Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. When
you think it's love, there's nothing you won't do. Let me say it
again, When you think it's love, there's nothing you won't do. Now,
let me make something very, very very clear. This is the mindset
of an immature individual. It's the mindset of an individual who have not yet
reached a true level of understanding of knowing thyself, of loving thyself. Because
of mature person who know and love of self will not think like this.
So I wanted to make that clear. There is a very distinct difference between
the thought processes of a mature person and an immature person. It does not
matter whether you male or female. There is a distinctive thought process that is
different. You think differently. So this episode is about when you think it's
loved, you'll do almost anything. That is unfortunately the mindset of many many
people these days will do anything anything. And I've told you before, when
you're at that point in your life when you think that way, you'll do
anything. That is a terrible place to be mentally, when you think it's
love, that's only based on your own feelings and emotions. I really want
people to understand that it's based on how you feel, how you're thinking,
but not on how the other person is thinking or feeling. It's not based
on reality of what you're getting. Because so many people are in terrible relationships,
getting treated terribly, but you can't tell them nothing they think is love.
They want to be with that person, no matter what that person is
doing. They go back for second thirds, forth fifths. They just keep
going back for the drama, for the pain, for the bad treatment,
because they think that they love that person. They think it's love. And
as I said, it is based on how individuals feel about self. It
is based on what individuals want and desire. But as I said many times
before, most times people are not getting those things. They're getting everything but
what they want. But because a person is blind, they're blind and they
cannot see reality, they think it's love because it's really solely based on how
they are feeling, not what they're receiving from their significant other. It is
imperative that you understand that. It's imperative that you understand it because it will
help you to realize the type of relationship you're in. So many people are
in bad relationships, unhealthy, one sided, but they can't see it because
they're so caught up in their own feelings, their own wants and desires,
that they cannot see their true reality. Many people are in terrible situations because
they think it's love. I need for you to understand, and I need
for you to accept that. Any person who is not showing you respect,
any person who is not loving you back, any person who is not doing
right by you, any person who is taking advantage of you, any person
is doing you wrong, any person who's mistreating you. It is not love.
I don't care how bad you want it. It is not love.
Most people think it is, and that's why they're crying their eyes out.
That's why they're with their significant other and still feel lonely. That's why they're
living separate in the homes. That's why they're going through all types of mess
every single day, drama, drama, drama, bickering, and all kinds
of foolishness every day because you think it's love, but it has nothing to
do with love. You think it's love, but your significant other don't are
the person that you perceive as being your significant other. And I say that
because sometimes you think they're your significant other. But they don't think you're theirs.
They don't feel like that. It's just you feeling like that. Some
of you will say you're in a relationship when the other person never said it.
But no one can tell you that it's not love. And I will
tell you with no doubt whatsoever anyone. If you want to know if it's
love, all you have to do is look at what you're in, Look
at what's going on in your relationship. Look at what you're allowing and what
you're accepting. Look how you are allowing that person to treat you. That
will tell you what you need to know. It will show you the truth.
But although many of you see it, you still will not accept it
as truth. You won't. People believe what they want to believe. It's
like Kevin Symbls. Kevin Semls was feeding you all a bunch of pood but
you believed in him so much. And look how he died and the type
of person he died with, the type that he always talked negative about.
People will tell you anything to make a dollar. They will tell you anything
for fame. They will tell you anything for success. They will tell you
anything if it's bringing them views and getting getting them subscriptions. They'll tell you
anything because they know you are desperate and you want to hear it. And
that's what he was doing. And many people fail for it, many many,
and the information was terrible. Ninety nine percent of the time, the
information was terrible. And I'm not here trying to rag on him. I'm
just trying to help you understand how easily people fall for things based on their
mindset. Because you want love so bad, you believe anything, even if
it's wrong information. You believe anything because you want it that bad. But
again, I challenge any of you who are listening to me, any of
you, challenge you to look at your own life. If you want to
know if it's love, look at your own life first, starting with you,
do you love yourself? Do you know your worth? Because if you
don't, you'll never understand what love is, and because of that, you
will get into all types of unhealthy relationships thinking it's love with love has nothing
to do with it. So if you want to know, first start with
yourself. Look at yourself. Do you love yourself? If you want to
know if you love yourself, you gotta do the same thing. Look at
what you allow it and accepting in your life. Some of you are being
abused every single day, and you still think it's love because they throw you
out somniblitus and nuggets every now and then. It's not because they love you.
