WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.680 --> 00:00:07.519 This it's the two seventeen Recovery Podcast with Corey Winfield. Well, fat people, 2 00:00:07.519 --> 00:00:10.199 we really hate it. I'm speaking for all fat people. We hate 3 00:00:10.199 --> 00:00:14.000 being hot. Show me one fat person that likes being hot and have some 4 00:00:14.080 --> 00:00:18.160 words of them, like why are you playing? You like being hot? 5 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:23.679 Bro and coal holes Marney Winfield, the little things that I appreciate now in 6 00:00:23.760 --> 00:00:27.559 life. And this gas station is the gas station of all gas stations. 7 00:00:27.640 --> 00:00:31.120 And what makes it so special It's got like a coffee bar in there, 8 00:00:31.239 --> 00:00:39.600 kind of It is the seventeenth of April twenty twenty four. My name's Corey 9 00:00:39.640 --> 00:00:44.000 Winfield. My name's Marnie Winfield. This is the two seventeen Recovery Podcast. 10 00:00:44.079 --> 00:00:47.479 We've taken a break for weeks. It's a been a minute, seriously, 11 00:00:47.560 --> 00:00:51.640 we have. And if you can tell, we're still kind of sick. 12 00:00:52.000 --> 00:00:55.359 Onto the weather. Yes, yeah, and I think I'm coming out of 13 00:00:55.359 --> 00:00:58.479 it. Then I'm like, hey, everything's cool, everything's good. And 14 00:00:58.520 --> 00:01:00.920 then the medicine wears off, and then I felt like I ran into a 15 00:01:00.960 --> 00:01:08.480 door and I'm like need now and but yeah, but today we're on the 16 00:01:08.560 --> 00:01:17.879 road. We're in blooming in Field, bloom okay, and that's right outside 17 00:01:18.400 --> 00:01:26.879 de trollat. Yes, and there's a base ball game tomorrow. Aren't we 18 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:33.000 inning everything? Question? Right? Right? Yeah? Sorry? As like 19 00:01:33.040 --> 00:01:37.879 the Traders show, wasn't I They always do that, they'll throw a question 20 00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:41.959 at the end. No, but we're down in Detroit area because the Detroit 21 00:01:41.959 --> 00:01:46.400 Tigers gave us tickets to their game against the Texas Rangers tomorrow, So we're 22 00:01:46.400 --> 00:01:49.400 going to go to the game. Yes, And it was awesome. They 23 00:01:49.400 --> 00:01:53.840 gave us some tickets and we got with our friends who just happened to have 24 00:01:53.879 --> 00:01:57.480 some recovery homes in the area of Traverse City, and we're like, hey, 25 00:01:57.920 --> 00:02:00.959 bring your people and they were like, okay, you can bring a 26 00:02:00.959 --> 00:02:06.920 couple of them, Like okay, cool. So they're coming down. Justin's 27 00:02:06.959 --> 00:02:12.960 coming down, Mitch is coming down, our friend Jeff Lang is coming down. 28 00:02:14.319 --> 00:02:19.479 So it's pretty cool that we got to bring some recovery people to an 29 00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:24.039 actual event that other people go to and we can show them we can have 30 00:02:24.159 --> 00:02:28.800 just as much fun sober. That's it. So it's pretty cool. A 31 00:02:28.840 --> 00:02:31.039 lot of people are like, hey, in a group is going camping in 32 00:02:31.080 --> 00:02:37.159 the woods, all right, cool, But to be out in public doing 33 00:02:37.199 --> 00:02:38.840 things like we went to the Lions game. You know, it's like to 34 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:43.439 be out and do stuff that regular people do. And there's nothing wrong with 35 00:02:43.479 --> 00:02:46.719 doing stuff with your ANA bodies, your AA buddies, but to do this 36 00:02:46.800 --> 00:02:50.120 normal stuff justin he loves going to concerts. You know a lot of people 37 00:02:50.159 --> 00:02:52.759 are like, WHOA, I couldn't go to a concert sober. Ye, 38 00:02:53.159 --> 00:02:55.639 Well, get a couple of years into your belt and you probably can. 39 00:02:57.599 --> 00:03:01.759 You know, things change your perspective. Everything changes when it flips from how 40 00:03:01.800 --> 00:03:06.800 am I going to do anything if I can't drink? How am I going 41 00:03:06.879 --> 00:03:09.039 to do laundry? How am I going to watch TV? How'm I gonna 42 00:03:09.039 --> 00:03:15.400 have six? Never thought I never ever really thought that though, because yeah, 43 00:03:15.800 --> 00:03:20.439 drinking, sex wasn't even on my mind, so it was. It 44 00:03:20.479 --> 00:03:22.759 was one of those moments though, when it when it flipped for me, 45 00:03:23.319 --> 00:03:25.360 when it went to like, no, I don't want to drink today because 46 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:29.879 I don't want to be miserable tomorrow. And then you build they call it 47 00:03:30.520 --> 00:03:35.479 recovery capital, and you build enough of that up and trust me, you 48 00:03:35.719 --> 00:03:38.520 won't want to drink. And I'm not saying I'm never going to drink get 49 00:03:38.560 --> 00:03:40.520 in the rest of my life because that'd be stupid. I don't know what's 50 00:03:40.560 --> 00:03:45.159 going to happen, but today I'm not and I have no plans on it, 51 00:03:45.439 --> 00:03:46.639 that's for sure. I know if bad things happen in my life, 52 00:03:46.719 --> 00:03:52.000 drinking, it's not going to make it better. But some things in life 53 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:59.199 I haven't faced yet, so I don't know. But hopefully God's got my 54 00:03:59.280 --> 00:04:02.719 back, so I think it will be okay. But with us, like 55 00:04:02.719 --> 00:04:08.520 I said, besides being sick, the whole crew was sick and I was 56 00:04:08.520 --> 00:04:10.599 the last one to get it. But you're still kind of under the weather. 