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And here we go with the Minnesota
goodbye. Let's see we got here.

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We got a couple of emails,
good morning. You can say my name

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Meredith. I grew up in Egan, but I lived in North Texas for

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almost twenty years. So excited when
I discovered iHeart. I know Falon didn't

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ask for advice or opinions on starting
olive in school, but I want to

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say I believe her and Jake are
making the right decision. What are they

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referring to? Do? You know? Yeah, I don't think you were

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here for it. We agreed that
we're going to wait. We were considering

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because she falls in that weird gap
where she will be five like two weeks

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after, you know, and she'll
either be the youngest interclass or the oldest

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in finally decided we're going to have
her be the oldest. I think it's

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a better idea, and for multiple
reasons. But the I mean, Jake

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was the oldest in his class,
and he really liked it because a lot

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of people are like, well,
I don't want to be bored for a

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year. Also, you save money
on daycare by getting them in school,

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blah blah blah. But Jake made
we made a couple. He made a

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good point that we discussed it,
but he's like, I would much rather

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her be going into college at eighteen
instead of seventeen. And a lot of

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people were like, well, yeah, but she's only gonna be seventeen for

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two weeks of it, right,
But we would rather her be turning nineteen

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and have a whole year of that
eighteen. Like, I'm an adult,

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I can do whatever I want under
her belt while under our roof. Also

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we get an extra year with her
in our house for that reason. So

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also, and I don't disagree.
I was the youngest in my class.

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I was born October twenty fourth,
so when I graduated, I had turned

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I was seventeen. All of my
friends had already turned eighteen. That meant

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they could go out and buy beer
in Colorado, and so it was different.

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And you know, when you're younger, you always want to be a

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little bit older. When you're older, you want to be a little bit

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younger. But definitely I was the
youngest, one of the youngest. My

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best friend was a year two days
short of a full year older than me,

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so he was one of the oldest. But I think that one of

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the reasons. My mom put me
in school early because I was kid number

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six. She wanted to get me
the fuck out of the house. She

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was done, she was tired.
And I remember she had to apply,

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and I remember more the stories than
I do the actual experience. But they

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had to take me down to the
school to apply to get me in as

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a younger student. I started kindergarten. I think I was four almost five

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when I started kindergarten and my mom
had to take me down to the school

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and they had a little verbal test
to see if I was ready for kindergarten

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and my mom I don't remember it
really, I kind of do, but

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my mom told the story. She
thought it was so funny. The teacher

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in quizzing me said, David,
where does ham come from? Well,

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I don't know what four year old
really knows where ham comes from. The

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correct answer would be a pig,
but I said the grocery store. My

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mom, ad buys it at the
grocery store. And my mom loved telling

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that story because bol that was the
best answer for me. It comes from

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the grocery store. And so they
did let me in early. But here

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was my problem. I was immature. I was like a little baby.

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I was too young, I mean
really, and I think, will you

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keep an olive out till she matures
a little bit is definitely a good thing

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because I was mature. I was
immature all the way through school, but

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especially in kindergarten. She goes on
to say, my daughter has in August

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thirteenth birthday, and you got to
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We went ahead and started her a
week after her birthday because we thought

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she was mature enough and excited to
stop paying for her daycare until my son

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showed up six months later. She's
now in fourth grade, and I don't

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regret the decision. I do wish
we had put more thought into holding her

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back a year. There's a certain
maturity level that happens that young, that

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young that I feel my daughter is
behind in, like I said, maturity.

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Jake also made a good point that
I didn't realize in just a few

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months ago. My daughter will start
college if she goes one to two weeks

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after turning eighteen, which is terrifying
to think about him. Anyway, I

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know it can be encouraging sometimes when
you hear from other parents that your choices

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you're making her the ones would have
done. Thank you for helping me get

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through my commute each day and have
a wonderful week you two. Thank you

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so Meredith. I'm glad you listen
in Gainesville, floor and Gainesville, Texas.

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That's really cool. There are some
more that I have to scroll down

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a little bit to find, so
one second, and honestly, that might

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be the last one that I really
see, although I do see one that

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says piggybank that I wanted to click
on. Give me a second. Okay,

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here we go. A huge fan
in Utah. Just want a day

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to know. I'm forty two and
I've moved to Reno, Tempe and back

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to Utah. My childhood things were
brought to me in Reno. As I

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unpacked my things on my eighth move, I found my childhood piggy bank.

