WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.720 I'm gonna start off the Minnesota Goodbye was something that I wasn't even sure that 2 00:00:02.759 --> 00:00:06.679 I wanted to bring up on the Minnesota Goodbye or on the radio. So 3 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:10.039 tell me your thoughts on this one. Yeah. So we're at the lake. 4 00:00:10.400 --> 00:00:13.880 We're on Minnaweshta. I think this was on. Yeah, it was 5 00:00:13.919 --> 00:00:19.000 on Sad it doesn't matter, Saturday or Sunday. We're at the lake and 6 00:00:19.039 --> 00:00:23.280 we're out on our little kayak and we bought this inflatable kayak and it's awful 7 00:00:23.440 --> 00:00:26.600 because it doesn't give you any back support, so you can't lean up against 8 00:00:26.600 --> 00:00:30.440 the backrest, so you have to lean all the way back, which means 9 00:00:30.480 --> 00:00:32.759 your head wants to go back, so you have to hold your head up. 10 00:00:32.799 --> 00:00:35.159 And it was awful. Yeah. So we're out there and we're trying 11 00:00:35.159 --> 00:00:38.280 to make the most of it whatever, and we saw something really weird and 12 00:00:38.320 --> 00:00:42.200 this is what I hesitated to bring up. So there's a swimming area at 13 00:00:42.280 --> 00:00:48.359 Minnaweshta Beach and it'll come up to like the average adults waste okay, And 14 00:00:48.439 --> 00:00:54.560 there's a guy who was definitely grandpa with his granddaughter and they were splashing around 15 00:00:54.679 --> 00:00:59.320 and wrestling and having fun and whatever. And then Susan and I we weren't 16 00:00:59.320 --> 00:01:04.120 trying to watch, but this granddaughter was probably about ten, grandpa was sixty 17 00:01:04.359 --> 00:01:08.680 five ish, and he would pick the girls so she's facing him, and 18 00:01:08.760 --> 00:01:11.560 he would pick the girl up with his hands under her butt, under her 19 00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:19.719 thighs and like kind of swinger around, and it was weird and creepy and 20 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:26.480 inappropriate, and Susan said something. First, she said, Okay, that's 21 00:01:26.519 --> 00:01:30.200 creepy, and I said, yeah, he looks creepy, and because he's 22 00:01:30.319 --> 00:01:34.200 full body contact with his hand under his granddaughter's but I'm gonna guess a granddaughter 23 00:01:34.200 --> 00:01:38.519 could have been anybody, and they're kind of the need thrower in the water. 24 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:42.400 And then she'd get back up and she was giggling because she's ten and 25 00:01:42.439 --> 00:01:46.599 she didn't know that it was inappropriate. But there's no fucking way that guy 26 00:01:47.000 --> 00:01:52.319 didn't know. You don't pick up a ten year old boy or girl that 27 00:01:52.359 --> 00:01:56.879 way facing you, so their legs are wrapped around you. So it wasn't 28 00:01:56.920 --> 00:01:59.280 like we were going to say anything. I mean, there's no way we 29 00:01:59.280 --> 00:02:00.359 were going to paddle and say, hey, you know what, we don't 30 00:02:00.400 --> 00:02:04.439 know you, We don't know your situation. But we don't like what you're 31 00:02:04.480 --> 00:02:07.759 doing. Yeah, so what do you I mean, were we I'm not 32 00:02:07.840 --> 00:02:12.439 asking were we wrong? Not to say anything, but what are your thoughts? 33 00:02:12.479 --> 00:02:15.800 There's no way that was like that. He didn't realize that's not right. 34 00:02:16.840 --> 00:02:20.439 Am I wrong? Are you sure that a girl's ten, because that 35 00:02:20.520 --> 00:02:24.240 does seem very old for them to like beholding eight or ten. Eight or 36 00:02:24.280 --> 00:02:28.080 ten, yeah, kind of like equated to my niece's four, and I 37 00:02:28.159 --> 00:02:30.879 was like carrying her around this week. Percent yes, because that's what I 38 00:02:30.919 --> 00:02:34.000 said. I said when Alison and Carson were four or five, six, 39 00:02:34.599 --> 00:02:38.800 you bet, But because it's not weird when they're little. I remember when 40 00:02:38.800 --> 00:02:43.919 Carson was two, he hated taking a bath or a shower, so I 41 00:02:43.960 --> 00:02:47.400 would have to get in the shower and hold little naked Carson and wash him. 42 00:02:47.639 --> 00:02:51.280 And I would hold him like up against my side, under his bare 43 00:02:51.360 --> 00:02:54.520 butt and wash him. But he was two. There