> 00:03:10,919 thought it was going to be a lot more work than it was too. 41 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,039 I remember I think I was talking about that. I thought it was going 42 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:16,479 to be so much work, and I was just going to be drowning in 43 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:21,560 all of this homework. And I was going to just be at school and 44 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,120 at work, which was what I did in high school. So I was 45 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,840 very worried that it was going to be back in the high school cycle of 46 00:03:28,759 --> 00:03:34,400 school work, sit at home and do homework and that was it. And 47 00:03:35,199 --> 00:03:40,319 honestly, it wasn't super far from that. But it was not as bad 48 00:03:40,759 --> 00:03:44,080 as I thought it was going to be, if that makes sense. Yeah, 49 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:47,719 where the classes did you find them hard? I was going to say 50 00:03:49,159 --> 00:03:53,840 I ended up loving a lot of my classes. First of all, it 51 00:03:53,919 --> 00:03:54,960 was really not that much work. I thought it was going to be a 52 00:03:55,000 --> 00:04:01,719 lot of work. But professors are somehow more relaxed than high school teachers, 53 00:04:02,199 --> 00:04:08,759 like different, they assigned slightly less, they give you more structure. Like 54 00:04:08,759 --> 00:04:12,199 in high school. I found that they would just give us an assignment and 55 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:15,159 then it would be due in two days and we would have to sit there 56 00:04:15,199 --> 00:04:18,319 and do it. Whereas my teachers, you have all your assignments, like 57 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:24,040 from the get go, you have due dates they give you. They'll send 58 00:04:24,079 --> 00:04:27,399 you emails saying, hey, so that you haven't turned this in yet, 59 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,759 just let you know, Like for my exams and stuff like that, they'll 60 00:04:30,759 --> 00:04:34,360 send me a little message being like, hey, just giving you a warning 61 00:04:34,399 --> 00:04:39,279 you haven't turned this in yet. Want to give you enough time if you 62 00:04:39,399 --> 00:04:43,639 forget to turn I've obviously forgotten to turn in a few assignments, but I 63 00:04:43,639 --> 00:04:46,800 don't normally do that. And so instead of being like, oh, well 64 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:49,800 that's a zero, sorry about it, I'll email my teacher and they'll be 65 00:04:49,879 --> 00:04:53,959 like, oh my gosh, no worries. I know that you don't normally 66 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,560 not turn in assignments. I just reopened it for you. Here you go 67 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:02,800 and I'll get full credit. So school itself has really not been nearly as 68 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:06,439 bad as I thought it was. And honestly, the classes that I take 69 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:11,199 in person are my sociology classes, which are my favorite classes. And I've 70 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:15,600 gotten very lucky with my both of my professors that I've gotten so it's like 71 00:05:15,759 --> 00:05:20,199 fun going to class, Like I'll be sitting in class actually wanting to be 72 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:26,360 there, like high school, which I dreaded. That's great though, Well, 73 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,759 and you're studying what is interesting to you exactly, yeah, exactly, 74 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:35,879 and then so before you like, okay, before we go on to what 75 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,759 the next steps are, what is your dream job? Like if you had 76 00:05:40,759 --> 00:05:46,240 your dream jobs. So I have always been very set on going into like 77 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:51,560 therapy or social work. Now I'm kind of not more unsure, but I 78 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:57,639 just know just from looking at other majors and like talking to even my mom 79 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:00,000 about stuff, I know that there's like a lot of other things out there 80 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:04,439 that I would want to do. So obviously in college, like I want 81 00:06:04,439 --> 00:06:10,879 to like take some other classes that are just more fun and kind of let 82 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:14,959 me explore some other things. But for now, I definitely like want to 83 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:18,839 do something related to social work, especially with kids. I've always worked with 84 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:23,920 kids, worked at camp, worked at you know, laser Tag. I've 85 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:28,319 always wanted to do stuff with kids because I don't know why, but I'm 86 00:06:28,399 --> 00:06:31,639 more patient with kids, and I enjoy working with them, even if they're 87 00:06:31,639 --> 00:06:39,160 insane, which, speaking from experience, some of the craziest kids you know 88 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:42,879 in my cabins have been some of my favorites. So I don't know, 89 00:06:42,959 --> 00:06:46,439 I feel like that's been always something that I wanted to work with. Ah, 90 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:50,639 that's great. A teacher too, that's true. That's true, although 91 00:06:51,199 --> 00:06:56,120 or a professor and work with older kids. Work with older kids. Yeah, 92 00:06:56,240 --> 00:07:00,639 tell me about, tell us about because our audio and has heard it 93 00:07:00,639 --> 00:07:04,920 from me. But the process of okay, what once, I know you 94 00:07:04,959 --> 00:07:09,120 went through. You went through kind of a dark period right when you were 95 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:13,160 having to do your applications. You did not want to. Yeah, it 96 00:07:13,279 --> 00:07:18,000 was definitely just very I don't know what's the word. Is it undemotivating? 97 00:07:18,079 --> 00:07:21,600 I don't know what they are. I don't know demotivating, anti motivating, 98 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:27,240 I don't know what the word is. But I had no motivation for a 99 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:31,160 while because I was still kind of getting out of that slump again. I'm 100 00:07:31,199 --> 00:07:36,839 not gonna sugarcoat it. It's definitely not a good feeling seeing every single one 101 00:07:36,879 --> 00:07:42,279 of your your friends posting on social media about the amazing time that they're having 102 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:46,120 in college, which you're not getting because I wasn't getting that. As much 103 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:51,079 as I don't think I like hated community college, but I definitely wasn't going 104 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:55,879 out all the time. There was definitely not that like social aspect of it 105 00:07:56,000 --> 00:08:00,240 still, which I was worried about. And it was true, not it 106 00:08:00,279 --> 00:08:03,720 wasn't worth it, totally worth it, but it was definitely I had a 107 00:08:03,759 --> 00:08:09,439 lot of fomo seeing all of that. And the isolating part is that I 108 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,839 was doing all these applications for a second time, not knowing if it was 109 00:08:13,879 --> 00:08:16,800 going to work out a second time. So in my head, there's like 110 00:08:16,879 --> 00:08:20,120 two sides to me. One side of me is like, you have to 111 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:22,160 do really well on these applications because you do have a chance, and like 112 00:08:22,199 --> 00:08:26,720 I know that it doesn't feel like it, but you're being told that you 113 00:08:26,759 --> 00:08:28,959 can. You have an even better chance of getting into these schools. But 114 00:08:28,959 --> 00:08:31,440 then the other side of me is like, well, what's the point, 115 00:08:31,679 --> 00:08:35,799 Like if I do this, if I work this hard again and I'm faced 116 00:08:35,799 --> 00:08:39,840 with this much disappointment. Again, it's going to be twenty times worse than 117 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:43,039 it was the first time. Like it's going to be awful. And I 118 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:48,399 was scared too, Yeah, as air mom. But also you had found 119 00:08:48,399 --> 00:08:54,120 out that you couldn't tag Oh yeah, Santa Barbara. Yeah, and you 120 00:08:54,159 --> 00:08:58,039 were not in the TAP program. Yes, that was the worst of it. 121 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,440 Because as we you've talked about, my mom is more of like a 122 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:07,320 she'll ask about stuff. She'll ask like about deadlines and things, whereas I 123 00:09:07,360 --> 00:09:11,000 am more of a type of person. I have a little less anxiety about 124 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:13,480 that. So I'm the type of person where my counselor will tell me something 125 00:09:13,799 --> 00:09:18,120 and I'll be like, great, I'm gonna listen to what they told me. 126 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:20,879 I'm going to do what they told me, and I'm going to expect 127 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:24,360 that it works out like that. And also I don't know what I don't 128 00:09:24,399 --> 00:09:26,480 know, so I can't ask something that I don't know to ask about. 129 00:09:28,039 --> 00:09:31,879 So I met with that. I will ask a hundred times right that someone 130 00:09:33,039 --> 00:09:35,360 already said until they go, oh wait, maybe I was wrong. Yeah 131 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:39,919 I told you. See, I don't like to question them, like I'm 132 00:09:39,919 --> 00:09:43,399 like, that's your job, girl, Like I trust you I trust you. 133 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,440 I trust that you're telling me the right thing. Even I shouldn't have 134 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:50,600 done that because my second counselor told me completely different stuff than my first counselor, 135 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:52,960 So that should have been my first red flag. But I was just 136 00:09:54,039 --> 00:09:56,559 so like in my head and I was like, Okay, I need to 137 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,320 do it exactly as they're telling me. They're telling me. So my councler 138 00:10:00,399 --> 00:10:03,759 told me to sign up for these honors classes. Right that we made this 139 00:10:03,919 --> 00:10:05,759 whole. I was so proud of myself. I had made an appointment with 140 00:10:05,799 --> 00:10:11,200 my counselor. We made a whole what they call an SEP student ed plan, 141 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:13,200 and I was sitting there and I was like, all right, I 142 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:18,559 got all my classes lined up. I'm gonna tag Santa Barbara. I have 143 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:24,240 my five honors classes lined up. That's called Transfer Alliance Admission Guarantee. Okay, 144 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,840 So just a brief. If you have a certain GPA and you take 145 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:31,559 a certain amount of classes, you're basically you can fill out this application and 146 00:10:31,639 --> 00:10:37,919 basically get guaranteed admission to one of the UC's, but not only certain ones. 147 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:45,679 It's only Santa Barbara, Santa Barbara, Santa Cruz, Sana Cruz Irvine. 