On the Minnesota Goodbye. We get to spend a little bit more time talking
about things that we don't necessarily talk about on the radio, and I,
you know what, you talk about your anxiety, Jenny. And I keep
telling Jenny, I said, cheer the fuck up, just cheer the fuck
You do not say that, I say, I say a lot of get
over it, and then I say cheer the fuck up, because you and
your anxiety is just given me. No, I'm totally kidding. I'm sure
that there are people who still do is like, cheer the fuck up.
I mean not in your life, right, No, I mean there's some
people I deal with not they don't say cheer the fuck up, but they
do say you get over it. No, they say you have a really
good life. I don't understand why you feel this way, And it's really
one of the most frustrating things to hear because I also don't understand, and
I also acknowledge that I have a good life. But that doesn't mean that
my mental health can be not just fucking cheering up, Jenny. I mean,
I've tried cheer fuck up. You're right, I've tried. I guess
I gotta try harder let's call this episode cheers the fuck up. No,
I don't know anyway. So I have what I would call situational anxiety if
I have a reason. I'm a pretty happy, well balanced person, and
so are you, by the way, But I get situational anxiety and then
I overthink, and like last night my speech at the Spectrum High School up
in Oak River, I had been anxious about it because people think of speech
as you get up on stage and you speak for ten minutes and that's all
there is to it. Well, No, there's writing and learning about the
audience and then customizing and then putting things in the right order, and then
timing it and then doing it again, and then you wait for your introduction
and your heart's pounding and you're and I'm taking deep breaths, and so I've
been anxious kind of building up to that last night. Yeah, because one
of the reasons that I do public speaking is because I used to be so
bad at it. And I used to go out to high schools on career
day when people used to want to get into radio. Nobody does anymore,
but I would go out to high schools twenty years ago, and I'd be
so nervous in front of a bunch of sixteen year olds that actually thought I
was pretty cool. And I knew way more about radio than anybody did,
and I had a lot to offer, but i'd be nervous. So I
joined Toastmasters, which is a dumb name for a great group, and you
learn how to speak and how to get experienced, because a lot of it
is experience and looking out at faces while you're speaking. And last night I
got up on stage and I started with I wanted them to know that I'm
funny, because I think I'm hysterical right away. So they're applauding, Dave
Ryan, everybody. So they're applauding, and I get up on the podium
and I said keep it coming, keep it coming, and they laugh,
so they knew right away that it would be funny. And then I made
a joke about I said something about that didn't go over very well, and
I just kept moving and it didn't get a laugh, so I just kept
moving. And then I made a joke about how I'm going to keep this
speech short because when I asked chat Gpt to write this speech, and that
got a big laugh. Because high school students probably are you using chat che
probably using chat GPT. We got through the last couple of years of high
school with it, probably so so anyway, I just want to let you
know that I also get very nervous. I don't get nervous to do the
show. I get nervous about some of the things we do on the show,
but we're well past the part of where we ever get nervous to do
the show. For sure. I can get up on stage at the Target
Center and introduce a band and it doesn't make me nervous. But I can
stand in front of six people to do a presentation and I get nervous.
Yeah, all right, let's read our first email. It says, hello
Crewe. Yes, Crewe is in Dave, Jenny and Bailey and Vaughant.
How exciting to be able to type that. I just want to say,
I'm so happy for the new additions to the show. Listening since nineteen ninety
eight and adding Vaunton Bailey provides this stability in my life I need. As
I often joke that the Dave Ryan Show is my baby Blankie. I have
listened so long and I still remember when the podcasts were new and you could
only hear that morning show on a continuous repeat on iHeartRadio. That was about
twenty fourteen, and I would clean, cook, and take care of my
baby while listening to a Repat repeat all day long. I wanted to apologize
today for being one of those drunks who chased him up the hill off the
drag brunch boat in twenty nineteen and asking him to find my friend a husband.
My bad and still to this day, one of my most embarrassing moments.
For what it's worth, April, I don't remember that, and I'm
fine and you're good, so don't be embarrassed about it. I don't remember
it, and I probably thought it was funny, and we've all done things
when we were drunk, so don't feel bad about it. I was also
on Dave's podcast when he was interviewing people in sobriety two years ago. I've
always had a battle with it. I was still fighting it at the time,
but I am happy to say that I am ninety six days sober and
done for you. Just want to clarify, I've never had a DUI.
