We had a lot of emails on the Minnesota Goodbye, probably the most we've
had in months and months. So we're gonna get to as many as we
can without rushing, because I have a habit of rushing, and then I
have a habit of getting sidetracked. So all right, let's start with this
one. Good morning, just writing in about how Dave said there was a
campground on the Minnesota State Fairgrounds. They are for carnival people and the four
age kids, and it's a lottery system for them. They have to get
drawn in order to stay there. There is not nearly enough spots for the
people who show their animals, says Christy. And she said, if you
are lucky enough to get your name to get a camping spot, it's anywhere
from eight hundred to thirteen hundred dollars, depending on how many days they allow
you to stay. Some people only get a few days at the beginning,
some people get a few days at the end, some get the whole time.
Okay, interesting, I really thought that there were people that like just
went over there and camped. I had no idea next one. I think
we might save this one for a group therapy, because that is a little
bit different. This one says from Courtney listening to the Minnesota Goodbye as per
my usual morning routine, and I have so much advice for helping a grieving
friend. Unfortunately from experience. Remember it was the day before yesterday, or
maybe yesterday, somebody said their friend came over. They were acting different.
They sat down and they revealed that their dad had been diagnosed with stage four
colon cancer, and they said, how do I help them? What do
I do? I was very unexpectedly widowed just before thirty with a two and
a four year old. As you can imagine, this was devastating for all
involved. As I think Dave mentioned, distraction was a huge part of the
weeks to follow. But in those first hours and days, it's the people
that showed up at my door with food, groceries, care baskets, gave
us a hug, reminded me they were there and left that I appreciated the
most. Don't ask them what they need or what you can do. There
is notice decision making that can be made. Just do what you can.
That's a really good piece of advice. Don't say, hey, what can
I do? Because they might not have an answer, They might not want
to ask you anything. Yep. It is those first anniversaries and holidays to
follow that are the hardest to simple. Text that you are thinking of them
on those days makes a world of difference, especially after everyone else has seemed
to move on almost three years later. My best friend still checks on those
days and even over texts. She knows when I'm having a hard time.
She is my person. Hopefully this helps love the show. It's a great
distraction. My gosh, I'm so sorry to hear that you were widowed.
So suddenly I'm widowed at all. But yeah, distractions and then not asking
what I can do, but just doing something. Yeah, okay, I'm
moving the wrong way. Hold on, here we go, Dave, who
are the two people from the Strike Force podcast that you don't like? Dying
to know? That's from Rachel because strike Force is a podcast that's like got
Jimmy Foul and some other people. Stephen Colbert, he's one of the ones
I don't like. I've never gotten him. I've never found him funny.
And Seth Myers. I've never liked him, never thought he was funny.
It always seemed like Seth Myers has a talk show. I just don't like
Seth Myers. I don't watch either of them. I would say I probably
do like Stephen Colbert a little bit more than Seth Meyers between the few things
I have seen between them. But yeah, I couldn't say I was like
a fan particularly of either of them. I like Jimmy Fallon better. He
kind of grew on me. I don't. We don't watch a lot of
late night TV. Well, they start at ten thirty or later, and
we're not often up that late, so not really a thing for us.
All right, Morning show crew. About Jenny's jury duty. I was thirty
three weeks pregnant and when I was summoned for jury duty, so I thought
i'd get out of it. Well, spoiler alert, I didn't like someone
else who takes it in on Tuesday. I also cried during the interview process,
but that didn't help. The case we had was actually trigger warning sexual
assault related, so the state attorney who was prosecuting must have chosen me as
one of the jurors because I was pregnant partially yea. Honestly, the case
was hard to listen to at times given the subject, but it was really
interesting to sort of being a real Life Law and Order episode. I only
spent three days away from work, I think, so it wasn't too bad.
Plus a bad person was put in prison in the end, so that
made me feel a little bit better. Boy, it must have been a
quick conviction. I was going to say that it seems pretty quick for that.
