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Today we are going to talk about an issue that is not talked about as
much as it should, because maybe it worries alarming or maybe because you may
think it is generated there is a bit of excessive concern. Sometimes then we
don' t talk as much as I think, in my humble opinion,
we don' t talk about first aid and prevention techniques or about trying to
prevent or trying to prevent accidents or questions that we can then regret, but
that we must talk about, that we must address and for that today we
are accompanied by Nerea Moya. Good morning, I' ll come to the
first thing, how you are. Very good morning, very good. Thank
you very much, Monica, for inviting me to the podcast. For me
it is an honor, you know, and being able to bring the issue
of prevention and first aid a little bit closer than, as you have said
well, because it is like a little bit killed families, because it is
always good yes, indeed, in Nereat tell us a little bit worth,
tell us a little who you are What you do and why you have dedicated
yourself to spreading about first aid, also on other issues that we will talk
about later, like Babysin, which seems to me a wonderful thing, and
why do you decide to create the project? See or go and feel that
you can find so much on your blog? In seeing today and feeling com
that, by the way, has become finalist in the awards Be inspired in
the health category. Wait so in good time and it' s also your
Instagram profile. Tell us a little bit, who you are and how you
get to the networks and to set up this project, because look I arrive
basically, because like almost all of them by conciliation, I am technical health
emergencies. I' ve been in the profession for fifteen years now and being
24 hours on duty is a little incompatible with wanting to raise in a more
conscious way and create that attachment to a baby. When I got pregnant,
I was lucky, in quotation marks that I got fired from work, because
well, not what a rat to have a pregnant woman working not but they
say it doesn' t happen. That doesn' t happen, doesn'
t it? But yes, doesn' t it? Doesn' t it
happen? It' s not happening, is it? But it worked out
very well for me because, as I denounced the little money I used when
we went to trial and so on, it served me to ride, but
or go and feel and be two years looking after my baby, who is
now five years old the oldest. I' m another thirteen months old,
and I really liked it. And then, when I was a mom,
I really realized how important it is to stay calm, how important it is
to have an established protocol, because I, of course, before I was
a mom, when I was going to give the courses, I went to
the talks, because I have also been a trainer for ten years, I
saw those moms who came to me worried and said they were exaggerated. If
it is not for so long he has fallen, the wound is healed and
already or, because in the end is worried the mother that the child.
I also have to say that I am part of international cooperation and I am
also trained in psychological first aid. And this is very important And this I
implement also in the courses, because one thing goes hand in hand with the
other. If I attend to the physical part, but I don' t
understand the emotional part of the child I' m attending, which I'
m taking at that moment, because I don' t do anything when I
have a little one who' s crying, that this is saying that I
don' t know if he' s really crying because he' s afraid
of the situation, because he' s uncertain or because something really hurts him.
So these things have to go hand in hand with the first physical asylums,
with psychological psychologists, sorry. But, friend, when you' re
the mom, who' s on the other side you' re influenced by
this emotional component, everything changes. Then I realized that the first aid courses
that were given and that were given until then and that are still being given
today, this part has not been contemplated. Then believe, but and feel,
first to reconcile with my faith that it is being able to be present
and, as it is not, to help those families control fear, control
the situation and be able to save their lives I knew that if necessary and
from there was born. But and feel in which I give lectures, I
go to schools, because I also help teachers and especially, because of children
' s schools that we already know that the ratio is horrifying and they have
to take care of a lot of babies and children at the same time.
And well, as there is often a teacher, it also helps them to
establish these protocols of action. In case something happens, then well, because
basically seeing go and feel encompasses that physical part with that emotional part so that
the whole situation, as it comes out in the best way possible. And
how have you focused the part of moving those contents to networks in your case,
for example, on Instagram, how you have handled it, that you
have found yourself, what people ask you for, what they receive There,
then, I find two things many times, one that, when I put
raw things that I actually explain how you do what you shouldn' t do.
People alarm me and leave because they don' t like it and don
' t want to see what' s going on. And I have other
people who usually are the majority who thank me for teaching just what they'
re seeing, because it seems that if you don' t live it doesn
' t happen and many times families come to me to my courses after something
has happened. It' s like good until it doesn' t happen to
me, because this doesn' t exist, but things happen and they can
be prevented and prevented with information, and information is good power. That I
think in the end happens a little to all of us who don' t
think, we don' t fall into what we may need until we need
it. And in the case of first aid it is very widespread. We
focus on families because we' re in the motherosphere, obviously, but how
much knowledge of first aid? There is very little, very little, at
the general level in our society. And also, the little knowledge that there
is of first aid is always the CPR and in a general way, not
that we go to the pediatric part, is almost null and there are many
aspects that are very different in an adult person than in a baby or in
a child. And sometimes we have people who implement those adult steps in babies
and children and of course it' s not the same. In addition,
it is a question that you normally have to look for, that is,
it is like a knowledge that you have to take care of finding that there
is no, it is not offered or not included in the regular formations,
it is not spoken of until you decide to form and you decide to go
to a course. There is a great lack of thinking that it may be
some knowledge that everyone should have, it should be a part of for example,
when there was the subject of education for citizenship that had already taken it
out of the educational system, it would have been ideal to have put in
there a part of first aid so that from children they learn what to do
if they see an emergency or how to act correctly, because we think many
times that good. This is nothing or good, because something does happen.
I call the ambulance right now, but since we called until the ambulance arrives,
we can do a lot of things and implementing certain guidelines can save someone
' s life. So, I think it' s essential that from little
kids at school even in kindergarten, guidelines and things that can serve us day
- to- day are introduced as a game. This is like the Declaration
of Income, which nobody teaches you and everyone else, but in which it
is that they should not teach it, because the first aid is the same,
because total the economic part and make an invoice, for example, how
important, not to see that it is the irpf or that it is tied
and who charges it, where these things are paid then little joke that then
happen, because that people cheat or cheat on them. Or we have an
ignorance that in the case of first aid, because it has circums has serious
consequences, it can have very serious consequences and in the economic case also,
that is to say that it is not for me to put more subjects in
school that it is true that then they always tell us not to put any
more subjects. They can' t beat each other better, but somehow we
should all be a little aware. And I don' t know if in
asinatura or in tails, or I don' t know, but I do
think that both financial information and first aid information should be eh because then you,
as a first aid technician, will have seen everything. I imagine yes,
of all things, because besides, TV does a lot of damage.