was nothing creepy about 44 00:02:54.560 --> 00:02:59.039 it that kid needed a shower. But there's an age where it's like you 45 00:02:59.199 --> 00:03:02.240 don't do that. There definitely is an age. I think that some families, 46 00:03:02.240 --> 00:03:06.520 though, are just a little bit more unique in that way. Because 47 00:03:06.560 --> 00:03:08.879 I was at a wedding in the last couple of years where the father of 48 00:03:08.919 --> 00:03:15.800 the bride was giving this really long speech yea and telling all these stories of 49 00:03:15.879 --> 00:03:19.120 the things he used to do. And he talked about like pinching his daughter's 50 00:03:19.199 --> 00:03:24.039 butt in it, and it made me really uncomfortable. I was like it 51 00:03:24.120 --> 00:03:29.639 was like the kind of like punchline of the story, Like she always loved 52 00:03:29.680 --> 00:03:31.159 it because I go up and I'd like, pinch your butt afterwards, and 53 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:34.280 that was like your thing. And then he'd like say something in like a 54 00:03:34.280 --> 00:03:38.000 baby voice. And to be at like thirty two years old, like if 55 00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:39.919 my dad was saying that about me, I'd be like, ter stop it, 56 00:03:40.039 --> 00:03:43.919 even if like that was something we give here a little. So I 57 00:03:44.000 --> 00:03:47.120 just think that, like some families are different and like a little more like 58 00:03:47.319 --> 00:03:51.680 touchy, but it's very loving, you know, in that way. There's 59 00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:54.400 a skit on Saturday Night Live that goes back ten or fifteen years where the 60 00:03:54.439 --> 00:03:58.599 family whenever they like go to to mom and Dad's house, they kiss each 61 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:00.520 other like long on the you know that when you've seen it, right. 62 00:04:01.240 --> 00:04:05.360 And I remember when I was dating a girl back in Ohio long ago, 63 00:04:05.560 --> 00:04:10.439 I went to her house and her brother come in and her dad was there, 64 00:04:10.479 --> 00:04:15.599 and her dad and her brother adult brother twenty kissed Dad on the lips, 65 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:20.959 and I was mortified, horrified. I was like, oh, because 66 00:04:21.000 --> 00:04:26.720 in my family, we didn't even hug much less kiss much less kiss on 67 00:04:26.759 --> 00:04:29.360 the lips. We hugged my mom, My mom would kiss us on the 68 00:04:29.439 --> 00:04:32.360 cheek, but Dad it was a handshake. And I was like, that's 69 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:35.920 so fucked up. But you're right, to them, it was probably just 70 00:04:36.040 --> 00:04:40.439 normal. So maybe I overreacted to it, But that's kind of why I 71 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:44.079 brought it up, because to me, in my family, no way what 72 00:04:44.240 --> 00:04:47.399 I would have had ten year old Allison or a nine year old Beth straddle 73 00:04:47.480 --> 00:04:53.480 me almost naked in a swimsuit. Yeah yeah, no, I mean I'm 74 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:57.480 not saying you're overreacting at all. I'm sure it was like uncomfortable to most 75 00:04:57.480 --> 00:05:00.759 people seeing it, but to them, like I said, it, probably 76 00:05:00.959 --> 00:05:03.040 it's just like their families like that. Like my family was leaving for the 77 00:05:03.040 --> 00:05:06.199 weekend to go back home to Wisconsin because they were visiting, and I went 78 00:05:06.279 --> 00:05:09.639 and gave my niece and nephew a hug and stuff, and then I went 79 00:05:09.680 --> 00:05:12.639 to like try to give everyone else a hug and my family's just not a 80 00:05:12.720 --> 00:05:15.839 hugging family. But I'm a hugger. Yeah, And so they even brought 81 00:05:15.879 --> 00:05:16.360 it up. They're like, what are you doing, Like, we're not 82 00:05:16.519 --> 00:05:19.600 huggers, and I was like, well, I am so get used to 83 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:24.399 it. I'm gonna hug you all. Yeah. My dad a few years 84 00:05:24.439 --> 00:05:26.439 before he died, he was never a hugger. I said, I'm gonna 85 00:05:26.439 --> 00:05:28.240 give you a hug anyway, Dad, I'm gonna give you a hug. 86 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:30.199 And then he would