And here we go with the Minnesota goodbye. Let's see we got here.
We got a couple of emails, good morning. You can say my name
Meredith. I grew up in Egan, but I lived in North Texas for
almost twenty years. So excited when I discovered iHeart. I know Falon didn't
ask for advice or opinions on starting olive in school, but I want to
say I believe her and Jake are making the right decision. What are they
referring to? Do? You know? Yeah, I don't think you were
here for it. We agreed that we're going to wait. We were considering
because she falls in that weird gap where she will be five like two weeks
after, you know, and she'll either be the youngest interclass or the oldest
in finally decided we're going to have her be the oldest. I think it's
a better idea, and for multiple reasons. But the I mean, Jake
was the oldest in his class, and he really liked it because a lot
of people are like, well, I don't want to be bored for a
year. Also, you save money on daycare by getting them in school,
blah blah blah. But Jake made we made a couple. He made a
good point that we discussed it, but he's like, I would much rather
her be going into college at eighteen instead of seventeen. And a lot of
people were like, well, yeah, but she's only gonna be seventeen for
two weeks of it, right, But we would rather her be turning nineteen
and have a whole year of that eighteen. Like, I'm an adult,
I can do whatever I want under her belt while under our roof. Also
we get an extra year with her in our house for that reason. So
also, and I don't disagree. I was the youngest in my class.
I was born October twenty fourth, so when I graduated, I had turned
I was seventeen. All of my friends had already turned eighteen. That meant
they could go out and buy beer in Colorado, and so it was different.
And you know, when you're younger, you always want to be a
little bit older. When you're older, you want to be a little bit
younger. But definitely I was the youngest, one of the youngest. My
best friend was a year two days short of a full year older than me,
so he was one of the oldest. But I think that one of
the reasons. My mom put me in school early because I was kid number
six. She wanted to get me the fuck out of the house. She
was done, she was tired. And I remember she had to apply,
and I remember more the stories than I do the actual experience. But they
had to take me down to the school to apply to get me in as
a younger student. I started kindergarten. I think I was four almost five
when I started kindergarten and my mom had to take me down to the school
and they had a little verbal test to see if I was ready for kindergarten
and my mom I don't remember it really, I kind of do, but
my mom told the story. She thought it was so funny. The teacher
in quizzing me said, David, where does ham come from? Well,
I don't know what four year old really knows where ham comes from. The
correct answer would be a pig, but I said the grocery store. My
mom, ad buys it at the grocery store. And my mom loved telling
that story because bol that was the best answer for me. It comes from
the grocery store. And so they did let me in early. But here
was my problem. I was immature. I was like a little baby.
I was too young, I mean really, and I think, will you
keep an olive out till she matures a little bit is definitely a good thing
because I was mature. I was immature all the way through school, but
especially in kindergarten. She goes on to say, my daughter has in August
thirteenth birthday, and you got to be five by September first to start kindergarten.
We went ahead and started her a week after her birthday because we thought
she was mature enough and excited to stop paying for her daycare until my son
showed up six months later. She's now in fourth grade, and I don't
regret the decision. I do wish we had put more thought into holding her
back a year. There's a certain maturity level that happens that young, that
young that I feel my daughter is behind in, like I said, maturity.
Jake also made a good point that I didn't realize in just a few
months ago. My daughter will start college if she goes one to two weeks
after turning eighteen, which is terrifying to think about him. Anyway, I
know it can be encouraging sometimes when you hear from other parents that your choices
you're making her the ones would have done. Thank you for helping me get
through my commute each day and have a wonderful week you two. Thank you
so Meredith. I'm glad you listen in Gainesville, floor and Gainesville, Texas.
That's really cool. There are some more that I have to scroll down
a little bit to find, so one second, and honestly, that might
be the last one that I really see, although I do see one that
says piggybank that I wanted to click on. Give me a second. Okay,
here we go. A huge fan in Utah. Just want a day
to know. I'm forty two and I've moved to Reno, Tempe and back
to Utah. My childhood things were brought to me in Reno. As I
unpacked my things on my eighth move, I found my childhood piggy bank.