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It was so special. I use
it for loose change. Give your kids

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their stuff. One day they will
open it and it is far better than

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Christmas. I think she might be
referring to one of two things, the

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nesting boxes, the nesting dolls that
I gave back to Alison loved them when

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she was little, and those are
the ones show, open up the wooden

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doll, and there's another one,
another one, another one, and a

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month or so ago, we gave
them to Ava because we want Alison stuff

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to go to Alison. Yeah,
she can figure out what to do with

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it. But she also might be
referring to the pen that I found.

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I told her the story about the
pen right that I had a pen that

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my old boss gave me when I
was twenty one as a going away present,

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and I saved it all these years, and I gave it to Carson

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for his graduation present. I wasn't
here to hear how he actually if he

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liked it or didn't. Okay,
here's the story. Yeah, when you

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give Carson a present, let's say, let's say, I'm gonna give you,

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Oh, look at this. I'm
gonna give you. This is a

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shiny new pencil. Foul, look
at this. Put on your best appreciation

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act. Here's a shiny new pencil. Look at that. There you go,

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oh, thank you. You know
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the last time I had a pencil, and I every day I come and

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someone steals my This is great.
Thank you. Now I'll pretend to be

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Carson. You give it to me, here is a shiny new pencil.

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M m mmm do you like Do
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well that was very special to me. That was my pen from my boss

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growing up. So it's like it's
kind of like a family heirloom, honestly,

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m And that's what he does,
and it really that's him. That

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is him. He is not the
kind that has learned yet to show appreciation

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by going, oh wow, this
was yours when you were my age.

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Yeah, that's cool. That is
it worth anything? I mean, thank

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you. That is That is not
him, and it's a little bit frustrating,

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but it's also it's just him.
So I gave him the pen,

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he gave me the m okay,
And I know he'll like it. I

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know he'll use it, right,
But I wish I would have gotten a

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little bit more out of it.
Yeah, I get that. You know.

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It's like when you give your kid
anything. You give your kid a

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new freaking light bright for Christmas because
they've been begging for a light bright,

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and sometimes you'll be like, oh
my god, it's a light brine and

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other times it's like, uh,
huh, Okay, do you think it's

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because he's always gotten everything? He's
wanted, because that is my fear with

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Olive, because Dylan is such a
great gift recipient and I have never seen

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him whine about not getting something.
He is just and I think it's because

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Jake has not given him everything he's
wanted his whole life. And so I'm

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walking this line like when we give, we give Dylan skis that this year

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for Christmas skis and they were used, we got we bought him used skis

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because it's like he's still and he
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fifteen, he acted like he was
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He's so excited and he'll ask questions
and he's so outgoing, and I like

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worry Olive will be like me,
I got everything I wanted. My mom

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was a kind of person that Christmas
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everything on credit cards and pay it
off through the whole year because she wanted

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us to have a huge Christmas.
So I got everything I wanted. And

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I think I'm like, I'm harder
to impress with gifts, and I hate

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that about myself. Now I don't
care as much, But when I was

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younger, I was a little bit
brattier about gifts and and I just don't

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want alive to be I want her
to be So do you think it has

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something to do with that or no? Question? Right, No, it

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is a little combination of both.
Carson did get way too much of what

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he wanted and Susan and I that's
one thing we butted heads about. Susan,

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I'll give you the whole backstory.
Chase got everything he wanted. Julie

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would buy Chase anything he wanted.
An example, Tuesday's were new video game

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release dates, and I would call
Chase on Tuesdays and I's like, hey,

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Chase, what's going on. Oh, me and mom are going down

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to Game Stop. We're gonna get
some new video games. And I would

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come to his house. He would
have literally stacks of dozens, if not

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hundreds of video games, the DVD
the you know, the DVD version sometimes

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in the case, sometimes not.
And I was so annoyed and he would

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come to the house and he would
have he had Monogram luggage at twelve years

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old, a better computer and a
better phone than me. And Susan used

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to really that really would piss her
off because that was my money that I

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would pay to Chase to Julie for
child support and then so then she started

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to spoil Carson because she was like, I'm not going to have one of