That' s right, it does a lot of damage, because then you
find those people doing what you' re seeing in the series or what they
' ve seen in the previous week in the chapter, and it' s
awful, because, for example, in football games, that everything, then,
when those big games, everyone is watching what' s going on,
how there' s a footballer who falls unconscious in the field. What they
all do is they' re running to hold his tongue and they' re
heroes because they' ve saved their partner' s life and they don'
t do that then, in later days, when we' re on guard
and we have someone unconscious on the street, we have people unknown, holding
the tongue of unknown people instead of looking if, for example, he breathes
he' s unconscious, which is what we really should look at. So
the TV news also does a lot of damage, but especially in the series,
because people think it' s what the series is like and don'
t remember cs that then we all thought we were real forensics. Yeah,
yeah, criminalists and forensics. We' re not looking there for prints,
the bullet, the trajectory, because we' re so nerea. This is
a bit inevitable, and as for the sooner you didn' t comment a
little bit. But what is the main difference between general first aid for the
general population and for children, for look, because mainly young children are not
miniature adults. Then your constant forgiveness. You can tell I don' t
sleep vitals. They' re different from ours, their bones. There are
many who are still cartidago, who are not closed, are not hard,
They are different than ours. Babies and children make up in a way we
don' t do adults. Then there are many values to keep in mind
that they do not work with young children. First of all, because I
don' t know why you' ve given us this society that we'
re gradually changing it from ignoring babies and children. You' re the little
one, for example, he' s fallen no and you' re with
the baby and what everyone does. Don' t look at him, don
' t look at him, don' t be crying. And it'
s like why we do this. When a grown- up person who is
what we do falls off, it' s okay he' s hurt himself,
helps him get up starting out there. No, then why don'
t we do the same with the children and with the babies, because in
emergencies the same thing happens. We don' t take them into account at
all. We don' t speak directly to them, we don' t
ask them. We always ask the mom or dad and we start implementing there
based on what the dad or mom tells us. But and mom and dad
really know how much it hurts that pre that he' s scared or what
' s going on with his little head. Well, when they already have
understanding, we should take them a little bit more into account, because they,
well, you know you are, Mom, they' re not dumb
too, they' re small, but they' re stupid and they'
re afraid and they' re uncertain and we have the mania to lie to
them constantly. It' s okay, it' s not gonna hurt or
hurt after we hurt them what happens they stop trusting us. It' s
as if, for example, you go to the doctor' s office,
don' t sit there and the doctor gets up, he picks you up,
he takes you to the stretcher, he starts stripping you, he starts
driving you without telling you anything and he hurts you without warning you. Not
how you' d feel terrible, because you see the children, the same
thing happens to them. Then they should be taken a little more into account.
There' s no people telling me but good. But as he sees
me if he won' t understand you, because with a year and a
half two little ones already understand much more than we think. And I remember.
For example, I am always putting examples, especially in the talks of
my personal experience with my children, and I remember when my three- year
- old son, on his birthday, fell out of bed jumping and broke
his head that I explained to him before going to the emergency room, what
they were going to do to him. And my son was super quiet why,
because he prepared for that moment. But a three- year- old
like me, what I can do is that if my son has a gap
that hurts him that he' s in bad shape, I take him urgently.
If I tell him don' t worry, they' re not gonna
run you, come on, you' re a brave man, it won
' t hurt and suddenly they hurt. What' s going to happen?
First, you' re going to feel super bad, Second, you'
re going to stop trusting me, and now you' re not just going
to stop trusting me, but you' re going to stop trusting the health
personnel we' ve had, we' ve had little cut. I'
m going to put some music in between here, because the light also has
first aid, it has resuscitation techniques, sometimes they work, sometimes they don
' t, and technology, because it also needs that help and its resuscitation.
I don' t know if we' ve done it right, nerea
Look, I' m a first aid musician, everything you want, but
what Mira' s technology is, I' m a terrible one. And
it' s just that I' m wearing it bad. I can cut
it. But I like that I also think it' s good that people
know that a lot of things happen in a recording and that and that basically
between a while and another it' s been a long time and then it
takes a little bit to get the thread. So it' s all right
to say that we' ve fallen and nothing' s happened. We'
re fine, we haven' t had any injuries and speaking of nereal falls,
we' re going to resume our topic by focusing on first aid,
on boys, on girls. What are the main concerns of families, parents,
mothers who come to you, your profile or, your workshops, you
to ask for advice, as a person, I knew that you are,
because lately especially people who are going to start with complementary feeding, because as
the way to start feeding has changed enough in recent years with the introduction of
the BLV, the good beles, because the introduction of solids directly instead of
crushed, because it is what scares families the most. The subject of mooring,
but of course what happens to this. The nets know it and there
are many people who infuse fear about groceries food things that really don' t
have the risk to sell. Then I focus a lot on this issue because
we have to give the information it is but without leading to that state of
alert and fear of families, because hear yes it is true that there is
no food with zero, risk choking, but neither are we going to demonize
giving a chickpea to a child who has to cut it in four, for
example. So it is true that those energy capoto or peas, who have
even asked me if the peas, because it is not true. We agree.
It is a round food, but not all round foods are susceptible to
triggering atlantments. Yeah, it' s round, but soft, and it
' s depressible, because it' s okay. But of course, that
' s what I' ve had the most lately on the subject of atlantamiento.
But they forget about here there are things above which are much more important,
because atlantamiento is not one of the emergencies and emergencies that we have most
and most attend. In fact, it is like between the fifth and this
post of emergencies, depending on whether we look at the WHO or the Spanish
Association of Pediatrics, which is what we have in the first place, which
is what causes the most mortality in small traffic accidents. And this is a
melon, because we really don' t have chairs, a proper child care
system. They sell them to us like they are the best, so to
speak the best, the machattipirulis, the safest on the market, because they
have x marks of poricultures that I don' t want to do. You
know what I mean, and they' re often not the safest chairs.
I mean, this won' t tire me of saying it. When I
' m called for a traffic and I look at this car and I see
what kind of chair it wears that p that I can already get an idea
of what injuries it' s going to have, although then, already,
they are implicit. If he' s wearing a harness, a crush,
or how I' ve killed, because it' s often good that he
' s a five- minute ride. I' ll take it from school
and come home. There' s nothing. Three minutes. I' m
not gonna tie him up,' cause he' s gonna cry. No,
for example, I will not fasten it, because it is that I
will ride the chicken well, because the most common traffic accidents are in village
roads. If we don' t tie them up, if we don'
t bring them properly subjects, because it is more likely that things will happen
already passing from the chairs that we have to have, a chair that has
the plus test seal to be able to be and that has all the security
elements, they always recommend the official countermatch page, because besides they have the
girls of countermatch, they have a pdf with all the safe and reliable chairs
that are in the market. If you are no longer on this list,
I' m really sorry, but it' s not a really safe chair,
no matter how branded it is, and no matter how much it cost
you. So to buy a good chair you have to go to a site,
to a specialized store for an inventile restraint system. Purification shops generally do
not have such chairs and cannot be purchased on Amazon, Leitrel, Carreful or
on large surfaces. And because the chair, because the chairs aren' t
worth it. All chairs for all cars need a specific reclining. Maybe the
reclining that your car seat has is too much for the chair you' ve
chosen. Then you have to try the chair in the car always to see
if it goes well, if the leg supports well, that it is very
important to have the silver of support the isofiac, then it is very important
that that chair is installed And if, moreover, if you can try with
the child much better, because moreover it is already completely adjusted. And another
thing that good, because we buy the chair and what lasts not, because
if they are all groups, there has been so for having together, because
great and I never review it. What happens is that they hit the balls
and with the movement of the little ones, the chairs go down. They
must be periodically reviewed, at least twice a year, to ensure that everything
goes well, that everything goes according to the height and weight of p that
evolves with it. So this has to go through it. And well,
other than that, it' s true that if we live in a city,
in a city, the parks, I don' t know why they
' re near the roads, I don' t know why they do them
like that And besides the traffic accidents, there are also many run- ins.
Then you have to be careful with this, because we don' t
give it any importance. And the second place we have falls, which is
something else that, well, we don' t give importance to and that
' s what we should also be more aware of. We should never leave
the little ones alone, because the ones with the tronas, the falls of
changers, the falls of bed, not the ones with the height of the
hobogans, for example, because they are also usually the most common cause of
emergency. We are not in second place, but what happens that we underestimate
them too much. There are times when we leave them alone. Not that
it' s been a second. I' m the first. I'
ve got two, I' m mom and I' ll leave it for
a second too and I' ll run into the kitchen and get something and
we think they' re not capable of and they' re very capable of
many things, because I' m going to leave this table here. I
don' t think he' s capable of getting on and you turn the
baby or the one on the table hasn' t gone, but how he
' s been able to, because we have to be careful about those things,
not leaving them alone you' re always watched by an adult and we
don' t believe, they' re not able to go. I don
' t get there when I watch those videos, when I get into social
media and you watch those videos of little all painted or that he' s
allied with me so much, that you say, but how long you'
ve had that little Solo. That' s what' s coming, because
to keep that from being very funny in the videos. Yeah, we used
to talk about it a little bit earlier. The problem when it comes to
spreading first aid, how you put in the balance between not scaring and causing
discomfort also to the mother who is exhausted and that you are saying to her,
hey, you don' t leave your baby alone for a minute and
the poor girl is there that they don' t know and when we fight
that is, how we find there nerea the balance, especially in the face
of disclosure, because it is complicated. I myself pose it so as not
to generate that rejection, but at the same time to be conscious and hard.