148 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:52,440 Uh so it's not Berkeley, UCLA, San Diego, right, okay? 149 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:56,440 Oh or Davis question mark right or Davis Davis. Oh you can tag 150 00:10:56,480 --> 00:11:01,200 Davis. You can tag Davis. Right. But obviously Santa Barbara being my 151 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:05,279 top school last year, I was like hell yeah, Like, I'm going 152 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:07,919 to tag Santa Barbara, Like that's the best fallback plan. Like, even 153 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,600 if I don't get any it anywhere, I'm still going to be going to 154 00:11:11,639 --> 00:11:13,879 the school that I wanted to the most last year. Right. So my 155 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:20,879 counselor was like perfect. She didn't mention anything about a separate application for the 156 00:11:20,919 --> 00:11:26,120 tag, like, which I feel like would be something that you mentioned right 157 00:11:26,159 --> 00:11:30,840 off the bat, Like I feel like you're like, yo, this is 158 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:35,679 super important that you fill this out. Make sure you fill this out asap. 159 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:41,480 Nothing about that, nothing, I mean, what is with I think 160 00:11:41,519 --> 00:11:46,200 they go on autopilot or something and they just go from kid to kid to 161 00:11:46,279 --> 00:11:50,519 kids and they forget or they expect that. They expect that. I know, 162 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:54,360 like they expect that. I well, that's why we hire them. 163 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:56,919 And I think the problem too, is that because I did it in a 164 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:01,240 year, I had a lot less time to kind of figure out all this 165 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:05,960 information. Like normally, throughout the year, instead of applying to colleges, 166 00:12:07,519 --> 00:12:13,039 people in their first year are meeting with counselors every couple months to discuss their 167 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,240 plan for the next year. Whereas I was already in the next year. 168 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:20,000 I was in my only year, So I had a couple meetings with counselors 169 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:22,480 in the beginning, and then it was on to applications, like I had 170 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:28,080 no time, And so I found out that the tag deadline was September thirtieth. 171 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:37,320 I found this out in November. I was like going with my counselor, 172 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:41,600 and I had met with the first counselor. We had done the whole 173 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:45,799 plan, you know, I think I maybe met with the second one too, 174 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:50,519 and she went back and like changed a few things. She like tweaked 175 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:54,320 a few things, and she was like, Okay, on the on the 176 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:58,480 website for the school, you'll see a list of all of these honors classes. 177 00:12:58,639 --> 00:13:01,519 You can cross check them too. These are all considered honors classes that 178 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:05,559 you're taking. And I was like, perfect, I'd gotten myself into the 179 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:07,559 honors program too, I'd done that earlier in the year. So and let 180 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:11,519 me just say the reason to be in the honors program. Is it has 181 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:13,759 nothing to do with the TAG. It's called TAG. Yes, and that's 182 00:13:13,799 --> 00:13:24,759 the Transfer Alliance Transfer a preferential or something. You take honors classes and then 183 00:13:24,799 --> 00:13:30,159 they you're in this program and it gives you are it gives you a second 184 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:33,720 major, It gives you priority admission to the school, and then it also 185 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:39,200 gives you on top of that, it gives you they they consider both of 186 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:45,320 your majors equally, so you have to submit an alternate major on your application. 187 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:48,960 UCLA will consider both of your majors equally, so if they don't like 188 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:54,679 you for one, they'll consider they'll consider you equally for the other one, 189 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:58,759 which, like I guess, doubles your chances if you have good coursework. 190 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:05,720 So I took all these classes that were supposed to the honors classes, and 191 00:14:05,759 --> 00:14:09,799 then I met with a counselor third time, right before I was going to 192 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:11,799 be starting my applications, because I was like, Okay, I really need 193 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:16,360 to sit down and like figure out what I'm putting on my application, how 194 00:14:16,399 --> 00:14:20,679 everything works, like how the TAG works, right, because to my knowledge, 195 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:26,240 the TAG is part of the UC application. And I go on there 196 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:30,080 and she I was like Okay, yeah, I'm going to be doing the 197 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:33,679 TAT program. And she's like, what are you talking about, Like you 198 00:14:33,039 --> 00:14:35,720 how are you doing the TAT program? And I was like, oh, 199 00:14:35,759 --> 00:14:39,440 well, you know, I mean on my ed plan, like all these 200 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:43,960 classes were honors classes. And she was like, they're showing up as regular 201 00:14:43,279 --> 00:14:48,320 on your transcript and I was like, what do you mean, like they're 202 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:54,600 honors classes and she goes, yeah, well they they have a version that's 203 00:14:54,679 --> 00:14:58,840 honors, but you have to sign up for that separately, like a different 204 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:01,799 way, oh my god, than just signing up for normal classes. And 205 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:07,320 I was like, are you fucking kidding me? Like are you serious? 206 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:09,960 You're telling me that? And it was too late. By the way, 207 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:15,559 I had already finished You'd already completed it. I had already finished some of 208 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:20,600 the classes, and I didn't I didn't have time to go back to add 209 00:15:20,639 --> 00:15:22,639 more honors classes. There was no way. Basically, there was no way 210 00:15:22,679 --> 00:15:26,159 for me to get the five honors classes, like this was the only way 211 00:15:26,159 --> 00:15:28,679 if I had signed up for those originally. So I was like, oh 212 00:15:28,679 --> 00:15:31,000 my god, like I can't. And then either that meeting or maybe a 213 00:15:31,039 --> 00:15:35,759 few days later, another counselor was like oh yeah, you're not tagging. 214 00:15:35,759 --> 00:15:39,080 The deadline passed in September, and I was like, what, like, 215 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:45,759 how I should have done more RESAR But how did I not know any of 216 00:15:45,799 --> 00:15:50,480 this? Like I don't because I had started the TAG application, I think, 217 00:15:50,559 --> 00:15:54,799 like way beforehand. But I thought that it was basically called the transferre 218 00:15:54,799 --> 00:16:00,559 Admission Planner, So I thought that that was just like for me, Like 219 00:16:00,639 --> 00:16:03,799 I thought that that was just helping me line up everything and I can like 220 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:07,919 cross everything. And then I actually submit the application on the application on the 221 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:12,039 UCY application. Nope, no, nope. So that day you were in 222 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:18,480 tears. Oh devastated. I mean you kept like getting knocked down, this 223 00:16:18,519 --> 00:16:21,759 poor kid. Yeah, and then she found out that the TAG was also 224 00:16:22,039 --> 00:16:25,559 not happening. So then she was like, oh my god, I have 225 00:16:25,679 --> 00:16:29,639 no guarantee. This feels like free following. I don't know what's going to 226 00:16:29,679 --> 00:16:33,080 happen. But your counselor had told you that your application looked good, but 227 00:16:33,159 --> 00:16:38,120 we didn't and you could you could very feasibly get in ICE anyway, but 228 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:42,919 did we believe them. So I had a few counselors tell me, yo, 229 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:47,360 no, no, your application still looks really good, Like I wouldn't 230 00:16:47,399 --> 00:16:49,600 worry too much. The counselor that broke the news to me about the TAP 231 00:16:49,639 --> 00:16:55,399 program had even told me herself. She was like, you are probably the 232 00:16:55,399 --> 00:16:59,320 best person for this to happen to, because there have been a lot of 233 00:16:59,399 --> 00:17:04,079 kids that this have happened to that don't have that much course work, they 234 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:07,680 don't really know what they want to do, they're not that prep for their 235 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:11,279 major. Otherwise, they don't I don't want to say don't have a lot 236 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:15,079 going for them, because that just sounds brutal, but you know, she 237 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:19,079 was saying that, oh, this has happened to a lot of kids that 238 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:22,359 didn't have as high as a chance in the first place. So she was 239 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:27,759 like, your application still