I've never been to treatment, so I did not have the stereotypical drinking problem.
Society and visions, but I found myself losing all control with it and
not able to stay away. Back in February, I finally had a moment
to just click, and something in my head told me, if you don't
stop now, it's not a matter of if you get a DUI or go
to treatment. It's when that little voice stuck with me, and I just
stopped cold turkey, and I do not miss or desire it even a bit.
That is something I never imagine thinking or feeling. But here I am
alcohol free with kids, family and events, and I also won the first
set of tickets to the Summer Cruise on June eleventh, and I'm beyond hype
to enjoying my first KDWB event free from alcohol, training for Grandma's half marathon,
as well as loving life again. Looking forward to June eleventh. Insert
random Minnesota goodbye sign on here. Reader's choice. I'm going to say dart
Lick April in Cottage Grove, Thank you, April. I'll give you a
one piece of advice, April. What I've heard, what I've learned now
that you're ninety six days sobered, dude, please do not get to a
point. And this is your choice don't get to a point where you'll have
just one. If you have just one, it's kind of like having one
cigarette. It's really hard to just have one. Yeah, So that is
my advice. The longer you can stay totally alcohol free, the more your
chances are of never drinking again. And maybe your goal is not to drink
ever again. Maybe your goal is to just stop for a while. Yeah.
I think a lot of people. By the sounds of it, she
said it like sounds like it's a control thing for her, like she wasn't
getting really good at controlling it. So I think that is more of a
situation where, yeah, you don't even want to have one, because if
you have one, you'll have two and three and four. Yeah. No,
it's It's very true. I've had friends who have stopped over one hundred
days and then they're like, you know what, damn it, I'm going
to have a drink, and then they start up again just as much as
they drink before. Dara writes in Hello to the new Morning Show. Love
the announcement of the two editions, and I can't wait for the new dynamic
commercials on the podcast. It always seems to be a constant thing that's brought
up. I wonder if they know that they can fast forward through them.
There is a thirty second skip button on the iHeart app, and I use
it frequently to go fast past them faster, and if I go too far,
then I use the back button. I do agree. Sometimes they come
at inopportune times. But everything has commercials, YouTube and other podcasts and other
platforms. That's true. Sometimes I'm watching a YouTube video and then here comes
the guy I want to get shredded. You can get shred fuck and shut
up, and you got to watch it. Usually they're kind of short.
Yeah, are the commercials on our podcast thirty seconds or sixty seconds? I
think they're thirty thirty seconds, but sometimes there's two. I do think you're
maybe I'm wrong about this. I don't think you're allowed to skip the very
first ones, okay, but inside of them, yes, you should be
able to. But I think we've had people email and and be like,
I'm in the middle of a workout, I don't have I don't want to
get my phone out, and like have to skip through it, you know.
So it's still an inconvenience for if they're placed in the middle of something
that is a conversation happening yesterday during our announcement of vont and Bailey being on
the show. I didn't hear it, but somebody sent me a screenshot and
they said, look at this is what happened. A fucking commercial came on
right in the middle of you making the announcement and it was on for you
know, a minute or whatever, and then it went right back and rejoined
where we left off. But it was still annoying. It's kind of like
this big dramatic moment and then there's a Chumba casino ad. Yeah. Yeah,
it's We're trying, I will just say, and I don't want to
make promises right now, but we are working with someone who works with our
digital team to try to fix these issues because I think there's a new way
we can adjust the commercials. Next one, Hello to the New Morning Show.
Oh we just read that one. Okay, I'm want to finish off.
Sorry. Here it is the same writer says where is your dream vacation
and somewhere you've been that is one of your top places to visit. I'm
dreaming of taking a vacation and I just want to get ideas. New Zealand
I think is my new dream place. I watched the documentary the other day.
