This it's the two seventeen Recovery Podcast with Corey Winfield. Well, fat people,
we really hate it. I'm speaking for all fat people. We hate
being hot. Show me one fat person that likes being hot and have some
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Bro and coal holes Marney Winfield, the little things that I appreciate now in
life. And this gas station is the gas station of all gas stations.
And what makes it so special It's got like a coffee bar in there,
kind of It is the seventeenth of April twenty twenty four. My name's Corey
Winfield. My name's Marnie Winfield. This is the two seventeen Recovery Podcast.
We've taken a break for weeks. It's a been a minute, seriously,
we have. And if you can tell, we're still kind of sick.
Onto the weather. Yes, yeah, and I think I'm coming out of
it. Then I'm like, hey, everything's cool, everything's good. And
then the medicine wears off, and then I felt like I ran into a
door and I'm like need now and but yeah, but today we're on the
road. We're in blooming in Field, bloom okay, and that's right outside
de trollat. Yes, and there's a base ball game tomorrow. Aren't we
inning everything? Question? Right? Right? Yeah? Sorry? As like
the Traders show, wasn't I They always do that, they'll throw a question
at the end. No, but we're down in Detroit area because the Detroit
Tigers gave us tickets to their game against the Texas Rangers tomorrow, So we're
going to go to the game. Yes, And it was awesome. They
gave us some tickets and we got with our friends who just happened to have
some recovery homes in the area of Traverse City, and we're like, hey,
bring your people and they were like, okay, you can bring a
couple of them, Like okay, cool. So they're coming down. Justin's
coming down, Mitch is coming down, our friend Jeff Lang is coming down.
So it's pretty cool that we got to bring some recovery people to an
actual event that other people go to and we can show them we can have
just as much fun sober. That's it. So it's pretty cool. A
lot of people are like, hey, in a group is going camping in
the woods, all right, cool, But to be out in public doing
things like we went to the Lions game. You know, it's like to
be out and do stuff that regular people do. And there's nothing wrong with
doing stuff with your ANA bodies, your AA buddies, but to do this
normal stuff justin he loves going to concerts. You know a lot of people
are like, WHOA, I couldn't go to a concert sober. Ye,
Well, get a couple of years into your belt and you probably can.
You know, things change your perspective. Everything changes when it flips from how
am I going to do anything if I can't drink? How am I going
to do laundry? How am I going to watch TV? How'm I gonna
have six? Never thought I never ever really thought that though, because yeah,
drinking, sex wasn't even on my mind, so it was. It
was one of those moments though, when it when it flipped for me,
when it went to like, no, I don't want to drink today because
I don't want to be miserable tomorrow. And then you build they call it
recovery capital, and you build enough of that up and trust me, you
won't want to drink. And I'm not saying I'm never going to drink get
in the rest of my life because that'd be stupid. I don't know what's
going to happen, but today I'm not and I have no plans on it,
that's for sure. I know if bad things happen in my life,
drinking, it's not going to make it better. But some things in life
I haven't faced yet, so I don't know. But hopefully God's got my
back, so I think it will be okay. But with us, like
I said, besides being sick, the whole crew was sick and I was
the last one to get it. But you're still kind of under the weather.
I think that what we had, since I'm a doctor on the radio,
is bronchitis. I'm not quite sure. It's some kind of just cold,
can you know. I'm not sure. It's miserable though, And you
have like a different type of it because you have like because I have like
dry mouth, you have like wet mouth. No, I have like I
have like coughing, sneezing, you know, congestion ol No, but it's
it's a respiratory thing, I think for sure, like bronchitis. But yeah,
so I'm kind of I've been pushing through it, so it's but it's
just it's just like angering For me, it's like not letting up. And
I've been taking medication, but there's only certain music can take, you know,
because I'm pregnant, so so that limits me. But no, it's
I'll get through it. But I wasn't going to miss out on this,
on this game. And we had a bunch of different We had our baby
shower recently, which is amazing, but we never even really recapped that.
