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Hello, and welcome to the Parenting
Roundabout podcast for the week of February nineteenth.

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I'm Katherine Aleco and I'm here with
Terry Morrow. Hello for a weekly

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episode to talk about parenting in a
roundabout way along with a little pop culture,

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and I'll share a story about parenting
that I'm going to use. Do

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it in a roundabout way so I
don't get put in jail. How about

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that sounds like a plan. So
both of my for both of my kids,

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we have five twenty nine college savings
accounts, right, and it's they

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both have like a not entirely clear
picture of what these accounts are, how

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they work, what they're for,
you know. Like my son called me

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a couple of weeks ago to say, like, Okay, I know if

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I buy books, we can use
that special bank account to pay for it,

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right, But do I have to
buy them at the campus bookstore in

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order for that to work. I'm
like, no, you just buy them

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anywhere. But you just had to
save the receipt. Yes, So it

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also have to be books for school
and not right, they can't be just

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like I want to read this comic
book or whatever it's and then my daughter

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is I mean, I don't know
what this says about her moral character,

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but she's she's always like angling,
like how could we what if I So

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she texts me the other day like
can I use five twenty nine money to

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buy headphones? And not just any
because she knows that you can use it

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for a computer, right, you
can use it for a laptop, but

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you know, not just any headphones. It's like Apple air Max Pro noise

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canceling, you know, super fancy, super expensive. I'm like, no,

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that's no, you can't just like
but but but I need them to

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study. I need them to focus
because they have noise canceling. And here's

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a result on Google that shows that
they're good for helping people focus focus on

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the music, though not on what
you're doing. Yeah, I'm like,

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I think you would have to add
a third major, which is, you

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know, music production or some sort
of related Hey, do they have podcast

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productions there? She could use it? Really they do? I bet I

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bet that's become a major. I
mean her her one of her majors is

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digital marketing, so that's that's a
new thing. Yeah, could be part

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of that podcasting. So we'd have
a long discussion about tax laws She's like,

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who do we ask? It can't
hurt to ask. I said,

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well, if you want to call
up, here's the eight hundred numbers.

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I have a good time. Yeah, enjoy that. We'll visit you in

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jail. Or enjoy that like two
hours you'll get on hold. No,

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I ain't gonna make that phone call
for nothing, No way close. And

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also what exactly, Yeah, I
don't know if anybody needs five hundred and

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thirty four dollars headphones, but it's
certainly not a college student. No,

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So you know, regardless of where
the money comes from, right, even

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if we could get them from that
account. No. Right. And also

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they they're pink, and she said, oh that's the most essential part.

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They're pink. So this is super
serious study stuff. Yes, yes,

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I mean then all day she's sending
me like picture, she sent me a

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picture of a computer with a little
pouch of apple sauce in front of it

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that said, if I had those
headphones, I would be doing homework instead

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of eating this apple. Show.
So the digital marketing training is going well,

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she's uh, you know, selling
sending point of view through her digital

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marketing skills. He's working hard on
that. Golly, I just oh my,

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I mean my kids. Now they're
in their thirties, they're both working,

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you know, part time. They
don't have a huge amount of money,

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but they got enough money to buy
a stupid phone that they want.

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So, you know, my feeling
is you use your phone until it physically

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will no longer work, and then
you buy the lowest step on the you

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know, the lowest acceptable version that
you can get, and if they want

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to get the you know, eight
hundred, nine hundred dollars one excellent,

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you have money, go buy it. So my son bought his, and

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now my daughter is starting to angle
for a phone, and I said,

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great, your brother bought here,
so you can buy yours. So she's

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saving money. Allegedly, she'll see
when I ain't buying it, right,

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if I buy it, it's going
to be you know, the cheapest possible

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one, which is not what she's
going to want so right, but even

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then she could buy it exactly right. Now she's angling for a TV,

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which maybe for the new apartment.
Right, there's a TV there, but

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it's not a streaming TV. It's
it's not a smart TV, it's a

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dumb old TV, right, and
you know, so she'll get that for

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her birthday, because that is significantly
cheaper than a phone. Yeah, we're

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handing those out like candy. I
know when did TVs get so cheap?

