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Hey, hey, back with something
for you to think about. At least

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I hope you think about it.
Some of your friends, most of your

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friends is not gonna tell you the
truth. Take it from me. That's

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not a real friend. A person
who cannot tell you the truth, that's

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not your friend. A true friend, she'll be able to tell you the

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truth. I mean, that's the
way it has to be if it's real,

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If it's a real friendship, you
should be but to tell each other

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the truth. Mostly if you don't
have that, you just think you do.

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But I'm here to tell you the
truth. Listen. Stop making excuses

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for him or for her. Stop
making expect uses. Truth is, they

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don't want you. They don't feel
about you the way you feel about them.

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They're not into you like you are
them. Stop making excuses. How

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do I know? It's really coming
sense? It's really coming sense, especially

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for someone who can see beyond looks, desires, once things. When you

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can see beyond that, it's almost
impossible to get the world pulled over your

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eyes. You're not just falling for
anything because you feel this world that way,

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because you know a relationship is far
more than that, It's far more

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than your feelings. That's why so
many people get caught up in bad relationships

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because they are solely caught up in
their feelings and emotions. But my sister,

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my brother, I'm here to tell
you the truth. They're not into

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you like that. Let me tell
you something, Ladies, A man that

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really wants to be with you will
climb the highest mountain, are going to

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the lowest valley. If they want
to be with you and they mean well,

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they're sincere, they will go to
the limits to be with you.

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Just like a woman who loves her
man will go to the limits for him

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if he's doing the right thing and
the right thing by her. It's the

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same with men. If a man
really cares about you and really want to

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be with you, get to know
you, he will cross every ocean,

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every state. I'm telling you,
he will some of you. All I

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can do is just shake my head. The things people fall for, the

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things people believe. Oh, he's
very busy. He's got a lot going

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on. Listen, I don't care
if he's the police chief and the deputy

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and the sheriff all in one.
If you want to be with you,

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he's going to make time. He's
going to make time. A man will

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make time to be with who he
wants to be with, Make no mistake

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about it. He will make time. But some of you believe what they're

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saying so bad, even though it's
a crock of poop. You want to

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believe it's so bad. They're doing
everything else that they want to do or

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they need to do, but spend
time with you. Red flag, red

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flag. I'm saying this about women
because so many fall for it. Oh,

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he just so busy, he's doing
this, he's doing that, his

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job, blah blah blah, blah
blah blah. No, those are excuses.

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A man who really wants to be
with the woman will make a way.

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Bottom line, he'll make a way. You not gonna force no one

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to change. I don't care how
much you love her. She is not

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changing for you. I don't care
how much you love him. He is

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not changing for you. They will
change enough to make you think that they

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are into you, or they want
to change for you, but they're gonna

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revert to who they really are,
without fail, without fail. A man

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that really loves a woman and want
to be with her, if he need

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to change some things, he's going
to do that. On his own.

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Same with the woman. If she's
really a woman who wants to be with

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a man, she is going to
change those things she needs to change on

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her own. You don't have to
nagger about it or any of that.

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People will change on their own.
If they really love you and want to

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be with you, they will change
those things that they need to change,

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not because you want them to,
but because they want to change. They

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want to, and not just to
be with you, to be a better

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person. Period. But some of
you, you just fall for anything,

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You believe any thing, that's why
you get anything, and many of you

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quickly find out it's just a crock
of pool. That's all it is.

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Lies, manipulation, deceit, that's
all it is. Because a person who

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really wants to be with you will
make a way, no doubt in my

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mind whatsoever, they will make a
way. But as long as you believe

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whatever they're telling you, you never
get what you're looking for. Never,

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never, Because you're too sold out
on the lives and the manipulation. So

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many people are eager and desperate for
relationships, you fall too quickly, way

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too quickly, way too quickly.
Let me tell you, women, a

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man that have a mindset similar to
yours. They will take what you give

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them. The goodies, they will
take them on the first date, the

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first time you meet. They will
take it if you give it. But

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a good man, a grown,
mature man, he don't want no woman

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who's trying to give it up to
him on the first day. He don't.

