1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,399 Women aren' t gonna like what I' m gonna say. But the 2 00:00:02,439 --> 00:00:09,199 main structures of the family are you. You are the destroyer of homes, 3 00:00:09,439 --> 00:00:13,160 and it' s not because I say so, but it says a study. 4 00:00:13,279 --> 00:00:16,839 Let' s see that you' re the ones taking the initiative in 5 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:21,039 seventy percent of divorce cases. If you stop saying I' m gone, 6 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:25,000 you have to make a point of deciding to divorce yourself, maybe with the 7 00:00:25,399 --> 00:00:27,239 idea that if I quit, he won' t be able to live without 8 00:00:27,239 --> 00:00:30,480 me. I' m going to destroy their lives. Although women say, 9 00:00:30,839 --> 00:00:37,200 says a study published about a couple of months ago, says that women ask 10 00:00:37,359 --> 00:00:42,039 for divorce more often and the study says that, in the end, they 11 00:00:42,079 --> 00:00:45,520 are the ones who bear the brunt of the decision, especially in the psychological 12 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:50,640 burden. And all that goes, everything says that women make the decision to 13 00:00:50,679 --> 00:00:55,439 leave their husbands or long- term partners have been described as wives who walk 14 00:00:55,479 --> 00:01:03,719 away in popular media and terms completely. And the complementary term for the spouse 15 00:01:03,759 --> 00:01:10,560 he leaves becomes the one left behind. Splitting it into these two halves can 16 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:15,280 make sense, says the author of this article and quoted from that study. 17 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:22,319 When a relationship collapses, someone has to be the metaphorically goal of leaving the 18 00:01:22,359 --> 00:01:29,840 relationship and literally leaving the shared home, regardless of who may be left in 19 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:36,560 the family home. Research shows that women are more likely to start divorce than 20 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:42,640 their husbands. This is a two thousand seventeen Rosson Field studio that she' 21 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:46,599 s on a date. In fact, some figures suggest that about seventy percent 22 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:53,959 of divorces are initiated by women. So he makes a list of and he 23 00:01:53,079 --> 00:01:57,480 ' s entitled to walk away with heavy baggage. Feeling the need to give 24 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,799 up marriage is not the same as deciding to move away from the relationship. 25 00:02:01,799 --> 00:02:07,439 Not all take action, but these are the main rations for which marriages fall 26 00:02:07,519 --> 00:02:13,039 apart. Attention my married friends who are complaining about their equals and their partners. 27 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:23,400 Number one relational concerns when the relationship ceases to be satisfactory adequately. Two 28 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:28,080 buso behavior problems in some way, addiction problems, disturbing behaviors at home, 29 00:02:28,199 --> 00:02:32,400 excess sex. He hears excess sex. Yes, because there are men who 30 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:36,159 call to keep it every time I ask. There are times when you ask 31 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,080 for it, you can' t give it to them and there are women 32 00:02:38,199 --> 00:02:39,759 who say I don' t ask. Every time Mario asks me, then 33 00:02:39,759 --> 00:02:45,000 Mario asks little, then they are already needed. That' s the devil 34 00:02:45,039 --> 00:02:49,319 ' s sheath. Gentlemen, my best decision was to stay with my right 35 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,719 hand in that relationship. Very stable, happy art. Handcrafted love is what 36 00:02:53,759 --> 00:03:00,919 I have. Number three. Infidelity to this is not always a steel problem 37 00:03:00,039 --> 00:03:06,840 to undo, but it is the breaking point for some number four. Responsibilities 38 00:03:06,879 --> 00:03:14,879 that are not shared equally. Listen to these responsibilities that are not shared equally 39 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:19,080 can be household chores, family accounting, care of children care of the pet 40 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:24,319 or some other obligations relevant to the couple. This doesn' t include going 41 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:29,039 to Sundays where mom, not me, you take me, Sundays are pa, 42 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,960 Mommy, you have family. You can get out any day, but 43 00:03:34,039 --> 00:03:37,039 you have family already, you have a relationship. It already changes the habit 44 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:38,599 that on Sundays where Mommy who even Mommy is tired of you going all Sunday 45 00:03:38,719 --> 00:03:42,879 to be cooked for the house. There he comes every time you see him 46 00:03:43,039 --> 00:03:46,960 I go, but you me and a lady who told him I heard him 47 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:49,879 myself to the son, but I think you got married for something totally. 