It's called The Volcano Rescue on something whatever, And I don't want to
get rescued from a volcano. But New Zealand looks beautiful and far away and
exotic, and they speak English, and their culture is similar enough to Western
culture that I'd be able to vibe and fit in pretty easily. And I
want to go do shit that they do in New Zealand, like rafting and
kayaking and climbing and adventure some things. Did you like skydiving or cliff jumping
or anything like that? Nothing of a skydive? Four times? Have you
ever skydived, Jenny, No, I don't think i'd ever want to do
that. I'd probably do the kind where you jump off a high bridge into
a valley or something like that, where you're attached to a bungee bungee.
Yeah, yeah, I'd probably do something like that. But I'm not skydiving.
Just I don't like the thought of free falling until the shoot the parachute
opens. That terrifies me. Yeah, I've done it four times. I've
hated it every single time. And what are you going back for more than
peer pressure. Yeah, I mean peer pressure and radio station pressures, like
okay, let's make people talk about the show. Let's go skydiving. There's
some great visuals. If you go skydiving, you're gonna get some great content
for your Instagram. And this is before Instagram, but still it was a
buzz and and I was terrified every single time, just and I'd like airplanes,
but just taking off in the airplane and then they open up the door
and you stand in the doorway and they go one, two and then you
roll out. No, yeah, not. What about your dream vacation,
Jenny, I would probably say going to the Laffatan Islands in Norway. It's
kind of like not as well known. I think when you go to Norway
people go to like Oslo a lot or that, like the southern area.
But those islands are just beautiful. I've seen so many videos of them,
and I would love to go see them. You know who My favorite vacations
are, I mean just going to like Glacier or Yellowstone or the Black Hills.
I am as simple pleasures kind of a guy. I love going to
the Koa campground, getting a camping cabin, sitting out front, you know,
like having a beer by the fire. Yeah, and that's my that's
my joy. I don't need to be into like a five star hotel.
I'm just like simple things for sure. I'm not quite as simple, but
I like to go places where there's like beautiful landscapes. So like those islands
aren't like islands like Hawaii or something. It's like these mountainous looks, like
the rocky mountains almost mixed with like greenery islands, and there's a lot of
hiking there. So I'm just more of I want to see all the beautiful
landscapes. Yeah. I'm not so much a camping person though, but I
do enjoy a good cabin weekend where it's just relaxed and chill, you're not
doing anything too crazy. Well that's kind of why i like going to Colorado
so much. And I'm going to Colorado this weekend because it's like a cabin.
Some people in the family refer to it as the cabin and you sit
around, there's deer in the yard. Yeah, you're out in nature.
It's just awesome. So all right. Next email from Gina, who I
ran into last night at the Elk River speech. She's in my Ukulele Club,
and she writes in this Morning it says, Minnesota, goodbye. Dave
did great at graduation, Dave, Jenny vont Bailey. I just have to
brag on Dave a little bit. My daughter graduated tonight and Dave was the
commencement speecher speaker. He did such a great job. Everyone was talking about
how it was one of the best ceremonies they had been to. Thanks again,
Dave for all you do in the community and giving back. I know
you were super over were committed lately, and I'm glad you said yes to
this made a special night even more memorable. If you get a chance,
I'd love a staff rider sticker. Have Bailey get to work and send me
what walked in. Hi, Bailey Bye. You were in the other room
learning audio loading. I was learning how to load the dirt audio and I
did it all by myself, seriously, I did. I don't even know
how to do that. So you take audio off a computer and then you
stick it in another computer and then we played on another computer. Yes,
and it's obnoxious because all of the computers have a different mouse. So oh,
but you learned that on day two. Well, I've been learning for
like, I guess I've been learning it for three days, so it took
me a hot minute, but I did it all by myself. Oh my
god, good for you. So you need to send out, Gina a
staff writer sticker down. Well, I got to bring in the staff rider
stickers. I get a bunch of envelopes. Here, is there a bunch
in there? Yeah, you do have some sit in in there. I
was wondering if you had. I don't know why, but I think Vaunt
said brings some in in case we need them. Okay, Gina, I
want to tell you it was a delight and surprise to see you last night
because you walked up and I'm like, that looks just like Gina from my
ukulelean and I'm like, oh shit, that is Gina. So thank you,
and thanks for the kind words about the speech last night. Next one,
please don't say my name. First off, So excited about the additions
to the morning show. So great you aren't retiring yet, Dave, you
know, give it another week, Give it another week. Okay. So
last week, Dave, you said people don't do things for you. Well
I got a piggyback on that and say, I hate when people don't ask
how you are doing after you asked them, especially after they give you a
full fucking update of their life. This is my biggest pet peeve and just
playing rude. I just don't understand how somebody can talk about themselves then in
return not ask how you you are? Am I alone in this? Or?