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That used to be an investment?
Right? Oh well, well going up

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with that, I'm sure is she
gonna guilt you for a little while longer

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or do you think that she's a
I think that she gets it at this

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point, and her birthday is coming
up. Not that I spent five hundred

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dollars not a birthday gift for her, but perhaps if there's some combination of

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gifts from several people there you go, if everybody give her Apple cards,

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right even so, gosh, then
I would be nervous about her having headphones

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that expensive, right? Is somebody
going to take them? Yeah? Oh

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well, well anyway, it's nowhere
near the troubles that are all young things

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are getting into on reservation dogs.
Yeah. Yeah, it didn't seem like

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this was gonna be a good idea
for Jackie and Laura, and indeed it

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is. It quickly goes south or
they're trying to go west. But yes,

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they do not get very far.
Laura's grandmother's crummy car. Yes,

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so they have car trouble. Then
they get picked up by somebody who starts

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to seem very creepy, and so
they kick him in the face and stab

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him and ditch out of the car
and only too late realize that he has

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their bags and their money in the
trunk. And then they try to steal

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a car, almost get hunted down
buy some rednecks. Yep. Then they

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encounter a woman who seems very nice
and who may well be very she may

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well feel very nice. I was
suspicious when she didn't eat the castro ale.

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I thought she's drinking them. They
ever went anywhere. So, but

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the weirdest thing about that woman is
that she's played by Megan Malally. What

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I thought that was Megan Malally?
Yes, the voice, I couldn't see

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it in the face, I could
just know. I couldn't see it as

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a face either. Who is that? And I looked up and I said,

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what did they do to make up? Like? Yeah, yeah,

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the big shaggy wig, I guess. But wow, yeah that So that

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doesn't get added in extra creepiness to
it, because it's like, I know

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this zad person, yet it doesn't
look like her, right hmmm, Yeah,

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Well there were and we're talking about
two episodes that once, yeah,

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by the way, right to the
first two episodes of season two. I

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think that was the the getaway story
arc those two episodes, because it seemed

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like they were maybe heading back home
at the end of the second one.

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I sure hope, so, yeah, because I don't think they're gonna toe

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that car to California, but maybe, yeah, unless they're just towing it

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somewhere where they can, I don't
know, but they can't get it fixed.

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They only have them, you know, like forty bucks that yeah,

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Jackie got from her mom partially authorized
him partially not yeah. Oh well,

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and and uh, meanwhile, back
at the reservation, her uh Willie jack

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is trying to undo the curse that
she put on Jackie right and enlisting the

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help of elders who know not what
they're doing. Turned out have a history

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with each other. And somehow Brownie
and Bucky. Yeah, somehow the final

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ceremony involved Tom Patt But I don't
know what that had to do with it.

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But I was singing along, so
we started to play free falling.

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I'm gonna sing along right. Well, this is completely random, but and

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maybe maybe that's what turned them around, we'll see, right. But yeah,

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so Brownie and Bucky had some past
history which I guess has been healed

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over. Now that's right. So
maybe that's the good medicine that will reverse

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the bad medicine. But that Willie
jack was trying to take care of I

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hope so. And there was a
little bit of a repproch mall with the

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other gang that has lost Jackie.
So they are trying to perhaps heal their

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eyeing each other suspiciously, but maybe
they can work together. They're working together,

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and and the we had a resolution
of the theft of the potato chip

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truck from the first episode, was
it Yeah, indeed everybody knew they took

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it, but didn't want to get
them in trouble, right, And which

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do we buy that or I mean, it's it's assuming a lot of good

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things will from those exactly, from
those three men, the two who run

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the Catfish restaurant and the other guy. I don't know, I'm inclined to.

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I don't know. It seemed like, I mean, they haven't done

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anything. It's been a whole season
and they haven't like held it over these

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kids, so right, I would
think that if they were going to they

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would have. Possibly, they just
want, like you said, too many

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kids in jail. They want to, right, but maybe they'll give Bear

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a job. Seemed like maybe,
Yeah, we shall see in the ensuing

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episodes. That's right. What else
happened? We got the return of Janish

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meeting as Yes, I didn't realize
that she was connected to Jackie, that

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she's no Jackie's aunt who Jackie had
been staying with. Yeah, I didn't

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quite realize either. I don't think
that was introduced before. M hm,

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and the uh, the actress who
played Jackie's mom kind of looked like her.

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I thought I thought there was some
resemblance there that's appropriate, But she

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is actually that actress's actually the niece
of the actor who plays Bucky. Oh,

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okay, things you learn I am
IMDb, IMDb, I'm right.