No, we haven't told you because we've been sick. It's it's really hard
to get the energy to do anything, let alone like have like a spirited
conversation about things when you're just like literally running on empty. Yeah, and
then you sound like that. Nobody wants to hear that. It sounds like
it doesn't even sound good. I'm every single person I was talking to you,
they'd be talking to me for like three minutes and they'd be like,
you're sick. I'm like, yeah, I'm not feeling the best, but
I'm hanging in there, you know. And this was like six or seven
after the onset of it, where I talked to my doctor and I'm like,
am I going to get anybody else sick? She's like, chances are
no but doesn't mean you feel great. So anyway, just like I said,
pushing through it. But no, I wanted to comment on the Tigers
thing. I think it's really cool for this group to have an opportunity.
And I thought about it in a couple of different ways, because like you
were talking about doing things in sobriety, and it's some people, some people
who really are are are concerned about the fact that they know they want to
stay sober, but they they're questioning what it is that they're comfortable doing,
you know, in early recovery, Like where can I be where I feel
comfortable? Like we tell everybody, like be careful of triggering places, be
care careful of triggering people experiences, et cetera. And here we are,
you know, saying, here's this opportunity. But the nice thing about what
this group is doing is we're going together. So there's that support piece there
where it's like we're exposing you to what is the real world. You know,
baseball games, football games, concerts, all that stuff. There's drinking
there. You know, you're gonna smell weed or people who smell like weed.
All that stuff is still in the world and we're not We would never
want to put anybody in danger. But at the same time, it is
what it is, and so this is a good opportunity to kind of like
together, you know, as a group, be like if this is how
you know, see how you feel, explore your feelings, like explore how
like are you nervous? Does this make you uncomfortable? Does this make you
feel like you want to drink? You know? And it makes you learn
a little bit more about where you're at in your own recovery. But I
can you know, guarantee that the people that are coming with us to this
game, you know, we're all going to support each other, so that
doesn't happen, you know, during the game tomorrow. But yeah, so
I like that piece. Yeah, And I invited a friend of mine to
Ron and his wife are coming. They're not in recovery right, So,
and I was thinking about this if Froan decides, hey, I'm gonna have
a because I can just see like Ron going I want a beer and a
dog. You know, I'm going to ask him to can you have that
beer and dog over there? You know, just how to respect for the
people around him. And I don't think that Ron's type of guy that's going
to be like, well, I have to have a beer and a hot
dog when I watch our game. Maybe he is, but I'm just going
to ask him, you know, like, man, can you do that
over there? Please? Just how to respect for the other people that are
are here in recovery. But regardless though, there are going to be people
around us having beer and hot dogs, you know, So maybe I don't
ask him. I don't know. We'll see what happens. And that's another
thing for people in early recovery. Don't start in your head already planning the
things that are going to go wrong, right, don't plan things like that
hasn't even happened yet, So don't worry about it. You know, you'll
save yourself a lot of worrying if you can just go with the flow and
if it does happen, then okay, cool, I have a plan.
Yeah. And to show them though that, yeah, they can have fun
in recovery and be around that. I think it's cool. And will it
trigger some of them prob Maybe? I don't know. Yeah, you know,
but the more you face that stuff, the easier it gets the next
time. Yeah, exactly. And I mean being realistic is we face challenges
every single day, you know, you go and we were even driving here
and it was like we had to stop for gas, and it's like do
you stop for gas at the place that says gas station liquor store or do
you stop at some place just says gas station. And there might be some
people who are at a certain juncture of their life where that is actually a
decision they need to think about. And I respect that, and that's okay
because that's where you're at. But it is a piece of of I don't
know, it's exposure therapy, right, it's kind of like knowing that this
is this is what's out there, and I'm gonna have to face it and
I need to make the right decisions, you know, every day because even
though because like we came to off the off the freeway, we come to
stop and then yeah, there's gas station right next to us and gas liquor
big sign. It was even on their big sign, you know, by
the road, and then you look across and it's like jerky spot. Now
I know they both sell a liquor. You know, you can get it
either one, but if you can put yourself in that liquor store, like
if you roll up on that sign and you look over and you're like liquor
and you're already in your mind going in there, and you remember the smells,
and you know, if you're already in that place, definitely go to
the other one, you know, but don't tell yourself. Some people like
I want to touch myself. I'm gonna go in there and see. Now,
look I did it, Okay, next time you won't, you know,
like, it's it's not worth it. It's it's really not worth it.
