You're listening to KFI AM six forty on demand. There's something that comes to
mind when you think of accountability, and it's it's this thing that people try
and run from. And this is from the beginning, since the fall,
all of mankind was rebellious, and in that rebellious state, all they want
to do is whatever they want. So since the fall of mankind and that
rebellion, all they want to do is their own thing without any or very
little accountability of their actions. And I don't want you to fall into that
category, fall into that place, well, where all you want to do
is whatever you want to do and have no accountability. I get sent a
lot of books on this program. Producer Neil goes through them. I go
through them. Well, I get one recently and that dealt with sex in
the Bible, and none of it's really new. It's every once in a
while someone comes up with a book that says, hey, God really wants
you to do whatever you want sexually, and premarital sex isn't a problem,
and all these things, and they just really what changes is slight justifications.
Oh well this means that or that means this, And I realize that there
are parts of scripture that do take some intense scholarship and scrutiny, and you
have to kind of jump in and pull them apart and learn a little bit
more. That doesn't mean all of scriptures like that. There's a lot that's
right there in front of you, and to deny it would be to just
simply reject the truth of scripture. But this particular book was was really forcing
the reader to understand what the Bible has said about sex differently, and not
even in a very fair way. A lot of the arguments were old and
some of them were new and twisted and really just trying to make the Bible
say something it doesn't about sex. And in reading this, it made me
want to share with you the battle that goes on between truth and fad religions
or loosely defined spirituality. You had psychics, you got modern fast food,
kabbala, even atheism. They all fall into this category of doing what you
want the way you want to do it, not having combat any sort of
accountability. You know, if you go to psychics, it's because you don't
want to work through the process of anything. You want to know now.
You want to know what it is now, and you want to know you're
on the right track. There's tons of signs that will show you whether you're
on the right track or not. But if you're too lazy to participate in
them, to be accountable to the things in your life. When you make
mistakes, you want someone else to just feed it to you. It becomes
a problem. These fast food belief systems and these pseudo spirituality type organizations now
that just want well, you need to know yourself and all these things,
they just become flowery and they're nonsensical. They don't have any value because there
is no reward or consequence. You know, atheists say that man created God
to control the actions of man, but it's far more reasonable to say that
the atheist rejects the notion of God so that he can remain out of control,
doing what he wants without any accountability. You've heard over and over again.
Ah wow, Christianity is just a crutch. Well, to someone with
a broken leg or crutch is a good thing. It's the world running around
thinking that they're okay and that there's nothing wrong walking, tearing tendons, tearing
muscles, damaging bone. That's a problem. Today's world wants God to be
accountable to them rather than them be accountable to God. It's backwards and you
only end up cheating yourself with these wishy washy beliefs. And as Matthew six
' five says about the religious hypocrites of my day, those that prayed out
in the public, those that did the things so that they would just be
seen and just kind of acted through the spirituality of things. Well, the
only reward that they received it all, and the only reward you will receive,
if this is the type of a spirituality you're part of, will be
the rewards of this world, not one thing of God. And it reminds
me sort of of the person well, let's face it, usually men the
trace to justify away an illness. You know, they're, oh, well,
it's probably from this. It's not a big deal. It's nothing at
all until it becomes serious and too late, pushing off going to the doctor,
not wanting to be accountable to even the own aches and pains of your
body. Alcoholism, obesity, any of these things start in that beginning stage
without any accountability. Now is addiction a serious thing, absolutely, but all
these things have to start somewhere. They start not being accountable to yourself,
things around you, the changes that you know and you see are happening,
and then you let it go, and you let it go, and you
let it go. But you will be accountable, God says, no matter
whether you think you will, or you will, or you think you won't,
you will be accountable. Matthew twelve thirty six says, but I tell
you that everyone will have to give an account on that day of judgment for
every empty word they have spoken. So even the very words you have said,
you'll be accountable for, let alone the actions and the things that you've
done. It's not to frighten you. It's to show you the seriousness.