57 00:04:11.560 --> 00:04:15.000 I think that what we had, since I'm a doctor on the radio, 58 00:04:15.520 --> 00:04:23.920 is bronchitis. I'm not quite sure. It's some kind of just cold, 59 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:30.319 can you know. I'm not sure. It's miserable though, And you 60 00:04:30.360 --> 00:04:32.920 have like a different type of it because you have like because I have like 61 00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:38.120 dry mouth, you have like wet mouth. No, I have like I 62 00:04:38.199 --> 00:04:46.720 have like coughing, sneezing, you know, congestion ol No, but it's 63 00:04:46.920 --> 00:04:51.959 it's a respiratory thing, I think for sure, like bronchitis. But yeah, 64 00:04:53.480 --> 00:04:59.399 so I'm kind of I've been pushing through it, so it's but it's 65 00:04:59.399 --> 00:05:02.079 just it's just like angering For me, it's like not letting up. And 66 00:05:02.120 --> 00:05:06.560 I've been taking medication, but there's only certain music can take, you know, 67 00:05:09.160 --> 00:05:13.800 because I'm pregnant, so so that limits me. But no, it's 68 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:15.839 I'll get through it. But I wasn't going to miss out on this, 69 00:05:16.079 --> 00:05:19.480 on this game. And we had a bunch of different We had our baby 70 00:05:19.519 --> 00:05:27.279 shower recently, which is amazing, but we never even really recapped that. 71 00:05:27.439 --> 00:05:30.360 No, we haven't told you because we've been sick. It's it's really hard 72 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:34.759 to get the energy to do anything, let alone like have like a spirited 73 00:05:34.800 --> 00:05:40.480 conversation about things when you're just like literally running on empty. Yeah, and 74 00:05:40.519 --> 00:05:44.279 then you sound like that. Nobody wants to hear that. It sounds like 75 00:05:46.240 --> 00:05:47.920 it doesn't even sound good. I'm every single person I was talking to you, 76 00:05:47.920 --> 00:05:50.399 they'd be talking to me for like three minutes and they'd be like, 77 00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:55.959 you're sick. I'm like, yeah, I'm not feeling the best, but 78 00:05:56.120 --> 00:05:59.800 I'm hanging in there, you know. And this was like six or seven 79 00:06:00.319 --> 00:06:03.199 after the onset of it, where I talked to my doctor and I'm like, 80 00:06:03.199 --> 00:06:06.199 am I going to get anybody else sick? She's like, chances are 81 00:06:06.319 --> 00:06:14.560 no but doesn't mean you feel great. So anyway, just like I said, 82 00:06:14.600 --> 00:06:17.319 pushing through it. But no, I wanted to comment on the Tigers 83 00:06:17.360 --> 00:06:21.279 thing. I think it's really cool for this group to have an opportunity. 84 00:06:23.160 --> 00:06:26.079 And I thought about it in a couple of different ways, because like you 85 00:06:26.120 --> 00:06:31.279 were talking about doing things in sobriety, and it's some people, some people 86 00:06:31.319 --> 00:06:39.120 who really are are are concerned about the fact that they know they want to 87 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:44.160 stay sober, but they they're questioning what it is that they're comfortable doing, 88 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:47.680 you know, in early recovery, Like where can I be where I feel 89 00:06:47.720 --> 00:06:51.920 comfortable? Like we tell everybody, like be careful of triggering places, be 90 00:06:53.040 --> 00:06:58.439 care careful of triggering people experiences, et cetera. And here we are, 91 00:06:58.560 --> 00:07:02.360 you know, saying, here's this opportunity. But the nice thing about what 92 00:07:02.519 --> 00:07:06.920 this group is doing is we're going together. So there's that support piece there 93 00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:13.040 where it's like we're exposing you to what is the real world. You know, 94 00:07:13.160 --> 00:07:18.279 baseball games, football games, concerts, all that stuff. There's drinking 95 00:07:18.360 --> 00:07:23.560 there. You know, you're gonna smell weed or people who smell like weed. 96 00:07:25.560 --> 00:07:30.199 All that stuff is still in the world and we're not We would never 97 00:07:30.199 --> 00:07:33.759 want to put anybody in danger. But at the same time, it is 98 00:07:33.759 --> 00:07:36.959 what it is, and so this is a good opportunity to kind of like 99 00:07:38.720 --> 00:07:43.519 together, you know, as a group, be like if this is how 100 00:07:43.680 --> 00:07:46.879 you know, see how you feel, explore your feelings, like explore how 101 00:07:46.959 --> 00:07:49.399 like are you nervous? Does this make you uncomfortable? Does this make you 102 00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:53.399 feel like you want to drink? You know? And it makes you learn 103 00:07:53.399 --> 00:07:57.639 a little bit more about where you're at in your own recovery. But I 104 00:07:57.680 --> 00:08:01.360 can you know, guarantee that the people that are coming with us to this 105 00:08:01.439 --> 00:08:03.480 game, you know, we're all going to support each other, so that 106 00:08:03.519 --> 00:08:09.519 doesn't happen, you know, during the game tomorrow. But yeah, so 107 00:08:09.959 --> 00:08:13.360 