kind of like do the half one arm pat on the 87 00:05:30.240 --> 00:05:34.959 back kind of a hug. Ava. My granddaughter is coming up on three 88 00:05:35.319 --> 00:05:41.439 and I went over there yesterday and for a little cookout for Memorial Day. 89 00:05:41.759 --> 00:05:46.360 And when I left, Alison, her mom said, give Grandpa. She 90 00:05:46.399 --> 00:05:50.240 calls me Peepa, which is horrible, Give peepa hug. And Ava came 91 00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:53.360 over and gave me a hug. But I know that you're not supposed to 92 00:05:53.399 --> 00:05:57.000 ask kids to hug people. If the kid wants to, that's great, 93 00:05:57.040 --> 00:05:59.680 But I think that there's it's kind of come up in the last few years. 94 00:06:00.040 --> 00:06:03.000 Don't have the expectation that your kids should hug anybody that they don't want 95 00:06:03.000 --> 00:06:06.519 to hug, but she gladly did. She loves me. It's so funny 96 00:06:06.519 --> 00:06:11.199 because she is at that age when she's got to show off everything. So 97 00:06:11.279 --> 00:06:14.360 the minute I walked in the door, she climbed up on my lap and 98 00:06:14.439 --> 00:06:16.319 she wanted to show me a book that makes noises, and then she wanted 99 00:06:16.319 --> 00:06:18.439 to show me this, and then she wanted me to go to the park 100 00:06:18.480 --> 00:06:26.079 with her. So all right, moving on to the emails. This one 101 00:06:26.120 --> 00:06:30.759 said trigger warning. And I missed all week of shows last week because I 102 00:06:30.800 --> 00:06:32.639 was in the hospital. I had a miscarriage. I'm so sorry to hear 103 00:06:32.680 --> 00:06:36.199 that. Listening to you guys and catching up has made me feel more normal 104 00:06:36.240 --> 00:06:43.040 and has helped me a ridiculous amount. Thank you for being helping me forget 105 00:06:43.079 --> 00:06:46.839 about the seriousness and realness of the world around me. It's a break that 106 00:06:46.879 --> 00:06:48.399 I needed and appreciate it. I find so much joy in being able to 107 00:06:48.480 --> 00:06:54.040 laugh at something when everything in my life seems to suck. That is Jenny 108 00:06:54.199 --> 00:06:57.680 from Arizona. Jenny, I'm glad you listened all the way in Arizona. 109 00:06:58.160 --> 00:07:02.040 I'm sorry you've gone through that, and I hear you sometimes everything in life 110 00:07:02.079 --> 00:07:05.879 seems to suck. This happens, Then this happens, Then this happens. 111 00:07:06.240 --> 00:07:10.480 Just know that it'll get better. Right now, Chase is going through some 112 00:07:10.519 --> 00:07:14.439 shit. My son Chase, and he has overworked and life has thrown a 113 00:07:14.519 --> 00:07:16.240 lot of stuff, and he's trying to close up his mom's estate because his 114 00:07:16.319 --> 00:07:20.079 mom died last November. And he said, I said, I said, 115 00:07:20.120 --> 00:07:23.439 is there anything I can do for you? Said, just give me some 116 00:07:23.439 --> 00:07:26.639 good advice and support. And I said, it'll get better. I said, 117 00:07:26.759 --> 00:07:30.279 right now, it sucks, but it will get better when work slows 118 00:07:30.360 --> 00:07:33.959 down and life slows down, and you're only going to have to close out 119 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:38.000 your mom's estate one time. You're only going to have to close her bank 120 00:07:38.040 --> 00:07:41.800 account and her credit cards one time, then things will get better. So 121 00:07:41.839 --> 00:07:44.680 I would say the same thing to you, Jenny, is that things will 122 00:07:44.720 --> 00:07:49.399 get better, all right. Next one, I have a favor to ask. 123 00:07:51.480 --> 00:07:54.079 I actually want to say this for the air, but I'll go ahead 124 00:07:54.079 --> 00:07:56.600 and read this as I started. I'm a girl fairly young but not too 125 00:07:56.680 --> 00:07:58.879 young. In your next War of the Roses, when you talk to Jonathan 126 00:07:58.920 --> 00:08:01.720 Fogel, could you please please tell him there's a young girl named Sophie in 127 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:03.800 Minnesota that wants to be a family lawyer. I would be so happy to 128 00:08:03.839 --> 00:08:07.040 hear that. I'm a huge fan of War the Roses listen every single episode. 