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your kids get everything and the other
one not get anything. And I'm like,

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no, we need to make Carson
work for something. If he wants

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a new video game, he's got
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earn it whatever. But Susan knows. So that was one mistake that and

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that does affect them because they just
expect to have everything. Plus Carson is

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also he's just a shy kind of
a kid, so he's never going to

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go, oh, wow, thank
you very much, that's great. Yeah,

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my sister gets so frustrated. She
blames a lot of it on my

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brother in law, and I'm like, well, Kara, it's you know,

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you got to both agree on things. And then I caught my sister

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doing it. But she's like,
she's like, my Brian will pay Blake

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one hundred dollars to mow the lawn. It's ridiculous. Yeah, same,

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right, And then I sat on
the couch and heard her Ashlen to my

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niece, well you please, I
don't have to, will you please?

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Steam Blake's graduation gown. I'll give
you ten dollars, and I'm like,

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why why are they getting paid for
that much money or anything? Like Ashland

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could easily have steamed that without getting
ten dollars. It's her brother's graduation gown.

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It's going to take her fifteen minutes. Max. And so Dylan,

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I like, he has a job
interview today because you know, his winter

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one was ski instructor. So he's
a job interview today at a fried Aloney's

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hardware store. Hey, that's great. He's fifteen and he's already has he

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saves. I think he saves seventy
percent of his paycheck right now. Well

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before he did ninety percent. But
his plan is seventy percent of the paycheck,

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and then he gets ten percent he
can spend on anything he wants,

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and then he has like another twenty
percent he decides like if he wants to

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use it for this or that.
But he's Jake makes him like explain plans

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and like, I don't Jake's really
so I hope Jake also is very helpful

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with all of them in that same
regard. Because I lived in scarcity,

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I don't want all of to live
in scarcity. But I want her to

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be she's not living in scarcity.
I mean, it's a whole different world.

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Yeah, I think that I've heard
that too. You live in the

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house, you do not get paid
extra to mow the lawn. And Susan

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was extravagance like, oh, Carson, go snowblow the driveway. I'll give

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you twenty bucks. Like twenty bucks, I'll go snowblow the driveway. Geez.

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We didn't get a whole lot of
more emails, so we would encourage

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you to send in more emails.
See if there's anything else that we wanted

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to bring up. I did.
We were talking about and I really think

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this is true. So I'm gonna
bring this up again because I really I

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kind of stumbled upon him. But
an epiphany this morning and that we were

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talking about advice for high school graduates
and we did that around seven twenty seven,

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twenty five, and it was really
interesting and whether you're like graduating high

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school this year or whether you graduated
a long time ago, there was some

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good advice in there. But one
kind of an epiphany that I had is

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this, and I really believe this
is true. Material things only make you

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happy for a minute, but it's
people that can make you happy for a

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lifetime. So in other words,
your mom and your relationship with your mom,

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or your partner, your romantic partner, the other half of you or

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whatever is what can really make you
happy. I think it's all people,

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because think about it. If I
went out right now and bought I don't

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know, Let's say I bought like
a fifty thousand dollar motorcycle. Oh man,

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that'd be cool. I would love
it. But if I didn't have

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anybody to ride around with and it
was just me, it wouldn't really be

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a whole lot of fun. Or
let's say if I bought a beautiful home

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on Lake Minnetonka and it was overlooking
the beach and I had a little boat

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launched at whatever, but I lived
there alone or was somebody that I didn't

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really care about, it wouldn't matter
if I lived in the nicest house on

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Lake Minnetonka. So I really think
that what I finally figured out what makes

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happy and life. It's not the
things that you buy or that you own,

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or the shiny things that you show
off. It is your relationships with

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people. And you don't have to
have any money or nice things to have

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relationships with people. True, So
I thought that was kind of an epiphany.

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Anything else we want to add to
the Minnesota Goodbye? Keep on keeping

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on? Playboys and playgirls, so
very good. Okay, that's it.

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Okay, we need your emails.
What do you want to bring up?

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What do you want to bring up? What do you want to talk about?

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What do you ever say? God, I wish they would have talked

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more about that, or they should
bring this up on the Minnesota Goodbye,

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So send those emails to Ryan Show
at KDWB dot com