And he hears that this has to be said, because it happens to
have more accidents and there are children who can die. For this, then
look. I often use myself in the first person, because it seems that
if you read someone' s story you feel more identified. No. And
besides, I have two kids who put me all the egg posts has happened
to them all. They tell me,' cause it' s better that
they ask you as a mom why I do and it' s true,
I mean, there are days I don' t have to publish. No,
and I look at my son what you' re going to mess with
me today and then, putting me in the first person as well and seeing
how explaining how I managed that situation, how I could have avoided the best
and what I' ve done afterwards, because it also helps a lot these
posts, or this prohibitive disclosure of not doing this or not so look.
We' re moms, we' re surviving this stage of motherhood, especially
in early motherhood, where you seem to see them and the children want to
kill themselves constantly because you have to be there with a thousand eyes all the
time and as much as you are. Sometimes here you pass and you have
to flow, you have to have some things in mind. But if it
' s happened to the client, we' re not gonna hit you either.
We' re not going to whip it up, it' s okay,
because it' s happened. Now let' s see what we have
to do to keep the situation from getting worse. So that part of empathy
and hearing that I' m a mom, too. These things happen to
me, too. I think it helps a lot and not be all with
him. No. If you do this, you' re a bad mother.
If it' s happened to you, this is because you haven'
t been looking, don' t look at it or it' s enough
to blame backpack. We' re behind to add even more. I don
' t think that' s logical. This reminds me and this also relates
to the subject of cars. With every time it happens in summer, unfortunately,
the case of a child staying in the back of the car, as
happened last summer. You remember then I think the mom and she had gone
to work, she had left it in the car. That has a scientific
explanation and it' s because we' re really exhausted in our day to
day and instead of thinking I have a baby in the car that I have
to leave them with childish or I have to get him out of the car,
we' re already thinking about the next task, because we' re
super accelerated and it' s not that the mom wanted to leave the baby
in the car on purpose, that is, that mom wants to leave her
baby in the car and that something happens to her. None if you are
in your right mind, none that is a good majority, but we are
going to be accelerated in this present society, which is already thinking about the
next task, without finishing the one we have now. Then I remember last
year' s news. The top was judged very hard on that mom and
besides that there was another news with a dad and he didn' t judge
it so much, that is, notice, because of course, since he
wasn' t used to carrying the pe que school infantil. Well, you
know, but it' s your baby, too. Then we are like
very critical and very hard with moms, because it is assumed that that cannot
happen to us, to dads, well it can happen to them, because
of course, poor little ones are not used in their day to day.
But with us we are very critical and very hard and in the scientific evidence
tells us that this happens to us. It can happen to any of those
comments about me It wouldn' t have happened to me, because that mother
of yours can happen to you. Dude, it can happen to you,
because your head and mind when you' re out of sleep doing a lot
of things running, because in the end, Mommy and Daddy spent the day
running from getting up to getting the kids to bed. It can happen to
you. And we cannot judge so much and so hard a mother who is
suffering a duel because she has lost what she wants most in this world that
is assumed, then to divulge, yes, to be aware, yes,
but also to understand the situation of the moment and if that can be explained
or not, because to see I understand that there are situations and situations in
which yes, that have scientific evidence that can be passed, and there are
other situations of hearing look is that your son has drowned in the pool because
for an hour you have not given an eye to the child, because different
situations must be able to differentiate. So, well, you have to be
a little careful. And yes, then, for example, that you be
made a child in a swimming pool because you have not paid attention to it,
because you must not judge it either. I mean, I understand that
every different circumstance, but they' re totally different motives. I don'
t know if you understand me Yes, yes, no. And besides,
perfectly, and besides, I was thinking about the name of your project,
seeing or going and feeling and that we needed to stop seeing or going and
feeling. No, so we go so fast, we go so fast and
so in autopilot that on many occasions and then, adding the precariousness in many
situations, how we experience the stress that is handled that I don' t
mean in the case of this mother, because I don' t remember it,
but in many situations they can be single mothers or single people. I
am not going to personalize, but if we talk about mothers, recent mothers
with the burden they can have of health, it is the loneliness that you
can get to have at that moment the stress is talked about for example,
not leaving the children alone mothers who work in two places and who have no
more help monoamental families, where, obviously, the risks, because they are
the same as in the other case. But here increased because, indeed,
there are many children alone, but who is also looking after that caring person,
not in other words, because in addition, the postpartum is terrifying.
Of course, if you' re already living a postpartum in a life where
there' s someone else taking over, it' s terrible. You with
that tribe with that network living it alone has to be, because you don
' t want to imagine it, because, well, there are many moms
who don' t know it and who also go through postpartum depression. Because
yes, well, because this set of hormones, this amalgam of things,
that happen to us in the postpartum is hunchbacked and if you don' t
sleep and feel sorry, you have a little one that keeps crying, because
it has colic, it is complicated and that you have to survive your day
by day without a support network, because it has to be brutal and that
above society. I' m judging you, he sends it as hard as
he does. Yeah, it' s awful. In the end, it
is an individual question, not of whether you have not cared for your Baby,
obviously, because it is your fault and the rest of society I know
that bad person, that goes to the mother, that goes to the woman,
that bad father, that bad family and look how good we are the
others how well we do it, obviously, it does not take away individual
responsibility, but that as a society, because we always have to make a
call to the tribe and to the group, because we are not alone or
we should not be alone and to take care of a baby, for much
less, because g is really very demanding, but I no longer have it,
it is not necessary and it is a simple emergency clear when a mother
takes a baby to the children' s school because she has to work and
takes it bad because she has no other remedy left the whole world jo is
that clear how bad or bad as you take it to school, is that
clearly you contag me to everyone else. Hey, I' m the first
one I' m suffering. That' s, uh, that my son
is always loved me, because it' s true that every time we go
to school, there' s always someone who' s sick and I have
the bad luck that my baby gets it all. But it is true that
we will have to judge the jo a lot, for this might be.
That mom can' t keep the little one at home because her job doesn
' t allow her to lose days of work, because she loses wages and
is in a precarious situation. And we don' t understand. No,
we don' t want to understand it, because I don' t think
understanding it' s that hard either. But we don' t want to.
We do not want because it is to look at the responsibility of others
and if between neighbors, that is, if between the community, the educational
community, in the cabbages, the neighbors, the neighborhood. We don'
t look out for each other, because in the end this happens that it
' s all everyone' s fault. You haven' t managed to blame
yourself You already know about the others, and this is obviously all carried away.