There's a good side to accountability. It shows you a path, It shows
you directions how to follow through with something, and you know better. You
know when you're not being accountable. You know when you don't want anybody to
see what you're doing and you don't want to ask, You just don't want
to know. You want it on your terms, and in doing so,
you will only get your rewards here and that's it. Some here, some
there, and there'll be consequences. You'll make mistakes and you'll try to brush
them under and then it becomes a whole cycle. But when you are accountable
to one another, when you're accountable to God, is when these things work
out in your favor. Truly, that's when you learn. But if you
continue to tell yourself that you're not making mistakes or that there is no true
right or wrong when it comes to whatever you're doing, and you don't learn
anything, and you certainly won't get any better accountability. It's very easy to
get caught up in the kind of fad religions of the day, or the
kind of loose, loosely defined spirituality, whatever your choice may be. But
these fad religions, the spirituality, psychics, stuff like this. Even atheism
is really focused away from it being accountable. It's about not wanting to be
accountable to something. Matthew twelve thirty six does say that you will be accountable
before God for every word that you speak, and yes, you are ultimately
account to God, but you're accountable to more than that as well. It
says in Romans fourteen seven through twelve about this being accountable to God, for
not one of us lives for himself, and not one of the uh,
not one dies for himself. For if we live, we live for the
Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord. Therefore,
whether we live or die, we are the Lord's. Moving on to verse
twelve, it says, so then each one of us will give an account
of himself to God. You will be accountable. You will be accountable for
who you are, what you do, what you say, how you act.
And that's a good thing. Accountability teaches, accountability builds. If you
don't have those things, it's almost like redefining something, make it something else.
And they do this with laws. Sometimes you can't redefine stealing and therefore
say well the stealer rate in stealing has in theft has gone down. No,
you're merely redefining it. And if you redefine your accountability say well,
this is just my belief or this is what I'm doing and this is what
makes me feel good. Then you just kind of step aside from it.
But it doesn't eradicate the need to be accountable. You should also be accountable
to one another. Ephesians five twenty one says submit to one another out of
reverence for Christ, and being accountable has so many benefits. You should be
accountable not only to God, not only to your brothers and sisters in Christ,
but to your parents, your civil leaders, your church. Then this
accountability will strengthen. Be honest about where you are in life, Understand what
you're doing and why you do it. Because when you are honest and you
have humility when it comes to the things you struggle with, the things that
you are in the middle of learning and that you need to know. But
you're honest and have humility with God, well then the Father will reward your
accountability with growth and with strength. Goodie, welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.
Good morning, and thank you for taking my call, my pleasure.
How can I help you? Yes, it's a bit of a long story,
but I think we narrowed it down. I am overtainly gentleman. I'm
I'm still German. I left Germany when I was eighteen, okay, and
I've always had trouble there. That's why I left Germany. I've not been
back, and everybody had grown up, my father had died and their situation
has never been good. What kind of troubles did you have in Germany?
Maybe long story ssured you would either commit suicide or leave Why so, why
would those be the only options. It's really hard to talk about. It's
okay, okay. I was never good enough, always the backshep of the
family. Nobody ever took the time to find out who I really was,
what I wanted. I was always pushing things that I didn't like to do.
My mother never really liked me. I was an accident. They didn't
want me so well. I couldn't find anybody else in the family because of
the boar. We had many uncles and aunts and uncles, and so therefore
I didn't know anybody. And I had no friends either, and that even
exists today. I have no friends now, well, now, goody,
why do you why do you think that is? You realize that's a that's
rare. It's not that there aren't people that feel the same way, because
there certainly are. But why do you think that you don't have friends?
