WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:11.759 This is Pod Populi Podcast for the People, the Great Love Debate. It's 2 00:00:11.800 --> 00:00:18.199 the Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debate. 3 00:00:18.519 --> 00:00:22.440 Hi again, Everyone's Brian Howe. Welcome to the Great Love Debate, 4 00:00:22.480 --> 00:00:26.559 the world's number one Dating a Relation podcast since two thy fifteen. I am 5 00:00:26.600 --> 00:00:30.839 back here in the very fine studios of pod Populi Podcast for the People. 6 00:00:31.160 --> 00:00:35.679 I'm at the one in Boca Raton, Florida. It's starting to get steamy 7 00:00:35.840 --> 00:00:41.119 here back on the controls after a long hiatus. Fan favorite Arianna, how 8 00:00:41.119 --> 00:00:46.679 are you plug in? Say hi, Arianna, y'all really loud? She 9 00:00:46.799 --> 00:00:49.280 missed it? All right, she'll chime in later because we have questions. 10 00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:52.960 Um, I'm already something a little bit different today. So I brought in 11 00:00:53.039 --> 00:00:55.560 some guests that they're not a little bit different, but they have a certain 12 00:00:56.079 --> 00:01:00.799 level of expertise that I felt that I needed. Um, there's a lot 13 00:01:00.799 --> 00:01:04.599 of pivotal times in a relationship, or when you're early on a relationship, 14 00:01:04.680 --> 00:01:10.079 or when you're married, that you have to decide are we going to live 15 00:01:10.120 --> 00:01:12.640 together? And where are we going to live? And that can bring people 16 00:01:12.640 --> 00:01:17.239 together, it could tear them apart, but it certainly leads to a lot 17 00:01:17.280 --> 00:01:19.680 of conversations. So I'm not going to bring them in because I want to 18 00:01:19.680 --> 00:01:23.000 have a legal discussion on it. I want to sort of get their opinion 19 00:01:23.000 --> 00:01:26.920 on a practical discussion in this very fine studio. Populi Podcasts for the people. 20 00:01:27.239 --> 00:01:30.920 There are an awful lot of real estate podcasts that get recorded out of 21 00:01:30.920 --> 00:01:38.079 this part. Nobody does a better real estate podcast than these two. Sometimes 22 00:01:38.159 --> 00:01:40.640 three. They have a third, She's not here today. They host a 23 00:01:40.680 --> 00:01:45.799 show called The Sunnyside where they take a look at a lot of the quirks 24 00:01:45.879 --> 00:01:52.519 and trends and interested parties and interesting parties that come along with the South Florida 25 00:01:52.760 --> 00:01:56.079 real estate world. So if you have a couple million dollars lying around it's 26 00:01:56.120 --> 00:01:59.200 not enough, go get a mortgage and then come back to see them. 27 00:02:00.000 --> 00:02:05.200 Thank you. They are two thirds of the Katilla Baresh Drow Is that right? 28 00:02:05.519 --> 00:02:10.800 C the cbgure real Estate Empire, scotch Row and Rochelle Baresh. How 29 00:02:10.800 --> 00:02:15.120 are you well? Thank you for the intro. My question to you you 30 00:02:15.280 --> 00:02:21.439 felt like you needed advice or you still feel oh? I both. I've 31 00:02:21.599 --> 00:02:24.759 you know. There are times when a couple of people have been dating three 32 00:02:24.800 --> 00:02:28.680 months and they're like, oh, let's move in together, and that can 33 00:02:28.719 --> 00:02:32.080 be done to save money. But there are lease issues, there are credit 34 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:37.039 issues, there are conversations that need to be had. And then when people 35 00:02:37.080 --> 00:02:40.000 come to buy a home, so you guys deal with mostly buyers, correct, 36 00:02:40.800 --> 00:02:46.240 do you try and assess the status of the relationship and who's putting up 37 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:50.759 the money and who's on the vaporwork? Like, like you kind of have 38 00:02:50.800 --> 00:02:53.879 to be Is it the two if they're not married? If it's because I 39 00:02:53.919 --> 00:02:57.639 saw I remember a couple of years ago, like I saw Aaron Rodgers and 40 00:02:57.680 --> 00:03:00.560 Danny Ka Patrick bought a couple like estates together there, And I'm like, 41 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:02.439 is it under like a business trust? Like I didn't think they were going 42 00:03:02.479 --> 00:03:07.319 fifty years together. That seems like a level of complication the two very wealthy 43 00:03:07.319 --> 00:03:09.759 people wouldn't true read doesn't that sound fun? Yeah, I'm just like, 44 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:14.639 why are they are they sharing investment? Like their relationship I think has to 45 00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:19.080 be pretty serious before you starting property together. And I think it's not our 46 00:03:19.159 --> 00:03:21.560 job to vet them. I think if they're walking through the door and they're 47 00:03:21.560 --> 00:03:23.319 shopping for real estate, they better have their things lined up before they walk 48 00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:28.240 through the door. Yeah, I have enough stuff to deal with then trying 49 00:03:28.240 --> 00:03:30.000 to figure out what's going on in front of us. You're not asking who's 50 00:03:30.039 --> 00:03:34.080 paying here? Well, well, well we ask, but not ask. 51 00:03:34.280 --> 00:03:36.759 I think there's certain ways of figuring out, Like I would say, who's 52 00:03:36.840 --> 00:03:38.759 driving that bus? Yeah? Is that what you say? Well, having 53 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:42.360 this bus? So how do you figure out? No, you don't say 54 00:03:42.360 --> 00:03:46.439 anything. It's just in the questions and people who steps money, who makes 55 00:03:46.479 --> 00:03:50.479 the decisions, Who makes the decisions? Well, sometimes she makes the decisions 56 00:03:50.479 --> 00:03:53.240 and he has the money, or vice versa. You know. Yeah, 57 00:03:53.280 --> 00:03:55.479 that's a good point. I mean, we had somebody the other day they 58 00:03:55.479 --> 00:03:58.680 said, I love it. I want to buy it right now, but 59 00:03:58.719 --> 00:04:01.039 I can't do it. My wife has to come and she needs to check 60 00:04:01.120 --> 00:04:05.000 the box. And then when that happens, we're good to go. Is 61 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:09.840 that frustrating for you to deal with where one seems all in and one is 62 00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:14.000 not. It happens out all the time. So I says, you just 63 00:04:14.000 --> 00:04:16.240 deal with it. It's part of the business. But I think sometimes the 64 00:04:16.319 --> 00:04:20.079 wife will want a single family home, the husband wants a condo, and 65 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:26.600 then suddenly it switches. Oh and then he wants that and they want that. 66 00:04:26.680 --> 00:04:30.920 That happens more than you would ever think. I spent like a couple 67 00:04:30.959 --> 00:04:33.800 hours with somebody last week and she's all in, She's loving the condo that 68 00:04:33.800 --> 00:04:38.759 we're showing her and everything, and then she says, after lengthy investment of 69 00:04:38.800 --> 00:04:42.160 my time, oh, I just have to convince my husband to move now. 70 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:44.319 And I'm like, wait a minute, why are we even down this 71 00:04:44.399 --> 00:04:46.519 road. We should have all you should have done your homework behind the scenes 72 00:04:46.560 --> 00:04:49.000 and then come to see us. What and you guys deal with some luxury 73 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:53.839 stuff? Is there a level of prequalification in the state of Florida that in 74 00:04:53.920 --> 00:04:57.319 order to even see a house that you have to California is rough? Like 75 00:04:57.360 --> 00:05:00.399 California, you can't just like go to house because a lot of guys used 76 00:05:00.399 --> 00:05:04.519 to do that to meet hot realtor girls. Yea, and vice versa still 77 00:05:04.560 --> 00:05:10.639 happens. What are the rules in what other what other industries you have to 78 00:05:10.759 --> 00:05:13.959 besides like show business where you show your picture and you're on the internet and 79 00:05:14.079 --> 00:05:15.839 while I know, standing there next to a Lamborghini, you know they are 80 00:05:15.920 --> 00:05:20.160 and that's why you're all on bus bench just billboards. There is I mean 81 00:05:20.279 --> 00:05:26.199 half of Orange County real estate agents were actresses who auditioned for me back in 82 00:05:26.240 --> 00:05:29.079 the day, and they're like, oh, I can do this, but 83 00:05:29.160 --> 00:05:34.920 a lot of it is being somewhat friendly and charming to wealthy people. Yes, 84 00:05:35.160 --> 00:05:39.160 right, And there's a there's a line sometimes that can be misconstrued. 