Hey, hey, back with something for you to think about. At least
I hope you think about it. Some of your friends, most of your
friends is not gonna tell you the truth. Take it from me. That's
not a real friend. A person who cannot tell you the truth, that's
not your friend. A true friend, she'll be able to tell you the
truth. I mean, that's the way it has to be if it's real,
If it's a real friendship, you should be but to tell each other
the truth. Mostly if you don't have that, you just think you do.
But I'm here to tell you the truth. Listen. Stop making excuses
for him or for her. Stop making expect uses. Truth is, they
don't want you. They don't feel about you the way you feel about them.
They're not into you like you are them. Stop making excuses. How
do I know? It's really coming sense? It's really coming sense, especially
for someone who can see beyond looks, desires, once things. When you
can see beyond that, it's almost impossible to get the world pulled over your
eyes. You're not just falling for anything because you feel this world that way,
because you know a relationship is far more than that, It's far more
than your feelings. That's why so many people get caught up in bad relationships
because they are solely caught up in their feelings and emotions. But my sister,
my brother, I'm here to tell you the truth. They're not into
you like that. Let me tell you something, Ladies, A man that
really wants to be with you will climb the highest mountain, are going to
the lowest valley. If they want to be with you and they mean well,
they're sincere, they will go to the limits to be with you.
Just like a woman who loves her man will go to the limits for him
if he's doing the right thing and the right thing by her. It's the
same with men. If a man really cares about you and really want to
be with you, get to know you, he will cross every ocean,
every state. I'm telling you, he will some of you. All I
can do is just shake my head. The things people fall for, the
things people believe. Oh, he's very busy. He's got a lot going
on. Listen, I don't care if he's the police chief and the deputy
and the sheriff all in one. If you want to be with you,
he's going to make time. He's going to make time. A man will
make time to be with who he wants to be with, Make no mistake
about it. He will make time. But some of you believe what they're
saying so bad, even though it's a crock of poop. You want to
believe it's so bad. They're doing everything else that they want to do or
they need to do, but spend time with you. Red flag, red
flag. I'm saying this about women because so many fall for it. Oh,
he just so busy, he's doing this, he's doing that, his
job, blah blah blah, blah blah blah. No, those are excuses.
A man who really wants to be with the woman will make a way.
Bottom line, he'll make a way. You not gonna force no one
to change. I don't care how much you love her. She is not
changing for you. I don't care how much you love him. He is
not changing for you. They will change enough to make you think that they
are into you, or they want to change for you, but they're gonna
revert to who they really are, without fail, without fail. A man
that really loves a woman and want to be with her, if he need
to change some things, he's going to do that. On his own.
Same with the woman. If she's really a woman who wants to be with
a man, she is going to change those things she needs to change on
her own. You don't have to nagger about it or any of that.
People will change on their own. If they really love you and want to
be with you, they will change those things that they need to change,
not because you want them to, but because they want to change. They
want to, and not just to be with you, to be a better
person. Period. But some of you, you just fall for anything,
You believe any thing, that's why you get anything, and many of you
quickly find out it's just a crock of pool. That's all it is.
Lies, manipulation, deceit, that's all it is. Because a person who
really wants to be with you will make a way, no doubt in my
mind whatsoever, they will make a way. But as long as you believe
whatever they're telling you, you never get what you're looking for. Never,
never, Because you're too sold out on the lives and the manipulation. So
many people are eager and desperate for relationships, you fall too quickly, way
too quickly, way too quickly. Let me tell you, women, a
man that have a mindset similar to yours. They will take what you give
them. The goodies, they will take them on the first date, the
first time you meet. They will take it if you give it. But
a good man, a grown, mature man, he don't want no woman
who's trying to give it up to him on the first day. He don't.
That's a turnoff to him. And a man don't want a woman who's
all aggressive. That's a turnoff. He may act a certain way until he
away from you, and then you have noticed he don't want to spend time
with you anymore because now he see the caliber of woman that you are and
a smart woman. It's the same way with the man. When she sees
that he's aggressive, she's not going back to that. She's not going on
another date. It's only people who have not read what's the word I'm trying
to say. It's only people who have not reached that level of maturity,
that level where you can see beyond your heart's desire. Only those mature people
who know thyself, who love thyself, they're the ones who can see beyond
that heart, beyond what they want, what they desire, what they see
for the rest, which is millions. So many are in bad, unhealthy
relationships because they're going off of their emotions, how they're feeling, what they
want, what they desire, and because of it, you fall for anything.
Men tell women anything. Some women tell men anything, lying through their
teeth, but you too blind to see it. Men aren't the only ones
who have game. Women have game. Two. Actually, women are the
best players. We are the best players. Women will cheat. You will
never know they cheating. You will never know they are cheating. Now,
when she want to leave you for someone, you're gonna know that. But
if she's just cheating, you will never know. But men always show their
hand. Ninety eight percent of the time show their hand in some form or
another because they don't know how to conduct themselves. You know, it's there
is I believe from dealing with people, dealing with couples, individuals. I
believe, and I've talked about this a long while back, I believe that
immature men and women are on the same level mentally. They think the same.
It's all about sex, it's all about material things, it's all about
what they see. I just believe that because of the interactions that I've been
a part of. I mean, it never fails. And then mature men
and women, they're the ones who see things differently. A lot of them
are alone because they don't want the drummer. They would like to be with
someone, but because of all of the drumma and the negativity out there,
they would rather be by themselves because they don't want that drummer. They love
self, they love their peace, they know their worth, and they just
not gonna allow and to accept the things that an immature man or woman will
accept. So many fall for anything they're told because of their hearts, because
of their minds. And I'm telling you, people will tell you anything.