looks really good, especially for your major. So 240 00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:33,599 I mean they would only consider you for this major anyways. So she was 241 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:37,039 like, I wouldn't be too worried. And then I had another counselor that 242 00:17:37,319 --> 00:17:40,720 in the transfer center that was helping me on my application. She was telling 243 00:17:40,759 --> 00:17:44,160 me, yeah, you know, like all of this looks really good together, 244 00:17:44,400 --> 00:17:48,559 like blah blah blah. So I wanted to believe them, But at 245 00:17:48,599 --> 00:17:52,960 the same time, my first college counselor had just been like, oh, 246 00:17:53,039 --> 00:17:57,400 yeah, you're a gold girl, Like you're vine, your application looks really 247 00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:02,680 good, you're super competitive, And then I got rejected from everywhere. So 248 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:06,240 I was like, I don't I don't know who I'm supposed to. I 249 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:07,200 don't know who I'm supposed to believe, Like, I don't know if I 250 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:11,279 should trust that. Then you didn't feel motivated for on the applications to do 251 00:18:11,319 --> 00:18:15,480 the essays because you should redo essays yep. And we had a power struggle 252 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:19,640 about that. Yeah, what was the deal with these all these different counselors 253 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:25,119 are they They they're just at the center. Yeah, sob doct the ones 254 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,240 that I was talking to Originally. The problem is I don't have any like 255 00:18:27,279 --> 00:18:32,559 assigned counselor at PEARCE. I did have one in high school, but I 256 00:18:32,559 --> 00:18:36,799 don't have any assigned counselors in college. So I just kind of have to 257 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:41,160 schedule meetings and pray that I get somebody that knows what they're talking about. 258 00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:45,599 Right, But for my actual application, I was kind of scared to do 259 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:49,400 this, but you know, thankfully my mom got me to do it. 260 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:55,039 I went into the transfer center a few times, and there's people in there 261 00:18:55,079 --> 00:19:00,440 that are like literally just in there to look at your application and help you 262 00:19:00,519 --> 00:19:06,359 with your application for transferring to UC's. Oh that's good. Now. We 263 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:10,759 had some arguments about it, like you need to go in there. Yeah, 264 00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:15,480 I was tomorrow and all right. I was not having it. I 265 00:19:15,559 --> 00:19:18,279 was like, oh my god, just please, like I can't like too 266 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:22,759 much. It's a lot bad because I was just like I knew it was 267 00:19:22,839 --> 00:19:26,920 necessary, which is why I was so struggling, because I was like, 268 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:30,240 I need to hear about this because I know I'm not going to do it 269 00:19:30,759 --> 00:19:33,880 if I don't. But I was like, I am so tired, so 270 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:37,480 tired of hearing about this all the time. I think I will literally rip 271 00:19:37,519 --> 00:19:41,960 my hair out of my head. If one more person mentions application, application, 272 00:19:42,039 --> 00:19:45,319 application, I was like, I can't do it. I I legitimately 273 00:19:45,319 --> 00:19:48,000 can't do it anymore. Right, Like, I'm done. Let's take a 274 00:19:48,079 --> 00:19:53,559 quick break and then come back and hear what happened. What happened. So 275 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:56,920 when you were having to do your essays, you were like, hell, 276 00:19:57,039 --> 00:20:00,240 I don't want to do this. Yeah, but then we I got you 277 00:20:00,279 --> 00:20:03,759 an essay coach. Yeah. Was that helpful? It was super helpful. 278 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:07,839 It was super helpful because not only did it. Not only was it just 279 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:12,680 helpful for tweaking my essays, but it also made me feel better about the 280 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:17,640 work I was doing because when she would give me a correction and then I'd 281 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:19,720 fix it and she'd be like, oh, that's perfect, or she would 282 00:20:19,799 --> 00:20:26,079 say like this is really good. And also she had given me information that 283 00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:30,519 I didn't know about before, so I thought I had unlocked some secret code. 284 00:20:30,559 --> 00:20:33,839 I was like, Okay, here we go, Like now I know 285 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:37,759 what I'm supposed to be writing for. And it was a lot different than 286 00:20:37,759 --> 00:20:41,200 I wrote my essays the first time. Like the first time, I kind 287 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:45,720 of tried to do some storytelling stuff and make them very like, I don't 288 00:20:45,759 --> 00:20:51,480 know, like creative, creative, whereas I didn't realize that the UCS don't 289 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:55,119 really care that much about that, like they want your personality. They do 290 00:20:55,799 --> 00:21:00,559 you can be a little funny in there, but they wanted to be structured, 291 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:03,480 like they just they want you to get to the point. They don't 292 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:07,079 want all this like big thing just to get to the point at the very 293 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:08,960 end, like they want you to give a little backstory, get to the 294 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:15,400 point, and then talk about the point a lot, which I didn't realize 295 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:22,759 and she gave me a lot of really good advice and just like corrections on 296 00:21:22,799 --> 00:21:26,039 my essays that she would tell me stuff, and she also helped me build 297 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:30,440 some from like the ground like I originally had sent her. I would say, 298 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:34,680 like a draft of two of them, where one of them I'm pretty 299 00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:38,480 sure I had bullet points. I hadn't even started writing it because that one 300 00:21:38,519 --> 00:21:41,200 I was more unsure about the concept. The other ones I was more sure 301 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:45,440 about the concepts and less of the writing. That one. I was like, 302 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,279 I don't even I don't know if the concept and she was like, 303 00:21:48,559 --> 00:21:52,079 no, I love it. This is going to make a really good essay. 304 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:55,799 Here's what you should talk about in this like, here's how you should 305 00:21:55,799 --> 00:22:00,440 structure it. So I followed that super helpful. And what was her again, 306 00:22:00,559 --> 00:22:06,839 Melissa, Melissa? I put her in our I put I posted her 307 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:11,160 information. I will actually and it's just that the the essay coach is just 308 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:15,480 just to strictly help you with the essay and then inexpensive by the way it 309 00:22:15,519 --> 00:22:22,319 was. And you put Melissa Ameral, Yeah, Admiral Ameral, Yeah, 310 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:26,799 she has a website. I got her from my friend Laura. I got 311 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:29,519 listen, what I do is you know, I go to the go get 312 00:22:29,519 --> 00:22:32,680 her mom, Yeah, and go who did you use? And I was 313 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:34,839 like, I need somebody who can help with the UC stuff. But she 314 00:22:34,839 --> 00:22:40,599 she's an overall right, she has a whole college counselor thing, but you 315 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:42,680 don't. But it's not like one of these ones. It's not like the 316 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:47,079 ones that we used where it's for their whole process. They just they have 317 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:49,240 a thing where they just help you with essays. Yeah, and so my 318 00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:52,880 kids are gonna need that at some point. Yeah. And they just had 319 00:22:52,319 --> 00:22:56,920 a zoom. She just did it on her zoom, or you can just 320 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,599 send her the stuff and she would make notes. I was gonna say what 321 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:03,240 I did first is before I had a zoom with her, because I hadn't 322 00:23:03,279 --> 00:23:06,079 fully written some of my essays yet. I wanted to save that for when 323 00:23:06,079 --> 00:23:11,799 they were fully written. I emailed her all my drafts and she went on 324 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:17,039 like Google docs and gave me suggestions and comments and corrections and things like that. 325 00:23:17,519 --> 00:23:21,160 And then I took all of them, wrote a draft for all the 326 00:23:21,279 --> 00:23:23,279 essays, like I made sure that all four of them had drafts. And 327 00:23:23,319 --> 00:23:26,720 then I hopped on a zoom with her and we chatted for like an hour, 328 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:33,799 and she just gave me tons of super helpful advice. She was like, 329 00:23:33,599 --> 00:23:37,720 Honestly, I really like this essay, but I don't think that this 330 00:23:37,799 --> 00:23:40,799 part is necessary. I think you need to expand more on this part and 331 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:44,319 take this part out completely. Or no, no, you took this part 332 00:23:44,319 --> 00:23:47,920 out, but I think you should keep that in. Stuff like that super 333 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:51,480 helpful. So by the end of it, I'd had my essays checked by 334 00:23:51,519 --> 00:23:56,359 an essay coach, I'd had them read over by one of the counselors in 335 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,799 the transfer center who was super nice. So by the end of it, 336 00:23:59,799 --> 00:24:04,519 I definitely felt more confident with my essays because I had so many people that 337 00:24:06,039 --> 00:24:11,119 were qualified to look over them and told me this is good work. But 338 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:15,839 so, so you get your applications in, it's only the end of November. 339 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,279 Yeah, now you got December, January, February, March, April. 