85 00:05:39.160 --> 00:05:42.279 When I first gotten the business, you know, you're you're hungry, you 86 00:05:42.319 --> 00:05:45.040 want business. You're not doing anything wrong, but sometimes that can be taken 87 00:05:45.040 --> 00:05:47.079 a different way. And I had to call the police into the restraining order. 88 00:05:47.160 --> 00:05:50.920 Oh really really, Yeah, it was not a fun situation. So 89 00:05:51.199 --> 00:05:55.560 you have to be very cognizant of what you're putting out there for your picture, 90 00:05:56.560 --> 00:06:00.279 everything, the way you dress, I mean, depending what kind of 91 00:06:00.319 --> 00:06:02.480 business you want. That's not the type of business we want, right, 92 00:06:02.519 --> 00:06:08.920 The type of business you want is wealthy, stable, happy. Second home 93 00:06:08.920 --> 00:06:12.040 buyers who don't think about it. People are less likely to think about a 94 00:06:12.079 --> 00:06:15.040 second home than a first home. Yeah, it's it's a want, not 95 00:06:15.160 --> 00:06:17.480 a need, correct, Right, They've already got a roof over their head, 96 00:06:17.480 --> 00:06:20.920 maybe even two, So this is one of a fun things. They're 97 00:06:20.959 --> 00:06:25.160 not necessarily asking about school districts, right, Like, hey, wow, 98 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:28.959 bok is awesome. The weather is amazing. Yeah, let's buy something here. 99 00:06:29.079 --> 00:06:31.600 Yeah, you know. More so they're asking about walking out my door, 100 00:06:31.639 --> 00:06:34.160 what's there? What can I get? Restaurants, bars, shops? 101 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:42.079 How much questions? Do you have to know your neighborhood environment? You know 102 00:06:42.680 --> 00:06:47.160 pretty much everything everything right for schools, Waterway schools isn't really our clientele for 103 00:06:47.199 --> 00:06:50.439 the most part. Um. You know, we second second homeowners. They 104 00:06:50.519 --> 00:06:55.079 own their primary usually in the Northeast, they come down here, or it's 105 00:06:55.079 --> 00:06:59.399 people from the west communities right that. Now they're empty nesters, so they're 106 00:06:59.399 --> 00:07:01.920 movie they didn't want to hear about schools. Oh, that's true. They 107 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:03.879 don't want to It's like a bit of a buzzkill. You don't want to 108 00:07:03.879 --> 00:07:05.920 mention that, you know. I was up in a meeting on a Palm 109 00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:09.759 Beach island a couple weeks ago, and this guy was complaining that he saw 110 00:07:09.759 --> 00:07:13.639 a school bus on the island. Horrified. He's like, once they're school 111 00:07:13.680 --> 00:07:16.879 buses, it becomes it's less of a vacation spot. It was really jarring 112 00:07:16.959 --> 00:07:21.040 to him. He's like, I came away to get away from that. 113 00:07:21.439 --> 00:07:29.959 Um. So if two people want to buy something together, do you care 114 00:07:30.240 --> 00:07:33.800 You're like who because it's more complicated legally, right it is, but we 115 00:07:33.839 --> 00:07:38.240 don't deal with illegal aspect. We deal with having them both fall in love 116 00:07:38.279 --> 00:07:42.839 with one property and then let their attorney do the rest. Equally, they 117 00:07:42.879 --> 00:07:45.560 have to fall in love. Well, someone always wins a little bit more 118 00:07:45.600 --> 00:07:48.120 than the other person, but equally they have to love it for the most 119 00:07:48.120 --> 00:07:51.079 part. Although I did have a sale once where they were moving from the 120 00:07:51.079 --> 00:07:58.759 northeast. The husband never saw the property right the wife picked it out and 121 00:07:58.800 --> 00:08:01.759 he only thought when they closed, wow, well I'd depend the block a 122 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:05.360 couple of times. Did you guys go through that during COVID when it was 123 00:08:05.399 --> 00:08:09.600 a lot of like sight unseen. I mean I heard stories about those people 124 00:08:09.720 --> 00:08:13.160 were just grabbing stuff. And one head Island who retired in New York and 125 00:08:13.160 --> 00:08:15.480 they're like, oh, we just wanted because we were like one of the 126 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:16.800 only states was really open, kind of in full swing, and we had 127 00:08:16.839 --> 00:08:20.399 great weather and you know. But the problem was a lot of people would 128 00:08:20.399 --> 00:08:22.600 come they'd just be like, oh, I put a contract on it and 129 00:08:22.639 --> 00:08:26.279 hold it. Then they come down here and they'd inspect it, and then 130 00:08:26.279 --> 00:08:28.920 they'd have like second thoughts and then cancel the contract. So anytime that was 131 00:08:28.920 --> 00:08:33.679 happening. We were kind of hesitant until they were really like on the ground 132 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:37.159 and started with their own eyes, because everybody was just oh, I'll take 133 00:08:37.200 --> 00:08:39.039 it, I'll take it. I need to grab it. So that's what 134 00:08:39.120 --> 00:08:43.000 inflated prices too. Um, this is not a place for a starter home 135 00:08:43.559 --> 00:08:46.480 South Florida, you know, I mean you've been. I think I think 136 00:08:46.480 --> 00:08:52.120 Florida's half the price of California still really maybe even less. Think Well, 137 00:08:52.240 --> 00:08:54.240 I said that comment to day because I just came from Arizona. We were 138 00:08:54.360 --> 00:09:00.320 I was at the studio Scottsdale, and I think, Uh, Florida's for 139 00:09:00.759 --> 00:09:05.519 high end stuff. Florida's half of California, and Scottsdale is half of Florida. 140 00:09:05.960 --> 00:09:11.360 So you can get an insane place that is two million in the valley 141 00:09:11.440 --> 00:09:16.360 in Phoenix would be four here, it will be eight in California. Wow, 142 00:09:16.559 --> 00:09:18.000 I would think if you think of like when we do our CBG minute, 143 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:24.759 mostly the big sales or California. Yeah, except for pombe Chiland. 144 00:09:24.279 --> 00:09:28.639 And that is because it's very limited amount of property and a certain amount of 145 00:09:28.679 --> 00:09:35.240 people like you cannot don't even call unless you have away from your maid figure. 146 00:09:35.360 --> 00:09:41.039 Yeah twenty right. I mean, but I'm smiling. I'm so proud 147 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:43.799 of you. Look at you. You are like our little real estate. 