Well, we all watched these shows like Dateline or forty eight Hours Mystery
or some true crime where it's like the jury deliberated for five days or they
deliberated for two weeks or whatever. Love you guys, and I feel like
a loyal listener and I have to end it with dartlick. Dartlick. And
that's from Casey. You can say my name. Thank you, Casey,
and I'm glad you wrote in. Okay, going off that real quick,
I did get a message from someone who's actually coming to visit us. She
lives on DC right now, and she said that when she was on jury
duty, it was all this like medical mal practice for hers, but then
there was like a love triangle involved in it, and so she said,
She's like, honestly, I know some people dread jury duty, but my
case was just like so interesting. Oh. I mean, I guess if
I get a fun like case where there's some drama, sure, but like,
do I want to be listening to a sexual assault story? Honestly,
not really at all, but I understand it's my duty. So medical malpractice
and a love triangle? Wow, all right, here's the one that we're
gonna save for the show, although I think I'm gonna read it and maybe
do it on the show because it's very interesting. And her question is am
I being dramatic? Should I get over it? Listen to this. I'm
a twenty three year old woman. I work at a vet clinic. During
an exam on a dog with the dog's owner in the room, the doctor
that I was working with asked me to move my arm out of the way
so he would not accidentally inject me with a rabies vaccine. I said,
maybe I need it, and the doctor and the client and the owner of
the dog both chuckled. The owner of the dog, who was a sixty
five to seventy ish year old man, then proceeded to grab and smack my
ass and say you could get it right here, and he laughed. I
immediately became very uncomfortable. The doctor that I was working with did not notice
this remark or action and went on with the exam. I left the room
very uncomfortable. After letting it sink in for a few minutes and talking with
my coworkers, I realized what had just happened. How could this man have
the audacity to think he can grab another person that he has never met like
that. I proceeded to cry in the bathroom for fifteen to twenty minutes.
My manager, other doctors, and co workers all heard about what happened.
The doctor that was in the room with me, who happened to be the
owner of the clinic, came to speak with me. He apologized for not
noticing, but said hopefully you'll get over it soon. I am upset with
this response from him. As an older man with a daughter, you think
he'd be more compassionate towards the situation. I feel violated, I feel gross,
I was and am very upset over the whole situation. Am I being
dramatic? Should I really just get over it? Or is this an upsetting
situation another's eyes? Any advisor feedback would be appreciated. I want Jenny to
take this one, but I will say you are not being overly dramatic.
Shame on him. Maybe in his generation, back in his day, that
was funny. Everybody should know absolutely don't touch another person, especially on the
button level like he like grabbed her ass and made a stupid comment to go
with it. Also, it honestly shocks me that the doctor quote unquote did
not hear or see it or anything like. I think he chose to ignore
it. But you're right, that's another situation that I think like to look
into. But then his response as the owner of the clinic and not coming
to the defense of his employee is disgusting to me. So, no,
you're not being dramatic a b. I would probably quit immediately And I don't
know if you can file an HR complaint in that situation, him being the
owner, but do something about it. But yeah, you're not being dramatic.
You have every right to feel the way that you felt. That was
an absolute violation to you, and it's disgusting. It's really there's nothing you
said that I don't agree with. I would have actually called if I were
the owner, I would have called this person. I would have said you
need to come down here, we need to talk. I would have said
you are not allowed in this clinic again, and I would have also,
you tell me if I'm overreacting, I would have called the cops down there
too, to file a report, because that is assault. That is like
you just don't grab anybody's ass anymore. I mean, I say, especially
like there are some exceptions, but there are not, but especially not a
woman professionally working and you're a client, and there's just so many things wrong.
So I would have called the cops and I would have the guy come
down to the vet center or filed some sort of report. I don't know
if the cops would file on that. I don't know, but no,
you are not in the wrong on that one. Come on next one,
Jenny, Dave Drake, First and foremost, I'd like to express my sincere
gratitude for you for constantly delivering an incredible show. I've been listening to The
Dave Ryan Show since the late nineties, and you become an important part of
my daily routine when I'm getting ready for work. Your show provides me with
something to look forward to and makes me feel like I'm hanging out with friends.
On a separate note, there is something weighing on my mind. Your
show is admirably strive to avoid uttering content that could be perceived as offensive,
while also demonstrating genuine concern for the emotions of listeners. The evolving list of
terms and phrases that are now considered off limits is a testament to your efforts.