340 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:22,319 What did that feel like and how did you get through that time? 341 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:27,480 I would say that the first month is very relieving, just because they're done, 342 00:24:29,559 --> 00:24:33,200 so I'm not even thinking about where I'm getting in for like the first 343 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:37,119 month, I'm just like woo, yeah, no more applications, Like I 344 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:41,000 don't have to do that. Now I can just focus on my classes and 345 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:47,039 like work right, And I was like, that's all done. But then 346 00:24:47,079 --> 00:24:49,039 that feeling kind of starts to wear off, and then it starts to get 347 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:53,079 daunting, and you're just like, oh, well, now I don't know 348 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:57,519 where I'm going and you feel very stuck for a while. Is the problem 349 00:24:57,599 --> 00:25:02,279 I felt as my mom and I like to call it in limbo. I 350 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:07,240 was just kind of purgatory in between. I was like, I have no 351 00:25:07,319 --> 00:25:11,039 idea where I'm going to college. I don't, And by no idea, 352 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:15,079 I don't, I have no clue. I don't even have an idea of 353 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:19,279 where I'm supposed to get in. I don't find out about any of these 354 00:25:19,319 --> 00:25:25,480 college for colleges for months, and it started getting to the point where seniors 355 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,319 were finding out where they were going to college, and I was just hearing 356 00:25:27,319 --> 00:25:30,759 all this stuff where I know it doesn't really apply to transfers, but it's 357 00:25:30,799 --> 00:25:36,240 still scary to hear. Oh my god, every single one of these people 358 00:25:36,279 --> 00:25:41,039 got rejected to the school like it's super it's super hard this year. I'm 359 00:25:41,079 --> 00:25:42,960 just like, oh God, like, is that gonna apply to me? 360 00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:45,960 Like I don't know where I'm getting in and on top of that, I 361 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:48,920 don't really have a lot of friends that are transferring at the same time as 362 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:52,799 me, So I really did not have that many people to talk about with. 363 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:56,640 I have a field, definitely have a few, but I didn't have 364 00:25:56,640 --> 00:26:00,519 that many people to kind of deliberate with and be like in this together with, 365 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:04,000 if that makes sense. I have my one friend who I work with 366 00:26:04,039 --> 00:26:08,200 too, who was also in it, and she was definitely the closest to 367 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:12,799 my situation because she did it in a year. She was doing the What 368 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:18,079 I'd say is the worst part is I found out that sociology is still an 369 00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:25,319 impacted major, not as impact as psychology at all. But there's some websites. 370 00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,599 One of the top majors still one of the top majors, which I 371 00:26:27,599 --> 00:26:34,640 didn't realize. And there's this website called assist. Use it. Use it 372 00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:37,519 for all listening. Use a sist if you want to figure this out. 373 00:26:37,559 --> 00:26:41,640 Your counselors will go through it with you. But I use a cyst to 374 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:45,559 kind of give myself an idea of what courses I need to take. And 375 00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:51,279 so they basically show you an agreement between your community college and the college that 376 00:26:51,319 --> 00:26:55,079 you're looking at. So for me, I would go, oh, Los 377 00:26:55,119 --> 00:27:00,039 Angeles Pierce College Articulation Agreement with University of California, Los Angele and it tells 378 00:27:00,079 --> 00:27:06,039 you the classes that you need for your major requirement that you need in order 379 00:27:06,079 --> 00:27:10,920 to transfer, and it tells you what classes that you correlate to what classes 380 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:15,000 at piers. And at the top, when you're looking at your major, 381 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:18,720 you have to do it by major. It said in all caps, this 382 00:27:18,799 --> 00:27:22,640 is a highly selective major. And I was like, oh god, oh 383 00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:26,480 my god, oh god, not again. I was like, not again. 384 00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:32,319 I cannot do this. So it was definitely a bad feeling because it 385 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:37,440 was hard to feel confident, especially because of what happened last year. I 386 00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:40,839 didn't know the feeling of like getting into a school that I'd really wanted to 387 00:27:40,839 --> 00:27:42,599 go to. I'd never had that happen to me before, so it was 388 00:27:42,759 --> 00:27:48,680 very much just kind of felt like my impending doom of like, oh so 389 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:55,799 then so, so the first one comes in, and that was San Diego 390 00:27:55,880 --> 00:28:02,920 State. Yes, I found out about SSU while I was going to Beyond, 391 00:28:03,759 --> 00:28:11,319 going to my rave in my teeny little outfit in my little airbnb with 392 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:15,319 my friend and she's in the middle of doing my hair and I get an 393 00:28:15,319 --> 00:28:19,759 email from SCSU and it was on my phone and oh my god, my 394 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:23,680 heart dropped to my feet. I was like, oh God, this is 395 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,640 it. Oh God, this is it. I was like, if I 396 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,279 get rejected, it's over. It's over. I was like, I'm not 397 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,200 if I get rejected, I'm not getting in anywhere. Like that was my 398 00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,960 mindset. That that was true, but that was my mindset. I was 399 00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:37,759 like, it's over for me if I don't get in here. And I 400 00:28:37,759 --> 00:28:45,480 got rejected last year, so I was like racing myself. So, you 401 00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:48,559 know, I go through the email, I open it. I didn't even 402 00:28:48,599 --> 00:28:49,559 think I was going to be able to see it because I don't know my 403 00:28:49,599 --> 00:28:52,680 login off the top of my head, so I thought I was going to 404 00:28:52,759 --> 00:28:56,000 have to log in. But you open the email and I was like I 405 00:28:56,039 --> 00:28:59,880 was with my friend Kira. I was like, Kira, Kira, Kira, 406 00:29:00,079 --> 00:29:03,039 Kira Secu just came out, Oh my god, Oh my god, 407 00:29:03,039 --> 00:29:03,720 and she was like, are you gonna open it? And I was like 408 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,279 I have to. I have to. So I opened it. You know, 409 00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:11,240 I click it and instead of saying we got to inform you, there's 410 00:29:11,279 --> 00:29:15,759 like a little video and I was like, oh, and I click it, 411 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:18,640 and you know those little green screens that you get at the beginning of 412 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,240 a trailer, like a movie trailer, where it says like viewer discretion advice 413 00:29:22,559 --> 00:29:27,440 yea. Instead of viewer discretion advice, it says a little viewer excitement advised. 414 00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:33,759 And I was like, I was like and then it goes and it's 415 00:29:33,799 --> 00:29:37,680 like, congratulations, You've been admitted, and I just draw. I was 416 00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:44,559 like, oh my god, I got it. Natsu and Kira's like jumping 417 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:48,160 up and down and I FaceTime my mom and I'm like, Mom, I 418 00:29:48,279 --> 00:29:52,960 got a nastys you. I was like, oh my god. I was 419 00:29:53,839 --> 00:29:57,160 smiling the rest of the day. I was like, I'm going to college. 420 00:29:57,559 --> 00:30:02,240 Finally, It's finally a bit of good news. But then a roller 421 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:07,000 coaster. Because roller coaster. I didn't tell me this until after so like 422 00:30:07,079 --> 00:30:11,680 a wait, a week or two later. Yeah, I got weightlisted at 423 00:30:11,759 --> 00:30:17,799 cal Poly Slow, and I was like wow, Like wow, if I 424 00:30:17,839 --> 00:30:22,319 got weight listed at cal Poly Slow, I'm not And I was really sad 425 00:30:22,359 --> 00:30:26,480 about it, but I was just kind of leaving it for a bit, 426 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,640 and then I was like really sad. One day my mom was like, 427 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,200 there's something wrong with you, like what are you good? And I was 428 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:37,519 like, yeah, I got wait listed at cal pually Slow, so I'm 429 00:30:37,519 --> 00:30:40,519 not really feeling hopeful for call it. And don't get me wrong, cal 430 00:30:40,599 --> 00:30:42,240 Pauly Slow is a super hard school to get into. But I was like, 431 00:30:44,119 --> 00:30:47,440 if I get weight listed at cal Poly Slow, what are my results 432 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:51,319 going to be for like UCLA or I didn't. I wasn't super set on 433 00:30:51,359 --> 00:30:55,559 Winni Berkeley, but as much as I tried not to, I had all 434 00:30:55,599 --> 00:30:57,279 my eggs in the UCLA basket, Like that's all I could think about. 