148 00:09:43.000 --> 00:09:46.919 Well I pay attention because I lived in California for a long long time and 149 00:09:48.720 --> 00:09:54.279 you cannot buy any house in Los Angeles County of any kind for undermillion dollars 150 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:58.759 right now. None like an absolute shack under and San Francisco is probably worse, 151 00:10:00.200 --> 00:10:05.080 like a shock under the freeway is a million dollars. And I'm like, 152 00:10:05.120 --> 00:10:07.879 if you have the million dollars to spend, is it worth it to 153 00:10:07.960 --> 00:10:11.440 live in California in Los Angeles to have that? And you know, people 154 00:10:11.480 --> 00:10:15.559 fighting over scraps of property in Santa Monica because the sand lack of schools are 155 00:10:15.679 --> 00:10:20.399 better than the rest of Los Angeles, and so young couples, young families, 156 00:10:20.440 --> 00:10:22.120 they have to make this decision, like you want to live in a 157 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:26.240 place where you want to live, but I mean, you might better off 158 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:31.960 go into um wherever that town is in Mississippi. On that HGTV shell what 159 00:10:31.960 --> 00:10:35.000 if that show called where they don't seem to be running out of houses to 160 00:10:35.039 --> 00:10:39.039 fix that? Yeah, we're the one they just fix the houses in the 161 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:41.840 little town in Mississippi, and I'm like, well, two hundred thousand goes 162 00:10:41.840 --> 00:10:45.559 a long way there. Yeah, well that's why we're getting so many people 163 00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:50.120 from California. It's a value. Like we say, every week we are 164 00:10:50.279 --> 00:10:54.360 in the past would have maybe one or two a year. Fifty percent of 165 00:10:54.399 --> 00:10:56.919 our calls are people from California. It's an exodus. It is, it 166 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:00.399 is. And yeah, that goes to show you, you know, if 167 00:11:00.399 --> 00:11:03.200 the pricing is so vastly different, it's a good value here. It's way 168 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:05.720 it is. It is a good value here. It's similar weather, it's 169 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:11.639 fine, but still the level of what a couple million bucks will get you 170 00:11:11.679 --> 00:11:16.360 in Florida versus California is insane. But we're also in an area where it's 171 00:11:16.399 --> 00:11:18.639 it's there's a lot of geography here, like a lot of little towns on 172 00:11:18.759 --> 00:11:22.879 a little city. So it might not be the price point you can afford 173 00:11:22.919 --> 00:11:24.399 in Boca Raton, But then you can go down to Fort Lauderdale, or 174 00:11:24.399 --> 00:11:28.879 you can go up to you know wherever else within a let's say fifty miles, 175 00:11:30.000 --> 00:11:31.600 you have a lot of options. I know, well, it's an 176 00:11:31.639 --> 00:11:33.519 interesting exercise if you go on and I know, all the real estate people 177 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:35.720 are going to tell me not to trust Zillo, but say you want to 178 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:39.360 do your Zillo porn late at night. But people do. And you go 179 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:43.960 to California and you do anything within say, fifty miles off the coast, 180 00:11:45.240 --> 00:11:50.240 and you just put in show me everything under UM seven hundred fifty thousand. 181 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:54.519 Within fifty it's just nothing. It's zero, like nothing comes up refresh. 182 00:11:54.759 --> 00:11:58.039 Yeah, it's a zero, like there's nothing of any kind. So a 183 00:11:58.039 --> 00:12:01.120 lot of young people when they when they you know, every year we put 184 00:12:01.120 --> 00:12:05.919 out our list of the best and worst dating cities and all that kind of 185 00:12:05.200 --> 00:12:09.039 stuff. Los Angeles is never high on the list. But certain people have 186 00:12:09.120 --> 00:12:13.799 to look at that, what can I afford? What is the dating pool? 187 00:12:13.879 --> 00:12:16.279 Like how much does that turn over? If you're not looking to date 188 00:12:16.320 --> 00:12:20.080 actors and actresses? That the pool's churning over in Los Angeles. Not that 189 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:26.159 many people can move there or San Francisco. There's just certain cities and certain 190 00:12:26.200 --> 00:12:30.039 markets where you are shut out of if you're twenty six years old and you 191 00:12:30.039 --> 00:12:31.919 don't want to have three roommates anymore. Yeah, you know, where are 192 00:12:31.919 --> 00:12:35.960 those people going? They're going to They used to go to Nashville. Interesting 193 00:12:37.039 --> 00:12:41.519 and now Nashville's crazy. You know, when I was in my um, 194 00:12:41.639 --> 00:12:46.039 when I was Ariana's age in New York City, it was very normal. 195 00:12:46.480 --> 00:12:50.000 I didn't because at the time I lived with my girlfriend, which saved money. 196 00:12:50.360 --> 00:12:54.440 People had four people in a one and a half bedroom and they put 197 00:12:54.519 --> 00:12:56.399 up some wall and they just had to make it, you know, and 198 00:12:56.440 --> 00:12:58.960 you just kind of like, we're gonna go out anyway, and we crashed 199 00:13:00.159 --> 00:13:01.639 out to find and people just a lot of young people don't want to do 200 00:13:01.679 --> 00:13:03.600 that anymore. A lot of people, young people don't want to take on 201 00:13:03.639 --> 00:13:07.120 three roommates. I want my space, I want my quiet, I want 202 00:13:07.039 --> 00:13:11.759 whatever. But now people look at where are the affordable places where I can 203 00:13:11.440 --> 00:13:16.559 have fun, date have a nice place. The pool is getting smaller on 204 00:13:16.639 --> 00:13:20.799 places like that because although we heard there was this great exodus from all of 205 00:13:20.799 --> 00:13:24.240 the cities, the cities have not necessarily gotten cheaper. You know, when 206 00:13:24.240 --> 00:13:28.879 everybody bailed out in New York and all the reds plummeted, They're higher now 207 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:33.080 than they ever were. So you can go to certain places like Charlotte that 208 00:13:33.159 --> 00:13:37.159 has a little bit of sprawl to it, so there was a little bit 209 00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:41.480 of room. Places like Greenville, South Carolina, Like there's little pockets of 210 00:13:41.080 --> 00:13:48.080 young, fun, dynamic that you can probably still buy something and establish roots, 211 00:13:48.080 --> 00:13:50.720 because it is really hard to date if you are not committed to a 212 00:13:50.840 --> 00:13:54.399 community, if you're like, I'm not sure how long I'm going to be 213 00:13:54.519 --> 00:13:56.200 here, which is always a challenge. In New York, a lot of 214 00:13:56.200 --> 00:13:58.799 people are like, or Los Angeles, how much longer I'm want to stay 215 00:13:58.840 --> 00:14:03.080 here? You're a lot less likely to pursue something that you're going to look 216 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:05.360 to get out of or you're gonna learn that to do that. You know, 217 00:14:05.440 --> 00:14:09.080 Atlanta went through that for a while. Now Atlanta it's pretty good, 218 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:11.159 But if there's a wild people were like in Atlanta on their way to Tampa. 219 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:13.759 You know, they were like in Atlanta for a while. And if 220 00:14:13.759 --> 00:14:18.639 you're not committed to your city because either you think you can't afford to marry 221 00:14:18.679 --> 00:14:22.879 and grow a family there, then you're looking to date to find somebody who 222 00:14:22.919 --> 00:14:26.279 also willing to leave. That's a that's tough bulls iut to hit. Yeah, 223 00:14:26.320 --> 00:14:28.240 Well, what about a city like Miami where I think that when I 224 00:14:28.279 --> 00:14:31.919 lived there, I think the average shelf life was four to seven years. 225 00:14:33.440 --> 00:14:37.440 So who's committed. Well, Miami, so it's a very different dating scene. 