I understand that take the talking for hours and having to be concerned about
everything you say to nearly seven listeners is not easy. Smiley face, Okay,
here it is. I have noticed that God or Jesus Christ gets exclaimed
frequently during your show. This is usually in moments of self frustration, during
a game, or when discussing something that has irked you. Many Christians,
like our friend Pastor Catherine, share a similar sense of humor that resonates with
your show. So will I will go ahead and assume that you have Christian
listeners. I'm not looking to scold you. Were screamed from the rooftops that
I'm offended, but I kindly urge you to consider the frequency with which this
happens. It is simply a request driven by a desire for mutual respect and
understanding. Once again, thank you for your understanding or outstanding work, and
for taking time to read my thoughts. I remain a devoted listener, and
I look forward to continuing to enjoy your show in the mornings. That is
from Teresa. Teresa, I thought the same thing. I have noticed myself
saying Jesus, Oh, Jesus, Jesus Christ more than I should. And
I was raised a Christian, not a devout Christian now, but I absolutely
do not purposely or blow that off and go, yeah, it's okay to
say Jesus Christ all I want to. So, No, that's a good
point. I will try to not say. God is a different one.
I think God, Oh my God, God, Oh God, Jenny,
but Jesus Christ is a little bit. That's a little bit, that's a
step further. I know. I think specifically in the last two weeks,
I remember saying Jesus Christ, and I don't normally say that. That is
not something I was allowed to say growing up. We went to church every
Sunday growing up. Also not really like a super practicing Christian at the moment,
but it just wasn't in my vocabulary, and so I'm kind of surprised
whenever it came out recently. I was upset with myself that I said it,
because I don't normally say that. I know, I say oh my
God all the time, though I say that very often. I try to
say oh my Gosh. But it's just something that I've always said that.
It's like, I've definitely tried to filter myself, but I hear this person
and will work on not using God and Jesus and Jesus Christ so often.
Well, you know, it's like, and you know, we hear somebody
on the radio. We'll get somebody on the radio and they'll be talking about
War of the Roses. They'll be like, holy fuck, and was like,
okay, can you not restrain yourself from using the word fuck for a
few minutes while you're on the radio. And we get annoyed when people do
it. Thank God we have a dump button, so we don't, you
know, have any problems with it. But you and I definitely could.
We could, as adults and professionals, we could make an effort to not
say Jesus Christ. How about we have a rule or a bet on the
show. First one of the three of us to say Jesus Christ on the
show, we will, then the other one's got to buy lunch. Okay,
I like that. I think what we do with this is we don't
tell Drake, so you and I know we're not allowed to say it.
It doesn't Then when he does say it, we play back this audio and
be like, see, we made this a game and a rule, so
you owe us you. I shouldn't tell me you were going to do that.
I had no idea, God Jesus Christ, So no, thanks for
that. I appreciate that. Okay, I think that's going to about do
it. A lot of these emails are really really good, but they're kind
of more for the entire morning show. But I will get to as many
as of these as we can. Yeah, a lot of these are for
the morning show. So here's one last one because we got some time.
Some sort of things I would send you as I sit solo in a fancy
restaurant in a faraway place as I'm working away from home for the week.
Tipping. I know you've talked and talked and talked about tipping. However,
servers should be great. They should be polite, know the menu, keep
your glass of what you're drinking full, especially if it's water. The glass
should never be empty. If they live off tips, be great. I'll
stop there before I start to rent as a server do you agree. I
do agree that you should give good You should have a personality to give great
customer service. Somethings are out of your what's the word that I'm looking for
control? Some things that are out of your control. You might have just
it's called being double or triple sat. You might have just been double or
triple sat and got stuck greeting three different tables, getting their drink orders,
getting their appetizers in, and your forced table. You did not notice that
their diapepsi was a long. So you have to understand that things aren't always
as they seem as a server, and if they're a rude server or they're
not friendly, that's a different thing. But if they are a little slow
on getting you your water refill, that might be because of other factors.
So I think I'm gonna be honest. It's really hard to be out with
some friends because they do not look at the environment around and they get very
upset about the littlest of things. And for me, having this experience I
have, I try to defend the server hat the time, Like, look
at this patio right now, they literally have every table on this patio.
Just give them a second you'll get your drink in a second, you know,
Like I do, try to defend servers a little bit more, But
there is no excuse for a server to not be like friendly and trying at
least to do as much as they can. Okay, point number two.
I met David the State Fair. I hope it never gets old for you
to hear how much of an impact you have on the people who listen to
your show. No one never gets old. I love hearing about that.
It's like I think I was thinking about that this morning in the shower or
on the ride end, or brushing my teeth, Like, wow, it
is good too. We all want to make a difference in life. We
all want to make an impact, make a difference, whether it were saving
pets or whether we're straightening teeth or painting or cleaning homes. We want to
make a difference. And growing up, I didn't make much of a difference.