Of course, it does not take away is that we have said it
before, but it does not take away that we do not have individual responsibility,
obviously, as my daughter would say, obviously, but let us also
be aware that we are a society and that we should take care of each
other. It would also be easier and, perhaps, fewer accident things would
happen. Yeah, but so far, like, well, motherhood has been
moms'. Basically it' s true that lately you hear that' s
changing mogollón and there are parents involved and parents present, but so far motherhood
exclusively ours then. How you had to take him to it like you were
the happiest woman in the world without any kind of trouble and you couldn'
t really ask anyone for help that you can' t leave your little one
with someone. We have not yet established that network because society has not allowed
us to do so either. You' ve always been like ah well,
you have a son, because it' s your problem and don' t
complain that you' re a mother and you have to do it right and
you have to manage it yourself and get through it. So let' s
hope that little by little this will also change, just as we have parents
present, we have a part that will have a little more awareness that we
have to create a little tribe and help those moms, those dads that at
a given time need it, as they change too. So, besides,
now it even looks bad, that' s a little bit me who can
ask a neighbor to stay with your son for a while, that is,
he doesn' t do that anymore. It' s not bad how it
' s not your problem don' t organize and even it looks better to
hire someone who stays with your children at home, than to ask a favor
from the neighbor, next door family and no longer generate those nets that makes
me think is that that I go more, they stay with your dog first,
if you have to go or the plant stay with the plants. Yeah,
yeah, well, now we know what' s going on, that
I don' t want to get in, I don' t want to
get in instead, but it just seems like it' s more fashionable to
have plants than having kids or pets. You know, and with all the
love of plants, of course, and pets, but let' s see
what people are, the kids, they' re sons. We say it
all the time. Okay. Turning to first aid, we have the tendency,
that is, we have as at the moment we have to protect and
be aware and there is more and more dissemination about it and it is very
good that it exists. And then the voices always arise as you are overprotecting,
do not let them fall, you are not allowing them to harden.
No, that' s because there' s truth and I' m there
too, so we have to leave a little free play. More and more
voices are coming out, demanding that children be allowed to recover that eight-
year- old spirit. But let' s see, we came from gignation,
which has survived mecromine, which has survived a bleeding from an oxidized nail,
and so you said things like that, then, well, neither so
much nor so bald. I mean, you have to have a middle ground.
It' s true that kids have to fall, because they also have
to learn how to put their hands. We cannot give them a bubble,
for example, but neither can we live how we lived before we survived many
things and there have also been many accidents that before, since there was not
so much information, there were not so many networks. They' re good,
there were no social networks, because they didn' t know us.
But we always know someone who happened to him in the village. I don
' t know what fell with the little note, he choked and well,
because in the last second he arrived, I don' t know who turned
him around and managed to untie him then, well, neither so much nor
so expensive. Now, it' s true that lately there' s been
like a stream of we' re going to protect them from hurting us.
But it even sells that the Mini horrifies like a cushion that gets on the
baby' s head so that when you feel them if they fall, they
don' t get hurt. They don' t see it on a Chinese
platform. Yeah, well, you get a lot of video. I don
' t know if it' s because of course I get clear about the
algorithm and it' s like a wet. Now they' re gonna start
us on a one- way. You don' t really know that you
' ll do the following when we come in and those who are listening to
us are going to start putting these things on their screen You' ll see
Write us then, it' s like a backpack they have, as if
it were a big cushion in the head that goes from behind. Then he
sees that if you sit him down and he falls and he won' t
hurt himself it' s like a clear bowl of yellow humor. But that
' s not the right thing to do, because besides, when a falling
fish realizes the limits of its body, it realizes that it gets hurt and
when it gets hurt, that it' s going to do the next time
it falls, that it' s going to prepare and strain. If I
don' t let the fish fall and protect it I put bubbles everywhere,
that won' t do it and the day it falls it' s going
to hurt. Really, then we' re going to relativize a little bit
to see what we really should put in them and that I' m not
telling you to put the skin on her coming and that I know all the
harm in the world, but we have to be there. But he hears
that nothing happens, because he falls, because he learns what the limits of
his body are, that what is happening to him is pain and that he
needs to be remedied and that next time he will be more careful. When
you start to walk or when you are going to fall you learn to put
your hands, then yes, yes, we are there sailing between two waters,
because if we have the moment to padded that already I personally do not
like much. In addition, it generates a lot of heat and is a
slightly grissilla texture. I don' t and then what we don' t
want to be stained with mud too because we get stained, they stain,
they stain the house. You know sometimes kid has to get dirty, it
' s true, and they look weird to me because I' m my
kids who take off their shoes and sneakers and often barefoot or you' re
playing with the sand. You eat the sand and you look at me a
little weird it' s sand and it' s apart that I already tell
you that I don' t go to the park very much because I don
' t like it, I don' t like being in the park very
much, because in the end you' re looking after your son and you
' re not going to care for someone else who' s there, because
it' s true that good. I am not your parks, but in
my parts there are many times that it is horrifying not that there are many
parents who are in the bank with their mobile phone and do not pay any
attention to them and how well that you are playing, because they come to
play with you and in the end you end up the park with a lot
of children who are not yours playing with you giving them of medi has happened
to me. Don' t be those fathers, those mothers, don'
t be. But besides, you, as an emergency first aid technician on
top ideal. There' s an eye, you don' t rest,
you' ve got radar swimming at some point or you' re always on
the street. Yeah, yeah, no, he' s also at a
blacksmith' s house, stick knife. I remember in the first fall my
son had that I had nothing at home, but if he has no gauze,
I went with the child, with his knees scorched and arms to the
pharmacy. Please, I need lords and I came to gauze because I like
the child and the pharmaceuticals that know me and says or Nerea you have nothing
at home. I don' t have anything at home and things happen in
my house and many times my partner tells me jolin nerea because it' s
like he sees it as a sword. My partner has cut us off so
nothing is nothing and like Joly that it hurts me, that I' ve
married, that he listens to everyone, except me, no, because at
the house of gold knife of sticks and yes, when we go to the
park or when it was a place, it' s true that, because
the profession takes away and many times like or that doesn' t seem good
idea, or that looks dangerous, or you anticipate that it won' t
fall. Yeah, that' s also very baby mother, more than all
the presences many times I try to disconnect. It' s good, there
' s her mother me. But it' s also that when we went
out, because I know the other day we went to the movies, we
dropped a person in front of us. I mean, I' m a
little jinxed in that sense, well, in the end it' s always
up to me to help someone hears and as for news like that about new
accidents. I' m thinking, for example, of skateboards, what incidence
it' s having, whether you perceive it more or not. It'
s not being a very significant thing either. No, because when you see
that it is charged on the mat or it is usually a blow to the
head, mouth or knees and usually cures the papís at home. What'
s more is the theme of the babysitter choir, that' s to take
the kids by the hand for the overprotection issue we talked about before. We
take them by the hand all the time until we' re seven or so
years old. Then, when they are going to fall, we do not
let them fall because they have stumbled, because they have stepped wrong. We
don' t let them fall or we pull our arms so they don'
t fall. And in that tug a dislocation of the elbow is caused and
the lunar ligament between the two bones is separated. And then it' s
left with a rotation of the elbow inwards, outwards, and it' s
called a babysitting code. That' s precisely why, and we' re
seeing more lately. And what' s coming back, which I don'
t like at all and good is considered child abuse, is that we have
it as already forgotten and it' s coming back again is the wetting of
babies with hot water to teach them how to make feet or poop without diaper,
and that causes a lot of burns and is being seen again. You
' re seeing the repoint again after the pandemic. It' s amazing and
the baby' s coming, so imagine they' re getting caught. That
' s right Back legs and butt stays here and just as they put them
in the water they think it' s warm, but for kids it'
s too hot. The whole belly, butt and everything burned ends and he
' s seeing more lately and it' s a shame because it' s
more classified as child abuse. One question. In those cases, you have
to report it. If we, when we have a warning, are stated
by the team that attends first and then also in the hospital, we fill
out a report for social services. That is to say, we have a
part of intervention in which we fill in all the data of the child what
happened, how he was when we arrived, what practice we have done to
him, that we have implemented him and in what conditions we leave him in
the hospital and in the back, because we have the intervention with police.