I like that piece. Yeah, And I invited a friend of mine to 108 00:08:13.519 --> 00:08:18.079 Ron and his wife are coming. They're not in recovery right, So, 109 00:08:18.439 --> 00:08:20.839 and I was thinking about this if Froan decides, hey, I'm gonna have 110 00:08:20.879 --> 00:08:24.680 a because I can just see like Ron going I want a beer and a 111 00:08:24.759 --> 00:08:28.319 dog. You know, I'm going to ask him to can you have that 112 00:08:28.399 --> 00:08:31.639 beer and dog over there? You know, just how to respect for the 113 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:35.039 people around him. And I don't think that Ron's type of guy that's going 114 00:08:35.120 --> 00:08:37.320 to be like, well, I have to have a beer and a hot 115 00:08:37.360 --> 00:08:41.440 dog when I watch our game. Maybe he is, but I'm just going 116 00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:43.679 to ask him, you know, like, man, can you do that 117 00:08:43.720 --> 00:08:45.879 over there? Please? Just how to respect for the other people that are 118 00:08:45.799 --> 00:08:50.279 are here in recovery. But regardless though, there are going to be people 119 00:08:50.360 --> 00:08:52.840 around us having beer and hot dogs, you know, So maybe I don't 120 00:08:52.840 --> 00:08:58.159 ask him. I don't know. We'll see what happens. And that's another 121 00:08:58.200 --> 00:09:03.759 thing for people in early recovery. Don't start in your head already planning the 122 00:09:03.799 --> 00:09:07.679 things that are going to go wrong, right, don't plan things like that 123 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:11.200 hasn't even happened yet, So don't worry about it. You know, you'll 124 00:09:11.200 --> 00:09:15.919 save yourself a lot of worrying if you can just go with the flow and 125 00:09:16.039 --> 00:09:18.559 if it does happen, then okay, cool, I have a plan. 126 00:09:20.639 --> 00:09:24.240 Yeah. And to show them though that, yeah, they can have fun 127 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:26.440 in recovery and be around that. I think it's cool. And will it 128 00:09:26.519 --> 00:09:30.840 trigger some of them prob Maybe? I don't know. Yeah, you know, 129 00:09:30.919 --> 00:09:33.279 but the more you face that stuff, the easier it gets the next 130 00:09:33.320 --> 00:09:37.840 time. Yeah, exactly. And I mean being realistic is we face challenges 131 00:09:37.879 --> 00:09:43.799 every single day, you know, you go and we were even driving here 132 00:09:43.799 --> 00:09:46.480 and it was like we had to stop for gas, and it's like do 133 00:09:46.480 --> 00:09:50.159 you stop for gas at the place that says gas station liquor store or do 134 00:09:50.159 --> 00:09:54.559 you stop at some place just says gas station. And there might be some 135 00:09:54.600 --> 00:10:00.480 people who are at a certain juncture of their life where that is actually a 136 00:10:00.519 --> 00:10:03.840 decision they need to think about. And I respect that, and that's okay 137 00:10:03.879 --> 00:10:09.879 because that's where you're at. But it is a piece of of I don't 138 00:10:09.879 --> 00:10:15.679 know, it's exposure therapy, right, it's kind of like knowing that this 139 00:10:15.759 --> 00:10:18.600 is this is what's out there, and I'm gonna have to face it and 140 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:22.080 I need to make the right decisions, you know, every day because even 141 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:24.720 though because like we came to off the off the freeway, we come to 142 00:10:24.759 --> 00:10:30.320 stop and then yeah, there's gas station right next to us and gas liquor 143 00:10:30.440 --> 00:10:33.240 big sign. It was even on their big sign, you know, by 144 00:10:33.279 --> 00:10:39.399 the road, and then you look across and it's like jerky spot. Now 145 00:10:39.759 --> 00:10:41.960 I know they both sell a liquor. You know, you can get it 146 00:10:43.000 --> 00:10:46.799 either one, but if you can put yourself in that liquor store, like 147 00:10:46.799 --> 00:10:48.240 if you roll up on that sign and you look over and you're like liquor 148 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:54.039 and you're already in your mind going in there, and you remember the smells, 149 00:10:54.159 --> 00:10:56.559 and you know, if you're already in that place, definitely go to 150 00:10:56.600 --> 00:11:01.120 the other one, you know, but don't tell yourself. Some people like 151 00:11:01.159 --> 00:11:03.679 I want to touch myself. I'm gonna go in there and see. Now, 152 00:11:05.720 --> 00:11:07.360 look I did it, Okay, next time you won't, you know, 153 00:11:07.480 --> 00:11:11.360 like, it's it's not worth it. It's it's really not worth it. 154 00:11:11.399 --> 00:11:16.360 And you can say you tested yourself by even testing yourself. If you 155 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:18.919 would test yourself, you know, and just say no, you lost, 156 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:22.840 and just go to the other one. But and then just don't look for 157 00:11:22.879 --> 00:11:24.200 it, because the other one, like I said, it was prominent, 158 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:28.240 like liquor store, and you could in your mind go through there already before 159 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:33.159 you even move your car another inch. And that's that's the trouble of it, 160 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:37.159 yep, you know, And that's addiction. That's how it works. 