129 00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:11.000 Thanks so much, your biggest fan, Sophie. I will I will 130 00:08:11.040 --> 00:08:16.959 pass that along to him. That's very nice. Next one I haven't been 131 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:20.519 able to and this is again for more for the morning show, but just 132 00:08:20.560 --> 00:08:22.040 to follow it up, there was a guy who called in last week said 133 00:08:22.040 --> 00:08:26.240 that he got dumped by his girlfriend of eight years. She was tired of 134 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:31.079 waiting. What could he do to get her back? And so we talked 135 00:08:31.079 --> 00:08:35.120 about that for a little bit. She said, basically that happened to me 136 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:39.600 too, but I was the woman. I made a life altering change in 137 00:08:39.639 --> 00:08:43.240 my life by losing a hundred and sixty five pounds, and I cracked out 138 00:08:43.240 --> 00:08:46.639 of my shell in order to find out who I was and who I really 139 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:50.039 wanted to be with to make me happy. I feel like when I met 140 00:08:50.080 --> 00:08:52.679 the first guy, I wanted love so bad. I wanted to have a 141 00:08:52.720 --> 00:08:58.000 boyfriend so bad, and he did want the same things I did. But 142 00:08:58.200 --> 00:09:05.279 basically time went on and she lost the physical attraction, and then basically it 143 00:09:05.320 --> 00:09:09.320 gave her an opportunity to meet her person out of the blue, when she 144 00:09:09.399 --> 00:09:13.960 wasn't even looking for a relationship. I had truly found love within myself and 145 00:09:15.080 --> 00:09:18.759 grew to love who I am. I feel you can't let someone love you 146 00:09:18.879 --> 00:09:22.279 until you can love yourself. So maybe we can have her at Shout. 147 00:09:22.320 --> 00:09:24.279 Her should be on the show, so maybe we can have her on sometime 148 00:09:26.320 --> 00:09:28.759 next One we were talking about the State Fair preview. I think it was 149 00:09:28.879 --> 00:09:31.919 last weekend. I was, well, yeah, it was last weekend. 150 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:35.399 Yeah, And I said, I love the State Fair, which I do, 151 00:09:35.639 --> 00:09:37.960 but I don't want to hear about the State Fair this early in the 152 00:09:39.039 --> 00:09:43.159 season. The same way I don't want Christmas decorations up in Walmart in July 153 00:09:43.879 --> 00:09:48.240 the Fairest Special, but I don't want to be reminded that summer is rapidly 154 00:09:48.559 --> 00:09:54.799 approaching State Fair time. So Christie writes in said, I know it was 155 00:09:54.799 --> 00:09:56.399 in good humor, but the kickoff of the summer at the State Fair was 156 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:01.480 great, small crowd, free parking, lots of great food, in music. 157 00:10:01.480 --> 00:10:03.960 I found a new a few food items that I would have never founded 158 00:10:05.000 --> 00:10:07.360 the actual State Fair because it's so big, in so many and so many 159 00:10:07.360 --> 00:10:11.840 options. I went Thursday. They had seven bands playing throughout all were amazing, 160 00:10:11.840 --> 00:10:13.720 and it was nice to be able to grab food and go and just 161 00:10:13.759 --> 00:10:18.320 sit listen to music. Although I definitely understand where you're coming from. I 162 00:10:18.360 --> 00:10:20.919 have family that grew up going to the fair and showing animals at the fair. 163 00:10:20.200 --> 00:10:22.559 Then I did it, and now I go three times a year to 164 00:10:22.600 --> 00:10:28.720 watch my nieces show their animals. Love you all from Christie, so you 165 00:10:28.759 --> 00:10:30.559 know I'll stick with that. I mean, I'm glad you had a good 166 00:10:30.559 --> 00:10:33.679 time. It's cool that they do it, but I don't want State Fair 167 00:10:33.679 --> 00:10:37.000 stuff. Until August, I know, we were giving away Jonas Brothers tickets 168 00:10:37.000 --> 00:10:41.639 all weekend for the State Fair, and I was on on Sunday and I 169 00:10:41.679 --> 00:10:43.320 was like, man, I just I kept saying. I was like, 170 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:46.000 I don't want to be talking about the State Fair right now, but here 171 00:10:46.000 --> 00:10:50.960 are your tickets for Jonas Brothers. It's no kidding because it's still like it's 172 00:10:50.159 --> 00:10:54.480 literally it's going to be going on in let's see three months June, July, 173 00:10:54.559 --> 00:11:01.519 August, three months away from the fair. Okay, last one checking 174 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:05.320 for time we're doing okay. I wanted to respond to the woman whose husband 175 00:11:05.360 --> 00:11:09.039 is having a hard time connecting with her newborn, as her story sounds a 176 00:11:09.039 --> 00:11:11.840 lot like mine. A few weeks ago, we were talking with somebody whose 177 00:11:11.879 --> 00:11:15.720 husband cannot connect. No, it was two guys, right, it was 178 00:11:15.759 --> 00:11:18.080 two guys, and one guy was a couple of weeks ago. Now yep, 179 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:22.240 and he doesn't connect with the baby, even though they both really wanted 180 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:24.559 a baby. The first couple of weeks, my husband and I were both 181 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:28.200 on cloud nine after bringing our daughter home. I really thought things couldn't get 182 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:31.120 any better than this. But after a few weeks there was a shift. 183 00:11:31.600 --> 00:11:35.399 He had a very hard time dealing with her crying. It would instantly shift 184 00:11:35.440 --> 00:11:39.039 his mood and would completely disconnect and shut down and even get angry. I 185 00:11:39.039 --> 00:11:41.759 would try to help and explain ways of bonding with her at such a young 186 00:11:41.799 --> 00:11:45.240 age, but he didn't want to hear it and thought it was a bunch 187 00:11:45.279 --> 00:11:48.840 of crap I was picking up from the internet. Oh, a bunch of 188 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:52.039 crap that I was picking up from the internet. We got into a few 189 00:11:52.120 --> 00:11:54.000 nasty fights about it. I had fallen so deeply in love with our daughter, 190 00:11:54.000 --> 00:11:58.080 and I just couldn't understand how he didn't see how amazing she was and 191 00:11:58.200 --> 00:12:03.759 how easy of a baby she really was. Thankfully, I do have a 192 00:12:03.759 --> 00:12:07.759 therapist that I've been seeing since long before our daughter to help me navigate this. 193 00:12:07.840 --> 00:12:09.879 She explained to me, Hey, it's completely normal for men to have 194 00:12:09.879 --> 00:12:16.120 a harder time bonding with their baby. Men tend to need more instant gratification, 195 00:12:16.600 --> 00:12:20.000 and you don't get that from a newborn. They are literally just little 196 00:12:20.039 --> 00:12:22.320 blobs that you need to keep alive for the first six or so months. 197 00:12:22.679 --> 00:12:26.039 Then they start to gain a little personality and they smile and they make eye 198 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:31.200 contact. Yeah, our daughter is now ten months old. That's gotten better. 199 00:12:31.679 --> 00:12:33.600 She is so much more responsive and playful. He still has such a 200 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:37.639 hard time when she cries, but he is able to get over it much 201 00:12:37.679 --> 00:12:41.759 more quickly when she smiles or when he makes her giggle. Even if she's 202 00:12:41.759 --> 00:12:43.399 in another room with me and he hears her giggling, he'll stop what he's 203 00:12:43.399 --> 00:12:46.879 doing and come in so he can be a part of the fun. One 204 00:12:46.879 --> 00:12:48.919 of our friends also had the same issues bonding with his son when he arrives, 205 00:12:48.919 --> 00:12:52.919 so my husband did have someone he could connect with and relate to on 206 00:12:52.960 --> 00:12:56.240 this, which seemed to help. He truly was hating himself because he couldn't 207 00:12:56.279 --> 00:13:00.559 understand why he wasn't able to connect with her and felt like thing was wrong 208 00:13:00.600 --> 00:13:03.879 with him. So having someone that had been through it was a great support 209 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:09.279 thing for him. Anyway, she goes on to say, Christine, thank 210 00:13:09.320 --> 00:13:11.559 you. Also, I want to say thank you to Dave in the whole 211 00:13:11.559 --> 00:13:15.399 Morning crew. I'm and listening to your show for literally as long as I 212 00:13:15.399 --> 00:13:18.000 can remember. I am twenty nine now, and my mom always had the 213 00:13:18.039 --> 00:13:22.320 Dave Ryan Show on when she would bring us to school. I moved three 214 00:13:22.360 --> 00:13:24.960 hours north of the Cities and still listen to you on I Heart on my 215 00:13:24.000 --> 00:13:26.960 way into work and listen to the Minnesota Goodbuye on my way home. You 216 00:13:26.960 --> 00:13:31.080 all bring so much light and joy to my day. Thank you so much 217 00:13:31.080 --> 00:13:33.639 for what you do, Christine. Christine, that makes me emotional when you 218 00:13:33.679 --> 00:13:37.559 say that. And I think I talked about last week how I get frustrated 219 00:13:37.559 --> 00:13:41.879 because I get emotional at the dumbest things. I was trying to describe something 220 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:45.799 as Susan this weekend and I was getting choked up. It was something about 221 00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:48.759 I was watching a story on TV and I don't even know these people, 222 00:13:48.399 --> 00:13:52.240 and I said, it's frustrating because I get choked up at the dumbest things, 223 00:13:52.679 --> 00:13:56.919 and I said, I think it's low testosterone, and so I think 224 00:13:56.919 --> 00:14:01.639 I need to go have my testosterone checked because I get emotional at the dumbest 225 00:14:01.679 --> 00:14:05.279 things. Have you heard of that. I haven't heard of that. But 226 00:14:05.320 --> 00:14:11.519 I think that you're a sentimental and nostalgic person and I'm pretty similar in that 227 00:14:11.639 --> 00:14:13.799 aspect too, And I think, I mean, I don't know what you're 228 00:14:13.840 --> 00:14:16.759 talking to Susan about last weekend, but like when you came in here and 229 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:20.120 engineering head fixed something that was your dad's, yeah, and you started getting 230 00:14:20.200 --> 00:14:24.000 choked up about that. I completely understood that because your dad's no longer here 231 00:14:24.039 --> 00:14:26.480 with us, and it was something that meant a lot to you, So 232 00:14:26.519 --> 00:14:28.759 why would you not get choked up about something that brought back memories? But 233 00:14:28.799 --> 00:14:35.759 I should be able to describe something without going like this, you know what 234 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:37.159 I mean. And it's just frustrating because I want to get the story out, 235 00:14:37.200 --> 00:14:41.120 but sometimes I can't get the story out because I'm through and I didn't 236 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:43.559 used to be like that. And I think maybe it's something that's like guys 237 00:14:43.600 --> 00:14:46.360 get older, they're losing the testosterone, and you got to go down and 238 00:14:46.399 --> 00:14:50.519 get like you know, like testosterone shots or something like that. I think 239 00:14:50.559 --> 00:14:54.159 there's nothing wrong with getting emotional. I think that it's totally fine, because 240 00:14:54.679 --> 00:14:58.759 I struggled with that for a very long time because I am more emotional, 241 00:15:00.120 --> 00:15:05.200 like a crying sense of things like then some people are. And I struggled 242 00:15:05.240 --> 00:15:09.559 for a while because it made me feel so vulnerable when I would get when 243 00:15:09.559 --> 00:15:11.080 I would cry about things that I feel like I shouldn't be crying about. 244 00:15:11.360 --> 00:15:16.480 And I watched some TED talks by a woman named Brenne Brown and I believe 245 00:15:16.480 --> 00:15:18.200 it's her last name, and it just kind of taught you how to like 246 00:15:18.320 --> 00:15:22.960 lean into that vulnerability and feel comfortable within it. And I mean, like, 247 00:15:24.039 --> 00:15:26.480 yeah, maybe it is low test rosterom for you, but I think 248 00:15:26.679 --> 00:15:30.919 there's also a mental aspect for it. I think the thing is for me, 249 00:15:31.080 --> 00:15:33.960 it's frustrating because I shouldn't be. It'll be an emotional level of one 250 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:37.759 to ten, about a two, and here I am going and it's like 251 00:15:37.879 --> 00:15:41.360 I get frustrated because I want to tell the story and not choke up and 252 00:15:41.399 --> 00:15:45.759 get my eyes tearing up when I'm talking about smoking ribs, you know what 253 00:15:45.759 --> 00:15:48.639 I mean. It's like, oh, they were so good. I mean 254 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:52.240 that might be a little bit much of you're getting tearing up? No shit, 