How to look at a section where we explain why they should act socially.
It' s like a wake- up call that today you have to look
at this case because they need help and you' re sensing. There are
more cases apart from this one that you tell us that the truth leaves me
perplexed. I can' t believe it, but you notice more cases than
before. Either you see an evolution, or how you see it, then
look. I' ve been guarding for sixteen years and it' s true
that sixteen years ago there were a few cases, but lately it' s
from the pandemic. There' s been one more evolution. It' s
like the moment we got locked up, everything got worse, and I'
ve heard the involution in respect, action to the little ones, even with
the baby syndrome shaken. There is also more to the pandemic. I make
an uptick you must be shaken. But in a situation, an exceptional situation,
we were at home, we got out a lot of people, because
it was the three I had every day and having a baby at home crying
constantly with which you can' t go out, because we' ve all
suffered that time when you have a little baby, with which you don'
t sleep, but you go out on the street and it looks like he
hears the air gives you the air is another story. But when you have
a nine, twenty- four or seven at home that keeps crying and you
can' t get out, because I don' t think I' m
justifying it at all, because it' s still ill- treatment and the
aftermath is horrific. But there has been an upturn through the pandemic if you
haven' t shaken me the same way. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Clearly, the situation behind it is painful, that is, it is a
pandemic. I think we can consider it in a very critical situation, but
it is a pity that precisely the most vulnerable should not miss me, I
should not be surprised, unfortunately, but the most vulnerable are those who suffer
the most. But notice that they have been talking about this phenomenon for a
long time and that it should not be done. But it does not seem
to end well, and it is also very difficult to control it. Sometimes
it' s not that you get to a point where you lose self-
control. In addition, in the pandemic In addition, reports have already come
out that the most harmed were the small ones and the women who suffered much
more abuse and ill- treatment, and the small ones the child sexual abuse
that also occurred. And well, that' s horrible to live with your
aggressor and you can' t get out and you can' t ask for
help. And well, uff Look, we' re coming back to memories
of that time that looks like we' ve been through it for a long
time. I don' t know if it' s happening to you,
but I kind of kind of got you locked up, yeah, that'
s true. I don' t know listeners if it happens to you too
others that I have like a mental fog, I have it very diffuse and
even I don' t, but there are many people who already romanticize this
moment of ay we didn' t have to leave when there wasn' t
that stress, empty streets and such and then we found, we made bread,
we made Gymnastics at home, telework and so much and eye, little
eye, let' s not forget what was there in the background and the
unprivileged situations that if they lived at that time, that how did you get
the worst out of our society made soling, of course not everyone did it
in the best way or in the best conditions, of course it' s
true. And besides, we are talking here with a ng precisely dedicated to
the protection of children that I don' t remember now, that I don
' t know if it was that way, I don' t think it
was that way for Children, but now I don' t remember what it
was precisely about the increase of cano of violence in childhood and adolescence and of
requests for help to this platform, because it really was a terrible time.
But well let' s do there as I don' t want to take
it back and at least learn a little bit about whether there' s something
positive left or try to repeat ourselves, not try to learn from what was
lived and what we said before, recover that feeling of tribal protection that on
many occasions we can' t do everything alone or alone. And the moment
that, plus your metepeta because already for a moment you don' t have
a baby. Your body has changed. You also have a hormonal component that
' s a brutal cocktail. There are times when you can' t anymore.
If you have someone who can give you a hand, because I know
he takes the kid for two hours and you can sleep, you can rest,
you can take a shower. It' s just that it helps a
lot. So that tribe that part is fundamental in any mom and it'
s true that lately it' s being taken very seriously. But much remains
to be done. And I don' t want to come in with you
because I also want to address other issues and you' re specialized in childhood.
But just yesterday I saw some news of a child' s death eleven
or twelve years. I don' t know if it was much more than
because he had been drugged into an energy, ethical drink, yes, and
he had passed away vegetable. And besides, yes. Yeah. That is
Madrid, a town of Madrid, a crazy city, that is, and
it is not for alerting. We go back to before that it seems you
don' t know how alert you are, you get scared or not,
but guys, there you have to say that things happen, things happen and
things exist. So, good to this guy who wasn' t eleven dyes,
fourteen or fourteen. The group of friends can be called friends, because
I don' t know to what extent. They distracted him and put that
in his drink and ran him off. They abandoned him to his fate and
of course, he, without knowing anything, drank his drink and within a
few minutes died intoxicated. Only then is it very important that we make our
own children aware of what companies they have. You have to be very careful
and I' m not still living in the teenage or preteen stage. I
think you' re at that stage and you have to be very aware of
who you' re going with, who are you talking to? It seems
fundamental to me, but not only that, but I think there is a
previous job, as in first aid and prevention of talking to our children.
They will listen no more, they will listen less, but at least they
have that information that part of mom and dad, because they tell him that
they have to be careful, because they are friends, but to what extent
they have to set limits. Just as this issue of boundaries has not been
a subject that has been opened up so far. Not because now we start
putting limits, we start putting limits on grandma, we start putting limits on
the couple, we start putting limits on friends and teaching a kid that he
has to put limits even to his parents are now and still willing, uh
they still play hippite mother. So yes, these things happen, but just
like many others happen and we only see a very small percentage that comes out
in the press that maybe, for example, of me a week on a
guard. I have attended twelve fourteen speeches on the same watch and there has
been no mention of any of them. Then things happen, but we don
' t want to see them. We don' t want to see them
or we don' t want them. There' s a lot of eyes.
I' ll tell you one thing. I' ve even been the
same one who didn' t want to read things when she' s pregnant.
You say I can' t. I can' t read certain news.
I can' t read certain things because I get bad and I know
that there are a lot of people who do the same thing when they see
news, that' s how it goes to slip. They don' t
want to know anything and many times, knowing what' s going on around
you, you can get to prevent an accident in your own family. Then
don' t close your eyes, because we live in a society and good
things happen. I want to be aware of there, yes, yes,
totally. And if it happens to me so much that I don' t
have times when I don' t have a hard time looking at certain things,
but don' t look at it. I don' t mean it
doesn' t happen. And this is a background race. Friends and friends,
you have to be there constantly, watch out all the time. Sometimes
we' ll sin a little bit, you might get a little bit of
a break. I' m also remembering personal anecdote lives total. But my
son told me the other day that on the courts where he plays football,
because they had a friend, an elderly man, a clear, accurate friend,
exactly. That' s the face, and if you' re not
watching us on YouTube, you can see it. That' s the face
that stayed with me while we were having dinner and he told me that and
who' s that he' s another father, that' s a friend
' s father. No, no, no, no, it' s
not a gentleman I what sir for Paul what, gentlemen, is not a
lord. He knows the whole neighborhood. I didn' t feel comfortable in
a clear dress and we already had a serious conversation there, which my son
looked at me as it is, if it' s very nice and I
mean, as he was telling me, I was having more red alarms everywhere,
but well, regardless of this case, we will follow very carefully from
this house and to which poor person will be very good. But I already
have a lot of attention to him and I have already told him not to
ride with him, to which he has told me goes in misci Do not
worry or eat anything that he gives him. Sure, sure, I look
the same. Don' t give him anything, you' re fine Hi
Don' t give him his phone. Please, and this thing that we
take to Risa, of course, is that it happens to her, that
is really yes, yes, it' s one thing that you skip and
you have to skip. It' s just that I was just saying to
my son, I' m your mother. If I wasn' t your
mother, I might say very well, but it' s that my duty
and duty doesn' t and besides, when you' re conscious and you
see all the things that happen, it' s worse. I mean,
I see a lot of things and I see a lot of raw things.