226 00:14:37.279 --> 00:14:39.759 Do people date in Miami or they just they go out or they go 227 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:46.799 home. So that's a thing. You're diving into this pool of nightlife confest 228 00:14:48.000 --> 00:14:50.200 seven o'clock in the morning and all. It's just wild. But at some 229 00:14:50.320 --> 00:14:54.720 point somebody's going to be like, I just want to go out to dinner, 230 00:14:54.320 --> 00:14:58.799 and then that's expensive in Miami even going out when not to age you 231 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:03.559 too much, but you probably went out in the days before in a place 232 00:15:03.600 --> 00:15:07.639 like Miami pre bottle service. Oh no, you only went out during bottle 233 00:15:07.679 --> 00:15:11.039 service, so you could go out and you would buy drinks and give an 234 00:15:11.080 --> 00:15:15.360 expensive night was a couple hundred bucks. Yeah, sure if you are not 235 00:15:15.440 --> 00:15:18.600 all in with six bottles of great Goose and the private thing like you're just 236 00:15:18.080 --> 00:15:22.320 shut out. Yeah, there is no you got no game, you have 237 00:15:22.480 --> 00:15:24.519 nothing. And certain cities, right, I know, it's so scary, 238 00:15:24.519 --> 00:15:30.279 the amount of myself I would we'd always have to bring some less attractive rich 239 00:15:30.360 --> 00:15:31.840 guy who's like, your job is to pay and you can come in and 240 00:15:31.840 --> 00:15:35.240 we'll have the girls and you could be in our thing and that's sorry, 241 00:15:35.240 --> 00:15:37.360 that's your role. But you can come along with us, or you're smuggling 242 00:15:37.440 --> 00:15:41.600 in like you said, you're smuggling planet. Yeah, I mean there was 243 00:15:41.639 --> 00:15:46.440 always some much guy to do that. So you're making uh, you know, 244 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:50.559 decisions to go to a certain city that you hear are so so fun. 245 00:15:50.600 --> 00:15:52.600 So like Austin, Texas. I was going to ask you about that's 246 00:15:52.639 --> 00:15:58.159 one that is still reasonably affordable, has fun, but it's almost too fun 247 00:15:58.200 --> 00:16:02.840 because nobody wants to get off the ride and be in a relationship because it's 248 00:16:02.840 --> 00:16:04.120 like, I don't no, I'm going to miss out on all of this, 249 00:16:04.559 --> 00:16:07.879 which also makes it a challenge. And then you wake up in your 250 00:16:07.960 --> 00:16:11.000 thirty four, which is nothing wrong with thirty four, but you just did 251 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:14.639 ten years of late nights and you're like, oh shit, and I'm still 252 00:16:14.639 --> 00:16:19.960 in Austin. You know. So there's certain places DC has some affordability if 253 00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:25.440 you move outside slightly outside of the Beltway, like past like Arlington, maybe 254 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:29.440 like a little bit down. There's some Falls Church, Virginia. There's places 255 00:16:29.480 --> 00:16:33.240 that are still affordable at twenty six that if you decide you want to stay 256 00:16:33.240 --> 00:16:37.960 in a community, you can probably buy a house. I'm not sure Miami, 257 00:16:37.080 --> 00:16:41.080 is that No, definitely not I mean talk about having roommates. I 258 00:16:41.120 --> 00:16:45.320 mean hospitality is one of the biggest industries there. So you have two to 259 00:16:45.399 --> 00:16:49.399 three people living in the conduct or a rental. But there's nothing wrong with 260 00:16:49.440 --> 00:16:52.879 that, like some of the most fun times of your life when you look 261 00:16:52.919 --> 00:16:57.279 back, like I wish people nowadays would put their nose about it because it 262 00:16:57.320 --> 00:17:00.759 is fun. You think it was fun? Oh my god, did he 263 00:17:00.799 --> 00:17:06.599 bring her home? Go home? Like? There was some there was some 264 00:17:06.720 --> 00:17:08.200 element to that that I think people are like, I need my space or 265 00:17:08.480 --> 00:17:12.480 Arianna, are you on the mic yet? Yes? Do people still do 266 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:15.839 that? Do you have roommates and tied ribbon on the door or something if 267 00:17:15.880 --> 00:17:19.799 you're with a boy. No, you're just like it's just like a universal 268 00:17:19.839 --> 00:17:26.519 code you have to knock before. Oh so polite. Oh that's so polite. 269 00:17:26.400 --> 00:17:30.000 Roommate who if he knew I was home with a girl, he would 270 00:17:30.119 --> 00:17:34.039 intentionally walk in naked and be like, hey, is there any mustard? 271 00:17:34.519 --> 00:17:37.559 He would just walk in like is there any mustard? And he would come 272 00:17:37.640 --> 00:17:41.599 up with some stupid question just to freak her out. That's like it was 273 00:17:41.720 --> 00:17:44.960 terrible or whatever. How devoted are you too, Brian? Let's find out 274 00:17:45.119 --> 00:17:47.400 right, exactly are you willing to put up with me? And that's why 275 00:17:47.519 --> 00:17:48.799 like, oh my god, my twenties. Um, all right, I'm 276 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:52.640 here with Scott Rochelle. We are diving into where you should live and why 277 00:17:52.680 --> 00:17:56.200 you should think about things before you either commit to a city or think about 278 00:17:56.240 --> 00:17:59.960 moving there. We have to take a quick break so we can pay for 279 00:18:00.160 --> 00:18:03.960 some of these Palm Beach County houses. And we moved back right after this, 280 00:18:07.680 --> 00:18:11.799 and we are back. You lived where in your twenties, Not that 281 00:18:11.839 --> 00:18:15.960 you're not in your twenties, but I'm going to assume Palm Springs, California 282 00:18:15.279 --> 00:18:18.720 really talk about no dating scene? I mean it was very different. It 283 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:23.359 was old and gay very much. I could not get in trouble in the 284 00:18:25.519 --> 00:18:27.559 How does a nice girl from Minnesota wherever you're from, end up there? 285 00:18:29.640 --> 00:18:33.240 I was in television, so my job took me there to Palm Springs, 286 00:18:33.279 --> 00:18:37.279 to Palm Springs k M I R. I was the producer for late night 287 00:18:37.279 --> 00:18:41.079 news there. That cuts into the dating pool to scene too, right. 288 00:18:41.160 --> 00:18:44.319 You got to work, yeah, I mean I had to the late night 289 00:18:44.359 --> 00:18:47.279 news, so you would have to come in probably one thirty. You do 290 00:18:47.400 --> 00:18:49.319 the I can't remember if it was ten or eleven o'clock news. Now from 291 00:18:49.359 --> 00:18:53.359 Palm Springs do you go to because people from LA go to Palm Springs and 292 00:18:53.400 --> 00:18:56.160 people from LA go to Vegas. Where do people from Palm Springs go? 293 00:18:56.440 --> 00:19:00.839 I went nowhere. I was twenty, I was poor, but Paul Sprains 294 00:19:00.920 --> 00:19:06.240 is another place where there was money. So you see even then seasonal, 295 00:19:06.559 --> 00:19:10.119 it's seasonal. You see like, I want that. I want to be 296 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:12.400 a part of this. This looks so fun. There's a lot of society 297 00:19:12.480 --> 00:19:15.640 events just like down here, and you want to be invited to them. 298 00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:19.480 But that's an outfit, that's a that's shoes, that is that is it's 299 00:19:19.599 --> 00:19:23.279 hard. But it was for a girl like from Minnesota like me. You'd 300 00:19:23.279 --> 00:19:26.160 go and you'd be at restaurants and you'd see these celebrities. I mean it 301 00:19:26.200 --> 00:19:30.319 was such a different lifestyle. Yeah, I mean something that you would never 302 00:19:30.359 --> 00:19:33.519 think of when you're growing up in Saint Cloud, Minnesota. So it was 303 00:19:33.759 --> 00:19:36.559 it was fun. Had you been to California as a kid, No, 304 00:19:37.079 --> 00:19:41.000 so you just sight unseeing, went to California, I mean sunshine and you 305 00:19:41.039 --> 00:19:45.640 saw cactus and cactus. Yeah, like that's amazing. And I remember the 306 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:49.240 news station. We talked about how it can be for months one