Do you guys agree? I'd love a sticker? Thanks guys, Bye,
Bailey. Do you get annoyed with people when they don't ask how you
are? No? Because, and I will say, I've actually been told
by a friend this was forever ago, but he was like, you never
asked me about my life, and I'm under the impression if we're friends,
you're just gonna tell me about your life, Okay. But I guess it's
different if your acquaintances, because after that conversation I had with that friend,
I've been way more cognizant of it and it's like always on my mind.
So if I'm having a conversation with like an acquaintance or a stranger or something,
I'll have to be like Bailey, ask them a question. Bailey,
ask them a question in my head in order to do it. But like
my understanding is if your friends, you should be just telling me about your
life, so I'll dish to you and then if you say something about it,
awesome. But if you're not telling me about your life, that's on
you. Okay. I've had friends that are really really like Curtis is like
one of my best friends. He only asks about me, and I have
to stop him and say, well, what about you? How's your work?
Oh, my work's fine. How's Jenny doing? And I'm like,
well, Jenny's a bitch, but how's your she is? How's your work?
And Jenny, what about you? Do you have friends that like ask
that don't ask about you? Yeah, I'm not really friends, but there
is someone I'm very close with that I know who it is. It's the
same friend. No, it's not a friend, it's a family member.
And they've gone through a lot of things. And I mean I was going
through some really tough things a couple months ago, and not a single question
was asked to me. As I counseled that person for about an hour and
it was super frustrating and really like draining, and was like, Wow,
you didn't ask me one thing. I sat and like was comforting you for
an hour straight and you didn't ask me a single thing. Why do you
think that is? Do you think that people just don't think about I don't
think that anybody gets up in the morning and says, I'm going to be
a difficult person today. Is it just that they're so self absorbed that they
can't think of anybody else, or they forget or what do you think it
is? I think that generally it's a forgetful thing. Or just like how
Bailey such, it kind of took someone acknowledging it to her. I think
it's more of that than self absorbed. But obviously there's plenty of self absorb
people out there too. Same also, I am self absorbed, but yes,
no, I don't think you are. I think that Bailey is like
one of these people that, like, she reminds me something of Tina,
that they instantly seem like they're your friend, they express interest in you.
Tina had no interest in me, but she always was good at pretending that
she did. Okay, so what's weird is we got cut off a minute
ago while we're doing the Minnesota advice, so we're gonna have to wrap things
up here, and there were more emails, So if we didn't get to
yours. We'll try to get to it another time. Have a great weekend.
Are you guys doing anything special. I'm gonna be in Colorado doing a
little yard work using a chain saw. I'm gonna hike part way up Pike's
Peak on Sunday. What are you doing Conown? Coming here with the big
hike I do. Yeah, it's about it's about a month away. Yeah,
yeah, that's exciting. Today, I think I'm gonna head downtown and
to enjoy Setimberwolves pre party action and the Andrew and I are maybe going to
try to get super last minute like when the game starts discounted tickets, Okay,
And tomorrow I have friends doing a bikes and bruise, so we're gonna
bike around and go to a bunch of breweries Sunday TVD wow, dang,
you're doing a lot of stuff. I have a friend who is getting married
on Sunday, and so they're doing like a whole weekend full of festivities.
So tomorrow we're going on like the Saint Croix paddle boat, which is exciting,
and then they're doing a huge dinner and then they're getting married on Sunday
and then We're doing a breakfast on Monday, so I just get to hang
out with my friend who's getting married. And are you in the wedding?
No? Do you feel sad that you'll never get married, Bailey? You
know sometimes it bums me out, but you know what, then I go
home, I pick up my cat, and everything's better. Ah. That's
so sweet and lonely. All right, have a great weekend, be safe,
and we will see you Tuesday on KATIWB and on the Minnesota Goodbye.