A man will tell a woman anything, and a woman would tell a man
anything because they know that you're on that desperate level, because that's what you're
showing them. You go along anything they say. And let me tell you,
when a person don't want to be with you, whether it's the male
or the female, when they don't want to be with you, they gonna
make all kind of excuses. They're gonna wiggle their way right on out of
your life. They're gonna come up with excuses after excuse after excuse after excuse.
It's always something nobody in the world is that busy. No one in
the world is that busy. Stop falling for the lies and the deceit.
Stop it. They just don't want you. They don't feel about you the
way you feel about them. Some of you need to pump your breaks.
You're overbearing, you're smothering. People don't like that. Calm down, take
a breath, puppet breaks, get a grip, because it's not attractive.
It really isn't. Then you have some people who think they're in there just
a little too good. That's what they think, and then they start being
domineering and aggressive and controlling. No one likes that. That is not attractive.
Ladies, that's not attractive. Gentlemen, it's not Some of you think,
oh, you've been with them for a very short period and you think
you now you're on this level, that you can just act that way.
It's not attractive, and what you will do is push that person away quickly,
quickly. But people have to learn the hard way. And what's sad
is people keep going through the same things, going through the same things,
getting the same results over and over and over, and not one time do
they take a moment to look at self. But instead you just Oh,
well, he was just so busy and he really just don't have time for
a relationship. Or she was so busy, she just don't have time for
a relationship. Oh but they have time for everything else, everyone else.
Ah, they just don't have time for you. They just don't want you.
They're not changing for you. But some people seem like they have to
be beat in the head to get it, and some are beating the head
and they still don't get it. If a person don't want you, please
go on, go on. Stop allowing people to do you any kind of
way and then you turn around and make excuses for how they're treating you.
Stop doing that to yourself. You deserve better than that. You know that,
you know in your heart that if a person really wanted to be with
you, they would make away, just like you make a way to be
with that person because you want to be with that person. If they wanted
to be with you, they would make a way. I don't care what
they got going on. They will make time for you. They will make
time for you. You have to be able to read between the lines.
You must be able. You must be able to because you're missing everything they're
showing you. But you're not accepting what you see because of what you want,
what you desire, how you feel, so you're missing all of the
signs. And then on top of all of that, you're making excuses as
to why they're not spending time with you. Let me tell you, a
man will do whatever he has to do to get to you to spend time
with you, and a woman will do the same. I'm just telling you
this because your eyes need to be open. You must grow up. You
must mature past what you see and what you feel, what you want,
what you desire, and your unhealed hearts. You must mature beyond that.
You must learn how to love yourself completely and stop showing your person of interest
that you will do anything for them to be with them when they're not showing
you the same thing. And by the way, you should never be willing
to do just anything for anyone because you may be in that situation that's exactly
what you're doing. Anything, allowing and accepting anything, going along with anything.
A person that really loves you cares about you, cares about your well
being. They're not gonna put you through unnecessary drama. They're gonna treat you
right they're going to want to spend time with you. But some of you
just throw yourselves on him, but herd just literally throw yourself. That's not
attractive, a pilling, and it's a turnoff. Let me say it again,
it's not attractive. It's not a pilling, and it's a turnoff.
You're thinking you're doing right by suffocating them. No, some of you fall
way too quickly, way too quickly. You fall over heels for this person,
and they're not feeling that way. They're showing you they're not feeling that
way, but you can't even see it because you're head over heels for them.
And that is the problem with most relationships. They're one sided. People
move based on how they feel, what they want, what they desire,
even though most times it's not even what they're getting. But because they're so
caught up in their own personal feelings, they can't see it. They simply
cannot see it that other person they know, they know, and honestly,
they try to show you, but you still can coming. You continue to
come forth, and eventually they just stop communicating with you. Unless they are
individuals who are trying to get something out of you, then they will give
you those niblings and nuggets that I talk about a little bit here and there,
just enough to make you think they want them because they're getting something from
you. But when you're caught up in yourself and your emotions and feeling your
wants, your desires, you miss all of that because you're so full of
what you perceive is love for that person, when that person not feeling that
for you, and you're too blind to see it. Instead, like I
say, many people make excuses, Oh, he's too busy or she's too
busy, she has to do this and dad and blah blah blah blah.
No, they just not into you like you're into them. They don't want
you like you want them. You're not their priority, although you're not their
priority. Although they are your priority. You do all kind of things for
them, they're not doing that for you. Red flag sign. But as
I said, so many people miss it because they're too caught up in self.
But I just had I had to, I had to stop by and
say this to you because so many people, so many people, so many
fall for their own beliefs. It's not even what's really it's their beliefs.
They think the person is just as into them as they are into the person.
But it's their own mindset got them thinking like that because it's in reality
they're not even showing you that they're into you like that. But that's what
happens when you're blind. You're blind and you can't see. That's all I'm
gonna say on that. I'm leaving it right here. Listen. Whatever,
and I do mean whatever. You open yourself up to your bound to get
whatever you allow and accept you're bound to get. Don't be so caught up
in your own feelings and emotions and wants and desires that you cannot see what's
happening right in your face. Okay, that's it, leaving it right there.
Listen, and I want to make an announcement for those of you who
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