It was so special. I use it for loose change. Give your kids
their stuff. One day they will open it and it is far better than
Christmas. I think she might be referring to one of two things, the
nesting boxes, the nesting dolls that I gave back to Alison loved them when
she was little, and those are the ones show, open up the wooden
doll, and there's another one, another one, another one, and a
month or so ago, we gave them to Ava because we want Alison stuff
to go to Alison. Yeah, she can figure out what to do with
it. But she also might be referring to the pen that I found.
I told her the story about the pen right that I had a pen that
my old boss gave me when I was twenty one as a going away present,
and I saved it all these years, and I gave it to Carson
for his graduation present. I wasn't here to hear how he actually if he
liked it or didn't. Okay, here's the story. Yeah, when you
give Carson a present, let's say, let's say, I'm gonna give you,
Oh, look at this. I'm gonna give you. This is a
shiny new pencil. Foul, look at this. Put on your best appreciation
act. Here's a shiny new pencil. Look at that. There you go,
oh, thank you. You know what, this is great because once
the last time I had a pencil, and I every day I come and
someone steals my This is great. Thank you. Now I'll pretend to be
Carson. You give it to me, here is a shiny new pencil.
M m mmm do you like Do you like it? M yeah, M
well that was very special to me. That was my pen from my boss
growing up. So it's like it's kind of like a family heirloom, honestly,
m And that's what he does, and it really that's him. That
is him. He is not the kind that has learned yet to show appreciation
by going, oh wow, this was yours when you were my age.
Yeah, that's cool. That is it worth anything? I mean, thank
you. That is That is not him, and it's a little bit frustrating,
but it's also it's just him. So I gave him the pen,
he gave me the m okay, And I know he'll like it. I
know he'll use it, right, But I wish I would have gotten a
little bit more out of it. Yeah, I get that. You know.
It's like when you give your kid anything. You give your kid a
new freaking light bright for Christmas because they've been begging for a light bright,
and sometimes you'll be like, oh my god, it's a light brine and
other times it's like, uh, huh, Okay, do you think it's
because he's always gotten everything? He's wanted, because that is my fear with
Olive, because Dylan is such a great gift recipient and I have never seen
him whine about not getting something. He is just and I think it's because
Jake has not given him everything he's wanted his whole life. And so I'm
walking this line like when we give, we give Dylan skis that this year
for Christmas skis and they were used, we got we bought him used skis
because it's like he's still and he was just so he was like and he's
fifteen, he acted like he was a six like a six year old.
He's so excited and he'll ask questions and he's so outgoing, and I like
worry Olive will be like me, I got everything I wanted. My mom
was a kind of person that Christmas was so important to her. She put
everything on credit cards and pay it off through the whole year because she wanted
us to have a huge Christmas. So I got everything I wanted. And
I think I'm like, I'm harder to impress with gifts, and I hate
that about myself. Now I don't care as much, But when I was
younger, I was a little bit brattier about gifts and and I just don't
want alive to be I want her to be So do you think it has
something to do with that or no? Question? Right, No, it
is a little combination of both. Carson did get way too much of what
he wanted and Susan and I that's one thing we butted heads about. Susan,
I'll give you the whole backstory. Chase got everything he wanted. Julie
would buy Chase anything he wanted. An example, Tuesday's were new video game
release dates, and I would call Chase on Tuesdays and I's like, hey,
Chase, what's going on. Oh, me and mom are going down
to Game Stop. We're gonna get some new video games. And I would
come to his house. He would have literally stacks of dozens, if not
hundreds of video games, the DVD the you know, the DVD version sometimes
in the case, sometimes not. And I was so annoyed and he would
come to the house and he would have he had Monogram luggage at twelve years
old, a better computer and a better phone than me. And Susan used
to really that really would piss her off because that was my money that I
would pay to Chase to Julie for child support and then so then she started
to spoil Carson because she was like, I'm not going to have one of
your kids get everything and the other one not get anything. And I'm like,
no, we need to make Carson work for something. If he wants
a new video game, he's got to work for it, he's got to
earn it whatever. But Susan knows. So that was one mistake that and
that does affect them because they just expect to have everything. Plus Carson is
also he's just a shy kind of a kid, so he's never going to
go, oh, wow, thank you very much, that's great. Yeah,
my sister gets so frustrated. She blames a lot of it on my
brother in law, and I'm like, well, Kara, it's you know,
you got to both agree on things. And then I caught my sister
doing it. But she's like, she's like, my Brian will pay Blake
one hundred dollars to mow the lawn. It's ridiculous. Yeah, same,
right, And then I sat on the couch and heard her Ashlen to my
niece, well you please, I don't have to, will you please?