hundred and 307 00:19:49.319 --> 00:19:53.359 twenty degrees, and they would yell at the weather man, don't say it's 308 00:19:53.359 --> 00:19:56.640 hot. The tourism board would call, yeah, what is the word? 309 00:19:56.640 --> 00:20:00.359 They want? Hello, it's hot season like, so every week we get 310 00:20:00.359 --> 00:20:03.599 a call from them. Please don't say that hot's a negative. And where 311 00:20:03.640 --> 00:20:07.759 were you in your swinging twenties New York City? Yeah, yeah, I 312 00:20:07.799 --> 00:20:12.119 was opening restaurants. I was running bars. So I mean that is very 313 00:20:12.119 --> 00:20:17.279 conducive to dating, it is. But then you know people who go to 314 00:20:17.359 --> 00:20:22.680 like NYU, there's no like two dollars beer dive bars in New York City 315 00:20:22.759 --> 00:20:26.480 that you can go to like you can in some universities, Like it's hard 316 00:20:26.519 --> 00:20:30.839 to you know, it's two keg. Yeah, in New York City. 317 00:20:30.880 --> 00:20:34.119 But you'd still have those, you know, those local bars, the Irish 318 00:20:34.119 --> 00:20:37.200 bars, you know, where beers were pretty inexpensive. And it wasn't like, 319 00:20:37.200 --> 00:20:40.680 hey, we're shutting this down and turning into a club at nine o'clock, 320 00:20:40.680 --> 00:20:41.319 you know, so if you wanted to go to a club, you 321 00:20:41.319 --> 00:20:45.279 go to a club at one o'clock. But yeah, every every corner, 322 00:20:45.279 --> 00:20:48.480 every street had its own like sports bar, irish bar or whatever. If 323 00:20:48.519 --> 00:20:52.000 you if you're just New York City, and I get why people want to 324 00:20:52.000 --> 00:20:56.720 move there from all over the place, especially people who can come from a 325 00:20:56.759 --> 00:20:59.640 place like Los Angeles. They they see New York they see the New York 326 00:20:59.720 --> 00:21:02.319 City on television and they're like, I want to be a part of that. 327 00:21:02.599 --> 00:21:06.920 And when you are in it, it is awesome in your twenties, 328 00:21:06.960 --> 00:21:08.680 Oh yeah, it is awesome. But you do know, if you are 329 00:21:08.720 --> 00:21:12.599 ever going to get into relationship, you're gonna you're gonna want to go to 330 00:21:12.680 --> 00:21:15.920 Larchmont. You're gonna gonna want to hoist your bay. You're gonna want like 331 00:21:17.200 --> 00:21:19.880 very few people like meet in New York City and fifteen years later they're raising 332 00:21:19.880 --> 00:21:23.279 their family there. Yeah, and that's a cost because you're not getting a 333 00:21:23.400 --> 00:21:26.440 yard. It's very true. You know, the school, it's expensive, 334 00:21:26.480 --> 00:21:30.079 you want to go to private school whatever. So you you hope to find 335 00:21:30.079 --> 00:21:32.799 somebody in New York City to leave New York City. Yeah, yeah, 336 00:21:33.119 --> 00:21:34.279 like a lot of a lot of financial people, you know, they'd go 337 00:21:34.319 --> 00:21:37.400 to the out of borrows, take the train in. You know, have 338 00:21:37.480 --> 00:21:40.480 that say, Hey, I grew up in Westchester County, so I mean, 339 00:21:40.519 --> 00:21:42.440 I get it. All the dad's got on the trains and they read 340 00:21:42.440 --> 00:21:45.319 their newspapers, read the newspaper, and they there's a bar car on the 341 00:21:45.359 --> 00:21:48.960 train and they commute and whoever. But New York City where it was just 342 00:21:49.039 --> 00:21:55.559 like the night would go on and you'd be in some dive bar at four 343 00:21:55.599 --> 00:21:59.079 o'clock in the morning with some jukebox and whatever, and it was it was 344 00:21:59.119 --> 00:22:02.319 the best. It was best. I always made the joke that this is 345 00:22:02.359 --> 00:22:07.480 pre uber that your your goal going out in New York City as a guy, 346 00:22:07.599 --> 00:22:11.480 at least, was to not hear the words two stops please when you've 347 00:22:11.480 --> 00:22:15.319 got in a cab at the end of the day. Because she said two 348 00:22:15.319 --> 00:22:21.880 stops please, that minute was over. So you just try and just be 349 00:22:21.960 --> 00:22:25.079 like, give your address, and that was it. I have a good 350 00:22:25.079 --> 00:22:26.160 one when you're trying to get a cab and you tell them you got to 351 00:22:26.200 --> 00:22:29.880 go to the Queens of Brooklyn in the cab because that's where she lives, 352 00:22:30.039 --> 00:22:32.400 and the cab drivers like, no, no, I'm not going there because 353 00:22:32.440 --> 00:22:34.160 they can't get a fair back. And then now you're stuck in the corner 354 00:22:34.200 --> 00:22:37.319 trying to get a cab to Brooklyn. Again, and that is a thing 355 00:22:37.359 --> 00:22:41.119 like geographically you're only talking maybe three miles away. It might as well have 356 00:22:41.119 --> 00:22:44.759 been another another world. That's why the people who live in Jersey the young 357 00:22:44.759 --> 00:22:47.880 people living in Jersey City and Hoboken, they have the best of both worlds. 358 00:22:48.279 --> 00:22:52.599 They have they it's a little more affordable. They have all the nightlife 359 00:22:52.599 --> 00:22:53.640 they want. But if they really want to go into the deep end of 360 00:22:53.640 --> 00:22:57.240 the pool and go New York City, you're train ride away and do all 361 00:22:57.240 --> 00:23:00.079 that kind of stuff. You know, So at heart, are you in 362 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:06.559 New York or California? That's a good question. So I I always said, 363 00:23:06.599 --> 00:23:10.039 if somebody asked me in Los Angeles and I was in Los Angeles, 364 00:23:10.079 --> 00:23:14.759 I don't know, seventeen years something like that, say say where are you 365 00:23:14.839 --> 00:23:17.359 from? And I go, I'm from New York by live in La Now. 366 00:23:17.599 --> 00:23:18.400 It was just one sentence, I'm from New York by I live in 367 00:23:18.599 --> 00:23:22.799 La Now. And then one year, one time, you know, five 368 00:23:22.880 --> 00:23:26.240 or six years ago, I was in some store on Melrose and the girl 369 00:23:26.400 --> 00:23:29.599 was like, so where are you from? And I'm like here, I'm 370 00:23:29.599 --> 00:23:33.240 from here, and I like it was like a brain thing happened in my 371 00:23:33.279 --> 00:23:36.920 head I'm like, am I from here? I'm from Los Angeles. And 372 00:23:36.960 --> 00:23:38.920 it was really disturbing to me that I felt like, Okay, I here's 373 00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:42.880 my New York card. I'm a three one. Oh I'm not in two 374 00:23:42.920 --> 00:23:45.640 one, two nine one seven. Like I gave it up. And I 375 00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:47.920 really felt at that point like I never said it out loud. It I 376 00:23:47.920 --> 00:23:51.799 always said the same way. But I being back in Florida a lot, 377 00:23:52.440 --> 00:23:53.640 it's like riding a bike. You are back in the New York. There's 378 00:23:53.720 --> 00:23:57.319 everybody here is from New York. I now feel like I'm from New York 379 00:23:57.359 --> 00:24:02.519 again, especially bocas sometimes like a restaurant on a Saturday night. Yeah. 380 00:24:02.519 --> 00:24:06.559 Well, I've been showing properties and somebody's from Long Island and they meet like 381 00:24:06.559 --> 00:24:08.480 three people from their neighborhood and none of them know that they're down here. 382 00:24:08.680 --> 00:24:11.640 They're kind of like quietly creeping, you know, away from their Long Island 383 00:24:11.720 --> 00:24:15.519 north Shore home. Yeah, we have to be very quiet about like who's 384 00:24:15.599 --> 00:24:19.079 here, not mentioning names. I was a in a taxi in um I 385 00:24:19.079 --> 00:24:23.279 think I was in Bangkok and the cab driver very broken English, He's like, 386 00:24:23.279 --> 00:24:26.680 wait, where are you from? Was that was that bad? Was 387 00:24:26.680 --> 00:24:29.319 that racist. Can I do that? That was a real good impression. 