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Hey, Hey, I'm back with
something for you to think about. When

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you think it's love, there's nothing
you won't do. Let me say it

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again, When you think it's love, there's nothing you won't do. Now,

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let me make something very, very
very clear. This is the mindset

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of an immature individual. It's the
mindset of an individual who have not yet

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reached a true level of understanding of
knowing thyself, of loving thyself. Because

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of mature person who know and love
of self will not think like this.

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So I wanted to make that clear. There is a very distinct difference between

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the thought processes of a mature person
and an immature person. It does not

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matter whether you male or female.
There is a distinctive thought process that is

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different. You think differently. So
this episode is about when you think it's

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loved, you'll do almost anything.
That is unfortunately the mindset of many many

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people these days will do anything anything. And I've told you before, when

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you're at that point in your life
when you think that way, you'll do

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anything. That is a terrible place
to be mentally, when you think it's

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love, that's only based on your
own feelings and emotions. I really want

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people to understand that it's based on
how you feel, how you're thinking,

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but not on how the other person
is thinking or feeling. It's not based

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on reality of what you're getting.
Because so many people are in terrible relationships,

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getting treated terribly, but you can't
tell them nothing they think is love.

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They want to be with that person, no matter what that person is

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doing. They go back for second
thirds, forth fifths. They just keep

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going back for the drama, for
the pain, for the bad treatment,

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because they think that they love that
person. They think it's love. And

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as I said, it is based
on how individuals feel about self. It

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is based on what individuals want and
desire. But as I said many times

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before, most times people are not
getting those things. They're getting everything but

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what they want. But because a
person is blind, they're blind and they

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cannot see reality, they think it's
love because it's really solely based on how

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they are feeling, not what they're
receiving from their significant other. It is

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imperative that you understand that. It's
imperative that you understand it because it will

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help you to realize the type of
relationship you're in. So many people are

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in bad relationships, unhealthy, one
sided, but they can't see it because

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they're so caught up in their own
feelings, their own wants and desires,

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that they cannot see their true reality. Many people are in terrible situations because

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they think it's love. I need
for you to understand, and I need

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for you to accept that. Any
person who is not showing you respect,

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any person who is not loving you
back, any person who is not doing

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right by you, any person who
is taking advantage of you, any person

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is doing you wrong, any person
who's mistreating you. It is not love.

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I don't care how bad you want
it. It is not love.

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Most people think it is, and
that's why they're crying their eyes out.

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That's why they're with their significant other
and still feel lonely. That's why they're

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living separate in the homes. That's
why they're going through all types of mess

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every single day, drama, drama, drama, bickering, and all kinds

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of foolishness every day because you think
it's love, but it has nothing to

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do with love. You think it's
love, but your significant other don't are

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the person that you perceive as being
your significant other. And I say that

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because sometimes you think they're your significant
other. But they don't think you're theirs.

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They don't feel like that. It's
just you feeling like that. Some

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of you will say you're in a
relationship when the other person never said it.

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But no one can tell you that
it's not love. And I will

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tell you with no doubt whatsoever anyone. If you want to know if it's

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love, all you have to do
is look at what you're in, Look

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at what's going on in your relationship. Look at what you're allowing and what

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you're accepting. Look how you are
allowing that person to treat you. That

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will tell you what you need to
know. It will show you the truth.

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But although many of you see it, you still will not accept it

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as truth. You won't. People
believe what they want to believe. It's

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like Kevin Symbls. Kevin Semls was
feeding you all a bunch of pood but

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you believed in him so much.
And look how he died and the type

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of person he died with, the
type that he always talked negative about.

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People will tell you anything to make
a dollar. They will tell you anything

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for fame. They will tell you
anything for success. They will tell you

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anything if it's bringing them views and
getting getting them subscriptions. They'll tell you

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anything because they know you are desperate
and you want to hear it. And

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that's what he was doing. And
many people fail for it, many many,

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and the information was terrible. Ninety
nine percent of the time, the

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information was terrible. And I'm not
here trying to rag on him. I'm

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just trying to help you understand how
easily people fall for things based on their

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mindset. Because you want love so
bad, you believe anything, even if

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it's wrong information. You believe anything
because you want it that bad. But

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again, I challenge any of you
who are listening to me, any of

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you, challenge you to look at
your own life. If you want to

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know if it's love, look at
your own life first, starting with you,

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do you love yourself? Do you
know your worth? Because if you

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don't, you'll never understand what love
is, and because of that, you

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will get into all types of unhealthy
relationships thinking it's love with love has nothing

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to do with it. So if
you want to know, first start with

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yourself. Look at yourself. Do
you love yourself? If you want to

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know if you love yourself, you
gotta do the same thing. Look at

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what you allow it and accepting in
your life. Some of you are being

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abused every single day, and you
still think it's love because they throw you

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out somniblitus and nuggets every now and
then. It's not because they love you.