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Megan mleley on racking nice, Oh
my gosh, that was so weird.

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That just left me feel so feeling
so unsettled. You know, I don't

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know if we would have been it
would have been creepy anyway, because you're

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expecting something bad to happen. But
all right, the whole thing was unsettled.

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That just hated a little extra creep
factor for sure. Well I hope

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the gang's all back together next week. Yeah, plural with maybe life lessons

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learned. You gotta plan your trip
a little better there, girls, you

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know, maybe take the card for
a check up before you leave. Also,

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though, going back to Megan Malally, she didn't she saw them drive

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off with her truck. She didn't
call the cops on that didn't Maybe it's

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her husband's truck. Yeah, take
it, I don't want it. That's

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a good point. I was just
waiting for them to get pulled over for

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being I was too stolen car,
right. I thought it would keep going

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from bad to worse, But it
just maybe they're going to give it back.

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Maybe after they toe the other car
all the way back to the to

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Oklahoma to wherever they I don't know
how far they got. They write down

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that lady's mailing address and uh,
you know, her home address, so

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that they right, so they could
find her again. If indeed she wasn't

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planning to murder them in her sleep, she seemed like a potential friend.

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But yeah, well, given that
she didn't get them busted, right,

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right, maybe she figured they'd just
run out against and leave it on the

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side of the road. Yeah,
yeah, here we go on season two.

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Yeah, what fun do we have
ahead of us? And will there

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be more Tom Petty songs? Shall
see? So let's uh, let's get

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in our stolen car and drive to
the next segment, which is Catherine's Library

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find of the Week. What have
you got now? I've got two children's

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books. Instead of being about,
you know, things that can kill you

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or things that are extremely scary or
whatever, these are a pair of books,

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one called Ugly Animals and one called
Animals that Make Me say e.

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And I just thought last week and
something icky this week? Okay, I

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thought, do we want to teach
kids to call animals ugly? I didn't

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think bad for the ugly animals?
We don't do that. Yeah, I

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mean, you know, they're that's
they're just born that way. I mean

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kids make us say you too,
so that's we're sure. So yeah,

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I just you know, in the
continuing sort of I continue to be kind

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of amazed that all of the topics
that kids nonfiction can cover and will cover,

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And why didn't I come up with
the idea to write an entire book

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about every about each letter of the
alphabet, Like there you go, twenty

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six books right there, or every
NFL team or every you know, baseball

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player, or it's like, wow, you could just you know, they

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probably pay you ten dollars per book, but you know, you get it's

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an automatic series. Is that a
gorilla pick in his nose on the cover

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of that book of probably yeah,
animals that make me say you Yeah,

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because there's it says in the sales
copy that it's about nose picking is covered

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in it. So yep, there's
all kinds of good good exactly. Kids

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will absolutely love it. I was
going to say, kids will eat that

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up, but I don't not think
I will see that, yes, buzzz

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off their kids and eating them and
mm hmmm mm hmmm. It's the the

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the the text on the site for
Animals that Make Me Say You says,

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prepare to be repulsed by an engaging
and unique look at some of the more

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discussed and engaging our opposites. Stop
that that is true. So I look

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at some of the more disgusting survival
techniques from the Animal Kingdom, and one

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book is for this. One is
from Ranger Rick and the other one is

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from National Geographic Kids. So these
are the the impeccable sources of the material.

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Yeah, so you know you can
trust National Geographic to come up with

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nature stuff. Nature that's fascinating all
sorts of ways. That's right, ugly

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impulsing. And you know what,
that's the sort of thing I might have

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tried to read with one of my
kids when they were little, right,

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just to throw anything at them,
right, if anything would be of interest,

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any book, any book at all. Right, please look, this

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one has look. Nose picking is
not cool. On let's read it.

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Let's not do it, but let's
read it. Oh fine, you can

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do it as long as you sit
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reading the book, then it's allowed. Go for it. Oh golly.