There isn' t. Sometimes my partner tells me to relax a little because
the child has to live, not the other day you invite him to sleep
in a house. And I don' t, no, no, my
son doesn' t stay to sleep at anyone' s house why,'
cause I' ve got a lot on my mind about infatious sexual abuse.
Then it' s like no. No, no, no, the kid,
I mean, he' s five years old where he' s going
to sleep if it' s not at his house. And I' m
sure I never let him sleep at anyone' s until I' m older.
And then sometime I' ll have to give in to that part that
I also have to let him live that experience and have a good time.
But I will be, for as you no longer go home, who you
go from and what the father' s name is, what the mother'
s name is. And of course, of course it' s the good
thing that my son told me that they had already explained it to him in
school and that you knew that I knew it, which I liked because well,
well, it' s not okay, we' re not doing it
wrong ok, but I don' t know who you are. If you
' re arguing with me, I don' t know who you are.
Get away from my son. I' ll put you down, sir,
or you' ve got another park that visits what you' re doing there,
what you' re doing. I' m sorry, uh, but
it' s just that these things can only be commented on suddenly at other
times, because if they can' t cross you off a little bit,
I don' t know, but they happen, and I always have in
me I don' t know if you' ve read the James Roads instrumental
book, but I always recommend it to everyone, even though it' s
very hard, that you cry enough, that it' s tremendous, but
I leave it there. I' m on it. I didn' t
know him, but I write him down, because piece of history, it
' s not the only thing that his testimony has told. But in the
history of abuse he suffered by his gym teacher, I' m sorry Gymnastics
teachers, but continued for several years. No one found out about any teacher,
or his mother, anyone, and with horrible sequels, horrible ones,
and that book to me is that it marked me a lot then always,
that is, because always, besides, you put yourself in the place of
that mother. I couldn' t help it, not and I said it
' s my mother. So nothing. That closes the chapter, strange chapter,
yes, a chapter that suddenly did not enter here, but that has
arisen and that, well, we could also enter into prevention, not only
first aid. But there because here we also talk about many situations that good,
because if we can avoid, then much better, obviously, and passing
on that he ay sorry, do not tell me that of no. It
hasn' t happened to me, it doesn' t exist, because yes,
yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, of course and it
doesn' t happen to you until what happens to someone, and precisely in
the case of sexual abuse in childhood, they are people, most of the
environment, of the closest environment, family around friends, teachers, educational environment
with which they spend the most time, our little coaches, now the case
of gymnastics has come up again. I don' t know if artistic gymnastics,
but they' ve reported abuse by a coach again. Yes, you
' re afraid of sometimes leaving them with someone, because it' s clear,
of course, then and they' re no longer friends, but nothing
happens to ask a lot and be there and still don' t be calm.
You never go into this anymore It' s already as a universal rule
of motherhood and parenthood You' re not going to be calm. He'
s never still crazy to pick a plant, this thing we' re gonna
see and I' m dying. I have them artificial because they don'
t survive me, so imagine. There' s no look at my time,
either. It has a terrace full of plants. It' s got,
like, two hundred and five floors and three floors, you take suddenly,
I don' t, not that in the squares give it a chance
to live that I all die. Not good. We are going to pass
on a nice topic, which is the theme of the babysigne, which I
like very much and which you also offer inside your website and which seems to
me a little known topic that here in mother fera we have also talked about
some time ago. But tell us a little bit, how you get into
this babysign topic and why. Because for a lot of people who say so
look, I get in because my son wept a lot and with a few
months I said Mira. There' s got to be something I can understand
you with. No, as I am a lot of scientific evidence to look
for information and so, one of these typical nights at three in the morning
with the little one here on the boob and the mobile in the hand,
because looking for information, came out of Bavis and I say good. But
I don' t think this will work. I mean, abeth signs,
animal signs. I don' t know about me, and the truth is,
I was very skeptical and I kind of didn' t want to implement
it. But look at another super desperate day with a high- demand baby
that I couldn' t even leave on the floor and I said look I
just need to. I need to know what the hell' s wrong with
you because I changed your diaper and fed you. I need to know and
tell me how to find out what' s happening to you right now,
not and I decided to implement it without having much hope in it, and
since it' s true that you have to try to happen a period of
time when the baby realizes that I' m doing that sign, he'
s communicating with me, because I don' t know if I remember.
If it took three weeks, four weeks for the Pirmer sign to return me,
then I said oysters, this does work, then I started putting in
more signs and my son started communicating with me through signs. Then my c
instructor and you learn the whole thing about how it worked all the benefits I
had. And it is true that in the case, for example, of
Braice, because not in all cases it is the same. My five-
year- old son, at the age of two, spoke perfectly because as
we had implemented the theme of signs, he communicated through signs. And as
you are making the sign while you are saying the word is more exposed to
this word than on another normal occasion. For example, carin lle let'
s eat take baby and take it to the kitchen, but when you implement
the signs, repeat it several times let' s eat baby come, let
' s eat we' ll eat this rich food. Then, in the
end, they understand and go internalizing those words and have a much broader vocabulary.
And I remember that when we got to the two- year review,
the doctor said, but you see, there' s going to be about
two or the four, because, of course, my son was perfectly speaking
that a lot of people think the signs are being implemented. There' s
going to be a setback in oral language that they won' t want to
talk about. But it' s the opposite, because as they are communicating
with you. They' re even more eager to do it, and they
' re starting to make the signs while they' re uttering the words.
He hasn' t agreed on my son. Eighteen months later, you told
him what you wanted for banana money. Then he was forcing himself, even
saying the word earlier. And that helps them a lot with the development of
oral language. It helps them a lot with the fine motor, motor capacity
in general, because well, because they have to manipulate, they have to
do the signs with their hands. They are more aware from their bodies of
where they put their hands and their heads in their guts. Then it helps
a lot The theme of vision. And then I specialized in language, if
not Spanish, because the Baviysain is origin is native to the United States and
many people think that the signs are universal and not that it will be defining
even in the same language of signs in Madrid, in the north of Madrid
you can say a sign in one way, a word in one way and
in the south you can say of another. So it is true that the
language but American is much more oriented to the motor capacity of babies, because
they are, as the signs are, as much more intuitive. They are
much more prepared than the Spanish sign language, which is for adults. Basically,
and well, we say implement ourselves. It worked and I say she
' s 13 months old now. I started doing it to her since she
was born and after three months I' ve already started returning signs. In
fact, and babies that when I live in a family of non- hearing
people sign from good looks then I said. Well, I' m going
to try it on and it worked from the age of three months and it
started returning signs to me and to this day, who is thirteen. And
then, when he wants to ask you, when he wants to sleep,
he asks me. When you want to eat too then it' s a
way to communicate that it helps them a lot to deal with that frustration of
hearing, which is that I want. I' m not, but you
' re giving it up and I don' t know how to tell you.
And, above all, in the most important part that is linked to
my profession, he knows if something hurts and where. Because, well,
this part isn' t researched, and I' d love to be able
to do a study of this, because I remember that I shine at fourteen
months, the pain in babies is like something very abstract. They don'
t really know how to name it, because, well, if you get
a wound, it says pupa and the sign of the wound and they'
re seeing it, that' s a wound, that hurts me. But
a bellyache or a headache is something very difficult to understand and express. I
remember fourteen months that I was very little, very lying on the couch not.