388 00:24:29.359 --> 00:24:30.480 You're okay, you're talking about the man that you met. Yeah, I 389 00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:34.400 know he's he and he's and I go, um, Los Angeles, and 390 00:24:34.400 --> 00:24:37.920 he goes, oh, Tom Hanks, and I'm like, yeah, okay, 391 00:24:37.960 --> 00:24:40.079 Tom Hanks, and I go but I'm originally from New York. And 392 00:24:40.119 --> 00:24:42.480 he goes, oh, Hillary Clinton, and I go Hillary Clinton as a 393 00:24:42.480 --> 00:24:45.839 New York cro I was so offended, like that's that's whose associated with New 394 00:24:45.880 --> 00:24:49.680 York, Like Hillary Clinton from New York. And I was like so mad. 395 00:24:49.720 --> 00:24:53.119 And then my like new York New York pride um jump back in, 396 00:24:53.720 --> 00:24:59.240 um do do people? Again, this is the legal side of it. 397 00:24:59.240 --> 00:25:03.799 You probably don't get involved in it. Most wealthy people buy things through a 398 00:25:03.839 --> 00:25:07.960 company or a trust or people are just writing checks. Well, you know, 399 00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:11.519 the funny thing is now that the laws have changed for you know, 400 00:25:11.519 --> 00:25:15.680 how you have to disclose your funds and how you paid for something. Plus 401 00:25:15.799 --> 00:25:18.480 with taxation, a lot of people they're moving here are trying to, like 402 00:25:18.519 --> 00:25:22.920 coming from California in New York, trying to avoid those high state costs of 403 00:25:22.039 --> 00:25:26.880 taxes, so they have to it has to be in their name here now. 404 00:25:26.119 --> 00:25:30.839 So before it could be in Brian Howe LLC. It didn't matter where 405 00:25:30.880 --> 00:25:33.160 the money was coming from. Now, you know, to qualify for those 406 00:25:33.160 --> 00:25:36.759 tax savings, you have to say, Brian Howe, is the live one 407 00:25:36.799 --> 00:25:38.759 hundred and eighty eight days or whatever it is. And a lot of it 408 00:25:38.960 --> 00:25:41.519 is like to death, they really will. That's time with Trump, right, 409 00:25:41.599 --> 00:25:47.160 Like Trump stayed here a long enough time that he wanted to be resident. 410 00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:51.960 They're like, you can't live at Marilago according to laws of hotel land, 411 00:25:52.119 --> 00:25:53.799 right, And they're like, you cannot live here, And he didn't 412 00:25:53.799 --> 00:25:56.319 care. He's just like, I'm here and I don't want to pay the 413 00:25:56.400 --> 00:26:03.240 taxes. Yeah, and whatever. M the somebody comes in to you and 414 00:26:03.279 --> 00:26:08.799 they want to buy a piece of property, how do you ask the question? 415 00:26:10.599 --> 00:26:12.599 Do you say, what's your budget? Is that the word? I 416 00:26:12.599 --> 00:26:17.200 mean, it's the word that you would use when you're getting into eight figure 417 00:26:17.279 --> 00:26:22.079 properties. Well, you start showing them properties and they'll kind of tell you. 418 00:26:22.200 --> 00:26:25.599 I mean, we try not to ask that question. But you have 419 00:26:25.680 --> 00:26:26.720 to know what kind of time you're wasting. And you have to know, 420 00:26:26.880 --> 00:26:34.880 like, because the variety here is one and a half million to six yeah, 421 00:26:36.079 --> 00:26:38.480 right, how do you narrow that that's a lot different from two hundred 422 00:26:38.480 --> 00:26:44.160 to two fifty thousand. This is true, but you can you can like 423 00:26:44.359 --> 00:26:47.480 we've had it where you can show someone a four million dollar property. That's 424 00:26:47.480 --> 00:26:48.720 great, but that's not my budget. Or where are you comfortable at? 425 00:26:49.240 --> 00:26:52.440 That's a good one. Where are you comfortable at? You comfortable? Where 426 00:26:52.440 --> 00:26:55.240 would you like to comfortably land? Where's your comfort zone? Yeah? Or 427 00:26:55.319 --> 00:26:59.240 do you try and be like which part of the you assume they know going 428 00:26:59.279 --> 00:27:02.319 in? Like what zip code are you interested in? Are you can't assume 429 00:27:02.319 --> 00:27:07.640 anything? They don't. People come here and we say people landing, show 430 00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:11.440 me everything? How many? How many men are doing that to impress a 431 00:27:11.480 --> 00:27:14.519 girl there with? Can you tell that? Does that happen where it's like, 432 00:27:14.559 --> 00:27:17.079 let's go look at houses? I just met this girl? But well, 433 00:27:17.119 --> 00:27:19.000 you know, we get different things. There's not so much men trying 434 00:27:19.039 --> 00:27:23.400 to impress females. But you get people that for someone that reason, want 435 00:27:23.400 --> 00:27:26.920 to pretend like they're buying a house or a property. They'll come up with 436 00:27:27.079 --> 00:27:32.200 fake proof of funds, they'll run you all over town. They'll submit offers 437 00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:34.119 that aren't real. I mean, that's a real offer, but why would 438 00:27:34.119 --> 00:27:37.799 they do that. We don't know, thank you, We don't a million 439 00:27:37.799 --> 00:27:41.200 dollar questions that old Glenara Glenn Ross line, like they just like talking to 440 00:27:41.240 --> 00:27:45.319 salesman something. But they it's almost like a lot of work on their end. 441 00:27:45.480 --> 00:27:48.640 Yes, it is. It's a huge. It has to some little 442 00:27:48.680 --> 00:27:52.440 thing that they really enjoy. Because there's one person that we know of that 443 00:27:52.480 --> 00:27:56.480 it's been doing it for years, years and they keep circling. I mean, 444 00:27:56.880 --> 00:28:06.119 we won't deal with them anymore. But are they is it manifesting? 445 00:28:03.119 --> 00:28:11.240 No, can't just give a pass on that, Like thanks for asking Leather, 446 00:28:11.400 --> 00:28:15.440 make it become real, right, Like I just I can see myself 447 00:28:15.480 --> 00:28:19.440 in my dream home. No, No, I mean there's at least four 448 00:28:19.519 --> 00:28:22.640 that I know of. You know that he's come around and oh yeah, 449 00:28:23.279 --> 00:28:26.000 the money will be there. I'm gonna get the deposit in and you know 450 00:28:26.039 --> 00:28:30.599 it just you kind of just shrug your shoulders and go, oh it's you 451 00:28:30.680 --> 00:28:34.079 had that one in Miami where the guy tapped up. Yes, I did. 452 00:28:34.319 --> 00:28:37.039 One of the first properties I had in Miami that I was listing, 453 00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:41.279 and you know it was a woman that you know, we both know and 454 00:28:41.319 --> 00:28:42.960 everything, and you know she's showing her client. He's like, oh, 455 00:28:44.000 --> 00:28:45.160 look at the views. It wouldn't this be amazing? You wake up and 456 00:28:45.200 --> 00:28:49.680 everything, and they go into the next room and he just grabs a handful 457 00:28:49.720 --> 00:28:53.319 of butt and then Lix looks over her shoulder at me like walks in the 458 00:28:53.319 --> 00:28:56.880 door like with his hand. And he was much much older than her, 459 00:28:56.000 --> 00:28:59.319 and they didn't give me any sign that they were a couple or anything, 460 00:28:59.359 --> 00:29:02.240 and he just like looks at me. It's like, yeah, Oh, 461 00:29:02.319 --> 00:29:04.480 that's how I'm spending my afternoon. How are you doing your Scott ask for 462 00:29:04.480 --> 00:29:08.079 forgiveness and non permission? Suppose? I guess sometimes people what are not? 463 00:29:08.279 --> 00:29:11.839 We are in the love dating relationship business, and sometimes love dating relationships go 464 00:29:11.920 --> 00:29:15.720 bad. What are the divorce? California's a common law state? What is 465 00:29:17.200 --> 00:29:21.400 Florida? Wouldn't you know? I know you haven't, thankfully, But because 466 00:29:21.480 --> 00:29:26.319 that matters in basically what it is a lot of Again, I'm gonna get 467 00:29:26.319 --> 00:29:30.079 in trouble from the women. A lot of women marry a wealthy man who 468 00:29:30.240 --> 00:29:36.519 is retired and the amount of money she's entitled to sort of is what he 469 00:29:36.680 --> 00:29:40.000 has, anything he gains from the time you married him, and his net 470 00:29:40.039 --> 00:29:44.319 worth might go down during the course of your probably so it's not like just 471 00:29:44.359 --> 00:29:45.960 like marry a rich guy and you get half, you get half of anything 472 00:29:45.960 --> 00:29:51.559 he earns after that. Not all states are like that. So kavitaemptur on 473 00:29:51.599 --> 00:29:53.440 you tuggar daddy chasers. But wait a minute, even with a prenup that 474 00:29:53.599 --> 00:29:59.200 states something differently does get you more than I mean, you write a prenup, 475 00:29:59.200 --> 00:30:00.400 it is what it is. But if you marry a guy who's got 476 00:30:00.680 --> 00:30:04.240 thirty million on the day you met him and he does not earn another time 477 00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:10.880 during that time that you were married together, it's what you earned together while 478 00:30:10.920 --> 00:30:14.039 you were together. Wow. Yeah, I know. So that's a factor. 