And you can say you tested yourself by even testing yourself. If you
would test yourself, you know, and just say no, you lost,
and just go to the other one. But and then just don't look for
it, because the other one, like I said, it was prominent,
like liquor store, and you could in your mind go through there already before
you even move your car another inch. And that's that's the trouble of it,
yep, you know, And that's addiction. That's how it works.
It's it's in your brain is telling you you need it, you got to
have it. Yeah, it does go away, it'll come back every once
in a while. Hey man, don't you want to do this? And
then it's just no, you know, it's it's easy to tell it no,
sometimes easier than others. And I know early on for some people it's
a struggle. And like I was saying earlier, to picture yourself going to
a baseball game, watching a baseball game, a football game, and you're
not drunk, you don't have a buzz on? What how is that possible?
It is? Trust me, it really is. And we did have
our baby showery that was last weekend. It was kind of unique. Yeah,
we could do a family member count. How many mine versus your thirty
seven six six six that's counting you and Parker. Yeah, I got counted
in both. Yeah, No, it was. It was downstate where I'm
from, and we rented an airbnb that was big enough for kind of everybody
to get together, and we did and it was it was pretty fun.
It was a little stressful maybe, I don't. I don't know. It
wasn't too bad. It went. No, I don't think. I don't
think it was very I don't think it was stressful. I mean it's considering
the fact fact that there was that many people and it wasn't a small space
by any means, but I mean they filled it up pretty good, you
know, and the event itself, I mean, the party was only a
couple hours, you know, and we didn't really have like a structure of
when things were going to happen when, so part of that was just we
let it flow to kind of like happened how it happened. Food came out,
you know, we had the food. Basically it was just visiting and
eating and opening gifts and kind of just there were lots of introductions because some
of the family I hadn't even met yet because we got married during COVID and
so there's a lot typically who you'd meet at what would have been like a
wedding. We didn't have that. So this was the first time that I'd
really met any of these a lot of your family face to face. Yeah,
and I didn't I don't know. I felt like I didn't talk to
enough people. And I was tired. I was tired whole time, sick,
were getting over being sick. Like I wasn't contagious or anything, but
like you said earlier, like this thing has been sticking around for a while.
Yeah, and it was nice to see those people. I'm glad my
my cousin Tim came everything it was nice to see that. It was nice
to see everybody, uh, stepbrother, aunts, uncle, and I don't
know, it was it was pretty cool. Only like col people showed up
on drugs, so it wasn't too bad. Well let me ask you this,
though I don't think I asked you this. So, how many of
those people haven't seen you since you've been sober? Well, my stepbrother Claude
passed away, if you years ago, and I think I seen all those
people, and you met those people there too, like just like likes like
yeah, this is my wife Marnie. Yeah, nothing that you could actually
sink in crying. Yeah, it was. It was just it was a
bad time. Yeah. And because I forgot that you had met my uncle
Ron and I was like, oh hey o'bron. He's like, yeah,
yeah I met her. I was like, oh yeah, it's a funeral,
that's right. Yeah, that was a tough one. I missed.