I told him what' s wrong with you. You' re okay,
I' m fine, and he told me that pupa hurt and pointed
his head and it can' t be anymore. This is by chance,
and I' m gonna ask him eventually, if you' re okay,
something' s wrong, you' re in pain, and I re-
allocated my pupa and my head, I put the thermometer on and I had
agitated, so yes, I can understand that it hurt his head. It
is true that it was still a lot of credibility. I mean, this
will be a coincidence, no, but it' s weeks later he signified
me pupa and pointed out the belly that hurt his belly and I stayed the
same again. It can' t be that you' re telling me to
give you the garriga. I' ll give you your belly, honey,
and at the moment one day you' re out of the blue, and
you' re going everywhere, and I' m saying yes, son,
yes, I' m going to give you my belly. For me it
was fundamental, not only because of the whole issue of benefit it has,
of tantrum reduction, that it can communicate with you in a much more effective
way, etc, language development, but because so I can understand and what
hurts you? If something hurts, because many times we over- medicate,
we read a little bit and it hurts something, because I' m going
to give you the progenus or the paracetamol to do better. But oysters,
if we' re able to know, then it hurts them and what hurts
them maybe. We can implement other guidelines instead of not going directly to America
and, for example, already from the belly, because what I did to
catch a seed cushion I put it in the gut and we didn' t
overmedicate so much. And when we go to a pediatrician, many times it
' s what happens to him, because look is that he' s decayed,
is that this patchuc I have a fever and many times I ask her
back is making ah of her cabals to know well, look at me heard.
The ear isn' t what the robe looks at, because it was
a virus. It was such if they were able to tell us that I
gave her my belly, because I was already beautyizing her directly to look at
her belly. So that part was very important to me, and it'
s still important today. With that and on the part of healthcare professionals,
how they accept that communication from babies through baby signals without that is, they
take it like when you get to the pediatrician they say it' s not
that you said with three months, that my son has said with three months
that his gut hurts. No, man, at three months, it'
s still not impossible. They can' t tell you, ah well,
but example that assigned me to take him and such then I, when I
comment on this in the pediatrician, look at me as clear. Of course
we have the typical mother who thinks I' m a little four months old.
I' ll take you now, Father, how you are. And
many times I have to explain no because and lately I' m already quiet.
I don' t say anything, but the grandmother who often comes with
me, she' s super mega proud, that grandson and you' re
letting him go. That way shut up because of course and besides it is
that lately the healing is as it is. And every time I give you
a different pellatra to a different nurse. Then of course, my mother,
but I' m letting it go and nurse tells me well, it'
ll be coincidence. I' m not by chance, but of course,
many times they look at me like it' s impossible, they' re
telling me and they rarely surprise me and they say yes and it works and
they ask me for information, but it' s the least because they look
at me like good that yes, of course, it already comes to the
mother if it already costs me sometimes that she goes to the boob that she
doesn' t already put on already when you tell them that her head exploded.
But this is, I mean, tea so eugenic. Please, there
are still many places, many professionals that are not good, because imagine if
I was going to say it is going to say that it is that the
child has assigned and tells you that with thirteen months I give him the sweep.
Yes, I see him in a congress commenting because I did not come
to a mother who combed and the child had told him that he was worth
the gut with love to the congresses. But I' m imagining it,
I see it, I see it well, they' re good. Well,
it' s just that I was thinking that it' s just you,
who also talk about living Winning Law, that you have everything you'
re saying. Not that my son, plus Conan he was making yor bby
the Winning while I was giving him the boob and all of a sudden I
' ll throw the baby into it you already have the whole pack to look
at you. So some others. No, obviously, and do, ma
' am, or be good, Mommy Look, I' ve been forgiven
for once doing a nurse review that also told me not to first give her
the puree and when it' s already full, you already give her pieces.
I wasn' t already saying, but I, for example, had
a snack the other day. But I' m in charge. I mean,
whatever he wants and he looked at me like whatever you want. I
ask him clearly and I say I ask him if he wants an orange or
if he wants a banana or if he wants prey, and the boy tells
me what he wants. Well, the nurse looks at her with her eyes
disorbited as clear that the child tells you what she wants to snack and I
do, yes, but where she' s going to uchar r. But
that' s right, they' re like this, there' s the
new generations. Uh, please, have him pick the kid what he wants
to snack. That' s what they' re like after they' re
despots. They don' t come out clear it' s general, it
' s got glass, not such that it' s cinda and on top
and it tells you that it wants to snack the banana instead of the orange.
But there will be. I' ve seen nerea this with a lot
of love. I really mean, it is. In addition, here we
interview many pediatrics and nurses and nurses and healthcare people who hire creatures and families
in a super respectful manner. But there is still a lot to do and
if we have talked many times about living the winning and the reluctances that exist
in many cases or of the mater, for example, or breastfeeding, that
will not have gone around already and will have been studied and has scientific evidence
and keeps putting and raising his eyebrow when you say that you are breast-
feeding after the two years that already tell you no longer leaves home until forty.
It happened to me the other day. What happens is that when you
already have the information, like you segment, you don' t and the
brain disconnects when it starts to receive you and they' re going to start
saying things to you and it says hangs peace and yes, and the sooner
you get out of the comfort. But it' s true that they can
do a lot of damage and more when you' re probably in a vulnerable
period, which is the postpartum that comes to you with phrases of these that
stick to you and I remember. My son was born with four kilos in
a microsomal medium, Microsomal Baby and went up the pediatrician who also looked me
in the face and said well, I will leave you the formula milk,
why you will not be able to feed your Baby and I stayed like this
and even having the information, I even came down, not only the information
that is given, but how that information will be. It is also important
in this respect. And, on the other hand, there are the mega
influencers that have a hundred- and- a- thousand followers, 200 zero
followers that sometimes give a piece of information that you say but good and how
it says this. I' m going to talk about a very particular case
of a man who has, because I don' t know if a million
and peak of followers that the other day I made a video of colcho and
has another sudden death with a brutal disinformation, but since he has so many
followers, as they are more heeded, then I come with my thirty zero
followers, to deny this information. And it' s like you who will
know that you have more followers and of course, you have more information and
it often costs to demystify things from other people you say. But, well,
how to divulge this if this isn' t evidence and costs a lot.
Not first of all a professional when you go to the consultation where you
trust fully that I have mentioned many times, but simitediate my nurse has told
me that and they bring Albanians to your head, but how he told you
that about a person you trust. And then, of course, we get
into networks and we see another mega influencer that lets you get into a lot
of weirdness, and those of us who are aware and up- to-
date sometimes find it hard to give that visibility in their hard work. I
' m not going to ask you who it is but what it was,
because the truth is, I haven' t heard what it was that he
said and how, I mean, what the mistake was to leave it,
just in case he' s listening to someone who has some doubt about the
rape and death. Sudden, because it is a little clarified, because basically
in the College bad ah well already clearly made a video that the school that
the baby has to sleep, made, room and in his crib that no
sleep, because you can kill him. I mean yes, with these words
it' s like but if you' re taking on breastfeeding, in case
you kiss your mother' s stay, you' re ruining your mother'
s sleep, because we already know that she gets very little sleep and if
you have you, baby favors the baby' s and mother' s sleep.
You' re making me feel bad. There' s a lot of
moms that we have more choice but to make a baby, because so they
can rest a little longer and because they want to do it. As a
matter of fact, I do college with both of them and one is five
and a half years old and the other is thirteen months old. So I
' m sick of even good nurses and family when the child will sleep alone
in his room, never when the child wants to why we' re in
that hurry. And, on the other hand, the subject of sudden death,
which compared it to an asfixe shrapnel and had nothing to do with it.