48 00:03:51,719 --> 00:03:54,879 Yeah, yeah, listen to me every Sunday in the house and take a 49 00:03:55,199 --> 00:04:01,080 trip of trouble. The barropa hears yes, a cooker. It' s 50 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:04,919 all in Mom' s house. The famous moms go all shows, sometimes 51 00:04:04,919 --> 00:04:11,840 I go, sometimes he' s looking to evade pods they make in the 52 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:15,759 house. Then he takes the food of the week, but I want Oviedo 53 00:04:15,879 --> 00:04:20,839 to cook five pounds of rice. I don' t know about a case. 54 00:04:20,879 --> 00:04:26,240 That' s why four free chicken and two free bichuela, because the 55 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:30,040 son has the food of the week for his clothes. Don' t ump 56 00:04:30,079 --> 00:04:34,519 the one where she added up, because her mom knows how she dares and 57 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:38,079 that there' s the mom' s house, that she cooks him and 58 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:40,680 that she irons him and washes him. This too. This is also important. 59 00:04:40,759 --> 00:04:43,519 I think we only once talked about the values that couples share here. 60 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:47,240 Different values are often not revealed until after the votes are pronounced but shared values 61 00:04:47,319 --> 00:04:53,360 are a key protective factor for long- term relations, while different values can 62 00:04:53,439 --> 00:05:01,279 create divisions that grow over time. And that sheath, that sheath is totally 63 00:05:01,439 --> 00:05:04,680 problematic. And that was also one of the things you saw, like the 64 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:09,399 people put more. They don' t remember the time we put the divorced 65 00:05:09,399 --> 00:05:13,600 from the pandemic, who began to realize the attitude, behavior and ideas that 66 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:17,639 the couple had because they were five years married, but they hadn' t 67 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:26,160 spent three months together. Impensive of time. On the one hand, he 68 00:05:26,319 --> 00:05:30,319 continues to say that the divorce rate has decreased and this could also reflect the 69 00:05:30,319 --> 00:05:32,120 marriage rate. You have to say, you have to be very brave and 70 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:36,759 very determined to get married today and it could be the pattern of getting married 71 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:41,199 at more advanced ages than in previous decades. However, the author still claims 72 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:46,680 that instead of the benefits of dissolving a marriage tilt the balance and outweigh the 73 00:05:46,759 --> 00:05:49,800 reasons for staying in the marriage, a decision is made to leave well. 74 00:05:51,920 --> 00:06:00,079 Yeah. Finally, she finally says that when you' re, who' 75 00:06:00,199 --> 00:06:03,120 s leaving. To help maintain your emotional well- being, if you' 76 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:06,920 re the one who' s leaving, it' s important to minimize the 77 00:06:06,959 --> 00:06:10,879 frequency with which you meet your ex- partner. Post- divorce encounters can 78 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:16,000 be psychologically distressing and, depending on your partner' s behavior, emotionally devastating. 79 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:21,079 A spouse who stays can respond in several ways and she, because she 80 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:27,560 makes a form list of what they respond to. So this note published by 81 00:06:27,639 --> 00:06:31,480 your san de gre of Jess White, which points out that women, on 82 00:06:31,519 --> 00:06:36,879 seventy percent of the occasions, are the ones who initiate or take the first 83 00:06:36,959 --> 00:06:41,279 step for separation and divorce, which leads me to the convulsion that you are 84 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:45,720 the one who is seeing family. Today we can' t stand it if 85 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:49,720 Canada' s the pair by today we can' t stand anything. We 86 00:06:49,759 --> 00:06:54,560 can' t take anything. I also believe that that attitude before you do 87 00:06:54,560 --> 00:07:00,360 not remember that divorce is something new, something relatively new about me I can 88 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:02,360 ' t stand anything. It' s the worst. You know why, 89 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:08,079 because sometimes, instead of fixing something that has a solution, you decide to 90 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:13,800 leave that and in time you regret me whenever I get some friend from that 91 00:07:13,879 --> 00:07:17,160 not that I' m going to leave Fulana. I tell him to love 92 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:19,360 the list of reasons why you want to leave that. Almost always, the 93 00:07:19,519 --> 00:07:23,839 distance of reasons begins with a new buttock that they have exactly normal. So 94 00:07:23,839 --> 00:07:27,720 when, when you already tell me all the problems you have, I bring 95 00:07:27,879 --> 00:07:30,720 in the queues. This is hard- assed. You don' t support 96 00:07:30,759 --> 00:07:32,120 me where you' re going, what' s wrong with you. Three 97 00:07:32,199 --> 00:07:34,879 months now, you, that one, the mother of your children, are 98 00:07:34,959 --> 00:07:40,439 happy and effective. Not me, and indeed after three months vol we talked 99 