I was just an average kid. I was an average student, an
average boy scout, an average trumpet player, an average friend. But to
feel and to be told that I've made a difference, that's really powerful.
I mean, you know, and thank you. The only reason I went
to the fair bus is because the morning show was going to be there and
I needed Dave to sign my book. He did. What a fabulous bunch
of people you all are three. I myself needing more podcast content on occasion,
so I have ventured out to find something that is people talking, not
interview style, just natural conversation like the Minnesota Goodbye three A any recommendations of
Minnesota Goodbye similar style, Jenny, anything that comes to mind, I don't
listen. I listened to an air disaster podcast with two women, Shelley and
Stephanie, and I love these two. I feel like they are my friends
that I feel like I talk back to them, But that's not you're not
looking for an air disaster podcast. Do you know of anything off the topic?
Can you think of something that maybe I'll interest you? Since you listen
to the Minnesota Goodbye, it's called two hot takes, and actually the girl
who started it, they her and her boyfriend are originally from Minnesota, and
you did like a cameo for them for a birthday or something, which is
not something you'd remember. But they introduce themselves to me at the state fair
a couple of years ago, and they started that podcaster in COVID and it
has blown up. It is a huge podcast now they're out in LA.
They have full pod wowot Takes and truthfully, all they'd literally do is read
stories from ruddit and then react to it and so but it's no kidding,
wild stories, things you didn't see coming, things that are going to irk
you, things that are going to make you feel uncomfortable. Definitely things you'll
have an opinion about one way or another. So I do. I haven't
listened to a ton of it, but two Hot Takes is pretty interesting.
Okay, that sounds like exactly what you might be looking for. If you
are listening and you have any podcast recommendations for Courtney, then please let us
know. And three b through this endeavor, I bumped into other radio Folks
podcast. Why do similarly sized and larger stations have so many more people than
the Dave Ryan Show? Does you have three people? Other shows have ten?
I'm not even exaggerating any ideas why. I don't know, but I
think they have bigger budgets possibly, And that's really all I know. And
we used to have people on the show, if you counted Tina back in
the day when we had Lena, Steve, Me, Chris Go and intern
John. We had five full time people on the show, had interns two
back then too, Yes, and we had interns during that time. That's
right, and we don't have that anymore. And I don't really know why
that is. I think that some stations just a lot bigger budgets, and
other than that, I don't know, but I know some of the shows
you're talking about. I'm not going to name them because I don't want to
make it sound like I'm picking on them. But there are some shows in
like New York that have like eight or ten people on the show. I
don't necessarily like that because I feel if you have that many people, you
have too many. Yea. And sometimes you can't figure out who is speaking
on our show. It's either me or Jenny or Drake. Were easy to
tell apart, there's no confusion. When Fallon was on the show, You
and Fallon didn't sound anything alike. People would argue that though, because there
are times that people would be on the phone then they I would say,
and then they're like, oh, no, Flon not that Oh really okay.
So I think we definitely if I listen to our voices. I think
we sounded very, very different, but there was some confusion because I just
think for some reason, it's a little bit harder to distinguish between two females
because I listen to this one podcast for probably two years until I realize who
was who. Even though they had very different voices, you do get used
to it. I'll tell you this the podcast I listen to Shelley and Stephanie.
I can't tell them apart, but they both play equal roles on the
show. They switch off. One will tell an air disaster story while the
other one reacts and ask questions. And then the next week they'll switch off
and they sound so much alike. But it doesn't matter because they're both similar,
you know, quirky, fun, smart personalities. She goes on to
say, thanks again for making the world a brighter and better place, Courtney.
That is so very kind of you to write in and say that I
really appreciate that. I do have one request and this will help us out
as we sort through the Minnesota Goodbye emails. If you want your email read
specifically on the Minnesota Goodbye, just put in the subject line Minnesota Goodbye.
Sometimes if we look at it, and we don't know. Sometimes we'll start
to read it and go, oh, this is better for the show,
the show itself like a group therapy kind of a thing, or some people
specifically want to talk about something about the Minnesota Goodbye that we've brought up or
asked or read at whatever requested. Then if you will, if you've got
a minute when you write in and you want it to be on the Minnesota
Goodbye, just put in the subject line Minnesota Goodbye, and that'll help me
sort them out while I do this on the fly, and that is it.
Write your emails to Ryan Show at KDWB dot com and thank you for listening.