You know, I've asked my question that a lot of times. I think,
well, of course, being afraid of being a band again, I've
been lied to. People say they are going to do any something for you,
and then they don't. I had applied myself many many times that I
had been here for some reason. The friendship doesn't go very long and I
I'm not sure about that. Well, the common denominator in all of this
is you, and I want you to know that because this is where you
get to take the power and understand how you can make this change because it
starts with you. It can't be everybody, the whole world doesn't have a
problem. And then you're okay, this means there's something that you're doing to
project those things partially out of fear, as you said, fear of rejection
or being abandoned again. But that's not that's not a legitimate fear. That's
not okay. There's many people that have relationships on this planet that aren't abandoned,
and being abandoned sometimes happens. But there are things that people exude and
project from themselves that are not attractive to others because they make other people feel
insecure or the concerned about abandonment. And sometimes people do those types of things
without knowing. There's also social cues. Those are when somebody's when you're in
a social situation, there might be something you do that or don't do that
turns people off, and you need to look at those those really hard,
kind of uncomfortable things to see where you can grow and you know where you
can bloom and start welcoming people into your life. And they can be as
simple as learning to see that when you deal with people, are you in
their space? Are you in their face when you talk to them? And
sometimes that bothers people, maybe if you're if you talk too closely or too
loudly. All these little things make people who they are, but also can
make someone comfortable or uncomfortable. So do you ever do like a I hate
to use such a such a goofy term, but like an emotional inventory where
you kind of look through who you are and say, what might I be
doing to turn people off? Have you ever done that? Excellent? Did
you come up with anything a list of any kind? The only thing that
I could find is that maybe maybe because I am from Germany, people here
are close nets and I have no children, and so therefore there is not
like Okay, let's meet at the ball game. Sure you can meet people
there. I have no associations here. I am a club member in this
town. Where I am in this particular town, there is just not a
lot to do. There are not a lot of socialization things going on.
So I have a hard time becoming a becoming a part of anything here.
That's an excellent observation that in life there are there are you know, doors
and pathways that move us into circles of of uh you know, social networking
and meeting people. And the typical ones, yes are children depending on your
age. That when you get certain ages, people tend to interact with UH
like kinds. You know, they tend to get in their own little tribes.
But as far as being from Germany, your accent is absolutely lovely.
So that's that's not that's not going to turn people off. That's exciting.
People like to hear people with different accents and and and to learn about different
experiences. So I think that we'll start with with the the social doorways first
because I think that was a great observation that you that that you may not
have the same life path as other people, and so that keeps you running
alongside rather than truly interacting with them. So you have to find maybe a
network of people, whether that's through a church or do you like to read?
Are there hobbies that you have? Okay, well, if there's hobbies
that you have, that is a wonderful place to start because you're connecting with
people on a level. That's that's different. Now there is all kinds of
social stigma. I realize that if you are of a certain age, you
don't have a child and you're not married, that people don't always know what
to do with you. It's like, well, why aren't you married?
How come you don't have kids? And if you go down a path,
well in Germany it was rough and this and that. Then people that burden
falls upon new friends and that can be too heavy for them to lift at
first. And I know that's a burden that you have, yeah, and
I know I can hear it in your voice when you start to talk about
it, the pain that's there. But that's not something that a brand new
relationship can handle. It's like building a treehouse in a in a spud,
you know, when you when you just plant something, it's not going to
lift that weight. And so that's the entirety, that's your treehouse, that's
the entirety of your life. And you put that on a new relationship or
friendship, just like putting that treehouse on a brand new spud, it's going
to crush it so or sprout. Rather, it's going to crush it.
So you need to find ways to build these relationships through your I would say
through your hobbies and your interests. Libraries, book clubs would be a fantastic
place to start and build the interest on that commonality that you both share,
and then from there you grow into relationships where you're sharing the heavier experiences and
the things. But start in those those those rudimentary places, just like just
like you were starting in grade school or something like you were seven years old.
Start with similar interests. I like your dress, or I like that
book, or I have that same doll or whatever it is, and grow
it from there and get it to a place of strength where you can interact
on the heavier things. But I believe it or not that, well,
you're going to keep doing it if it If it hasn't worked, you're going
to keep doing it. Every time you tell yourself, well I've done that
and it doesn't work, you're the one walking out on yourself. You're the
one abandoning yourself, not everyone else. You're the only one that's with you
every minute of every day. So if you're constantly let down, that's not
because of others, that's because of you. Okay, can you can do
you take that with you, goody. I mean, that's a very important
thing to understand. I will, I will, I definitely will, Okay,
because it's you can't you can't just constantly blame it on those outside,
because that would make you the most unique individual on the planet that you can't
connect with anyone else. You're designed to connect with people. If you're not,
that falls on you. Yeah, you know, I do know.
God does not want us to be alone, and she wants us to share
things, sure, you know. And I have just not experienced that in
his way, and I just I long for that, and I am married
now very he's my soulmate. But now the problem that I have if he's
just worked so many hours, I see you, maybe five hours in the
week he's working today. Goodness, that's that's a lot of time. Yeah,
it's been going on for about four years. That's a lot of time.
Goodie. Those things are circumstantial, and they may or may not change.