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Well, we've probably had some you
and ugly topics over our many, many

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years of podcasting. But today we're
going to take a little spin through the

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archives and see what we were talking
about four years ago, six years ago,

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and eight years ago this week.
Back in twenty twenty, we talked

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about that maybe instead of book clubs, we need to propose like admin club

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where you get together with some friends, drink some coffee, eat some cookies,

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and do paperwork, pay bills,
do your taxes, you know,

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all this nonsense that we get piled
up on our on our desks and then

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have to struggle with a loan.
I am as I say this, I

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am staring at the pack at my
tax accountant game to fill out with all

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the details. And I've been happily
ignoring it because, oh, don't have

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all my forms yet, not don't
have all my ten ninety nine. Still

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wait and still wait and still wait, and they're all here now. Yeah,

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I have no excuse. So it
would be so nice to just sort

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of, you know, sit around
a dining room table with some friends and

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fill that out instead of doing it
here at my desk by myself, or

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you know, all the things that
we do college applications or you know,

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yeah, with doing the withdrawal from
the five twenty nine, yes to pay

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the tuition, all these things.
I still like that idea. I do

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with it. I just it's all
still all false to me. Every now

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and then I try to let my
husband do something, and then of course

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I'm like, did you do it? Did you do it yet? Did

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you do it right? How did
you do it right? Let me see,

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you know, And then it's not
done to my standards, so I

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bring this on myself, but huh, yeah, it's you know, we

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ostensibly share the load of some of
this stuff, but it doesn't necessarily yeah,

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because I pay the bills, so
someone else should file all the filing.

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Yes, right, yes, well
we do have. We did finally

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get a big accordion file of that. We just have set up in the

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bedroom and all our receipts and stuff
goes in there and all the you know,

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anytime we do anything that needs to
be kept, we put it in

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there. And that's my husband will
put stuff in there. But other than

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that, the problem is is that
everything's done online now and he's not a

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computer guy. If we still got
paper bills and he could sit down and

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write checks and put stamps on them
and mail them, maybe he would help.

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But since everything's online, it falls
to me every now and then.

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I try to set him up with
our daughter who does computer is okay on

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the computer and to do something or
other. But no. Just the other

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day we had a big snowstorm here
in the Northeast about a week ago by

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the time you're listening to this,
and my husband had to go into work

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snowing heavily. He drove in in
his old car he had. When he

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got there, the parking lot was
snowed in, so he couldn't go into

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park. He found a place on
the street. He found a street he

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could park on, but he couldn't
get up the hill, so he had

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to park just down by the corner. And he tells me there's a sign

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on it that says no parking when
the road is snow covered. But the

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road wasn't covered with that much snow. I don't think that's what that means.

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I think they want you to not
be there for the snowplow. You're

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gonna get a ticket. But he's
like, no, no, it's fine,

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it's fine. It was like,
you're gonna get a ticket, a

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ticket or two hundred dollars, which
he can, you know, go to

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court or he can pay it online. So it's like, it's another thing

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that I'm gonna have to do.
I know I'm gonna have to do it,

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right. I suggested he go to
work and just kind of mention,

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you know, mention around that he
got this ticket and maybe his boss would

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feel guilty that he had to come
in on a snow day and wound up

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losing money. Yeah, see,
the ticket is for more than he made

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for that short day, but he
doesn't feel comfortable doing that. So and

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this is well, it's not funny. But my my son the other day

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called me and said he had gone
over to the other college in his in

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his college town to visit a friend. And he calls me, he's like,

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well, I was calling you to
say that I went to visit this

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person and their new kitten. And
then now I'm calling to say that I

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got a parking ticket. Oh no, I was there. But and then

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later he texts me, he's like, because we're going to see him coming

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up, He said, can you
bring a check and a stamp when I

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see you? And I was like, what are we doing? What are

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we buying? And he's like,
to pay the parking ticket. I need

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it. And I was like,
surely there's a way to pay it,

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Yes, that online, Because he's
like, I don't have a I don't

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have stamps, I don't have a
check. What what I said, surely

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there's a way to pay it online. He's like, I don't. I

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don't see anything on here. So
it's only twenty five dollars, it's not

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two hundreds. So yeah, well, his ticket says, go to this

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website and find out if you can
pay it online or you have to come

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in. So presumably he can pay
it online. Right. He was giving

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me all his excuses yesterday, and
I was like, well, great,

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go make that case in court,
honey. Right, it's the fault the

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city that they didn't have things dug
out. It's a part of the city.

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I couldn't get up the hill,
so they shouldn't charge me for a

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parking tickets. Like, yeah,
all right, good luck with that.

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That's gonna go. My my daughter
actually got her car towed, wow for

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parking. He's really lucky he didn't. Yeah, she got it towed because

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she she parked in like some apartment
complexes parking lot and she thought she was

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in the guest spot, I guess, and she wasn't. And and she

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said it was there for like an
hour and a half and they towed it.