And here there were a lot of people who wrote to me because I
have followers who have suffered the subject of sudden death and it' s something
that happens in the baby' s brain. It' s not something that
can be associated with asphyxiation, it' s also worth it and this gentleman,
because he' s a gentleman, what he said was that sudden death
was the fault of the parents because they put things in the crib with which
he ended up choking. And it' s not real. Sudden death happens
because there are receptors in the brain that do not suggest that he had stopped
breathing and has nothing to do with asphyxiation or heeling. They' re two
different things. Then there were many families who wrote me affected by this not
and hurt you hear, this gentleman is blaming me for having had a loss
of my baby. Then you have to be careful what you say. I
beg your pardon. It was the subject of sudden death. Besides, there
' s no literature, it' s still being studied, it' s
still talking about this topic and I wish there was true the correct scientific evidence
to say don' t do this, this and this and done and with
that you make sure it doesn' t happen. But it' s not
a phalan, it' s not. It' s not because you have
a lot of prevention. If it has to happen, it' s going
to happen and it' s a nightmare for every family that suddenly listens to
us. No, please, you' re trying not to consider it,
but it' s true that you' re facing it, because it'
s true that it really happens. But from there to link it. You
can' t blame families and something that escapes or at their hand. Of
course, regardless of whether there are risk factors that we all know and that
must be avoided, we already know that in the case of the school it
has always been said, moreover, in an era where it is when parents
are or have drunk or have taken drugs, or there is a situation or
take medication, for example, of course they cannot be fired. He'
s not overweight, either. There are situations of risk that physically or psychologically
eye, as it can affect when caring for that creature. But everyone who
' s slept with babies that I' ve also made up, we know
what it means, I mean, you don' t lie there and sleep
peacefully and it' s over. It' s not like that. Then,
keep the rooms airy, do not smoke, have no junk around the
cribs or where they sleep. But there' s no prescription to prevent sudden
death. Unfortunately, there isn' t. And the guy' s wonderful,
wonderful, wonderful. Yeah, plus, it' s a subject that
I, as a family, have lived it, too, and that'
s how you did it. You' d put your little fingers on when
you said no, I' d do some pussy and look at you as
sorry. You have to get that baby out of the room and it'
s been alive, because I work. That' s one of the things
I wouldn' t do. I, then, when the time comes for
you, because you think about it, because it really is a help for
many mothers, especially in my case, for example, for me and breastfeeding
was wonderful. So if you want to do some colcho, report to me
and follow profiles, then I' m going to ask you. You can
do it in a safe way. It is clear that and it must be
done is like anything else, it must be done in a safe way.
Feed, it must be done in a safe way. You' re not
going to give anything to the baby, you don' t look aphic,
that the battery is very hard and you have to flow and you can'
t judge what other moms do. Not then, because within each of its
possibilities and its circumstations, we do it as best we can and know.
And from there, I think, well, there are things where we can
' t judge so lightly. No good, so blame the parents for certain
things. I mean, there are things and things, obviously, and for
example, food. You' re giving cookies to your child every day,
because he' s usually going to be overweight. But if one day you
give him cookies because you don' t have any more namedia, I didn
' t give you tie to prepare the snack, go through the supermarket and
it was the first thing you got, then look. Listen, we'
re not going to judge her mom that that afternoon she brings a bag of
cookies or potatoes to her little one or that one weekend, because they go
to the typical desert or to the Burger to eat a hamburger, because nothing
happens either. You have to influence, because in NBA it is only left
to recommend to our audience that they visit your website to see or go and
feel like visiting your profile, that they find out about the workshops that you
do that you already saw, since of benefits it has, on the one
hand, to know about first aid. It' s good for everyone,
for everyone you have children or you don' t have children. Please,
this already as well, as obviously, we should not all know first aid,
because we live in society. We can all get through to your neighbor
going down the street traveling on the plane. Not the typical John wants you
to be a doctor, yes, you can save lives. I' m
still a lot. I also recommend a lot always when I talk about first
ausilios, there is RCP des de mi cole that divulges on Twitter, in
this case it is in x always on Instagram. I don' t even
know if he' s here,' cause I think he' s gone.
I don' t even think so. She' s from Twitter,
from the oll school. But follow profiles, because that is what they tell
you, because as in the case of Nerea, of CPR of my school,
also that they tell anecdotes and stories about cases that many times, even
if we don' t want because they are hard and they are things that
hurt as fathers, as mothers, we worry that it happens to us,
but they also give you information, they give you clues about things that can
happen and, above all, how to handle them and that we have the
ability to manage them. That this is, in the end, the most
important thing, that there is an option to try to avoid and that there
are things that we can do and hear that are within our reach, that
we can do the good thing To all this is that lately I have many
grandparents here come to the courses and the tapis are getting more and more encouraged,
because I remember that there were moms who called me jope It is that
I had to be here my partner and not just for the child, it
is that if to me something happens, I am sold, because if my
partner knows how to identify you, it is unconscious and that not respirital you
will not see if I have to do CPR or not. No. So
it' s important, not just because it' s true that I go
to schools and schools and companies, but the workshops I do, that grandparents
and daddies come. I love it, yes, if not everyone, even
the boys and girls who know who they have to call, what they have
to do in case something happens to the adults they are with, that they
are the only ones who are alone or alone and they don' t know
what to do, that they have their information there and that it is something
that works as a family. It seems to me very important and they are
sponges, eh they stay with everything because I used to give, before the
pandemic, workshops, the Pitti space flu that there were cortingleses yes, and
every time I went, for example, every weekend I went to a different
space and there were families that followed me slowly a space because the little one
of four and five years had kept all the information and they follow me for
different workshops. And they' re real sponges that learn from all or families
that have written games messages that happened to me and Grandma and me and I
said that or I thought you weren' t going to react and knew how
to pick up the phone, call, call the neighbor or be really amazing
they really can' t do it because it' s not effective until they
' re ten years old or so, because they don' t have the
strength, of course, but they can do a lot of other things that
can help that person who' s at risk and they stay all very important
and for ampas, for cabbages, for neighborhood associations, for communities, for
people who are a little bit, who have concerns, that this happens to
us, that we all need, we can need at some point and that
' s super useful. So he' s been there alertly and then I
' ll put in the notes of the program YOUR Web your Blog so that
people can come by and see the workshops, both of first aid and in
the case of Ibisn, which is super interesting. And in addition, so
we give joy to the pediatric consultations and then they will send us a little
greetings. You know what it' s got on us. This has been
a pleasure chatting with you and congratulations on your enormous work, which you are
doing a phenomenal one and have thirty thousand or three hundred thousand followers. The
most important thing is to know what you' re doing, to divulge with
scientific evidence that I' m going to tell you, no, for me
it' s fundamental and for people to trust you. Precisely because of that
you know or yes that the number of followers at my side, I say
it always because when I go to the courses. I do not tell you
to write to me if you have doubts, it is written that as I
am not influencing or anything. Every time I see that I' ve written
to someone, I get super happy. So, then that nothing that thank
you very much, mnígicate. It is an honor for me to be here
today talking to you and to be able to listen to us and raise awareness
a little more about prevention and the first aid than about a lot of shit,
things yes, doubts and things so, that they can contact me and
thank you very much. Nothing a pleasure, thanks to you and your connection
gives light. There is also already a hug from Nerea and there is a
hug to all who have listened to us today and thank you for your patience.
To see it will be a little shorter than for us that it has
been a talk. It' s been like we' ve been here for
hours. We' ve been here for hours, we' ve known each
other like it' s a lifetime. This is what I have to leave
all the info in the program notes as always and we listen to each other.
In an upcoming episode of Good Morning, will you mother goodbye or n
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