161 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:39.639 It's it's in your brain is telling you you need it, you got to 162 00:11:39.720 --> 00:11:43.279 have it. Yeah, it does go away, it'll come back every once 163 00:11:43.279 --> 00:11:46.919 in a while. Hey man, don't you want to do this? And 164 00:11:46.960 --> 00:11:50.559 then it's just no, you know, it's it's easy to tell it no, 165 00:11:50.720 --> 00:11:52.759 sometimes easier than others. And I know early on for some people it's 166 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:58.120 a struggle. And like I was saying earlier, to picture yourself going to 167 00:11:58.159 --> 00:12:01.919 a baseball game, watching a baseball game, a football game, and you're 168 00:12:01.960 --> 00:12:05.519 not drunk, you don't have a buzz on? What how is that possible? 169 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:11.840 It is? Trust me, it really is. And we did have 170 00:12:11.840 --> 00:12:18.919 our baby showery that was last weekend. It was kind of unique. Yeah, 171 00:12:20.600 --> 00:12:24.879 we could do a family member count. How many mine versus your thirty 172 00:12:24.919 --> 00:12:31.960 seven six six six that's counting you and Parker. Yeah, I got counted 173 00:12:33.000 --> 00:12:35.399 in both. Yeah, No, it was. It was downstate where I'm 174 00:12:35.440 --> 00:12:41.799 from, and we rented an airbnb that was big enough for kind of everybody 175 00:12:41.840 --> 00:12:46.879 to get together, and we did and it was it was pretty fun. 176 00:12:48.279 --> 00:12:50.519 It was a little stressful maybe, I don't. I don't know. It 177 00:12:50.559 --> 00:12:54.360 wasn't too bad. It went. No, I don't think. I don't 178 00:12:54.360 --> 00:12:58.679 think it was very I don't think it was stressful. I mean it's considering 179 00:12:58.679 --> 00:13:03.240 the fact fact that there was that many people and it wasn't a small space 180 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:09.360 by any means, but I mean they filled it up pretty good, you 181 00:13:09.399 --> 00:13:13.080 know, and the event itself, I mean, the party was only a 182 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:18.720 couple hours, you know, and we didn't really have like a structure of 183 00:13:18.840 --> 00:13:24.279 when things were going to happen when, so part of that was just we 184 00:13:24.399 --> 00:13:28.440 let it flow to kind of like happened how it happened. Food came out, 185 00:13:28.519 --> 00:13:31.399 you know, we had the food. Basically it was just visiting and 186 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:39.279 eating and opening gifts and kind of just there were lots of introductions because some 187 00:13:39.320 --> 00:13:43.679 of the family I hadn't even met yet because we got married during COVID and 188 00:13:43.720 --> 00:13:50.399 so there's a lot typically who you'd meet at what would have been like a 189 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:56.960 wedding. We didn't have that. So this was the first time that I'd 190 00:13:56.000 --> 00:14:03.399 really met any of these a lot of your family face to face. Yeah, 191 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:07.039 and I didn't I don't know. I felt like I didn't talk to 192 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:11.440 enough people. And I was tired. I was tired whole time, sick, 193 00:14:13.600 --> 00:14:16.120 were getting over being sick. Like I wasn't contagious or anything, but 194 00:14:16.399 --> 00:14:18.120 like you said earlier, like this thing has been sticking around for a while. 195 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:22.080 Yeah, and it was nice to see those people. I'm glad my 196 00:14:22.080 --> 00:14:26.879 my cousin Tim came everything it was nice to see that. It was nice 197 00:14:26.879 --> 00:14:37.159 to see everybody, uh, stepbrother, aunts, uncle, and I don't 198 00:14:37.200 --> 00:14:41.320 know, it was it was pretty cool. Only like col people showed up 199 00:14:41.320 --> 00:14:43.399 on drugs, so it wasn't too bad. Well let me ask you this, 200 00:14:43.440 --> 00:14:46.159 though I don't think I asked you this. So, how many of 201 00:14:46.200 --> 00:14:58.240 those people haven't seen you since you've been sober? Well, my stepbrother Claude 202 00:14:58.240 --> 00:15:03.200 passed away, if you years ago, and I think I seen all those 203 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:09.960 people, and you met those people there too, like just like likes like 204 00:15:11.320 --> 00:15:16.399 yeah, this is my wife Marnie. Yeah, nothing that you could actually 205 00:15:16.440 --> 00:15:18.480 sink in crying. Yeah, it was. It was just it was a 206 00:15:18.519 --> 00:15:22.879 bad time. Yeah. And because I forgot that you had met my uncle 207 00:15:22.960 --> 00:15:26.399 Ron and I was like, oh hey o'bron. He's like, yeah, 208 00:15:26.440 --> 00:15:28.639 yeah I met her. I was like, oh yeah, it's a funeral, 209 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:35.240 that's right. Yeah, that was a tough one. I missed. 