435 00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:02,839 Yeah, especially because I didn't have a tee anywhere. I couldn't really think 436 00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,880 about Santa Barbara being my fallback because I didn't even know if I was getting 437 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:11,319 in there. So I was just like, oh god, oh wow, 438 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:12,920 this is not a good sign. This is really not a good sign. 439 00:31:14,799 --> 00:31:18,160 So that was Meanwhile, I was trying to get her to get excited about 440 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:25,319 going to STSU Accepted Students Day and she was like yeah. I was like, 441 00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,279 yeah, I'm going to try to get the day off of work and 442 00:31:27,319 --> 00:31:30,720 I was like try, bitch, you better get the day off work. 443 00:31:30,759 --> 00:31:33,000 We're going this is gonna be. And then I was trying to get her 444 00:31:33,039 --> 00:31:37,079 excited by saying like you're, uh, my friend's daughter that you know, 445 00:31:37,319 --> 00:31:41,799 like she's they want to go too. And we was like ool, and 446 00:31:42,039 --> 00:31:45,519 I said, well, you don't seem excited about it, and she was 447 00:31:45,559 --> 00:31:48,920 like, no, I am. It's like yeah, but what you were 448 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:56,319 you just weren't feeling it. You just was just very very very deep down. 449 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:01,119 I was just like, I don't know if I want to go here, 450 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:06,839 Like I was just like I knew that I should have probably seen it, 451 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:13,559 but I was just like I don't know. I was just like I 452 00:32:13,559 --> 00:32:16,319 don't know, man, like I don't know. I think she was feeling 453 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:22,599 like I'm so tense about finding out about these other schools that I just want 454 00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,200 to know what my actions are before I see it, before I try to 455 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:29,480 even try to get myself excited about something I want to know. It was 456 00:32:29,519 --> 00:32:32,640 definitely very much that feeling. I was just kind of like, Okay, 457 00:32:34,559 --> 00:32:39,319 I need to find out about these other schools. I can't even focus on 458 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:44,599 looking at a school because I have no idea what the right because none of 459 00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:46,400 the UC said come out yet. So it's like those are the schools that 460 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:52,960 I want to go to personally, no, I was like, I'm San 461 00:32:52,000 --> 00:33:00,079 Diego and cal Poly are amazing schools. But I was like, I you 462 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:01,640 to end up at a U see, that's just where I want to go. 463 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:08,559 And so it was very hard to kind of be like super excited about 464 00:33:08,559 --> 00:33:15,759 going to SCSU because for some reason, as as much as I hate to 465 00:33:15,759 --> 00:33:17,960 say this, a part of me is like, if I see SCSU, 466 00:33:20,839 --> 00:33:22,279 that might be the school that I end up at, and then I'm not 467 00:33:22,319 --> 00:33:27,960 going to end up at like a school that I really want to go to. 468 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,200 Yeah, I was like, I'm worried that I'm going to go and 469 00:33:30,279 --> 00:33:32,720 I'm not going to be super excited about it, and it's like not going 470 00:33:32,799 --> 00:33:36,559 to live up to everything, and then I'm going to end up going there 471 00:33:36,759 --> 00:33:40,440 and then I'm going to be more excited. Like my biggest thing is what 472 00:33:40,559 --> 00:33:45,720 if I don't get into these schools and then I know I'm already going there, 473 00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:50,519 so then I can go there knowing that's my school and make myself get 474 00:33:50,559 --> 00:33:52,960 excited about it. I was just like, I don't know, like it's 475 00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,839 going to be hard for me to like be super super super into the school 476 00:33:55,960 --> 00:34:01,000 if I just am fully the entire time I'm there about oh well, what 477 00:34:01,079 --> 00:34:04,400 if I get into Santa Barbara and then I'm going there and said, you 478 00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,839 know what am I going to be? Probably didn't help too that, Like 479 00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,320 first for cal Poly Slow, I was like, oh my god, this 480 00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:13,800 could be a totally great school for you, like it's really cute and San 481 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,280 Luis Obispo. And then and then when she didn't get in, I was 482 00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:19,920 like, oh, that school sucks, Like you not want to go there? 483 00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,440 Like I don't know why. It was cray Z. I was like, 484 00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:24,960 it's like the smallest city everybody. She was like, you don't want 485 00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,599 to go there, girls, you don't want to go there. Girl. 486 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,559 I was like, where did all this hate come from? I was like, 487 00:34:30,599 --> 00:34:34,920 what happened to being like, yes, Slow, Oh my gosh, 488 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:37,519 you're gonna love it there if you go there, like we should go visit. 489 00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,519 And then she was like yeah, no, that's cool. She was 490 00:34:39,599 --> 00:34:44,239 like that school sucks. So then okay, so like now it's like a 491 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:49,880 week one week later if that yeah, and we irvines coming out. Yes, 492 00:34:50,159 --> 00:34:52,440 this story is so funny. So my mom was out of town in 493 00:34:52,559 --> 00:34:59,760 San Diego and I had no I tour the school go herself. She took 494 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:01,280 it up on ourself to go look at SCCU. She was sending me all 495 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:07,960 these bit knockidding But that was when I went to the writers Writers. So 496 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:13,239 I had no idea that Irvine was coming out, and but I did. 497 00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,280 She did, and she didn't tell me. Said you tell her about your 498 00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:22,800 investigating on our page on the Reddit page. Oh yeah, she had. 499 00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:27,599 She she didn't mention anything, not purpose, but because I would try to 500 00:35:27,599 --> 00:35:30,239 talk to her about college and I would just be like, no, mom, 501 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,119 it really stresses me, like shut it down, shut it down about 502 00:35:32,159 --> 00:35:35,559 college all the time. So I was like, Okay, I gotta keep 503 00:35:35,559 --> 00:35:38,679 my mouth shut. I'm stressing her out. But but meanwhile I'm checking Reddit 504 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:43,719 every five minutes and everybody's like her Vine out. So I had no idea. 505 00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:47,800 And these schools they don't send you an email sometimes until like a while 506 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:52,880 after sometimes the notification doesn't pop up. And I didn't know Irvine was coming 507 00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:55,360 out, so I wasn't like checking my email. I had checked my portal 508 00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:59,800 that morning, but they didn't have a date on the portal, so I 509 00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:04,400 was like, okay, whatever, and the portal hadn't been down, and 510 00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,760 normally portals will go down before they release all of them. So I was 511 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:12,679 like, okay, whatever, like just doing my daily portal check. It's 512 00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:16,079 not happening today. So I go to work, you know, five o'clock. 513 00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:21,199 I'm at work, go through my whole shift, get home, go 514 00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,039 to bed, blah blah blah, blah blah. And that's when I was 515 00:36:23,079 --> 00:36:30,440 with Robin in San Diego, so sad because I had I had given myself 516 00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,280 a little denial where I was like, Okay, maybe she didn't check it 517 00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:36,280 before she went to work, but now it was midnight. I was like, 518 00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,880 she's been home. There's no way if she if she, if she 519 00:36:39,039 --> 00:36:43,280 got in, she would have would have heard. She would have facetimed me. 520 00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:45,599 She wouldn't have cared that it was midnight. She would have been I 521 00:36:45,599 --> 00:36:50,440 would Alley Center text, yeah, probably called. So I woke up the 522 00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:53,840 next day and I was like, it's over. So I wake up in 523 00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:58,119 the morning, it's probably like ten thirty ish, and obviously, you know, 524 00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,639 maybe me. First thing I do is roll over and pick up my 525 00:37:00,639 --> 00:37:02,800 phone because I'm like, all right, what have I missed? After sleeping 526 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:08,840 in, and I see on the cover of my phone on my notifications, 527 00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:15,840 like a notification from the admissions office, and I can't see the text of 528 00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:22,280 it, but I just see like the thing that's like newly admitted Irvine students. 