Steam Blake's graduation gown. I'll give you ten dollars, and I'm like,
why why are they getting paid for that much money or anything? Like Ashland
could easily have steamed that without getting ten dollars. It's her brother's graduation gown.
It's going to take her fifteen minutes. Max. And so Dylan,
I like, he has a job interview today because you know, his winter
one was ski instructor. So he's a job interview today at a fried Aloney's
hardware store. Hey, that's great. He's fifteen and he's already has he
saves. I think he saves seventy percent of his paycheck right now. Well
before he did ninety percent. But his plan is seventy percent of the paycheck,
and then he gets ten percent he can spend on anything he wants,
and then he has like another twenty percent he decides like if he wants to
use it for this or that. But he's Jake makes him like explain plans
and like, I don't Jake's really so I hope Jake also is very helpful
with all of them in that same regard. Because I lived in scarcity,
I don't want all of to live in scarcity. But I want her to
be she's not living in scarcity. I mean, it's a whole different world.
Yeah, I think that I've heard that too. You live in the
house, you do not get paid extra to mow the lawn. And Susan
was extravagance like, oh, Carson, go snowblow the driveway. I'll give
you twenty bucks. Like twenty bucks, I'll go snowblow the driveway. Geez.
We didn't get a whole lot of more emails, so we would encourage
you to send in more emails. See if there's anything else that we wanted
to bring up. I did. We were talking about and I really think
this is true. So I'm gonna bring this up again because I really I
kind of stumbled upon him. But an epiphany this morning and that we were
talking about advice for high school graduates and we did that around seven twenty seven,
twenty five, and it was really interesting and whether you're like graduating high
school this year or whether you graduated a long time ago, there was some
good advice in there. But one kind of an epiphany that I had is
this, and I really believe this is true. Material things only make you
happy for a minute, but it's people that can make you happy for a
lifetime. So in other words, your mom and your relationship with your mom,
or your partner, your romantic partner, the other half of you or
whatever is what can really make you happy. I think it's all people,
because think about it. If I went out right now and bought I don't
know, Let's say I bought like a fifty thousand dollar motorcycle. Oh man,
that'd be cool. I would love it. But if I didn't have
anybody to ride around with and it was just me, it wouldn't really be
a whole lot of fun. Or let's say if I bought a beautiful home
on Lake Minnetonka and it was overlooking the beach and I had a little boat
launched at whatever, but I lived there alone or was somebody that I didn't
really care about, it wouldn't matter if I lived in the nicest house on
Lake Minnetonka. So I really think that what I finally figured out what makes
happy and life. It's not the things that you buy or that you own,
or the shiny things that you show off. It is your relationships with
people. And you don't have to have any money or nice things to have
relationships with people. True, So I thought that was kind of an epiphany.
Anything else we want to add to the Minnesota Goodbye? Keep on keeping
on? Playboys and playgirls, so very good. Okay, that's it.
Okay, we need your emails. What do you want to bring up?
What do you want to bring up? What do you want to talk about?
What do you ever say? God, I wish they would have talked
more about that, or they should bring this up on the Minnesota Goodbye,
So send those emails to Ryan Show at KDWB dot com