210 00:15:35.240 --> 00:15:41.200 Messed up brother. He'd have been like he did good Corey, but he'd 211 00:15:41.240 --> 00:15:46.200 be very proud of me. I know he had some demons of his own 212 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:52.840 and I don't know. We just yeah, anyway, I wish it would 213 00:15:52.840 --> 00:15:58.519 have been different, and everything happens for a reason, even though it seems 214 00:15:58.600 --> 00:16:03.559 like why you know, maybe heaven really is that awesome and he's up there 215 00:16:03.639 --> 00:16:08.120 chilling and he's like, hey, this is great. I'm watching over you 216 00:16:08.159 --> 00:16:12.919 too. Man, I'll take all the angels. I can get all the 217 00:16:12.919 --> 00:16:18.840 support. But but yeah, he would he would have been like a good 218 00:16:18.919 --> 00:16:22.080 job, man, like you did good. But it was it was nice, 219 00:16:22.120 --> 00:16:23.879 like I said that, to see some people that I haven't seen in 220 00:16:23.919 --> 00:16:26.879 a while, and just kind of surprised that some of them showed up, 221 00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:30.480 you know, like I said, like my cousin Tim, Like I've always 222 00:16:30.519 --> 00:16:33.240 liked him since I was a little kid, but I don't ever see him 223 00:16:33.279 --> 00:16:37.240 hardly, you know, And when's the last time I took the time to 224 00:16:37.240 --> 00:16:41.519 show up, you know, for something, And Tim's been there. So 225 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:45.000 that was very very cool. And you know, they gave us gifts, 226 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:47.679 and the gifts are cool until you have to load them in the car. 227 00:16:48.799 --> 00:16:52.399 Then that's what nephews are for. I found out. Then your mom kind 228 00:16:52.399 --> 00:16:55.559 of helped me with that one. Just I don't know what it is about 229 00:16:56.000 --> 00:16:59.080 you and your mother. You like to like do stuff all the time, 230 00:17:00.080 --> 00:17:03.639 clean, it doesn't matter what time it's ten thirty at night and you just 231 00:17:03.720 --> 00:17:07.640 beat, let's load the truck, you know, lights like, let's move 232 00:17:07.680 --> 00:17:10.279 the truck to where they're back up next to each other. Then like, 233 00:17:10.319 --> 00:17:12.440 let's make it easy. I got that from her, and it's like, 234 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:15.559 let's load them up now. I'm like, you can do in the morning 235 00:17:15.599 --> 00:17:18.720 after I sleep. Oh, let's do it now. I'll get the diapers. 236 00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:22.880 So I'm like whatever, So I do it. And then your mom 237 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:26.720 was like, hey, we can load this stuff up and I was like 238 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:32.720 nope, said nope, not tonight. I moved the diapers. That I'm 239 00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:36.319 good. And then my nephews are like, hey, we can help or 240 00:17:36.359 --> 00:17:38.240 something, and she was like Corey, don't you think that you can get 241 00:17:38.279 --> 00:17:42.000 them something to do or something like that? And I was like absolutely, 242 00:17:42.079 --> 00:17:47.839 yes, you're like little super troopers they were. And you gave them like 243 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:51.960 cake buft over cake as a whole cake. Yeah, I did. And 244 00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:55.359 this from Costco is that good boat was in. Yeah, there you go. 245 00:17:55.720 --> 00:17:57.279 It's delicious. The cake is so good if you've never been there, 246 00:17:57.319 --> 00:18:02.279 it's worth the Costco membership. Yeah. Yeah. Instead of instead of going 247 00:18:02.279 --> 00:18:04.400 to Costco because Costco has a sign its like you don't need a Costco card 248 00:18:04.400 --> 00:18:07.079 if you're coming here for alcohol, just going there and be like, nope, 249 00:18:07.119 --> 00:18:11.319 coming here for cake. I'm not buying your stupid card, and then 250 00:18:11.440 --> 00:18:14.079 just go get a cake and leave and be like why because I'm not an 251 00:18:14.119 --> 00:18:17.079 alcoholic, I can't come in here, you know, just make up something 252 00:18:17.119 --> 00:18:18.319 like that. But no, the cake is really good. And you gave 253 00:18:18.359 --> 00:18:21.920 me a cake and the leftover ice cream and they were you said. Their 254 00:18:21.960 --> 00:18:25.839 eyes were like, yeah, this is the best day ever. Yeah it 255 00:18:25.960 --> 00:18:27.799 was, and so I said something too, and I was like, yeah, 256 00:18:29.000 --> 00:18:30.799 we gave you that cake so you can help us. And I think 257 00:18:30.839 --> 00:18:33.279 they would have helped us anyway. But yeah, they were going to town. 258 00:18:33.359 --> 00:18:38.119 The twins. Yeah, they're like ten eleven, ten, I don't 259 00:18:38.160 --> 00:18:41.440 know. They kept telling me there were different ages and it was really confusing 260 00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:42.119 me and I didn't want to do maths. I was like, okay, 261 00:18:42.119 --> 00:18:47.680 whatever, But yeah, so that was that was really cool that they loaded 262 00:18:47.680 --> 00:18:51.720 all the stuff up and then yeah, I had to drive back home and 263 00:18:51.759 --> 00:18:59.400 unloaded all and it was it was a good time. Not too much fighting 264 00:18:59.480 --> 00:19:07.160 when on having parents, because like that movie for Christmases, that's that's us. 265 00:19:07.200 --> 00:19:11.160 You know, you have your mom and dad who separated, my mom 266 00:19:11.160 --> 00:19:15.240 and dad separated, and you know they all could come together in one peaceful 267 00:19:15.400 --> 00:19:21.119 house, yeah, without too much going on and resentments and stuff, and 268 00:19:21.200 --> 00:19:25.599 especially when there's a baby. Yeah, you know, like I don't know 269 00:19:25.599 --> 00:19:26.960 if they think about it weird or anything, but like, hey, like 270 00:19:29.000 --> 00:19:30.799 we had something to do with this here, you know, I know. 271 00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:37.200 I mean I think that the kinds of feeling that I got to from at 272 00:19:37.279 --> 00:19:45.279 least both my parents vocalizing this is like like how the realization of how far, 273 00:19:45.880 --> 00:19:51.480 like how far we've come, you know, from being interactive addiction, 274 00:19:52.680 --> 00:19:56.240 you know what I mean, Like this whole, the whole party, the 275 00:19:56.279 --> 00:20:02.119 whole you know, presence of being the family and having it be like this 276 00:20:02.240 --> 00:20:10.000 healthy and wholesome get together is so like what they were praying for. You 277 00:20:10.039 --> 00:20:12.160 know. In fact, I think it was. It's probably so they probably 278 00:20:12.200 --> 00:20:18.000 didn't they couldn't even wrap their heads around that something like this actually happening in 279 00:20:18.039 --> 00:20:22.480 our lives, I bet you. So that kind of was Like I think 280 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:26.519 at least my dad like he was just like this is amazing, and he 281 00:20:26.559 --> 00:20:30.079 didn't mean like this party is amazing, or like this pregnancy is amazing, 282 00:20:30.200 --> 00:20:36.039 or like this cake is amazing. He meant, like this moment like this, 283 00:20:36.440 --> 00:20:42.880 the realization that this is actually real and here now is amazing, and 284 00:20:42.960 --> 00:20:52.799 it truly is you know, yeah, because we're old and awesome, because 285 00:20:52.839 --> 00:20:56.279 we're sober and yeah yeah and that too, and being our parents' favorite, 286 00:20:57.160 --> 00:21:00.640 you know, not seriously, this has it's a claim. Yeah, that's 287 00:21:00.680 --> 00:21:03.759 just honest truth. They both know it. They all know it. On 288 00:21:03.880 --> 00:21:11.799 my dad's favorite, I am my mom's favorite. It's just widen it. 289 00:21:11.799 --> 00:21:18.400 It's obvious you're your dad's favorite obviously, and your mom hands down you're her 290 00:21:18.440 --> 00:21:25.759 favorite. Ad options there really you know what I'm saying. And so I 291 00:21:25.839 --> 00:21:30.640 wonder if just the process of like, hey, this is how this works. 292 00:21:30.680 --> 00:21:37.559 Parker our son, he's gonna be born in a month, he would 293 00:21:37.279 --> 00:21:41.160 what that's just crazy that you said that. Yeah, how many This might 294 00:21:41.160 --> 00:21:45.559 be the last podcast you and I ever do without No, we're gonna have 295 00:21:45.599 --> 00:21:49.759 to. We're gonna have to one. The time is taking. No, 296 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:56.160 I'm just saying crying or like, hey we got to get a podcast, 297 00:21:56.200 --> 00:22:02.920 and not too loud, but I was saying Parker would be their favorite. 298 00:22:03.480 --> 00:22:07.480 Yes, I think that'd be pretty obvious. We're all also were the most 299 00:22:07.480 --> 00:22:14.279 difficult children. No, we we showed them what they could handle. You 300 00:22:14.319 --> 00:22:15.720 know, they didn't think they could handle at all, but we showed them 301 00:22:15.759 --> 00:22:19.599 they could. Right, they're stronger than they thought. They wanted to exercise 302 00:22:19.680 --> 00:22:23.920 their skill set. Most times they wanted to just give up. Show Jesus 303 00:22:23.920 --> 00:22:26.519 what you're made of. Told you to keep going, and you did, 304 00:22:26.559 --> 00:22:30.279 And here we are for you. We have just gave up and let us 305 00:22:30.319 --> 00:22:36.279 die in a ditch somewhere. You wouldn't be listening to this podcast. They 306 00:22:36.279 --> 00:22:40.640 wouldn't have been at a baby shower, right. So they're kind of selfish 307 00:22:40.640 --> 00:22:42.480 in the way if you think about it. They really did it for themselves 308 00:22:42.519 --> 00:22:48.720 so they could have their special grandchild. But they love the most. Hey, 309 00:22:48.720 --> 00:22:51.000 man, my brother he's got cool kids too, and my sister. 310 00:22:51.400 --> 00:22:57.119 They're great. But just facts as facts, you know. So were they 311 00:22:57.160 --> 00:23:03.799 being selfish by helping us live and sticking by her side through our struggles of 312 00:23:03.799 --> 00:23:11.799 addiction? I think so? Maybe, Man, he's saying, that's just 313 00:23:11.880 --> 00:23:15.720 thrown it out there. It's a theory. Yeah, my aunt Ruthann did 314 00:23:15.720 --> 00:23:23.039 not give me that theory at all, Just saying, man, my Ruth 315 00:23:23.079 --> 00:23:27.200 and she knows that Parker is going to be the favorite. Yeah, yeah, 316 00:23:27.480 --> 00:23:30.759 I think if my memory serves me right, But again, I was 317 00:23:30.759 --> 00:23:33.799 in a fog of sickness. I think she was like, Corey, you 318 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:37.799 know that that's going to be the favorite grandchild of everybody here that has grandchildren. 