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That's a turnoff to him. And
a man don't want a woman who's

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all aggressive. That's a turnoff.
He may act a certain way until he

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away from you, and then you
have noticed he don't want to spend time

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with you anymore because now he see
the caliber of woman that you are and

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a smart woman. It's the same
way with the man. When she sees

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that he's aggressive, she's not going
back to that. She's not going on

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another date. It's only people who
have not read what's the word I'm trying

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to say. It's only people who
have not reached that level of maturity,

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that level where you can see beyond
your heart's desire. Only those mature people

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who know thyself, who love thyself, they're the ones who can see beyond

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that heart, beyond what they want, what they desire, what they see

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for the rest, which is millions. So many are in bad, unhealthy

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relationships because they're going off of their
emotions, how they're feeling, what they

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want, what they desire, and
because of it, you fall for anything.

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Men tell women anything. Some women
tell men anything, lying through their

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teeth, but you too blind to
see it. Men aren't the only ones

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who have game. Women have game. Two. Actually, women are the

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best players. We are the best
players. Women will cheat. You will

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never know they cheating. You will
never know they are cheating. Now,

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when she want to leave you for
someone, you're gonna know that. But

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if she's just cheating, you will
never know. But men always show their

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hand. Ninety eight percent of the
time show their hand in some form or

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another because they don't know how to
conduct themselves. You know, it's there

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is I believe from dealing with people, dealing with couples, individuals. I

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believe, and I've talked about this
a long while back, I believe that

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immature men and women are on the
same level mentally. They think the same.

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It's all about sex, it's all
about material things, it's all about

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what they see. I just believe
that because of the interactions that I've been

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a part of. I mean,
it never fails. And then mature men

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and women, they're the ones who
see things differently. A lot of them

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are alone because they don't want the
drummer. They would like to be with

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someone, but because of all of
the drumma and the negativity out there,

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they would rather be by themselves because
they don't want that drummer. They love

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self, they love their peace,
they know their worth, and they just

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not gonna allow and to accept the
things that an immature man or woman will

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accept. So many fall for anything
they're told because of their hearts, because

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of their minds. And I'm telling
you, people will tell you anything.

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A man will tell a woman anything, and a woman would tell a man

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anything because they know that you're on
that desperate level, because that's what you're

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showing them. You go along anything
they say. And let me tell you,

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when a person don't want to be
with you, whether it's the male

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or the female, when they don't
want to be with you, they gonna

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make all kind of excuses. They're
gonna wiggle their way right on out of

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your life. They're gonna come up
with excuses after excuse after excuse after excuse.

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It's always something nobody in the world
is that busy. No one in

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the world is that busy. Stop
falling for the lies and the deceit.

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Stop it. They just don't want
you. They don't feel about you the

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way you feel about them. Some
of you need to pump your breaks.

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You're overbearing, you're smothering. People
don't like that. Calm down, take

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a breath, puppet breaks, get
a grip, because it's not attractive.

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It really isn't. Then you have
some people who think they're in there just

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a little too good. That's what
they think, and then they start being

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domineering and aggressive and controlling. No
one likes that. That is not attractive.

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Ladies, that's not attractive. Gentlemen, it's not Some of you think,

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oh, you've been with them for
a very short period and you think

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you now you're on this level,
that you can just act that way.

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It's not attractive, and what you
will do is push that person away quickly,

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quickly. But people have to learn
the hard way. And what's sad

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is people keep going through the same
things, going through the same things,

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getting the same results over and over
and over, and not one time do

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they take a moment to look at
self. But instead you just Oh,

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well, he was just so busy
and he really just don't have time for

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a relationship. Or she was so
busy, she just don't have time for

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a relationship. Oh but they have
time for everything else, everyone else.

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Ah, they just don't have time
for you. They just don't want you.

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They're not changing for you. But
some people seem like they have to

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be beat in the head to get
it, and some are beating the head

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and they still don't get it.
If a person don't want you, please

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go on, go on. Stop
allowing people to do you any kind of

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way and then you turn around and
make excuses for how they're treating you.

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Stop doing that to yourself. You
deserve better than that. You know that,

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you know in your heart that if
a person really wanted to be with

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you, they would make away,
just like you make a way to be

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with that person because you want to
be with that person. If they wanted

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to be with you, they would
make a way. I don't care what

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they got going on. They will
make time for you. They will make

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time for you. You have to
be able to read between the lines.

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You must be able. You must
be able to because you're missing everything they're

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showing you. But you're not accepting
what you see because of what you want,

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what you desire, how you feel, so you're missing all of the

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signs. And then on top of
all of that, you're making excuses as

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to why they're not spending time with
you. Let me tell you, a

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man will do whatever he has to
do to get to you to spend time

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with you, and a woman will
do the same. I'm just telling you

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this because your eyes need to be
open. You must grow up. You

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must mature past what you see and
what you feel, what you want,

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what you desire, and your unhealed
hearts. You must mature beyond that.