529 00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:29,599 And I thought that it was just like giving me because you get a 530 00:37:29,599 --> 00:37:34,039 lot of those emails that give you false hope where they'll start emailing you and 531 00:37:34,079 --> 00:37:39,519 they'll be like, congrats on applying to the school, congrats on sending your 532 00:37:39,519 --> 00:37:46,039 application to the school. We're so excited to give you your response in two 533 00:37:46,079 --> 00:37:51,800 weeks. Here's some information about our school. So I thought it was one 534 00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:53,920 of those emails. I thought they were being like, okay, like here's 535 00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:59,159 what you're gonna do if you get into the school. I open it the 536 00:37:59,199 --> 00:38:04,119 email and I'm just like whatever, and it says congratulations on becoming an ant 537 00:38:04,119 --> 00:38:08,159 eater, and I was like what. And I look below it, and 538 00:38:08,559 --> 00:38:13,599 right below it is an email from the evening before that I didn't see that 539 00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:17,280 was like there's been an update, And I check my portal and it's like 540 00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:22,000 congratulations, we're whatever, happy on behalf of blah blah blah. You have 541 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:25,000 been accepted to you see your Vine as a social And I was like, 542 00:38:25,079 --> 00:38:30,000 oh my god, and I shot about of bed and I ran to my 543 00:38:30,119 --> 00:38:34,159 dad who was outside on the couch, and I was like, why should 544 00:38:34,199 --> 00:38:36,960 I got into you? See your mine? I got into you see your 545 00:38:37,039 --> 00:38:42,119 mine? And I I can't remember did I like? Take your mom's crying 546 00:38:42,159 --> 00:38:45,199 and she's like, she didn't get it. She didn't, she didn't. 547 00:38:45,199 --> 00:38:50,119 Well, let's take a quick break and then tell you what happened. Okay, 548 00:38:50,119 --> 00:38:53,679 we're back. Yeah, I'm I'm at the book signing table. John 549 00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:57,559 sends me a text. I hadn't looked at my phone. Then John had 550 00:38:57,559 --> 00:39:00,440 sent me a text and he said, uh, got some news. And 551 00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:04,599 I had already told him. I said, Elbe didn't get into Irvine, 552 00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,480 so don't ask don't about it. Don't ask her about because yeah, don't 553 00:39:07,519 --> 00:39:09,639 bring it up. Don't ask her because I know she didn't get in. 554 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:13,599 So John goes she had some news. So I'm like, I know, 555 00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,039 I know she didn't get in already, and he's like, well, she's 556 00:39:15,039 --> 00:39:19,679 feeling emotional and she needs her mom. And I was like, oh, 557 00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,800 oh my god, yeah, and he was like yeah, no, like 558 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:28,679 she has some news to break and then you called me right Well, then 559 00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:31,440 I looked at my phone and I had had texted my body. I didn't 560 00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:35,559 realize that my dad was doing a bit, so I'd already obviously texted her 561 00:39:35,559 --> 00:39:37,719 and been like, pick up the phone. I got into Harvine. I 562 00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:42,239 got her Vine. Yeah. She was like, your bitch got into Irvine. 563 00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,800 I think I said that, Yeah you did. I was like, 564 00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:51,400 hey, yes, he got it Irvine. I was so excited and that 565 00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:55,039 that definitely was like a game changer, like that gave me some hope because 566 00:39:55,039 --> 00:39:58,960 I was like, hey, this wasn't all for nothing. You got into 567 00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:02,199 a super hard you see that you got straight up rejected from last year like 568 00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:07,119 that you almost had no even hope for last year because I was like, 569 00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,039 that's one of the harder ones to get into. I was like, I'm 570 00:40:09,079 --> 00:40:14,039 not even getting into Irvine, Like I can say goodbye to that. Oh 571 00:40:14,079 --> 00:40:17,639 my god. So then okay, So so there was a while, like 572 00:40:17,679 --> 00:40:22,079 two weeks between Irvine and the rest of the schools there. Yeah, there 573 00:40:22,199 --> 00:40:25,480 was like two weeks. So then Berkeley was next. Berkeley was next, 574 00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:30,280 and I knew that Berkeley was coming out, and I was like, and 575 00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:34,639 my mom and I were just sick to our stomachs the entire day. We 576 00:40:34,639 --> 00:40:37,159 were like it's coming out at five, and my mom was like, we 577 00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:38,760 went to the mall, you know, to take our minds off of it, 578 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:43,039 just doing We're just girls, So we went to do some girly shopping 579 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,239 to take our minds off of this impending doom of Berkeley. And we were 580 00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:50,800 in the car and my mom was like, all right, we can't have 581 00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:54,960 any false positivity. Berkeley is a super hard school to get into. The 582 00:40:55,400 --> 00:41:00,280 if you don't get into Berkeley, that doesn't mean you're getting rejected from other 583 00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:02,880 schools. Okay, Like we were both basically said, on the fact that 584 00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,679 I was not getting into Berkeley, I didn't have like for it. We 585 00:41:07,679 --> 00:41:09,480 were not. We were not. I was still really nervous. Yeah, 586 00:41:09,559 --> 00:41:14,440 I was so nervous. So we didn't know what time it was coming out. 587 00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:15,320 We were like, oh, maybe it's coming out three, four, 588 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:20,480 maybe five, because they just say Berkeley. They're bitches, so they just 589 00:41:20,559 --> 00:41:24,199 say, yeah, you'll hear late afternoon, you'll hear whatever that means, 590 00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:28,320 whatever that means. So we were like, Okay, this could be anywhere 591 00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:34,280 from like three to like six o'clock for all we know. So I we 592 00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:36,559 get home from the mall, I'm just kind of like, you know, 593 00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:40,320 in a mood, laying in my bed, just like genuinely being like, 594 00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:44,599 all right, so this is probably going to ruin my work shift. It's 595 00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:49,480 chill though, It's it's cool. We'll get through it. And my mom 596 00:41:49,599 --> 00:41:53,960 runs in my room at like three three o'clock almost and she's like, so, 597 00:41:54,039 --> 00:41:58,559 Berkeley's out, Berkeley's out, deep breaths, Berkeley's out. I'm feeling 598 00:41:58,559 --> 00:42:00,679 nervous about this, she said, Berkley's out. And I was like, 599 00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:06,079 oh god, Like I just got a wave of just like oh no, 600 00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:07,039 no, no, no, no, no, no, no no, 601 00:42:07,039 --> 00:42:07,960 no, no no no. I was like, oh god. So I 602 00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:13,360 opened my computer. I'm like going on my portal, and of course it's 603 00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:16,639 not up there yet. Ah. It like got released a little later, 604 00:42:17,199 --> 00:42:21,920 like and by a little later, I mean like four minutes. But I 605 00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:24,280 was refreshing and refreshing and refreshing and refreshing, and it was just like your 606 00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:28,920 application is currently under review. I was like, oh my god. So 607 00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:31,000 then we thought so then Lbie was like, are you sure. Yeah, 608 00:42:31,039 --> 00:42:35,119 So I'm like, let me go back to my boss reddit. So she 609 00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:39,920 read back to her computer and like, from her computer sends me screenshots of 610 00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:45,039 Reddit of people being like I can't see mine, but other people being like, 611 00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,599 it's out, it's out, and a lot of people were like, 612 00:42:47,639 --> 00:42:53,360 eh, I got it, like future bear, you know. And so 613 00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:58,360 she comes back in my room, and probably like four minutes after she'd originally 614 00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:00,960 come into my room, I refreshed the page one more time and it changed 615 00:43:01,079 --> 00:43:04,800 and it was like, see your status update. And I was like, 616 00:43:05,599 --> 00:43:08,039 I'm like nervous just thinking about it, Like I have a panm my stomach 617 00:43:08,119 --> 00:43:10,920 just thinking about it. I am sitting there with my laptop and my way. 618 00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:16,199 I had not good hopes because we thought, because because people had already 619 00:43:16,199 --> 00:43:23,119 gotten nine, we kind of were suspicious that that maybe first. Yeah. 620 00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:28,079 So I was just like, oh god, I'm not gonna let this room 621 00:43:28,119 --> 00:43:30,760 my day. I'm not gonna let this room my day. I click see 622 00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:38,880 your status update. All I see is confetti and congratulations, and I screamed, 623 00:43:39,159 --> 00:43:45,079 like I screamed, bloody murder. I was like, I got it 624 00:43:45,159 --> 00:43:52,639 up, Berkley, and my mom just starts also screaming, and so we're 625 00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:58,599 just like litle five year old girls, like jumping up and down. We 626 00:43:59,159 --> 00:44:04,119 run out of my room and my dad is like what the hell is going 627 00:44:04,159 --> 00:44:07,559 on? And he like sits up from the couch. He's like, what 628 00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:12,559 are you guys a lot to turn out the couch and it's our office couch. 629 00:44:13,159 --> 00:44:15,880 He likes to lay and do work on his back and hang out with 630 00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:21,440 Pepo. Yeah, it's like Pepo spot too. But he like stands up 631 00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:22,880 and he's like, oh my God, like are you okay? And I'm 632 00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:27,519 just like jumping up and down, and I'm like, I got it up 633 00:44:27,599 --> 00:44:31,519 Berkeley. I caught it up Berkeley, and I am just screaming that statement 634 00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:36,199 is amazing. And then I started I was gonna say, then I start 635 00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:38,719 crying because I was just like, oh my God, like, oh my 636 00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:42,079 God, I got it into Berkeley, Like I can go to Berkeley, 637 00:44:42,119 --> 00:44:44,199 Like even if I don't get in anywhere else, I'm going to Berkeley. 638 00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:50,000 Like that's crazy. Right. It was the best feeling ever. It was 639 00:44:50,639 --> 00:44:55,840 amazing, amazing because it was such it was such excitement and like relief at 640 00:44:55,840 --> 00:45:00,119 the same time, because I was like, oh my God, like all 641 00:45:00,119 --> 00:45:07,119 of this work, all of this like sadness and despair was not for me 642 00:45:07,159 --> 00:45:10,800 to get rejected. So then like forty five minutes later, oh my gosh. 643 00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:15,960 So I'm like, you know, still just basking in my Berkeley acceptance, 644 00:45:16,639 --> 00:45:20,639 and I'm putting all my makeup for my shift because I have to leave 645 00:45:20,679 --> 00:45:23,920 soon. And I was like, I need a serve face for my work 646 00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:27,440 shift so that I can go in there and be like, guys, I 647 00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:32,239 got into worklee, and I always like have my phone like on my sink 648 00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:36,599 so I can multitask and watch TikTok's while I do while I do my makeup, 649 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,199 And a little drop down from my email pops up and it's like, 650 00:45:40,519 --> 00:45:45,519 there has been an update to your status from you see san Diego. And 651 00:45:45,559 --> 00:45:50,239 I was like, what the hell. So I'm like, oh shit, 652 00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:52,719 san Diego's out. So I like walk out of my bathroom concealer half blended. 