319 00:23:38.279 --> 00:23:41.480 I said, Ruthanne, like that's not nice. She's like, no, 320 00:23:41.599 --> 00:23:45.000 Corey, for real, And she's like, I listened to your podcast, 321 00:23:45.039 --> 00:23:48.559 you am Arnie. Don't you be talking about this on there? I 322 00:23:48.559 --> 00:23:51.960 said, I won't, ruth Anne, I said I won't. I was 323 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:53.200 like, make sure you listen, because I'll make sure not to throw you 324 00:23:53.279 --> 00:23:56.799 under the bus. But nobody is getting thrown under the bus. And now 325 00:23:56.920 --> 00:24:02.400 she's probably listening to this thing. And did I say that? Did I 326 00:24:02.400 --> 00:24:06.720 say that to core Yeah? Now she's questing herself because well it is true 327 00:24:06.720 --> 00:24:10.839 though, so she's like, well, yeah, probably, Well I'll love 328 00:24:10.920 --> 00:24:14.839 him to will be the special one? Yeah, not like special one, 329 00:24:14.880 --> 00:24:19.440 but you know, yeah, the most loved, yes, but the grandparents. 330 00:24:19.440 --> 00:24:26.759 So that's the grandparent talk for today. Thanks for listening now, and 331 00:24:26.799 --> 00:24:33.920 then work stuff's going pretty great and crazy. Adam, I don't think we've 332 00:24:33.960 --> 00:24:37.960 talked about it, but he maybe we did. He took a job as 333 00:24:37.000 --> 00:24:44.039 a recovery homes assistant manager for Addiction Treatment Services. Yes, so it's a 334 00:24:44.079 --> 00:24:45.720 pretty exciting, Yeah, pretty big move for him. He's going to the 335 00:24:45.720 --> 00:24:51.640 game tomorrow, so we're looking forward to seeing him. And you know, 336 00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:53.799 he's doing great. Man, he's doing great in that role. Everything I've 337 00:24:53.839 --> 00:24:57.599 heard from people so good for him. Yeah, and he loves it and 338 00:24:57.799 --> 00:25:03.680 it's great. Yeah. So that's it's nice to see people grow. And 339 00:25:03.359 --> 00:25:07.920 like everybody that has worked for two seventeen, I've told him like, I 340 00:25:07.960 --> 00:25:11.599 want you to grow and learn and like the stuff, especially with Adam, 341 00:25:11.640 --> 00:25:12.000 and I'm like, I want you to write a blog, I want you 342 00:25:12.000 --> 00:25:14.359 to be creative, I want you to do this, I want you to 343 00:25:14.359 --> 00:25:18.359 do that. And that's not really Adam, you know. So when he 344 00:25:18.400 --> 00:25:21.759 did find something, you know, an opportunity came along and it was just 345 00:25:21.759 --> 00:25:23.599 like all right, man, that makes sense, Like go after it, 346 00:25:23.640 --> 00:25:27.640 go get it. Yeah. So I'm proud of him for that. But 347 00:25:27.839 --> 00:25:33.559 justin he wanted his review the other day, so I gave it to him. 348 00:25:33.599 --> 00:25:34.240 I was like, yeah, you want me to write this in your 349 00:25:36.079 --> 00:25:38.559 like report or whatever, like I'm supposed to posit in your file he's like, 350 00:25:38.640 --> 00:25:41.559 yes, please do. But just how far he's come in a year, 351 00:25:42.039 --> 00:25:45.480 you know, and Mitchell as well, you know, the stuff that 352 00:25:45.519 --> 00:25:52.599 he's learned. It's crazy. And when you give people a chance to grow 353 00:25:52.640 --> 00:25:55.440 and to learn different things, and sometimes they might hate it at first, 354 00:25:56.200 --> 00:25:56.920 but at the end of the day they love it. You know. I 355 00:25:56.960 --> 00:26:00.359 love when Mitchelle's it Kim for not to the door, right, you know, 356 00:26:00.400 --> 00:26:03.079 cause I used to yell at Mitch for that, Like, Mitch, 357 00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:06.160 it looks like crap, don't half asseid do it right? And now to 358 00:26:06.200 --> 00:26:07.920 see him kind of with that attitude of you know, with the other people 359 00:26:08.000 --> 00:26:12.559 like, look, man, you don't half asset. Yeah, and it's 360 00:26:12.640 --> 00:26:17.440 just it's funny, you know, and justin you know too, but it's 361 00:26:17.480 --> 00:26:22.000 just it's great. And we actually posted a job on indeed you did actually 362 00:26:22.319 --> 00:26:26.440 and we've gotten some people like we just posted it. Was it yesterday? 363 00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:32.400 Yeah, yesterday morning? And we've got people applying for it. And I 364 00:26:32.440 --> 00:26:33.799 know a couple people like they sent me messages. I don't think I've had 365 00:26:33.839 --> 00:26:36.880 a chance to respond to me. They're like, hey, I applied for 366 00:26:36.920 --> 00:26:40.960 that job. It's all right, cool. Yeah, we're kind of like 367 00:26:41.160 --> 00:26:45.640 just a we're trying to get well, we're trying to keep being productive despite 368 00:26:45.680 --> 00:26:52.000 the not feeling. That doesn't mean that we're actually one hundred percent on top 369 00:26:52.079 --> 00:26:55.240 of all the tasks. Yeah we have. We had a lot to do 370 00:26:55.359 --> 00:26:59.359 coming up, so you know, if you're interested. But it's another thing 371 00:26:59.400 --> 00:27:03.680 too to like there's some people that clearly don't even know what two seventeen recovery 372 00:27:03.839 --> 00:27:07.119 is that applied for it. I think one person, you know, worked 373 00:27:07.160 --> 00:27:15.480 at like Jimbo's Rescue car Rescue and Recovery or something different but different, kind 374 00:27:15.519 --> 00:27:19.720 of different type of recovery recovery, Like we're not going to repo cars or 375 00:27:19.720 --> 00:27:26.200 anything. Yeah, yeah, there's the you're gonna get the keyword. The 376 00:27:26.319 --> 00:27:30.640 keyword. Uh. I think we should call them in do interviews and have 377 00:27:30.759 --> 00:27:37.799 justin interview those people like justin, Well, I think it's a mistake. 