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Hi, it's this fifty plus.
I'm James R. Junior. This is

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actually an audio and video episode.
You do audio only an occasional video.

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I do audio only of this show. You look and you install those when

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you go to your other audio platforms. But I thought it was important just

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for me to put a face to
this, literally a face to this,

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and that's why it's here on YouTube
on JLJ Media, so you can look

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at both. But if you don't
look at me, go over to go

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to any audio stream service and listen
to it now. June is Men's Mental

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Health Month. I see and I
have a few words on that. There's

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nothing, nothing long, but I
just want to I'm also older and I'm

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fifty plus that there is a lot
of stigma for men sharing there to help.

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I'm online a lot because that's what
I do. I'm online and stuff.

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And what's really interesting is seeing the
divide online. There are folks who

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say, walk it off. Let
mean, give me ten thousand dollars,

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I'll screw at you for a weekend
and you'll be a man again, whatever

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that means, right those folks.
Then we have folks who really are trying

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to help and get into the deep
feelings and give you a safe landing in

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a space to talk about the things
that bother you. So I see this

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like two different worlds going on out
there, competing for your attention. Meanwhile,

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I feel like if the average man's
like I'm a man, I was

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taught not to say anything. I
was taught to you walk it off and

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suck it up and be a man. You're the man of the house in

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all the words I heard growing up, and I need to have to keep

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it together. Real men don't cry
the whole thing I heard. I heard

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all that stuff growing up to keep
it together, and also as man,

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many times that's our nature. We're
fixers. And when we can't fix something,

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I think something innate in us completely
falls apart because we can't fix this

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certain thing. And and life isn't
always about fixing. That's just kind of

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you know, sometimes it's ongoing stuff. It's tough myself. I've been in

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therapy off and on for years,
but I'm also a certified life coach.

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I've gone to school for coaching.
I was gone to school for nursing,

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So you learned some psychological stuff while
you're while you're training. That have been

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very valuable to me, but I'm
a human and there are times that feel

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overwhelmed, and now that I'm older, says, this is the fifty plus

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part. For a lot of us
who are older, there's a dude,

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there's a dual purpose thing going on
for us. For all of us who

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are older and single, it's tough. We feel alone. Sometimes you feel

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like maybe we have the love of
our lives and they're gone. So you

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know, if you get think you
can get that against you. This depression

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about growing old and by yourself for
some not verybody for some, but like

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for a lot of men who want
to have that relationship or they have the

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kids and they were youngers they are
running around. But now even when kids

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now as a whole, there's a
whole thing going on there. But also

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in the dating world, feeling invisible, there's a whole daddy stuff and dilfs

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and gilts and all this stuf.
It's all cutesy, but for they always

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person. A lot of times when
you're over a certain age and we're all

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in a certain way, then they
just you know, you feel overlooked and

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it's like it's not like you used
to be. And going to the clubs,

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and this isn't a good look for
a lot of us, for a

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lot of us who are a little
older, and maybe us don't want to

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do that either, So there's been
those issues with that. Also, we

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could be dealing with adult children,
grandchildren. In my case, I'm part

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of that sandwich generation. I have
aging parents, you know, I'm dealing

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with the grown children, I have
grandtched. I'm right in the middle.

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I'm handling everything there. Plus for
some of us, we're still running our

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businesses and all that goes in there, or retiring and you're feeling like,

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what's my purpose? There's so when
you get older, there's so much you

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know, you don't call as much. You're certainly gets smaller. Body's dying

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off, which I just had a
friend die recently, and it's like it's

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just like it's being smaller, certain
getting smaller and smaller. There's a lot

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of melt issues with that too,
And if you've never been taught to release

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them and to feel them, it's
really tough. And making a suicide all

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the time. We women do two
obviously too, but a lot of men

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just suffering silence, and you're like, but he seems so happy he seems

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so nice and then all of a
sudden the next day they're gone. Or

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lots of addiction issues, gambling,
shopping, food, drugs, alcohol,

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all those addictions happening, and it's
being out of control because of some maybe

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a couple of traumatizing things. I'm
enjoying people saying, you know, check

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on your strong friends. That those
of us who are handling everything, and

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the heads of families or just just
in charge of businesses, people's hour.

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People just think outwardly appearance, you
know, you know they're fine. So

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I always try to check in with
my friends. I always do my male

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friends, especially. I'm always like, how you doing, And it's it's

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it's an awkward conversation for us.
You're like, well, I'm fine,

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You're like, really, how you
doing? And I only ask the people

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that I'm close to. I mean, I won't just ask a random male

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friend of mine, you know,
and tell me all your business. Because

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trust is a big thing too.
Trusting that you can be safe with your

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feelings is a big thing. But
I do have a couple of friends that

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I know I can talk to you
about my feelings, and I try to

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do the same for them. It's
not all about me, and and it's

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it's not it's not easy, it
takes practice, it's not it's not fun.

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It's just today. I don't want
to tell all my feelings. I

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don't like it, but I do. I forced myself to. I have

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cried on camera many times over the
years. I've laughed on camera. I've

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gotten mad on camera. I show
my emotions. I'm very passionate and i'm

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and I answered myself, it's okay, you know I want I just broken

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men don't help society at all.
They don't help themselves or anybody that comes

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in contact with them. So I
want less broken men. That's what I

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want. I want less. I
don't want hurt boys become broken men and

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then the cyclers happens all over again. I just so I don't want that.

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And whether it's it's uh, it's
arn't therapy, or it's or it's

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gym therapy, or it's actual therapy, therapy and something, just I just

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urge everyone to least reach out reach
out to me. I listen to you

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once. Sometimes it's you to talk
to a person you don't know for personally.

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But I am I online now I've
been actively trying to connect with other

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men who align with my values of
no shaming, no bullying, no extreme

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drastic measures to help other men.
It's like we just were here to be

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a support system and it could be
really nice. I mean the highs and

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lows. I mean both the good
thing that the good times and the bad.

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So I'm gonna continue doing that much
as I can. And it's not

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easy to get older. It really
isn't. And I and there's times I

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feel completely alone and by myself and
upset and completely oppressed about it. And

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it's and just I can admit that
I can't bealely admit that that just sometimes

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that happens, and it happened every
day, but it does happen sometimes and

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I have to walk through it.
So but I am doing better at reaching

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out. I'm trying my best.
It's a fifty plus. My show comes

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out every Tuesday. It's about issues
for over fifty and usually from my point

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of view, it's kind of what
I do. What I do. It's

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mostly audio, but occasionally have a
few videos here. And it's like I

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said, it's Men's month, a
mental month, and I just want to

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make sure that we look out for
each other, there's something wrong with that.

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I'm James Jr. Taught to you
next time.