They're not doing little things because they love you. They doing little things
to keep you where you are with them. And in that mental state of
not understanding, that mental state that's causing you to be blind and cannot see
reality, it's not love. And when you open your eyes and you accept
the truth, things change, things absolutely change. So many people in this
world are in unhealthy relationships. So many are in unhealthy and one sided relationships
where people try to hold on to them for dear life. Just go through
life year after year in miserable situations with miserable people, feeling miserable because of
your own insecurities. You don't want to start over, you don't think you're
worthy, nobody would love this, and that negativity, negative self talk,
and that negative self talk, those insecurities, all of that come from your
mindset. Everything, everything we do, every choice, every decision derives from
how we think. But blah blah blah blah blah blah. Just because people
don't understand who they are as individuals. They don't get it. They just
don't get it. I was getting tungue tied there for a second, but
you know I don't cut everything out. This is real. You know I'm
not perfect. So you get what you get. Most of all, you
get in the truth. Many people in this world are in unhappy relationships.
They may lie about it, but you can lie to everyone, but you
can't lie to yourself. You know you're miserable, you know you're hurting,
you know you're full of pain. You know you know you tired in your
dream, you know it. But so many will stay right there because of
the lack inside of self, that void inside of self. They're seeking it
in significant others who cannot fill that void. They'll never be able to feel
that void in you, never ever, ever, ever, ever, I
don't care how much you want them to. They can't. You have to
do that for yourself. Some of you accept so much foolishness in your lives
because you think it's love when love has nothing to do with it. And
I guarantee you many people who are in these types of relationships. Most times
you're the initiator, not all the time. Many times you're the initiator and
those who are not. The significant other is smooth because they have an agenda.
You don't see it because you're blind, because you want what you want,
You feel how you feel, and you can't see anything else. I
really, really feel sorry for many people who are in relationships because most are
unhappy. You're unhappy in your relationship because you're unhappy with yourself. You're full
of insecurities, You're full of lack lack of confidence, lack of self esteem,
lack of self love. You know, you just don't know who you
are, so you try to find valid through a significant other who I hate
to say it, but it's the truth, care less about you because they
have an agenda. It has not been with you, not in the way
you want to be with them. It's not love. It's not love at
all some of you. I mean, no one can tell you otherwise.
But like I said, it is absolutely positively won't take you long. All
you gotta do is sit down and assess your own relationship. What are you
getting from it? How are you being treated, how are you being spoken
to? How much time are you been in together? What things do they
say? Do they give you compliments, do you share in things, do
you communicate? Do they show you affection? Affection? So many people are
in relationships getting nothing, absolutely nothing but headache and heartache, but they stay
because they think it's love based on how they feel, not based on what's
really happening. It's based on how they feel. I've told you so many
times, and I'm hoping through all of the reiterations, I'm hoping that people
begin to look at their relationships. I'm hoping people begin to self assess because
you can't blame your signific others, you can't blame your past. No,
you got to look at yourself because when it's all said and done, you
are responsible. Solely, you are responsible as to who you become. That's
all only on you. Many people cannot see the truth in their relationships because
they're blind. They're blind, and they've been the way they've been for so
long they don't even attempt to change. Then you wonder why you always in
the same types of relationship with similar type people, because you are the one
who needs changing. Some of you spend a lot of time and energy in
relationships because you are hoping and praying that he or she changes when you one
who needs to change, it's not love. And if you really really want
to know the truth, if he loves you or if she loves you,
just do what I said. Self assessment, starting with yourself, and then
what you are allowing and accepting from him or her. What are they bringing
to the relationship, How are they treating you? How are they speaking to
you? Meaning? How do they talk to you? I mean, it's
so many easy things that you could look at that would tell you the truth
about your relationship. But some of you just don't want to do it because
you want who you want. You want what you want when it's no good
for you, and you're the only person who will be able to say,
hey, it's true. This is not love. Them treating me this way.
This is not love them speaking to me this way, This is not
love. Them doing the things they're doing. This is not love because it
isn't. And when you love yourself, oh you will understand much better.
A person who love his or herself will never take mistreatment from anyone. They
may try, but that does not mean you will take it, and you
won't. I promise you you simply will not. As you know your life
is your life. What you do is up to you. I'm just here
putting out some information that I hope you really take in. I truly do.
I appreciate every last one of you. Thank you so much for listening.
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