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Oh wow, because that's how they
make, you know, money,

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They just wait for that to happen
so that they can grab it. Yeah.

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So then it was a whole thing
because the car is not in her

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name, and you know, she
had to go to this like junk yard

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to get it. Back and they
wouldn't. And her boyfriend was with her,

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and they wouldn't let him go with
her back to wherever they had it.

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She had to go by herself,
Like what what do you think he's

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gonna do? Like that freaked me
out of what I didn't hear about that

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until afterwards. Oh that's so traumatic
too, because your first thought is your

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car has been stolen, right,
you have to figure out. I one

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time I used to take the bus
into New York City and I had this

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place where I parked right by the
bus stop on the street, and I

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did it every day. One day, for some reason, I must have

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just been thinking of something else.
I blanked out. I parked in front

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of somebody's driveway. I don't know
why. I don't. I didn't do

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it on purpose, I just for
some reason. And so of course when

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I came back, it was towed
away and had to go get it and

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stuff. And I felt terrible.
Now when people sit in front of our

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driveway their kids in high school,
I'm like, I can't really growl at

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you too much because I once just
barked and left right. Oh those poor

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people anyway, Oh, so that
was that was a toe see, it's

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nice to have people to talk about
these kind of things with, isn't it.

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That's one of the values of our
podcast is that once a week you

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and I can get together and just
have a mom friendship and talk about all

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our mom stuff. That's right.
And back in twenty eighteen, we talked

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about mom friendships and how it changes
when your kids leave school because you have

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all those people you are sort of
as as we paraphrase the Parks and rec

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sort of child proximity associates that when
you are no longer in school, you

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never see them again. Yeah,
and it's not because you hate each other

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because you broke up. It's just
because it was never really it was a

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it was a proximity. It wasn't
really a friendship. It was just a

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fellowship of people stuck in the same
place for the same reason. Right.

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So although we did just my husband
and I did just go out to dinner

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the other day with friends that we
made. We first met them because our

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kids were in daycare together. So
when my son was a baby, this

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they're one of their kids was in
his class, so wow, and then

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you know, then they ended up
going also to the same elementary school.

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And plus they work they worked at
the company where my husband used to work,

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so there were a lot there were
several areas of overlap. But but

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yeah, we actually are still friends
with them. That's so nice, that's

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nice. Yeah we don't. We
still have people we are we consider friends,

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but never see And I I mean, I have one good friend who's

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been a good friend for many,
many, many years, and we still

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get together and we talk on Zoom
every weekend, and you know, we

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get together frequently. But other than
that, just sort of I don't know,

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see people on Facebook sometimes, right, Well, now you're also doing

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your some of your church things.
Yes, but I like, I haven't

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don't feel like i've I feel like
I have a lot of friendly acquaintances there.

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Yeah, it's not to the level
of somebody that I would get together

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with outside of that or call and
have a long chat with about something other

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than specifically there's a meeting on this
day. And you know, my husband

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hasn't really ever had anything more than
that sort of level of friendship. He's

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not somebody who goes out with the
guys and does stuff. So I've sort

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of I've sort of set myself to
his level. I guess, which is

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why I like staying home, right, But I do sort of miss that

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that fellowship of you know, sitting
in the bleachers with the other band moms.

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Yeah, you know, going to
meetings and seeing the same people every

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time and chatting about things, or
you know, having your kids get together

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with other kids and then you all
sit together, the moms all sit together

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and chat. Right. That still
would be the case with my kids,

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because the moms all come along whenever
we do anything, but we just you

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know, everybody's working and there's just
not that much opportunity to get together,

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right, tiny violin. I know, yeah, you know, for all

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those years, my daughter, of
course, was on all those skating teams,

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and you know, you would be
traveling with these people, you'd see

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them, you know, most of
the parents would come to the practices and

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you know, the practice were like
two hours long, so there was a

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lot of time spent together. And
then that all went away. And now

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that she's in college, you know, I I'm friendly with some of the

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moms that I see, you know, several times a year at the at

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the events, but you know,
it's definitely not the same. And now

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they're all going to graduate so it's
that's just gonna go away. Yeah,

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it's weird. It's pretty weird,
you know, because they not that they

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replaced the ones from before, but
it was similar. Yeah, so finally

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going away. Yeah. Well maybe
one day you'll have have mothers in law

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to be friends with. Yeah,
for your kids, right, we'll see

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that weird, weird thought. I'm
not counting on with my kids, but

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it could happen with yours. You've
already got sort of a Yeah, there's

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a boyfriend ling the picture. Yeah, so that will be could be,

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you know, if they're amenable,
an opportunity for a mom friendship, right,

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and if not, somebody that you
could talk to all your other friends

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about. I did meet the boyfriend's
mom already. She was very nice.