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:43,600 drinking and you say pussy. You were right, my brother. I' 100 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:47,120 ve never been married, but I' m a human being I' ve 101 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:53,560 lived through, yes, and I know how it got when I had my 102 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:56,720 relationship the way I used to since I saw a new victim. Maybe everyone 103 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:01,160 would wear I think the marriage problem is accurate that your partner gets a little 104 00:08:01,199 --> 00:08:05,600 communicative looking for someone else on the street. The problem with marriage is that 105 00:08:05,639 --> 00:08:11,319 they' ve gotten people into whom you have to share. Not everything doesn 106 00:08:11,399 --> 00:08:13,360 ' t have to be shared. All she has to share is sex. 107 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:20,279 Then everything else remains normal, follows his normal life. Get out of your 108 00:08:20,279 --> 00:08:24,839 head. We only get together to sleep or to procreate. My responsibility remains 109 00:08:24,879 --> 00:08:30,000 the same. If a child comes, my responsibility to be with that child, 110 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:33,679 to take care of that child, to assume that child, to take 111 00:08:33,759 --> 00:08:37,519 care of the repbility of the other also if I want to, but to 112 00:08:37,639 --> 00:08:41,639 go aside, to take care of you and the boy exactly, then what 113 00:08:41,799 --> 00:08:43,919 happens is and then when they put you in the head that marriage is a 114 00:08:43,919 --> 00:08:46,919 sheath for two? No, no, then what the hell about marriage? 115 00:08:46,159 --> 00:08:48,840 Not the sheath for two, a sheath that you people invented to fuse humanity 116 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:54,360 and for what, so that people exactly you know that I think you' 117 00:08:54,399 --> 00:08:58,000 re coming. He told her he lives alone in his house, even if 118 00:08:58,039 --> 00:09:01,159 he' s with some people. I think I' m what you think 119 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:05,799 there is. I agree that anyone who wants to join a couple under the 120 00:09:05,039 --> 00:09:09,039 law with someone else who does so freely. But for me the worst decision 121 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:13,080 is marriage. Oh, I am, but marriage alberto I love for myself, 122 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:18,080 for me because I of all my friends who are married are unhappy according 123 00:09:18,159 --> 00:09:24,399 to them or even love. If he fights, we' re on duty, 124 00:09:24,759 --> 00:09:28,480 we' re on duty, we' re on duty for that, 125 00:09:28,799 --> 00:09:31,879 because or vega that there are two is not one. Me, me, 126 00:09:31,399 --> 00:09:35,679 me, I' m happy. You see, look at an exception. 127 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:41,080 There, Mr El potche the happy now because the woman I am hearing it 128 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:48,559 and after a game say already my master fer there is a happiness. The 129 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:54,559 children, of course, but we are happy, are blessed, the couple 130 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:58,360 happy, the blessings, the traditions, the bendy clear good that, by 131 00:09:58,559 --> 00:10:03,360 the way, mine like two months today two a carajista, yes, two. 132 00:10:03,399 --> 00:10:07,120 Okay. Well, in short, we were talking about this article that 133 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:13,000 highlights that about two thirds of divorces are initiated by women, who often face 134 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:18,320 a mixture of positive and challenging feelings as they move away from an unsatisfactory relationship. 135 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:22,200 Meanwhile, the spouse who is left behind can experience a wide range of 136 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:28,200 emotions. The main reasons for divorce include concerns related to behavior problems, infidelity, 137 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:33,879 unequal responsibilities and difference in values. After divorce, the initiator often experiences 138 00:10:33,919 --> 00:10:39,759 initial psychological relief, while the spouse left behind may face the emotional impact. 139 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:46,559 Later it is advised to have clear plans and a strong support network to deal 140 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:50,639 with divorce in a healthier way, and says the same author who, usually, 141 00:10:50,919 --> 00:10:56,440 although the woman is the one who initially divorced, almost always in which 142 00:10:56,480 --> 00:11:00,840 she feels abandoned in the relationship when the divorce ends, hear what hears you 143 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:07,000 are protagonist? Yes, sirs Nothing So it' s a divorce, why 144 00:11:07,039 --> 00:11:09,639 did you get married? I don' t know everything started here. No, 145 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:13,240 I' m not talking about you and I' m talking about the 146 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:15,919 one who makes the decisions. He' s on h ok ok. All 147 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:16,960 right, I' ll have Dominta.