479 00:30:14.079 --> 00:30:15.960 People are like, oh my god, if she married this guy's rich, 480 00:30:15.000 --> 00:30:19.319 but like if it doesn't go well yeah. And then some states are 481 00:30:19.359 --> 00:30:25.319 the other end of the spectrum, um like Texas, like you can you 482 00:30:25.359 --> 00:30:30.640 have no rights, like if he or she not to stereotype does just decide 483 00:30:30.720 --> 00:30:33.240 you don't get anything, you don't get anything, you know, And so 484 00:30:33.519 --> 00:30:41.559 young daters think about that, like people from Texas, So come here right, 485 00:30:41.640 --> 00:30:47.079 So you're you're trying to you know, it is it is the second 486 00:30:47.160 --> 00:30:49.160 biggest decision I think you ever make in your life is buying a home other 487 00:30:49.200 --> 00:30:52.759 than the person you are going to hopefully live in this home with. I 488 00:30:52.759 --> 00:30:57.400 think number one is probably marriage proposal Number two is what you're going to do 489 00:30:57.480 --> 00:31:00.759 together. And that can even be earlier relation when you're like, we're going 490 00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:03.920 to move in together. Either there's two ways that young people, this is 491 00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:08.119 for you ariana move in together. Either moving together to save money or they 492 00:31:08.200 --> 00:31:11.720 moving together to push the relationship to a new place. Right, let's see 493 00:31:11.759 --> 00:31:15.200 how this goes. I mean you've heard that with a baby, right, 494 00:31:15.200 --> 00:31:17.519 Hey, let's we're gonna have a baby and you know, and that's going 495 00:31:17.559 --> 00:31:19.359 to save the relationship. Right, They're like, we're not working at his 496 00:31:19.400 --> 00:31:22.039 husband and wife. Let's let's try and try the least first, do the 497 00:31:22.119 --> 00:31:25.160 least and see how that goes. Yeah, maybe we'll have a lot of 498 00:31:25.160 --> 00:31:26.359 people like, well, let's have a baby and see if it makes it 499 00:31:26.519 --> 00:31:30.400 closer together. I'm like, no, then you're had no sleep and stress. 500 00:31:30.519 --> 00:31:32.680 I mean a house, you're tethered to somebody for a little while, 501 00:31:33.279 --> 00:31:34.799 you're tethered with him for fifty years. Oh my god. Yeah, people 502 00:31:34.799 --> 00:31:38.240 don't think about it think about it that way. That's on an apartment in 503 00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:41.240 your twenties and that's a good trial or however you want to do it, 504 00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:45.720 do it. But when you're looking to buy something together, you have to 505 00:31:45.720 --> 00:31:49.799 look at both. If it works out, yeah, is it an investment 506 00:31:49.839 --> 00:31:52.160 for both of you? Is it a place that you're going to plan on 507 00:31:52.200 --> 00:31:56.160 living for twenty years? And what happens if it doesn't work out? And 508 00:31:56.599 --> 00:32:00.440 there's a lot of thought to go in that, And it's such a net 509 00:32:00.640 --> 00:32:06.119 should be such a happy, positive, dream filled time. It thanks to 510 00:32:06.119 --> 00:32:08.519 even go to that place in your mind, like what if it doesn't. 511 00:32:08.599 --> 00:32:12.400 But I think people have to think about this stuff rightly. I would say, 512 00:32:12.400 --> 00:32:15.559 if you are not married and buying a property, you would want to 513 00:32:15.599 --> 00:32:20.519 put it in some type of title that all that work has been done behind 514 00:32:20.519 --> 00:32:22.920 the scenes, because yeah, things go south. I mean, you hear 515 00:32:22.960 --> 00:32:27.000 stories of people that have dated for five years, they get married and move 516 00:32:27.039 --> 00:32:30.440 in and it's over in a month. Yeah, they didn't know about the 517 00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:32.920 sock drawer and they didn't know about stuff like that. But then you see 518 00:32:32.960 --> 00:32:38.200 people like I was always fascinated by not even the example I brought up earlier, 519 00:32:38.200 --> 00:32:44.279 like Aaron Rodgers and Danny Kapatrick or whatever. But super wealthy married people 520 00:32:44.440 --> 00:32:49.599 Ben Affleck and j Low they are together, they are a couple and they 521 00:32:49.640 --> 00:32:52.720 just bought a house. How does that work? You got this one? 522 00:32:52.920 --> 00:32:55.319 I got this one? Are they invest do they just have it to invest? 523 00:32:55.519 --> 00:32:58.440 Like? How does that? Who gets? Like? How does that 524 00:32:58.480 --> 00:33:00.599 conversation go? I would imagine there's like a lot of billable hours for like 525 00:33:00.640 --> 00:33:04.799 the attorneys and the academists. At some point, okay, let's get around 526 00:33:04.839 --> 00:33:07.240 dinner. They have to talk about like he's got two hundred million, she's 527 00:33:07.240 --> 00:33:10.039 got two hundred million. They want to buy an eight million dollar house in 528 00:33:10.079 --> 00:33:14.680 Aspen. It's pocket change to both of them, but it's got to be 529 00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:20.240 somebody's pocket. Yeah, yeah, I know. I like that. Though 530 00:33:20.279 --> 00:33:22.519 you get this one, I would get the next. I mean, I 531 00:33:22.559 --> 00:33:25.240 wonder what that's like for the dam I wonder if it's just Okay, some 532 00:33:25.319 --> 00:33:28.799 lawyers after they sit down there like, go ahead and we'll set up a 533 00:33:28.839 --> 00:33:31.039 real estate fund and you guys put it into it equally, you know, 534 00:33:31.599 --> 00:33:36.480 Gazelle and Tom Brady. Um. Somebody was like, oh, it's amazing 535 00:33:36.519 --> 00:33:42.319 how quickly they got divorced and unraveled or whatever. They probably had teams working 536 00:33:42.359 --> 00:33:47.799 through this reverse engineering. There you have businesses together, I assume properties together, 537 00:33:49.039 --> 00:33:52.240 investments together. You know, I don't know a lot of stuff. 538 00:33:52.680 --> 00:33:55.400 It's like, you know, when some CEOs go out to lunch, it's 539 00:33:55.440 --> 00:33:59.359 like, how's that bill happen? Like what happens when the check comes in? 540 00:33:59.400 --> 00:34:00.359 The real estate might be the easiest thing of it, all right, 541 00:34:00.440 --> 00:34:02.799 just split it down the middle and sell it, you know, But that's 542 00:34:02.799 --> 00:34:07.079 the thing with real estate. You there's consequences financially, right you you have 543 00:34:07.159 --> 00:34:10.280 to you know, obviously there's maybe there's no mortgage, but you got to 544 00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:14.800 pay closing costs and commissions and things like that. So you're not just selling 545 00:34:14.800 --> 00:34:15.599 it at the same price. If you sell it the same price, you're 546 00:34:15.639 --> 00:34:19.480 taking a hit. And what if I don't want to sell it? And 547 00:34:19.519 --> 00:34:23.079 what if we do? I know, these are levels of conversation. You 548 00:34:23.079 --> 00:34:29.320 know. Part of me understands why a couple of either successful or famous people 549 00:34:29.360 --> 00:34:32.559 get together, because they sort of understand the demands of the job, so 550 00:34:32.639 --> 00:34:36.599 to speak. Part of me is like, oh my god, that's two 551 00:34:37.639 --> 00:34:44.280 sets of lawyers and two two egos and careers are going at the same place. 