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Okay, so cultivate that. Yes, that's a chance. Well, and

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then I'm curious to know why we
are going to talk about our speed round

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from twenty sixteen. How safe for
work is your music collection? Please explain?

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I don't know. I feel like
mine is getting less and less safe

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for work as I get older.
It should be the other way around.

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Yeah, it's my fist at those
Uh, but uh, you know,

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I've talked here about hardy and enjoying
his music very much, and he's as

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he's getting more and more into rock. His music is uh, you know,

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full of words that probably shouldn't be
blasting out very loud, but it

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amuses me. Yes, I'm that
old lady. I'm the old lady that's

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amused by those words and the fingers
and the you know. Yeah, it

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makes me feel makes me feel like
a rocker in my rocker. That's right.

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Well, and also, you know, scandalizes the children, which is

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fun. Yeah, so doesn't it
scandalize the spouse? Off, it does

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scandalize the spouse. He does not
care for that, but he's not saying

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anything. But it's like, I'm
like, hey, kids, come come

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listen to the song with me.
It has the effort in it a whole

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of times. Come on, cool, right. I do like his music,

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though I don't know that we necessarily
yellows expletives, but you go,

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man, even I mean, even
Taylor Swift has words in her music that

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I don't think she did when she
was a youngster, an innocent, young

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king, less less safe for work. Yeah, she's got a new one

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coming out, Yeah, she's got
a new one about the Old Boyfriend while

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we're watching The New Boyfriend. That's
right on all the heck over Twitter everywhere,

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like a zep Ruder like examination of
the videos of the post super Wall

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party going on. But yeah,
I'm looking for that looks like a like

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the next album looks like a good
one for sitting in the dark after a

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breakup and being miserable. And those
albums are valuable. Yeah, we need

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those. Or Carly Simon's Torch album
got Me through a breakup, just dark

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room, glass of wine and sad, sad songs. We need those.

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That is what we need sometimes.
You know, the weeping may not be

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safe for work, but yeah,
the episode from twenty sixteen was an episode

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was a relic of its time because
it was about how your dentist used his

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iPod on shuffle from room music.
We have playlists for that now, we

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have Spotify, We have all kind
of streaming services. He just had his

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little iPod plugged into a speaker,
huh, and some of the things,

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Yeah, I still wouldn't. I
still wouldn't. Probably put my I have

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a playlist that's probably pretty good,
but you know, you can never tell

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there's gonna be one in there.
One bad Apple and something sneaks in there,

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like what was that one from the
Hamilton mixtape? Those yeah, Franklin,

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Yes, I love that. And
I played for my son and he

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was like, no, I still
don't like Hamilton take it away, but

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there's swears. Come on right,
listen to this. Oh my gosh,

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are you laughing. I've been trying
to get him into Hardy because because he's

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he's rocking now and he's cursing a
whole bunch, you'll like it. No,

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no, mom, no, I
don't even know what he listens to.

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The other day he said he knew
who jelly Roll was after talking about

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the commercial, the Uber eats commercial
that he was, oh, yeah,

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very funny. And I said,
oh, you know, I know him,

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I know sing his songs. How
do you know him? And then

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I could not engage him any further
in conversation. That the end of that.

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So I don't know. I try
so hard to connect with the young

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people about the music, and the
young people could not be less interested.

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So you know, not even nsf
W will do it for me. All

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right, Oh well you tried,
I try, you try, we try.

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It's fun for me anyway. Just
yeah, belting out bad words at

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the top of metain belting out curses. Yes, I love it. We

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get it where we can. Maybe
this is why I have no mom friends

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on her. Yeah, don't hang
around with her. She's a bad influence.

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Listen to Hardy's radio song y'all it's
fun. Okay, but well,

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well we'll take ourselves. We'll see
ourselves, right, we try, yes

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so. But that's it for today
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