653 00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:58,079 I'm like, san Diego's out, So I bring my my No, 654 00:45:58,159 --> 00:46:01,119 my laptop was already out on like my dining room table, and I go 655 00:46:01,159 --> 00:46:06,519 through. I log into my portal like okay, okay, I got into 656 00:46:06,519 --> 00:46:08,920 Berkeley. So even if I got redrected, who cares? Click it more 657 00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:14,559 confetti, more congratulations. I was like, what the hell, Oh my 658 00:46:14,639 --> 00:46:17,679 god, I got into San Diego. So I was like, that's like 659 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:22,360 three for three on the UCS like, oh my gosh. So I was 660 00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:27,239 just like on clad nine walking into work, I was like, oh my 661 00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:31,079 god, like this is crazy. I was like, this is like the 662 00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:37,360 cherry on top, Like I cannot believe this is happening. Like I feel 663 00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,920 like I'm dreaming, Like there's no way. So that was Friday. That 664 00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,719 was Friday? Was it? The following on Tuesday? Wednesday after that, 665 00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:47,920 Tuesday was Santa Barbara. We had known that because they were like, it's 666 00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:52,639 April nineteenth. So I was like, okay, So Tuesday rolls around and 667 00:46:52,679 --> 00:46:57,440 I was like, Okay, this one I really care about because I if 668 00:46:57,480 --> 00:47:02,760 I don't get into UCLA, I still really liked Santa Barbara because Berkeley is 669 00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:08,400 obviously, like quote unquote statistically a better school, but Santa Barbara I just 670 00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:13,400 like, I really really really loved from the get go. I totally saw 671 00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,280 myself at that school. I really like vibed with the school. And you 672 00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:21,239 have friends there too, right, I actually don't. Haven't. I have 673 00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:22,599 friends at Berkeley, but I don't have friends there. Oh but do you 674 00:47:22,679 --> 00:47:28,119 know what Natalia is doing. She's going to Santa Barbara City College. Oh 675 00:47:28,159 --> 00:47:30,920 my goodness, transparent Yeah, that's awesome. Is she there right now? 676 00:47:34,039 --> 00:47:37,880 Is she living down there? She's gonna live down there. That's so fun. 677 00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:42,119 A lot of people do that, a lot of people have done that. 678 00:47:42,519 --> 00:47:45,519 I've heard great things about it because you basically go to you see Santa 679 00:47:45,559 --> 00:47:49,519 Barbara. If you're at Santa Barbara Community College, like you're basically like socially 680 00:47:49,519 --> 00:47:52,119 you're at you See Santa Barbara. I've heard it's great. Yeah, But 681 00:47:52,199 --> 00:47:55,760 I was just like, yeah, I really I would love to go to 682 00:47:55,760 --> 00:48:00,440 Santa Barbara. I would definitely consider Santa Barbara, even even over Berkeley. 683 00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:05,199 I was like, I would consider between the two. So, you know, 684 00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:08,320 we did the whole we did the whole thing. Did we go to 685 00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:13,199 the mall? No, not for not for Santa Barbara, not for sorry, 686 00:48:13,199 --> 00:48:16,199 not for Santa Barbara. So it came out right at three and my 687 00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:22,639 mom wasn't even home, and I just had my portal open and I knew 688 00:48:22,639 --> 00:48:25,400 it was out because it was like it'll be open after three on this time, 689 00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:28,000 so I knew it was out, but I was like, I'm gonna 690 00:48:28,039 --> 00:48:30,280 wait. So my mom walks in the door probably like three oh five, 691 00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:35,280 So I wasn't waiting for a while and I'm like, okay, came and 692 00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:38,639 open it. I opened it again. Evatuala said, I was like, 693 00:48:39,639 --> 00:48:44,199 oh my god, like, oh my god. I was like so excited. 694 00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:47,920 I got into Santa Barbara. I was like this is amazing, like 695 00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:53,880 this is fantastic. And then we thought silly, yess. We thought that 696 00:48:54,039 --> 00:48:58,920 UCLA was coming out the next day. So Reddit thought. Reddit thought our 697 00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,480 fault. Jesus read it comes on, come on now, give us the 698 00:49:01,559 --> 00:49:05,760 right information. So we thought it was coming out on Wednesday. So we 699 00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:09,559 were like, okay, cool. So Wednesday rolls around. My mom and 700 00:49:09,559 --> 00:49:13,719 I were like, okay, we have to go to the mall again create 701 00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:19,760 we got to recreate the Berkeley acceptance. Oh okay, never mind, never 702 00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:23,800 mind. This is later. So we go through and we're like refreshing Reddit 703 00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:29,880 too. Once we get home because everybody's freaking out doesn't come out. We 704 00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:36,159 find out that on leap years, UCLA comes out on a Friday. Only 705 00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:39,800 leap years twenty sixteen, twenty twenty, twenty twenty four. Wow, every 706 00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:44,440 other year it comes out on Wednesday. Every other year come out on Friday. 707 00:49:44,599 --> 00:49:46,599 Yeah, because they want to be different and cool, because they're UCLA 708 00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:52,360 don't resit me, please, I still want to get your school. But 709 00:49:53,519 --> 00:49:57,119 we were like, it's it's not it's not coming because we were like, 710 00:49:57,119 --> 00:49:59,280 if it's not three, it's five. So it didn't come out at three. 711 00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:04,760 So five o'clock rolls around nothing, We're like and then we heard from 712 00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:07,159 their their transfer website that it was going to come out. It was on 713 00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:12,960 Friday, So that's Friday. Friday rolls around, the rest of Wednesday's terrible. 714 00:50:13,039 --> 00:50:16,360 Thursday's terrible because all I can think about is uc La. That is 715 00:50:16,559 --> 00:50:19,960 all I can think about. It is consuming me. I'm like, oh 716 00:50:20,039 --> 00:50:24,880 my god, I can't do this. And so Friday rolls around. We 717 00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:30,000 went. We decided we've been to them all and it wasn't having the same. 718 00:50:30,119 --> 00:50:34,400 So we decided to go get our hair done. We got our haircuts 719 00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:37,119 instead, just to kind of ease the mind, you know, because Sunday 720 00:50:37,159 --> 00:50:40,519 Day haircut. Anyways, the bangs were too long, so we went and 721 00:50:40,519 --> 00:50:45,079 got our hair cut, and I was just like, God, we were 722 00:50:45,119 --> 00:50:50,559 like sick with nerves, sive of us, sick because again, as much 723 00:50:50,559 --> 00:50:53,280 as I tried not to have all my eggs in one basket in my mind, 724 00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:57,440 mentally I was going to. I was like, it's you, Cela 725 00:50:57,559 --> 00:51:00,880 or nothing, Like, I'm going to be devastated and it's going to take 726 00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:04,599 me fifty seven business days to recover from this before I can't even think about 727 00:51:04,679 --> 00:51:07,840 where else I'm going. So you say your rolls around. I'm on the 728 00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:12,360 phone with my friend who's also waiting on UCLA, and I'm like, oh 729 00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,480 my god, like I don't know what to do, like cause we thought. 730 00:51:15,559 --> 00:51:17,599 We also didn't know whether it was coming out at three or five. 731 00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:21,639 So three o'clock rolls round. It's not out, so we're like, okay, 732 00:51:22,599 --> 00:51:25,159 this is the moment. It is coming out at five pm. So 733 00:51:25,199 --> 00:51:30,480 I was like, oh god, oh God, like I'm so I've never 734 00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:32,239 been more nervous for anything. I wasn't even this nervous for Berkeley, Like 735 00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:37,000 I was just like, oh my god, like I can't handle this. 736 00:51:37,079 --> 00:51:38,800 It's so it was so bad. I was like so nervous, sitting in 737 00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:45,119 my bed waiting, like shaking while I'm holding my phone like refreshing Reddit because 738 00:51:45,159 --> 00:51:49,440 she she plagues me with the Reddit. So I'm like refreshing Reddit to see 739 00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:54,519 all these people being like can you see La release their decisions whatever? So 740 00:51:54,639 --> 00:52:00,480 finally it's out and I, you know, bring my laptop to the room. 741 00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:05,199 I'm like, all right, this is it. Like if I don't 742 00:52:05,199 --> 00:52:07,760 get in, it's okay. And this is what I had forgotten to mention. 