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You must learn how to love yourself
completely and stop showing your person of interest

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that you will do anything for them
to be with them when they're not showing

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you the same thing. And by
the way, you should never be willing

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to do just anything for anyone because
you may be in that situation that's exactly

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what you're doing. Anything, allowing
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A person that really loves you cares
about you, cares about your well

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being. They're not gonna put you
through unnecessary drama. They're gonna treat you

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right they're going to want to spend
time with you. But some of you

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just throw yourselves on him, but
herd just literally throw yourself. That's not

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attractive, a pilling, and it's
a turnoff. Let me say it again,

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it's not attractive. It's not a
pilling, and it's a turnoff.

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You're thinking you're doing right by suffocating
them. No, some of you fall

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way too quickly, way too quickly. You fall over heels for this person,

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and they're not feeling that way.
They're showing you they're not feeling that

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way, but you can't even see
it because you're head over heels for them.

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And that is the problem with most
relationships. They're one sided. People

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move based on how they feel,
what they want, what they desire,

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even though most times it's not even
what they're getting. But because they're so

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caught up in their own personal feelings, they can't see it. They simply

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cannot see it that other person they
know, they know, and honestly,

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they try to show you, but
you still can coming. You continue to

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come forth, and eventually they just
stop communicating with you. Unless they are

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individuals who are trying to get something
out of you, then they will give

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you those niblings and nuggets that I
talk about a little bit here and there,

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just enough to make you think they
want them because they're getting something from

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you. But when you're caught up
in yourself and your emotions and feeling your

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wants, your desires, you miss
all of that because you're so full of

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what you perceive is love for that
person, when that person not feeling that

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for you, and you're too blind
to see it. Instead, like I

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say, many people make excuses,
Oh, he's too busy or she's too

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busy, she has to do this
and dad and blah blah blah blah.

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No, they just not into you
like you're into them. They don't want

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you like you want them. You're
not their priority, although you're not their

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priority. Although they are your priority. You do all kind of things for

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them, they're not doing that for
you. Red flag sign. But as

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I said, so many people miss
it because they're too caught up in self.

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But I just had I had to, I had to stop by and

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say this to you because so many
people, so many people, so many

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fall for their own beliefs. It's
not even what's really it's their beliefs.

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They think the person is just as
into them as they are into the person.

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But it's their own mindset got them
thinking like that because it's in reality

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they're not even showing you that they're
into you like that. But that's what

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happens when you're blind. You're blind
and you can't see. That's all I'm

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gonna say on that. I'm leaving
it right here. Listen. Whatever,

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and I do mean whatever. You
open yourself up to your bound to get

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whatever you allow and accept you're bound
to get. Don't be so caught up

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in your own feelings and emotions and
wants and desires that you cannot see what's

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happening right in your face. Okay, that's it, leaving it right there.

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Listen, and I want to make
an announcement for those of you who

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are in the vicinity of the state
of Georgia. I'm making an announcement for

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my friend Mike Jones. Fifth Annual
Choir Fest has taking place. It's going

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to be at twenty sixteen Millageville Road
in Augusta, Georgia. It will take

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place Saturday, March twenty third,
from three to eight pm. Highest praise

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choir will be awarded. They love
offering a five hundred dollars for their ministry.

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Tickets are twelve dollars if you want
to attend this function. If you

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want to be on this function,
please call Mike Jones at seven O six

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two nine four eleven fifty two promoted
by one Dollar at a Time Productions.

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So please, if you're in the
vicinity of Augusta, Georgia, please reach

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out to Mike Jones and he can
hook you up with some tickets. Also,

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again, if you want to be
a part of this extravaganza, reach

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out to him and I'm sure he
will get you on the program. Thank

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you so much for listening. Much
love to each and every one of you.

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I appreciate you all. Please reach
out to me. Go to my

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podcast page to tell you how to
reach out to me. Also check out

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my other podcast, which is Relatable
Life Chronicles. Check it out, Share

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share this episode, share this podcast
which is Relationship Chronicles. Thank you again.

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You know I end every episode the
same and if you don't know now

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you'll know I end every episode the
same and I hope you do it.

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Pleak on it