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They're not doing little things because they
love you. They doing little things

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to keep you where you are with
them. And in that mental state of

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not understanding, that mental state that's
causing you to be blind and cannot see

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reality, it's not love. And
when you open your eyes and you accept

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the truth, things change, things
absolutely change. So many people in this

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world are in unhealthy relationships. So
many are in unhealthy and one sided relationships

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where people try to hold on to
them for dear life. Just go through

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life year after year in miserable situations
with miserable people, feeling miserable because of

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your own insecurities. You don't want
to start over, you don't think you're

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worthy, nobody would love this,
and that negativity, negative self talk,

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and that negative self talk, those
insecurities, all of that come from your

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mindset. Everything, everything we do, every choice, every decision derives from

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how we think. But blah blah
blah blah blah blah. Just because people

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don't understand who they are as individuals. They don't get it. They just

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don't get it. I was getting
tungue tied there for a second, but

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you know I don't cut everything out. This is real. You know I'm

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not perfect. So you get what
you get. Most of all, you

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get in the truth. Many people
in this world are in unhappy relationships.

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They may lie about it, but
you can lie to everyone, but you

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can't lie to yourself. You know
you're miserable, you know you're hurting,

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you know you're full of pain.
You know you know you tired in your

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dream, you know it. But
so many will stay right there because of

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the lack inside of self, that
void inside of self. They're seeking it

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in significant others who cannot fill that
void. They'll never be able to feel

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that void in you, never ever, ever, ever, ever, I

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don't care how much you want them
to. They can't. You have to

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do that for yourself. Some of
you accept so much foolishness in your lives

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because you think it's love when love
has nothing to do with it. And

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I guarantee you many people who are
in these types of relationships. Most times

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you're the initiator, not all the
time. Many times you're the initiator and

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those who are not. The significant
other is smooth because they have an agenda.

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You don't see it because you're blind, because you want what you want,

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You feel how you feel, and
you can't see anything else. I

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really, really feel sorry for many
people who are in relationships because most are

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unhappy. You're unhappy in your relationship
because you're unhappy with yourself. You're full

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of insecurities, You're full of lack
lack of confidence, lack of self esteem,

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lack of self love. You know, you just don't know who you

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are, so you try to find
valid through a significant other who I hate

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to say it, but it's the
truth, care less about you because they

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have an agenda. It has not
been with you, not in the way

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you want to be with them.
It's not love. It's not love at

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all some of you. I mean, no one can tell you otherwise.

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But like I said, it is
absolutely positively won't take you long. All

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you gotta do is sit down and
assess your own relationship. What are you

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getting from it? How are you
being treated, how are you being spoken

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to? How much time are you
been in together? What things do they

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say? Do they give you compliments, do you share in things, do

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you communicate? Do they show you
affection? Affection? So many people are

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in relationships getting nothing, absolutely nothing
but headache and heartache, but they stay

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because they think it's love based on
how they feel, not based on what's

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really happening. It's based on how
they feel. I've told you so many

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times, and I'm hoping through all
of the reiterations, I'm hoping that people

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begin to look at their relationships.
I'm hoping people begin to self assess because

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you can't blame your signific others,
you can't blame your past. No,

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you got to look at yourself because
when it's all said and done, you

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are responsible. Solely, you are
responsible as to who you become. That's

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all only on you. Many people
cannot see the truth in their relationships because

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they're blind. They're blind, and
they've been the way they've been for so

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long they don't even attempt to change. Then you wonder why you always in

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the same types of relationship with similar
type people, because you are the one

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who needs changing. Some of you
spend a lot of time and energy in

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relationships because you are hoping and praying
that he or she changes when you one

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who needs to change, it's not
love. And if you really really want

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to know the truth, if he
loves you or if she loves you,

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just do what I said. Self
assessment, starting with yourself, and then

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what you are allowing and accepting from
him or her. What are they bringing

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to the relationship, How are they
treating you? How are they speaking to

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you? Meaning? How do they
talk to you? I mean, it's

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so many easy things that you could
look at that would tell you the truth

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about your relationship. But some of
you just don't want to do it because

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you want who you want. You
want what you want when it's no good

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for you, and you're the only
person who will be able to say,

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hey, it's true. This is
not love. Them treating me this way.

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This is not love them speaking to
me this way, This is not

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love. Them doing the things they're
doing. This is not love because it

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isn't. And when you love yourself, oh you will understand much better.

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A person who love his or herself
will never take mistreatment from anyone. They

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may try, but that does not
mean you will take it, and you

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won't. I promise you you simply
will not. As you know your life

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is your life. What you do
is up to you. I'm just here

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putting out some information that I hope
you really take in. I truly do.

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I appreciate every last one of you. Thank you so much for listening.

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Chronicles and share. Thank you so

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much again. Much love to each
and every one of you. I in

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every episode of the same and I
hope you do it, think on it,