Messed up brother. He'd have been like he did good Corey, but he'd
be very proud of me. I know he had some demons of his own
and I don't know. We just yeah, anyway, I wish it would
have been different, and everything happens for a reason, even though it seems
like why you know, maybe heaven really is that awesome and he's up there
chilling and he's like, hey, this is great. I'm watching over you
too. Man, I'll take all the angels. I can get all the
support. But but yeah, he would he would have been like a good
job, man, like you did good. But it was it was nice,
like I said that, to see some people that I haven't seen in
a while, and just kind of surprised that some of them showed up,
you know, like I said, like my cousin Tim, Like I've always
liked him since I was a little kid, but I don't ever see him
hardly, you know, And when's the last time I took the time to
show up, you know, for something, And Tim's been there. So
that was very very cool. And you know, they gave us gifts,
and the gifts are cool until you have to load them in the car.
Then that's what nephews are for. I found out. Then your mom kind
of helped me with that one. Just I don't know what it is about
you and your mother. You like to like do stuff all the time,
clean, it doesn't matter what time it's ten thirty at night and you just
beat, let's load the truck, you know, lights like, let's move
the truck to where they're back up next to each other. Then like,
let's make it easy. I got that from her, and it's like,
let's load them up now. I'm like, you can do in the morning
after I sleep. Oh, let's do it now. I'll get the diapers.
So I'm like whatever, So I do it. And then your mom
was like, hey, we can load this stuff up and I was like
nope, said nope, not tonight. I moved the diapers. That I'm
good. And then my nephews are like, hey, we can help or
something, and she was like Corey, don't you think that you can get
them something to do or something like that? And I was like absolutely,
yes, you're like little super troopers they were. And you gave them like
cake buft over cake as a whole cake. Yeah, I did. And
this from Costco is that good boat was in. Yeah, there you go.
It's delicious. The cake is so good if you've never been there,
it's worth the Costco membership. Yeah. Yeah. Instead of instead of going
to Costco because Costco has a sign its like you don't need a Costco card
if you're coming here for alcohol, just going there and be like, nope,
coming here for cake. I'm not buying your stupid card, and then
just go get a cake and leave and be like why because I'm not an
alcoholic, I can't come in here, you know, just make up something
like that. But no, the cake is really good. And you gave
me a cake and the leftover ice cream and they were you said. Their
eyes were like, yeah, this is the best day ever. Yeah it
was, and so I said something too, and I was like, yeah,
we gave you that cake so you can help us. And I think
they would have helped us anyway. But yeah, they were going to town.
The twins. Yeah, they're like ten eleven, ten, I don't
know. They kept telling me there were different ages and it was really confusing
me and I didn't want to do maths. I was like, okay,
whatever, But yeah, so that was that was really cool that they loaded
all the stuff up and then yeah, I had to drive back home and
unloaded all and it was it was a good time. Not too much fighting
when on having parents, because like that movie for Christmases, that's that's us.
You know, you have your mom and dad who separated, my mom
and dad separated, and you know they all could come together in one peaceful
house, yeah, without too much going on and resentments and stuff, and
especially when there's a baby. Yeah, you know, like I don't know
if they think about it weird or anything, but like, hey, like
we had something to do with this here, you know, I know.
I mean I think that the kinds of feeling that I got to from at
least both my parents vocalizing this is like like how the realization of how far,
like how far we've come, you know, from being interactive addiction,
you know what I mean, Like this whole, the whole party, the
whole you know, presence of being the family and having it be like this
healthy and wholesome get together is so like what they were praying for. You
know. In fact, I think it was. It's probably so they probably
didn't they couldn't even wrap their heads around that something like this actually happening in
our lives, I bet you. So that kind of was Like I think
at least my dad like he was just like this is amazing, and he
didn't mean like this party is amazing, or like this pregnancy is amazing,
or like this cake is amazing. He meant, like this moment like this,
the realization that this is actually real and here now is amazing, and
it truly is you know, yeah, because we're old and awesome, because
we're sober and yeah yeah and that too, and being our parents' favorite,
you know, not seriously, this has it's a claim. Yeah, that's
just honest truth. They both know it. They all know it. On
my dad's favorite, I am my mom's favorite. It's just widen it.