255 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:58.360 So do you do you get emotional and cry over emotional sentimental, sad 256 00:15:58.519 --> 00:16:03.159 ish thing or out of frustration. See, I don't cry out of frustration 257 00:16:03.840 --> 00:16:06.840 ever. I don't remember in my life ever, and I'm sure I have 258 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:10.720 but crying out of like and they just were so unfair and I can't believe 259 00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:14.720 they did that. I don't get frustrated and cried that way. I'm more 260 00:16:14.799 --> 00:16:18.240 sentimental. What about you, I am definitely. I mean I wouldn't say 261 00:16:18.240 --> 00:16:21.960 frustrations in there. I think like if Andrew and I have a disagreement about 262 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:26.559 something, I will get emotional in a crying way and he gets more like 263 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:29.559 angry, and that's the way he shows his emotion, and I show my 264 00:16:29.600 --> 00:16:33.039 emotion and crying, and then I don't think logically when I'm like in that 265 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:36.679 argument. Then so I like take a step back and I'll be like, 266 00:16:37.360 --> 00:16:41.360 we gotta stop right now because all I'm doing is crying and I can't like 267 00:16:41.480 --> 00:16:44.519 speak what I want to say, so that will happen to me. But 268 00:16:44.600 --> 00:16:47.519 no, I definitely get very nostalgic. I remember my senior year of high 269 00:16:47.559 --> 00:16:51.399 school. I sat and I would like cry because me and a group of 270 00:16:51.399 --> 00:16:52.919 friends we ran our school store. It was a part of Decco, which 271 00:16:52.960 --> 00:16:56.879 is like marketing in high school, and we ran this school store, and 272 00:16:56.120 --> 00:17:00.240 I would get so emotional every little thing, like this is the last we're 273 00:17:00.240 --> 00:17:02.080 going to do this our senior year, Like this is the last time I'm 274 00:17:02.080 --> 00:17:03.799 want to see you. Guys were all going to go out to college, 275 00:17:03.919 --> 00:17:07.200 and they would always make fun of me because I was like kidding, cheer 276 00:17:07.279 --> 00:17:11.319 it up. And it might be so sad about the nostalgic things. That's 277 00:17:11.359 --> 00:17:15.440 interesting that you realize that in high school, because most people don't really get 278 00:17:15.480 --> 00:17:18.960 how high school is the end of so much and the beginning of a lot 279 00:17:19.000 --> 00:17:22.200 too, and it doesn't dawn on them until, like, you know, 280 00:17:22.279 --> 00:17:26.279 months later, or weeks later or whatever, when they realize, oh my 281 00:17:26.359 --> 00:17:27.960 god, that was our last ride on the school bus, that was our 282 00:17:29.039 --> 00:17:34.039 last lunch hour together. And I still clearly remember my last day of high 283 00:17:34.039 --> 00:17:41.519 school and how freaking surreal it was that it's all over, and it's bittersweet. 284 00:17:41.799 --> 00:17:47.279 It's it's sad because you are you not coming back. You're not coming 285 00:17:47.279 --> 00:17:48.920 back. On Monday, morning. You're not coming back tomorrow, you're not 286 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:52.519 going to history class, you're not going to you know, basketball practice or 287 00:17:52.519 --> 00:17:56.759 whatever. But at the same time, you're graduating from high school. So 288 00:17:56.799 --> 00:18:00.119 I think that's way more joyful for me than it was sentiment. So anyway, 289 00:18:00.279 --> 00:18:03.359 that's it for the Minnesota goodbye. What are your thoughts tell me about 290 00:18:03.359 --> 00:18:06.160 the guy at the lake. I want to know about your thoughts on the 291 00:18:06.160 --> 00:18:10.039 guy at the lake. I would have never been a Karen and said anything, 292 00:18:10.079 --> 00:18:14.079 But maybe you're like Dave, you absolutely should have said something, or 293 00:18:14.160 --> 00:18:17.599 maybe you're like that happens in my family is totally normal. Shut up, 294 00:18:17.599 --> 00:18:22.160 mind your own business. Maybe you want to talk about emotions, breaking up, 295 00:18:22.160 --> 00:18:23.799 whatever you want to talk about or bring something new. Send us an 296 00:18:23.799 --> 00:18:29.480 email to Ryan's show at KDWB dot com.