743 00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:13,719 I had gone on Berkeley the night before because I was looking at my 744 00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:19,039 financial aid package and I found out the night before UCLA that I got into 745 00:52:19,119 --> 00:52:23,800 Berkeley as a Spring twenty twenty five admit and not a Fall admit. So 746 00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:29,760 I was like, I'm not going to Berkeley if I get rejected from UCLA, 747 00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:34,079 because I am not doing another semester here. I'm like, I'm going 748 00:52:34,119 --> 00:52:36,920 to Santa Barbara. So I knew where I was going if I got rejected, 749 00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:40,039 but that was super disappointing because I was like, oh God, like 750 00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:45,920 if Berkeley took me as a Spring applicant, is UCLA only takes Fall applicants, 751 00:52:46,159 --> 00:52:49,559 So I have less of a chance of getting in there because they don't 752 00:52:49,599 --> 00:52:52,679 take Spring. So it's either they want me for Fall or they don't want 753 00:52:52,679 --> 00:52:55,079 me at all. So I have my computer open and my mom is like 754 00:52:55,159 --> 00:52:58,800 standing next to me, and I'm sure most people on here saw the video, 755 00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:01,360 but she's standing next to me, and I was just like salling. 756 00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:04,079 I was like, I can't, I don't, I can't. And then 757 00:53:04,119 --> 00:53:08,400 your friend Bella Julie's daughter. Yes, Bella was like, well, no, 758 00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,360 she hadn't talked to me about it yet. I thought she told you 759 00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:13,760 to make the video. Oh oh, yes, she had told me to 760 00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:15,400 film a video. So I like brought my phone up on my computer, 761 00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:19,559 barely thinking about it. And she was like, okay, if it's bad 762 00:53:19,639 --> 00:53:23,760 news forgetting delete, delete delete right, get rid of it. So I 763 00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:28,119 set my phone up and I'm like shaking it. I'm like, okay, 764 00:53:28,159 --> 00:53:31,920 click it. I just see at the top the little hashtag congre It's like 765 00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:37,000 hashtag bruin bound. It says congratulations. Didn't even process that. I saw 766 00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:39,440 that, and I didn't even process it. I had to read what it 767 00:53:39,519 --> 00:53:46,599 said. I just read congratulations, and I was like, oh my god. 768 00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:50,559 I was like, I'm going to UCLA. And that's when I just 769 00:53:50,599 --> 00:53:55,239 started jumping up and down, screaming, freaking out. The best moment of 770 00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:59,840 my entire life, highlight my whole life. Like I was just like, 771 00:54:00,159 --> 00:54:04,559 oh my god, oh my god, we're right there with you when we 772 00:54:04,599 --> 00:54:07,719 saw that video. Do you think you felt that way? Even more because 773 00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:13,519 of all the insane amounts of disappointment you had before. Yes, because it 774 00:54:13,639 --> 00:54:16,280 was just like, as I said, it was so hard to feel confident 775 00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:21,639 about what I was doing when it did not go right last time, because 776 00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:25,199 that really showed me. I was like, there is no guarantee at all. 777 00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:30,239 Even if you are a good student, you get good grades, you 778 00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:35,599 have extracurriculars, you write good essays, right, you still could not get 779 00:54:35,599 --> 00:54:40,039 in? Yes, And did I have a solid feeling ish because I got 780 00:54:40,079 --> 00:54:43,599 into other schools. Yes, But still I was like, this is UCLA 781 00:54:43,639 --> 00:54:46,679 we're talking about. Like I can get rejected from UCLA and get into Santa 782 00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:51,480 Barbara. So I was just like, oh my god, I was like 783 00:54:51,519 --> 00:54:55,039 I can't. Hey, let's take a couple of questions before we before we 784 00:54:55,079 --> 00:54:59,239 wrapped the show. Perfect, Okay, Well, Carrie Kibler just says, 785 00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:02,920 just tell her we of her and value her opinion. Christina has a question, 786 00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:07,320 but uh, it's irrelevant. She wasn't if you're going to commute or 787 00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:12,920 stay on campus, you're you're sayings and court course for sure. Lisa Smith 788 00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:16,320 Hamilton wants to know what advice would you offer a junior heading into their senior 789 00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:23,000 year. I would definitely say, do not overwork yourself for senior year, 790 00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:29,519 because that's what I did. I added a bunch of classes that were kind 791 00:55:29,519 --> 00:55:31,960 of unnecessary, you know, AP physics whatever. Did They look okay, 792 00:55:32,679 --> 00:55:36,840 sure, but I didn't really do well in the class, so in the 793 00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:40,519 end it didn't really help me out that much. Do not like overwork yourself 794 00:55:42,199 --> 00:55:46,159 too much in senior year, like, still try because again, if you 795 00:55:46,239 --> 00:55:53,400 were talking college college talk, they're mostly looking at junior year and sophomore year. 796 00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:58,599 They're not really looking as much at your senior year. So if you 797 00:55:58,639 --> 00:56:01,920 like feel confident about what you did in junior year, try to obviously keep 798 00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:06,280 up the things that you were doing, Like if you're at a job or 799 00:56:06,800 --> 00:56:10,760 you do volunteering, or you have an internship or whatever you're doing, obviously 800 00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:17,000 keep that up. But don't like overload yourself with classes and don't stress out, 801 00:56:17,519 --> 00:56:22,840 and don't applied with a super impacted major. Right, do not do 802 00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:27,440 that at all. I would not recommend I want to. I want this 803 00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:31,760 is not Alisa also wants to know who's your favorite sibling. Don't answer that. 804 00:56:32,519 --> 00:56:36,280 Also, I get no I'm saying I get asked this at work, 805 00:56:37,239 --> 00:56:39,800 and I don't have a favorite sibling and nobody believes me like you like them 806 00:56:39,840 --> 00:56:45,360 both. I like them both in different ways. Yeah, I think this 807 00:56:45,519 --> 00:56:51,000 is really important. And this just happened in our house. Elbie was giving 808 00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:54,599 some advice to Xander, who's really faking out about Oh yeah, his AP 809 00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:59,920 has an AP test on Wednesday, and I thought Albe gave him some really 810 00:57:00,039 --> 00:57:01,960 good advice. And oh, this is a P season right now, so 811 00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:05,199 you guys are going to hear this, and some of your kids are going 812 00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:07,960 to have AP test coming up. Please take it from me, who took 813 00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:14,480 ten aps. They don't matter at all. They do not matter. Don't 814 00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:22,960 don't stress about your AP test. They do not matter. If you're gonna 815 00:57:22,039 --> 00:57:25,800 go the route that I did, they matter even less because I although they 816 00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:30,320 did matter a lot, I'm saying, don't get you don't have to get 817 00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:36,159 fives on all your AP tests. I see senior year, I used the 818 00:57:36,199 --> 00:57:40,280 apiece that I use, got threes. Senior year got some threes. Junior 819 00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:45,199 year got a three. Sophomore year never got a five on an AP test. 820 00:57:45,239 --> 00:57:47,800 By the way, I did not get any fives. I got threes 821 00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:52,039 and fours mostly fours. But I also, especially senior year, got all 822 00:57:52,079 --> 00:57:58,719 threes. They really don't matter that much. They really don't. Like colleges 823 00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:02,599 are not going to deny you because you did not get a five on an 824 00:58:02,599 --> 00:58:07,159 AP test. That that is like not something that they're looking at as much. 825 00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:10,880 People are always like, oh, you have to get straight fives to 826 00:58:12,039 --> 00:58:15,760 like get into a good college. No, you don't, right, if 827 00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:19,840 you have something else going for you, if you're a well rounded student, 828 00:58:20,559 --> 00:58:25,679 if you do well in the actual class itself, you're fine. Find it's 829 00:58:25,719 --> 00:58:30,400 a good note to go out on, like just my biggest thing. And 830 00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:35,440 it's hard to listen to in the moment, obviously when you're going in taking 831 00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,760 the test, especially if it's your first, your second AP test, it's 832 00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:43,679 hard to not be nervous, but you just have. You have to go 833 00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:46,480 into it being like, I know what I know. There's no way for 834 00:58:46,559 --> 00:58:50,280 me to know more than what I know, and it's gonna be fine. 835 00:58:50,480 --> 00:58:52,719 And there's probably gonna be stuff on the test that I don't know, and 836 00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:57,079 guess what, that's fine because they're designed to be like that, so it 837 00:58:57,079 --> 00:59:00,159 doesn't matter. Well, it's awesome. Yeah, so happy for you, 838 00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:04,760 Thanks for joining us, giving us the whole experience. Alb, I think 839 00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:07,679 you should be a college counselor when you grow up. Dream job, dream 840 00:59:07,800 --> 00:59:12,719 job. Forgot to mention that she could. I told her she should do 841 00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:15,559 tours at u c l A. Yeah, you should and tell people about 842 00:59:15,559 --> 00:59:19,400 her experience. I would do that, and my friend does that too. 843 00:59:20,679 --> 00:59:22,320 It says it's really fun. So you have to come back and tell us. 844 00:59:22,320 --> 00:59:25,719 After you get settled in at your dorm, I will back and tell 845 00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:30,199 us how college life, college life. All right, alby, thank you 846 00:59:30,239 --> 00:59:35,440 for coming so much. I love you, we love you. Congratulations, 847 00:59:35,719 --> 00:59:44,599 thank you so much. All right by, beds letting go