552 00:34:44.440 --> 00:34:46.519 You know, I heard Matt Damon on a podcast last week and he 553 00:34:46.599 --> 00:34:51.400 lived down the street from from Ben Affleck when he was married to Jennifer Garner, 554 00:34:51.920 --> 00:34:53.400 and he's like, you know, there was a certain amount of paparazzi 555 00:34:53.559 --> 00:34:55.519 down there then, and you know, we kind of dealt with it and 556 00:34:55.559 --> 00:35:02.000 whatever. He's like now he's married to a icon like Jennifer Garner is incredibly 557 00:35:02.039 --> 00:35:07.199 famous. The level between her and Jennifer Lopez, Matt Damon had to come 558 00:35:07.239 --> 00:35:10.800 and he goes. It is a different thing for even Ben Affleck to have 559 00:35:10.920 --> 00:35:15.400 to deal with. You know, poor Ben, every poor man, every 560 00:35:15.559 --> 00:35:19.519 move everything. And I'm just like, I'm sure he loves her and it's 561 00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:22.119 a sweet story. They came back together and blah blah blah. Yeah, 562 00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:25.159 there's a lot of headache involved in that. Say, isn't do we really 563 00:35:25.159 --> 00:35:28.440 want to do list again? Do we really want to buy real estate together? 564 00:35:28.519 --> 00:35:30.039 And it's like, I mean, so what did they do they buy 565 00:35:30.039 --> 00:35:32.280 anything last time? And it's like, Okay, we're gonna get back together. 566 00:35:32.400 --> 00:35:38.239 No more condos and on the sunset strap buy, you know, and 567 00:35:38.280 --> 00:35:40.840 he could just probably have oh that's my whole batchup. Padd a lot of 568 00:35:40.840 --> 00:35:44.599 guys hang onto their first house. At that level, they're like, the 569 00:35:45.039 --> 00:35:47.840 sentimental values makes right, right, favorite your favorite dress, and so it's 570 00:35:47.920 --> 00:35:51.159 right. It's like, where do you go from that? I don't know. 571 00:35:51.239 --> 00:35:54.519 There's a lot of um, there's a lot of fun to it, 572 00:35:54.599 --> 00:35:59.239 there's some nuance to it. But these are conversations that couples need to have 573 00:35:59.480 --> 00:36:02.400 beyond and what colors should we paint this wall when our kids look good? 574 00:36:02.440 --> 00:36:06.639 I mean, you really have to talk about it. And the time to 575 00:36:06.679 --> 00:36:09.639 sort of learn and take chances and try things out is in your twenties, 576 00:36:10.760 --> 00:36:15.119 live with some people, sign a couple of leases, see how it works 577 00:36:15.119 --> 00:36:16.639 out. Before you're just like, oh my god, we had such a 578 00:36:16.679 --> 00:36:20.679 good time at that sushi place. Let's go buy a house to guy put 579 00:36:20.679 --> 00:36:22.360 the red string on the door. With the red string on the door, 580 00:36:22.519 --> 00:36:28.079 Harry, honest, like, just knock people I don't know, all right, 581 00:36:28.119 --> 00:36:30.960 tell them you're gonna I'm gonna let you tell about your podcast. And 582 00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:35.199 then this is your first time on this podcast. We play something called worst 583 00:36:35.320 --> 00:36:38.159 date or first date, So you have to think back to your swinging single 584 00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:43.039 days and you have to either give us the worst date you ever had, 585 00:36:43.880 --> 00:36:45.519 or the best date you've ever had, and that can be with your spouse. 586 00:36:45.559 --> 00:36:47.559 I don't care your choice, but first of all, tell them about 587 00:36:47.559 --> 00:36:52.880 the podcast. So we have an incredible podcast. We I mean we just 588 00:36:52.920 --> 00:36:55.840 recorded episode eighty. I mean, can you imagine we even got there though? 589 00:36:55.920 --> 00:37:00.760 For first ten we listen to the first one today and we got our 590 00:37:00.199 --> 00:37:04.000 first one. I'm up to four six or something of this, my first 591 00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:07.280 like thirty or like buried. I don't even where they are gone. They're 592 00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:09.400 not on the interwebs. And it's like you had mentioned earlier, it's called 593 00:37:09.400 --> 00:37:12.920 the Sunny side the sunny and not so sunny sides of real estate here in 594 00:37:12.920 --> 00:37:15.920 Florida. So we talk about, you know, market trends and have some 595 00:37:15.960 --> 00:37:19.320 fun and have guests on. And it's been it's been great. We really 596 00:37:19.320 --> 00:37:22.199 really enjoy it. A lot of fun. Is that a good summary? 597 00:37:22.239 --> 00:37:23.159 That is a good summer? It's a good summary, right, your first 598 00:37:23.239 --> 00:37:30.360 Rachelle worst date or first date? Goodness? Um, worst date or first 599 00:37:30.440 --> 00:37:36.199 date? We'll talk about a one and done. Yeah, So South Beach 600 00:37:36.280 --> 00:37:38.679 Food and Wine Festival. Have you either of you been? No? It 601 00:37:38.719 --> 00:37:40.840 sounds fun. I feel like I feel like you know where this is going. 602 00:37:42.679 --> 00:37:46.119 So it is a great event. That's in South Beach. There are 603 00:37:46.119 --> 00:37:51.760 events all over. The very first two days, there's one event on the 604 00:37:51.760 --> 00:37:55.880 beach on the sand tents, some of the best foods, wines, music, 605 00:37:57.320 --> 00:38:01.800 phenomenal. The person I went with had one too many, started throwing 606 00:38:01.880 --> 00:38:06.480 up all over the sand, had to be carried out. That was definitely 607 00:38:06.480 --> 00:38:09.239 a one and done. Oh no, wow, that's not good. No, 608 00:38:09.280 --> 00:38:12.880 but I had great wine. Yeah you got yeah, and you'd probably 609 00:38:12.880 --> 00:38:15.960 had some good food and could kick the sand, kick, cover it up 610 00:38:15.960 --> 00:38:19.639 in the sand. It keep going golden tan that day. Oh who who 611 00:38:19.639 --> 00:38:22.119 hasn't vomited on like golden sands of South Beach at some point. True, 612 00:38:22.280 --> 00:38:25.639 that's Miami, folks. That there's your Miami Chamber of Commerce. Oh my 613 00:38:25.679 --> 00:38:31.239 god, all right, Scott, you're up. Worst date was I dated 614 00:38:31.280 --> 00:38:36.960 this girl who was Brazilian uh in New York City, and she I think 615 00:38:37.000 --> 00:38:42.280 she was continuously on cocaine. She was just so hyped up all the time, 616 00:38:42.360 --> 00:38:44.639 and it was just you couldn't just sit and have a meal. It 617 00:38:44.719 --> 00:38:46.400 was like, let's go and like and I couldn't understand a word she was 618 00:38:46.440 --> 00:38:51.239 saying half the time, And I was like responding the wrong way and she 619 00:38:51.280 --> 00:38:53.000 didn't like that, and she would get angry at me and she'd yell at 620 00:38:53.000 --> 00:38:57.239 me in Portuguese and everything, and it was just like it was just way 621 00:38:57.280 --> 00:38:59.639 too much. Couldn't couldn't do. But I dated her for a while. 622 00:38:59.679 --> 00:39:01.039 I think, here you go. Some men would pay to door to be 623 00:39:01.119 --> 00:39:05.840 yelled at by a good hot Brazilian and Portuguese, so you never know. 624 00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:10.119 So yeah, different, well cultural experience for you. This was fun, 625 00:39:10.159 --> 00:39:15.119 you guys, um as far as us like, share, follow, Please 626 00:39:15.159 --> 00:39:17.519 review not only this podcast but the Sunnyside. 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