It's obvious you're your dad's favorite obviously, and your mom hands down you're her
favorite. Ad options there really you know what I'm saying. And so I
wonder if just the process of like, hey, this is how this works.
Parker our son, he's gonna be born in a month, he would
what that's just crazy that you said that. Yeah, how many This might
be the last podcast you and I ever do without No, we're gonna have
to. We're gonna have to one. The time is taking. No,
I'm just saying crying or like, hey we got to get a podcast,
and not too loud, but I was saying Parker would be their favorite.
Yes, I think that'd be pretty obvious. We're all also were the most
difficult children. No, we we showed them what they could handle. You
know, they didn't think they could handle at all, but we showed them
they could. Right, they're stronger than they thought. They wanted to exercise
their skill set. Most times they wanted to just give up. Show Jesus
what you're made of. Told you to keep going, and you did,
And here we are for you. We have just gave up and let us
die in a ditch somewhere. You wouldn't be listening to this podcast. They
wouldn't have been at a baby shower, right. So they're kind of selfish
in the way if you think about it. They really did it for themselves
so they could have their special grandchild. But they love the most. Hey,
man, my brother he's got cool kids too, and my sister.
They're great. But just facts as facts, you know. So were they
being selfish by helping us live and sticking by her side through our struggles of
addiction? I think so? Maybe, Man, he's saying, that's just
thrown it out there. It's a theory. Yeah, my aunt Ruthann did
not give me that theory at all, Just saying, man, my Ruth
and she knows that Parker is going to be the favorite. Yeah, yeah,
I think if my memory serves me right, But again, I was
in a fog of sickness. I think she was like, Corey, you
know that that's going to be the favorite grandchild of everybody here that has grandchildren.
I said, Ruthanne, like that's not nice. She's like, no,
Corey, for real, And she's like, I listened to your podcast,
you am Arnie. Don't you be talking about this on there? I
said, I won't, ruth Anne, I said I won't. I was
like, make sure you listen, because I'll make sure not to throw you
under the bus. But nobody is getting thrown under the bus. And now
she's probably listening to this thing. And did I say that? Did I
say that to core Yeah? Now she's questing herself because well it is true
though, so she's like, well, yeah, probably, Well I'll love
him to will be the special one? Yeah, not like special one,
but you know, yeah, the most loved, yes, but the grandparents.
So that's the grandparent talk for today. Thanks for listening now, and
then work stuff's going pretty great and crazy. Adam, I don't think we've
talked about it, but he maybe we did. He took a job as
a recovery homes assistant manager for Addiction Treatment Services. Yes, so it's a
pretty exciting, Yeah, pretty big move for him. He's going to the
game tomorrow, so we're looking forward to seeing him. And you know,
he's doing great. Man, he's doing great in that role. Everything I've
heard from people so good for him. Yeah, and he loves it and
it's great. Yeah. So that's it's nice to see people grow. And
like everybody that has worked for two seventeen, I've told him like, I
want you to grow and learn and like the stuff, especially with Adam,
and I'm like, I want you to write a blog, I want you
to be creative, I want you to do this, I want you to
do that. And that's not really Adam, you know. So when he
did find something, you know, an opportunity came along and it was just
like all right, man, that makes sense, Like go after it,
go get it. Yeah. So I'm proud of him for that. But
justin he wanted his review the other day, so I gave it to him.
I was like, yeah, you want me to write this in your
like report or whatever, like I'm supposed to posit in your file he's like,
yes, please do. But just how far he's come in a year,
you know, and Mitchell as well, you know, the stuff that
he's learned. It's crazy. And when you give people a chance to grow
and to learn different things, and sometimes they might hate it at first,
but at the end of the day they love it. You know. I
love when Mitchelle's it Kim for not to the door, right, you know,
cause I used to yell at Mitch for that, Like, Mitch,
it looks like crap, don't half asseid do it right? And now to
see him kind of with that attitude of you know, with the other people
like, look, man, you don't half asset. Yeah, and it's
just it's funny, you know, and justin you know too, but it's
just it's great. And we actually posted a job on indeed you did actually
and we've gotten some people like we just posted it. Was it yesterday?