The thing that I want you to take with you that's most important to
me is to understand the part you play in all of this. It's you
know, you don't turn everybody away. Obviously that you've got a husband,
but there you've got to find a social place where you can connect with people.
And if people don't like it or they turn away, you've got to
be bold and you've got to go to them and say, you know,
I thought we were establishing a bit of a relationship and then it kind of
fizzled. I'm just curious, is there's something I did? And you need
to learn about yourself, because, like I said, you're the only one
that's with you all the time. Tom. Welcome to the Jesus Christow.
I'm well, Tom, how can I help you? I'd like to know.
And that's sort of a question. Uh, you got an evil person,
let's say that steals stuff, that mean the people's whole life, just
does nasty things all the time. It comes time for him to die,
he's on his deathbed. You see it on TV shows the old Westerns.
Everything he goes, he ask for forgiveness, and the priest gives a forgiveness
and apparently he goes to heaven. Then actually real well, that's kind of
a nutshell of it. But the problem here is whenever it's posed to me
that question, Tom, and it's a completely legitimate one and a good one.
Every time it's posed to me. It's kind of from the perspective of
man and not the perspective of God. So you're kind of asking it as
you know, you know, you're judging. Men tend to judge themselves against
other men, so you're saying, oh, well, I'm better than this
guy. But really that's not the standard. The standard of God is judging
yourself against God. So whereas you may look and you say, well,
this little kid stole a candy bar, that's not as bad as somebody who
burglarized an apartment building, but the reality is they're both theft, and they
both come from the same selfish attitude that I can take what I want when
I want it, and God's looking at a bigger picture than man does,
and therefore the judgment is different. So, for instance, Tom, you
judging yourself against another person and seeing who's better is one thing. When you
compare it to God, it's the equivalent. And the analogy I'll give you
is you standing on the southernmost part of Texas throwing rocks trying to reach Canada
and judging the guy next to you to see who's closer to reaching Canada.
You're both so far from ever reaching Canada. That really the comparison is silly.
So if you're trying to compare yourself to a man, yeah, there's
going to be times where you're better than this guy or better than that guy,
even you're going to be able to look at it. That's not exactly
what I'm asking, whether you're better than somebody or no. But but Tom,
I'm talking about basic evil. I understand that. But God is the
definer of what's good and evil. So this brings me back to the bigger
point that it's not about whether you're whether someone's evil in your eyes or whether
they do bad things. It's about uh, their acceptance or rejection of God.
There is nothing you can do evil enough that is outside of the cleansing
power of God. And there's nothing you can do good enough that is going
to somehow when you favor with God. I can understand that. Okay,
just asking the question of you've done bad things, murder, whatever, your
whole life, and on your deathbed you say forgive me, guy, can
I go to heaven now? And then does he go to heaven? No,
it's not that easy. But can a person be given on their deathbed?
Absolutely? Can a person be forgiven on their deathbed, no matter how
heinous the ax they've done. Yes, because again it's about the goodness of
God, not the badness of man, which is once again the perspective I'm
trying to point out that you look at it as escaped. Oh, that's
easy. But God doesn't fall for lies. Man tends to look at this
question like a relationship, like somehow the guy continues to beat the woman or
cheat on her and comes back and goes, baby, baby, baby,
come on, I love you, I love you. I'm not gonna do
that again, and her going, and somehow God is the woman in this
equation going oh, okay, come back. That's not what it is.
That is not what it is. It is not that man looks at this
question and says, oh, so, is there three magic words I can
say on my deathbed I'm sorry God, and then it's all erased. No,
absolutely not. However, if somebody is on their deathbed and they've lived
a life of horrible evils but have true repentance, no, keep in mind,
a deathbed repentance is difficult because what are you turning away from. You
don't have an option at that point. And if it's just because you're dying.
God knows the difference, so you're not gonna somehow woo God. And
I'm going, oh wow, this is really sad. And you know,
the music is playing in the background, and you're on the deathbed and you're
coughing up blood and this is really touching, and you know, que the
violins. I'm in. Okay, that's good, you're coming. That's not
what it's about. That's how man thinks. Man thinks that somehow that an
evil guy's gonna get in on a technicality. Huh huh. It's not how
it works. However, it's about the goodness of God, not the evil
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