378 00:27:37.880 --> 00:27:41.240 They're they're playing the numbers game, Like if I get responses back, then 379 00:27:41.279 --> 00:27:44.200 maybe I will maybe I am a good fit for this job. It's like, 380 00:27:44.279 --> 00:27:47.799 did you read the small print. It's not even small it's the regular 381 00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:52.599 print. It just says this is a pure recovery coach job, which means 382 00:27:52.200 --> 00:27:57.839 we're you know, we want you to have experience, and you know firsthand 383 00:27:57.880 --> 00:28:07.200 experience in and what you know about sharing your sharing your story about your experiences 384 00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:12.720 and your own addiction. But we could really mess with people on this, 385 00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:17.079 Like we could like have people come in and be like, well, let's 386 00:28:17.160 --> 00:28:19.920 get you doing this for a couple of days to see if you like it, 387 00:28:19.960 --> 00:28:25.039 and then like have them like trying to like recover people's like pets or 388 00:28:25.079 --> 00:28:29.559 something. I don't know, Like there's a snake down there. There's a 389 00:28:29.599 --> 00:28:34.559 snake. Man. We got find out who this mouse belongs to and take 390 00:28:34.839 --> 00:28:41.160 Susan to take Susan around the block. Is this mouse yours? It's terrible. 391 00:28:41.480 --> 00:28:44.400 I know, it's not even funny. I'm telling you. The sickness 392 00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:48.960 has got me. Yeah, all I got spacial expressions that are funny now 393 00:28:49.359 --> 00:28:52.440 and you can't see those right now, so it's kind of pointless. But 394 00:28:52.839 --> 00:28:59.559 anyway, we're in the hotel and I'm sleepy and I'm tired, yeah, 395 00:28:59.599 --> 00:29:02.079 and we have a long day tomorrow. But I did want to do a 396 00:29:02.079 --> 00:29:06.720 podcast before it got to June, and I don't know, it's just been 397 00:29:06.799 --> 00:29:08.640 forever, but like I said, I was gonna do with Mitch like two 398 00:29:08.640 --> 00:29:12.400 weekends ago, but it was just it was too bad. It just sounded 399 00:29:12.440 --> 00:29:18.160 too horrible. And then like even right now, like we don't sound all 400 00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:21.519 that great, but I don't know. People don't like to listen to people 401 00:29:21.519 --> 00:29:23.640 who sound sick. But I just felt like I had to get one out 402 00:29:23.680 --> 00:29:26.680 and tell people what's uping. We're still live. Yeah, we're still sober. 403 00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:30.119 Because sometimes people be wondering, they'd be like, wait, what yeah, 404 00:29:30.400 --> 00:29:32.079 that's what they did. It was two weeks ago. They've been doing 405 00:29:32.119 --> 00:29:33.839 like two days, three days a week week two days, three days, 406 00:29:34.079 --> 00:29:37.279 yeah, two weeks but no podcast. What's going on? They're still sober. 407 00:29:37.359 --> 00:29:42.079 Everything's all right, We're good guys, all good. So oh and 408 00:29:42.119 --> 00:29:47.039 if you want to check out, I added Kim's page and Matt's page. 409 00:29:47.119 --> 00:29:52.119 Matt's another new guy we brought on is part time cover coaching training. Yeah, 410 00:29:52.200 --> 00:29:55.680 he's starting he's doing his coach training end of this month. So it's 411 00:29:55.759 --> 00:30:00.759 Kim. Yeah. And added their pages at two seventeen Recovery not They both 412 00:30:00.759 --> 00:30:03.119 have emails. Matt is writing a blog already. He like came out to 413 00:30:03.119 --> 00:30:06.119 get hot. He's like, hey, when can I start that blog? 414 00:30:06.119 --> 00:30:07.680 I was like, well, I was gonna let you get your feet wet. 415 00:30:07.720 --> 00:30:11.359 He's like, ready, go, I want to do it all right. 416 00:30:11.680 --> 00:30:15.960 Yeah, but check out his blog and check out his page, and 417 00:30:15.079 --> 00:30:18.599 check out Kim's page. She was so proud today when she saw that, 418 00:30:18.680 --> 00:30:22.240 and she was like, oh my god. She thought that was pretty cool. 419 00:30:22.720 --> 00:30:27.119 That's awesome. To seventeen recovery dot com slash Kim or to seventeen recovery 420 00:30:27.119 --> 00:30:33.359 dot com slash Matt. Yes, and check other pages. But until next 421 00:30:33.400 --> 00:30:40.279 time, go Tigers. Maybe yeah, definitely the tickets and much love to 422 00:30:40.319 --> 00:30:45.680 the Tigers for supporting recovery people in recovery. They could have given these tickets 423 00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:51.119 to probably hundreds of nonprofit organizations and they gave it to us, So yeah, 424 00:30:51.319 --> 00:30:53.200 much love and yes, we will be rooting for the Tigers tomorrow. 425 00:30:53.400 --> 00:31:00.000 Yes, and next time we'll hopefully we'll be over this whatever this sickness is 426 00:31:00.039 --> 00:31:03.440 that we have going on and sounding a lot better, so yes, thank 427 00:31:03.519 --> 00:31:07.680 you, we'll talk about it all right. Take care everyone. Thanks for 428 00:31:07.759 --> 00:31:12.799 listening to the two seventeen Recovery podcast. We hope you come back for our 429 00:31:12.880 --> 00:31:15.920 next episode.