Yeah, yesterday morning? And we've got people applying for it. And I
know a couple people like they sent me messages. I don't think I've had
a chance to respond to me. They're like, hey, I applied for
that job. It's all right, cool. Yeah, we're kind of like
just a we're trying to get well, we're trying to keep being productive despite
the not feeling. That doesn't mean that we're actually one hundred percent on top
of all the tasks. Yeah we have. We had a lot to do
coming up, so you know, if you're interested. But it's another thing
too to like there's some people that clearly don't even know what two seventeen recovery
is that applied for it. I think one person, you know, worked
at like Jimbo's Rescue car Rescue and Recovery or something different but different, kind
of different type of recovery recovery, Like we're not going to repo cars or
anything. Yeah, yeah, there's the you're gonna get the keyword. The
keyword. Uh. I think we should call them in do interviews and have
justin interview those people like justin, Well, I think it's a mistake.
They're they're playing the numbers game, Like if I get responses back, then
maybe I will maybe I am a good fit for this job. It's like,
did you read the small print. It's not even small it's the regular
print. It just says this is a pure recovery coach job, which means
we're you know, we want you to have experience, and you know firsthand
experience in and what you know about sharing your sharing your story about your experiences
and your own addiction. But we could really mess with people on this,
Like we could like have people come in and be like, well, let's
get you doing this for a couple of days to see if you like it,
and then like have them like trying to like recover people's like pets or
something. I don't know, Like there's a snake down there. There's a
snake. Man. We got find out who this mouse belongs to and take
Susan to take Susan around the block. Is this mouse yours? It's terrible.
I know, it's not even funny. I'm telling you. The sickness
has got me. Yeah, all I got spacial expressions that are funny now
and you can't see those right now, so it's kind of pointless. But
anyway, we're in the hotel and I'm sleepy and I'm tired, yeah,
and we have a long day tomorrow. But I did want to do a
podcast before it got to June, and I don't know, it's just been
forever, but like I said, I was gonna do with Mitch like two
weekends ago, but it was just it was too bad. It just sounded
too horrible. And then like even right now, like we don't sound all
that great, but I don't know. People don't like to listen to people
who sound sick. But I just felt like I had to get one out
and tell people what's uping. We're still live. Yeah, we're still sober.
Because sometimes people be wondering, they'd be like, wait, what yeah,
that's what they did. It was two weeks ago. They've been doing
like two days, three days a week week two days, three days,
yeah, two weeks but no podcast. What's going on? They're still sober.
Everything's all right, We're good guys, all good. So oh and
if you want to check out, I added Kim's page and Matt's page.
Matt's another new guy we brought on is part time cover coaching training. Yeah,
he's starting he's doing his coach training end of this month. So it's
Kim. Yeah. And added their pages at two seventeen Recovery not They both
have emails. Matt is writing a blog already. He like came out to
get hot. He's like, hey, when can I start that blog?
I was like, well, I was gonna let you get your feet wet.
He's like, ready, go, I want to do it all right.
Yeah, but check out his blog and check out his page, and
check out Kim's page. She was so proud today when she saw that,
and she was like, oh my god. She thought that was pretty cool.
That's awesome. To seventeen recovery dot com slash Kim or to seventeen recovery
dot com slash Matt. Yes, and check other pages. But until next
time, go Tigers. Maybe yeah, definitely the tickets and much love to
the Tigers for supporting recovery people in recovery. They could have given these tickets
to probably hundreds of nonprofit organizations and they gave it to us, So yeah,
much love and yes, we will be rooting for the Tigers tomorrow.
Yes, and next time we'll hopefully we'll be over this whatever this sickness is
that we have going on and sounding a lot better, so yes, thank
you, we'll talk about it all right. Take care everyone. Thanks for
listening to the two seventeen Recovery podcast. We hope you come back for our
next episode.